It is not the modern time for nothing. Many of these situations can be avoided by a C-section. You don't leave someone in labor for 30 hours !!!!!!! What was that OB/Gyn doing ? performing scheduled procedures ? What was going on ? Did she forget about that poor woman, exhausted by likely a non productive labor ? what the Hell ?
@@linanicolia1363 Exactly, she shouldn't have been in labor for 30 hours! You make a point! The doctors didn't handle this right. I never said it was the modern time for nothing!
My labor was so fast, I was so fortunate. By the time I realized I was actually having my baby (a week before his due date) I got to the hospital and was 6cm dilated. 2 hours later I was pushing. I can’t fathom 30 hours.
This happened with my son in 2022. Lost 2 litters of blood within mins after giving birth. . I was so scared that I didn’t hold my baby for a good 20 minutes. The moment when you realize somethings wrong, and everyone in the room is panicking, I saw my life before my eyes. Good thing the doctors quickly gave me Pitocin to slow my bleeding and removing the rest of the placenta . Sadly, it was extremely traumatizing. I won’t be having any more kids after that experience. This is heartbreaking.😢
My wife had the same thing .. worst day of my life watching her turn green and keep passing out then needing a blood transfusion. Blessed to say she pulled thru after being in icu and the doctors telling me to say my goodbyes . My heart is truly broken for this man, and i wish him the best . Keep your head up .. 😢
Must have been so difficult for you to witness. I hope you had support to overcome this trauma. So many men who have gone through this type of trauma don't get any help.
She did survive. She had Amniotic Fluid Embolism and DIC Disseminated intervascular coagulation We were in the hospital for over a week .. after the c section she came back to the room green and passing out/ throwing up ,they ran a ultrasound and see she has 4 liters of blood in her stomach that she lost had to go back in for surgery and got a blood transfusion . Went to icu didn't think she was going to make it.. but she pulled thru just hit the 3 year mark of that happening . I'm still affected by it today.. she does not remember a thing but I sure do.
The same thing would’ve happened even with a c section. The amniotic fluid got into her bloodstream and her body reacted to it in a bad way. It’s a rare thing.
@@ejwis1 I do not know the first thing about a C-sction but, it seems to me that would have been my first idea. Have a C-section after so many hours of labor. I feel like her outcome may have been much different. Maybe we have an expert reading our thoughts here that can elaborate. May the beautiful woman rest in peace in heaven with our God and prayers for her family and friends.
My first was 42 hours. And my water had already broken at the 4-hour mark. Would've been longer, but at the 36-hour mark, I demanded pitocin to move things along and an epidural (no pain relief up to that point). I was very lucky that nothing worse happened.
Maternal RN here. 30hrs isn't an absurd amount of time for a first delivery. Labor can progress as long as her water is still intact or mom and baby are otherwise doing well. After a long time with her water broken then they might recommend a c/s to prevent her from getting chorioamnionitis (or they might start her on antibiotics and try for a vaginal delivery), but a long labor isn't an automatic indication for a c/s unless the patient requests it or is too tired to proceed with the remaining labor. An AFE is RARE and SUDDEN. There is no preventing it. A bubble of baby's amniotic fluid enters mom's blood stream via the capillaries between the uterus and placenta, then her body treats it like a foreign object, having a reaction to it.
@@psychlover42 thank you for explaining more. You are such a wonderful help to learn more about the tragic passing of this beautiful young lady. God bless.
In my culture, it is thought that women who die in child birth are automatically entered in heaven for giving their life for their baby. I think your mom is watching you from there.
Watching this while 36 weeks pregnant. Wishing for a safe and healthy delivery. I usually try to only watch the positive stuff but i couldnt help but click on this one. RIP mama ❤
Nothing wrong with getting other perspectives and you'll know exactly what to look for and ask. Praying for a safe delivery and healthy baby. You got this mama ❤
@savagesweetheart90 Exactly, honestly most of what I've learned about birth is through others experiences on YT since the OB doesn't tell me too much about the actual birth process itself (compared to the pregnancy). I think these videos are very important. Thank you 💕 that means a lot
Right pain mixed with joy.Because now you have a beautiful brand new son brought into the world but the pain fluid the beautiful person that helped to create
@lina.....I dislike people that think they should automatically sue for everything that goes wrong. You don't know any details of this tragedy. The doctors may have done everything within their power. God is the one who ultimately decides when it's our time. Pregnancy can be a dangerous time for both mother and child. There are hundreds of complications that can arise. Even with the best technology, deaths can and do occur.
I had an amniotic fluid embolism giving birth to my 4th son. I had liver failure, lung failure, kidney failure, & 20+ blood transfusions. I was in a coma & on life support for a week & spent 6 weeks in the hospital. My son thankfully was fine. Eighteen years later I have achy hips & shoulders (avascular necrosis) but I am otherwise healthy & happy to be alive. I’m sorry your wife didn’t have the same outcome 😢
What a sweet father. You can see how much he loved his beautiful wife. I pray he finds peace and healing moving forward. His son is blessed to have such an empathetic father.
My beautiful daughter in law had an aneurysm at 9 months. Our Henry didn’t make it. We mourn him so much but grateful that mom survived emergency surgery.
Doctors force emergency surgery because C sections save the nurses and doctors time and allow them to go sit back down at nurses station and in the Doctors lounge.
@@AS-yz2iz No, pregnancy is more dangerous. It's also more dangerous than sports thought to be dangerous. Pregnancy isn't just able to kill you it can also cause permanent health damage. And all of the health issues that are reversible are more than horrible, too.
A while back I overheard the cashier cheerily ask the man ahead of me if his child had arrived. He said they had both died during birth. He was so sad.
@@bbb_888 lack of enough OB-GYN providers. All these bills controlling abortions made the doctors job really tough. So we have fewer and fewer med students who are opting for OB-GYN residency. This problem is just going to get worse in future years
think of it as mom’s sacrifice. he will remember it as a sign of his mom’s love for him. she took care of him for 9 months and now she’ll look after him from heaven.
I hope this father will love his son with all his heart, even though he lost his wife. My grandfather's mother died during his birth, but instead of love him, his father hated him, and was abusive towards him cause he blamed him for his mother's death. Despite that he grew up to be a good man. Never let your son feel like it's his fault, always love him for 2 people, you and his mom. A real good mom would die to protect her child, and she died giving him his life. ❤
he was a very silly man because he got her pregnant. He was just a fetus growing to term to be born . ooh well. l am happy he live and turn out to be a good man.
This father has the right idea, and said it himself: his son is a living, breathing little part of his wife, and always will be. Instead of being angry at the boy, he loves him all the more for it.
I’m sure he will hold resentment at some points in his life because that is inevitable but I doubt he’ll ever show it. He made it clear he sees his son as a piece of his wife, a blessing she left behind for him.
One of the hardest things I can imagine is being a grieving man left alone with a newborn baby. I pray for strength for this man and for many helpers to surround him.
The lack of prenatal and childbirth education in this country is horrifying. The medical system is so messed up. 30 hours in labor? Did her water break? Usually 12 hours after water has broken, interventions are made. Was she on her back her whole time? Epidural? There are so many factors that play into an outcome. My heart breaks for this man. I'm glad he has his little boy.
Is not that simple. Her water breaking was the cause of the embolism. Her body had an allergic reaction to the fluid. People forget that pregnancy is a huge risk.
@devilmaycry9969 I know it's not that simple, hence why I mentioned there are so many factors that play into an outcome. If the amniotic fluid got into her bloodstream for her to react to it, then there was tearing or hemorrhaging happening at some point for it to access her body outside of the uterus. It's so very sad.
My mother died during my childbirth, 66 yrs ago. I’m shocked that it still happens in this advanced century. I’m happy he is taking care of the baby himself. I was given to another family member; dysfunctional family Life from day one. Good luck to you and the baby.
That is horrible man. Tears in my eyes. Your tragedy has given me a new perspective on life. We all need to be thankful for and cherrish what we have. Peace.
Poor family. I had my empirical cord torn during labor. Im thankful i have my life and my daughter is doing well after she almost bleed to death and was drowning in my blood and her own. She was lifeflighted to a bigger hospital in Pittsburgh and i owe them for saving her. Giving birth is seriously traumatic to a womens body and mind. Please take care of the mommas to be. Show them love and patience. Everyday we are here is a great day. Love them while you have them
My wife had pre eclampsia and we had to do an emergency csec. I remember being terrified that I was gonna lose her as her bp was 190/115. . I feel so bad for these 2. I hope she sends them someone who be just as good a mother and wife as she would’ve been. . . Good luck boys
That's what happened to my friend a year ago,she did not make it. Pre-eclampsia, before birth everything looked healthy. The baby almost died,thankfully her baby survived,but,has a long journey ahead of her.
My heart aches for you, and I passionately support your goal to get more research for AFE. I am an amniotic fluid embolism survivor. In 2005, against all odds, I became one of the 5% of sufferers who walked away with comparatively minor consequences. 80% of my fellow sufferers that year died. AFE strikes in an instant. For me, one breath I was fine; the next, I had no lungs. Completely respiratory collapse as quickly as you can blink. I survived because I had a profoundly gifted doctor close by who diagnosed me and started treatment in less than a minute. And we were exceptionally lucky. This condition destroys lives. We desperately need more research and better education for all medical practitioners to protect future families. All my love.
My daughter is a survivor - she was a surrogate for someone and it happened 30 sec after the baby was delivered. She said I don’t feel good and her eyes rolled back. Doctor immediately went into action and code was called. It’s horrid to go into ICU and see my daughter on a ventilator. She is a miracle.
When I was pregnant my mom told me last minute that child birth is very serious and sometimes cause death, I thank God for watching over me and my child❤️🙏🏻
A co-worker who was also pregnant with twins at the same time as me died of an amniotic embolism when she delivered 2 weeks after me. Pregnancy and delivery aren't without risk and the US has one of the highest maternal-child death rates of developed countries in the world. Mexico and Cuba do better than we do.
It's partially because we are accurate in our stats and our qualifications/definitions of certain things affect how certain statistics are recorded. If you do a cursory database search you can see some more detailed info on how we record our info vs other countries.
@@yourfuturewaifu9061exactly! The US counts infant mortality no matter the gestational age, other countries only count it past 24 weeks. Other countries also have mandatory abortion if there is anything wrong with the baby. This also skews infant mortality rates.
My mother gave birth 9 children in home, no hospital or dr, all health, no complication. Country woman has some kind straight, they are in their own giving birth. Indian in Amazon, give birth in wild alone, sometimes with help of tribe woman, their babies are bath in river. Rarely see mortality of infants. What wrong with modern woman? Probably it health issues.
@@Brancaalice what the hell is wrong with you? Just because those women HAD TO give birth in that situation doesn't mean they enjoyed it. They had no other choice. What's this fascination to take back "modern" women to a time when they all suffered in silence with smiles on their faces? Shouldn't you be thankful for modern medicine where things like this DOESN'T happen very often? Sadism is really strong with some people.
This man needs to consult a lawyer to determine EXACTLY at what point in the labor process the AFE (Amniotic Fluid Embolus) occurred. I’m wondering if his wife was receiving some medicine to stimulate labor and was possibly getting too much. If anyone knows him, tell him to investigate.
I agree. After a certain point, the next step after a long labour would be to opt for C-Section. It could’ve been a safer alternative for both Mom & Baby. I know every situation is different & we’re not doctors, but this seems like it could’ve been prevented. The family should possibly get a lawyer to investigate this as safer measures could’ve been taken. This could also lead to more needed research about this unfortunate AFE occurrence.
@@rubiferrer2419 that was my first thought!! labor way too long!! not good for the baby OR the mother... as in this case. My heart goes out to this young man and his baby. May God Bless them always!
@rubiferrer2419 I think you have to remember that a doctor can not force someone to have a c-section. She may have opted not to have one. My labor was around 29 hours. We talked about a C-section but I said no. I did not want to have a major surgery. I ended up having my daughter a few minutes later. Child birth is so scary. My thoughts are with the family.
Amniotic fluid crosses onto mothers' bodies all the time. At any given moment, about 50% of pregnant women will have traces of it and fetal cells in their bloodstream. Medication almost certainly wasn't the problem. The issue isn't the presence of the fluid...it's the unknown and extremely rare trigger that suddenly provokes respiratory and blood clotting responses. I am an AFE survivor. We need research, understanding, and treatment options. AFE is so rare that most OB's go their entire career without seeing it. Blaming the hospital will do nothing to advance the cause of research and education that we need.
Poor mum who never got to know her son😢And I feel so sad for the dad and for the baby😥but the dad will be an amazing dad for sure, and hopefully the grandiarents from both sides will be there too❤️
They need to stop manually breaking the water in the hospital. There is ZERO reason to break a water (amniotomy). Babies can be born in the sac. Waters can break on their own. There is no reason to manually do it.
I’m lucky enough to be holding my baby that was also born in January. We often take for granted how blessed we are to be mothers, my heart goes out to this father and son.
My wife had to have a induce emergency C-section.. it was painful to watch. She has high blood pressure... I refuse to go through it again.. she wants more kids and I'm not gonna take the chance of losing her ..😢
@@linanicolia1363they don't tend to do that at childbirth nowadays. Plus, if it's not something SHE wants, they can't anyway. Why should she, if he's the one who doesn't want any more children he should get the snip.
@@linanicolia1363nope.. she wants more kids . But I see it as a safety issue... She had complications with her first child , whose my stepson..then another issue with my daughter.. So if you have high blood pressure please take care of it and take your meds daily..
I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope one day your tears will be replaced with smiles in memory of your Wife and Mother. May you have wonderful support around you always. Love from Australia ❤️
Praying for you and your family. I am so very sorry for your wife's passing and that Carter will not have his mother's arms. Carter is the best of both of you
Josiah- Im so sorry and cant imagine how difficult this is and has been for you. Thank you for spreading awareness on this as many people still don't realize the life or death dangers of pregnancy & childbirth. You and your son will be in my prayers 💜 I almost lost my son and died myself during labour.
To be fair, anyone can end up having a brain aneurysm regardless of their age and fitness level. There’s no running from death… salads, jogs, or not. 🙁
God bless you and your precious baby. Your love and strength are so obvious. I hope and pray you get all the help and support you need. Your could be grandma friend from NYC.
Us women are on our death beds when we have children I heard…… my daughter birth was a scary event as well not like this but we women are truly amazing
During my second sons labor. This particular hospital didn’t let me husband come into the labor room until I was ready to give birth. I remember being in labor with no epidural . And I said God I am not going to make it. I felt myself giving up. Then out of nowhere I found strength to keep going. My husband came in as they said that I was ready .
@@eileenmcdonald1599 I was five centimeters when I arrived. My labor was only two hours. I thought that it was going to be easy like the first pregnancy birth. That two hour labor was really hard.
😓😢INCREDIBLY sad...poor father..poor baby...wishing u all the support u can find in this trying grief...so sorry 4 your loss..your precious baby is a gift
Out of 195 countries is the world, the USA is number 122 on the list of maternal mortality rates. This is not something most people know. I almost died during my son’s birth, and after so much research, I was shocked by this information. So incredibly devastating for this father. I pray he knows Jesus.
Yup my two pregnancies were very healthy but the childbirth were complicated never had a cesarean but I said to God thankyou God for helping me to survive
