You don’t need to stretch, braid, twist your hair all the time. Learn to rock it in its natural state. Spray it with water and put a leave in to wear it as an afro- no matter the length. It’ll shrink but learn to embrace it. Pat it down, use your fingers, love it. It’s so easy.
@@KK12612 what’s the difference of experiencing dryness by adding fake hair, constant twists/braid outs and an afro? It’s all the same except one is fully embracing your hair out with little to no manipulation. That’s why you spray with water and put a leave-in as mentioned in my comment. The only way to properly hydrate your hair is by using water aka wash day.
This is evidence that natural hair channels need to do more than show wash and goes and twist/braid outs. I recently found "Glory Okings" channel. Many of her styles are easy, don't require long hair, and don't require extensions. I also found several channels from about 8 years ago where the creators actually showed creative ways to style hair.
There were plenty of natural hair channels for girls with that hair texture doing more, but they were ignored by girls with that hair texture for the girls who could wake up in the morning and shake their head and everything is fine. It's not sustainable to be on RU-vid making videos daily to get 13 views and 25 subscribes.
@@mexme-me-2 I noticed that when I searched. I'm glad some of them kept their videos public. I appreciate it, but I can imagine they didn't feel appreciated. It sucks because they created styles that anyone can do - regardless of curl diameter or density.
Not even women of other cultures try to do their hair in 30min most times. They have whole routines. The same way we study how to install wigs and protective styles, we have to study our natural hair. It’s sad that we don’t get to see our beauty reflected in society as much but it is definitely here online!
Lets be so for real right now.... Any texture 4a and below could just put there hair in a ponytail with ease in 5 min and walk out the door. In fact many women with straight or loose curls just walk out the door with their hair wet. 4c hair has MASSIVE shrinkage making it alot more difficult to do styles. They can wear there hair as fros but many women don't like that style with short hair (which is why they wear braids, twists wigs etc)
@@veronicahaney6005 A ponytail is different than a puff. Also she started the video not having a strategy. She definitely could’ve just put a wig on since her tiktok shows that’s what she usually wears.
I felt like her hair looked fine. She’s self conscious because it’s short but honestly, the simple messy bun makes her look more approachable and feminine than any bust down shiny weave.
The biggest thing about going natural, especially for my 4c hair girls, is to accept how it looks in its natural state. The over manipulation absolutely kills 4c hair. The best thing is to rock it in its Afro state, pick it out or sponge it. When it gets long enough, learn to do a proper wash and go. Yes, we 4c girls can have our wash and gos too. HOWEVER, if you’re thinking it’ll look like the 3c girlies wash and gos, you will be disappointed. Our hair is kinky, not curly. The key is ACCEPT THE TEXTURE! It’s beautiful but it’s different and we have been taught that it’s ugly. It’s not ugly sis. Your hair is unique and it will not conform to the social norm ok? The key to 4c hair is to accept and release how you think it should look. God blessed us with such unique hair. Don’t hate it, learn it and embrace it. If all else fails, big chopped hair grown out for 5-6 months is the perfect length to start some baby locs or sisterlocks. Scarves also look nice on us. Can’t figure out how to make the scarf look fashionable? They have pre tied scarves. We have options sis. With so much love…..Aunty ❤❤❤❤
Im so glad the women at her work supported her and told her she looked like a model 😢 we're our own biggest critics. i can relate to the feeling of being frustrated and feeling prettier with braids or weave before it got longer and i figured out how to style it.
I've always felt most non black people find our hair to be beautiful and its been a black person that told them it was ugly, so they keep deferring to that. They are proof of my theory. I've worn my natural hair a few times and usually I am asked why don't I wear it more often.
@@beprettylife yessss! sometimes i would go into work feeling insecure about my hair and my white manager tells me "your natural hair is so beautiful i love it" and it almost makes me want to cry after 20 something years of having a love hate relationship with my hair. but i feel the same way when i see other natural girls wearing their hair out like i want to see more
Is everything hard until we decide to change our mindset and point of view about everything? Is our hair EASIER to manage/style once we change our mind about hair length/gender and also live in harmony with our hair texture? Do problems arise when we try to be who we are not? Living in harmony with self is a lifesaver!
100% agree. These girls only ever be doing this/feeling the need to do this when they constantly compare their hair to others which it’s not. Especially the ones on tiktok. No matter how many times you talk to them they never get it because they don’t want to accept this part of them selves and what they are. Atleast more and more if the black community is finally waking up and accepting their natural hair
And wanting length isn't always about wanting to be white. All women of all races usually want lengthy hair and wanting to put it in a bun is not too much to ask. She should just get braids until it grows out to the length she can deal with.
@@thewordsmith5440 wanting length is never the problem, it's the fact that most ppl just don't know what to do with their hair until it's long enough, you suggesting she wears braids untill then kinda proves that.
I think the main take away is the MINDSET. That’s the part that hurt me so bad. I kept thinking my natural hair was so childish looking and I wanted to look more feminine, grown & sexy. It wasn’t until i kept getting mistaken for looking older with my weaves (not in a good way) did it start to click. Your natural hair IS YOUR BEAUTY & YOUTH!..which is the #1 thing women are obsessed with. It took time for me to get it an appropriate moisture level but once I did, I started wearing it in a wash-n-go daily and haven’t looked back. The trick is if you feel confident In you hair, so will everyone else. Everyone else can also sense when you’re insecure about your hair as well…
So much mention of white beauty standards in the comments. That’s such a dishonest take of why many black women are dissatisfied with their natural hair. Black beauty standards exclude 4c hair. Short hair. Coarse hair. I work with white women. The only time I feel self conscious about my hair is when in black social spaces. From family asking me if I was still natural, to feeling out of place amongst a sea of wigs. Natural hair is not celebrated in mainstream black culture
Thank you! White beauty standards are at the root of this problem, but they have become a cheap cop out. I have long natural hair and I wear it out sometimes, but those are the only times that most black people compliment me on it. People ask me when I'm going to "do" my hair (braids, extensions, etc), they ask me why I wear Scarves sometimes, and demand for me to wear my hair out a certain way every day. They don't know how damaging some of those styles can be. I think people just want to live vicariously through whatever long hair person they know, when most of them aren't even acquainted with their own hair that looks just like mine. How could my hair have grown to this point if I hadn't accepted and figured it out in the first place? When my hair was in a twa for one or two straight years, I never felt that anyone liked or desired it. Then all of a sudden, people started "wishing" their hair was like mine, even though they were literally there when it was shorter than theirs. If it's 4c, and it's not long, most people simply don't want to see it. I could talk so much more but I've already done enough.
@@adolescentbird honey, the first time going to a salon to straighten my hair after 12 years was for this past NYE. The stylist was some young girl I found off instagram. I told her hey I’m tender headed and haven’t straightened my hair in a long time be gentle. She said of course then goes on to ask me if I have 4c hair. After I said no, she proceeds to shit talk about women with 4c and how unmanageable it is. Then as she’s rinsing my hair over the sink she’s like oh you don’t have 4c hair your hair is nice. I’m in disbelief because one, my hair is 4b. Ain’t that much different. Two, you’re a black woman with black female clients. You’re more likely to encounter type 4 hair. To be so comfortable with disrespecting our hair is scary.
@@imParisthoee omg I can't imagine how you felt since you couldn't get out of the situation. I just pray black people across the world gain love and understanding of who God made them to be.
I just started wearing my 4c hair out at work. I'm just wearing it in an afro and all my white coworkers gave me compliments. Even though I just sprayed some product and used a pick, I'm trying to learn to be comfortable wearing my hair with little manipulation.
What do you do to take care of the afro at night? I worry about things like not knowing how to do long term maintenance when it comes to trying an afro
Yeah but everyone doesn’t want to/have the time to twist before. I struggle w not knowing what to do w my hair in its natural state sometimes too but that’s bc I’m holding it to standards not even made for my hair type. I think we all need to get comfortable w our hair being out in its actual natural state
Easiest hairstyle, but that also requires one to actually like seeing their hair like that. Even with the skills there still needs to be a change of mindset
She is right that they don't know what they're looking at. She's a beautiful woman so when they say she looks nice that is absolutely the truth. Once she figures out the best ways to wear and maintain her healthy hair, she is going to have so much more confidence .
I personally believe if Brad and Jennifer can comb their hair and leave the house and its "presentable" then so can we. (Except just water/moisturize and fluff. Combing too much can cause damage.) Love your fro! Hair is meant to compliment your own beauty not be the beauty. And MANY people look beautiful without it.
the day black women with 4c hair learn to love their hair the way it looks without any manipulation, is the day we will move on from this "natural hair is so hard" conversation. her hair was already good in the state it was when she took off the bonnet, all she had to do was use a pick comb to fluff it out.
4c hair is nothing but magical. There are so many ways to style it. Even in the short awkward stages of growing it out. I recently did a big chop and it is such a beautiful process learning and accepting my hair for what it is and the styles it can do.
My hair is 4F , not 4c …I’m very frustrated with my hair type, no one that I know has my hair type. My hair type is BEYOND 4c..!!! That’s why I call it 4F..!!😞😞😞
@@Geneviev285 I feel you,Hair struggles are real. Just try loving it despite the differences and find products and styles that work for your beautiful 4c/4f hair. You are a queen regardless.
Have you tried any of the hairstyles shared also from one 4c girl to another, we really need conditioner and water let it sit for about 5mins maybe wrap a plastic/ shower cap over it after application before styling (if you have the time). It has changed my relationship with my hair. It's much softer and easier to comb through.
I understand her frustration. She simply hasn’t learned how to style and care for her hair yet. All she needed was one of those drawstring bands to make a puff…there are items and products out there to help us learn. RU-vid has a WEALTH of videos showing how to style natural hair at ALL lengths🤷🏽♀️ invest some time in learning. Ps- I love love love how you say “Cuuute!” That is the cutest❤❤
When your natural hair is longer, you're either going to make peace with stretching it or chop it all off. Not stretching it is a recipe for tangles and body aches from trying to work through the tangles. I keep mine stretched and I keep my salon appointment. People make entire careers out of doing hair, but that's not my path. My hair can be a job, but it sure won't be my job. Find peace and choose it.
There are a couple of things that makes it difficult when you are trying to make black hair conform to European beauty standards with the sleek hair. instead of accepting that our hair is different and behaves differently. Our hair is coily and kinky and sometimes curly and its beautyfull in its own right it has personality. I went natural about 15 years ago and my hair is now to my armpits and somedays the curls are popping and I even get jealous looks from White women and somedays it shrinks to my collarbone and people ask me if I have cut my hair and I say no but humidity is a bitch and keep it moving because thats what our hair does al this to say love your hair and let it be, let the beauty standards that where imposed on you by others go and you will learn to love your hair and want nothing else
1:32 I know she was being serious in a sad way, but I felt this comment so deeply in a comical way. I look like the girl version of my dad and when I wear my hair in its cute little afro/shrinkage glory. I gotta put on earrings and dress girly because I do resemble my dad when he was a village boy in Nigeria. It’s even worse because a lot of people say my younger brother and I look like twins, so I HAVE to lean girly with accessories, a cute headband, or a barrette in my hair so people don’t mistake me for HIM at first sight. 😭😂
I get the same reaction!!!! there's a picture of me at home and when ppl visit they think I'm a guy and I've been called my brother's brother too, because I look like every male in my family.
I have a daughter, I guess she’s in the 4 family. She really doesn’t have a distinctive curl pattern, and she’s low porosity. I was able to manage her hair and get her to tail bone length. She is a teen now and she does her hair, and she was taught what to do but she doesn’t do it. She does what everyone else does and now her hair is multiple lengths and a bit past her shoulders. I told her her hair needs moisture, and washing it once a week and deep conditioning is what got it so long when I did it. I’m frustrated because she gets so hung up on texture, but that’s not what grew her hair. We don’t have the same hair, yet I grew it for her, but texturism is such a big deal to her. She compares herself when her hair was actually longer than mine at one point. Low porosity hair needs moisture and to be gentle with it. I did a lot of twists in her hair, like the loose Senegalese type but with her natural hair and hair butters, small perm rods on the ends. She just wants to wear her hair like her counterparts, but that’s what’s causing the issues. I know how to make it thrive but she is in control at this point. I will just look at pictures to reminisce.
Keep drilling it in to her. My daughter is 13 and has been doing her own hair for about a year now. She broke so much of her hair off not taking her time detangling and trying to wash her hair all at once (she has super dense hair and needs sections). She just came to me saying she wants to get a trim, simplify her routine, and be consistent washing and deep conditioning weekly. She finally gets it. Lol.
I honestly found my natural hair to be easiest as a TWA. Just had to moisturize it and 2 minutes later I was done! If you're having an issue with shape/uniformity, cut it into an intentional shape that feels more flattering for your face/head shape. I also find earrings and makeup choices can help create more balance if for some reason you feel like shorter hair isn't the most flattering with your features. More than anything I think having your hair very short is an adjustment at first. You're not used to seeing your face that big and bold, lol. But eventually you'll get used to it and start focusing on the best way to make your face shine, and that's when fun begins!
I never wore a wig or weave in my life and my hair almost touches my butt. I think it's about time we learn to ditch these costly Asian wigs and learn to care of our hair. I keep hearing it's "protective style" but if that was the case you'd expect these women who've been wearing wigs for years to be walking around with floor length hair. But it seems a lot of our women are just putting a mask on their insecurities and neglecting to care for what's underneath, to the point they don't know what to do with it once the wig comes off. Sadly, i see this in my everyday life, whether i'm at work or out and about. Rarely do i see our girls embracing their natural hair.
I’ve always had long hair since grade school and I hated all the attention so I’d cut it and I began to wear weaves in high school although my hair was still longer… 💀 I’m past that phase I’ll still chop my hair off but I prefer rocking my own… it’s cheaper 😂
Hahahahahaha my own mom last nyt told me to go shave my head n relax the remaining hair. She said it was no use braiding my hair..tha it looked so "messy "..despite the fact that i cover it up at home and added that my hair will never grow past chin level.my sisters have long straight hair bt i got 4c/4b hair..i have managed to embrace it n love it wid its curls n coils...n i m looking forwRd to this hair jurney.Ps dnt listen 2 criticisms..yr hair is yr hair...love it..own it..care for n it WILL grow.My hair woll grow..n it woll be healthier n stronger n longer.Ameen!😊
I typically wear my hair in mini twists but when I wear it completely unstretched, I like to use shea butter. Keeps the coils slightly defined and very moisturized and soft. Just wash your hair, use leave in, & coat with shea butter. Use a bonnet for nighttime & spray a little bit of water in the morning. Shake, fluff out, & go❤️
@@Sweetlittlebun my hair used to unravel too. I was twisting it the wrong way. You gotta twist in a clockwise direction (left to right) & hold each piece tightly. For detangling, I like African Pride aloe vera prepoo & I use mousse, preferably Papa Doux bc it also detangles well. Instead of combs, I often use my hands & only use a wide-tooth comb after using my hands. Another tip is to try washing your hair once a week instead of every 2 weeks or monthly. I wash my twists after week 1 & keep my twists in for another week. For each twist, moisturize using water, leave in, & some grease. Then braid at the root. This method should keep your hair from matting for up to 2 weeks. Hope this helps, precious!
I have 4C hair. I did my first big chop in 2010. I kept my TWA for a long time b/c it was easy to wake up and add mousse. I also agree that an AFRO is a hairstyle. I usually twist it at night and then pick it out in the mornings.
The shorter it is, the worse it can be. I cried last week and my hair is longer. Blow drying helps. It straightens and smooths. Its definitely not easy
I think it gets even harder because at that point most ppl are just beginning to wear their natural hair intentionally and learning how to care for it too , unless you've big chopped before, all beginnings are quite hard.
@@tintamanengu ive big chopped then i shaved and started all over bc i was in distress after two stylists could not cut my hair the way i wanted and at that time i needed a good look to feel better ab myself. I grew it back of course its still never easy. I have thick 4b hair thats prone to dryness and too much tension causes headaches and its also lob-length but grew out in awkward layers. All i can do is. Wear it pulled back but even that doesnt look cute bc my hair resists edge control. Only blow drying gets it to where it sort of looks decent. I have to get braids soon bc im tired of my hair honestly
She’s not overwhelmed with her hair, she’s overwhelmed because she waited 30 minutes before she had to go to work to do her hair. Any woman, regardless of race takes at least an hour to style their hair. Why didn’t she do anything to style it night before? If she had watched a few videos on natural hair, she would’ve figured out a simple style to do. I don’t get why she’s crying and making it seem like kinky hair is a burden. It’s not.
I disagree as someone who went through that. Sometimes you don’t have the time before so you have to do it last minute. And a person who has 1a hair or even 4a/4b could just wake up and put their hair in a ponytail in 5 mins. 4c is not a burden but it tough to deal with.
@@onwardtolanguagelearning7076 Yes but 4c hair is unique. If she had taken time to learn about her natural hair prior, she would know that there are indeed styles that take 10 minutes to do and look incredibly elegant. She would've known that to put 4C hair in a pony tail, you need tie it down section by section- not all at once.
@@laurendilaurentis6467 there are hairstyles that take 10 mins but she has short hair so her options are limited. People like that you have to be a little more compassionate because it’s a hard thing to go through. i agree with the way she’s talking about 4c hair but sometimes it’s hard not to feel like that cause it’s hard to take care of it.
@onwardtolanguagelearing7076 I have 3c / 4a hair and i cannot just put my hair in a quick 5 min ponytail Lmfaoooo, i need to wake up at least 30 mins early to do a ponytail
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Her video feels like a parody. It doesn't make sense that she waited till that morning to do her hair and then filmed her breakdown. Something about all of it seemed weird, scripted, and downright sinister.
It’s hard for real. Leave her people. Anytime I wash mine, it’s tough and painful. I always would say, I need to not wash it unbraided.
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I'm african and I can say that there is nothing to be proud of about my natural hair. It has a tedious, messy, painful combing and styling process. Those saying that they've gone back to natural hair use relaxers, tongs etc to make it easy to run the comb through. My wig takes only 2 minutes to comb, l wish my hair was like that wig
I apologize for the long post, but I have so many thoughts on this. I try not shame people’s hair journey. We don’t truly know texture or condition of this young lady’s hair to even know whether all the suggestions in the comments are useful for her. A picture only tells so much. Not everyone can do frequent wash and gos and not experience tangles/breakage, and not all of those people want to get locs as an alternative, which is often a common suggestion when people with certain hair textures (cough cough 4c) complain about managing their hair. Also, part of beauty is experimentation and self-expression through adornment and modification. Black women shouldn’t be shamed for wanting options outside of their natural hair in its purely, shrunken, unstyled state. This is not anti-black. The diaspora has a rich history of natural hair styled in intricate hairstyles. Not everyone has the patience or skill to manage all aspects of their haircare, but this is what many black women are forced to do out of necessity. And no, it’s not necessarily easy to care for hair. If it were so easy, then stylists/beauticians wouldn’t exist, and there wouldn’t be a whole industry dedicated to teaching the trade. Depending on where you live, it may difficult to find a component natural hair stylist with affordable prices. This is part of the reason why DIY is such a huge part of the natural hair community and why we even have natural hair influencers in the first place. So no, black women aren’t crazy or self-hating when they discuss their struggles managing their natural hair. A lot of the frustration you hear some naturals expressing would stop if there were better options for professional natural hair styling.
100% agree and thanks for taking the time to share this.❤️💚
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@apa-vj2ot I totally agree with you on that. I'm african and I can say that I don't fancy my natural hair over my wigs. I live in a place where hair salons are in every door step, 98%of women leave the salon with all styles and hairs except natural hair. Meanwhile my sister in Vienna has to drive for kilometers to find a hair salon and funny enough it has african staff owned by an African. Need l say more?
All this lady needed to do was detangle her hair and styled into an afro. All the styles she was trying to do needed length. And her attitude towards her hair was off from from the get go.
I understand but sometimes we're defeated before we even begin, begin with the easiest styles like an afro, embrace the shrinkage girl, I know you'll look beautiful. We're learning together.
@@JaejoongPrincess I too have struggled wearing my hair in it's natural state (Afro) it really takes a change of mindset.... outside of that there's really nothing much to be done because it is the most natural state of our hair, a part of our body like our nose lips or eyes, we can't just constantly keep changing them depending on how we feel at the moment. But we can try to embrace it until it's no longer uncomfortable.
Just not realistic for everyone. If you live in Africa or a majority black country then yeah. But when you live in a white majority country and work in a field like finance clients and people WILL treat you differently. It's sad but true. Wearing my natural hair out to make a statement isn't worth my livelihood as people do associate afros with being unkempt or making political statements. Just not worth the trouble tbh. So I fully understand where these women are coming from.
Watching this as I do my 4c hair trying to figure out what to do😅 been wearing my Afro out because of postpartum but it’s all good I still look cute and feel good in my Afro overall 😅😅
There is far too many resources on the internet in all forms of media for us to be seeing videos like this in 2024. If she wants to perm her hair or wear wigs, she should just say that. When I cut my hair that short, I always twisted my hair at night so I can have a curly afro in the morning. It's that simple.
That first girl, we look ALIKE. Same hair, edges and everything lol I know that feeling of being like BRUH what do i do before work ?? It's definitely gotten easier now that it's longer. Also side note/kinda unrelated, but Ice Spice coming out with her curly fro (even though it's not 4c) really did something for me. I know, i know it's probably a wig, but how many mainstream artist you see with a fro?
Honestly... it's so racist to me that she can't just go to work with it just like it was... it's the fact that THATS not considered attractive. That's the problem really. And it is her mindset. She sounded like she hated her hair... I've been there but you've gotta snap out of it. There's more to life.
I can’t be the only one experiencing this though, I get treated better when I don’t wear my real curly hair. I get better looks and sweet interactions. Don’t get me wrong, I love my hair. To mention, I do live in Southwest Florida. Maybe that’s why…
When I became at peace with my texture and what it was or wasnt going to do, my life became a lot easier. I wear mine in a shrunken fro. I get complinents, but I do get looks from black people like they feel its too nappy to wear in its naural state. I dont care. How my hair grows out of my head is what its supposed to be, and im proud of it. I realize the negative feelings about 4c hair come from a preference developed by us needing to feel a close proximity to whiteness.
GREAT GREAT Video!!! All Natural African Hair is Beautiful BUT WE MUST LEARN what African Hair is Supposed to Do... It ain't supposed to lay flat... it is Supposed to stand up effortlessly like a Crown that we wear proudly. No other hair type can do what ours does and we must embrace it!!! Rock IT!!! Cuz if we want it straight like the masses we can do that too....Once we embrace who we are we will Have other races looking on with envy as they resort to getting hair sprays just to make their hair stand up like ours... I love my hair -- God don't make No Junk!!! All the ladies in the video looked so so beautiful!!! Thanks for sharing this video Sis!
this past few months i've learned stuff about my natural hair that i didnt really know or took for granted. like 1. i dont need to comb it every single day, which i always did and would get split ends but i would not see a cause and effect relationship between the two. 2. you should not comb/detangle wet hair, which was wild because how was i supposed to detangle since i cant do it dry, apparently damp is good enough. 3. water and glycerine is a bomb ass combination for my hair 3-4 times a week, with a leave in conditioner once a week 4. washing weekly with water only, and every 3 weeks with a shampoo bar with minimal ingredients. so every day i'd wake up and spray it with water and just fluff it, which was enough and it actually looked better than the perfect afro i'd try to get with a comb every time. after six months of afro, i just braided my hair without stretching. the only difficulty i am facing right now is with parting, like i just sat in the middle of 4 mirrors but at one point i was so tired that i'd follow the mirror's reflection instead of being guided by it. but that's a small price to pay to get exactly the type, size and gentleness of braiding i want
She can try micro locs😂 !! Quick style , less EVERYTHING! Just wake up n go! Self / professional retire every once or twice a month.💖💅🏽 If it’s raining not to threat! Best decision of my life😂!
Locs have really gotten great reviews in this comment section, now I'm thinking maybe I should get locs even though I don't even have any issues with my hair.
1st vid,I have the typical 4c hair, looks exactly like hers, every black girl friends + family dont like 4c and manipute/ change their 4c hair. I feel her pain 💔.but always proud to be black ✊️,hope she know it gets better, and she can not treat / view her hair like other hair types🫂
She’s absolutely beautiful ❤. She can always get a slight fade, go a little lower on the side, that’s a cute style. Use oils on her scalp that helps to soften her hair. She can rock Bantu knots, cornrows, twist outs, or moisten and go. She definitely needs a quality satin bonnet. So many options. I love my natural hair and I’ve done all I’ve suggested. Now I’ve been rocking braids in all variety of colors. Being Black is a beautiful ❤🎉
Little Twists, Finger curls, Wash & Gos, Regular Fro/TWA, TWAfro Puff, Roll and Tuck Updos the hair length could manage.... I even did Threading & Weaving (cornrows). And occasionally Braids with yarn or extensions. But I basically wore it in Twists or Wash n Gos, or TWA. So easy at that time.
Water and some conditioner and styled to whatever. Put a scarf on and take your shower and get dress. You can add some gel before the scarf but you have to let it set before thinking it will work. A slick back ponytail is the easiest to do.
It's her bone structure. Very nice. Our hair isn't as outstanding as our bone structure and overall faces. I'm just now starting to wear hairstyles. Been wearing my face for 3 1/2 years. Nobody noticed my hair but they did notice my face. The fixation with our hair has to stop really. She just needs a shape cut and the will take out all the over thinking.
When I started being natural I had the same issue. I high puffed for a long time. And flat twisted. She needs to just think ahead, maybe protective style, so all she has to do is moisturize and go. The third one was me all day at the beginning. Or a ponytailed fauxhawk.
The problem is shes tryna style it like a white girl, or the styles that r exceptable here. You have to except it for what it can do. And dont let anyone tell u its ugly in that style. Our hair is different meaning we have to style it different.our hair is so versatile we canform it shape it we can basically make it do anything.
Thank You for this video I’m glad I am not the only that feels like I don’t know how to style my natural hair and I want to wear it out but I am growing out my edges
one thing I can shout from experience is WHITE PEOPLE MAKE ME FEEL GOOD ABOUT MY NATURAL HAIR !!! yep! Black women never compliment my natural hair ever….. but white women and men will. They actually tell me they think my natural hair is beautiful and looks better than my straight weave !!! If only the black hair community could jump on board ( I think we’re getting there though)
Yahhhh and I hate that I agree with this. When I first went natural my black aunt looked me in my face and said I would never advance in my career with my natural hair... I went to my director and sat in his office and looked him in his face and asked him, would my hair stop me from getting a promotion. He looked at me like I was crazy and said absolutely not... I was promoted 3 months later... my aunt worked in human resources 😢. After that, most of my compliments came from white people.
This is why I say something positive to every Black woman or little girl I see wearing their hair without extensions and in its natural state. We don’t tell each other that our hair is beautiful just the way it grows from our head. And the smiles I get in return, especially from the older women, lets me know that we need to do this for each other more!
↪️ She didn't prepare her hair beforehand it looks like she's coming out of the shower so of course she's going to feel rushed and overwhelmed... She should have styled her hair in the eve or done African threading for her hair to be detangled and softer. ↪️I feel a bit bad for her but at the same time there are plenty of YT tutorials for "short/awkward" stage length now... ↪️I'm glad she's trying something and not putting somebody else's hair on ↪️@08:00 Love what she's doing to her hair
I've had natural hair since 2009 n only now am I into growing it n all just to see how long I can get it to be then cut it. To ne honest I already feel like cutti5. I would cut it so often n at some point had free form locks.
@@tintamanengu well my hair changed when I fell pregnant n again post partum. I wasnt taking care of it then I started keeping it short. Decided to start growing and taking care of it last year. Which I wasnt really lol just put it in synthetic hair for the first time since 2019 Feb n discovered I have an allergy. So truly started taking care if it this year n got a little scissor happy when trimming of some of the damage, which I did unevenly. So on one hand its cause I wanna take care if it properly from scratch (cause that's what I would do generally e.g of I did a hairstyle or sets of hairstyles that would damage my edges or of I bleached n it started breaking off I would cut to avoid further damage) n the other part is cause I like how I look bald or with short hair. My niece says I cut too often. The longest I've gone without cutting ever since I started is mud 2015 to mid 2020 n I kept wanting to. A year doesn't go by without me wanting to cut it😅 but I know I have the ability to delay my desire to cut
Some ppl are constantly covering up their hair to avoid "dealing" with it, I'm not sure that was her situation but she does wear lots of wigs in her other videos.
@@tintamanengu still 30 Mims before work is NOT the time to try to figure it out for the first time :( she set herself up for failure and frustration. I hate that for her
For years I neglected my hair I didn't like what I was naturally born with in turn hating my true self I learned to love myself after I lost most of my hair in the middle of my head from trying to bleach my hair at home it didn't fall out all at once it took a few months but now I take good care of my hair I love my hair and I love myself I'm happy with what I have and I hope more people love who they are I appreciate you for your video it was sad to see her unhappiness but once she learns how to do her hair she will know what she has is beautiful by the way you are a beautiful soul and I will subscribe
it’s the length. My mind goes blank some days on what to do with my hair until it got a certain length. I wear my natural hair out more when it’s longer.
This is a very western black problem, because all of the millions of women in the Caribbean and Africa are they really out here crying about their hair?? Her problem to begin with is thinking her hair isn’t “presentable” in its natural state.
Search for Tol'thema on TikTok ( that's the creators shop) you can get them from her she has a good variety too. Hope you take a look even if it's just for inspiration. I love her content.
Find a good natural hair stylist that knows how to handle ur texture. Get a cute cut that u can grow out…like a tapered cut, etc…do the work & change ur mind set of what beautiful hair is. Natural hair is beyond beautiful. Rock ur fro, twist out etc…
She could have moisturized it and just picked it into an Afro. Why are we still ashamed to wear the hair that grows from our scalp the way it is? So sad. From my big chop I wore a fro until it was long enough to do many braids or twists.
The first girl could just put on some cute headbands and leave it out like that in it's natural state. And put some pretty pins or clips in it, it's short and cute enough to play around with hair pieces. That's what I would do at least
At 33 I’m having a hard time with my mixed hair. Dry flaky scalp that is sooooo groosssss🤢 I really feel for her. I don’t feel ‘bad’ for her though because her and her hair are beautiful. Sometimes we never know how our inner beauty causes others to not see our outer flaws. (Our self perceived flaws)
That’s what happens when you treat your hair as something to “hide”, “not good enough” 🤷🏾♀️ if you don’t take care of it regularly it’s not going to grow 👀 leave them brazilian hair alone 😊
I feel like black women in general needs to stop crying on the internet about our hair. Y’all don’t see any other race crying on the internet about there’s
Your comment doesn't make any sense. Other races don't have the same hair struggles that black women with type 4 hair have. Those women don't have much to complain about.
Learn to braid your own hair I literally use two mirrors and angle them so I can see the back of my head when I’m doing yarn twists and etc there are too many tutorials online for you to sit there and cry
I've been that girl😂 not anymore...one she is forcing her hair to look a certain way and soon she will lose her edges if she doesn't stop...I cut my hair and this time I decided to just take care of it by washing it and putting on moisturizing products ...maybe combing too but no styling it...why do a pony tail on short hair ....until I have grown out my hair long...no styling for me...just cleansing moisturizing and combing gently...
I get the frustration, i think the main issue is her idea of "presentable" is based on white beauty standards. All she needed was to wet, shape and maybe throw in a side part and that's it. Our hair texture does different things so she needs different expectations of her hair
