Clips from the movie Stepmom (1998) illustrate 2 different methods of dealing with inappropriate boys. Originally used in a post in the Empress Tea blog: Sexism, Objectification & Dealing with Assholes tea.empresschic...
Nah, the step-mom did the right thing. Middle schoolers are brutal and don’t fight fair - you’ll just be left with scars if you don’t figure out how to get the upper hand.
In Oregon, the 6th grade is middle school, and most in most states, it's in middle school. Back in my day, it was grade school. Things change fast because 9th grade in the 70s was in junior high, not high school.
Isabelle did a really nice thing for her. ❤ she treated her like an actual daughter which I loved. She tried to help in her own way and the important thing is Anna really felt better after and it wasnt wrong....just a different approach. :)
I think both the mom and the stepmom are right in their approach, it's about when it's appropriate to apply either one, the default should be the most dignified way of the mom, but if it's costing you your peace of mind because the bullies won't leave you alone then the stepmom way is the way to handle them.
My favorite lines from the movie... The choice... It seems to me you have a choice. You can either pretend to be an adult or you can actually be one. So, sit here in the cold crying by yourself... or... do something about it. Together. Jesus, how many grown-ups, nowadays, need to be reminded of that choice! Only many are not as smart or grown-up as Anna!
@@liamisaac1152 wrong Over every domineering asshole, there’s an even more domineering asshole that has harmed him ESPECIALLY when they leave school and deal with even worse bullies on the streets or work place
I always found Anna's friends cheering for her was so endearing and yet funny especially her friend that's like "WOOOOOO YOU RULEEEE" LOL I love it..great support and audience.
Giving jackasses their comeuppance is very satisfying or necessary. However, sometimes learning to ignore people unworthy to be in your life, is important to cultivating inner strength and integrity when far more serious situations occur in adult life, which was what Jackie meant about learning to withstand peer pressure.
"I believe in a crisis you have the opportunity to learn something". "Winning without dignity and grace is not winning". "She has to figure out who she is so she can stand up to peer pressure...so she can steer her own course". There are two different ways to stand up to assert oneself. This is depicted through the step mom's lens and the mothers lens. The mother is trying to raise the daughter one way; and the stepmom has conflicting viewpoints. Very good way to depict relational harassment between the mother and step mother.
I mean it worked. But it's sad, how the kids wouldn't leave Anna alone, till she lied, making everyone think she's dating someone. Which is something that still happens today...
Jasmine Koidhis omg lol this was my favorite movie and I was afraid to look it up but I was always curious. Thanks for telling me even though it’s so nasty lol 🤢 😂
Jackie you are wrong!!!!! Isabelle did the right thing. You were playing the PG version which is the soft way to dealing with jerks. Isabelle taught Anna the tough way to deal with boys the right way. It's not like the principal overheard her and she's already in trouble for it. Her plan worked than yours!!!
She taught Anna to stick up for herself but based off a lie. That’s not gonna work in every situation. The plan was clever in making the boy feel like a loser. Jackie just wants to what’s best for her kids.
Joseph Hernandez! Amen, I say the same thing. Isabel's idea really taught that little schmutz and his pals a lasting lesson. That this girl is a force to be reckoned with so look out. Jackie doesn't have to worry about all those parents calling her about 'snowblowing'. What kid that age goes to their parents and tells them about the new dirty jokes or words in school? No kid that age ever tells their parents about dirty words, jokes, phrases, books, movies, etc that the whole class has seen and heard. The Happy Hooker book got passed around to everybody in my fifth grade class and not even the teacher knew, much less the parents. Jackie can rant and rave until the roof caves in but the fact is Isabel was there to deal with the problem while Jackie couldn't for health reasons.
i love this movie i remember before watching this movie as a teenager and having a crush on that model,that julia roberts hired to pretend to be her high school boyfriend. he is awfully cute
They had to be bitter characters bc of the story and it had to be portrayed how real people are like in those situations. The actors are just doing what the directors and producers want
I know I'm probably missing the whole point of this scene but the part where Anna says me and my new boyfriend laugh our asses off every time we talk about you but if you talk to your new boyfriend about your ex wouldn't you be giving your new boyfriend the impression that your still hung up on your ex?To me that's dating 101.I don't know but I know Anna is just sticking it to that jerk Brad. Oh and that male model that Julia Roberts set Anna up with I think he's gorgeous still think he's gorgeous😍😍
That scene was just a setup to totally humiliate that blonde boy for calling her Frosty the Snow Bitch on the Friday before. The guy with the motorcycle wasn't really dating her. Isabel just paid him for this one scene so the young girl could regain her dignity. That's all.
I have to give credit to Isabelle for helping Anna b/c Anna didn't like her b/c she was a new mom and she wanted her own mom Jackie and Isabelle stepped in and wasn't a mean stepmom as stepmom are known to be evil and stepfather's evil but Isabelle gave Anna advice and she helped her out and then Anna and Isabelle had a realtionship from there. Anna used what Isabelle gave her and you can be adult and tell the truth about this bully and make people see him for what he really is which is a jack ass and Anna did just that. Isabelle had a boy who was with her and the line when she said "You don't believe me he is standing right over there, we laugh our asses off when we talk about you!" There was that boy with Anna and she said it worked it worked and she thanked Isabelle but Jackie (Anna's real mom) wasn't happy about it!
When i was bullied in middle school, (1970s) my parents told me to ignore it, so i did. I TOTALLY ignored it, they just couldn't get a rise out of me and it stopped. HOWEVER i also had full parental permission to hit anyone who hit me first. Being particularly small, (& utterly pokerfaced at all verbal bullying) nobody expected me to physically defend myself. In midle school i was hit two different times by two different kids. I hit them both back immediately and nobody messed with me again.
@@BrandyTexas214 Unfortunately a lot of adults in those situations don't handle it well. And the adults that do often suffer because the ones that don't are saying negative things to the kids about the other one effectively poisoning them.
I disagree. She was the mother and trying to do what was best for her children. People need to learn to learn that their children are more important at times.
Ignoring them does work sometimes but sometimes you need to stand up for yourself once in the fifth grade a boy said to Me that if brains were gasoline that I wouldn’t be able to drive a motorcycle around the circumference of a penny I responded with at least my motorcycle would start unlike yours and he was silent not knowing what to say
I love how the whole Snow Blowing thing is totally ignored by Brad and his friends and they just keep calling him a loser. 😆😆😆 So random they referenced Kevin Smith's Clerks I'd probably have been the one smart ass who'd be like "Oh I saw that movie Anna so what is it?"
+maureenavena33 I couldn't stand her either, encouraging her kids to hate and talk filth to someone she herself can't stand, rewarding their behavior instead of punishing them.
@@Disneyfan82 exactly. I hated her character in here too. All because she blames her for her marriage to fall apart. Which it wasn't. Her husband works long hours and as a lawyer they work long hours. She had nothing to do with their divorce so there is no reason for her to be bitter to her because she is dying from cancer and Isabelle is the only female figure in her kids lives they got.
@@josephhernandez1885 I wouldn't think she blamed Isabelle for her marriage. her husband was seeing other women after they separated as Jackie mentioned in that meeting with the school counselor. I think she just didn't like sharing the burden of looking after the children with another woman who was too young, involved in her work, and inexperienced with kids. she must have just liked dealing with her ex-husband alone more than having a third party to deal with over their personal differences as women.
Brad Kavitsky was an awful person, and bullying others he deemed as inferior was in his nature. Anna had a crush on him, but he didn't reciprocate it. I wish I had her courage when I was her age. I could have done that when I was in school.
