Girls vs Boys - Is There A Difference? 

Exactly

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​@@Bork23476 is it just nature if it has to be reinforced? Reinforced with tacticts like shaming? And when not reinforced it just blends more. Is that really nature?

I disagree

Yea, i never understood why some things are more valuable than others? I mean…you might be useful as a car mechanic but so is the chef…they are equally valuable at the right time.

I agree with the last part. I think this is why it is important to be aware of the spectrum of interests. Boy/Girl Red/Blue (used to be respective colors for boy and girl newborns) sorting isn't bad per se, but there should be no access restriction. Non-binary awareness is growing. :)

@@eliljeho non-binary?

You just said you grew up in a household that pushed those things onto you. Doesn't seem like you were free to choose.

Of course no one should be discouraged against their own wants and desires for their lives. But the point is don't be surprised when Biology takes over most peoples desire to live a certain way.

@@jacobelmosehjordsvar the framework of analyzing anything beyond a simple positive/negative dicodomy. Light has frequencies, and intensities.

That's right. And GENERALLY SPEAKING, this doctor is also right

You do know that most professional cooks are men right?

When boy play to the house, we end with dishwasher, vacuum cleaner, roomba and washing machines

Not cooking, but playing with dolls (unless ripping off their heads) is not something an average boy wants to do

Yes😊

Thats not true Testosteron makes you aggressive and makes you want to fight etc.

@@dodumichalcevski that’s not all testosterone does lol and it’s very true look it up

@@HeyJaymye I didnt say its everything Testosterone does. But it does make you aggressive and want to fight

This is ridiculous. What does being gay have to do with this? These are children and this what toys they play with are the toys they are drawn to regardless of if they end up being homosexual or heterosexual or something else

@@horsermchead2504 exactly lol people are stupid

And the marketing and socialization came out of nowhere? Oh wait.

@maxw565 Did the way we name colours also come from our biology? Sure, in some abstract way that has nothing to do with anything, as would anything because we’re biological beings. We’re also social beings. Not everything has to be rationalised down to genitalia, believe it or not. And just how we have different gender norms in different countries, people have different words for colour and even different categories for what colours are grouped together.

@@rellloom colors? Come on now

several studies have shown differences even on babies. not everything its a social construction, stop deniying the important role of biology on this.

@@maxw565 you’re correct! it didn’t come out of no where. it came from years of social norms with no factual foundation being pushed onto other people. just so you’re not longer confused, absolutely no one said that gender norms manifested from thin air. the argument is that they’re not based on biology whatsoever and are harmful.

omggg those things, I remember them from tv

this is extremely well said, thank you for sharing your experience.

For Christmas, my son asked for the doll that pees in the potty and talks. His dad was more than happy to buy that for him along with a stroller.. He played with it for just a month and from then on it sits beside his bed and he talks to it every now and then as he's laying in bed at night. It's normally about his day and what he wonders the following week will bring (he talks loud lol). It's his "friend" tho and "NOT a daughter" haha

Totally agree. I am a mother of three boys. They are all adults now but I allowed them to play with baby dolls, and kitchen, playsets and dress up in my clothes and wear my high heels around the house when they were little because that’s part of being a kid and it’s fun. They also loved stacking blocks as high as they could and knocking them down. They loved playing with cars and smashing them into one another. Every stick, pencil, pretzel rod, they would turn into a sword or a gun. They were very much masculine, but they also enjoyed playing with baby dolls, and pretending to cook in the kitchen. My boys now or adults and they all are so naturally talented and caring for children and enjoy cooking. I see absolutely nothing wrong with allowing children to play with what they find fun.

Yup. Childrens interest are incredibly dictated by what they observe around them. If a boy sees that their interest in dolls causes a negative reaction from the people around them they are very much likely to try and play with the toys that get the “good” reaction from the adults. This is also why children with gender dysphoria tend to have a very strong idea of their own identity because the dyshoria causes so much discomfort that it overrides the natural acceptance instinct. Kids won’t just push back against their parents in such a dramatic way unless they were very very driven in their own beliefs, which generally doesn’t happen as a child when you are still absorbing and changing.

Agreed. Most of the “boys just like…” and “girls just like…” are more because they’ve been snuffed from even taking interest in those things. It’s mainly a social thing that’s made girls and boys prefer what they prefer. Hell even sports were like this. Acting and being a nurse was mainly a male dominated area until women began coming in.

exactly. I hated the dolls I got. So boring. I always wanted a remote controlled car. My sister also only played with cars

Definitely no if it's all in one aisle then you would have to find the small section of the thing you wanna get toy car aisle action figure aisle role play aisle keep it organized

this

If there's going to be multiple aisles anyway, in what universe does it benefit anyone to have the toys randomly scattered throughout the aisles? From a marketing standpoint, it makes more sense to group toys together which have a strong audience overlap, where someone interested in a toy is likely also interested in a nearby toy. And from a shopping standpoint, it's beneficial to have all of a given type of product together, so you can compare options. Combine those two, and what do you get? Themed aisles. They can be labeled whatever, but labeling them "trucks and guns" and "dolls and toy houses" won't really change anything.

I agree. I've seen girl toddlers with an interest in trucks and nerf guns. I've seen toddler boys with dolls or stuffed animals in all colours. They weren't taught that this is for girls and this is for boys. They chose what they liked. When they go through puberty, hormones account for changes but they are on a spectrum since hormone levels vary per person and our brains also adapt depending on the group of people and environment we are surrounded with

Ok, now go look up what working on an oil rig looks like. Or petrochemical manufacturing. Construction, making concrete. Women have had decades to move into those fields, and they largely haven't. The only thing that's changed is women traded farm work for administrative jobs, which are increasingly going to online prostitution btw, great job! Much progress! Girls and boys are treated different because, ding dong, they ARE different. Men and women are different.

​@@coolbreeze5683Have you seen as many or more boys go for dolls, or girls go for trucks or guns? The answer is a resounding "no."

@@St4rTr3v1Ut10n you're missing the point of what the original comment said. Those things are taught and over the past few generations, it's been taught and normalized on a grand scale. Recently, we see more variations in what children are interested in and it's not as much based on traditional gender lines. You're also missing the point of my comment saying that yes, on a whole, kids aren't sticking to interests based on what was taught in the past. It might be the case where you live but it's not where I live. So the "resounding no" might be for you but it's not for everyone

My son plays with/ likes whatever tbh. Right now, his big thing is Marbles and o Play dough lmao. But he goes down EVERY toy aisle and finds things he likes from each. Homies favorite color is pink lmao. I just let him be him.

Me to 😂😊

My uncle lets me play with his tools whenever he's upgrading the basement at his parent's house even though my grandma berated him for letting me stay with all the wood dust on the floor. He was an architect and only let me play with the safe ones while checking on me every now and then while I was getting creative with the leftover wood he was going to dispose. My grandparents and dad weren't happy with me handling the real stuff instead of the toy version I had because I was going to hurt myself. Never happened except a few splinters when I didn't use sandpaper on the ends instead of just where I wanted the wood to be smooth.

want a medal?

I loved doing woodwork etc. when I was young.

That’s what happens when we let natural interests override societal norms! Good for you that you get to pursue your own passions in life. 😁 Side note: there are a lot of people responding on this video thread with the sole intention of making women feel bad. Ignore the trolls. You are awesome for being you!

Definitely biology /s

The hairdresser equipment for boys are for the sons of Mazda Miata owners.

Lol turkish barbers 😂😂😂😂

A lot of hairdressers in germany are men. Almost everywhere there is at least one barber shop that also cuts hair and they gladly do it infact! And they are absolutely amazing at it too, every time it turns out perfect!

@@tatiana4050 Poggey

Growing up, my favourite thing to do at my granddmas was playing cars with my brother, or making model train tracks with him and my dad. But I also loved playing dolls and giving them cool haircuts and making up dramas haha.

You are aware that ‘statistics of boys and girls preferences’ is proof? Of course plenty of boys are into feminine stuff and plenty of girls are into masculine stuff, and society should work to encourage people to follow those interests regardless of their sex, but on average, there are differences in interest between sexes and these do largely originate from a biological cause.

So in other words, those preferences could either be genuine interests from the different genders OR societal stereotypes, and it'd be very hard to differentiate the two for studies.

Statistics is the proof/data. The statistics ofc aren’t gonna be exactly the same for everyone but they take what the average is and make a conclusion. And ofc there are outliers that they also take into consideration but it’s not like that makes the statistic/data false

@@Gabriella-iq5he Confusing casualty with causality is an error in these kind of studies. Common, but still an error.

As a girl I marveled at the neighbor kids hot wheels and loved playing with them. I also played barbies too. Later in life I became a vehicle operator in the Air Force. 😊 Now I'm middle aged and am an entrepreneur. Passions in life shouldn't be ignored. They enrich us.

He isn’t a saying that, he’s saying the it isn’t this big clandestine cultural manipulation

@StefanStuart1 girls' toys being geared towards homemaking has nothing to do with homemaking being the main role for women until relatively recently in history? And if you live in a conservative area, that's still a big expectation of women? This is not the same as saying toy company ceos are hatching a plan to revert back to 1950s patriarchy lol.

​@@StefanStuart1but it is😂

@@StefanStuart1 Dont bother mate, these people didnt even understand what was being said to begin with so no point trying to explain to them now

So?

@@cakes3733yeah bro why does that matter ☠️😭

⁠​⁠@@jesusisking77740 it just goes to show how far marketing can influence us, and I‘d say that this is an important topic to have knowledge in to avoid marketing traps and general thinking traps

@Sammy102093 your western perspective is showing

It was actually Hitler I think 😂 He said it was gay so the Nazis were like OH THATS GAY

Exactly this!

The problem is you take yourself as the rule, when you are the exception. Neither did he say boys can’t be interested in both things, he said more boys tend to. Both instances can coexist. Some parents drive their children towards certain interests and some children themselves pick certain interests. The world isn’t a place of only one or the other, he was just explaining how the frequency of occurrence has shaped the way things are.

​@@sheene.c9455 it's just not frequent enough though. Since you can't actually clinically study nature v nurture on gender he can't be making these brash statements. Unless you can absolutely remove nurture from birth, which is clinically impossible, we will never fundamentally know if males and females actually have different interests. It's not possible. He's just generalizing based off some weak data over the decades.

Yes, I don’t think it is possible to do this kind of scientific research that fully excludes conditioning, which inevitably skews results. Is the brain naturally that different? Or is it made more different than would naturally occur by the conditioning of society utilizing certain pathways over others to “perform” what is expected of us?

He did mention that in freer societies there are bigger sex differences (referring to what males and females decide to do for a living). These are societies that are the most advanced in terms of providing opportunities that are open to everyone equally. This is data from well documented and cited studies that can be sourced.

It's okay, you're out of the gene pool

Lol.

Hey don’t worry, there is nothing wrong with being lesbian and don’t let influence tell you other wise ❤

Power move, honestly

You would’ve always been lesbian even if your parents didn’t let you play with whatever you want. And if you think it’s a curse then it’s not because we’re all humans and neither men nor women nor anyone in between is better than the other

Yeah but those “dolls” are thrown and smashed into each other by the boys whereas girls use their dolls gently and dress them up etc. There is a clear difference in each behavior. This message is not about toys

​@MattMatti3 omg no lol. My bf is so careful with his figures more than I ever was with my Barbies lol.

@@annieannamoore6011 I am talking about young boys, not grown “men”. Real men don’t collect dolls

@@MattMatti3 Unless they blow up, am i right? ;)

@@MattMatti3you have clearly never seen a little girl playing with her toys by herself, when we were by ourselves or among friends the scenarios involved cheating, knives, guns, nudity and death.

The marketing only works because it preys on that aspect of human existence. You expose various primate species to children's toys, and you see the same divide between the males and females, i.e. males play with the "boys toys," and females play with the "girls toys". Thus, the difference in gender desires for certain things predates humans altogether.

This seems like a reasonable idea but you are missing the point of why there are different aisles. It helps the store sell toys more easily. The vast majority of the time a parent is going in and buying the toy and in the vast majority of kids the boys want trucks and guns and the girls want barbies and easy bake ovens. The stores separate the aisles to make the parents easier which leads to higher sales.

My local Walmart has a single toy aisle, and it still ends up with the "boy side" and the "girl side." The marketing of toys makes it impossible to mix the two types of toys together. For organizational purposes, it's better to have the "boy" stuff all together and the "girl" stuff all together. We also have a section dedicated to baby toys. It's not that older kids can't play with baby toys. It's that you have to organize it somehow, and marketing has pushed those toys into demographics.

You're actually wrong there. There HAS to be a different toy section for boys and girls, just like you need different bathrooms for toys and girls, and different sports for men and women. How much DEEPLY are you gonna differentiate the toys? Trucks? Toy guns? Action figures? Sports equipment? Jigsaw puzzles? Remote control toys? Airplanes? Legos? Beyblades? Now, how DEEPLY will you differentiate between the genders? Boys? Girls? Done. Keeping the whole patriarchy, society, biology, etc etc, aside, just tell me LOGISTICALLY and PHYSICALLY, which differentiation is easier to ARRANGE?

I totally agree.

Haidt agrees with you. If you read more of his work all he advocates for is greater choice and opportunity, but that we shouldn't be naïve enough to assume that when maximal freedom is granted that different groups have distinct (average) preferences, and that there is evidence to the contrary. We live in a world where disparate outcomes are in and of themselves used as evidence of oppression without any further effort.

Which one?

@@Sofia-yn1zt teen Titans

😂 Sorry! I'm a girl who thought teen titans was really cute!

@@stefs3460 none of us should be punished for you having good taste

@@justinrivera1618WHAT???? I THOUGHT IT WAS BECAUSE POEPL JUST STARTED TO LOSE INTEREST????

that plot twist at the end got me ngl

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So bold! I love this 😍

Genuinely asking why you’re proud and grateful to be a woman, I’m a young girl and have felt like I hate it before

​@@Violet-de7rwme too. Sometimes I wish I was born a boy. I hate periods.

Yes, "boy" things are currently heavily devalued when compared to "girl" things. So boys are going to carry a lot more shame than girls among our youngest generations. Boys act out more, playfight more, develop their communication skills and ability to sit still in class much later. Girls are leaving boys behind in our present education system and economy and we don't have a plan to handle it beyond shame and narratives about boys failing.

And if a girl doesn't like to play with dolls and likes cars that can be a problem as well 🙄 It's all about what people gift them and what parents and so one want the child to like... Children have more emotional intelligence that people give them credit to... otherwise they might not survive 😅

This! I as a male have always been more attracted to more "feminine" things even though I don't perceive them as feminine. I feel like this is not taking the parental and societal influence they have had on them.

Also, maybe the male mental health issues we're currently overwhelmed by would be improved if more of their play and interests were encouraged to be about nurturing, and relationships. Why does a boy wanting to play with a doll create such a fuss - are they not supposed to want to be dads/uncles/big brothers at any point in their lives?! As a girl who liked making stories for all my dolls/toys, I was endlessly frustrated that I could never have the lego and "boys toys" I was interested in as a child. Then, when I began to struggle with maths at secondary school (12-16yr olds) I started to believe my grandmother had been right all along about things girls were good at vs what boys were good at, so I gave up trying. Perhaps even worse, I developed anxiety and depression because I wasn't good at the cookery and sewing classes I had to take - what I *should* be good at. Trying to force kids/people to fit into certain predetermined* boxes does most of us a disservice. How much talent and knowledge has previously been wasted, how many come to see themselves as failures and/or less than, because they don't meet expectations? You can't divide people into male vs. female brains, it's always more nuanced - what about neurodivergent brains? *(largely by a past patriarchal and racist society)

I actively remember two instances where I was discouraged by a parent to not play with specific toys because they were for boys and I was a girl. Still as incredulous now by that as I did then.

Why would you assume that though? Isn't it a bit of a leap to assume evolution prepares male and female bodies with the same survival strategy, especially given their very different reproductive roles?

if you look at those studies.... it's junk science... i mean how could it not be.... to actually make those studies at all the tiniest bit valuable you'd have to raise those children in a white room without any interference from any human outside the study

Very good summary

Ig the best way to assess is to compare different societies, both now and historically. Because biological sex stays the same, but gender is always changing.

Many of the studies use to small of a sample size to even giva a real ansver either way..... Not even having the same amount of each sex!! The %/data get skewed and less than even a hundred participants is extremely LOW

Thank you!

100% pink used to be a boys color, boys used to wear dresses as toddlers, the phonecians used nail polish to identify rank in their military, men used to wear high heals for riding horses.

@@zkapsh but he isn't talking about any of these things

@dolores9730 but they all in the end the same. Humans are biologically inclined to segment society to make it function, however it is not biological that wanting to care for children is a boy or girl think or that liking monster trucks is a bor or girl things. These are things that we socially pushed towards for some social or political reasons.

@@zkapsh males and females having differently wired brains are is than humanity itself.

Thats proven false. It has nothing to do with socialization.

See, comments like this don't get as much attention because they don't fit the narrative a lot of people believe in. Why can't it be *both* nature and nurture in a complicated, nuanced way that is not JUST biology or JUST socialization?

@@BaritoneMonkey Trust me, Haidt agrees wholeheartedly. Too many people are judging his entire worldview based on a single short. The thing is though since it's both nature and nurture, the less impact we make nurture have on it (i.e. by intentional gender equality in society) then the differences in "nature" will have an outsized impact, because that's most of what's left.

@@jon4139 Huh, interesting take on the effects of ignoring nature in this discussion. Insightful. Honestly I think I agree with you.

Psychotic? I dont think hes in a state of psychosis

Psychotic is a little strong. Takes one to know one, anyways.

Marketing responds to consumer choices.

@@jon4139 People really can't be this stupid can they? Dolls were LITERALLY created to let little girls practice housework at a young age with "play" and then when advertising started being a big thing they kept that theme of advertising it to young girls.

@@ticklord I don't think we can say that for sure, the history is ancient at least, for instance many children are capable of creating their own "toys" out of things like mud or sand or sticks, but okay we can run with your notion, and if little girls on average disliked them then they wouldn't have stuck. Isn't it in the toy company's interest to sell all their toys to every kid? What possible profit motive would there be to produce twice the product variety for the child market?

I dont thinmk hes saying boys are biologically inclined to like trucks,. Hes saying boys and girls are biologically different and one way that happens to show itself is boys being more inclined to like trucks.

​@@huib9400i feel like you need to elaborate more, how does biology lead to boys liking trucks, are you saying that because boys have more testosrone they tend to like trucks?

​​​@@jordy65056 trucks start with a t so people with higher testosterone like them more. Or maybe it's possession of testicles which are round that makes those who possess them like cars more because cars have wheels which are also round.

This is a silly criticism. It's not the trucks themselves, it's is the nature of the object. Simon Baron Cohen and other researchers made this observation with very young babies many years ago, in that baby boys were drawn more in terms of attention to mechanical objects, while girls were drawn to faces. Again, this was with babies, so you can exclude cultural factors.

No, I think he's saying something along the lines of... boys and girls are inclined to certain types of things and activities. So boys are not attracted to trucks themselves; they are attracted to their characteristics and the activities that trucks represent. Of course it's not in our ADN to like trucks 😅

it's not about girls being "nicer", but being generally more interested in relationships and emotions when for example making up a story, instead of like cool guns and boom boom

We are talking about young kids. It's not like boys use guns because they know everything about war and violence and see that as "cool" while girls are not cool just cuz they play with dolls. A boy could have a superhero figure toy, while a girl could have a barbie doll. It doesn't mean the barbie doll has to be played with a romantic plot and fantasy and vice versa.

There's certainly more overlap than the toy aisle makes it out to be I remember loving playing "cowboys and indians" as much as the boys. (I wonder what kids call it now, because the name is not PC, probably just candy crush)

@@steggopotamusin England we call it cops and robbers

My dolls were often gladiators when I played with them and the stuffed animals were the beasts they had to fight... Very romantic and "relationship based" you could say lmao

All that is amazing and all but what the hell do you mean you use “queer” to describe your gender?

@@CosmicCreeper99 Queer: denoting or relating to a sexual or gender identity that does not correspond to established ideas of sexuality and gender, especially heterosexual norms. Meaning I do not see myself in the gender norms created by society; I do not strongly identify with being a woman, and I am not a man; I don't heavily define my gender, i just know I don't fall into either of those buckets. It's like being non-binary, but I don't like that term and how it equates to being transgender, as my gender isn't transitioning or changing, it just is. I hope that clears it up for you.

You're 50 years old and using the 'assigned at birth' language bs? You're making being a tomboy way overcomplicated with the pseudo intellectual fake academic verbiage. Are you trying to look intelligent or are you trying to appeal to the current trans trend? Doing any of that at 50 makes you an absolute loon. Get over yourself.

Queer is a slur when used to describe people in that way. Queer is acceptable to be used if you said what a queer hat to a very strange looking hat for example.

​@@horsermchead2504Nope, queer is NOT a slur when used in that way. Who are you to tell this person that how they think of themselves is a slur? 😅😅😅

Love that for you!

Introducing the new, grand Larsen Barbie.

😂😂

Hey we found the real life Andy xD

i remember crying in target because i couldn’t get the german uboat but the boy could

I grew up with three male siblings and we had a female cousin who had some girlfriends, the girls seemed to have a different play style. We were always in wars, and what we imagined would often seem gross to them, a giant nose oozing that the possom mans turrets had to blast into to get into the sewer system... Just acted out... I just remember being so enthralled by it, and the girls liked to play domestic, more realistic sort of scenarios like doctor, house, etc I think we were a good case study because this was before the inundation of screens and influences, we had to make stuff up off the dome

@@user-wr2cd1wy3b screens are not the only influence in your life. Things people say, how other people act, and what they buy you, vs the girls as well. If your parents only gave you a tank or whatever to play with but bought the girls pink dolls, then that is somehow going to affect your thinking and perception.

Umm. Okayyyy.. 😂lol

And you are the exception to the rule, because most boys do NATURALLY have an interest and instinct for more physicality (wrestling, fighting, sports, etc.) So the point is that it's not wrong for a boy to not be interested in that, but stop telling the majority that THEY are somehow wrong

Therapist here, no, he is not.

@justtam321 I am interested in your perspective. Have you seen any peer reviewed research that show these interests align with being "male" or "female" in a non-patriarchical society? I have looked, and it does not exist. Patriarchy appears to be an underlying foundational factor here. Do many young females like pink? Do many young males like blue? Is it due to gender or social learning? Several hundred years ago the options were switched as were the preferences. I am interested in what you are seeing in this interview that shows he is right.

@maureenrobertshaw7375 @maureenrobertshaw7375 Of course I have. Of course peer reviewed articles on inherent male and female differences exist. Where have you been looking? How have you been searching? The issue is not whether or not pink is for girls and blue is for boys, it's whether there are inherent differences in the male brain vs the female brain and there absolutely are and that is precisely what makes each gender so uniquely and distinctly beautiful. I do not believe that all throughout history, women were so pathetically weak and men were so pathetically conformist that one man or minor group of men decided all men ought to be a certain way and the rest of men followed, and that all women ought to be a certain way and that all women followed suit for thousands of years. I do not insult you by disagreeing with you. I believe this is an important conversation to have and do respect your humanism but it is clear that men and women are different, psychologically and physiologically. As a therapist it is clear in the type of reflexive defense mechanisms men use when attacked vs. women, their modes of communication, their temperaments. These temperaments have been followed in feral environments as well as structured environments and there are distinctions in behavior that should not be ignored when working with and considering the human condition. The studies are also clear that egalitarian societies breed more traditional roles, I did a paper on this a while back when I studied political science. Now, I am not saying that there are no exceptions to the rules, but at the end of the day, the rule is justified and should not be treated as the exception. And there is immense, tangible, and intangible value and beauty in those distinctions.

@@justtam321 the misogynistic "brain s3x" research has been disproven so many times.

"Therapist" xD

May I ask what is Little People, because I have never heard of it.

@@holdensaia5962 They're by Fisher Price and there are, well, Little People (lol) and playsets that they fit into. My kids have a camping set and a tractor and they play with them in their Bluey House and stuff too

They're like the Tonka Toy characters,​@@holdensaia5962

​@@holdensaia5962, or maybe Playskool

I played just as much with cars and dolls when I was little. Then I was only interested in climbing trees, playing on my skateboard and doing wheelies on my bike for a number of years. Some would say I was a tomboy. My parents didn’t care as long as I enjoyed myself and did what I was told - which I did! I never understood trying to push kids into only liking what are considered girlie things or boyish things. They are not even true. Not in my experience anyway. 😂

For the few that end up with the opposite interest? Seems like alot of work considering we can just walk to the other isle

@@braydenbrown8930🎯

@@braydenbrown8930how about just call it they you aisle and organize it via rainbow scale. I highly doubt kids would be picking a toy out cause it’s a truck.

@@mariachi3217 and why exactly would we ever do that?

I was more on trucks and dinosaurs also. I imagine sometimes a weird future with a kid like me with parents saying: kid, you are clearly gay, go and play with the pink doll. This is not how gay kids behave in this traditional family.

Girls like dinos because "theyre animals", boys because "they're killer monsters who fight one another"

They’re thinking about money. And they know that more girls will buy certain toys and more boys will buy others. So they split it up so they can find what they’re looking for more easily

@@snattack7834 Boys and girls don't buy toys, their parents do. I work in a story with a toy aisle and basically every day I hear parents say stuff like "you can't have that, that's for boys/girls."

@@JesterOfDestiny Not too long ago there were commercials for literally almost every type of product. Every big video game, every phone, loads of toys for inside and outside, you name it. It made the kids watching Nickelodeon or Cartoon Network say wow I want that! So then the parents would get it. These days, parents are just remembering what they wanted when they were young, and they're projecting that because toy advertising just isn't as easy to see anymore. It's all just looking things up online and finding options that way. Doesn't mean they're right or wrong about their kids' interests, cause you can't really ask a 2 year old to pick from 500 different things. It's just a shame we lost that live TV medium for marketing, because kids were exposed to loads of options through seeing other kids happy. It's the human connection. Then Amazon ruined it lol

That wasn’t the point of the video at all

They didn't need to think of genetics. They just needed to think of the outcome of the genetics, which is the sex differences in interest...

Interesting. That makes perfect sense to me! I was mostly a girl (matches my genitalia), but there were times that I wanted to play with cars and more "boy" toys. Sometimes I found them much cooler. And I'm not a "girly girl." Sometimes I like dressing up, but I'm most comfortable in shorts and a T-shirt.

@@kagomeshukoplaying with a certain toy dose not change your gender 🤦‍♂️. Girls can like guns and trucks and boys can like sewing and the color pink. Dose not mean an all knowing being that in omnipotent messed up while making you.

​​@@geoffreyraymond8128Why do you have to bring an all knowing omnipotent being into this? I mean she didn't even mention God or even like gender identity

@@Emanuel-hh4uu because God made the air you breathe and not including him would be stupid.

@@geoffreyraymond8128 Well, I don't believe in god my g. Either way, should god be included in every conversation?

I find it annoying when the toystore staff ask me if the toy I'm looking for is for a boy or a girl, I just tell them it's for a x year old kid. My nephew would play with an oven that lights up and makes noise just like he'd play with a gun that does the same

You're so unintelligent. Your 'study' doesn't contradict what the guy said at all.

Very interesting! I wonder if color has so much significance because it's one of the first concepts babies are taught?

@@lauraw2526 No, it's not.

@@shams3831 I’m sorry, what? Yes it is.

@@lauraw2526 Boys and girls have different brains. Experiments were done on newborns that show not everything is 'societal' and 'cultural' reasons. Guy in the vid is correct. The person making a comment is a clueless feminist/lib.

What he's saying is that modern countries that have implemented the most intentional gender equality and freedom of choice along sex/gender have the most disparate sex differences in things like chosen professions. This is because when people are free to choose, they go with their actual preference, which is deeply informed by biology. It is in nations where people lack opportunity that you see the opposite. Men and women doing whatever they are able to survive, with no thought to preference.

"...statement is outrageous." He's literally just referring to the biggest studies and meta-studies on the topic in western countries which ALL show the same results. Your ignorance about science doesn't make it wrong, it just makes you look dumb.

Exactly not only that what we view as for boys and for girls changes as you stated with the color pink, up until a few decades ago boys would be dressed up I dresses when they were toddlers. You can find pictures of the most stereotypical masculine president Theodore Roosevelt in a dress as a toddler. Also computer science used to be a more equal device among men and women until the marketing of video games and Comercial use of computers.

​@zkapsh Interesting fact, I learned that the reason all toddlers used to wear dresses was because it made it easier to change them.

​@@trystanmentzer873it was easier to potty train them....

When I was a little kid my mom got me a doll house. The only time I actually played dolls with it was when my mom would play with me. The rest of the time I would take it apart and put it back together over and over. I always wanted a race car track and/or a remote train track but we couldn't afford it.

YES, but I think the last statement is wrong in childhood there is almost no difference but when we are adults, the difference in strength is really a lot. be realistic, there is no woman who could beat Mike Tyson.

You would’ve been called a ‘tomboy’ back then.

Same.

​@@westerlywinds5684I was.

@@westerlywinds5684 yep, I was

But the other side will say you are shamed out of it, since boys don't like dolls because they are shamed out of it lol

Women bear children. It makes sense that little girls play with dolls. We see this in every culture, in every country, all around the world. Because of this, we can safely and logically say that girls and boys toys interest do differ because of how we have evolved and Western society has very little to do with how they play. If someone responds with a "notall" argument, I'm not responding. I know you were a Tom boy or your little brother liked dolls so that means something... The exceptions prove the rule

Jonathan Haidt is one of those secret conservative apologists who uses pop science to push a regressive agenda while framing himself as a centrist. Anyone publicizing his self serving views without significant pushback is doing the world a disservice. Pro-tip: Anyone who uses the gen preferences studies (eg: the Nordic study) to support the point of gen based thought wiring is automatically engaging in academic malpractice given the weakness of the data and the overwhelming agreement amongst the study authors that the differences observed were primarily a result of socialization and incentives for conformity.

Jonathan Haidt uses pop science to push a regressive agenda while framing himself as a centrist. Anyone publicizing his self serving views without significant pushback is doing the world a disservice. Pro-tip: Anyone who uses the gen preferences studies (eg: the Nordic study) to support the point of gen based wiring is automatically engaging in bad science given the weakness of the data and the overwhelming agreement amongst the study authors that the differences observed were primarily a result of socialization and incentives.

Jonathan Haidt uses pop science to push archaic unsubstantiated views while framing himself as neutral. Anyone publicizing his self serving conjecture without significant pushback is doing the world a disservice. Pro-tip: Anyone who uses the gen pref studies (eg: the Nordic study) to support the point of gen based thought wiring is automatically engaging in bad science given the weakness of the data and the overwhelming agreement amongst the study crafters that the differences observed were primarily a result of socialization and incentives.

Thank you for the reminder.

i do think that boys are more interested in fighting than girls are, this becomes evident when they start having differences in their bodies. i was more interested in how a gun works and started getting into fights when i was in middle school. my neighbor's daughter was NOT fighting other girls at the time. i can tell you this much: my entire neighborhood went to that same middleschool, we had secret fight clubs for our entire grade. no girls were present.

I can say, from what I remember, this is a very small part of the actual video and Dr. Mike doesn't really say anything about it, they just move on to the next topic.

He basically just agreed. The link the the full video is above the title on shorts.

This is so true boys will pick up dolls or teddy bears and are ridiculed for it so this separation is not natural at all.

That’s disappointing that he agreed with it

Oww out of all people I did not expect Dr Mike to agree with such backwards thinking 😮

He's only talking about the majority. Not every woman likes girly things, but people like you are in the minority.

Absolutely agree with you!

He said “more interested”, you’re not disagreeing with him at all. His statement would still absolutely account for exceptions.

Statements about populations are statistical. Allow for exceptions.

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That's actually dissapointing. In my country girl scouts go camping and the first few things they learn are probably first aid and survival skills. Sometimes they go to workshops with boys too. Afaik girl scouts are not very different than boy scouts.

Same!! Girl Guides was boring af. Like bruh idc who Lady Baden Powell was I just wanna learn how to build a fire but you won’t even trust us with matches 😩

_Same._ Girl Scouts sucked.

THIS I remember wanting desperately to get into orienteering and designing gocarts, and boating, all the stuff boy scouts get. My older cousin got all the way up to eagle scout and I was sooo jealous. My sister was in girl scouts but once I learned they wouldn't be doing any "cool" stuff, I placed out quick. The closest they ever got to nature was a hermit crab race 😂. The epilogue is even better though, my sister is completely butch and I am completely fem. Death to gender stereotypes.

Been looking for this comment. I also hate how this idea is pushed today as it was never considered a problem 30 years ago, I played with dolls and did other girly things while hanging out with girls and did boy things when hanging out with the boys and I'm not gay but a former friend of mine is and you would never pick it from him.

No one's saying that in the video. Nothing you've just said disputes what he said in the video.

@@Breaker2005 good for you, so you clearly didn’t watch the entire interview, and you didn’t read what I’ve said lmao

😅 this reminds me of a conversation I had with my mom about how most men assume housework is strictly for women. I told her I had yet to see a woman use her vagina to push the vacuum. Mom laughed pretty hard!

But, if the child chooses to play with a particular toy, and how they play with that toy, can vary based in the child's biological sex. And that was John's point: boys and girls behave differently, and one way we can observe that is in how they play...which includes tendencies towards particular categories of toys.

"Men can't hit women" Obviously you disagree with this premise. This is the essential starting point for detecting mental degradation. If you think men should never hit women and also think there are no differences between men and women, then you fail at simple deduction. A crow is better than you at THE ONE THING that makes humans better than other animals. Your existence brings down the average intelligence of our species and I think it would be beneficial if you did some introspection and just listen for a few decades. Because your post indicates that your current mindset is incompatible with the survival of the species.

​@oldmindyoungbody3068 The Y chromosome in my cells didn't wire liking blue into my brain lmaooo, that's just a societal thing to split things up and market certain demographics I think things are cute, I like pink, I want to wear cute clothes, just because I was born male doesn't mean I have to be a certain way.

@@blokvader8283 - Waaaay to miss my point.

U are what is wrong with society

But clothes, medication, bodycare and decoration are. It's not to reflect on you only.

Offended by isle names now....

​@@Saintphoenix86 no one but you is offended.

​@@zerowilde yes and many cases that's really stupid, in majority of cases, gendering things like clothes, soaps, body wash hair products ect are way unneeded.

Its like people have this delusional obsession with gender having to be inherent and unchanging. It's like they'd die if it wasn't true. It's so weird to see

It's true. My driving instructor was constantly scolding me with how bad I was with staying in the center of the lane and telling me boys are way better learners. Also I was just tall enough that my head was halfway over the dashboard so I was also struggling to see the road through the window unless it's far enough or using any ledge on the door to give myself a boost while pulling my seatbelt for area near the vehicle. I also couldn't use anything to increase the height of my seat or I wouldn't be able to step on the pedals all the way.

This is such and old argument and it’s been disproven so many times it’s not 2010 anymore, did you not listen? The more egalitarian meaning the less socialised influence the more the differences are pronounced it’s inherent, why on earth wouldn’t women be more irrational and neurotic? They evolved to be the nurturers and caregivers

@@mila5796 what a pr!ck that instructor was 😑 And not allowed to adjust the car to your height, how was that legally possibile 😐

🤢​@@chickentoucher55

You just described the effect testosterone has on the brain. Testosterone makes you more interested in objects and worse at understanding emotional communication and less empathetic.

Because many parents aren’t engaged enough today to curate anything. Opinion based on daily observation.

This is why it’s so hard to actually study

How many daughters do you know in the world who have the same tastes? The neat thing about stereotyping is that it's done looking at GROUP of people, not INDIVIDUALS.

​​​​@@ramteja1550but how many individuals will it take to overwhelm the "group?" I've never met another girl that is only drawn to "girl" toys. I've never met a boy that's only drawn to trucks and guns. I'm wary of research that I've never seen to be true in real life. Many is this comment section have brought up, yes anecdotal evidence, that it isn't true. I haven't yet read a single "you know what, yes." Regardless, being drawn to certain toys has nothing to do with biology. It's societal. Scientists have constantly peddled "facts" and "studies" to prove certain genders or races are inferior that we as a people globally know aren't true by just existing on the planet through life experience. This is one of them.

​@@ramteja1550the neat thing about stereotyping is that there is absolutely no need for it to exist, especially when we're talking about kids

I've worked multiple jobs that has children of all cultures and genders coming in and they played with the same toys, the same books, and want the same kind of stickers and they ALL regardless of gender like dinosaurs. They've wanted the same things. I have not had girls want more of one thing than boys. I think your daughter is closer to the true majority than what the stated majority is.

I call it sexist

Kids explore but in the end most will grow out of it. I played with dolls, nobody cared. Then I stopped... Of course there is coding within us that will drive us to certain things. Women should take care of children so they are coded towards people, care, relationships etc.... The further you go to the past the more of this you notice. We are still of this planet and we evolved a certain way to survive. Conflict within a species about roles in a group would go against that. Now comes modern society and gives space to those that diverge from the norm. Great. People should do what they want, where their talents are etc... But deny that there is a difference in how we think and what we are interested in is maybe too advanced for us. In conclusion we should go back to MONKE. Everyone would be happier, we are getting too smart for our own good.

A PhD in sociology? Lmao, yikes. What a waste of time and money. And it's not called "cis woman", it's called biological woman, or simply "woman", based on the context.

​@@axon130 nice dog whistles

​@@jay15951 Soy

@@youtubesucks9539 is very healthy yes

There is common pattern and then there are exceptions. most men are taller than women ( statistically ) but there is a percentage of women who are taller than many men

A man with low testosterone will still have test levels several times greater than a woman with high testosterone

free them 💀

Instead of studying boring gender differences we should be studying your fascinating mind

Thank you.

Or maybe its easier to put stuff that girls want in one section and stuff that boys want in one section 🤯 you shouldn’t get a job in retail

@@zacharyhunt3939Easier? It would be easier to just cram all the toys in one aisle than to separate it based on gender. Your comprehension sucks lol

​@@cheesecake3631 That's how it is in my country. We don't have gender specific aisle for toys. But even so girls do gravitate towards the pinky sparkly toys and boys towards cars and stuff. I have an older brother whose toys( remote controled cars, helicopters) I always found boring. But sometimes he was intrested in my pastel cooking utensils and a baby doll which is adorable bcz he has always been into machismo culture. I guess even without gender steryotypes there is something called preference which comes out regardless what society portrays.

As a parent of both boys and girls, doesn’t matter how a store lays it out, once it’s gets home they all play with whatever the other one has. Having it together in the toy aisle would mean they can look at everything together rather than one kids being bored while we wait to get to their aisle.

I was always role playing as a dragon with my best friend (girl).

But it is true that most boys like violent action oriented toys while girls prefer softer dolls, so to a certain extent biology does play a role in determining what you like. Even if you eliminate the brainwashing and indoctrination that you said were "taught", best example is Scandinavian countries, men and women cater to different things. "DIFFERENT", not "superior" or "inferior". Just DIFFERENT.

​@@ramteja1550 I'm glad you agree that neither men or women are inferior to each other! But I'd like to point out that some girls I've known have been rather violent, and some boys I've known have been very uninterested in violence. I just can't agree that it's universally a sex based trait.

​@@spam-el3eeit doesn't have to be a universal absolute for there to be a recognizable statistical trend

he's probably american

I loved toy guns when I was a kid in the philippines, and guns where not sold to civilians, so yeah, you're just gay

@KeannuReevezzz03 Uhhh??? No? Not liking guns doesn’t make someone gay.

You wanna tell me which supermarket I can visit to get brisket and an AR-15 in one stop?

​@@samuraibat1916I know right. It's hilarious hearing non-Americans say ridiculous things about America. These are the same people who act condescending and accuse Americans of being ignorant of other cultures.

Technically you could, it would just be extremely unethical

@@jesspavlichenko5745 Fair enough

Easy, you look at where low age babies stare at: things or people? And it's already studied

@@Zeon7510 The findings for preference for people vs objects based on boys vs girls has had mixed results though. A 2016 study found differences based on that, but the ongoing Babytwins Study Sweden has not. Instead, that study has found the difference in preference linked to genes and environment. Given how much conflict there is on the subject and how new research is challenging the idea of huge inherent gender differences, no one can say for certain which conclusion is right

Tell me you've lived an insulated life in a monoculture your entire existence without telling me... Go move to India and tell me how everything is the same, genius.

It's not an "idea", it's based on data, like Baron-Cohen's research

@@andersonborges5377 Exactly, such as the fact that women are naturally born empaths, further leading to why dolls are more favored by them. Not sexism, just facts.

​@@andersonborges5377Study or no, it's still not universal. I'm a cis woman & identify as a woman & I hated most "girl" toys. I refused baby dolls from an extremely young age, I only had Barbies because family members just kept buying them for me, I never wanted to wear anything overly "feminine". I was much more interested in science, dinosaurs, playing in the dirt, finding snakes & cool bugs, & pretending to be animals. I added more traditionally "feminine" interests as I got older, but over half my friends were either boys or "tomboys"(girls who felt just as I did, & there were many) when I was young simply due to shared favored modes of play. I've been a mom for a long time now &, as far as I have observed, much of the difference in the sexes, particularly among very young kids, is due to social conditioning. I cannot tell you the number of times I've seen parents disuade children of both sexes away from toys, clothing, & interests that weren't traditionally "for boys" or "for girls".

If you account for epigenetics babies are probably born with certain preferences now they didn’t used to have if you think about it because their parents liked trucks and their parents parents etc.

there is a biological basis to it, it’s even observed in monkeys, but it’s certainly not universal or fixed and is definitely reinforced culturally

I agree. I didn't grow up in an environment where anyone ever told me cars were for boys, so I freakin' loved toy cars of all types when I was a kid, all the way up to my teens. I was dying for a remote-controlled car when I was in my early teens, and my mom got me one for Christmas when I was like 13.

That is proven false.

​​@@websterriwe appreciate your explanation sir, thanks for posting

​@@fizzybossyt8675 Studies have shown consistent differences even in babies. and very young kids do not have the brain developed enough to be influenced over marketing. its biology, not social constructs.

​@snoopygonewilder I grew up being allowed to have any gender toy I liked and never really feeling worried about the judgements, so I played with cute animal figurines as well as toy cars, and lots and lots of dinosaur stuff. I didn't mix them but I'd switch between which type of toys I'd play with. Tbf though I am quite possibly a trans man.

yes, it was designed to reflect traditional roles for both men and women

@@Devinanim exactly

Also it increased toy profits. You sell more if you can categorize an item and push it to a specific group.

That straw man is not what he said. He said it was separate based on the different interests of boys and girls, not by some “evil patriarchal construction to push girls into homemaking.” So his statement was very different from what you claimed he said and it was generally pretty accurate.

​@@penmaster003 it wasn't though. It was based of traditional gender roles like the comment said. Those interests have been pushed heavily since the 50s and 60s. Conformity was pushed heavily. Schools regularly showed public service type short films that explained why you needed to fit in.

Yess. As a kid I was kind of violent, and I remember making my colorful little toys fight over housing.

@@Megnan.143 Lmbo!

They are definitely social constructs

You’ve got it backwards. People who know how to market products to consumers determine how to layout the store in the best way to sell merchandise. These people see that the average boys and girls like certain things, so they group those products together. This way the kid sees everything their little heart desires in one place, and then they proceed to beg their parents to buy them something. Then the parents either give in, or they make a mental note to get it later as a gift.

​​@@CirquedJoy no splitting potential customers into groups helps you entice them in. Making products be associated with certain qualities helps you sell it. "Buy this like a good house wife" "tough men like this beer" sells better than "a soap that cleans" If you don't choose a demographic for your product your advertising has to be more generic.

@@CirquedJoy which are influenced by social constructs and primarily by parents

@@CirquedJoy no, our society makes boys and girls like certain toys. Because a girl is supposed to like babies and a boy is supposed to like cars. But in reality they all prefer kittens, puppies, plushy toys, fancy cubes, colouring books and so on. Sorry for my scanty English.

you're telling me George Washington didn't come out of the womb with hotwheels and superman action figures???? /j

WELL SAID!!! i completely agree!

It's not a construct. It's just the way things are.

@@Kevin_Oskar the way things are is a construct lol

@@marmolejomartinezjoseemili9043 It's not a social construct.

Do you have any competing studies or science to contradict what he is saying?

​@mikem32415 there was a study done, that I saw in a earlier post of the comment section. I wish people learned about how much we influence children even in infancy

​@mikem32415 Leftists don't care about facts and evidence. You can't even convince them men and women are different. If there actually wasn't a difference have women compete in men's sports and see a difference.

@@mikem32415of course not lol they never have sources

@@mikem32415there’s no way to have a completely objective test as even before birth we already put social constructs of gender on kids. There’s literally no way to do it completely objectively because that’s the world we live in. I believe there are stereotypes for a reason but I genuinely think there’s very little difference in kids interest based on gender, especially at such a young age and there isn’t a clear difference between boy interests and girl interests, it’s more of a spectrum, and as kids we mimic what we see so a girl with an older brother might be more inclined to “boy” interests because of it. There’s literally no way to do a completely objective study and if there was a way it wouldn’t be big enough. If I had to predict though I would say there would be boys who like girl toys and girls who like boy toys and a most likely everyone would like both, because gender really is a social construct and so ridiculous for this day and age.

Huh? 💀 You think a person of average intelligence won’t know the difference between what a boy and girl looks like..?

Do you know where I can find that study?

Yeah I am over here wondering who the heck this guy is and why Dr Mike is giving him a platform for these claims when a ton of research shows just how much these gender differences are a result of conditioning.

Women do the vast majority of consumer purchasing, it isn't even close. And you say simultaneously, "it is both medical and patriarchal" but also that it's 100% patriarchal construction. Which is it?

So because stores cater to women who are the majority of retail purchases then it’s patriarchal? You do realize the consumer ultimately has the power right? So if the consumer is mainly women than the power is inherently matriarchal.