"If I trusted you, or anyone, I might believe that. " -- My response to every single time anyone has ever tried to encourage me. Mayim, you haven't even done 9 podcasts yet, and yet you've already put so many things into words that I've felt my whole life. This is the only podcast I've stuck with this long, and I can't wait for the next one.
I got so much out of this podcast. The biggest takeaway for me was that it is OK to know that I am not the "got it all together" adult at the age of 65 and that is OK. The concept of life is a journey for the ENTIRE time was reinforced for me. Thanks.
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I look forward to watching this every week! You & Jonathan take the time to present an informative program while giving us a laugh or two while doing so! Keep up the good work! Hope
This is the first time I've ever heard someone say that they just want to be done. I live that every moment. Whatever I am doing, even if I'm enjoying myself, I just can't wait to be done. Then I can sit down in front of my computer and watch something on RU-vid. Sad but true...
I honestly feel like I need to watch this about five more times (and I probably will) before leaving a review of it, but here we go. What I love so much about this podcast is that no one is pretending. I saw that especially in this week's episode. No one has all the answers. This podcast is bringing awareness and showing how real humans can be. Things are hard. Anxiety is real. Being alive is not easy and that was showcased in this episode. This podcast does not exist to fix anyone because it can't. It exists to make people feel less alone. To show that there are other people in the world who do get it and do understand. Mayim, you talked in this episode about how Glennon's book made you feel understood, well that is how you make me feel every time I watch this podcast. I may not relate to every single thing talked about, but I do relate to a great deal of things. What I don't relate to, I have a newfound understanding and awareness of something. This podcast shows me that no one is okay and no one knows the answers, but together we will become more aware. Thank you so much to Mayim, Jonathon, and Glennon for another incredible episode. Can't wait for next week. Much love to all.
I know exactly what you mean by being an introvert stayhomer! I’ve been enjoying the past year of lockdown so much because finally I don’t need to find excuses why I prefer to be home alone!
My dad told me recently that I can't be in therapy forever. I'm on the same page as you, Mayim. I have those "how much more, God?" moments so often. Therapy helps me work through those. So, yes dad, I can be in therapy as long as I damn well please.
Sorry for jumping on again but I just got to the part of the podcast where the topic is living to retire and hearing Mayim and Glennon talk about their feelings, especially when Glennon mentioned having to order pizza and not be able for that to be done, made me cry. I have never heard anyone ever talk about this experience before and I live with that everyday. Normally I put my head down and just ignore those sorts of things so I can just get through the day but when I can't it is torture. I have even been known (who I am kidding, I do it a lot) to ask my husband to make a phone call because the idea of putting myself out there like that is just so terrifying. Thank you thank you thank you.
Somehow this episode broke my heart and soothed my soul at the same time. I spent most of it with a tight feeling in my chest alternating between the edges of tears and laughter. It's startling every time I hear someone speak in a way that makes this much sense to me but having it happen like this with two people at once was extraordinary. It's a blessing to be reminded that others think about these things too and I'm not alone. Thank you!
It's just so strange to listen to a podcast that makes me feel so "heard" and understood. We all think we are the only one. Terminal uniqueness. but... this existential "stuff" is just my brain's constant pattern and everyone in this podcast gets it and has their own version of it and I am floored.
My own life’s motto can be very accurate for this episode: “You were born to be real, not perfect”. You must be fed up I say this after every #bialikbreakdown episode, but all pure GOLD! And this is a 💎to me! Btw, I like a lot the way Jonathan is so active in the podcats now. Kudos for him too! 💜👍🏾🌹Thank you both!
this show talks about mental health and therapy but to me, this podcast is sort of like therapy for me. its informative in a very entertaining way and feels natural. never thought I'd be listening to this type of thing. Mayim is my same age and I grew up watching blossom in the bronx. thanks for doing this show.
I don’t remember what Glennon said right before but I love the statement Mayim made about having to parent as an anxious person. That statement alone freed something in me . Thank you for doing this very important work!
Absolutely fantastic Mayim! I’ve certainly liked all of your guest, but this has been the best by far. You and Glennon had chemistry. I ordered her book 15 minutes in. Thank you so much for being a normal person and not pretentious at all:)
I have lived my life to be done with this life..... from childhood filled with drama, I have eating disorders, anxiety filled days, sleep problems! Life seems so hard that at 6 years old I decided to not bring a child into this world! Great great interview... love this podcast. The best ever! Been in therapy most of my life!
I read something to the extent of: The more personal something feels, the more universal it really is. So we are really not as alone or Terminally Unique as we think we are. Love the podcast. “Untamed” is so freakin awesome, her books just keep getting better and better. “When can we be done” crew, represent! I wear nothing but black too!
It’s so refreshing to hear people talking about mental health issues! I’ve struggled with anxiety for as long as I can remember, within the last couple of years depression was added to it. My parents just don’t understand and say just forget about it, don’t worry about it, think of something else.. I was diagnosed with Lupus last year which can trigger or cause anxiety and depression so it’s kind of which came first the chicken or the egg 🤯
That grounding calm you described when you hold a child is spot on. It's like someone pressed pause on the world and nothing else exists in that one moment. Loving the podcast. As you say finding one of my 'tribe' is really difficult. So being able to listen to like minded people talk, especially while we are in lockdown, has been amazing. Thank you 👍🏼
I love this series. I love this episode. I can so relate with being “done”. As far back as I can remember is that I loved evenings because the day is done. I’m a single mom and I love my children but I can’t wait to finish birthday celebrations...planning, execution is done. I thought I was the only one. Christmas any annual or seasonal celebration I can’t wait for it to be done. Thank you😊 for this.
I agree. My dad used to say randomly "What a long day!" a lot, and I as a young and naïve girl starting out in life would say what a wonderful thing that was...until now as an older adult, I have now started to say that also, even tho I have had an OK (not a bad) day. LOL! It's good to see someone else thinks that way too. I love this series also. God bless.
I've always loved the *memory* of something far more than the actual doing of the thing that gave me the memory, which usual exhausted me in the moment of the doing.
My parents are high school sweethearts and so are both sets of grandparents. When you discussed the immense pressure of having successful relationships because you were consciously and subconsciously comparing them to your parents it really spoke to me. I’m about to turn 20 and when I graduated high school without being in a successful relationship I had a complete meltdown because I knew in that moment that I would never be as successful as my parents. Thank you for so eloquently encompassing the way I felt
Hey! I completely agree with your point of feeling pressured, it puts a certain weight onto you (and/or your partner/ relationship in general, when you are in one at the moment), but I think it doesn't always have to be the case in that way. In my family, divorce or relationships who aren't that full of love and adoration as in yours apparently (which is so so nice to hear that this kind of love exists!) are kind of common. My parents divorced when I was young, and I've been living with my mother and my stepfather. There are many things I see in their dynamic that I do not like at all, and that I don't ever want to have in a relationship I'm part of. They are good people, but I never liked their way of handling conflict, their expression of anger or frustration and discussions always turn into arguments. So I always told myself, that I don't ever want that type of relationship, because I know I would never be happy with that arrangement. When I'm with my boyfriend (whose parents are some type of sweethearts too, I don't think it's the high school kind though) I often feel very relieved that it is absolutely, totally different than what they have, since my idea of the relationship I feel the best in is basically the way it is for us two, because this idea is similar to the things he always experienced around him and thus automatically brings into the relationship (of course, it's not the exact same thing, but the relationship - and he! - are the closest thing to perfection to me), at least chunks of it, if that makes sense. What he and I have makes love even more loveable to me. What makes me worry is when I think I handle conflict like one of them in certain situations, because in my mind, their handling of this is toxic, so my anxiety is not that my relationship is different than my parents', but that I could make it resemble theirs in the way how I react in certain situations. So the anxiety is more on being like them, thus making my partner feel like I often felt before.
But honestly, I'm so happy for you to have experienced such loving relationships around you. On the other hand, it's sad that you feel so anxious. I hope that it is somewhat bearable for you, and that it doesn't overwhelm or restrict you all too much, or that it stands you in the way
This is the first time Mayim has sounded like she is having her breakdown as she says “from my breakdown to the one I hope you never have”. This was enjoyable to watch because it is simply two beautiful, open human beings sharing the complexities of life. It’s the type of conversation you do wish for when you go stay at a resort, Mayim. It’s the type of connection you wish to have with more than just one person in your lifetime. Thank you for having Glennon on the show.
Mayim, you’ve always been such a pleasure to watch as an actress, and now... the world gets to experience more of your intelligence, compassion, vulnerability and humor through Mayim Bialik’s Breakdown. Win-win for all. I enjoy both you and Jonathan and your sincerity and kindness toward your guests. Thank you for sharing so much of yourself. Namaste. Cha Cha Cha! 💃🏼🤓😃
Awesome episode! This hit me hard at 42 with an anxious personality. I love Glennon's comment about anxiety being paying attention - that's really what it is! We pay attention and think about things deeply. So enjoyed all of this!
OMGoodness! I saw the title of today's show and wasn't sure it was for me. I didn't know about Glennon, but chose to watch because everything Mayim talks about is great! Within 2 minutes of the interview I was crying. I especially agree with the comment, "How much more, God, do you want from me?". Dayanu! Expectations - UGH! So much anxiety, why can't we stop? (rhetorical) Thank you for today!
Recently, I am looking forward to every Tuesday to listen to Breakdown with precious and helpful sharings from the hosts and guests tho! Thank you, Mayim Bialik!
@@MayimBialik I use too think of you every time I listened to CRUSH WITH EYELINER, by REM, I would also think of my cousin CATERINA. Know I think of LIZ MIELE when I hear that song.
Jonathan has such good insights. I love how he described falling in love with someone who has qualities that when mirrored makes us need to work on ourselves.
Thank you. Anxiety is my middle name but now I feel as though maybe, maybe I am not that big disaster that I have judged myself to be! That at the very least, it is not so much disaster, as it is life. Your podcast has given me the chance to accept my anxiety in a much healthier, less judgemental way. BTW, I only this morning mentioned to someone I was having conversation with, that I trust no-one! I love your broadcasts in fact I look forward to them. Thank you soooo much.
I'm so enjoying this podcast more than most! I'm a therapist early in her career and your podcasts are really helping me be a better therapist to my clients. 💗 You're doing so much good in this world thank you🌍
What a beautiful conversation and showing that anxiety is amongst us and how we work with it and not give it a clinical destination.....such an empowering communication, thank you
Whoa. To hear Glennon and Mayim say the very same words I often do is mind blowing. I’m 54 and have read every book, cleansed every chakra, prayed all the prayers, taken all the meds, done all the therapy, etc....how am I not better? I guess I do suffer from terminal uniqueness after all. I’ve heard this term for years and always blown it off as a cheeky old timers recovery colloquialism, but this podcast just brought it home for me. Ok in all honesty, I AM better. Just not as good as I think I should be. Thank you both for the willingness to be vulnerable and share yourselves with us. You are so valuable and precious in this f*&$ed up world.
Every show seems to give me more hope. I’m not alone in the lost of it all! Thank you world for these precious people as guides! May all our struggles be less!!! ♥️
I can’t believe how much I related to everything in this podcast and that I’ve only just seen it. When I read untamed I actually cried my eyes out because it’s the first time I ever felt seen. I think I need to put this on repeat every night.
Giving into total trust of the Universe; that peace and contentment can be reached more quickly when one understands the Sacred Mathematical perfection of the Universe. Sacred Geometry through astrology, numerology etc., can help to bring understanding on the “why” anything is anything. It gives you the Big picture of how awesome it all really is!! I love this episode, thank you for existing Mayim 😊
love this conversation. one thing I've found to be a helpful suggestion is to Not identify yourself with anxiety. it's not your anxiety or my anxiety. it is anxiety and separate from your being. it's part of one's experience, and informs experience, but is not one's identity.
Two things really struck me: the "being done", which I realize I do to a point where when something is finished I seem to put it out of my mind to an extent I don't even remember it, and the "scanning the room" to look for possible things that will upset me or the person I'm with. I knew I had control issues, and I knew I had anxiety issues, but this episode had me making the connections. I know myself a teensy bit better now. Or at least I can explain myself to myself a teensy bit better. Thank you so much for doing this. I learn something from every single episode. I'm grateful.
The way Glennon describes being a severe introvert Is really interesting to me. While I'm not in introvert I am a Wheelchair User so my body doesn't always do what I want it to do. So I spend most of my time in my head. Anxiety, abuse and death (among so much more) change your perspective on life, the universe and everything. Ten seems to be a pivotal age for us deep thinkers, I remember realising back then that the wheelchair was forever, it was crushing. But then many in my life see disability as something to overcome and a lifetime of therapy makes me realise, it just is. Some days I love it and some I hate it, both are valid especially when I am the one deciding. This podcast rocks thank you so much everyone.
Loved this! Especially the dying bit - being in a restaurant everyone eating and feeling like shouting "do you all know we're gonna die soon". Been like that my whole life 😄
I found your podcasts because of your being on the Kelly Clarkson show this week. We already love the tv show and are so glad there’s a second season!!!! And we think you’re amazing on Jeopardy!!!! But tonight I’ve watched several podcasts and this one, where you spoke your truth for the first time publicly, helped me and so many others. Attitude of gratitude and I am grateful for you!!!! Please feel that in every cell. I mean it from my heart!! 💜
This podcast is become apart of my mindfulness ritual. Being able to sit down with a glass (after a long day of work and cleaning up after the kids) and just being able to sit and feel heard and that I am not alone. THANKYOU Mayim and Jonathan!
I loved this episode! Thank you! I love your podcast also because you dig into the psychological side of people, their real selves. When you do this with more publicly-known guests, who I typically lump into categories of 'their lives must be so perfect ' or 'dear God that person is really struggling (depending on the picture that the media paints for us), it helps me to see that these larger than life people struggle with many of the same things I do, as a non-public person. "Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always."
When Jonathan says disconnecting, sanitizing and protecting..nails it. I was taught these basic survival skills from immigrant parents who came to succeed in terms of the outside world and hoped to fit in a bit or, at least not be ostracized. So these egoic structures made good sense!
Mayim, you’re a great interviewer and ask questions that others don’t, which lead to unique answers. I’ve seen a few interviews with Glennon they all felt the same, but you connected with her on a different level and it turned out amazingly! Keep being you.
OMG - listening to you both talk about your anxiety, social anxiety and how this rules your life - you articulate how I feel! So refreshing knowing that others are out there in the world. Being hypervigilent is so exhausting. BTW - hi there from Sydney, Australia.
This is great. I have looked for a wisdom school type "girls & moms & elders washing the garments at the river & talking" podcast for years, here it is at last. This is truly your evolving vocation & gift to Earth & people. Teilhard de Chardin called it (one's genius meeting the need of one's age in history) "the Great Work." Thank you all three! It is "so brave of you!" 🤗
I can't believe I've stumbled on to this. I feel such kinship with you all. The anxiety and lack of trust and sensitivity to environments - it's all me. My life is brought to me by Post Mates too!! Thank you Mayim and Glennon. We can all be unique together.
Sooo many nuggets and so much truth and sincerity, so much courage and such powerfully chosen and spoken words. Thank you to all three of you on this show. I came for Glennon and am staying/subscribing for Mayim and Jonathon.
Omg, i always feel "too much" or "exhausting "! At first, others see my issues as cute quirks, and find me exciting. Then when they realize, i cant turn these issues off... This whole interview was exactly what i needed. Already read Love Warrior, but Untamed is still unread on my shelf, because as an alcoholic, i go thru bouts of not reading. Just dusted it off with enthusiasm! Thank you three so much! ❤
I listened to this podcast already..but am so grateful to have a place to comment. I cried in the shower listening to this, it’s so familiar, so resonant. Untamed has been taking me through my healing a little at a time. This podcast is everything and this episode was my first. Love you both. You’re my people.
I'm a new listener to this podcast. I decided to listen while out on my walk for my self care & whoa! This hit home and I found myself crying before I got home because I could relate so much to this conversation. Thank you for being real.
I loved this episode. I know this was a difficult episode for you Mayim, but honestly, it is because you were raw and so real which is exhausting..but you helped me today. I have spent so much of life hiding every aspect of myself including all my goofy mental stuff..I am sorry you were out of sorts post-interview but I truly just hope you see this little note and know that you made my life better today...because your truth and vulnerability is so big and so beautiful. I am going to sit here and cry at my desk for a few minutes because you helped me see so many things my anxiety does that I didn't even know! You and Glennon have helped me so much today. And Jonathan. Well done. Thank you. Lots of love.
I am autistic. And so much of what you talk about in this podcast is so relatable. Which is kinda comforting. It’s like we’re in this together - separately. I really enjoyed this episode, - your podcast feels genuine and uplifting. Thanks for another great podcast episode. 🤓❣️
Wow. This podcast is like speaking to myself. I cannot believe that I can relate to a podcast at this level. Especially, the let’s just get this done part is like wow!!! you read my mind and I didn’t expect that there are other people who feels the same way!
"Am I anxious or am I just paying attention too closely" - The process of attempting to be so much for so many is why numbing is so alluring. That interview was so good I subscribed to your channel. I really loved it! 💛
This is such a great conversation, I wish I had seen it when it came out a year ago (I've only been watching, "Breakdown" for since maybe winter 2022/23. I remember reading the profile of Ms. Doyle in the "New Yorker", which I've read religiously for the past 25 years. After watching this conversation I will seek Ms. Doyle's books. I really appreciate Glennon's comment about how when she and her partner go to some event, when they walk out they have had completely different experiences, especially anxiety-wise, and can talk about it with each other. I wish I had that with my partner, who is the human equivalent of the cartoon Tasmanian Devil, which very much feels the complete opposite to my Highly Sensitive Person (a la Elaine Aron) tendencies.
I think I'm glad this is the first of your Breakdown videos I've watched. The people, the topics, the insights and the raw honesty have been a fantastic introduction to the channel. Thank you all for being so real and sharing so much.
Mayim Bialik, this podcast is so personal and engaging. I love that although you are a celebrity, you are so human and so real and honest. I loved your episodes with Howie Mandel and with Glendon. Who new that some of my favourite celebs are on mental health journeys that are somewhat similar to mine (Anxiety is part of mine). It helps to know that mental illness is no respecter of persons, anyone and everyone can be a candidate.
This episode made me emotional 😭 I go back and forth on having kids all the time because I’m scared of being my mom and essentially passing my BPD off on them because of my trauma affecting their development even though I’ve been in therapy on and off for 16 years now. It’s scary. Thank you for talking about this stuff 💞
58:23 There was a time when I knew that if I had a glass of wine (or some other alcohol) now to feel a little relieved, I would be addicted in no time. I managed to not drink that glas. That was the strongest thing I did in my live.
Mayim, regarding your parting toughts, I cannot express how important your podcast is to me and it came into my life at the perfect (in other words, an extremely difficult) time, please believe in yourself. You are more important to some of us than you’re willing to take credit for. Also, black clothes are underrated, keep wearing ‘em if you love them 🖤
I used to feel so anxious about dying when I was child after my uncle died. I still do sometimes. But I take a breath & say to my self you have to let it go & enjoy life. It works for me most of the time. ❤
