GOOD WOMEN ARE BORING! MAN ADMITS TO WANTING A TOXIC WOMAN OVER A GOOD ONE! 

I’ve been saying this, the whole, “We men only want peace, so don’t bring your problems here.” argument men are always trying to make is a lie. Most of them feed off drama and toxicity just like a lot of women do. Toxic men and women deserve each other, match made in dusty hell, I just wish they’d leave everyone else alone.

I rather be a good girl, single and at peace. These men are crazy! SMH.

This is the same reason men go out and try to break down women who aren’t their type.

Healthy relationships are "boring" to ppl who are used to toxicity. I used to think this way. I watched my grandparent's toxic relationship. I watched my mom's and dad's toxic relationship. I went through a few of my own toxic relationships. I had to grow and re-learn some things. Now I'm happily in a "boring" relationship and I love it ❤🥰😍

These guys will use a "good girl" for sex but don't want to be in a relationship with her and respect her. It's sick.

The cut is giving me 90s vibe. Very cute.

I’m 19 and I still feel like I’m too young to date rn because I’m learning about myself more. I will say your videos and instagram been putting me on game lol. I’ve learned so much and I’ll be prepared for dating in the future.

I don't think he thought she was boring. He knew she was too good for him so he found an excuse to say he didn't want HER. Edit: "You know how they be. Drinking and crying...IN THE DARK 🤣🤣🤣🤣

If a man say their ex or baby mother was toxic he will NEVER respect you if your not like them.

I dated a guy who was obsessed with trying to get me to argue with him all the time, over anything. I hate arguing so I don't do all the screaming, crying and cursing. When I walked away he called me "boring"... I'll be boring, I'm good with that 😇

Let's be clear: Healthy relationships are only boring to toxic people. Remember, water seeks its own level, so anyone requiring drama and toxic/struggle love to be entertained or to feel "normal" is seeking a reflection of themselves, which of course is toxic.

I know men with this mindset. I'm glad they can at least be honest with themselves to save me pain. I want a man who wants a good woman.

Dysfunction is too normalized within the ‘blck community’. This bass ackwards nonsense is why I hate dating. If youre a bw, you don’t have the spicy attitude and roll your eyes so hard your head is falling off your neck, they don’t want you. They want you to act a fool. Yup. I hate dating. In fact, I’m done. 🤣

I can totally relate to the 3rd caller. I was dating this guy for 2 months. He would disappear, ghost me, try to make me jealous with other women, etc. When I blocked him and moved on he stalked me too. He made multiple social media accounts to follow me, messaged my mom, popped up at my home, etc. I notified the police and they couldn’t do anything. I deactivated all of my accounts because I got tired of blocking him and moved to another part of the state. This has been going on for TWO YEARS now and it got worse when he found out I was dating a wm.

I truly hate to say this but the only way to get a man to somewhat act right is to not have sex with them and to match their energy entirely. mirroring them has worked wonders 🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

I've been saying this. Until women stop randomly sleeping with these men, they're not gonna settle down. And the side chick non-sense is also another problem.

I feel like the reason they want toxic women is because they will put up wit their bs, a good woman will not! A good woman does not mean boring it means I will not let you play me and I will leave if you act shady!

I have literally NEVER ever commented on a RU-vid video in my life. But I'm here to say Thankyou for the analytical wisdom you have bestowed upon us. I was married for 16 years and did everything in my power to make my husband happy. Tirelessly, walked on egg shells to appease him, including having sex with him every single day. When I didn't feel like it, when I was sad, even when I was in pain. And I found out after 16 years that he had been cheating on me CHRONICALLY with prostitutes every weekend....for more than a decade. Now my 17 year old daughter is trying to heal after a breakup with her boyfriend of 2 years. He said he has temptations and left her for another girl on her BIRTHDAY. I just sent her this video and said this is HOMEWORK. As much as I've been trying to convey the messages that you're delivering, I am also coming from a bitter place. You broke it down like math and my daughter and I will be studying this video like cliff notes. Your message is important to young women. My daughter told me when she was 12 that she was going to break our family's curse of loving abusive bums. She said she would never chase a guy and allow him to dominate her life and emotions like me, my mom, and my grandmother did. She was just as surprised when she fell in love and started mirroring the exact behavior as we did. Even chose the same type of guy both physically and emotionally....same temperament. Now we are both single and im determined to help lead by example and with information, so that she can truly break The Walker Curse. Where can I send you a donation for this body of work? Thankyou for the schoolwork. Frfrfrfrfrf..... Good job. Thankyou. Much appreciated.

I had a homeboy that literally told me he dates crazy women because otherwise the relationship is boring. I’ll never forget the day he told me he got a woman that tried to kill him pregnant, she lost the babies, and guess what he did; he went and got her pregnant again! He had a bunch of side chicks but his main chick was crazy too! He told me she tried to run him over with her car when she found out he cheated on her! All that did was make him fall deeper “IN LOVE” I randomly think about him and wonder if he’s still alive! 😂

Omg I’ve been saying this for yyyeeeeaaarrrssss and whenever I would point out that most black men like toxic women ppl would look at me like I have 5 heads. I’m so glad you made this video Yanie because more women need to understand that this his how most black men think. I am a recovering “ good girl” and I noticed that I have always had trouble with dating and I came to the relization that I was struggling with dating black men because I’m not toxic and don’t wear my traumas to on my sleeve. Dear black women don’t let this discourage you from healing tho SCREW these men, continue to heal and love yourself don’t allow mental and emotionally unstable men to prohibit you from becoming the best version of yourself

this is why I avoid men who’s past relationships were anything in the realm of toxic. I have a very laid back personality and I noticed that men like that are used to getting off on the extreme emotions of a on again off again type relationship. They secretly like the excitement that comes along with that and majority do not heal from them. Literally had dude confused as to why I wasnt yelling at him when he would purposely do things to piss me off (like a bad child looking for attention) like sir please go heal..

OMG this reminds me of 2020 I was in a relationship with a guy who was so toxic he scared me every time we had issue. This guy was paying my rent doing everything a girl can wish for but he didn’t know how to control his anger. One day we went on a date and we had an argument and he got so mad on the way home he was driving so crazy he wanted me dead I got so scared when we gat home I asked him to leave go get help I broke up with him.this guy had me buying pepper spray just in case he starts acting crazy I can’t stand toxic people I love peace.

This is exactly why I never proclaimed to be the “good” girl to anyone…every since my teen years. I always told me people “ I am me” period

In the Bible it states that it's rare to find a virtuous woman, and that more ppl will seek the bad path more than the good. As you've seen, this is being played out, Good is viewed as boring and bad is viewed as exciting. You have to be strong mentally and spiritally in this world, Like Yanie said take your time to vet a romantic interest.

Smh I've always been a laid back non confrontational person. I swear men ALWAYS tried to do things to make me tick . Not even men i was dating but at school, work, ect. I've always found this very bizarre because they always preach " be his peace" 😒. Being single is one of the biggest flex! I more in-tune with me and God! I've never felt better ❤️.

My cousin always ask the question “Are men ok?” And to be honest I think most of them are not ok. This video proves it, and it’s a bit scary how weird they can be.

A man asks why I'm single, I tell them cause I'm crazy. I have mental illness. Most times it does not Deter them.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I’m so glad you brought this conversation to your audience! Specifically the “struggle love” segment. I have male friends 30+ (myself, 26) that LOVE messing with women of all ages with heavy baggage, complain when they ask for help, or even step into a role to help without question. It’s weird to me. It’s like they get off on being in that “savior” role, but have no intention on keeping that woman. Arguing and carrying on like the situation warrants and it never does. Or it seems like if there’s no drama in the situationship (because they all are) they get bored quick. It’s so backwards. I’ve been trying to keep my distance.

Read the book called “why men love bitches” this topic reminds me of that book

Better be alone than with someone who thrive in drama

When you said "they are bent over in their boy's basement" you said it so matter of factly. I laughed for ten minutes at that.

A lot of these angry internet redpill men are ridiculous. They will go on and on all day about being single and women being a waste but then when you ask them if they approach women they say no. When you ask them what they do for a living and they can barely break 40k. You ask them if they have hobbies and it’s crickets. Porn is their happy place because they could actually afford it.

I’m 30 and have NEVER had a long term relationship with a bm. I’ve always ended things early as soon as I picked up on the red flags. Many of us have experienced what he put that woman through. When I started exclusively dating outside my race it was a night and day difference.

“Why you ain’t intelligent, BOY?!” 😂😂😂

Attention my Black Queens: Please don’t let these pookies and ray-rays mislead you from the steps of their mother’s porch. These baby boys are at the bottom of the barrel so it benefits them if they could convince women to not bring anything to the table and be toxic so that you only qualify for his type. This pookie is running game and some of you all are eating it up, don’t fall for the okey-doke!

BM are sassy and love drama more than most women do. I'm a laid back, fairly confident person. I used to meet men like this all the time in my 20s. On more than one occasion a BM told me he didn't "feel like I cared" because I wouldn't fight another woman over him and how I didn't "need him" because I didn't make him the center of my life by being clingy/codependent lmfaooo. Like you said it almost always goes back to dysfunctional dynamics with his mother/family during his formative years. I never stayed long once I noticed the pattern lol ladies, the best way to weed these types of men out is to ask about his exes and about his relationship with his mother. If he's had his tires slashed, clothes bleached before, windows bust out his car stay faar away lol Beware of men who have a "savior complex". If they're always with women who he has to coach, save, or parent they have some serious control issues and will have you on Fatal Attraction or Snapped. Avoid these types of insecure men at all costs!

I’ve been told by Bm in my past that they love me when I’m mad at them it’s sick and I’ve learned to stay away from men who enjoy me more when I’m hurting. GO WHERE YOU ARE ACTUALLY LOVED AND CARED FOR LADIES DONT STAY WITH MEN WHO DONT EVEN LIKE YOU REALLY. ❤

A black male called me weak because I wouldn't argue or fight with him. Some of these black males mommas did an effing number on their psyche. With my husband, it was so tough the first 7 yrs of our marriage, i was upset with his momma that wanted to dig her up and kick her casket for the mess she left women to deal with. I had already cussed his sorry axx daddy out. The dysfunction he told me he dealt with in his household. I told him if you seek a home like your parents gave you, I will move and you can find that woman to give you that stress. I watched my step dad waste away from stomach cancer but not one time did I hear him or my mom argue. He didn't work because of a back injury but he kept the house clean and food cooked everyday. My step dad was a good man to my mom until he died. I can't relate to toxicity and I refuse to reduce myself to such a low vibration just to have a man.

Some of these men need to heal!

So, my primary love languages are gifts and acts of service. Imagine how awful it is when you're genuinely a loving, giving person in today's time. Often times they want to take advantage.😔

I am boring, but life is far too precious and too short to be toxic. I have learned to kick rocks and keep it moving.

Never try to prove yourself to a man. If they ask what I bring to the table. I say if you have to ask you don’t deserve to know 🤷🏻‍♀️🤣

MANNNN, if a woman would of said that and I'm going to leave it there.😐

Good women are not boring, guys like this are use to chaos and when they get a good woman who knows peace, they either say stuff like that or start arguments to bring in that addiction they have to chaos. Peace usually feels boring to them. I’m tired of these losers trying to confuse people, they love doing that too.

I always knew this information, I always tell guys that they complain about crazy women but they sure do love them some crazy women. They also complain that good girls like bad guys but the same in reverse good guys love bad girls. Honestly a lot of men dont know what a healthy relationship looks like.

This is the same kind of man that complains about women being low value and shallow. They choose toxic women then complain they are toxic. BM need to heal just as we BW do.

I felt that woman's pain so much. It's really difficult to believe that pouring anything of yourself into a relationship is even worth it

The same sentiment goes for these “DL dudes” too! I’m like, ALLLL of y’all need to just get together and be with EACH OTHER!!! And leave the rest of us, the hell alone too!!! 💯🙄

Men hate boring… I’ve been dumped for not being toxic and being positive and supportive.. So I decided to be toxic to men and they love it 😂🤣….

And it’s crazy because there are men who really think like this. I remember talking to a guy and he said he just want to fight with somebody and have makeup sex. I didn’t really think any thing of it at the time until we got together. I saw that he really wanted that type of relationship he was always starting arguments. Like damn who’s the female, me or you?! So glad I got out of that relationship with his weird ass.

Lol Honestly, I didn't know this was a secret. I've said this for years! And I always told men that I lived a quiet, boring life. That usually ran them off. If not that, the fact that I'm not going to have sex with them, did. The only thing that kept me THINKING I was going to find a "good man" was hope. I'm 29 now, I have no hope for these men! Lol....I just want to get custody of my nephew and take care of him: He'll be my little baby son. But, good luck to the next generation! I'm out! Lol dating is a waste of my time: I'll be travelling more!! 😃😍🥰😘 PEACE!!!✌🏾

I realize that the boring guys are the stable guys a long time ago. The sad thing is even boring ass Brad likes a toxic woman. You can't make anything easy for these dudes they get bored! Even my own man said he likes a little bit of grit in his relationship, but lucky for him I'm grumpy when he's Dopey. But he fails to realize stupidity makes me completely dry.

I am guilty of overlooking good women, I have always been addicted to the baddest girl. That's why I'm single today.

I know for a fact the men ive interacted with online wasn't getting any real women because of how weird they where. Most of them are being told to pay to play because they have no game

I'm turned off by bm and open to dating non black men but to be honest I am happy being single

"I love bad b!+¢he$, that's my fukking problem"

Not caring is literally the key

I know not many are into religious related things but hear me out for a second. Wanted to share this with y’all and see what y’all think. I was reading Romans 1 and when I got towards the end, I had an epiphany. For some reason, black men instantly came to mind. Yanie has mentioned before how black men are disconnected spiritually and reading this tonight confirmed that for me in a way. Y’all read it for yourselves and tell me what are your thoughts. Do you see any similarities with what’s going on in society today regarding BM and this passage? “They exchanged the truth about God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator-who is forever praised. Amen. Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error. Furthermore, just as they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, so God gave them over to a depraved mind, so that they do what ought not to be done. They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; they have no understanding, no fidelity, no love, no mercy. Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.” ‭‭Romans‬ ‭1:25-32‬ ‭NIV‬‬ (P.S. Let’s have a convo without being bashful or disrespectful. Wanted to see if others can see the similarities with what this text is saying and what BM are doing in today’s society. Please stay on topic)

OMG YANIE😆😆😆I always tell my colleagues that men do not like peace at all. This proves it🤭🤣. Currently single and loving it

My ex told me I was boring because I bring no drama. These men are the definition of chaos man

Yanie love the content 🖤 yes being single is the best way no stress don’t have to worry about unplanned pregnancy or any disease’s

They claim they want peace ❤️

The things men say they hate are the things they REALLY LIKE! Yall haven't figured that out yet!🤣🤣🤣

I believe this. Did anyone see that tik tok of the guy who went through so many bad dating experiences til he found his “soulmate” and cheated on her with a toxic girl he dealt with beforehand.

There's literally a whole trend on tiktok where dudes compete on who has the most toxic/crazy girl, so I'm not surprised

What he sadly doesn't realize is he is basically saying he is uncomfortable with love. He doesn't know how to receive true love. I remember being 22years (many many moons ago) I was ignorant and knew very little about myself and love. I hurt a beautiful man who loved me in a way no one ever had. I decided I wanted more excitement, I felt bored and annoyed by his presence and I later realized, when doing the shadow work, that I was uncomfortable with love. The ones who loved me I pushed away and the ones who clearly didn't were the ones I was drawn to most and would do anything for. That was what I grew up seeing and that's what I became. Whatever he is saying here screams therapy and lots of people being social commentators these days on relationships don't realise how broken they sound and instead are normalizing brokenness. I hope everyone accepts healing in their life, honestly, I do.

When Yanie gave the side eye to the “good hair comment” yup his girl was the preference lmao and still wasn’t satisfied. Men love misery. Period

I have never believed these men lies. The relationship would be peaceful and they bring drama into the relationship. I told my ex you will probably dump me because you like drama. I don’t run the streets smoke drink or do the love and hip hop thang I’m non confrontational easy going, I read, go to the gym make money and come home. Guess who left me for a younger spicy latinah following the likes of KS. I know he wanted me to chase and compete and I said okay. 🤷‍♀️ Now he is given the blues and depressed more than ever. She tore up his car, had his house robbed and I think got him put in jail and he lost the job I helped him get. I don’t mean to laugh let me stop lying yes I do lol

I left that game at 35 years, now I'm 55 years. Also, I threw off the cape. It's too toxic, unclean/nasty, evil/bad energies/spirits, DLs, gaslighting, and dangerous, and you will NEVER be enough for them - no matter what you do and change. Let WW and OW have 'em. I will continue to go on my own way, and focus on bettering myself for me. Please know that sex is a biological need (like food and water) for men whereas it is emotional need for women. Men don't need to love you to have sex with you. Otherwise there would NOT be strip clubs, orgies clubs, swingers/swapping clubs, hoes, escorts, call girls, and prostitutes, DLs, and do-do contracts.

Y’all still being nice to men? Y’all haven’t figured it out yet that they enjoy being treated like shit?

You can never win these men. Do you and put yourself out there. There are good men.

I had to deal with this. Never again. I love peace. If these men were at peace with themselves they’d want a woman who brought equal peace to the relationship.

I don’t feel so alone with your channel ! Whew

Most men thinks good girls are boring though. So, I’m glad he’s saying what most of them think!!!

That’s fine . Let’s normalize being boring and at peace by ourselves. I’m a lil toxic but I’m a damn good woman 🤣 no time for drama. I’m starting to realize men aren’t even worth the headache . Date a few of them and take their money 🙄😂🤣 don’t fall in love

I noticed this a while ago. Men who chase women who are toxic and problematic. I even saw a post of men who justified dating women with felony records. Stay good honey. Let them ruin their lives going in the wrong direction.

I think it’s a good thing that these type of men don’t resonate with a woman who is healed and isn’t broken. I had a few men tell me, I like you, we have fun, but you are just “too sweet” and I can’t be the one to hurt you. I would think to myself, well wtf is that to even say? Then realized these men were immature, imbalanced, and were broken and wouldn’t have been a match anyway. But it triggered my own issues with rejection, then I started meeting more mature men and realized who I am will be more then enough for the right man.

I’ve been thinking this. Men love the women they say they hate the most. Lol 😂. They don’t really want good women, or wifey types, or loyal women. They want the ratchets

Yes, yes🙌🏾 this my whole story.... My kids father/ex-fiance was a coward and whatever his mom said, he did. She hated me because I was pure, spoke the real and always put my foot down... She also did everything possible to end our relationship by hooking him up with one of her streetwalker cougar friends😳🤦🏾 Oh he switched up, betrayed me, abandoned us🤷🏾 needless to say, Im the one who got away🙌🏾🙏🏾 Oohhwee chile, now guess who tryna come back after all that was done, tryna down me to make himself feel good🐍🤡 Issa No forever, he cant come back ever🤷🏾✌🏾

After they have gone through a bunch of women and “men” their machinery breaks down from being in so many different people, then they want a good woman to come and deal with the “boring” broke down machinery! Cook! Clean! Stroke ego… You know that boring stuff.

I think my last relationship traumatized me Especially because he was the nice guy The good guy Had me believe his ex wife broke his heart Lied about his age As time went on found out he had mommy issues Incest Used sex to cope I had allowed him to drive me crazy and I was extremely toxic One day I got up and said I have to end it Once I did I had a short situationship with a breadcrumber I don't know how long it's been But I've been single over 5 yrs I've never really enjoyed sex like that It was ok So I identify as asexual So my craving for sex is less then u guess the average woman But now it's not just my lack of desire but these men hygiene is terrible Many are bi And I just can't Lucky me I'm a basic chic and I'm over 40 so I don't get much attention And it's ironic that I'm so relieved that I only turn down a few instead of a bunch

Ciara's glow hasn't stopped since she's been with Russell Wilson.... let that sink in...

this look is giving Nia Long ❤️❤️

The woman talking during the 2hr 31min mark about the male proposing to his baby mama after she blocked him, is my story too. A male that I used to work with pursued me for almost a year until I quit that job and went else where. But before I quit he would tell me how much money he had, how he only liked luxury things for us, how he really wanted to be with me, kept calling me wifey and most importantly he wasn't seeing nor hooking up with anyone else. Well literally a month after I quit he posts on FB that he is getting married and had a baby boy on the way with his childhood best friend that was 8/9mths pregnant. She gave birth 2mths after I was gone... SMH, and he still denied that they were together during that time.

When did becoming a good woman go out of style with men? SMH .. I'm over dating too

It's about controlling women who are mentally unstable. The more mentally unstable the woman is the power is in his court. If women are rationalize and think in a healthier manner, her secure mindset will expose his toxic nature, this will make him lose his control over the woman. He wants women who are dysfunctional because it's the only way he can get submission without having to put in effort on his part.

Honestly, when you think about how toxic men idolize/relate to future the reason they really hate Russell is very simplistic. Not because he’s a “square”, because he’s the depiction of exactly who took their “Ciara” therefore the hate is general. They can’t stand women receiving better or realizing their worth.

I just learned about all of this personally. The hard way chile. Traumatized Fr. I’m not even giving these men a second glance anymore and honestly I think I will absolutely be better for it. Literally what is our loss!? Not getting traumatized, not getting used/taken advantage of by these men? like it sounds like a win in every single way. Wish I did this sooner tbh

I loved the live. I'm slim and I don't even like wearing the regular bikini shorts. I prefer the swim shorts now too. I'm not trying to attract no men attention right now! But of course the dust slips through the crack..

I agree Yanie. The problem really lies in not keeping those legs closed and taking time to get to know that man first. I promise keeping them legs closed works every single time.

No lie just last week I had a date tell me we not gonna work because I’m too sensible. Im still speechless…

My dad is just like the man in that video. He would always complain about how the girls he get with always yelling and complaining and wanting to argue, but he stay with them type of women. There was definitely a lot of drama with him growing up, but really a lot of that drama was stuff that he created by making bad decisions. He loves dysfunction.

Welp now I have an answer to that question going forward. Why are you single?? Sir, I’m not toxic. I’m loyal, I won’t sleep with your boys. I won’t have multiple men around just to feel important. I will Love you and take care of you. I’m BORING SIR. Have a great day. Loved this video. Thank you Sis 😊👍🏽

Yasss why do women compete with other women regards to relationships, ain’t no way in hell. I am fine I tell it like it is, no need to fake that.

She said, "I'm on time tonight. Where y'all been?" 🤣🤣🤣

At least he’s being honest and not wasting another womens time. I’ll give him that. Toxic for the toxic and peaceful for the peaceful. Stay were you play. Just don’t get mad when that peaceful person don’t want toxic waste around. And don’t get mad when that toxic waste don’t want peace..do you

I had ex who reached out to me telling me I'm the one that got away, I was 🤷‍♀️ I told him to stop calling me and go back to care his family, I blocked him from every where still called from private number and I don't answer phone number I don't know.

The woman should be grateful he left her. He's a dusty.

She was out of his league. Ladies, stop dating beneath you.

I respect his honesty and applaud his self-awareness. Most men say they want a good woman but their actions and choices are not aligned with that.