Goths react to "I Spent A Day With GOTHS" 

If you have not watched them yet I recommend watching Colonel Kurtz's videos about the accusations against MM. They're very lengthy but totally worth it. She gives intelligent perspective.

@@ML-uv1uv link?

I'm not sure how or why this video appeared in my recommended feed. I'm not subscribed to any Goth channels, I haven't searched for anything Goth-related, etc. But for some reason, here it is... I was Goth before Goth was Goth. I'm male, and now 53, was born in the late 60's and made 18 years old in 1986. I was a Cure fan when they were a new band. I use to dress all in black because I liked the link between the dark side, mysteriousness and of course, Vampires. I'm in New Orleans and live just a few blocks away from Ms Anne Rice and Lestat. New Orleans is also famous for being the home of Voodoo Priestess Marie Laveau. I was also infatuated with death, cemeteries, halloween, skulls, etc. I also played electric guitar and grew my hair long (80's hair bands). I dyed my hair jet black to be more like the members of KISS and because of my infatuation with darkness, mystery and vampires. I bought the Satanic Bible and read a few chapters and tossed it aside. It wasn't what I thought it was. It wasn't about Satan/devil or anything like that. It was about self-indulgence and gluttony - something uninteresting to me. I had my left ear pierced twice, my right ear once and my left eyebrow pierced. Most males back then only wore one piercing in their left ear because both ears pierced or just the right ear pierced meant you were 'gay'. Right... Being 'politically correct' was not a thing back then either. Being a dark person and stage guitarist (I had to wear eyeliner on stage), the eyeliner kinda followed me off stage. Some girls said it brought out my blue eyes. I also used to file my fingernails to a point. If I made them too pointy and they got too long, they would start to curl under. Anyway, imagine seeing me back in 1983 when I was 15 years old in black Z Cavaricci's, a long sleeve black button up shirt, a bolo tie with spike tips and a skull medallion, pointed fingernails with black nail polish, long jet (blue/black) black hair with black eyeliner on and long dangling earrings of a good angel hanging from my left ear and a bad angel hanging from my right ear. A black leather necklace with a gargoyle on it to stand by and protect my heart. I was this in 1983 until about 1995. I only had to change my appearance because society wasn't as acceptable then. I got married and became a father. A decent paying job wouldn't hire me like that. Y'all don't realize how good and easy y'all have it now. Back then you couldn't be you. You had to be what society wanted you to be - or you wouldn't be considered part of society. You would be considered antisocial and an outcast. Your family would starve just because of the way you looked. Anyway, I was Goth before Goth was Goth. I guess just call me the GothFather. LoL

@@eldie3d Thank you for the interesting read! That all sounds amazing! I'm sorry you had to change! I think things have changed alot for the better now but unfortunately it's not completely okay to be alternative in most work places! I dress goth outside of work but when I go to work I can not dress the way I want unfortunately

@@eldie3d 🙏

Lol

That's actually a brilliant idea

Omg I love that

that sounds amazing

Now I know what I’m doing for Halloween.

Thank you 🖤🦇

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They are cute, even tho guys arent my type i can agree with u anyway

as someone in the goth circle, every goth i know is incredibly friendly

lol ikr

Love that!

😂😂😂

☠️ damn that was good

Wow, I ❤️ black humor 😜👍

@@TheSGEllie I'm black and I am humorous (occasionally) now love me.

Ngl I'd confused the fuck outta some people when I'd burst into song while wearing sweet lolita lmao

Aww thank youu 😊 - Lynn

I was just about to say the same thing

ikr i want her hair TT

You can buy it from Wish or Ali Express 😂

@@RandomGothCouple oh my thank you for responding! I like the quality of the wig. I'm a new sub btw hehe

Awww tysm!

You are a wonderful human being ✌🤘

@@OdinSmilesRavensLaugh72051 🖤🖤🦇💕

They're instagoths. These are not real Goths.

@@RandomGothCouple The thing I struggled with the most was with some in the community as well with some of the outsiders with the problem of racism the myth that black people cant be goth I think you guy should do an video on that topic if possible

Thank you ❤️

Men also get a lot of criticism; mainly for being men and from people like you. What a pointless statement. Lets not let the contrived gender war infect gothness.

Literally!! That had me cackling tbh

𝔱𝔥𝔞𝔱 𝔥𝔞𝔡 𝔪𝔢 𝔣𝔞𝔩𝔩𝔦𝔫𝔤 𝔩𝔬𝔩

Aww that's a cute story! Don't judge a book by it's cover! - Lynn

Depressed people can be friendly lol but Aw that’s a cute story I jealous lol

Depressed people can be friendly lol but Aw that’s a cute story I jealous lol

Mate just because we dress in black, some of us do makeup, wear studs, anti crosses etc doesnt mean we are all suicidal menaces to society.. im glad you had the opportunity to meet some of us you seem like a really non judgemental person.. if only more people were like you... one can dream

@@OdinSmilesRavensLaugh72051 thats the point he was making :|

Thank you it's from Tkmaxx around Halloween time

Right?! Its as big as her face hahah

Unfortunately the cup has now smashed so I'll need to get a new one but I hope you all in enjoy my tiny cup in the next video!

she just likes it big😏 LOL

@@cosmo1775 HAHAHAAAA BRRRRUU

You're not retired lol.

Retired Goth?!? Man,your sence of humor is lame as Hell

Thank you. This is one thing that has always bothered me about some goth gatekeepers. They think being goth means only dressing the fashion, when in reality in encompasses so much more than that. I also don't dress the fashion daily, and I certainly don't wear the heavy makeup (don't like the feeling of it) but I am 100% goth anyway, as I enjoy the lifestyle, the music, the art, the literature, and everything in between. Cheers from a fellow Sopor Aeternus fan.

I have an emo heart 🖤

@@ethanmoore9512 I guess so, but only under obvious situations.

Goths are fit punks wearing black and playing melodic rock with low raspy melancholy vocals and heavy bass.

There should be some gatekeeping like if you don't listen to goth music then you're not goth

@@cereal8936 but I wouldn't consider that gatekeeping, it's the bare minimum to be a goth

What do you understand as gatekeeping/what example that you have seen of goths gatekeeping comes to your mind? @Kyle

Yess we get this happening to us all of the time!!! And yeah it sucks how jobs make us change 😭 Thanks for the sub!

I love how they showed Goths of Color as well, when I dressed goth all the time i was always told about god to. I was Christian at the time as well, an had just left a christian school. Now I actually am more Luciferian (I like learning about Satanism too) it's weird how people treat you, they moked me an bullied me when I was over the top Goth an Christian now that I'm laid back but obviously a Satanist I get people of color being actually scared of me instead of bullying me, especially when I wear my White contacts (like I did when I dressed Goth everyday)

Lol I've definitely been followed through stores by shop keepers. It's kind of insulting

i remember going inside a store in a mall one time and everyone kept on looking at me because I was wearing all black....

@@NIMM_VOID as a black person I can say it's extremely insulting lol nobody deserves that,, people just love to stereotype

That’s really prejudiced against normal folks as you put it and for “goths”. The clothes you wear don’t make you smart or stupid and you clearly proudly display your hatred of not your brand of “goth”. You’re the opposite of what these two are trying to show the world about people of a certain fashion style.

So true!🤟

It is all about accepting shadow side. Shadow is not harmful at all.

Can confirm.😎👍✨

That's why I like the culture so much!

Heyy! Thank you so much! We are very happy to have you here and we are glad you feel the same way we do 🖤🦇

And he's wearing an upside down cross. Makes sense?

@@googleuser2874 it's an aesthetic as he said

@@googleuser2874 Cross of Saint Peter, the symbol originates from the Catholic tradition that when sentenced to death, Peter requested that his cross be upside down, as he felt unworthy of being crucified in the same manner as Jesus. BUT... can also be used in a Satanic context also...

Ikr that was so wholesome lol

This is actually me.

Saaame - Lynn

The goth scene used to be welcoming to melancholy personalities. I liked it more that way.

Most of the goth people I have met have always been super happy and friendly and honestly I would call some of them super bubbly.

I'm friendly but I'm not a very happy person most of the time lol

Lol it's because you haven't met me 😆😭 jk i make dark jokes so I guess I'm "happy"

@Grace Matthies I could apply a similar thing with parental issues, coming from someone with Father/Mother issues.

True

I try to date guys in my town only to find out they fetishize me or want a goth gf 🙄

Fetishes are weird.

It’s called having a preference it’s not a fetish. Would girls who like athletic dudes also be considered gross then? Have we really become so damn sensitive that people can’t even have preferences anymore? Because guess what, literally 99.99% of people in the world have preferences whether they want to admit it or not.

Exactly 🖤 it's great to see it!

Random Goth Couple I remember on a Gothic youtubers bbc news vid, someone was really badly criticising the goth subculture and calling us freaks and to stop doing what we’re doing and to be “normal” and boy did I pull him/her up, I had a go at them and told them to respect the goth subculture or to fuck off cause all of us goths shouldn’t have to deal with that shit, am I right?

@@angelofdarkness1980 100 percent we shouldn't have to deal with that!!

Random Goth Couple I get hate about being goth from idiots and toxic old friends so I just laugh at it or roast em right back

@Doyle Templeton it's cause they want you to be like them but that's a no go for me, I honestly don't care what people think of me

Bruh im sorry that had to happen to you, people nowadays are just weird asf lol

Tell them to f*ck off or get a really nice ring and just show it whenever ppl in real life bother you about this.

The fact that you have a fiancé is great but not important here, what's important is that you're being harassed by weirdos which is bad for YOU. Sorry you're having this problem, it really sucks and it's not in any way a comment on your character and integrity. They're gross and it's not your fault; you don't need to change, they do. I hope you find a solution and wish I had a suggestion other than make your accounts private 🖤 Good luck and femme solidarity 🖤

Yes social engineering has been on that mission to force consumerism deep into the hearts and minds of everyone starting in the early early 80’s. Even making youth feel self conscious when they’re not wearing enough money.

You can honestly learn so much from The Simpsons!

@@blackdiamond139 well I have some aspects of buddhism in my religion, but it's actually wicca

@@freudonadroid9165 What episode was that?

@@deeji6098 don’t have to be Wiccan to be a witch my friend ☺️

Eyyy my fellow witch sisters 💚💚

This!!

When I was going through a beatnik phase in middle school, this girl commented on my outfit and said “why are you trying to be goth?” in a really disgusted voice. I think it was cause I was wearing a lot of black, but I just said I’m not 😒

Yes!! I’ve just been labelling myself as alt so gatekeepers won’t comment on my appearance saying I’m “not ____ enough”. Because I don’t specify what I am, they can’t tell me I don’t belong haha

Same. People always ask if I’m goth, especially my parents, even tho I’ve always been more emo/punk. I usually just say alternative and let them take it how they want lol

We are so glad to hear that and everyone is always welcome here in this community no matter how you dress or what you listen to 🖤🦇

100 percent!! I hate that people have to wonder how other people will react to them if they dress a certain way or listen to certain music!! Do what ever makes you happy!! Thanks for your comment - Lynn

Oh I’m not saying I’m “goth” but I do love black and love music 🖤

So, have you thought about where you're spending the rest of eternity? I'm sure you know heaven/hell are ideas, but what if I told you They're real? In fact they are. You see humans are like potted plants. Ever since the he fall we've becomes the ones that choose witch seeds get planted. We justify little sins, because we can rationalize them. But those sins seep in our souls like tea. It slowly taints our essence, until we're justifying worse and worse sins. Those sin seeds grow into weeds that blind us to the Truth. We see others doing worse, so we rationalize that we're still good people. But those seeds always bloom into evil we cannot control. Then we become monsters. Most people don't want to be evil, so we prune ourselves. However, once we die we continue to grow. This is why Hell exists. God cannot allow bad plants into Heaven, we'd destroy it. That's why he gives us this life on Earth, to better our relationship with him, so that he can kill those wicked weeds. This only happens with the blood of Jesus Christ, and can only be gotten though our own free will. You need to forgive your parents, we all have problems with them, don't lie. It's a representation of or problems with God. To be forgiven we must forgive. Everyone, but your parents especially. After that, break down before Jesus, ask for forgiveness, and read the Bible. God will enlighten you to so much after that. It will literally be like seeing for the first time. There's so much going on beneath the surface layer of reality, but you can't be taught, only learn. Reading the Bible will actually be fun at this stage, I know that sounds impossible, but it is true. God has given us so much truth, so many promises, you'll delight in learning them. Plus he'll shower you in great blessings. True joy, inner peace, love, fulfillment, etc. It all lies in service to the Lord. There truly is no greater happiness. I hope you get the message. Bless you

@@jamesmayle4712 replying to the first question, and when I have time I’ll read the rest. But I would love to go home to our All mighty Savior the Lord Jesus Christ. I am a Christian, I wear black and I just simply love music we shouldn’t judge and you should know that,how else can we become friends who need us. Happy Passover 🫓🍷

@@jamesmayle4712 This is an interesting reply to a post about Walmart clothing... Are you okay?

I used to say "alternative" a lot!! I agree!! I've been educating myself on the goth subculture and music for two or three years now and I'm so incredibly interested and its beautiful but I'd still consider myself a babybat!! Along with that I've also been emo (scene too!!) for about 10 years now but I've also always been in love with harajuku fashion like sweet lolita and other kawaii fashion (I also really love j-rock too!!) So I've always just used "alternative"!! ♡ I get a bit worried now though cause of how tiktok uses "alt" x.x I dont wanna be confused as anything because I've been part of my communities since I was little, I'm glad that some people are finding the community and being genuinely interested!! but a lot of people are kind of mocking and using it as a trend or turning it into something it's not (I'm sorry if any of this is offensive!! ♡ I will delete my comment if it is!! I dont want to make anyone feel bad!!! I hope that you're doing okie!!)

I just call myself me

@ Pastel Bunny, Toxic Tears a Utuber who is a goth also very much enjoys kawaii fashion so usually she’s very goth but then from time to time she transforms herself into this pink kawaii fantasy.. it’s adorable and magical🖤🥰

@@lucifera1456 I'm subscribed to her!! 💗🖤 it is super adorable!! Shes definitely an inspiration ☆o☆

@@hospibunny omg i love u

Oh my GOSH that sounds so awful!!!! I'm so sorry!!!!

I'm sorry that happened to you! People need to know how wrong this is!!!

We are sorry to hear this! I went through this with my parents too! Eventually they realised they couldn't change me! But I understand it can be hard parents like that so I hope when you are old enough you can dress and listen to what ever you want 🖤⚰️💀 - Lynn

I had to Google that to see who that was but that's spot on hahaha

I believe they are referring to the Total Drama Ridonculous Race goths, which I thought you two resembled to me also, Crimson and Ennui.

Yes ! When I saw them i was like , omg they're real !!! 😍

OH MY GOD THEY DO REMIND ME OF CRIMSON N ENNUI

We need to watch this show!!

Honestly you can dress as the Queen of England and still being sexualized. I'm a boy and fortunately I haven't experienced something like that, but i'm SO sorry that you (and other girls) do. PD: My native language is Spanish, so my Inglish might be not right.

Yeah it’s true a shit ton of guys have preferences for girls with certain styles. But don’t be hypocritical cause there are just as many girls that are literally the same. Girls liking that “skater boy” style and aesthetic. Some girls liking “nerdy/gamer boy” aesthetic. There are plenty more examples I still don’t understand why some of you girls complain when guys have preferences but it’s like you look the other way when girls (even yourself most likely) also are the exact same away.

@@zigsteenine8650 You really just whizzed on passed the point there skater boy. Have a beautiful day! 😂

Zig Steenine man shut the hell up. you’re going full incel on every fucking comment of a girl talking about this. chill the fuck out. you’re probably in your 30s or something with that pepe profile pic. cmon it’s fucking 2021, the mid 2010s are over you irrelevant bitch.

@@taquitoxiq1444 I’m 17 today actually and I’m only in like 3 different comments buddy relax. I don’t even care anymore about it or else I would’ve responded to the other replies. Anyways dude why are you so mad about it Jesus holy shit I’m dying 😂

Heyyy! That's really cool!! Would have loved to be there! Thank you so much for the comment 🖤🦇

No problem!! It's great to see someone else with a mixed fashion! We love to see it!

ive also really wondered about this i listen to emo and goth music i dress a mix between known emo style and goth i dont know where i stand?

@@pardoned9613 we have the same problem! I guess you could say it's a mix!

I think it’s great to listen to other music styles besides goth music. I’m a big time metalhead / goth music lover. It’s great to be a part of more then one subculture. I think 😊🖤🖤🖤

@@pardoned9613 i think with these things there's a lot of overlap where people can be both!!! they're all sorta connected in some way yk?

Posers don’t believe in goth beliefs so as long as you have goth beliefs you’re all good

@@PistachioMustachio_ what are goth beliefs?

@@Madisvvn Similar to punk, non-conformity anti-capitalist etc

The term baby bat sounds so cute I love it

@@Madisvvn basically radical leftist

Same I wanna wear alt stuff but I don't want people in my school to say Omg emo furry!!! are you depressed?? you're so emo and brocken

So what you're saying is Goth is genetic? LOL! Great comment thanks for sharing. Cheers.

@@IPONJ Practically everything can be genetic, I dont see why personal taste isnt able to be genetic either. But I meant that I'd grown up around gothic stuff, aha.

@@beepboop5491 I understand this. The comment was meant as a joke. It refers to an old joke about a kid with blue hair. His friend ask "Why the blue hair?" the kid replies "It's genetic, my mum has blue hair." I'm guessing it's way before your time. It's a play on smart @$$ comments. No worries. Sorry for the confusion.

Actually this combo with your name is very rad

@@IPONJ I havent heard that joke, but I like it 😆 Sounds like something my dad wouldve joked about. Maybe it's just not a well known joke in my area. No worries, though. :))

This is true 😂😂😂

There are good poems out there.

For health reasons you should try to get to a healthy weight first and find a way to maintain that before worrying about goth clothes. You can be goth till 50s or a goth till 80s depending on the lifestyle. And honestly some clothes just look not good if you are "too big" or "too thin". Also clothes don't last that long if you are bigger which also means not many will end up in charity shops. A big plus in losing weight is that you can always buy something in a bigger size if the article is not in your actual size (which happens also a lot where I live). Baggy style is luckily a thing.

there are also a lot of cool DIYs like I made a choker years ago and it cost me nothing

@@chara_killahgaming1938 Another type of store that also works is places like Party City and Spirit! These stores have cheap,safe black and white makeup. They also sell fishnet tights, underskirts and things like that for really low prices. If you don’t have any of these near you, Amazon is a good alternative. Hope this helps!🖤

i think a lot of people forget that goth is about individuality as well. the goal in going to the thrift store is not to find the name brand goth fashion brands there, but to find stuff that suits you. i get almost all of my clothing from the thrift store or free boxes. also almost all of my makeup from drug stores or beauty supply.

Go to a thrift store in a rich area, rich people give away nice things

@@chara_killahgaming1938 it's also easier if ya ain't in a poor and conservative third world country like over here where alt things in general are hard to find, sure doing things like "diy" exists but gothic/punk/just generally alt accessories to do diy in the first place are expensive (ie. studs here can only be bought online and are overpriced), plus gothic/alt styled shoes in general aren't sold here, whether that's online or irl (you get them priced up from either Japan or China or smth). Seriously people need to know about this, they're lucky to at least find sOMETHING remotely decent in a thrift store 🙃

If it wasnt for the Punk scene we'd never have Post-punk which ended up being Goth👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🧛🏽‍♀️🧛🏽‍♀️🧛🏽‍♀️🧛🏽‍♀️

I think the punk scene is equally captivating!! If it wasn’t for the punk movement we wouldn’t be enjoying goth. I also think that from the conversations I have had with other goths/punks/metalheads they are highly well spoken, intelligent, super aware of important issues and topics, creative, and extremely open minded. I also never get bored hanging with these subcultures 😉🖤

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@@eunicee999 What are things like in New York?

IM IN THE SAME BOAT AS YOUUU

I relate so much I always feel like I’m “not sk1nny enough” to wear the pastel goth aesthetic but I think it’s so pretty mixing black with pastels

Aww thank you so much 🖤

Aww thank you 🖤🦇

Yep I was a metalhead never a goth but no angst or anything towards them. They think (my observation from their comments over several videos) they believe everyone hates them or has something against them but fact is I don’t believe that the case. I suspect that’s more self image than anything else and who doesn’t struggle with self image at some point in life? They’ll outgrow it if they start meeting people who don’t indulge in their choice of fashion styles and see we’re really all looking for the same things. We all wanna find our tribes, where we fit in. Crazy world and technology has killed personal interactions and that makes all of us less sharp on our social skills and that makes us all less confident in new social situations. Goths aren’t an exception to this general rule, or rule of thumb, though in every possible demographic there will be people who are seemingly impervious to this social pressure and phobias most of us are not so immune.

I'm sorry you had to deal with that! That's so not true! - Lynn

@@RandomGothCouple I actually seriously wonder where that stereotype came around

Thank you so much 🖤🦇

The things the youth come up with nowadays lmao

I also have tourettes but because of my vocal tics people often walk away from me or pull faces at me a lot

Omg that's terrible they put you in handcuffs and pat you down!! Yesss we get the vampire question all the time!

I live in New York City so thankfully I don’t experience these horrible things. People here are super open minded and get more compliments then criticism. I’m so sorry these a$$h0les follow you around in stores. And my mouth dropped when I read that they handcuff you and pat you down. I think that’s extremely degrading and pisses me off.

I was asked that by a child and it honestly made my day lol. People do say weird things though.

It's a bit frown upon in South Texas. Though I do get some positive feedback for being "unique". Also I have a friend whose daughter literally calls me a vampire lol.

Thank you! And omg he does haha - Lynn

It's very rare we dress up! Especially this year! Thanks for the comment!

@@RandomGothCouple thank you for helping me feel less of an outcast in this wonderful goth life

Nice! I grew up with Claire’s too. Keep doing your thing👍

Completely understand that! My mam threw out all of my old clothes because she thought I would grow out of the alt fashion but I never did so I just had to re buy everything - Lynn

Well that was highly relatable! I remember reading a quote years and years ago, can't remember who it was by though "old goths never die, they just need less make-up" and that's true, I have kids (5!) And a solid black wardrobe is IMPOSSIBLE to keep clean and the little darlings love getting into my make-up so I end up skipping the make-up normally and wearing jeans and band shirts 🤷 when the kids are older the solid black will be back 😂.

@@nalanihamby3710 I love kids, I'm so happy for you. But I cant imagine wearing myself not wearing black or band shirts for something other than PJ's (I'm in my mid 20's) But I could wear more pink clothes I love leopard or is it cheetah print an Zebra print But yeah know I'm in my mid 20's an childless (I'd love to have babies but I need to focus more on my magickal studies again for 7 years, get a Hearse/ drivers license, and most importantly my GED so I can legally homeschool. Even though I know online schools they can go to since I went to school online but mostly focused on my Magickal Studies, also I need to find a apartment an get stuff for it I've already started...sort of starting my life out late because my mom an her boyfriend never wanted me to move out but things were toxic an turned horrible so now I'm technically couch hopping an staying at my extended family...when I wanted to live in a homeless shelter but the doctor wouldnt let me because they wanted me to have a home. So I had to beg to live here.) I'd still like some nice vintage gothic/punk clothes an also some more goth, Graver(with a G Goth-Raver/ Rivithead/Cyber Goth styled clothes from Etsy) I just started using Etsy an there are so many clothes I wanna get Plus lingerie to wear around the house when I move since I actually hate wearing clothes when I live with women or just my mom, but I always must wear undergarment because Germs. (I have ocd like my mom used to have an it started in the hospital) I cant wait to have kids one day I hope I'm married but if I'm not, I'm not an as long as I have a hearse an place to stay I'll be good (I'm not waiting till the 7 year study is up just whenever I can pay off the hearse I wanna buy) May I ask Can I do remodeling to a Car before all the payments are done, because obviously there are no backseats in any of the hearses I've looked up an I'd need to put those in

@@vampiradeathrockerbatxq762 you would need to check your contact, sometimes they will tell you you aren't allowed to alter it until it's paid for, sometimes it is unspecified. Now is it wise to alter a car you don't yet own? Perhaps not so much. I couldn't imagine it either but the thing about little ones is they always manage to get SOMETHING on you right before you leave the house in a hurry 🤣, when you're wearing all black it ends up looking like you have random jizz stains all over your clothes. This gets better as they get older. For now jeans are just easier to deal with and band shirts hold up well to all the washing. I know some goth parents who still do the full face and all black, my hats are off to them but it isn't something I want to spend the time on when I'm just kicking around the house or going to the grocery store lol. Time is a really hard to come by thing and if I have to pick painting my face or trying to avoid being loved on by the kids over having time to relax and read a book or work on my art 🤷 for me it's an easy choice, I have my kids older years and the literal entire rest of my life to dress exactly how I want so it doesn't bother me. Do I miss looking like my favorite version of myself? Oh yeah lol sometimes I do! But for me the trade off is worth it, I sacrifice something I want for something I want more for a truthfully short window of time and then go back to fully dressing how I like. The kids are worth it for me and the time spent working on my art is worth it for me, waking up at the butt crack of dawn to do hair and make-up that makes it unpleasant to be around my children just isn't. We all do this parenting thing differently and as long as you are taking good care of them, and remembering to take of yourself too 🤷 the rest will all take care of itself. Just don't rush into kids, take some time to learn who you are as a person first, travel some, experience the world without the commitments of a family weighing on you first. I wish I had done that, kids are a blessing don't get me wrong, but take some time for YOU first, being a mother is a heavy responsibility that takes a lot of time. Waiting until you're stable and emotionally ready to really settle down will be one of the best things you can do for your children, when you aren't quite ready for it and it happens the children are the ones who suffer for it. Before you have children it seems like there is the massive rush to have them...and there isn't... truly there is no rush. Let life settle and be stable so you can provide them with the mother they need and the life they need, pay very close attention to red flags when you're dating someone too so you can pick the best co-parenting partner too. I loved lots of men who were fun partners but would have made absolutely terrible parents! I sound about a thousand years old and like a broken record but 🤷, you have a pretty short time left to be you in a purely selfish way, don't shortchange yourself.

@@nalanihamby3710 also with schooling I've always wanted to homeschool (since I was 13 an went to online school that was dream when I had kids) so it's either that or they can go to online school themselves I was actually thinking my next ovulation I just had I wrote out some preschools ( chinese ones) I'd like my future kids to go to (I've had this plan since I was 18, but actually got the addresses down) an it's just an hour walk from where I want to live

Thank you :) This is our small bedroom!

I can see that, while generally my main style is goth based I also like to mix it with punk/lolita/VK/grunge and other styles as well as cosplays so I just came to the point where I simply call myself "alternative", far easier and less restrictive than just being one

Same here. Someone told my friend she shouldn’t hang out with me bc I’m a goth and goths are apart of a cult. That’s sad that they think that way. And they call themselves a Christian. Smh. Real believers don’t judge.

Aww Wicklow is beautiful! Thanks so much 🖤🖤🖤☘️

Thanks so much 🖤🦇

Thanks so much 🖤🦇