When cops told them the clubs belong to OP he should have announced in front of PD, "See dad. You punched me for no reason." Let the chips fall and dad might share a cell with Bruno.
Actually no. In the United States there is something you can do. You can sue. There's no criminal breach here but especially if they took out the money after he turned 18 knowing that money was never in the spirit of being shared and was directly only deposited and meant for op they could get a civil judgement
There is criminal breach here in the United States. That would be using Ops credit card to purchase the golf clubs without his consent they could be charged with grand larceny identity theft, and possession of stolen property.
@@dakotahsmith8320It was a joint bank account, and at least one of his parents was a signer, so they had full access to every cent in the account. It doesn’t matter who made the deposits, or what the funds were intended for. I worked in a bank for over 3 years.
Yes, the lawyer is an incompetent idiot. If he wants to charge for being sympathetic, he should have become a psychologist. As it stands, if this story is true, I would hope someone sues *him* for professional malpractice.
I have said on many other threads that in cases of favoritism that is this extreme NEITHER child is loved by the parents. They OBSESS over the "favored" child but OBSESSION is not the same thing as LOVE. Ultimately favoritism like this harms the favored child too, often the MOST and sets them up for failure in life.
and there is the golden child mentality as the child gets older they know what is happening they are just as much to blame as the parents. thats why i have nooooo sympathy for a golden child.
One of my best friends in high school had a joint account with her mother. Every time she put her babysitting money in the account, her mother would take it. I always thought that was totally unfair.
Not wrong. When my children were underage, they had to have a joint account with an adult. My [now ex] got so mad that I was the one that took them to the bank and was the adult on the account rather than him. Based on what he did when we split (he drained an account which I'd only left open because I had some outstanding transactions), I'm sure that he would've stolen my children's money and claimed that it was his money anyway (morally, it is theft; legally, not if the person is named on a joint account).
This was happening to one of the nicest girls (Susan) in the neighborhood. Babysitting money, birthday money, etc. was put into an account and her folks would take it out. When she started HS one of her friend's mothers (Mrs. Bates) bought her a lock box and Susan started to deposit her money into the box instead of the bank. Her folks went through her room looking for her earnings but never found them as she'd hid it outside until she could get over to her friend's house and deposit the money in the box that they kept for her. It finally got around the neighborhood that Susan was saving to go to the local community college and people she worked for started to give her a bit extra and even take it over to the Bates's house so that Susan wouldn't risk losing it to her folks. Mrs. Bates finally took Susan and her box over to a local bank and set up an savings account for Susan that her folks didn't know about. The whole neighborhood was in on the scheme of "Helping Susan Save". Nobody liked her folks.
I would honestly have stolen the equipment they bought and returned it, then pulled all the money out of the joint account and put it into your new personal account so when they went to repurchase it the money would not be there.
For real, then they could have the fun of explaining how they bought it with OP'S college funds and have a tantrum at being told that op had every right to return it and get his money back.
It's so sad that OP's parents are pathetic putting physical activity and sports over intellectual success and horrible parents for demeaning their intelligent child who isn't very athletic. For them to steal his money to buy something for their Golden child who's into athletic things is the worst thing they could have done! I wouldn't be surprised if his parents were bullies when they were in school with how they treated him.😢 Best thing OP can do is cut them off and be successful and have more money than them and his brother!! In regards to the Mom calling the cops, it was absolutely hysterical that she had no clue because they had purchased it with OP's money and account that they were technically OP's clubs and he could sell them if he wanted. Such sad excuse for parents to bully the smart child in favor for the golden child who had athletic abilities
My guess that once OP starts working the parents will show up like nothing happens expecting OP to support them. I hope he laughs in their faces. His brother will need money too.
Unfortunately, OP can't do that, since it was a joint bank account. So, legally speaking, OP's parents didn't steal from him. It sounds unfair, and it is, but I don't make the laws.
@@anonmouse15 minors have to have an adult on the account in order to have one. Kids need to go to bank on 18th birthday to close the account and open individual account.
I grew up in the 60s when President Kennedy was pushing physical fitness. From that time forward, the schools were rabid about gym classes and sports. My son graduated in 2007, I noticed it was still the same. I absolutely hate sports and always will.
As opposed to children developing type 2 diabetes? I will always believe that gym and sports are an important part of growing up, but there does need to be balance. Getting into the habit of exercising is a lot easier if you start it as a child rather than try to take it up later in life.
Teamwork, especially working despite egos and possible tempers/tension under the guidance of a coach or 2 are invaluable things people can learn from sports. Even in solo sports you learn to push yourself. Of course these things can be learned through other activities, but I'm just saying don't immediately dismiss sports in general. I played a fair bit of sports from childhood to graduation ('05), even Varsity Bball and I managed to keep decent enough grades for a scholarship. My parents pushed me in both areas, always emphasizing that education will always be top. I was also lucky enough to be raised as a child/person and not some god amongst men who could do no wrong, so.. sports aren't wrong, it's the institution behind them that makes it corrupt like so.
Sometimes, people are too confident and rub it off. You'd be surprised how many people have thought that everything was fine, even when someone watching a video of the event knew all too well otherwise. Humans don't always make sense or think of things, even though they should.....
Great story thanks, it does make one wonder about humanity in general. I raised 3 kids and I can’t wrap my head around favoring one child so much that you bully the other😧
I was so happy to hear that OP had a happy ending. I related to this so much. I have been working since I was 3 years old. Unfortunately I am a survivor being a child that was exploited to the entertainment industry. I assumed once I turned 18, I was going to gain access to my bank account and go to college however I went to the bank on my 18th birthday and had only $59.00 and some change in my account. I should have had over 200k and we had nothing to show for it. I left home and worked odd jobs for a year while my friends back packed through Europe and started a community college the next year. I had 3 jobs and stripped just to get my bachelors degree in applied science. My family is still toxic to this day so now I’m preparing for my wedding and moving out of the country with my son to break generational curses and no longer be the scape goat with a flock of chickens to Ireland. It took me over 20 years to get my happily ever after and I couldn’t be more blessed at this moment. ❤😊
why didn't you sue them,and it's legal to force minors to work in the US,at 3 it's not possible for you to consent,here in norway minors are not allowed to work before 16,and we don't have joint bank accounts,if a minor gets one it is in his or hers name only.
WOW! OP, I'm so over the moon for you. I am so proud of you, and I'm not even your parent! I as a parent cannot understand this crazy story. Just know, that NO NORMAL parent acts this way. I hope you are having a wonderful, prosperous life. Your parents do not DESERVE YOU!. I wish you nothing but the best.
OP showed he was truly a genius. Not only did he give Bruno karma, he did it by using the wrong his parents did to him against them. As Bruno's golf clubs were purchased using OP's card, they, in the eyes of the law, belonged to OP. Therefore, OP likely knew that he wouldn't get in trouble after pulling the prank on Bruno, as, since the golf clubs were bought with his card, there was nothing the police could do to punish OP, as he didn't break any laws. And, after the police confronted his parents, OP sold the clubs and moved out, which was the best thing to do. First, get away from the toxicity, and THEN save up for college. For OP's parents, they were obviously wrong, but as for any parents like them... Why not put OP up for adoption? If you don't love a child (even though you should), why spend money on them? Foster homes exist for a reason. They aren't perfect, but are a win-win situation for situations like this one. With Bruno... He deserved his downfall. Why would anyone do this to their own family, just because they have different desires? OP's parents cost him money, but at the cost of giving OP a silver platter to ruin Bruno's life. Huh.... Maybe it was good that OP's parents drained his college fund, in that case. Paying to give my toxic family karma? To me, worth EVERY penny!
Lawyer got it wrong, Op could have taken his parents to court over taking the money from a joint account if he could prove that only HIS money was ever deposited into that account.
I hate these stories about parents favoring the athlete child over the smart one because I was a witness to these stories repeatedly. One didn’t end well as the smart kid after finding out he wasn’t going to college because his parents blew the money on athletic kid got his dad’s gun, killed his brother and then himself in front of his parents saying “you never even tried to love me”. The former parents died from alcohol abuse shortly after.
Sadly, he did the right thing. It’s easy to see that his family would never change. Props on the cops for the way they handled it. He also did the right thing by moving out. It wasn’t just toxic, it was potentially dangerous for him. If he stayed, who knows what they would have done to him.
Lawyer up, OP and sue your parents. SUE THEM HARD. When they see this mistake and the law on your side, they'll be wishing they cared about you. But it'll be too late!!
i would tell them to hand them over or see you in court and also sue them for parental alienation and possible abuse,and to top it of tell the whole family and friends what they have done over the years.
For a supposed pro am, a glofer that does not check his badg before leving home , well it is his own fault. Professional know exactly what needs to be done
I'm confused, where are the scholarships and financial aid ❓ if he's so studious, where's the free money ❓ I understand he may have been short after theft but he never mentioned it. This was great revenge, wholesome TOO 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. I'm glad he got his money back and then some, moved and went no contact. once he graduates and becomes rich, I hope he posts an update of them groveling and begging for his help 💯❗‼️
Afterwards: The parents ended up dealing with their failure of a golden child and tried to call the OP to help them but OP brutally threatened them and told them to buzz off and if they ever try to come near him, he will beat up his father brutally so try him. The parents tried to play the family card and call him ungrateful and all but OP did not care. The father decided to go there and teach him a lesson and was able to locate him but then when the father tried to throw, the OP punched and beat the crap out of him father brutally. He punched and kicked him and broke all of his teeth. He kept on beating him up until the father begged for mercy and then he stopped. The father eventually gave up and cried and begged for help as his son is now having liver failure. The son noticed that his father wants him to donate the kidney and gave him a punch in the face and pounded him. The father realized its no use and told him to al least give them money but he tried to throw a punch at him but then the father told him that he surrenders but got one last punch in the face before he left. He left with his broken teeth and swollen and bloody face and drove off. Once he came back, the mother was like what happened and he said that he fell. His pride got the best of him as he does not want to admit that his son beat him up. The mother noticed this and tried to call the OP but the father told her not to and then they got a text letting them know what will happen if they ever show up in his life and disowned them and called them strangers. They eventually gave up and the father decided to donate his kidneys to the favorite child. That brat was so ungrateful that he took off and left his parents to deal with the debts while he went out of control and once again destroyed his kidney and liver and is now stuck in a hospice. The mother and father was once again begging the OP to please help them and they were desparate and apologizing for everything but then the OP went off on them again and told them that they deserve it and should just rot in hell. The parents know that they are not going to get anything from the OP and are regretting it since then. They realized that they should have treated their sons equally but they let their ego get the best of them. The parents started fighting with each other blaming one another and then the wife left him as she does not want to deal with the abuse and just moves far away to her relatives. The father is all alone and once again tried to call OP but then he changed his number so he has no way to reach him and if he tried to go to him in person, he will just get beaten.
Story hasn’t even started and we get the brother’s name and I right away have to see if there is someone mentioning the fact that We Don’t Talk About Bruno!
Seems OP is better off without them. He made the college fund to begin with. So he knows how to earn a living. It will take him longer to go to his choice university. But he dealt with his toxic family while earning with their interference. Now on his own he will make his dream come true. Best wishes!
Kind of a silly and naive story. A set of golf clubs costs say $10,000. (I doubt that it’s that much) The cost of a top level college hundreds of thousands of dollars. My son and daughter’s was approximately $160,000 with room and board. While the theft of money is unconscionable it hardly would have made a difference in affording college.
The attorney was incorrect. There is no legal recourse however the OP very easily could have sued them in small claims court. Because he could get the receipts that he was the one that made the deposits into the account and yeah if he knew that they used his debit card then that’s just another thing and like the police the judge would’ve ruled in his favor. so he would’ve gotten the money back he could’ve sued for extra and tarnished their names. Since he was going no contact anyway…
OMG!!! Your parents stole your money for your brother. They are thieves! When you leave don’t look back. Let Bruno take care of them in their dotage. They are absolutely disgusting
There is NO way a set of toy golf clubs weigh as much as a quality set of irons, even woods. The weight difference would be noticed immediately upon lifting the bag. It would never have made it from the car to the tee without the bag being opened. Bogus.
Opie was definitely in the right for going no contact the only thing that could have made this better is if the officer would have asked if he wanted to press charges for them using his debit card to purchase the clubs
15:08 He obviously did not contact a very good lawyer, because that is not true. At the VERY least there is a civil claim for unjust enrichment. Depending on the jurisdiction, there are also other things.
Number one op, did that to me in a college scholarship. Look his biggest problem was with his parents. One his brother might have the old onces. Plus op thought his life was tough. He was soft. There was a lot of different ways he should handle it. From someone who had a crappy life growing up in an even worse place. You just come out more determine to try and make life better.
Parents take money *you* earned and *saved* and spent on your brother. Oh, no, no, no. No, they repay the money or you call the cops. If you have to, sue them.
If the amount were enough, op could also notify the IRS about money his oarents took, but dudnt pay taxes on. Even if it didnt lead to serious sanctions, it would make their lives a misery
It's every parents responsibility to make sure the next generation gets whatever leg up you can muster for them. I try to put money in the kids accounts. I just can't believe those parents!
op parents will be back when op becomes either successful and wealthy or when he decides to marry or/and have children and act like they did nothing wrong, hope op stands his ground and remembers that being family doesn't excuse abuse and mistreatment.
What kind of parents take money saved by one child to buy something for their golden child? It worked out in the end, though. His mother thought she was so clever calling the police on OP. It must have been a shock to her when the police sided with OP and said that since the golf clubs had been paid for with OP's debit card, the clubs belonged to OP! He got his money back and was able to move away from his toxic family. The parents can live with their golden child.
the moment she was calling i was hoping that maybe if anyone was going to be in handcuffs it would be one or both parents but the fact their own stupidity in using their son's card was bitter sweet . i would of told the cops though if i was o.p i would love to press charges on assault by my dad then tell my mom to consider this a warning that the next time she or anyone else tries to take my money or assault me as she showed no mercy I too will have non. id then definately move out like o.p did when the gold gear was sold and mad a promise to myself if any of them came crawling back remind them i said i'd have no mercy and they can just crawl back to their rat holes and not expect whatever hope for help they came to me for.
His family is really going to be upset when he lands that great job and is making bank. Then they’ll be telling him how much they care about him and they are family so he should help them financially.
It's probably never going to get better. They don't love him. Period. 18 years of this wrongdoing, lack of interest, can't be undone, from what I have seen. They might, might, show some interest when it suits them. But it will be a poison pill.
I was agreeing with OP until he complained about being made fun of listening to K-pop. Which maybe the one thing I would probably agree that he should be made fun of. Otherwise his college degree choice is a good one for future employment opportunities, working in school, and is acting like a normal kid his age even if he’s a bit too much of a WeeBoo. Also should sue the crap out of his parents and file a police report for the theft. Also should have told the police about the dad hitting him. The parents and brother will probably blame him for his brother failing but will be begging him for his money when he is rolling in it with his engineering degree. Family usually comes begging when they find out a family member has money. When I turned 18 I was told I’d have to start paying rent, also owed 18 years of back rent, and other BS.
Everything a minor child considers his/hers is, in fact by law, their parents property in most cases this is to protect the minor. But there is always bad actors in the bunch. Every 18 year old should immediately, on their birthday, change any ownership on accounts and property, like a car. Never tell family what your have after that date too. Consider emancipated minor if possible before 18.
I would have asked the police if having the account cleared out from mom or dad using his debit card, constitutes as grand theft or since he has the golf clubs in his possession to sell on his own means that reclaiming them outranks the theft. I am sure that the account shows how the money was deposited by him. Tbh, it is sure dirty how the parents played favorites when it came to their children. I get it that if a child plans not to go to college. At 18, it is up to him or her if attendance is mandatory so he was planning it. College isn't a toxic lifestyle that his parents were saving him from. It should have been the parents who flipped the bill for the golf clubs for the other son. OP after all that has happened, should have still been able to go to the college of his choice, possibly on a scholarship or a school loan that he could still work while in school. I'm sure that even with selling the golf clubs, that he still didn't refill the bank account enough to replace what was taken out. With the way he was talking, sounds like he was wanting to attend an ivy league school which I think would still cost more than what he saved up anyway.
There is actually a surprising amount of police who operate with common sense, but it depends on A: Who the officer is, as there are unquestionably A-holes and idiots in every force. B: Whether or not the officer has the mental energy left at that time.
If your brother has been a golden child and your parents always demonstrated how much they preferred him over you at what point did you not think to move your money knowing that this could happen I mean seriously at what point
It would never be allowed at a golf game for someone to use toy clubs. Plus it would be impossible to pick the bag up and not notice the weight of the clubs. I don't like stories that don't make sense. 😕
Next thing you do is take your parents off your account even though they were on your account after you were 18 they had no right to take the money you have recourse and going after them get a lawyer and talk to your lawyer because they had no right to take that money make a police report
