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I am in my healing process after my husband is having an affair and had a baby on me while I was 8 months pregnant with our second child. Grown women move on and never settle for anything less of her
I started watching Tony three years ago. I was hooked and watching him nonstop. I can’t tell you how much I have learned. Thank God for Tony. I understand so much now
Well then I’m a grown woman on the ruff. Only because in the recent past I accept way less than I deserved but I’m grateful that I got hurt to the core to shake that off of me.
Me too I still back and say I knew I was grown woman 👩🏾. It’s bring tears 😭 to my eyes 👀 because I a grown woman to and boy with no character , a dog . I love ❤️ the video Not gone lie I thought 💭 he was going to go in, but the first 10 minutes of video I knew I straight. 😬.
Tony Gaskins, you KEEP IT 💯‼️ You really know how to make a person conscious of and be well aware of their immature actions. I definitely felt the part about how they expect you to be an emergency to a problematic situation they created. My momma use to say, "If you make your bed hard, you gotta lay down in it."🤷🏾♀️
Thank you for allowing God to use you in this way. These videos are greatly appreciated. Your time and effort put into these videos is greatly appreciated!
Thank you Mr. Gaskin. For your wisdom and your time! God is simply amazing! He took your experiences and made them a positive! ONLY God can do that! It's not mathematically possible to make a negative into a positive! Weather the storms! I appreciate your transparency!
Me personally although I am currently a divorced single mother I have always been about having my own while at the same time wanting someone to "build with". I am independent but to a certain point - I don't act like I don't need or just gotta have a man but I will most definitely bring something to the table (financially). My thoughts and motives are a woman should still get her own hair and nails done instead of making a man do it because with or without a man a woman should do those things for herself because that is a part of self love (be it you do your own hair and nails or you go to someone and they do your hair and nails) - especially if you and that man is not married. When it comes to a relationship/dating/marriage especially if you have children should be either bettering herself or already in position when that man comes in her life letting it be known you're not needy and most definitely not a burden - prove stereotypes wrong. Instead you can still put something on the table with that man. Stop seeking men to do what you know you are well and abled to do for yourself.. Also make sure that man is on the same page as you (a go getter) I'm a type of women that likes my own money but don't mind breaking bread with a husband. 🤞🏽 On the flip side it's not spoken of so much but there are men that look at women the same way. He knows how his pockets are so he wants a woman that have as much as he does. I have been rejected by men like that who instead of not giving me that chance to show him what I could do he automatically look at only my children. He never looked into why I'm in college (my goals - I'm a 14 yrs deep Certified Medical Assistant in motion to advance my career into something more higher and an independent arena) and what my major is (Psychiatry) and how is it that I can go to school full time without working fulltime while in my own place (not on Housing) and doing just fine (praise be to God)... I just said oh well his loss. This is where ppl miss out on there Blessings but that's okay bc it don't have anything to do with you someone better will come along who will be down with you and not judge you. Women have to see it from that point too. Although I never judged men in this sense only that they need to be Something Productive - Legally. (Better than nothing bc I'm not fixing to let you take from my children's mouths)
Once I hear that, "Oohhh!!" 😩😭😭 I know he's very serious about what he just said. To give an example with such emphasis, and then when he gives them eyes 👀 😂😂😂😂😭😭😭 Be very bless Tony🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 Swear if I had you as teacher, I would make sure i pass!
I want my future husband to talk about me the same way Tony talks about his wife!!! He is truly a God fearing man who knows how to present life situations so that we can all learn something if we are open to it. Thank you so much. You have truly been a blessing to my life since listening to your videos. God Bless!❤
When I was younger (23) I definitely had SOME grown girl characteristics but I thank God now being 34 I have evolved and I am emotionally and spiritually mature and winning! 😊
Shhh I’m 23 right now definitely have some grown girl tendencies I’m so happy I seen this because I’m trying to become a better women . Grown women ❤️🙏🏾
I feel you on that God fearing and you onmy want an equal half not someone to do it cause you done hold it all down and you done worked you out ...sister that is something to be proud of and thankful for God has favored you there ain't many people men or women that develop themselves into this kind of person
He seems to be a wonderful man and husband. His wife is gorgeous!! 🖤 Yahweh bless their union and their experience with providing advisement to others ✊🏿🙌🏿
Tony has worked very hard to get to where he is at, and has been a blessing to many women including myself. He deserves to brag about his success, family, and beautiful wife!
I truly hope no one is on here being that petty! I love hearing good examples of how a man is supposed to treat his woman. The hope he gives that good men are still out there!
Tony said his wife was with him when he only had CIA. c=character, i= integrity, a=ambition. That’s why he gives her everything he can afford & washes her in love. Bless y’all!
OMG, I've been a grown girl before, except I never gave a man a child or asked for financial security, but I have played house. Thank God for newfound wisdom and favor! And Tony's knowledge!!!!
Yes! I’ve been a grown girl, too, playing house and what not. Not looking for financial security from anyone else but myself. I never processed or understood what emotional security was and that I needed it, until recently. I’m 43 years old and experiencing an awakening. The full grown woman thought I was is shook. I now realize that my grown woman attracts grown boys and I then regress.
Peaches Girl you ain’t by yourself!!!!! But you know what, we are learning and growing because when you know better you do better. We know better now!!!! 🤩
Me too I’ve been a grown girl before in the category of the ideal of love and playing house. But after watching this video .... I know what I need to work on.
Can I be honest for a second? 6 mins into this video and I’m not afraid to admit I’ve been being a Grown Girl. Wow. He really just broke down my logic and perspective. So I’ve been looking at this wrong the whole entire time. The man that I am currently dealing with ( who is a really great man) has been basically telling and showing me that I am a grown girl. But I haven’t been understanding him. He didn’t break it down like this. Thank you for breaking it down like that. You just changed my whole perspective. And possibly help me with the guy that I am currently dating.
Yup, I can take care of myself & my kids! I can’t be with a man for money, I need to be able to bounce if I disagree on how he treat me. God always got my back!!!
I'm so glad you done this video... Because I think people forget the other sex, when it comes to like you mentioning grown boys. Women can be "Grown Girls" too 😌
I’ve had my flaws but I remember when I took my paychecks to pay off backed up bills so my husband and I could start getting on track to buy a home. He got mad and said I didn’t buy him anything and I told him it’s time to start being financially responsible. He said I’m selfish and I also should have given the money to him instead.... Not all men like grown women. Some want grown girls... !
I am so impressed! I saw someone ask this question on live last night and you already have a video up! You're truly an inspiration and your work is making a difference in so many lives. I'm personally amazed by the story of you and Sheri. I've read A Woman's Influence and I even watch videos of yours that don't even apply to me. I've never been in a relationship before, but I truly believe that I'll be fully prepared when I finally step out into the dating world (after this 19 :D) thanks to the wisdom that you give freely. Thanks again
A Grown woman wants respect, displays emotional intelligence, doesn't play victim & loves like she's never been hurt before. 🙌🏾 Grown girls want attention and weaponize their insecurities. ✔
You have got to be the funniest life coach on RU-vid. I crack up everyday now lol. Very encouraging I pray for the brothers out there looking for a grown woman looking to build an empire with. I pray that all the grown boys and girls grow up!
I took a man off his Character and ambition and I was the only one working and he was bringing in illegal money and when I told him no!!!! You need to get a job. After 9 years of married nothing changed. Now I’m Divorce and can pay all my bills on my own!! So being there for a man don’t always work.
slightly disagree .. a grown women wants a financially stable man also, I dont see anything wrong with wants to be taken care of by a man to a certain point but not trying to take advantage of him financially.. .. the women that your describing is a INDEPENDENT WOMEN .. a man needs a little bit of both...good character and a stable income with ambition and goals to do better @tonygaskins but the other stuff on point
Whit I think he means if money is the primary focus over character, money and status is what drives you, if you would pick a sorry man with money over a man who can is maintaining an average living (place to live, car, wise with money but just does have 6 figures) but treats you well and has good character, then that female is a grown girl.
I think finding a man with a good career is reasonable, if that is your standards. Not all women want to be "bob-the-builders". A man with a good career can also have a good character. Men look and want good looking women, so why is it wrong for women to look and want affluent men.
@@teejayeemcneal2 Agreed, TG was saying financial security should be the obsession. Plus paying for your lifestyle belongs in a marriage no in dating relation ship
A men helped to heal my broken hart. Even though he perhaps did not know. I left him as he was co fused dealing with his own past. So i left him to himself just sent him gift in form of book to helphim overcome his pain.
I was definitely a grown girl in my last relationship. I was not emotionally intelligent, attention seeking, and had known idea what love was. I can appreciate this topic because sometimes women cause relationship to end as well...Tony thank you for discussing this. I’m in the healing process and learning the type of woman I am and want to be. I can say I’m closer to becoming a grown women
Samone, I definitely was. I was reactionary most of all. I'm also in the process of healing and I'm NOW definitely learning to become a Grown woman!!!😊
My brotha Tony said "Financial security is a lie from the pit of hell" ✊ Brotha your videos really encouraging and are blessing. The fruits of the spirit are apparent. True man of God.
The man is to provide...what is “dating” ..when a man is dating with a purpose and understands what the role of the man is he’s going to be just that for the woman because he want to be the man and not a “grown boy” .. feminine queens deserve a king..although she is able to survive on her own and provide for herself..a man shouldn’t look for a women if they are not ready.
rob j I’m saying he shouldn’t be dating at all if he’s not sure about having that girl as a wife...I feel it’s best to keep her as a friend and get to know her until he knows that’s who he want to pursue and in that case no he shouldn’t be acting as a husband
Neeky Neek idk, just cause he is able to provide doesn’t mean he has to while dating... well at least for this grown women... I want a grown man that gives his heart, that understands his role via GOD’s plan. With that in place the provisions are inevitable...therefore during the dating stage while we’re still figuring each other it’s not a necessity that he buys my meals cause him buying a couple of meals doesn’t necessarily proves he’s a provider🤔 Hell, grown boys can buy meals and pay occasional bills
Justdenise5 your right. men are not expected to pay every meal the “dating “ phase is basically still getting to know each other...it’s safe to call them friends during that time ..But understanding GOD’s plan further down the line, if they decide to go further with one another more is expected...In the pass I’ve had no problem paying for myself on dates because I knew our place.
@@robj8194 that's the problem, if you don't see a wife all over the women you're interested in... Leave her where she's at. If y'all not having sex and you don't go to her house then find. But if you're getting sex, grabbing remote controls, and taking showers.... You gotta pay a bill. Forget whatever you heard. And I'm well able to take care of my bills but you're not gonna use the fact that we're "dating" as an excuse to do NOTHING.
@@neekyneekk we got to understand too no one owes you anything other than you're husband and wife that's where vows come in. You don't give boyfriends husband treatment and gfs wifey treatment until they are wifey. Marriage minded yes along with this bc this is the most secure way of knowing it's not superficial. That's why it's taught to not have sex before Marriage. You be there for your gf and bf and even more so when yall married. Certain titles should have certain expectations.
@ Inana_rose In my opinion that’s a result when a woman devotes herself to “building” a man and the man doesn’t reciprocate “building” the woman, in return. Tony said in his previous videos that the man and woman are like “teammates” on the same team. Therefore, they both OUGHT to “BUILD” each other. If a woman helped a man to build him financially, then she needs to ask herself in what areas did the man help her to “build”? Does he help in building the woman in areas such as emotionally, intellectually, spiritually, or even financially? It has to be a HEALTHY exchange of helping ONE ANOTHER to grow, build and work towards a purposeful goal together.
@@sanjeshnidevi982 I just witnessed this kind of situation several time where a married couple were evolving together for many years and the husband had the nerve to leave just to see if the grass was greener somewhere else.🧐 The women I watched were not devoted to their husband they were normal hard working women.
Be blessed I made it. Good knowledge. The sad part is grown girls most of the time get a grown man and will hurt and ruin him.....and grown boys always seek to deceive grown women. Grown boys and grown girls should seek each. And leave the grown men and grown women alone so we can find each.
Hey Tony! I am a 22 year old woman and I just have to say I appreciate all of your videos ! ! I am proud to say that I am definitely approaching grown women tendencies and with still more growing to do 😇
Grown women are independent and can handle her own. She takes care of herself and don't need a man to do it for her. That's what attracts a man. Grown girls are needy , insecure and looks for men to take care of them . BE BLESSED 🙏🙏🙏
@@nijaelinflorida Exactly. If that's the case, then most of our grandparents and modern day housewives are grown girls. It's definitely more to being a grown woman than bringing finances to the table. That just makes a business partner.
To answer your question Tony...I’m 31 and I haven’t met that man you speak of in the video and I run in professional circles and usually the men with money are VERY immature and want to control you.
Excellent video Nephew Tony. I just need to tell you , it ain't bragging if it's true! I am a grown woman, but I married a grown boy. He just started his practice when we met. I always had his back,when we got married 3 years later I gave him the downpayment for our first home. We had our 1st child 3 years later. I still worked only 1 day a week. 2 years later had our 2nd child. His practice started growing . We moved into a much bigger home. He started changing. I still worked a little, but our babies came first so I had to sacrifice. I had to always be there for them, as a result my daughter got into 15 college's, 35,000 academic scholarship a year going into her junior year. My son is graduating from high school this year he got into 6 college's. He's going to school on the west coast we live on the east coast. My son is a director he made his 1st movie at 11. I say this to say because I married a grown boy, we are divorced after 21 years of marriage and 24 years together. All he can say is you're an excellent mother. I will take character any day of the week. I did believe I had a man of character. Obviously not! God bless Tony and your family. SDG
I feel like this is simply to have woman "build" with a man. So he can feel like she's no longer in his league. But anyway. If I'm in a level I will not date someone lower and try to bring him up. Just my thought.
LovingMe1st yeah but who cares really he treats her right and don’t cheat I’m happy for both couples and I really wish Ciara didn’t have a baby with future that could have been avoided he was already 3 baby mommas in before her
I have met mostly imposters who brag and boast about what they claim to have just to try and impress certain partners, which is why I've chosen to just be still and work on myself.
I would say too...Women, be careful dealing with men that bring those "Things" to surface...As a grown woman, I've had men squeeze triggers to things that I have worked through, forgave and gotten away from...Seeing those red flags ahead of time is where you Win...But, if you end up with a man that throws you in that grown girl whirlwind, knowing damn well, you have OVERCAME that era in your life... Result back to your Emotional Intelligence, straighten Your Crown...and go on about your Grown Woman Business. Don't let nobody take you back to a place you worked so hard to get away from...As for me, I let him know Clearly Who he was dealing with... and as I walked away...showed them how those "Things" made me to be the Grown Woman I am. THEN...I reaccessed MYSELF and found the loop hole that kept bringing selfish/ narcissistic men in my life.
I’m a grown woman.... I Would never treat new person as if he were my ex. I wouldn’t want him to treat me that way either. I would be very unfair on either side. No one would know about him until we’re married.
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Good afternoon Tony. Yes I know a good God fearing older gentleman that believes that marriage before anything else is important. This man exemplifies Godly Character and lives it daily.
I know a place where a bunch of those men have moved and they all still virgins right now. They make good money. They moved to the country to be away from all the nonsense going on. One found a real grown woman. They have a music studio and meet all the stars because they write many beats for them. That have a trucking company, they working the stock market, they trade gold and much more. They all do bodybuilding and body rebuilding health repair. I heard Beyonce came into the studio thinking she was about to get their attention but was sick that they were strictly business with her. lol One if them was raised by my King and me at our non profit organization and when he left my home he said he seen heaven in my home and wanted to build a heaven on earth where he can keep virgins safe also. I can not do it anymore so he took over. It was kids I found crying or about to kill themselves in my neighborhood who was about to be messed over by a dad or brother in their home and their moms and grandmothers would not listen. So we took them from their parents and told them we dont need their money or food stamps, nor will we tell on them if they dont tell that we took their child. The child will come visit them once a week. I talked to the women and my King talked to the men they had problems with. I dont know what he said but I know they trembled whenever they seen him. We could not register as a nonprofit in order to get help because of what the organization was. We had to use the money from our trucking company. Our minds are still like children, we dont know what to do with money. So we use it on children who needs help. Now that we have retired one of our GOE babies is keeping it going. He is asking us to come there and help them with the organization. I told him that we have to rebuild our body first. I do not whan his people to see anyone that is not worthy to live among them. Not even us. It is not just about caring enough to follow The Most Highs Laws, it is about taking care of the body he gave us so we look like we happy to follow his Laws, which we are happy. We just stop taking care of our body because of what jealous fools did to my King. When they jumped him and could not win, they snuck up behind him and hit him in the head with a crowbar. He has been mentally ill for a long time now, but I can see he is coming back now that he sees young brothers like Tony standing up. We made it young man, be blessed. Thank you so much.
Emotional intelligence is the awareness of your feelings and being able to place them where they need to go in a way that doesn't cause destruction or severe negative impact.. It's also about being aware of who you are and how you move and not allowing people or situations in your space that can disrupt that awareness in a negative way. & like Tony said it's seeking to understand others' feelings so that you can have the ability to adjust your own reactions. He talks about it all the time in many different videos even when not using the word emotional intelligence.
I love this...I use my emotions to guide me to the right decisions. Then I think about how to convey that emotion so that its not a reactionary, but thoughtful. I immediately about when I've said something incorrect AND I've learned to recognize deflection from a man.....I'm continuing to do the work...
Tony for some reason your videos have started speaking to me on another level. I think I'm ready to level up my life. No more distractions just me healing me.
I like the hypergamy teachings of developing and flourishing in your femininity; but that financial talk is the only thing that makes me disagree. If the Lord decided to give me a husband who makes significantly more than me then, fine. My requirement is that he’s able to take care of himself, COMPLETELY.
What Tony is saying is true. And frankly, this is how it should be. Ppl should stick with one another because of share values, or characteristics of the other ppl. But sadly, this ain’t the case nowadays. More specifically, in this time. And as a woman, I would never recommend a woman stick with man who’s trying to do right whilst building his career or himself because publicly and privately, we seen the risk ain’t worth the investment. Ppl don’t appreciate one another these says. Too kind aka too weak gets taken advantage of. I seen super rude, aggressive women get all the respect while the feminine, easy going woman gets treated like a door mat. I personally would never wait around for a man to get his act together no matter how ‘good’ of a person he portrays himself to be. I’ve also seen women, I work with work themselves to the point of exhaustion while their husbands manipulate them into thinking it’s a privilege to take care of their family. Ofcourse, it is but these men do so little to help their wives. Some would leave work tired only to go home bath kids, feed, teach them before putting them to bed. Husbands does the bare minimum. I know these maybe unrelated to the conversation but goes to how invested most women are in their relationships to begin with. In the end, some of these men would have affairs or end up leaving their wives during mid life crisis when youthfulness has a fade as a result of hardwork. Women give too much and suffered from it. I wouldn’t advice myself or any of my gfs to stick it thru with a man unless she’s benefiting from the relationship and not being taken advantage of. The good man line literally goes in one ear and comes out the other. I wouldn’t sign up for it
Absolutely. I was working hard when I met my husband. My husband was in college full-time. Once we married and the children came along i was working but transition to stay at home mom. My husband been sole provider. Now,, I am working towards a PHD and my husband career has soared. Everything your saying is so true.
Be blessed!!!! I loved these two videos “Grown Boy vs Grown Man” and “Grown Girl vs Grown Woman”. Your material is so authentic and helpful! I am 23 y/o and I am a young “grown” woman! Still growing but I’m happy that God has been building new into a grown woman ❤️🙏🏾
Be blessed... You told the truth about this and I know you hurt a lot of feelings today with this raw video today. Hearing this is just more confirmation that I'm a grown woman.
Your perspective of a grown girl got me crackin up! 😂 I feel damn good about the woman I am becoming and these videos prove my growth game strong! Thank you Tony!
I am a grown woman who provides for myself AND I require a man who can at least provide for himself and his future family. You were in your early 20s when you got married and I’m sure you were already financially stable at 30 with multiple streams of income. After a certain age, a man should be able to provide and if he can’t, he shouldn’t be dating and certainly shouldn’t be making a wife or a mother out of any woman. If you’re addressing men under the age of 25 then ok...no grown woman wants a broke man who is 25+ and certainly not 30+. You have many black female listeners and we don’t need to continue being encouraged to date down.
Shirley Shirls FACTS!!!! I was married at the age of 30 and was this down for my man Woman he speak of was on my job 7 yrs at the time. So I’m working and doing the family thing because he had goals and ambition. Long story short after 10 yrs of marriage I’m happily Divorce with to beautiful boys and he back at home living with his mom
I am 46 and ive had struggle love. that is for young ppl. at my age getting ready to retire, i am not looking for a man working a Mcdonald's, I am sorry. we usually agree, but if he is not in the same place in life, getting ready to retire, we are not equally yoked. he either not financially mental stable or not drive as i am. I have raised 6 kids as a single mother and am looking to travel after I retire not worry if a man can get time off at Mcdonals. Lets be serious, being a grown man requires a man to also have the ability to care for himself. Therefore character requires him to have a job, age matters, because as some point, you progress from flipping burgers to managing (big difference) a 46 yr old woman should not be looking to wait 17 years........ I have 1 job Ive been on 20yrs and 2 businesses. I am too only for struggle love. a man does not have to be rich but he surely can be broke without a steady income.
Tony, based on your description of a "grown woman", both my daughters are definitely grown. Both are self-supporting, educated, and beautiful, but also single. At 34 and 32 years old, however, I would love a grandchild or two. So I shared your videos, "How to date correctly", and "How to read a man's character". I think this is a good start on the Tony Gaskin train. I've recommended you highly. Thanks for all you do.
* The type of girl you talking about is "Princess Syndrome"... A grown girl that wants to be taken care of. I remember coz someone asked about it yesterday, and you was like 🤔🤨 "I don't know what that is... Next question." Hope that person sees this video
Thanks because I wanted to know what that mean also. I was trying to think of what it could mean. I thought it was a girl who was spoiled by a dad and wanted a man to give her the same thing her dad gave her. So am I right to understand that you are saying that it means a girl who had no dad to spoil her like a princess so she wants a man to make up for the fact that she was jealous of those who had a dad who did that for them?
@@farrowife9230 I think that term just means a girl who demands to be spoilt. And may have an attitude. Regardless of whether they have a father in their life. In the UK we may call someone like that, a brat
@@AyooFreshie lol We call them brats here in the US also. That is why we are trying to get whoever made up that new term to put and meaning to it. We make up words and phrases all the time here, so we are just waiting for the creator to make up a solid meaning for it. lol
Thank you Tony for sharing your Testimony. Alot of women came from broken homes and single parents. I appreciate the positive aspect of Teaching what Grown Women do not understand about Humility and growing in love with someone. Men also need to apply themselves in developing themselves in choosing a compatible partner. Great topic and discussion. Blessings 👏
