Simone's "husband" relies on his looks because his money isn't long enough to sustain a real so-called gold digger or "Baddie." He wants to be the Baddie. Lol.
Hes a football player who is making more money then most men in the world he has fame status and money most things women would want and works out hes not really missing anything in reality in that context. Hes not soley using his looks alone
What Tony is speaking is the truth. If you are a single woman in this dating market then you have to take these things into consideration. If you know you’re average and a man way better looking than you is pursuing you then you have to wonder why. I don’t think I’m ugly. I’m fit and keep myself looking nice but i know as a brown skin woman I’m not the standard of beauty for most men. I understand that I Will most likely have to choose an unattractive man if I want him to be a provider for me. I will also most likely have to venture outside of my race as well. Some of y’all have to be honest with yourselves. Just focus on looking your best and being realistic when dating
I had to realize this as well and my current boyfriend is not my usual type; however he treats me amazing and brings the money. I remember last week we were at a comedy show and people just stared at us because they trying to figure out how did that nerd guy pull her.
🎯 I am 57 years old and I agree with just about everything you say..I even have my 33 year old son admiring your teachings.. keep up the good work and may GOD continue to bless you and your family.
DEAR DSBW. YOU are loved. YOU are wanted and you are beautiful. I know its so damn hard to affirm yourself when the world says otherwise but damn it...DECENTER MEN! What has desirability gotten any woman? Halle Berry, Shakira, Beyonce, Sandra Bullock, Adriana Lima. KENYA MOORE, Mariah Carey. DESIREABility is a depreciating asset that doesnt ensure you will be loved well -just coveted. Demand respect. Earn it through your accolades and great treatment of yourself. Desireability does not ensure a long healthy marriage. It ensures that men will beg, borrow, lie and steal to get you inntheir possession. JUST like a damn car. 🙄 I love you all and if this Simone Biles thing has shown us BW...the WORLD sees our greatness. EVEN if our male counterparts do not.
You are right, Tony, a lot of people only seek to prey on people. It doesn't mean the person is unattractive it's that alot of people know they can use their body and looks to scam vulnerable people. I pray Simone biles is ok!!!
If a man notices another man's "beauty" it doesn't mean that you're gay. A handsome man is a handsome man. An unattractive man is an unattractive man. Means nothing. I don't know...I think that the people in the comments who would even suggest that about you Tony have some maturing to do. I have older guy friends (in their 50s and 60s) that can say their son looks handsome or can acknowledge if a man looks sharp in a suit or whatever it is, and they feel secure within themselves as a man. It's not a big deal to acknowledge one another unless you make it a big deal. Same thing with telling another man you love him. I love it when I see men say, "I love you, brother/dad etc. We NEED more love in this world. We need to be telling each other that we love one another and are here for each other. I work in a field where people are starved for love.
I definitely get what Tony is saying some dudes be trying to make me an acceptation to the rule because I’m dark skin but I have the features society deem as attractive and soon as a guy tell me, “you the first dark skin girl I actually find attractive” or “I didn’t even like dark skin girls at first” ion even pay them any mind after that cause boy bye! It be black boys same color as me saying that too me…..
A grown man darker than me just told me he prefers lighter skin women or Hispanic women. I ask why did you ask for my number? He said because he likes peace now.🙄 I haven’t responded.
@@GlamrocsBLOCKED!! Girl I’m glad you ain’t give him the time or the day!! And I don’t understand why they think a skin complexion dictate a person personality! People are slow
Well, Tony broke this down. And he is very much right with men gain points due to be able to provide and women gain points with her level of attraction. It is what it is.
I learned as a teenager to not be delusional and reach for the stars as far as looks are concerned and I began to scrimmage at the bottom of the barrel and still ended up getting played. I just can't win for losing, but I gotta admit I wasn't conducting myself as Tony has taught me to so I've got a lot of inner work to do.
I wanna say I did the same thing (or something similar) as you did and got burned...the lesson: we don't have to scrimmage at the bottom of the barrel just because we aren't prioritizing "looks". Attraction still matters.
this right here. looks dont atter as much as character. alot of men that are unattractive have great personality, which leads to cheating and big ego. character is what matters the most
This is so true. That’s what I said when I seen them together. His second wife will be looks comparable to him. He is using her. She needs to get that marriage annulled before it gets costly. Women need to start looking at things logically and ask why is he choosing me. Women need to be realistic of how coupling works. As an adult women I would never date a man that looks better than me. I did that as a child and ended up being a single teenage mother. Never again!
I’m glad Tony is talking about this and I liked when you said women need to ask why is he choosing me. I had a guy DM me on IG who’s not what I normally attract. I don’t qualify myself as ugly and my self esteem is healthy. I’ve never had a problem attracting men as a plus woman but I know the normal type that is attracted to me. Even if he’s good looking to others as well, my typical guy is not fine fine. He’s not looking like Simone’s husband. So when the guy DM’d me trying to strike up conversation, off rip I said sir I am genuinely not trying to come off as rude but I’d like for you to state your intentions for messaging me. I believe we can be realistic without downing ourselves. By society standards, I’m not the first pick. If I go out with a group of women, I’m more than likely not gonna be the one a man buys a drink for. I’m ok with that. But I DO know that sis ain’t ugly😂😂😂😂😂 It would unrealistic of me to want a man of a certain status to pursue me just based off my looks alone. My mindset was always this growing up: Imma like who like me😂😂😂😂That doesn’t mean settle but it gave me options which allowed me to even attract men who had some looks on them.
@@melaniegenuinely you right but you know people sell their souls dignity self esteem for $$$$ and for good looking people especially if you been told you ugly or rejected all your life when a good looking person who your past experiences has taught you won’t date you seriously comes up to her she thinks I finally got a fine handsome man to really like me seriously while to him she’s a come up financially and how much you want to be SHE DID NOT sign a pre nup. She’s wants those pretty babies with good hair and attractive facial features at any cost. How many women have kids out of wedlock with men just because he looks good or is tall well built etc. You are a nice looking lady and you can get married stay the course you on!
The bottom line is… YOU HAVE TO BE GENUINELY IN LOVE WITH YOU & KNOW YOUR WORTH. No matter what gender, color, shape, or size you have to love you thee absolute most, get to know yourself and constantly work on self-improvement and what that looks like to you in all areas. If you do not have this mindset, you will be a follower, be used, conned and taken advantage of in some form or fashion whether that’s in a relationship or at work. KNOW YOUR WORTH AND ADD TAX! Always focus on your abundance, mind, body and soul… then you will be able to feel and easily know what is genuine, what is fake, what is influenced by society etc. You will move this way in all situations in life and only get better at it!! 👑
I actually thought the same thing when I first saw Simone Biles and ? What's his name. Until this interview, I thought that maybe they were both kinda the green, sweet type and therefore "societal standards" didn't matter. Now that I've heard from ? himself, I'm like oh he playing with that girl. God bless her 🙏🏾 hope she's happy though. Also. You are hilarious 😂
I don’t know why some of yall still confused. Tony is talking about the WORLDLY VIEW and SOCIETY VIEW of types…Go look at football players, top celebrities men and basketball players? They are choosing mixed race ambiguous women. Not nobody that looks like Simone Biles. You see Serena Williams had to go outside her race.
I've always understood what Tony meant by looks compatibility... it was not based on his personal view and is based on societal views and if everyone listened to understand, they would understand this.
"How did this creature get this creAtion?" Drop the mic 🎤. I'm done. 😂 That is so true. I'm lovn this looks compatibility breakdown Tony. I totally get it. Get out of your feelings Ladies. Tony is teaching. 🙌🏽
Tony is right. I tell young ladies not to get a man that looks better than you. Nine times out of ten ,it doesn't work. Simone is young and we all made mistakes in the past. I pray that she have a prenuptial agreement and wait five years to have a baby.
The bottom line is money and fame gives you access to people and things you normally would not have access to regardless of looks...... realistically and statistically...normal regular people date on their normal regular level......looks and financially
Lots of parents don't know. I share Tony's teachings with my Mom to help her as well....many parents did they best they could but just didn't have to tools and grew up bathed in toxicity.... speaking from my experiences and those I know...
Watching from Kathmandu, Nepal. What you say is so profound and sad at the same time. I own the skin I was born in. And happier for it but had to, over time learn to love my dark skin because societal norms and some men in my community said my complexion was not desired. Thank God, I have a husband of 20 years that loves me the way that I am. IMO, the degrading concept of colorism has always existed in all societies. I equate it to people comparing blonde vs brunette hair color. While we all have preferences, some act as if blonde hair is a character trait. Therefore, making it seem as if women with blonde hair are more attractive. I think it's completely ridiculous and so superficial. Watched a dating show where, a woman wore a blonde wig but had naturally brown hair. The guy didn't like the brown haired girl but praised the blonde girl. It was the same woman and same convo. What??? Looks become irrelevant when you need someone to care for you on your sick bed or support you when you need it most. Superficiality won't fly with those types of scenarios, Good luck with that. But you know what doesn't fade over time? Love, respect, loyalty and intellect. Thanks for the insight.
This would be a great video for victims of online Romance scams. These folks sending their life savings to someone they have never met in person, based on a fake profile picture of someone way out of their league, who would never date them in person.😢
I have an idea where Im at on the looks scale. Any time a super attractive man approaches me I am skeptical of him. I’m not afraid to say I ain’t that cute. …Who sent ya?? 😂
He secured the bag, she secured the look. Sorry Simone you are young, you have time to start over please listen to wise council and don't have a baby with him. You have plenty of time to procreate. God bless you young beautiful Simone
Points well taken Tony👏 👌you said the key words why people cannot understand certain facts is because they don't listen to understand they operating out of their own insecurities. Keep sharing the LIGHT! Blessings 🙌
The more I have listened to your videos, the more I agree so much. I know how the world sees me and I am fully aware of that. I have put it thru the test and hey, I have to be honest, is real. It takes a real man to really look at women in another way. They are programmed. We can't keep ignoring what you are telling us and you are speaking what it is. Thank you because this was something I had to truly sit with it and accept it and the world judge us women this way and we just gotta keep working on ourselves and continue to be authentic..the rest, God will handle ..
TG is 100% correct and knows what he is talking about on this matter. I remember when I was in college this was the early 2000s, and there was a young black man that was attractive and his fiancé she was not attractive based on societal construct of beauty- she was dark skin (think Lupita N complexion) wore glasses, and tall and thin. I was like how are they together? But that young man was seeing her through God’s eye (she was a hard worker, nice and sweet, a Christian). Both were Christian and that taught me a valuable lesson a real man could care less about looks, he wants peace.
Also people are coming from an internalized belief and insecurity! I’m darkskin and i am very aware of everything Tony is saying but I’m not offended simply cause I’m not internalizing or taking the realities of the world personally! I simply choose not to become a victim and be offended by something I can’t control 🤷🏽♀️
I know no one wants to hear it that they might be less attractive than what they’re driving for in a partner but it’s true Tony it’s fax. They used to call it a face match but couples who look more similar and more compatible. Have more success rate in marriage. It’sscientifically proven
Tony Gaskins is so funny 😂😂 after 2 videos about the husband of Simone Biles, 1 hour and half about him. He still don’t know his name and neither do l 😆😆
Understanding the concept of Looks Compatibility is empowering. Understanding this will help individuals successfully navigate romantic relationships as well as assist parents in child rearing. Who we choose to marry is one of the most important decisions of our lives. We must make wise choices and help our children make wise choices. Thank you, Tony. You’re continuously positively contributing to our society. God bless you.😇
Example: Michael Jordan married the societal standard twice. His first wife’s look was being praised & promoted during the time he married her, and his second wife’s look was being praised & promoted when he married her. Also, Jordan’s son, Marcus, is in a relationship with a woman whose look is being praised & promoted. Please note that I’m a huge Michael Jordan fan, and in my opinion, he is the the greatest athlete of all time. Sooo don’t get it twisted.😌 I don’t have anything against anyone mentioned above. This is just an example.😉
Hi Tony. As an older woman, I wonder how these situations play out and how the women in these situations will feel about their choices as they age. As we as women age, our inner and outer attractiveness is affected by the choices we made when we were younger. I am so grateful for the Lord Jesus Christ, who heals us and teaches us women how to be wise in relationships. This presentation offers another dimension to wisdom, discernment, knowledge and skill in relationships with men. Thank you, Tony.
Tony, your explanation of “looks compatibility “ was very clear to me. I sure hope everyone who has seen this video and listened to you actually heard you.
I’ve been watching you for a very long time and you never miss. The Truth will set you free. I love the way you teach with absolutely no hiccup. I know the word is coming from the Holy Spirit and I’m here for it. I need it and your teachings have blessed me beyond measure. I pray you continue to seek Gods to transform our lives❤… be blessed and I pray the power of the blood over you and your family.. Thank you so much!!!
I totally understand what you are saying and I agree thank you for putting us up on game. I appreciate you for being authentic and sharing your person story with us 😊
I get what Tonys saying , I watch a dating show called love island and it happens there too.Whenever a white guy is coupled with a black women they all constantly ask if he’s actually attracted/likes her lol, it’s sad but most people don’t expect black women to be able to date attractive men(especially if they have money)bc they usually aren’t checking for Bw.
Ironically that show is full of the very people that Tony described will be the average human in about two decades. Boys and girls with light brown skin, curly hair and green or Hazel eyes.
@@deionjohnson8683 wow! I watched the same show too. Dark skinned women are chosen last. Did you watch the love island games one where dark skinned black girl Justine was coupled with white boy name Jack???
@@MJ-ln4xm yes , Love Island games, Jackstine as they call it but hes not interested either, he knew she won the first Season and stayed coupled up to win love island games…Now they’re just friends no relationship ever came from it ……..
It's so interesting that in a phase of my life where I've been doing a lot of deep inner work around appearance for many different reasons and your video comes out as part of my process to undo what I been taught. I never felt good enough bc every decade had a different standard of what all us women should be in order to please men at the end of the day, be disliked by women as well and it's all just a scam to copycat and buy what we weren't given by God. I started working out and lifting for 10 yrs & often times i've been told i wasn't good enough for not being thick. Accepting myself as i am and naturally enhancing what i have to be it's best is the direction i took despite what society say's. That's why I don't even get on social media anymore bc I realized how nuanced and yet small the scrolling ends up slowly becoming these tid bit of how we begin to form that program. before you know it, your in this unconscious state of making apts to get lip fillers or whatever it is for you as a woman. I had to wake up and realize wait a minute, what am I zombing my way into? Is that where I place my value? And why am energetically, financially that invested into this external aspect of me of which draws men or ppl who end of valuing you and the next for superficial things. Rambling here but Thank you Mr Tony for validating my personal journey of growth.
Yesss same for me… I’m 23 years old and I’ll never get surgery out a bbl. I’m slim, dark skin & beautiful! But I’m very aware how people view dark skin girls so I understand that and know it. But I will never stop being me! I don’t little myself and I love dark girls and light girls! We all are beautiful and I’ll never play myself small around nobody who is lighter than me I understand she may have certain advantages because of the skin but I’ll never ever get upset like I use too I understand now! In every room I walk in my presence is always felt without trying or being the typical type. When I started showing up for myself and doing it for me everything changed. Idc about society and God created us just as he wanted us to be.
@@OrganicallyYahs Thank you for sharing beautiful!! So happy and proud of you for your wins! You are so right and not alone on how that self doubt loves to creep in! it's almost like we have to put blinders on to remain focused on the many other things that we are valuable for. Keep being and trying your best! Thank you for the beautiful energy in your share! 🫶🏼
@@hellothere8347 Thank you for sharing beautiful! Loveeeee to hear that for you especially at your age! that is amazing!!! It's so unfortunate that darker girls aren't celebrated more on a societal level. Oddly enough, I can resonate with skin color challenges as a brown/"tan" Latina, I've had my own struggles. Took me a while to fall in love with my skin color and I truly feel dark women are gorgeous! Keep up with your beautiful self positivity! It's such a light to represent yourself as a unique beauty and do so for other little girls who resonate 🫶🏼
Tony - We understand what you are saying (don’t worry about the folks who are choosing to be ignorant). I just hope Simeon doesn’t get wiped out financially by her grown boy husband. You are right there’s NO WAY a man who truly loves you would say the things her husband did smh, he would be trying to protect and praise her
She’s a come up to him financially and he’s a come up to her for looks genetics 🧬 etc. How much you wanna bet she ain’t sign a pre nup she ain’t gone do nothing to upset him. He barely likes her probably there’s no way he would let her make him sign a pre nup. He’s a fringe nfl player at that he ain’t no all star high level player she was a HUGE come up to him.
She definitely will get wiped out. He’s going to make sure she pops out some kids first. Once he’s set for life, he will start the cheating and disrespect. It’s unfortunate but its the truth
Makes sense, i remember in high school how people selected there bf or gf based on looks and status...still happening just some people are deviating from what folks think they should be with, whom they look better with. Sad but people are bold enough to ask you why you chose someone they deem unattractive
As a dsbw who works in the modelling industry… no lies told here. Not one lie. However, I oddly experience the ambiguity experience from black American men so I’ve been on both sides of the coin. I get u 100%
Fair enough. But remember ladies and whoever read this, please don’t limit yourself to black men. While our brothas will reject us because we’re not conventionally pretty, there are other races of men that will embrace our authentic selves in spite of our physical flaws. I get body weight can be a deterrent but again, there are exceptions and a man that will genuinely love you for who you are. While many of us are waiting for our Boaz to come in the form of Dante, we are dissing Randy, Jose, or Ahmad who’ll love the hell out of us. To prove my point, look at Gabby Sidibe and who she’s married to. Nope, it ain’t about money. I recently saw this very unattractive overweight dark skinned woman at a book store but she had a bf, a Randy. I say all of this to say yes looks are important but please don’t limit yourselves to just black men. Tony is speaking for all men but the vibes I do get that it’s mainly from a brotha’s standpoint. Unless you have hips, lighter skin, especially lighter skin, your chances with landing a brotha is slim to none 🤷🏽♀️
I agree with everything you said minus the last sentence in your first paragraph and your last paragraph. We are not flawed, and to say all black women are unconventionally pretty is not right. Some men may not find some/all black women attractive but to say an entire group of women are undesirable is not correct. That's such a generalized statement to make. And I'm a black woman who has been highly desired by men of multiple races, and I have options lol.
Tony, most women listen to respond/confront; not to understand/learn. I always thought he was dating/marrying Simone to elevate his profile and future mate (s.) Simone wasn't practical in the decision to date/marry bc of inexperience/immaturity. She was driven by emotions which is a death sentence for most relationships; not just hers. God gave us intuition as women. Simone just chose to ignore hers bc she's in love... Men don't VALUE anything they DO NOT WORK FOR PERIOD.... Simone got exactly what she wanted and chased... Zebras will always show their stripes if we are patient, Sometimes we choose to ignore them thinking this is unique. Simone has chosen her emotions/love over the natural order of when a Man finds a Wife...
What I teach people is BE HEALTHY, WORK OUT AND TAKE CARE OF YOUR LOOKS (focus on what YAHWEH GAVE U AND NO NEED FOR BOTTOX AND SURGERY) BECAUSE IT NOT ONLY SHOWS LOVE TO SELF, but IT IS HEAVENLY FATHER LS TEMPLE. YOU DONT HAVE TO FOLLOW THE PROGRAMS BUT BE ATTRACTIVE FOR YOURSELF AND GOD BECAUSE WE REPRESENT HIM. And a good body that is healthy and confident is a body that will not have sickness and diseases. And THAT IS IN THE WORD TOO.
Great points, Tony. You are absolutely right. I would love to see a video from you on how looks challenged women can find happiness in this life without finding a mate. Any tips you can offer would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
I got a tip understand we are all in the same boat and you just have to get what you can get and have fun with your life. Have so fun have a drink put on a skank outfit get some girlfriends and go to a concert. Get hit on by guys out of your league and in your league just have fun if it’s nothing for you in being serious. Be a normal human being no matter what because life is too short to be hung up on a men. And on your death bed you will know you have lived your life to the fullest.
I would like to hear your thoughts on Halle Bailey and DDG especially with her hiding her pregnancy although they both are very active on social media. Also they buy each other very expensive gifts but are delayed in making their commitment solid with marriage.
Tony went all the way in but at 34:52 is where he sets this message on fire for me! This is exactly what I realized a few years ago and have been carefully dating ever since. I don’t date broke or financially unstable men who have nothing much to offer but sweet talk 🍆 and marriage. I will only date a man who is financially on my level or better. I’ll be damned if I date a man who wouldn’t choose me at his best just to say I have someone. I don’t need his money but this is one way I filter out a man who only wants to use me. I’m beautiful and I know I don’t look like the presence. I’d rather be single than be used to better a man for his dream woman. *Drops mic*
I wish I could like this video 10x’s. 🔥🔥🔥🔥 These types of specifications are necessary to be learned when it comes to relationships. I’ve never heard of this before. My mother has a way of saying it in her native language. I get what she means. Tony provided a whole in depth lesson for men and women to understand before devoting themselves to someone who doesn’t deserve you and waist your time. Get in the Growth Club and get rid of any false narratives you may have lingering in your mind.
I was today years old when I learned this concept I had previously thought about it but assumed it was jut my insecurities even told few people and they told me that I’m being insecure or diminished as a rant, this whole time I was right this look thing does exist
Tony is saying the same thing Kevin Samuels was saying. His delivery is better which lets people follow and understand what he's saying. Thank you Tony! God Bless!
I understand wat ur saying and breaking it down society is Influenced by social media and our own people sometimes 😊 prejudice is always thrrr we jus have to accept n move on
Yall got Tony on these videos talking real slow because women are constantly all in their feelngs from his commentary. You ladies better grow some tougher skin. It's like the hunger games out here.Tony trying to give you all a dose of reality. 😂
Tony, TO GOD BE THE GLORY!!!! You always explain things as non-bias as possible…. I Understand where you come from, and your spirit, TO ME; is pure and in alignment with God! God bless you, your beautiful wife, and those handsome boys!!!! Keep doing the work!!!!
Keep telling the Truth Mr. Tony!!😮😮 You are a true blessing to women and men regarding relationships! I am an older woman and I wish I had heard valuable information like this when I was younger. Some people really can't handle the Truth! Please keep doing God's work! May God continue to Bless you and your family 🙏
I knew this was coming. I am usually reasonable but I felt a way about that last video and how you talked about dark skin people and hazel or light brown eyes.
Wow. This truth has been in existence since the times of Christ. I have no idea why this message is not understood. Thank you yet again for awesome communication, Mr. Gaskins.
You are speaking truth here and I’ve said this before. When I was married(divorced since 2017). My ex was not attractive and people always asked why are u with him. And it’s sad but many would say,”he so ugly.” Buahahhaha but yes the truth is he was a provider and a beautiful mind and heart ♥️ but I was not attracted to him physically. I know now what I didn’t know then. So, coming from an honest person. You are speaking truth here. So, now I know that I do need to at least be attracted to the person and not just spiritual maturity. But all should be aligned mental and spiritual and physically matters. So, yes the majority is that way. And so that’s why I gave it to God to find my mate since you I don’t care about the ways of the a world and the season phases. As long as I’m attracted to him physically as well. I’m good and God will determine who is right for me and who I am right for according to HIS PURPOSE. Because one thing I learned by THE WORD, GOD brings people together for purpose. And I’m allowing HIM to do that. I thought my ex was Gods purpose because he was a pilot and taught me and I thought we would fly around the world and serve God but didn’t happened. 😂 I learned to fly but then realized I had it all wrong. I have to allow Him and also to heal and be whole because I wasn’t then. Second time will be right.
I will be totally honest...I was initially in my feelings because of my childhood trauma. As I continued to listen I know you are speaking the truth. Thank you..hope this enlightens others.❤❤
See how Tony defends his wife? Jonathan Owens missed the boat for Simone Biles. Unfortunately, Jonathan did not defend Simone like she is currently defending him. Every woman has to learn her lessons. I hope Simone does not get hurt.
By listening to that interview, if she is not already being verbally abused she eventually will be. And the fact that SHE drove to see him says a lot...Just wish more women knew their worth.
Thank you for your transparency I'm ok with who I am not ugly at all but not traditionally beautiful I wish more people would be able to be honest with themselves and live their best lives no insecurities just happy with being who God created them to be..God Bless you and your beautiful family.❤
This explains ALOT of things and ALOT of relationships and why the finest of our men on our society go for the average looking non-Black chick! In other words interracial relationships, colorism, white supremacy the whole nines…. ---- Thank you Tony. You explained what I’ve been thinking a while ago…we just have to deprogramme on our own as society isn’t going to change anytime soon.
