Hacks to Cope with Female Autism Traits | AUTISM IN GIRLS 

I have such a hard problem with letting go of the fear of embarrassment when it comes to doing what is best for me. Thank you for posting this!

Pro-tip regarding journalling and not using sentences from a life-long, failed journaler: DO NOT follow any "convention" that does not suit your purpose. As soon as I stopped caring about spelling grammar size space lines, journalling began working. It was incredibly liberating!

Many autistic people likely already do this and may not realize it but embrace echolalia for the conversation tool that it is. It was advice I received to get through job interviews. Repeat the last phrase of a question to give your brain time to process a response to the question. It can also let others know you’re listening or that you understand them in a conversation when your nonverbal cues of communication aren’t typical. Providing noise to a conversation also can help fight against being interrupted which I image is a widely share frustration among the autistic people who may be reading this comment. The embrace communicating in the ways that work best with how you operate and allow you to be heard and understood.

Something that really helped me, particularly with the frequency and severity of my meltdowns, was prioritizing sleep. I know naps were mentioned as a type of "break", but this goes beyond that. Not getting enough sleep causes so many problems. It makes me more sensitive to triggers, hinders my ability to make decisions, decreases my emotional control, and increases the likelihood that I'll make mistakes. All my major meltdowns can be traced back to bouts of poor sleep or sleep deprivation. I take more naps now than I ever have, and I'm 1000x happier and easier to get on with because of it.

“If you don’t care about my life update, please skip over the video”. I care about your life. ❤️😊. Congrats on the engagement! 😊😊

I have a funny habit where I wear one of my earbuds without music when working and sometimes out, if it’s really loud I just put in both sometimes but usually wearing just one make it feel simpler to listen to things. I pay attention to the things on one side and don’t worry about the other ear haha.

You might like calmer ear buds for the movies, they have transparent ones so they aren’t as noticeable and they filter out the distressing tones.

For people who are sensitive to light, you can get coloured lenses. It could be because of Irlen Syndrome, my optician thinks I have this but they did a generic test called EZ Reader and gave me coloured lenses from that as the Irlen lenses are way more expensive. The test also determines which colour to go for as everyone has a different range that they find the most comfortable.

Speaking of wearing sunglasses if you have sensitivity to night lighting especially with driving at night you can use night glasses with the yellow or Orange tinting. As far as a therapist goes if you see one make sure it’s a therapist who specializes in Autism and Aspergers. I had to learn that the hard way. The ones who don’t specialize in those areas can be biased as well. Also as far as ear plugs go I would recommend using to work or shooting ones that are plastic/rubber not foam. They are kind of like the music ear buds.

OMG! YES! I stopped going to movies at theaters because it was so overwhelming! I still remember the PAIN of seeing the 1st Lord of the Rings movie in the theater! It felt like explosions in my brain! All of these are great tips! THANKS! and Congratulations to you and your love on your engagement!

Hi! So I have 7/10 characteristics of ASD. I so appreciate your videos. I can highly relate to this video. I wear headphones to the store, I journal, and I definitely DON’T wear anything I don’t like. As a kid I used to say, “I can’t wear these pants, they’re making me angry! I also wish I could find shoes for winter I didn’t have to wear socks with. I. Hate. Everything. About. Socks! I swear I must have autism but there’s only one person in my town who diagnosis adults

Congratulations! 🎊🎈🍾 I’ve been wearing the squishy earplugs for years and they really do help. I struggle very much with the even the smallest crowds, even family dinners 😳 I take my breaks by sitting in my car. Fewer nuclear meltdowns😊💕

I have a really hard to getting motivation for working out. I'm overweight and know I need to workout daily. It's just hard to get started. I'm an Autistic stay at home to two Autistic children whom I homeschool. I was diagnosed less than 6 months ago after our child were diagnosed.

Congratulations on your engagement! I am not diagnosed with autism. I do find your videos super helpful. Ear buds and noise cancelling headphones are a recent discovery for me, unfortunately I get a lot of pain if I wear them for more than an hour as I'm very pressure sensitive but they do make some events a bit more bareable and I'm less likely to zone out.

You're adorable....you look great. Congratulations on your engagement and also on the success of your business's. You are truly an inspiration to many. I love looking at comments and am always amazed at those who are catching on to why they feel like they do. My husband is a professional Para for austic kids at a middle school. The spectrum is large. Some don't speak a word, some have meltdowns with tantrums. As the boys grow and get stronger, they break tablets, furniture, make messes etc. His job is to continue to teach and help with their schooling. Some are downs syndrome Some are great at math or writing, or art. Drawing amazing pictures. Kudos Olivia for a wonderful you tube channel and all the people you are helping. 💕🙏😇🥰

I'm autistic! This absolutely rocks that I'm able to understand this finally. Yay for me! Hopefully this comment doesn't offend anyone, I'm just happy I'm able to delve into this more and finally get the much needed help I need. :] stay up folks

Thanks! For this I strongly believe that I do have Autism and Asperger’s and a gifted adult I did do a self-diagnosis on myself and I cried bc I finally understood myself and trying to put it into play of what I do how to handle myself etc… I’m still learning but thanks so much from a lot of your videos that I watched over the past and even from last week! And congrats on your engagement!! 🎉🎉🎉 😁🙏🏽💜💜 I hope nothing but the best for you guys and sending blessing to you guys as well!!! 🙏🏽💜

CONGRATULATIONS, you guys!!! Olivia, keep talking the talk and walking the walk. (of course, Alex...you know you'll have to do some from your point of view. That way you can help me help my son take care of himself, while supporting his fiancee.) Peace

Congratulations to you and Alex on your engagement!!! 🎊🎈🎉 Much happiness to you both!!! My daughter and I are super excited for you all!❤️❤️❤️

I wore a blanket over my head and docked out to a concert this summer without being bothered by the strobes and having to go home middle of concert. My bf actually placed it over me and I felt embarrassed at first but it worked and I realized that no one is watching me. It also helped that we are in Wa and it was raining so it was a great umbrella :-)

I am so happy for you!

Congratulations!!! 🎉💗 Thank you for your helpful advice Olivia! 🤍🕊

❤️ Love it. Congratulations to you both, so inspiring.

Many Congratulations to you both!

Loving you and your desire to reach out to the community with your helpful insight!

Congratulations! That all is so exciting!! You have such a beautiful and unique ring💍 Wishing you the lifetime of happiness!

Congratulations to you both.

Congrats Olivia!!! That’s such exciting news!! Thanks for sharing that and all your experiences!!! It’s such a gift to watch your videos. Looking into getting diagnosed.

Olivia, you are a beautiful young lady! ❤️ Thank you for your informative input. Some of these tips I haved learned to do over the years of trial and error on my on. You are an awesome soul!! Thank you again!😊

My algorithm has been persistent with recommending you...and I’m so happy today was the day! This is so simple but exactly what I needed to hear 👻

U are wonderfull !!! u r helping so many people by sharing your thoughts ..helping people to understand what they are feeling ,and that it's important to be who you are . No one is just like anyone else ..be YOU

Yay...Exciting Times!! Good advice too.

This is enormously helpful and I'm so grateful I stumbled upon your channel. No official dx yet, on the hunt for a specialist in SC who could confirm one way or the other if I'm ASD. 100% certain of it myself, but it would be helpful to have the official diagnosis. Life is suddenly making so much more sense and these tips are so beneficial!

Congrats girl!

You are incredibly wise beyond your years!

Why would I skip on the life update? I'm happy you're getting married soon! Congratulations, Olivia and Alex!

Congratulations on your engagement! I wish you both a beautiful time and a best wedding you can imagine! :-D What helps me with social media (and other apps) is the app timer on android phones. (under digital wellbeing or something like that) You can set a certain amount of time per day for each app and when that time is up, you can add 10 minutes, after those the app closes automatically and cannot be started until the next day. Naturally you can just increase the time and then use the app again immediatly but this tool helps to regulate the amount of time spent on each app. ("What? I've already spent 2 hours on app x?!") I found this very helpful :-)

Olivia, will you do a video on hEDS? It would explain gut issues in Autistic people!

I've really been enjoying your quite a few videos that I've been watching over the last couple of weeks. When you started talking about having difficulty saying "No" I wanted to tell you or fellow watchers/listeners about a book that my son read and then bought for me. It's called "Set Boundaries, Find Peace," by Nedra Tawwab. New York Times bestseller, 263 pages. Easy reading, makes total sense. I know that it's not necessarily an easy thing to say no/set boundaries, but this is a pretty good reference guide . A quote that I recently saw said, "I didn't tell you that it'd be easy; I said that it would be worth it." Thanks, Olivia!

I am 60 years old and strongly suspect I am autistic. I figured out the ear plug hack. I even wear ear plugs at the symphony.

It was really hard to watch you in that short clip of the meltdown, my past experiences looked very much like that. It triggered me hard to see your emotional distress, but at least i can be certain now that what i went through recently was a meltdown. I have a 7 year old son who's very likely also on the spectrum, as i recognize a lot of his behaviors and mannerisms from myself. His school held an end of year picnic on school grounds that parents and kids were supposed to bring lunch for themselves. I spend most of the late morning and afternoon getting together a nice picnic. My neurotypical husband, myself and our son had planned to go together. But minutes before we needed to head out, my husband said he was feeling pretty sick and that he'd have to cancel. Our son still very much wanted to attend the picnic, i felt too guilty to say no, so off the two of us went. I thought I'd be able to manage well enough as the school was 5 minutes away. When we got close to the school grounds, it became very apparent that the event was much more crowded than I'd anticipated, they were also playing very loud music over speakers. My kid wandered off for a moment to greet his teacher and classmates while i tried to secure us a spot to sit. I'd brought a picnic blanket with me, but the school had provided wooden benches with tables that were spread all over. I realized that every single table had at least 2 people sitting at them already, many who i knew vaguely or not at all. I was feeling a lot of pressure to choose a spot somewhere instead of standing around, but felt equally stressed by the prospect of just sitting down. I decided to ask an acquaintance if I could sit with her, no problem, but almost immediately 3 others sat down at that same table and it suddenly felt too full and like i was intruding, even though I'd asked. It became too much all of a sudden and I was stressing out hard. i turned away from the table and stood close to the outer wall to regain my nerves, facing it. But it was already too late, i was panicking and trying to hold back tears, trying to calm myself down wasn't working, i was stuck in place, unable to move at all. When the loud music stopped and a teacher addressed the crowd asking for everyone to please sit down, i panicked even harder. I tried to turn around but immediately felt incredibly overwhelmed by the sight of so many people and had to turn back towards the wall. I was standing between picnic tables, not close to the exit. I felt trapped and couldn't think. a teacher came up to me from behind and told me my son wasn't dealing well with the crowdedness either, unsurprisingly. I knew he was likely feeling overwhelmed as well, but I couldn't do much in the state i was in, which i felt terrible about. I finally managed to rip myself loose from the wall and grabbed my son's hand, we marched right back out weaving through the crowd because we HAD TO. Half a street away we sat down on the curb to calm down while i called my husband. He came to get us not long after, even though he was feeling sick, he was very understanding and patient. But i felt pretty ashamed and like a bad mom after that. We ended up eating the picnic i made in the living room, which was much better.

I am going through my diagnosis now... and wish you lived here in Toronto Canada.. because I marry people! Congratulations!!!!

Thank you for these videos ❤️

Your make up looks great!

Pro-tip regarding sunglasses: Meares-Irlen Syndrome screening helped my (entirely ND, predominantly dyslexic) family. Colour and tint intensity can make a big difference. Black/grey tones make me incredibly irritated, so I thought I hated sunglasses, even though they looked so good on my dad (and made him happy ;) It just clicked that he wore them as a coping strategy, duh!) When I wear amber, I have patience! My daughter wears a purplish, dark tint. My sons both wear greenish, my aunts are all versions of beige.

Congratulations!

Congratulations 🎉🎊🎈🍾

Wow!! Congratulations on everything! I'm so impressed at your ability to do all of that. Congrats to your fiance as well. I finally found real love and actually feel pretty emotionally safe for the first time ever. He calls me his "special baby". Lol. I have sensitive everything but I also have trouble with wearing sunglasses so I wear a hat. I found a job where they are extremely accommodating. I'm very lucky. Thank you so much for your videos. I feel like you and I would be great friends (whatever that means. Lolll) 🥰

Good , you deserve to be happy and satisfied (like those women in old commercial breaks); said this i would like ask you something, are you on medications ? Because i have to go to a specialist in a week on the advice of my therapist, he could prescribe me some drugs and i don't know what to expect( btw i really like your content and your smile is so solar that put a smile on my face)

I loved this so much! YES...plaese do more videos on tips and tricks

Also congrats!🍾

Congratulations❤❤❤

Make-up looks lovely 😊

you're gorgeous!!

Congratulations! :3

Great video! I may have missed a video on how you were diagnosed, but how and who diagnosed you? Which tests did they use. Thanks, in advance and blessings to you.

Are you on TikTok? I looked but didn’t find you. I was late diagnosed with ASD last year and your videos and TikTok creators with ASD have been incredible resources!

another great video! thanks a lot 💘 also haha i was surpised to see kimi räikkönen here since i'm finnish myself 😆

Thank you

I've been wearing sunglasses indoors at work more regularly now. It feels embarrassing sometimes because I think people are judging me, but I'd rather not deal with the pain of the bright lights. 😖

I literally would rather die in a fiery plane wreck than to talk on the phone yet some people give me so much trouble for it they're like it's it's the green button it's the green button it's not so hard to pick up the damn phone it is I'd rather die in a plane ride yes I realize I text novels that's not the same thing people just don't understand and they refuse to it makes it very difficult I only talk on phone but I absolutely have no other choice

I'm not autistic but your hacks are pretty relevant :)

I need prescription glasses so, I bought transition glasses which have been great. Contacts were too much for me

Thank you for this video I have autism and this was very helpful 🥰😘😍

You are pretty. Don't sweat it

I struggle to take breaks and even if someone tells me to take a break I will for like 2 minutes then go back to what I was doing especially in professional settings were I feel there is expectations of me

Breaks are hard. I have alarms set on my phone (on vibe but notifications go to my watch).

I have a really strong sense of smell and the smell of cooking food or other strong odors drives me crazy, so I will wad up small squares of tissue paper and put them in each nostril when strong odors are present. I may look ridiculous with tissue hanging out of my nose but it helps me immensely.

my school has a uniform with a very not comfy jacket. this usually isn't a problem but some days we have "full uniform day" which means i have to wear the jacket. what should i do these days to stay comfy?

I think you look really cute!

I don't like Therapy. Childhood trauma I think, diagnosed at age 7 and that when all the hell started for me. Behavior conditioning with more punishment than rewards all started with a psychologist. It's deep in me to not trust them now. So how can pay for therapy and have deep seated distrust. It's irrational though but still there.

I have sensory issues and my job is awful. There's a broken alarm that goes off every few minutes right in my office. I wear an ear plug, but I can't put both in due to having to answer phone calls. Also, I can't take a very long break because I have to be at my desk to check folks in and, like I said above, answer phone calls. I don't have an official ASD diagnosis. I'm in the process but I don't really want to tell them at work. Any suggestions?

Olivia, can you please indicate links where to buy headphones that really muffle the external sound. Thnx!! I love your way, I've been following you for almost a month. ^-^ Greetings from Brazil!

Hullow my people! : )

I tried ear plugs for my autistic son, but he didn't like them. And after a few tries, refused to wear them.

I mean, you could have stopped the camera and changed your look and started over but why? You look cute so don't worry. 😎

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Earplugs!

I subscribed some time ago because your content seemed relevant and sincere. Now it's getting commercialised like every other ND on RU-vid when they find out that they're getting a lot of audience. That's not for me anymore so I leave. Good luck!

I was just wondering Can girls with ASD be moms one day? Or would that cause meltdowns?

Why did it take your therapist so many years without diagnosing you with ASD?

Hi very nice story for u recover of autism. .. hi. My son daignose autism today .. how good way of recover of my son .. im philipines thanzk. Reply

Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you Dr Oyalo for saving my son with your herbs. I’m so happy to share this good news

Had to show off the ring huh 😂

Did you say that babies crying bothered you? Because I never had children because I knew I would be a terrible parent I can Stan maybe and everyone thinks that makes me a terrible person but if I would have been a terrible parent then that is a good excuse to not have babies I think I'm old now and it doesn't matter but I'm just saying a baby crying like a kid under four I can't handle once they're four this is a joke that I have long standing summit will be funny it's not so much but anyway I say until they're four when they can stand on a chair and help me with the dishes and wipe their own butts and tell me what's wrong with them instead of crying about it and having me to try to figure it out with that screaming going on yeah that's that's me seems terrible I know but I think I did the right thing and I don't think it's really my fault I don't choose to hate kids I don't hate kids hey babies loud noises and in the ability to communicate I have a hard enough time with the world around me

Sometimes i feel that u r kind of liar..because i didnt find anything weird in u..seriously u have faced this issue..because i am mother of 4 years autistic girl and i am facing so much difficulties with her...my life is like a hell..i am so much pissed off ..can u help me how can i train her potty n toilet training...

you know by copying counseling techniques from your ongoing counselors and therapists to play "life coach", i am concerned that you are unnecessarily putting lives in danger and at risk. i don't know that you have the qualifications to know what you are doing. do you have a confidentiality clause in case things do not go to plan or in the case that its not the best fit? do you know the difference between a coach and a therapist? can people trust and securely talk to you in a way that you will not pitch a fit and exploit their issues publicly into something that gives you profit on your videos?