hair stylists are BULLIES: a rant 

It’s like all mean people are taking jobs that require customer care and service…. Like why?

We really need a Keith Lee of hairstylists in each state so we can be aware of who to avoid.

Nobody should be allowed to automatically take your photo. This is my face and my hair. You were paid to do a service and I owe you nothing else. Now if you want to do my hair for free, then sure take your photo. That’s like saying Walmart has the right to take your picture, because you bought some oranges from them. Like what? And my hair is my body. You just styled it.

This society is loosing respect and professionalism even though the talent may be there.

One dogged the s* out of my thin hair in front of the whole salon. I was so embarrassed. Little did he know, I’d just finished chemotherapy five months prior. Yeah, they can be real a*holes.

This is why I learned how to do my own hair.

Don’t take a picture of me without my consent. It’s not rocket science. I’m glad I do my own hair. Hair stylist now are weird as hell.

The picture thing irritates me. I am the first to say “no ma’am, you cannot take my picture”. One stylist put it in her policy that EVERY CLIENT WILL HAVE THEIR PICTURE TAKEN UPON COMPLETION. I think tf not. I paid for some braids, not a photo shoot.

I booked a quick weave once and the stylist was rude to me because I came with pack hair she didn’t like. She was then getting smart with me asking why I didn’t follow directions on her website. I then reminded her that I CALLED her a week before my appointment telling her that that hair was out of stock and she told me to just get the next best thing. So I went to the beauty supply store that she recommended and they gave me a hair made by the same company (and was honestly likely the same hair just being sold in a different package). She didn’t talk to me the whole service and rushed me out after. I was so sad but I’m shy and I was literally getting my hair done for my birthday so I just dealt with her bully behavior and I never went back.

Once upon a time stylists understood they needed models and that models are not the same as paying clients.

I had a hairstylist do my hair in Tallahassee and after she took pictures. Never posted, which is fine . But because I had her number saved in my phone, her TikTok account popped up and she made a video saying “I only post the baddest bitches on Instagram not the dusties”. I never returned to her after that because of not feeling comfortable around her

My pet peeve when it comes to stylists is being in the shop for hours! Also late fees, how are going to charge me for being late, but you come in late?

Facts! My old beautician has never asked me to take a picture. Her work speaks for itself, and she stays booked. These new stylists really do remind me of bullies. It’s like all the mean girls grew up to be in the beauty industry or nursing.

They should hire models for pictures. If they want to make money and attract more clients by taking a photo of you they better give you a discount or not charge you at all

I have had so many bad hairsalon experiences that I go in defense mode as soon as I step in a salon.

You never know what a person is going through, some people may not want pics/videos because of DV situations they are in, etc. Protect your clients PRIVACY!

I’m not going to no hair stylist that’s not shampoo , blow drying, conditioning my hair then want me to do a free photo shoot.

It's a firm NO every single time for me for a picture . None negotiable. Hire a model , respectfully 😉

That’s why I stick w/ my old school beautician. My hair last longer anyway & she’s friendly.

I couldn’t agree more with all of this!! I stopped going to my stylist of 8 years because she got too big for her britches and starting acting crazy with rules, rescheduling, canceling on her time & raising prices like crazy once she got more clientele

Im from Atlanta & I completely agree! These wannabe “stylists” would never get a single dime out of me! Half of them aren’t even licensed, don’t wash or blow dry & have the nerve to be charging $300+ on top of deposit & other “fees”🙄 I would NEVER pay for that kind of subpar, unprofessional service.

Literally i feel intimidated even asking for anything to do with my hair to my stylist sometimes. They take things so personally and catch attitudes for ANY request. Its just not professional. And this is over years of seeing diff hairdressers

I’m an old school stylist and honestly I don’t get a lot of these new practices in the profession. Back in my day it was mandatory that shampoo services were included to assure there are no parasites or germs that could potentially be harmful to the public. Also pictures were never taken unless consent was given by your client and some salons have waivers just for that reason. I don’t understand the lack luster customer service of these new stylists but then the client is required to pay a non refundable deposit for the bare minimum. I personally do not go to salons any longer for so many of these reasons. I would love to find a stylist that comes with a keen sense of professionalism and desire to keep their clients.

I’ve been hearing a lot of people have been encountering unprofessional hairstylists. Idk if it’s entitlement, or them thinking cause they work on “their own time” but it’s ridiculous

A lot of salons are mean girls clubs, it's them and their friends and if you aren't a regular or in their clique they act so rude for no reason Like dang I'm never coming back here 😂

I live in Chicago and this is an issue here too. I broke up with my last stylist bc she was too inconsistent and did a lot of what SHE wanted to do. I was looking for new stylists and the way I so often caught myself quickly leaving booking pages because I was hit with a whole wall of rules, some in caps and angry tones, and worst of all most of them saying “come washed and blow dried”. The fucking audacity. I saw one woman say its a $20 wash/blow dry fee and a $30 inconvenience fee for the time. Licensed cosmetologists are legally obligated to wash/wash blow dry hair, so many are just greedy nowadays. Everybody thinks they’re a celebrity stylist but doesn’t provide celebrity stylist work.

Even if no one wanted their picture taken it’s the companies job to pay for their marketing expenses. You don’t owe that.

My main one is: When I get a curly sew-in & he/she will COMB through the curls or rake their fingers through! 🤬 They don’t even ask you if that’s what you want & why are you combing my curls out like you about to flatiron it?! It makes it frizzy & it looks a mess!! STAAHHP!!

They are so mean and act like their doing you a favor. This salon I went to had a rude owner and I dread the thought of running into her in her own salon cause she was just so mean and off-putting and judgemental about your hair. She favored certain clients too.

I know stylists that take money off for taking pics or coming in with your make up done … ( it’s absolutely optional and not a requirement) but I think taking money off is a fair exchange if you agree to take pics … like promo.

Especially in NY. They don’t want to wash your hair no more. How can you upkeep someone’s hair and sure it’s healthy if you don’t help take care of it.

Some stylists are not professional at all. Whew. This video makes me want to rant now. Lol. It makes me mad when you get there on time but they are not there on time. I understand things happen and I can deal with certain circumstances. The problem begins when they come in and they start doing everything else but your hair. Calling people, eating food, "stepping out" for a few minutes. By the time they even get started on your hair, an hour has went by. Then they let everything in their personal life affect when they finish your hair. I had a hair braider tell me she was leaving to go pay bills and needed the money for my hair. Not even half of my head was done. I told her, "Umm, no. I am not paying you until you finish. I don't feel comfortable paying you when you are nowhere near done." Then matters get worse. She ran out of hair after I asked her if I needed more hair 2 days before I came to the appointment! She was like, "I can finish your hair tomorrow. I really need to be somewhere by 3." I told her, you are finishing my hair today. I am going to get the hair and when I come back you are finishing it." So unprofessional. She had me so angry. Although my hair looked good, I never went back to her ever again. Know your worth.

I'm sorry, that is so violating! I had a bakery post pictures of my husband and I having breakfast without our permission. I was so mad. You cannot post someone's picture without permission. As a client you are absolutely not obligated to contribute to the advertising for the stylist.

The booking rules kill me ! Like that makes me not want to book at all.

I agree with you. I ain’t gonna lie from my experience a lot of black stylists (not all) were jealous of my hair because it was long and tried to cut it shorter than it was yet the trims be so uneven. And they are very disrespectful and unorganised.

This something I can definitely relate on! Hairstylist are also jealous and extremely catty. They really treat you on how cute you are or how expensive or what hairstyle you getting. It’s terrible, that’s why a lot of people learning how to do they own hair. It’s so upsetting smh

I think every stylist should ASK for CONSENT before taking any pictures/videos. I agree with you! My friend is a stylist and even though we are close, she will always ask me if she can take pictures/post content with my face in it. Sometimes I’ll be like just post the hair without my face in it. I appreciate her for it and it’s crazzzzy to believe people just record and post with no confirmation

I once heard a girl was cancelled on because she wasn't willing to do tik tok dances with the stylist. I get it, but some of us have lives where we require a certain level of privacy. Also, everyone doesnt want to perform for a hairstyle they're already paying for.

The thing is bad clients ruin it for good one, and bad hairstylists ruin it for the good ones. I feel like you made some valid point as a clients, but you'd be surprised some of the clients that come through and screw over the stylists as well. Its unfortunate we have gotten to this point 🤷🏾‍♀️😢

Based on my experience with my current hair stylist and braider (2 different people) i like how they both ask me if i would like to take pictures for their social media. I never feel forced and i feel like thats how it should always be.

Consent is needed to take a picture. Photography and modeling is a service.

As a licensed cosmetologist, I stepped back from the industry for this very reason. There’s no professionalism AT ALL & a lot of stylists/ salon owners don’t want to continue to perfect their craft & take courses to better their business. It’s all about money. I’m definitely getting back into it because I know it’s lacking & I actually want my clients to have a great experience & an even better taste in their mouth about getting their hair done in a timely manner!

Consent for pix should be discussed ahead of time. They can get mad. Its time for people to grow up and express themselves accordingly. I hate these exorbitant fees for second rate quality or simple services. I saw someone charging 150 for a damn silk press.

I agree with you, i’m sick of these mafia hairstylists and their cooker pressure regime , dictators. Thank God i’m taking care of my own hair and learning to braid, so thank God.

The people who disagree with you have to be the hair stylists that are like that.

THATS WHY I HAVE BEEN DOING MY OWN HAIR AND WEARING WIGS FOR 10 YEARS NOW.

I completely agree with you about hairdressers taking of photos/videos without consent - bold and entitled behavior. Paying customers must have a say, especially if their likeness is being used to promote the service provider's work.

I will continue to wear my AFRO before i deal with this mess.

One girl almost made me cry. Very unprofessional (ghetto and I rarely use that word but to give clarity to the type of attitude and mannerisms). She told me my hair was too thick, she should have charged more, and asked me if I’d ever considered a relaxer (and that’s putting it nicely) 💔 that absolutely broke my heart.

My thing is, if you’re going to send me reminder text for my appointment, why not ask if I mind getting my picture taken after the service? I would prefer you ask ahead of time so I can possibly dress the part, or decline all together. I AM NOT OBLIGATED TO POSE FOR A PICTURE NOR VIDEO!!!! I’m paying for you do my hair NOT A DAMN PHOTOSHOOT.

I went to a barber once who blew up my phone (texts AND calls) asking me to come in earlier that day for my cut. It was weird behavior and gave me major narc vibes. This was only the second time I went to him. Never again. Decent barber but I don't need or want that level of crazy in my life!

and most these girls unlicensed

This is true. There’s a guy who colors my hair in ATL. Every year he makes up this ridiculous price even if he’s done less work (color) than the year prior. On my last appt I asked him about it politely (cuz he charged me $700)…the man said to me…”and you’re still going to pay it, so…” Needless to say after 4 years of loyalty, I found someone else. F* that. As a customer you’re not gonna handle me like that. Idc how good you are.

I told the hair stylist i wanted to keep my hair long, she cut off 8 inches claiming my hair was too dry to be saved and said the next time i come, she'll cut my hair shoulder length. I never went back

For the longest time I've wondered why stylists, techs, makeup artists, etc don't just ask for consent to record and take photos during the booking process. Give us a little yes or no check box and then you know during the appointment not to waste your time pulling out that camera.

And that’s why I’m learning how to do my own hair , clipping ends, flat ironing all that. I don’t have the time or the emotional strength to deal with the ish no more.

The nasty attitudes and bad vibes in salons pushed me to go less often...then there was hair school...now i whip it myself...these ppl need classes on how to effectively respectfully communicate..cause it aint cute and it runs business away

I completely agree about the pictures!! And hairstyles so expensive now, every time I consider getting a sew in I end buying a wig because it’s just cheaper….

I have thickkkk nappy BEAUTIFUL hair that goes down my back (about bra strap length) when blown out. I just want us to get to a point in our community where I don’t have to feel bad about how much hair I have or how thick it is because we have collectively learned how to care for our beautiful coils ✨

Ill never forget when i was a teenager. I had a lot of struggle accepting my natural hair as is and resorted to heavily damaging it as a result. At the beginning of my hair journey, when i finally decided i had enough of destroying my hair, i went to a hairstylist. I was so embarrassed. The entire time, the workers in the salon were making fun of my hair. They compared my hair to the girls in magazines, telling me that i would have that if i just took better care of my hair. And then the girl doing my hair was just shaking her head at me as if i was just making her job even more of a burden for her. I was 15 at the times so my insecurities were sky high. I already felt very negatively abt my hair, and nothing they were saying to me wasnt anything i wasnt telling myself. I get they were trying to "help" me but i will literally never forget that. Having outsiders re-enforce so fiercly the negative feelings you already felt about yourself is honestly the worst. I felt so ugly, as soon as i got into the car with my dad i immediately started crying. Never went to a salon since.

Along with the unprofessional behavior I also feel specifically the black community hair styling has become inflated! Yes I know prices of everything is higher and bills need to be paid, but $160 where I live for six feed in braids, six! is absolutely crazy. Prices of hairstyles especially cornrows are ridiculous now.

I got my hair done yesterday at a braiding salon. It took them one hour to start past my appointment time because the hair was not prepared and watched them coach other client's on how to play with their hair for videos and pictures. I was in the chair for 8 hours even with 2 people on my head. It was ridiculous and after they wanted me to stand there and be a model. Absolutely not. I said no and they had an attitude but oh well. I don't think it is a right.

I’ve been to 4 stylists: the first one snuck a relaxer in, the second one was scissor happy and would cut my hair and would laugh if asked her not to (my hair went to mid back to shoulder length QUICK), the last one always made comments on my hair and constantly pointed out my hair insecurities (breakage, fine hair, thin ends). the 4th one made me brush my own hair in her chair with a BRISTLE brush, no comb. no water, no detangler. no ma’am never wanna feel that way again.

And stylist wanna charge a late fee but they never tf on time. Stylist do need to chill frfr..

I literally went natural because the hair salon ladies complained the whole time when doing my hair

I just read the title and had to comment: YES THEY ARE!! Which is why I went natural and then it’s why I locd my hair!! A lot of them have poor time management skills and feel they can talk to you any kind of way.

I had so many bad experiences back in my home state of Indianapolis that I stopped going all together after my big chop in 2013. I wear my natural all the time. I just look at tutorials to learn new styles. I bought a 3 way mirror that I use to help me part my hair straighter and I color, trim & cut my hair as well! I’ll never go to a salon again and it’s saving me coins! Thanks for speaking on this subject! ❤And your hair is cute!

It’s time management. They don’t understand why it’s important to be on time and work on their skill at the same time. I’m glad you’re voicing accountability for people in the industry

Nothing like the salons in the 2000s where you felt loved and cared for

That's why I love RU-vid university, i learned how to do so many styles from watching videos. If i can't figure out a style i ask a family member or close friend that i know can lay some hair and i always keep an old school stylist contact info in my phone I'm talking about the ones that's been doing hair for 20 plus years.

I don't really wear hair like that anymore, but when I did, I learned from RU-vid and did it myself because I don't have time for attitudes, rules, and shit being overpriced. I agree about taking pictures. If you ask, then most likely I won't care, but don't dare do it w/o my permission. I think it's rude. I'm glad that my niece is a cosmetologist because if I do wanna pay someone to do my hair I can trust her otherwise I don't really like a whole bunch of people in my hair cause I don't know your energy like that. 💜

After getting my hair burnt off TWICE by white stylists who had no idea how to handle my “textured thick-THICK coarse hair” I stopped letting anyone touch my hair. My hairdresser tried to gaslight me that my hair wasn’t as dark as I saw it to be. I had to take place two pics side by side pictures to get her to admit that she accidentally made it darker and on top of that she didn’t even tell me that she burnt the bottom of my hair off from leaving the bleach by too long because she can’t handle the amount of hair that I have. I was going to start looking into natural hairstylists but I realized it’s the same problem everywhere. Finding a professional hairstylist that can handle thick, coarse and curly hair is like finding a needle in the haystack. So I will continue to do my own hair until I can not 😇 ❤- An ex hairstylist 😂

Yes I agree with everything that was said. Customer service has taken a back burner with the rise of IG hairstylist 😅

I lived with a hairstylist who worked at home… Cancelling or changing your appointment is done because she either overslept (90% of the time) or wants to go party or something else unimportant. She also tried to make girls bring food, alcohol or sigarettes. For free of course. She also take long breaks to smoke or watch her series. She was really good and could make a lot of money. But because her laziness she have maybe one or two girls in two weeks.

Omg you really have a point I can’t stand when these stylist made so many rules but be unprofessional and always got drama. I try to make sure reviews and research is key cause I refuse to waist my money for unprofessional energy and trash service. My stylist and braider are good with personal service but sadly everyone is not like that

That's not just in ATL that's everywhere, I agree with you 100%, especially if you want to take my picture ASK!!! I'm not on your payroll!!!

It's not just hairstylist that take customers pictures without their consent, it's so many other unprofessional people out here doing that and I firmly believe it is b/c of this social media era. It's actually annoying. I had a personal trainer who took a video of me without my consent while I was working out smh I had to let her know don't ever do that again and you are suppose to ask your clients to video tape. It's about respecting the client... Social media has played a huge role on why certain "Professionals" do what they do and that is why they will always be a social media stylist and not a real professional. They Lack respect

Omg that part 10:25 yes I hate when they pull out them phones and stuff to take my picture which I didn’t give consent to. Then they post them all over the internet. I hate it😢😢😢💯

I’m glad I’m not the only one that doesn’t spend a ton of money on hair for a quick weave. I don’t spend more than $100 on hair for a quick weave

I 💯% agree,that's free advertisement,so ask me first or maybe give a small discount. But if I ever see my pic without my consent,I'm suing because I don't want to be on everyone's social media platforms. Those pics & videos never go away.Sorry,not Sorry‼️

everytime i went to the hairsalon, almost all the hair stylist imidietly gaslight me so that i let them do what THEY want with my hair, its not even like a sugestion that what i want is damaging my hair or that it isnt healthy its just that they specificly doesnt like my choise in hairstyle and they think that the hairstyle that they want to do on me would look better. its been so heartbreaking paying for something that i didnt even want in the firstplace, and being silent about my experience sine i really dont want to make them mad.. ive been to multiple different salon both small and a fancy establishment all of them are always have this kind of attitude and i had enough a few monts ago.. i started to learn to do my own hair, its not perfect but im still learning and its a skill that im going to use for the rest of my life so its always worth the investment💓

That’s why I stopped going to stylists 15 years ago. I have a simple natural hair routine at home. I don’t understand how stylists expect tips acting the way they do. They are shooting themselves in the foot with their foolishness.

Take me back to the black gel era…at least then I know I’d get a full wash and hair be fye when I walk out 😅 I felt this whole video!

Exactly why I stopped going the silent judgement . Especially from other black stylist like girl I came to you for that reason because I need help with my hair. People always say support black businesses but the reason I don’t allow what I spend be dictated on the fact that they are black because some lack professionalism and if you questions their product you are an enemy or hits no type of customer service . I’ve been treated better by other women in other communities than my own when it comes to my hair .

a few years ago i wanted my hair cut short. it was badly damaged and i wanted to start fresh. i'd had cute pixie cuts in the past. i went in and showed pictures (of what i had done before) and she kept saying "no, too short, too short" and i said "i want it this short. look, i've had it this short before." and she said "you'll look like a boy. you want it short like a boy?" finally after like minutes of this back and forth i said "yes short like a boy" she got the clippers and BUZZED my head. mind you, i'd been asking for a pixie cut. i looked like my grandpa's old air force photo. i was in complete shock. and in the snottiest voice imaginable, she goes "you said you wanted it short like a boy."

Yes I hate when they take all day and then want to take pics. Like girl I been here all day long I don’t feel like no pics I just wanna gtfoh.

this is so true. one of the biggest reason i went natural years ago, was because of how awful my hairdressers used to make me feel. and i just wanted to be free of needing to go to them. and is now, why i’ve just learned to do mediocre braids and twists on myself. my mental wellbeing can’t handle them 😭

I was waiting outside my hairstylist shop and as per usual she was running late. After 30 minutes I asked her where she was and she told me she was at the shop I said no you’re not I’m outside. She told me ohh yeah we moved to a different location. SMH

AND THEY CHARGE TOO DAMN MUCH! YOU PAYIN THEY RENT MONEY!

I'm a MUA and I always ask my girls if they mind taking a pic or video. Then I let them approve the footage. I think that's common courtesy.

I agree 💯 with all your criticisms. I think it's obnoxious the assumption that everyone wants to be on display digitally at every moment. Go off gurl!! 😂😂😂❤❤❤

I completely agree with the ask before taking pictures. Just taking pics like that is unprofessional if you ask me

Facts…. My hair stylist started making fun of me … deleted her number and never went back

I stopped going completely because my time was wasted. I’ll schedule an appt at 9 and I get there early and still waiting until 11 /11:30. That’s a whole 2-3 hours wasted and wanna be mad when I walk out after waiting so long.

Literally almost got jumped by hairstylists at an African shop this summer. Yes they ARE bullies

Something else I found odd recently is stylists asking you to upload your ID to book. The thought of someone randomly having a photo of my ID makes me cringe. Like maybe it’s intended to be a security precaution, but I think it’s strange.

Me personally I’ve had multiple occasions where I’ve gone to hairstylists who’ve tried to bully me for my hair being too thick. How are you gonna get mad at me over something i can’t control? Then don’t even get me started on the ones that charge extra for it.

I’m also a big stickler for timeliness. I’m not a hairstylist, but I also work in the service industry and had a disagreement with one of my co-workers over a similar issue. He said if someone shows up late, they should still get the full time they paid for, even if that pushes back the rest of the appointments, and if the people after them don't want to wait, they can book with someone else. I disagree. If I am fully booked that day and you show up late, I have to cut your services short or cancel your appointment because that's not fair to everyone else with an appointment after you who will show up on time.

This is why I stick to ONE stylist. I don't go for the most popular, celebrity stylist, idc if she's in a professional shop, none of that. I go for the stylist who respects my business & money and is humble but still knows how to SLAY. When some folks get too popular, it goes to their heads forgetting you NEED customers to keep your business afloat. Stop bringing them ya'll money and watch how the attitude adjustments come into play shortly after. I lucked up with my stylist, 0 drama 0 cancellations 0 attitudes and it's been over 4 years.

The same African braider braided my hair for YEARS. My hair is chin length but SUPER thick. Last couple of years she started to get lazy with braiding my hair. Because my hair is so thick and unruly she started saying I have "stubborn" hair. I would laugh it off because I struggle with my thick hair and I know it can be a hassle. Then she said if she had hair like mine she would go bald or keep it short.😮 I'm confused because she is African and she is complaining about my nappy thick hair. So I ask her don't people in Africa have hair like mines? 🤔 Her answer is no I must be mixed because my hair is too thick. She ghosted me after I tried to make an appointment for 4 conrows and she wanted to charge $120 and I said that was too much. Yes my feelings are hurt😢 but if someone does not want to do my hair I should not force them.