Love the video! Just wanted to say that even if Shaniya didn’t use the d word she still was being very ignorant and did not have any remorse about it. I would not talk to that type of person anymore either
It wasn’t even the ignorance because sometimes you can’t help that but it was the fact that she had no remorse for hurting her friend nor did she care to grow and learn. If you are truly my friend I want to learn so that it doesn’t happen again and I can educate others who are ignorant like me.
Hearing her say “I’m not gonna do all that” just proves that you made the right decision to cut her off. If I’m your friend, why can’t you apologize for being insensitive? Or hurting my feelings? it was giving very much I don’t care, and it’s not that deep to me. 🙄
Girl exactly that’s exactly what I was thinking when I saw the clip on the show like if you know something you said was offensive & that person is your friend then why not apologize & say you didn’t know it was offensive
I think the most disheartening is the scene with the homophobic slurs. It’s hard when your friends don’t understand aspects of your identity that’s different from theirs. But it’s even harder when it comes across as them not even caring/trying to understand. I totally understood your perspective because….when straight folk ask “who’s the man in the relationship?” or use the term “d*ke” or even say “that’s g*y”, they don’t realize that it’s offensive and harmful to us. It was hard to watch her being somewhat dismissive of how it made you feel in the moment and even after the fact. I hope one day she’s able to truly understand why that hurt you and others within community. Sending positive vibes your way love!
@@KT-pw1cq I’m queer identifying and people in my region find the term offensive. However, I have friends from other areas who use it as their own personal identifier. It largely depends on the region, sometimes age group, but overall, it depends on the individual. The best rule of thumb, particularly for straight/non-queer people, is to allow someone to set the boundaries for what they are or aren’t comfortable with. I wouldn’t encourage using LGBTQ+ specific terms and/or slang unless someone within community is comfortable with and gives you permission to use it with them specifically. Even though I’m within community, I stray away from a few of terms because I make a point to try my hardest not to offend.
@@unbothered2023 I think it’s hard for people to compare race to sexuality in many (or even most) situations. Regardless, I think it’s easier to recognize when someone’s being harmful when the harm directly impacts you. It’s been my experience that when people don’t have certain intersecting identities, they’re less likely to empathize with someone who does. And though I don’t agree with her friend appearing to be quite dismissive, I also recognize that she’s removed from the microaggressions LGBTQ+ people face therefore she never really has to consider the harm she might be inflicting. This certainly doesn’t absolve of her words or actions though. Since she might believe herself to be a relatively nice person (which she came across as on the show), being confronted with the idea that she could be harming or even oppressing another Black woman who happens to have an additional marginalized identity…likely offended her. It’s usually hard for people to sit with the idea that they, an oppressed person, can also oppress someone . In time, I pray she realizes that, learns and grows from it, and truly makes amends with Ayana.
@@msambienix I agree.. it’s still a huge learning curve for people who are straight.. as long as we are all being polite on both ends then only a good outcome can happen. Like some may take it offensive if you call them female even though they are trans but they are male.. as long as there is compassion and communication I believe there will be less altercations.
I completely agree, because I HATE when people try to confront me and bring all their friends along that aren’t involved. If you want to talk through an issue come to me on your own because it just looks stupid.
I love how protective Amy is over you. When you said "so do you wanna fight" Amy got up. You two take such good care of each other. Meanwhile that chick's boyfriend was just sitting there like a lump on a log.
I feel like the fact that she unknowingly used a homophobic slur isn’t as bad as the fact that she didn’t apologize for it after she found out. A simple “oh I’m so sorry, I didn’t know that, I won’t use it again” and move on.
Yeah my bff is hetrosexual and has no clue about homosexual relationships but has yet to ask me rude questions. First of all we both are women . Second of all ...end of story. Like wtf?
@@charlenemontas4602 Someone referring to themselves as something is quite different and can be a way of reclaiming/empowering those awful words, but it doesn't really hold the same weight coming from hetero people, especially one that blatantly doesn't understand the context and hurtful connotations of the word. Not a lesbian, but f***** feels so different coming from a queer person who's also had the word used against them compared to a straight person using it because its so normalized in their life for them to hear and use these words, and I think most slurs have some parallels to this. I'm curious if those women that refer to themselves as it are comfortable with strangers calling them it too?
@@Ashley-og9ti it just doesn’t add value to my mental. YT is what I watch because I like to know the real, the current, and the true nuance of the era I’m living in. Plus when you’re busy enough in your days, you simply don’t have time if you care to have adequate sleep each night
@@Ashley-og9ti I’m with jazzy. I took the television out of my room at like 15 years old I’m 25 now. Out of sight out of mind to be honest also I love supporting tv shows and stuff but I kept thinking “ these people already made it” I have to make it while I’m over here getting a c on my report card watching their show and not also focusing on me. I know you were asking jazzy but thought my piece may help too lol. You got this girl
You should not feel embarrassed. You handled that with grace. Young girls will watch that and see you don't have to be out here rumbling around like an animal just because that's what the audience may want to see. Kudos to you.
You KNOW we were waiting on that Ree scene. 😂 From her drenching herself with water 🙄, to trying to force you to talk to her, she was definitely the definition of EXTRA that day. But Ms. Fite/Fight 🤭, you handled yourself well.
I think what’s disappointing to me when i watched the scene with your friend using homophobic slurs was that she didn’t even want to hold herself accountable and figure out why those terms were offensive. I’m glad that you and her still cool, and hopefully she learns something from using those words. Homophobic slurs are not offensive, but they can be deadly as well.
I know you probably cringe at the Ree scene, but Amy saying "Nooo. 😭" As she already knows how you get down, always make me laugh. You come off on the show very genuine and I love that you aren't on GUHH with the mindset of L&HH.
I completely understand how the fight with shaniah hurt you. Especially being part of the lgbtq it hurts when your closest straight friends say something offensive and just dont care, ya know 😞 and you realize you gatta let them go as a friend but you still love them even after 😩💔
But that shows you who they are. I feel so bad Ayana is describing it as a disagreement when a friend said something dehumanizing and minimizing to your life experience.
@@Cbl4ck it’s very sad ! She seems very genuine & like she really liked her as a friend. When you love someone you start to make excuses for their behavior
I’m sorry Ree was giving major bully vibes over a situation that really didn’t have anything to do with her in the first place. You wanna defend your friend that’s fine but just because he is one way with you doesn’t negate someone else’s experience with him. Then for her to try to force a conversation about it and bring up “fighting” like girl that will make a person get defensive and shut down completely. I was very embarrassed by her behavior as a black woman AND MOTHER. It’s just not that serious!
You were absolutely my favorite person on the show & I can’t wait for the new season & I’m starting to think blossom loves the camera cause sis gone get her shine no matter what
Watching the show I loved you , but watching you on RU-vid … I love you even more ! I feel like we’re friends fr lol. Your channel is refreshing. So much so that I’m caught up on all your videos but I’m back at a old one bc I love it ❤️
Literally never knew you were on TV. I don't really watch those shows, but your personality on here is hilarious. Lol please never change your personality because you being you is refreshing
I really like your videos and hope you continue to grow, flourish and upload on this platform. I absolutely adore watching your videos and hope you become really successful in the future on RU-vid. ❤️💕💕💕💕💕❤️
You were my favorite on that show and you just randomly showed up on my tl. 😩 Totally agree with how u handled that shania situation. Shows how a lot of people really feel even if they are your “close” friends.
Whew Chile Brandon use to work my nerves lying all the time for no reason! 🙄🤦🏽♀️😒😂😂😂😭😭😭😭 And the wavy hair came out gorgeous instead of straight!!!! Please tell me which wave curler that is please! I need it ASAP sis! 🔥🔥🔥
He’s a compulsive liar .When he said I could have helped lil Wayne career I was done from there like ummm sir nobody new you before growing up hip hop😂😂
I didn’t know you were on a tv show, I found you because of your modern hair dresser video 😅. I appreciate you working with your natural hair also! 🤞🏽✊🏽✊🏽
Yeah that scene honestly made me not like re cause saying she don’t wanna have to put hands on u in front of everybody would’ve drove me 🤣😂 u a good one! Lol
I just love you. Fellow Gay here. Yes, that scene with u and Ri I reminded 3 times just cause you had me in tears😂😂 with that, so do you wanna fight? I'm sorry but, that took me out and I can tell that is out of your element at your age now and you have been there and done that on the fight tip and now its just kind of beneath you so I really felt that when you did that. I subscribed to you honestly cause I just love your energy and getting to know you a little bit off the show. I love you as a person and I think you are sooo beautiful inside and out and you are a genuine person and your loyalty is unmatched. Nothing but, blessings to you and your love.
Yup that is the exact reason I clicked on this video I wanted to know more about that very heated exchange in the scene at the paintball venue/location.
Literally binging all of your videos! You are very well spoken with a great personality. I think it’s unfortunate the slur that was used. You did take the time to try and educate your friend but unfortunately she was not receptive to the conversation. I believe this is why people should not speak on subjects they are not familiar with, especially if they don’t know what could be offensive.
Love watching your video, I'm a new subscriber and watching these videos made me realize you are fun to watch and have mature from some of the videos I seen from growing up hip hop. Love you and support you and your channel all the way💞
Just discovered you...and love your energy, young lady! 18:58 When people don't take "No" as the answer, they are trying to control you. This is emotional terrorism, and I don't negotiate with terrorists. Great for standing your ground. Now, I guess I need to go and first watch your series.
Ugh you’re so sweet and honest. I can never understand how people fuck over genuine people. I honestly believe that you were way too mature for the show. Everyone was out for publicity 🤷🏾♀️
I’m sooooooo hype you have a channel!!!! I had no idea & I’m gonna be honest, not a huge fan of the show but I ALWAYS had an obsession with you & then you vanished!!😩 Anyway, I’m subscribed now & I’ll be watching! God bless!!!!🥰😘♥️♥️
The worst thing you can do to ME is treat something I told you in confidence or while I was feeling down about it, like vomit and throw it up back to ME or somebody else.
Girl I'm so glad you really didn't care about Brandon not being a FireFighter...that story line was wack. I kept saying WHY DOES ANYONE BUT HIS MAMA CARE
So what was that scene about w you & Reginae when you told her “don’t say nothing else or imma start fighting” after she mentioned Brandon going to Zonnique’s listening party? Lol
I actually never said that to her.... that was a joke in reference to something totally different and they edited it to make it seem like I was talking about Brandon.
I have to go back & watch now. I missed a lot of drama. I stopped watching after the first/two seasons I did not like how Reginae/Toya was treating Brandon. How Tiny and Toya was trying to take over the show. You was my favorite at that point because you was grown af. You did not play sides and you tried your best to keep the peace but it was hard with MS Reginae spoil ass.
Aww this made me sad, bc you could see how much it genuinely upset you. Any person with half a heart would have said “I’m sorry, I didn’t mean it like that, I won’t do it again.” I apologize on her behalf bc it wasn’t right and you didn’t deserve that !
Hey Girly, I definitely watch the show and have been since it aired. I remember all those scenes and the whole you and Ree thing I felt like if she had of just respected your wishes and said ok let’s meet up and talk one on one you guys could have came to a conclusion.
For some reason you remind me of Tammy from Love & Hip hop. I couldn’t put my finger on it at first but the way you talk, your mouth, eyes reminds me of her. Anyways, your both beautiful women💕
You Carry Yourself Soo Well Because from a viewers Point (Myself) It Came Off As She Wanted It To Be On Camera Because Any Regular Genuine Person From the hood or wherever Would Have Simply Once You Said “Not here but I’m okay with having a Conversation outside of here” they would Respected it And set it up not pressure it if it was the one exchange your speaking of and the next was the birthday party atp It’s Like Ok She Was Jus Doin the Extra For the Scene And I Like Re She is One of The Real Ones But She Jus Pressed this one!! Could have Came out differently once she got you talking but she was too hyped!🤷🏿♀️💯
