Guys, this is straight up facts. I’m physically attractive but always have been super insecure and needy. I have been dumped 3 times because of this. I get the girl, she finds out im not who she thought she was getting, and done. KNOW WHO YOU ARE.
can confirm... currently in this weird no mans land. i represent quite a bit. 6 ft, 185lbs lean, fashion on point. well paid etc. not having a lot of experience yet, i can attest to this weird transition. i have had this moment several times where she just went cold as she realised this incongruence between my appearance and experience level. frustrating af. everything he said here is 100% true
Being an attractive man its hard to see people as normal when you understand all this and how they view you because of how i look. And some of these people I've known for years.
I definitively recognize myself in this sadly. I would consider myself more attractive than most guys, but I messed up over text because I was using tons of emojis and waited a week before asking her out because I didnt want to ask her out too early…
@@alexreyes7237 I know this sounds really dumb, but I had this scarcity mindset because I really liked her, so I started messing up because I really didn't want to loose her. Incredibly stupid. I'll never do this again though. I've only made this particular mistake once now and I will learn, cuz if I do it again, I'm an idiot.
@@MMKnight_1 if someone cant engage with you on a human level, they aren't worth the effort in the first place. People who put all these rules and expectations into social interactions are tedious as hell honestly.
@@fremenlemon655 I know. Its my bad I waited so long to ask her out and in the process, I killed her attraction towards me by texting in a somewhat feminine way by using too many emojis and being too caring. No wonder she rejected me
@@MMKnight_1 maybe, but my point is, dont fall into the trap of thinking there is a 'formula' or set things you should do. Everyone is different, and it is way easier to just be yourself and find people who are attracted to that. If you pretend to be someone else, it will never last. Most women want a caring partner, but overwhelmingly they want someone who has the strength to deal with emotions (from my experience), not just express them. It might be that you came across a bit heavy, when they wanted things to start in a fun, relaxed way. I wouldnt beat yourself up about it. Every failure is a learning experience and sometimes things just aren't going to work. Using lots of emojis is probably a little bit cringe, should probably not do that, but if thats all it took to put someone off then they probably weren't that interested in the first place. Just chill, be yourself, improve your weaknesses and take your chances when you see them and you will be fine.
To be honest, their expectations are their problems if they can't in basic communication and are prone to projecting shit from their head onto you, they can simply go to hell, they will always be a nuisance to deal with anyway. Just do what you do, talk how you talk and don't try to force people in your life who didn't want to be there in the first place. That said, if you are up for hookups then by all means go ahead
I have said this for years and women have always said I look like a player ans I used to think that was an insult but it was.actually a compliment.. Iva always said that people view me a certain way but im.not that way on the inside,.now I know how my identity needs to be. My inner identity is based off how I look and how others perceive my identity
In this age of MeToo movements. Sexual harassment, false assault allegations, and stalkers, it pays for smart men to be careful. Yes, I may miss out on an attractive woman from time to time.. But I get to keep my money, my freedom, and my sanity. 😃
I've been waiting for a sequel to this series and you did not disappoint. Lately I've allowed myself to display more emotional behavior, contradictory to what people assume I am at first, being a 6"3, 270LBS athletic guy. I've always been a shy kid at heart that growing up has learned how to be more warm and outgoing, but often times I meet new people around my age, they verbally say they expected me to be a serious guy, although they had never spoken to me before that moment. On another level, older and more respectable men have recommended being more reserved at times to go with what people expect of me. It all makes perfect sense now...
Suffered this problem most if not all my adult life. It's teachings like yours Danny that have helped me come to terms with this huge problem. Thanks man.
Can relate. Not that tall - 5.7" but I started getting a lot more attention after I started working out seriously. I also seem to have looks. Currently around 210 lbs with a normal fat percentage. Sadly I'm also mildly autistic, childhood trauma, mild asperger or a mix of these. I need a lot of alone time and my tolerance for stress is low. I want a real emotional connection, but women and their (manufactured) drama drain and stress me out and then I just want to get away from them. So no, I'm afraid 'I dont get it'. Funny thing is, I get along with kids quite well, even the 'difficult' kids. I also refuse to cohabitate, will never marry and refuse to date single moms.
I am autistic too and I honestly no longer view it as an inherent disadvantage. Yes it comes with challenges but it can be amazing too. I also can get overwhelmed with women's drama, but don't forget that there are different types of women out there. Can I ask what country do you live in? It seems to be a pattern that people including women from warmer countries like Italy, Spain, Balkans, Latin America tent to be more emotional and more likely to dramaing around and throwing tantrums. On the other hand people from colder countries like Scandinavian countries tend to be a lot calmer. Everyone has their own types. You might find yourself in the future marrying to a tall blonde Swedish beauty. 😊😊👊👊
@@mateagoston8145 I live in NL, I'm in the middle. Not too south, not too far north. I'm also 45 years of age. Not too much of a hurdle, but let's say it like this - there's a lot of (single mom) drama out there. Oh yeah I also became a known sperm donor for a woman I knew, no relationship and that is fine. Our 2nd child has been born a month ago. Since I already reproduced, somehow this also lowers my need for a relationship.
People tend to overcomplicate these things: who do you want to be in life? What type of person do you want to be? After you have imagined that stick to that and don't waver: If you preach discipline , kindness, interest in a certain topic , a certain hobby , STAND BY THAT and don't be afraid to present yourself as such , TRANSPARENCY. Because maybe one day a girl who is interested in those qualities might look at you more persistently / start a conversation with you. Being good looking is a great bonus to all of this.
Thank you for this video, I've done a fair part of what you mentioned in the video and it reflects to all the deal breakers I did to kill attraction....I cringed ngl
Really appreciate the effort that you put in on the videos, this topic video is so fuck*ng true and important. You really look that you like putting out this type of content. Keep goinggg
There is something to be said for incongruity. Ive met some very beautiful, classy-in-appearance women and found that the attraction dissolves very quickly when hearing them speak.
Precisely. How can people take advice from someone who is not even a handsome man himself. It's like taking advice about marketing from someone who isn't even a marketing expert. Conclusion: cope.
Well, everyone has to start somewhere so if a girl assumes that I have tons of experience with women just because I am attractive then I personally just ignore this. It would be a quite odd dating advice for attractive but inexperienced men to build their attractiveness down just to make it match with their experience level. It think the key is being confident with not being experienced and not being ashamed of it. Also ironically one place where chivalry has a big tradition in nowhere but Eastern Europe where stereotypically men are not feminine at all but hell yeah the opposite, properly masculine.
Always thought about this topic and for the first time i see someone speaking between these levels of congruence 1. Natural condition 2. External game 3. Inner game This is also a reason why you should never share profiles, even if you find them good. Keep all on sms a la Corey Wayne: just set dates, dont flirt on text. A social media profile is by nature not masculine unless you show your business. Her profile doesn’t matter because here you get weak and totally destroyed! She just need to hit the red button and the game starts against you. So the best “game” is to atract ONE great low effort woman! Principally regarding setting dates and wanting to see each other. This is what you do when your professional life comes first
Max your looks then, yheres always a way to improve your hair, skincare, get your teeth right, invest in your wardrobe some more, most importantly go the hardest in the gym. Looks matter, no way around it
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This I know I look good but I always try ti come off as humble it has just hurt me because it’s. Forced of course arrogance is worse a happy medium in confidence
Huh, so I'm basically screwed, I'm 5'5, got the southeuropean looks cause my father was from Croatia, I'm working out, and aiming for 132lbs. Buuut I'm a weeb and a nerd tho I don't act nor dress like one. Thaaaat's kinda effed up man. If you dress like Jock, cause you just like that style, you have to love sports, party and drinking. That's just sad 😮💨
