Hard Part Of Foster Care From a Foster Child.. Tristan joins us on this episode to give us inside information on the foster care system, what needs to change and what it is really like.
I relate to Tristan so much. And it’s so weird how much he feels like he BELONGS in this family. Like Aaron truly changed when Tristan came around. It seems at least to have largely pulled him out of his depression and grief. Aaron seems so much happier. Tristan truly is a piece of this family.
Tristan is such a special person, I am so glad you all found one another again, he brings a lot to the family, I can see how much his siblings love him, he is so very humble, I'm glad he is now a part of Crazy Pieces❤
We have two kids that we adopted through foster care when they were babies. They are teenagers now but one of them recently had someone tell her that we loved her the best we could but she wasn't our biological daughter. I was in shock because she is my daughter in every sense of the word. I have never looked at her as something other than my daughter and I love her with every part of my being. It made me sad (mad) that someone would put that into her head. I am blessed with my two children and they are the children of my heart. I agree with the statement of being prepared to love them like your own. You will never regret that choice. ❤
@@introvertednotsoyoutuber6126 it was never a secret. Ever. She had known she was adopted from the moment she could understand. You misunderstood the comment. Someone just told her that there was no way we could love her because we didn't give birth to her, which was a hurtful and ignorant thing to say to her.
I wonder what kind of life I would have if I would of been with a family like your's. Me and my twin sister were given up or taken away at the age of 5 and put in to a foster home with an acholic abuser. I cried for the first 3 days straight. I could go on for hours but never the less I am so thankful for you and homes like yours because those kids need you guys. I am blessed because I know God's love and mercy was and is always with me. Bless you guys ❤.
I watched The Sound of Hope movie and was astonished at the number of Foster children in need of homes. Today in 1 area of my state they have listed 10 kids from infants to teenagers, most are siblings, in need.
I was so excited to see a podcast. I thoroughly enjoyed this one. Thank you Tristan for being so candid about your struggles in life. I'm so glad you found your way back home. You have brought a much needed joy into the house, especially to Aaron 😊😊 God bless you in all your future endeavors
Tristan, you are helping so many and truly are a beautiful person! 100% treat everyone like family! We’ve fostered over 30 kids and adopted 2. We still have contact with our last 2, twin girls that are 8 now. Make those bonds! I’m sorry for everything you through but so proud of you who are and to Crystal and Aaron and you all much love! 💕
I think you guys, if you have time and energy, should set up a "Pettit Foster Fund" or something similar. And people donate to it, and you buy clothes or basic hygiene products or even food or medical supplies and drop them off at Foster Homes and Children's hospitals etc. One problem I have with donating to charity is that you never know if they will spend the money efficiently or take a huge chunk to live off etc, but I must say I honestly would trust you guys to use that money efficiently (Unlike governments with Tax money lol)
I can’t watch these without getting emotional. My past never included foster care or adoption officially but I have a family that did take me in a few years back in their hearts and I have progressed quicker and easier with them then I did on my own. It’s always hard to hear how many kids need love and support and don’t have it.
I'm happy that y'all are back and Tristan I'm so happy that you are telling your foster care story I was a foster kids when I was a baby but I am adopted by a amazing lady
Great podcast.. I'm been blessed with a granddaughter from foster care to adopting... Thanks for sharing your story Tristan.. Much love and Be Blessed Pettit Family
Thank you guys for being such great foster parent! It breaks my heart for the foster children! I would say open your home only if you are willing to take on all of the challenges and able to be a positive role model for the child! Recently in our town a foster mom had a boy for one week and she sat on him in the front yard of her home after he ran away to go to the neighbors for help. She went and got him back and sat on him! He was 10 years old! And she killed him. If that can’t be horrible she also worked at cps!
Loved this podcast and thanks for Tristan in sharing his story on his journey that he went through I fostercare.You are a wonderful young man,so courage and strong so glad you re-connected with Aaron and Crystal and all your siblings.😊
Wow, that was so insightful and emotional too. I think each and every single one of of you are so brave, caring and loving. I'm sorry you have had to go through what you did Tristan however, look at the Man you've become and think about what's made you him.. it's a mix of what's you've sadly endured but battled and broken free from, Crystal and Aaron. You coming back has been a blessing in disguise and I for one thoroughly enjoy seeing your face around the Pettit family in which you are apart of.. never look back now.. forwards, onwards and upwards ❤❤😊❤❤
as a former foster parent, the hardest part for me was just dealing with the case worker turnover and the case workers themselves. We were lucky to have a couple of great ones and definitely a few that were so hard. and we kept having to go over and over and over to give chances and my daughters placement lasted for 4 1/2 years and never had visit unsupervised yet we lingered in the court system. I hold high regard for the birth parents doing incredible loving things for their child but all of the trauma caused was completely unnecessary. after that 4.5 years and another 6 months or so.... i adopted! which is incredible. but the trauma from the "departmnet" work was the hardest and most traumatizing.
I didn’t know anything about this system mostly because I don’t come from here but you guys introduced me to it and it just blew my mind. I have been watching you guys since I think I was 20 and this is what I only watch on youtube now. I wish all the happiness and success to all the kids. Tristain you’re a special guy dude, and its all gonna fall in place :) Love from 🇵🇰
My Grandma caught my sister and I pretending to smoke cigarettes. We never used a lighter but she still disciplined us as if we had. We both had to write 3 pages of I will not smoke cigarettes. My sister is younger than me but she is like a lil big sister. Always does everything first to show me it’s safe. We got caught again with her finishing the last page for me so my Grandma tore it up and made us write it again. Neither of us smoke cigarettes nor ever did.
Thank you for your videos!! I have a lot of health issues and barely surviving financially. Your videos are so positive and happy that it helps cheer me up!! Thank you!! God Bless!! Jessi 😊
If every church, synagogue and mosques in the USA got one family to foster children there would be over 355,000 families fostering children. There are under 400,000 kids in foster care in the USA.
Enthusiasm Aaron! lol just kidding love you guys! Your amazing perspective on trauma has helped me so much over the years! I started my journey as a social worker about 3 years ago, around the same time I discovered your channel! I just graduated with my MSW and am taking the ASWB exam in exactly a week!!!! Ahaaaa manifesting a pass! So proud of you Tristan! Don’t rely on your accomplishments to feel like your best self! You’re amazing and have already achieved so much to be proud of! Everything else is just extra! Lollll a controlled fire is fun! When you were speaking about your experiences with housing as an adolescent. It really hit home since I am working in emergency housing on Long Island. I have seen an influx of young teens and adolescents in the system. It’s so hard the system is not meant to work with kids. Between living in motels, group homes, or mandated treatment for troubled teens. Teens do not have support needed to help them over come their traumatic experiences. The system is so broken, everyday we work towards making positive changes! Keep your head up and do what is best for your future! Never be afraid to ask for help and everything will lay in place!
Aces and Paces study is an amazing one that stands out. It basically shows that traumatic experiences as a child and negatively impact children in so many ways (physically and mentally ill). Paces are ways that we can counter balance the aces to best serve the individual! I love this since many kinds of trauma can happen it shows it’s not your destiny’s. There are many ways to heal yourself from these terrible childhood experiences! preventioncoe.ohio.gov/learn-and-grow/center-blog/184-aces-paces-pces
No child should ever have to feel survival mood or going on a job interview. We adopted my sister when she was 9 years old after she was in 4 foster homes with her brother. She had an intellectual disability similar to Jamie. Hearing Tristin talk about it really confirms home much I hate our system because all kids need love. My sister completed our family. Thank goodness for fostercare but it needs to change. I know many people who use foster care for the money. Thanks for being a great family.
It was always the white car for me. The one with the emblem. I saw one after 15 years. I thought I was healed. I wasn't ready. Thank you, Jesus, for my strength.
I really enjoyed this podcast. 😊, I feel like I know Tristan a lot better. And hearing about his experience. ❤. Max, you did great with filming this episode. 👍. Until next time, love you guys. ❤
I read a book about a guy who grew up in a children's home. This was back in the late 50s, maybe the 60s it was before foster care. In this book, he said that although growing up in an institution like children's home was not perfect and the older kids had cabins 4 to a cabin, it was not awful there were a lot of very detected people who work in the home and took time with the kids. Of course, they had chores, but there was a lot of free time to play. And he made life-long friends. If you were taken from your parents at that time, there was no going back. He said 80% of the kids went on to college because in the home, education was a top priority. Ronald Reagan administration came up with the idea of foster care so kids could be and feel part of what it was like to be part of a family. I don't feel foster care has been very successful when you see the number of homes kids go in and out of.
My daughter is raising her second 😂cousin. She’s had him since birth , he is now two ! But the system keeps giving the mom much longer. She is my niece but no capable of raising this child . He is the 8 th she has lost . Why do they give these awful parent so much leeway when she can t get off drugs or keeps getting in trouble with the law ! They are not in it for the child . They make him visit her and he always comes back so upset ! I wish we could make the system better and make it not for profit !
I was adopted at 4 yrs old but when I was in preschool a man in a tie came and tried to take me out of my home. All the way through highschool I worried about people in suits and ties trying to take me away!
That is based on Maslow's high Archy of need. Every person is on this pyramid. There are levels and you can not move up to the next level without getting your needs met at each level. As teachers we study this. It is so important because I was teaching in an area where my kids were on that first level., which is basic survival.
Congratulations on being such wonderful parents that can produce such well rounded and positive young adults. I have a question though ….. have you ever had a ‘non success’? Have any of the children you have taken in, got into trouble or pushed you to the limit! My daughter works with troubled children (in Australia) and these children are not in foster care because they have ‘messed up’ and next step is detention. These kids are products of troubled homes, parents who are on drugs or in prison, or parents who just don’t want them. The cycle needs to be broken … but how is the issue!
Is Tristan willing to share any of the backstories of any of his tattoos? On the screen they just look old and bleeding together.😊 I'm so happy that Tristan has become a mainstay on your channels. I've said it borore, and I'll say it again, enjoy him while you have him, someday soon a wealth entrepreneur is going to scoop him up, and make him and offer he can't refuse! 😊❤😊
I know u guys primarily focus on foster care and adoption but I'd love to know more about surrogacy and the experience you had (crystal) I've recently offered my womb to someone else and just wondered what I'm getting myself into
Glad Tristan was the first guest back I missed piece podcast. Will you do an episode about free and cheap ideas to have fun with your kids ages 10 to 16 having a hard time and don't have the most money to spend on activities
I was in the system as well, I was labeled from the state I lived in a retarded person so all my foster parents treating me as a retarded person. I didn't like that at all, Tristan I understand where you come from❤
I have a few questions about foster care and things. Cuz like I’ve heard people in foster care can’t adopt. and I’m confused on why they wouldn’t be able to? And like college help? My friends got a little bit of help on their tuition. Even though one of them only spent a day being placed with grandparents and then went back home they still were eligible to get that “discount” I guess? How does that translate into adopting kids? Like if they are fully adopted by a complete different family is that different than in family placements? As well I would like to know more about how you’re helping evie. As someone who’s autistic, my family didn’t help at all and it did hurt that they basically treated me like nothing was wrong even though it was really obvious I was different than other kids. (I wasn’t diagnosed, they didn’t care to attempt to help)
Ariana said on her you tube page she quit school cause she did not want to take classes that were not part of the program she was. Going for like classes college had u take to get your degree
My Foster Care Story is with Tristan on their main channel it more of a Q@A. But they are sitting in same chairs so it seemed like a pod cast but that the one you are thinking about!
Tristan do you know where you twin sister is? Or are you in contact with her. I love hearing about your life and where you are now. We have a 7 year old son we adopted at 2 1/2 and we are now 62 he is our 7th child
Hey Crystal.. I have a question for you and your sisters.. With having so many kid's how do yall deal with the LGBTQ community. Have a blessed day, Love yall
Thank you for sharing your story, Tristan!! 😊Being held back can be really tough on kids! Sucks you endured that. I’m glad you overcame that and are doing so well now!! I’m thankful that we didn’t hold our son back in 1st grade, even though the school really encouraged us to. He is profoundly dyslexic, and also struggles with dysgraphia and dyscalculia. School is tough for him. He is in 10th grade now. Still not on the same reading or writing level as his friends, but he learns more everyday. I wish we were in a posotikn to be able to foster or adopt! Our house isn’t big enough. Maybe after our son grows up and moved out, but I’m not ready for that yet! 🥲
