Having A Trans Partner 

My spouse of 10 years came out to me as trans . So we re-did our marriage with the correct clothes

I’m a cis guy but my girlfriend is trans, I wouldn’t have it any other way. To me, I sometimes even forget she’s trans, cis, whatever, cause it doesn’t matter to me. I love her and nothing will change that.

When I came out as a trans man to my boyfriend (he's a cis man), I told him that he has a boyfriend now. To which he replied, "I've always had a boyfriend". Since that day, he's always proud to tell people about his boyfriend, even if he lives in the rural south lol

PPD is postpartum depression. Horrible and sad thing for people after they give birth

I’m a cis guy and I dated a trans guy a little while back, and it was one of the best relationships of my life. Even though things didn’t work out, I still think of him sometimes. He set a relationship gold standard for me

Married 18 years. I identified as a lesbian and my spouse transitioned after we got married - it was a bit hard at times but we walked together and are stronger than ever. We are partners in every way - each of us taking on tasks that we are good at. He is great at the laundry while I excel at fixing things. We say f*ck gender roles and his motto is "Masculinity is what you make it". (Although it took him a long time to get there). Meanwhile he has a full beard that makes his cis brothers jealous, and I have a husband that is empathetic and understanding for female issues :) support, patience, and lots and lots of talking

Me during the pandemic: oh gosh, I think I might be gay, how will I tell my husband?? My wife with the most impeccable timing ever: I'm a woman Me: oh...well that's solves that We've never been happier

I will be forever grateful for my family who, when my partner came out as trans, said they love her like a daughter(she's mtf) and that she treats me better than any of my ex's have. We're getting married next year ❤ ☺️

My partner came out to me as trans after we'd been dating for about a year, and about half a year later I came out to them as being nonbinary - helping her express her true self helped me feel comfortable expressing mine. We both had our genders changed on our birth certificates, and when name changes happened we both changed our last names to the same name.

My fiancé and I met believing we were a pair of cis lesbian girls. Took us about four years before I realized I wasn’t and spent years questioning and figuring out my gender (non-binary, potentially some gender fluidity), and he took some time to think on himself after I came out, and came to realize he’s a very lovely trans man! 7 years into our relationship and we’re happier than ever.

When I came out to my dad as transfemme, he told me of how he used to date a trans woman. Apparently, she was his favorite girlfriend over the years because she "felt more real than any of (his) other girlfriends." They ended the relationship on good terms because she was moving away. I wish I could've met Alyx. She seems like a good person. And yes, she chose her name because of Half Life.

As a trans boy, I can say that I actually find that T4T relationships are what's best for me, because my partner understands what I'm going through and we can help each other. Anyone can relate?

I still don't know if I'll ever find love as a trans guy but damn this makes me hopeful sometimes

My bf has been here for me when I was a girl and continued to be here for me through my gender confusion and realising I'm nb. He called me handsome and his bf recently, it feels so nice.

I’ve just recently started dating a trans woman, and so far, the only adjustment I’ve had to make is that as a cis lesbian in my late 30s who’s never had to worry about birth control before, I had to figure it all out later in life compared to other cis women. Luckily, I have a very supportive family doctor who helped me navigate the whole thing, even reaching out to a compassionate care charity for my birth control of choice when my insurance didn’t cover it. My girlfriend is so lovely, and I’m so happy to have her in my life!

I don't know if you'll see this Jamie, but I used to show your videos to my dad over 5 years ago to help him become more accepting. It slowly but surely worked and now YEARS later hes a fully fledged ally! On a much sweeter side note your videos opened up a whole world for me, helped me realize being a trans man was an option and even led to my mom asking if I was trans a week after I came out to some friends (dw it was a nice story). I have so many great memories of sitting in our living room and watching your videos with my mom. She sadly passed away this year but she loved your content and was the best mom any queer kid could've asked for (though I am a grown adult now and have been for awhile). Thank you for just being you and making all of the wonderful, and positive content you make! You have surely changed many lives for the better!

We have been married for over 30 years (have a couple of kids and a half dozen grandchildren). About 5 years ago I came out as trans (ftm). My husband is cis and straight. Everyone asked if we would get divorced but there's no reason. I'm still the same person only less depressed and more hairy lol. My husband loves the person I am and I love him for being him. We've grown through the years never trying to change the other, while letting the other change and grow without fear of becoming unloved. The kids and grandkids had absolutely no problem with my transition. To them my husband is granpa 1 and I'm grandpa 2 or grandmapa.

Hello, person reading the comments! Did you know you are amazing? I am so proud of you! Whatever is going on in your life, remember, you've got this! You are so much stronger than you think! 🦕🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🦖

The day of my 1 year anniversary of coming out trans, my partner and I had gone to the zoo with friends of ours. I'd still been nervous about passing back then, especially since I hadn't been on HRT for very long. We ran into some coworkers of my partner and every time they would, without hesitation, introduce me as their girlfriend. Absolutely one of the best feelings of my life, and I can't wait till girlfriend, becomes wife.

I'm an amab person and two years ago I started doubting my gender and identifying as non binary using all pronouns but in fact i never had the confidence to use different pronouns than he/him even if when my partner occasionally used she/her i would melt in joy. This summer i realised i am in fact a girl and, even if we broke up (we are still good friends), i felt the necessity to text them to say thanks for being supportive and helping me in my self discovery when even I wasn't able

As a closeted trans woman (who for the time being wants to focus on herself rather than dating), it is really uplifting hearing stories like these ^^

I was with my girlfriend for almost 5 years and then she decided one day out of the blue that she wanted a "real" man. We were engaged. We were supposed to get married in less than half a year.

My partner of 11 years recently left me because I am non binary. I came out to him 2 years ago, and we got married a year later. Now, he says it's "too much" and that I "trapped him". He says this now after just a month ago we celebrated our 1 year wedding anniversary where we both expressed feeling the happiest we had ever been together. Very much needing the hope this video brings that someone will love me for who I am one day.

My first partner was a trans girl. She came out about 2 years into the relationship, and I remember she was near tears telling me because she thought I would break up with her since I thought I was gay at the time. I told her I didn't feel any different about her or our relationship, and she was actually the reason I came to realize I was bi.

12:53 A lesser known sexuality is demisexual which is when you are attracted to someone but only after you've developed an emotional bond with them. In situations like this, I think that's where the attraction comes from because they've developed a relationship where they connected in more ways than just physical.

To those who do sometimes feel like they can't be loved because they're trans, please know that that's not true! My husband helped me crack my egg after picking up on my dysphoria and chatting to me about it. He still loves me, but now I'm actually happier and feel safer in our own home. I can now communicate more clearly about how I'm feeling. And he makes sure every day to make sure I know he loves me. You are worthy of love, my friend. 💜 And if you see any hateful comments on this video, try to just scroll by and not let them ruin your day, because you are beautiful, loved, and worth so much more than transphobia. God bless!

Crying because I've spent this AM looking for an engagement ring for my trans-masc partner. He's the love of my life. Now watching this video and I just can't wait to spend the rest of my life with him

As a trans person with an unsupportive partner, these were both beautiful and heartbreaking stories to hear. I want what they have.

I feel SO much for these couples who are having a hard time with partner transitions. I recently divorced my spouse of 12+ years because I didn't think i could accept that I could no longer see the person i had married. I was afraid of change and of losing someone I loved. And now... I'm getting to see that same person happier than I've seen in the last decade. I can't believe I ever doubted it. She came out and is still the most beautiful person I've ever met. She is now my girlfriend 🩷 and I am thoroughly enjoying seeing her in a new light. I hope she feels the same.

I actually have a story relating to this. For context I am trans masculine (he/they) and my partner uses any pronouns. My partner was talking to a boy in one of their classes and I came up in conversation and they showed a picture of me and to him said that I was their boyfriend. Now this boy (I'll call him north) said that because of my biology they actually had a girlfriend, not a boyfriend. (I present very feminine and can't pass for shit) My best friend happened to overhear this and my friend and partner proceeded to absolutely tear into North about how he was transphobic and how I was their boyfriend and it just felt so amazing and affirming.

I dated a transguy in my teens, he came out to me as trans a few months in and I bought him his first binder and paid for him to change his name on his 16th birthday (unsupportive family so had to wait until 16 so didn't need their permission). Nothing about the relationship changed other than I had a boyfriend and not a girlfriend

So I’m non-binary my wife and our girlfriend are both trans and we are very happy. We all support and encourage each other to express ourselves as well as comfort each other when one of us is not ready for something.

I’m non-binary and my partner came out as non-binary too a little before we started dating! It’s amazing. :)

I love the stories where relationships with a trans partner works out, because I always get lost in well what if I meet somebody and they turn out to be transphobic, it gives me hope for finding someone and gives me hope for humanity as well.

My wife and I are both trans. T4T is such an amazing situation for us. While we are an AMAB-AFAB, husband and wife with a whole bunch of kids, we appear to be a cookie-cutter middle class American family and we mostly are. Its amazing to have a partner who understands dysphoria on the same level and understands how to help you through that. That level of "i get it because ive experienced it" has been so wonderfully healing for both of us after coming outnand transitioning before meeting each other, we both experienced very painful ends to long that relationships that ended because we came out.

My boyfriend is cis, I am trans (ftm). We met four years after I started my transition, so I was already very secure in my identity, passed very well and had very little dysphoria. Still I was scared I would never find someone who could handle me being trans and expected I would always have to make compromises I would not feel comfortable with or die lonely and sad (this is my first romantic relationship). But he shattered my worries and has been so much more caring and understanding than I could ever have imagined. He loves me. Not in spite of being trans. He just loves me. And I love him. I will propose to him on December 20th, which is our three year anniversary :)

I had a friend who I liked. Like, a lot. I am a non-binary lesbian. When he came out ad trans, I started to question my sexuality, because realistically, he is the same person yk? But then he started to transition, both socially and medically and well. I am a lesbian. So I got over my crush real quick (thankfully it was one-sided tho) and now he is one of my best friends and we support each other a lot. Both lived in different conservative small-towns, so the support has been great. In February, we will both move to the same city!

The first story, even as a trans person, I had a hard time when my first partner was changing his pronouns and name (he was already out as trans when we met) and I was so frustrated with myself for feeling confused and having a hard time adjusting. He was trying out neo pronouns for a while and I just couldn’t wrap my head around it, and I’d beat myself up for not using the correct pronouns. Things got easier with that tho and he ended up going by he/they along with the neo pronouns.

Both my partner and I are trans, and I couldn’t be more grateful. We’ve watched ourselves grow and change during all these time, and it has been amazing, it also makes it easier for us to understand each other.

PPD is Post-Partum Depression. It's unfortunately very common in new mothers, but dads are also able to end up with it as well, though it's less well-known.

I (34f) married my best friend two years ago, and they recently came out to me as trans (mtf). I love watching them trying new things (make-up and skirts) and being comfortable in their own skin. It's been an adjustment for me, and we both worry about how our families will react, but I'm excited for the future.

When I came out as trans to my wife, she had trouble at first because she identified as straight and now she was married to a woman. She soon though came to the conclusion that I was the same person, and she still loved me. I came out during COVID and we made plans to go out as a same sex couple when it was safe to do so. Unfortunately her liver started having problems and her liver and kidneys ended up failing and she passed away before we could go out together.

I understand the unknown, my dad is trans (she's still okay with being called dad) and she's a completely differently person then she was, when she was a man she was angry and sometimes took it out on things around her (objects not people) she broke a laptop once's and throw a stool because it was in her way. But now she's really happy, she started joking around again and hasn't yelled or thrown anything in a year now, it's so wired to see how she is now vs how she used to be

Omg you talking about the baby clothes with Shaaba 😭 Y'all are legit couple goals and you're gonna be a great father ❤

Yay, my boyfriend is trans ! I'm enby but i dont usually call myself trans, and i love him a lot

My boyfriend is trans and came out about a year into us dating and we are closer than we have ever been. My family have been amazing even my dad with dementia hasn’t made any mistakes referring to him. We are both so lucky to have people around us that are so supportive. I will never stop loving him 🥰🏳️‍⚧️

On Tuesdays, I get to be the husband. At some early point in our relationship, I mentioned that I was sad because I'll never get to be someone's husband. Ever since then, on Tuesdays, I am the husband and he is the wife. This affectionate little inside joke morphed into a loving affirmation from my spouse when I came out as non-binary three years ago. It's a small but tender thing for me - we even swap out wedding wine glasses that say "Mr." And "Mrs." - because it's a safe space he made before it ever came up. So, I actually DO get to be someone's husband, and I have the most amazing husband AND wife.

As someone whose relationship went up in flames (to put it very, very lightly) the literal moment I realized I am trans, this was a bittersweet video to watch I'm incredibly envious of those who didn't lose their entire lives when their egg cracked. That being said, it warms my heart that there are compassionate and understanding people out there supporting my trans siblings Here's hoping as time goes on and trans people become more culturally accepted stories like this become more and more common If you have a partner that accepts and supports you, give them a hug for me ❤

It’s interesting to see Jamie pre and post haircut. Could it be the Jammidodger Multiverse?

I can't wait to read the book. You've helped me discover who I really am. Thank you.

I'm just happy to see that there's people standing up for the trans transgender community and other communities. I am a sis male, but I grew up in the 80s, where I learned, it's best to live and let live. As long as you're not hurting anyone, who cares what you do, as long as it makes you happy. I also don't judge people for the same reason. Everyone walks in different shoes, and unless you walk a mile in those shoes, you have no idea what they are thinking or what they went through. So you do you, and I'll do i. And maybe we'll agree that we both deserve that have mutual respect for each other.

im cis, my gf is trans, i met her after she started (she is gonna start taking hrt in the follow months), i cannot explain how happy i feel when she tell me she feel like a woman around me sometime my sister is also trans and i also love her very much (im myself bi if you ask) edit : also, before meeting her i was very transphobic, i did arleady started becoming an ally when i was accepting my sister after like, a year of transition, but yeah , she really turned me into a proud ally

Having a trans partner is awesome! 😁🏳️‍⚧️

I realized I was queer when i was dating my first partner and one day she came to me and told me she feels like a girl. My first reaction was surprise, as you can imagine. I was scared i would lose feelings for her because i loved everything we did together and felt genuine connections and we had a good friendship beforehand. but i decided to stick it out to see what would happen. I found myself in love with a girl who felt happier to wear a girl's swimsuit and paint her nails and grow her hair out (I loved her curls!) and i found myself seeing things in stores and thinking "ooo should i get that for my girlfriend?" We walked hand in hand in school, confident and happy and (i asked beforehand if she was ok with this) I told everyone i loved my girlfriend soooo so much. It was middle school so it was obviously a surprise when a seemingly hetero couple suddenly turned out to be lesbian. I was proud to hold her hand, i was happy that we didnt fight over gender identity, but rather who got more chocolate from a croissant we split. We did eventually break up but we remain friends to this day and she looks STUNNING!! Im so proud of her and theres no awkwarness to our relationship, we're two friends who can chat and laugh and continue to fight over who got more chocolate from a croissant.

I've had three romantic relationships. All three with trans girls. All three asked me to be their boyfriend. Apparently I'm a trans chick magnet. Lol

PPD stands for postpartum depression. Someone who is at a very high risk of PPD can also be at risk for PPP (post-partum psychosis) which can get really dangerous for everyone involved. IMO it was really shitty that the partner to not wait to start HRT until that risk had passed to ensure that one person in the house had a stable hormonal state. It would have only been another two months. And I get that it's hard to wait, I'm trans too, but this is literally about the safety of the baby and the gestational parent.

When I had top surgery, I am told (I don't directly remember this because of the anesthesia) that I identified the three people who came with me as "my mom, my dad, and my girlfriend." Since then, two of those descriptions have changed. My moms have been together for over 30 years through more ups and downs than my partner of nearly 8 years and I can probably imagine, but transition has been an overall positive change for all of us and we're all a lot closer because of it. My partner and I are getting ready to move into an apartment together but we plan on visiting my moms regularly and inviting them over.

Regular reminder that you're all awesome, beautiful and valid little spuds, just the way you are ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 Love you all ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

I am so unsure and scared of the steps that may be ahead of me. Watching your videos shows many facettes, normalized perviously 'weird' thoughts -I put thouse aside as 'wrong' in the past- and helped me to find a way to myself. I am not there yet, but it is becoming more clear to me. Thank you for taking away so much fear and guilt for just being different.

My husband is trans and had already transitioned before we met. I'm in awe of this person and What he went through with his transition and life in general. It's not my story to share, but to any trans person reading this and having a hard time: it's not the end. Things get better. ❤

I was with my girlfriend for 4 years before I came out and she has been more supportive than I ever could have imagined. There definitely was an adjustment period and lot of work on both of our ends but our relationship is better than it ever was before. She also started realizing that she’s gay as I transitioned so we’ve been working through that as well. Can’t wait to marry her next year!

I was very early in my transition when I started dating my boyfriend, who up until dating me had referred to himself as a "intense ally", and was scared for a long time that as I progressed in my transition he would fall out of love with me. instead, he has publically come out as queer and has been exploring his own gender identity and has come to terms with his past attractions to men. its so beautiful seeing him be more comfortable in himself and I have zero fears about his attraction to me. we celebrate our 1 year anniversary in January and I couldn't be more excited ❤

This video was so freaking adorable omg! My amazing girlfriend and I are both trans girls and I am seriously so happy to be with her, I am so lucky that she ended up liking me back and I love her so much c:. Us both being trans hasn’t affected the relationship too much, it’s something that we were both very aware of for a long time before we started dating so there wasn’t really any shock or anything there lol, but I think one good way that it’s affected me at least is that I feel like she can understand a lot of what I often go through because she’s also trans, and because of that, she is so amazing whenever she’s comforting me about something, especially when it’s trans related, she can just instantly understand what I’m going through and is just always so amazing!!! Honestly I don’t really know why I’m rambling on so much about this lol, I guess I just wanted to share how amazing my gf is lol, anyway, if anyone read all of this, thank you and I hope you have a good day lmao c:

Lovely video. I'm always relieved when Jamie does some more positive videos. It feels like a very necessary breath of fresh air. I'm non-binary and came out as such about 4 1/2 years ago. My spouse (together for 10 years, married for 5) has been my rock. A minor bit of friction does come from the fact he still identifies, at least somewhat, as heterosexual. Because of my AGAB, it makes me uncomfortable. But at the same time, I don't ever wish to dictate how anyone else sees themselves. He has been the absolute best at transitioning pronoun use (I exclusively use they/them) and can frequently be my champion when I ask him for help correcting others. Hearing the stories of other couples who began life one way and then had a queering of the status quo end up living life with fullness and love gives me such joy and hope.

It's nice to hear stories of love with fellow trans people!!! Sometimes, I feel like me being trans is a hindrance to finding love and it's something that'll never happen. I want to find love one day but idk if that's ever possible. People used to ask me out as a joke, I never felt like I was "handsome" enough to draw attention. At this point in my life, whatever happens will happen. All I can really do is be more open towards other people. I used to shut myself out from other people because of the crap I've gone through. It would be nice to have someone in my life, it might not happen now or even later but I hope it happens one day, all I can do is just work on who I am for now.

My mom came out when I was a kid (ftm) he still is fine with us calling him mom and I was young enough and raised in a lgbtq supportive house and it was nothing to me and immediately understood and years later I'm trans mtf and it's kinda weird looking at stories of uncomfort in trans but it's still cool

This was such a sweet video ^v^. it reminded me of my own relationship w my boyfriend. He's a cis gay guy & I'm a pre-t pan trans guy & he's always been cool w me exactly as I am & that's my story of trans joy >w

My sister (mtf) was in her mid-thirties when she came out. She'd been with the same partner for over a decade, a person my whole family adores. They have a son who was I think maybe seven years old at the time. Within a few months, my sister's partner expressed how they'd been feeling, and my sister said, "That sounds like gender dysphoria." Her partner was shocked to realize that yeah, that was it. So two-and-a-half years later, my sister is engaged to the man (ftm) of her dreams, and they're happier than ever, going on fifteen years together. Both are now on HRT and feel like they're actually who they're supposed to be. My immediate family accepted all of it in stride and provided support, though my mom did go through that grieving process even though she's very accepting and supportive.

Hey, to any trans people reading this, I'd like some advice: We all know that chasers (people who date trans people solely because they're trans and fetishize them) are bad. But is it problematic for a cis person to have a preference towards trans people as long as that's not their sole or main reason for liking them (i.e. being trans is a factor, but not a bigger one than personality or shared interests), and as long as they aren't creepy or disrespectful towards them? This is based on a comment I saw under Jamie's previous video. EDIT: Thanks for your responses so far! The general consensus seems to be that it's OK to have a preference (something my offline agender friend also agrees with), though I admit that there can be concerns. My advice is that you should definitely remember to treat your trans partner (or partners!) as a person first and foremost. As long as you do that, and as long as your partner(s) is/are OK with your preference, then both/all of you can live your lives together happily.

With the one where the wife started hormones when she was asked to wit a bit, PPD is postpartum depression. Pregnancy and birth can cause a lot of hormone issues with the person, so having the wife also start having hormone changes can be stressful.

My wife and most of my crushes are either trans or at least gender non-conforming. Authentic people are the best! Also I've noticed I always have some sort of shared background with trans folks- if they're afab, we may have had similar puberty woes, and trans women often enjoy sharing beauty routines etc!

I came out as a trans girl 10 years into a gay relationship. We lived for 9 years as straight. Now I am on the other side of the fence as my now girlfriend came out as a girl too. Not spmething I expected but I'm happy for her and am excited to be in a lesbian relationship. I love her even more and its a bit of a Rollercoaster helping me to re-address my own identity and dysphoria issues.

I'm polyamorous and when I came out as trans guy, I had 2 different conversations in regards to dating/sex. Both are straight(ish) and cis men: "Hey, since you're a guy, what does that make my sexuality?" "How do you identify?" "Straight." "Straight with an exception?" *Shrugs* "Yeah." "Maybe I'm queerer than I thought." So yeah, I hang out with good allies

not necessarily romantic, but i've known my friend for 16 years now, we've known each other since kindergarten. i came out as trans in high school and they were super accepting, but then a few years later they came out as nonbinary! seeing them expressing themself in new ways and getting to come out of their shell has been so wonderful for me to see, they're my best friend and i'm so happy for them :')

I’m a gay cis male and my boyfriend is a trans man. Been together more than a year and I am the hoppiest I have ever been.

the wife who wants her partner to pass, that might never be possible for them anyway. some people gotta make their peace with what they got, and that is a journey. its not possible to push somebody to that. for having done so much research (and good on you for it), there is much you have yet to learn. being trans is sometimes, just awful. coming to terms with every person you meet going forward in your life knowing that you are trans because of how you look is not easy. i can understand being afraid of her partner getting hatecrimed. i live in the deep south and yeah, its a risk. but if you cant move and cant pass, you just have to make your peace with that too.

Got a divorce earlier this year because my husband thought me being Non Binary 'was a phase' even though he was well aware for years before we married. It gives me so much hope to see all the happy stories in the comments! 💙💙💙💙

This is making me cry.... I'm so scared that I can never support my partner (mtf) properly...... We live in a red state and I'm afraid I can never figure out how to help them reach where they want to be....

Ththis means a lot to me. I'm a gay trans guy, I've been single for like 10yrs and my previous partner (the only guy I've dated since coming out... basically went for the first gay man who would have me, big mistake) was awful. He told me he wanted an open relationship because I didn't have the right parts to satisfy him, isolated me from my friends, basically hammered it in that I was sooo lucky to have anyone at all. I'm still terrified of trying to date. I'm kind of a recluse so I don't really go out, and I'm scared of using the apps in case someone gets violent over me being trans. But it's nice to know that there's hope for people like me 😢

I'm a trans man, and I've been out for almost 10 years and my mother is finally actively trying to get my pronouns correct. When she was at her least supportive, my partner told my MiL how rough it was on me (though she could see it in how I avoided talking about my mother anyway) and she told my partner "he calls me mom, I'm kind of invested in this" and asked how to support me. A day or so later she asked me what I wanted her to look for souvenir wise cuz she was going on a trip and said "listen, I don't want to be getting you bows if you want ties." And I couldn't stop smiling. When she came back I had cut all my hair off and she immediately complimented my smile and said "I love how free you look with your boy-hair." Since it was the first time she'd really seen me that confident and happy. I'll never forget how tightly she hugged me after that and am so grateful for having an amazing mom, she's not my birth mother but she's the best mom I could ever ask for.

I (30 cis F) introduced my trans NB partner to your videos, Jamie, and now we watch them all independently but also sometimes together, including this one which we watched together this afternoon and now I'm coming back this evening to comment. I understand what some of the people in your video say about a grieving process about a person and life that doesn't come to fruition because of transitioning, though it does also make me sad to think about because there are so many possibilities that come with transitioning too that I feel are often overlooked. I just wanted to put this out there to people with NB partners that sometimes your life and partnership become more real and more solid after your person comes out. It's like everything that was good and comfortable about us before has become crystalized and there's more to explore in their gender and expression that I get to be a part of and support them in. I understand why sometimes gender transitions can be destabilizing for partners, but also want to voice my contentment and happiness for my partner living more authentically and that action having only positive ramifications in our life and existence as partners.

The most beautiful moment of my life was with my now ex bf, we dated for some time and i (mtf) never told him that im trans, i got very heavily bullied and so now even to this day i struggle to tell people im trans (i wanted to comment on so many vids of jammi but didnt bcs of that) anyway after a few weeks of dating i felt like its not fair hiding it any longer from him so i told him om trans, and his reaction was to hug me and say "i already knew that" without a 2nd though he treated me as a woman, our relationship didnt work out but we are still very close friends

I'm a cis bisexual woman and I adore my girlfriend. We first dated back in high school, and she came out a year into our relationship, and a few months after I had moved a state over. Teenage me would have really appreciated what Jamie said about processing any negative feelings or it being okay and understandable to grieve in some way because I was made to feel bad by my family feeling her transition was unfair to me and blamed her for my bisexuality (I had come out to my partner as bi a few months prior, before moving). I was very supportive once I shook off initial shock and was otherwise very happy and excited for her and for us. We broke up after graduation, which devastated me of course as she was my first real love, and she later confirmed she felt the same of me, but also felt we needed to figure out who we were on our own. A few years passed and we reconnected and became best friends again, we always connected instantly since the day we met, her energy is just electric that way. Then somewhere down the line we saw each other in person for the first time since high school, and days later she drunkenly confessed she still had feelings for me. I said I felt the same way, and we were inseparable after that (as much as we can be considering the distance), and we'll be celebrating our 3rd anniversary in May ❤ I've never felt happier, more loved, and more supported and respected than when I'm with her and speak to her. I can't wait to marry her someday. She truly is the love of my life 🥰💖

I transitioned after my partner and I had been dating for 5 years (now dating for 8 years). It's been crazy how much we've grown as people and as a couple. We communicate so well and having gone through this together makes me feel like we can tackle anything. We also just had a baby who is 4 months old and he is the chillest little dude. It is so fun going through life together

My wife is trans, and I've really appreciated that subreddit as a place of solidarity and support from time to time. It can be difficult watching someone you love struggle through the process of figuring out who they are and what they've been suppressing and hiding, but I'm so happy I did because she's the world to me and now everyone gets to know the person I saw when it was just us before. I love her so much.

I feel like a lot of these stories are about two people dating and then one of them comes out as trans. But thats not the only way we find love. My girlfriend only knows me post transition, knew from the start that i was trans and never ones thought of it, even kind of forgets it sometimes? Like not in a way that erases my struggles, she is aware of them and sees them when i need them to be seen, but in a way that shows it doesnt matter to her at all? Love can find you easily after you came out too, I feel like stories like mine are just as important and romantic as those of the couple where the transition happens after they got together.

Just seeing queer couples being happy makes me sooo happy too! 🥰💛 Spreading some love is always amazing!

I came out to my parrner as trans about 2 years ago now. We ended up breaking up which hurt a lot more because it was about that, but i made it clear that her feelings are very important and i understand that you may not feel the same way anymore. 2 years later, she has been one of my biggest supporters and shows me as much love as she did before(just in different ways now 😋). If it wasn't for her support i wouldn't be where i am now. 4 months into transitioning, and It feeels amazing.

I can't describe how much I needed this. I realized I'm nonbinary about two or so months ago and its been hard. I've had so many internal battles combined with not being in a place (location-wise) where I can even consider coming out to any but my closest friends. I'm working on moving and getting to a place both physically and emotionally where I can start to be open about who I am. But, one of my biggest worries and concerns, has been finding a partner who accepts me. Seeing not just the struggles but also the successes of so many really helped shine a ray of hope into a particularly difficult time, and I'm so grateful! Thank you Jammi for the amazing content!

Very cute! All the feels ❤

These were heavy stories, but important to express for betterment to be themselves. I read your book it was nice. I read it to understand better and attempt to be a better ally. I ended up giving it to some friends who has a kid who has realized they are nonbinary. I really liked how it had a part for someone transitioning and one for blokes like me. Thank you for helping me peek into a world I don't know enough about.

My mom said she’s proud of you Jamie for posting both positive and negative stories on the trans community

Listened to the book on Audible this week! It was amazing! Thank you for all the hard work you and everyone else put into it! Thank you to everyone who shared their stories for it! Stay amazing! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

Im a cis m and my Trans gf is the love of my life, im bi/pan (still working on that), i have never been happier in a relationship, recently we have been going out and im so proud to hold her hand in public, we went shopping and she got the most amazing dress and coat, before we went out she looked in the mirror and said "i feel really pretty".....simple answer.....you are pretty, seeing her see herself as i see her everyday made me tear up, she is a loveing, beaitiful woman

I'm a Trans man. I had been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years and he was the first person I came out to. He was very supportive, and was so happy to see me be my best self and grow more confident, but I was putting off taking hormones for him. He sat me down and said he had to break up with me because he knew I was still hiding myself to make him feel better, and he wanted me to go and be my best masc self and he couldn't be with me anymore cause he's straight and im a guy. Him and I are still good friends and I love and appreciate what he did for me.

I have been accepting myself as nonbinary for about a year now and have changed names and pronouns. As I’m discovering more about myself and my past and how it all lines up, my spouse has begun to come out of their own shell more and live their own life as a nonbinary person. They’ve always been pretty feminine at home but we’ve found a group of friends who are all queer and neurodivergent and now we’re just a bunch of weird they/thems.

I really loved these posts!!! So good to hear other peoples views on transitioning. Thanks Jamie!!

I unfortunately had to leave my 7 year relationship in order to come to terms with being trans. It was the hardest thing I had ever done, but I had to do it in order to create a version of myself that wasn’t based on what I thought women wanted me to be. Even though it’s painful to think about what could have been if I had been able to realize I was trans before ending our relationship, it still makes me so happy to see so many people just thriving as a unit after coming out. Love all my Trans 🏳️‍⚧️ peeps and our allies/partners ❤️🙌

Thank you for being you, Jammi.. You're so honest about this stuff. It's refreshing in this crazy world.

My last day at work before top surgery, I brought in a tray of cookies with little chocolate dimples in the middle; coworkers not in the know said "Oh, how sweet"- coworkers in the know immediately started chanting "TITTY COOKIES" and pumping their fists in glee. 😂