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Hey JA, I just wanted you to know that I married last Saturday! 🎉. I had been divorced since 2008. I finally met my dream man 3 years ago (he definitely checked allll the boxes). Anyways I found your utube around the same time and we read all the books you recommended. Anyhow we are SO happy and I feel it was made possible by what we learned via you, your teachings, and books. Thank you for the work you do! I hope you find your lady soon!!!
Exactly !!! I have Zero Problems talking on the phone and texting but if he grosses me out...No Go. One of my 1st boyfriends out of the gate was a pediatrician with his own practice, yet he grossed me out. He was too fucking goofy and I couldn't fake being attracted to him in that way. He wound up purchasing a russian or ukranian woman a few years later. I did want to feel it for him; he was taller than me (of course because I'm 5'2"), and all that but I was not into him having two teenage daughters and I was just turned off. That's my thing; no daughters. If you have any, then you're not for me. NEXT!!
True, but sometimes I feel like if a dude says that to me, is he meaning that he just isn't "ready" for a serious relationship with me? Or a serious relationship all together. Either way, you're right about no treating him special if he's not treating ME special.
@@Goodwillwinoverevil1984 I hear ya. So damn frustrating. I swear we are the stronger sex emotionally !! We are able to say what we want or not. These men today seem flaky to me. Sometimes I want to shout out loud and yell, “man up and grow up.” Ya know. Frustrating as hell. Anyway, best of luck to you and thanks for being brave and sharing!!
@@gigi9301 there’s something about controlling daughters. Especially if the man is widowed. They seem to go into a wife like role. It’s psycho !! My guy has a bunch of sons that are wonderful! The two daughters are pessimistic and controlling and absolutely manipulating. He is starting to see it now. Thank god. It’s been an uphill battle. I feel like I’ve been a therapist up til now. Anyway, we truly enjoy each other and there is love between us. We had lots of kinks to work out. I still want to do formal counseling though. It’s so much work but worth it in long run. It’s been a rough road but I am finally feeling a peace about things. Time will tell
@@Tbn48ibp Great to hear that it's getting better with the daughters! About five years ago I had a rough relationship with a guy who had Three single daughters. I thought that since they were grown adults and not living with him that there wouldn't be any problems. Oh Boy was I Wrong! I just couldn't win them over and he didn't try to help the situation RIP to that relationship. Anyway, nice to hear that it sounds like your guy is willing to work with you and the daughters on this and Congratulations!!
My guy had a daughter age 22 and away at college but we had all kinds of trouble with her. Manipulation, calls Where she’d yell at him, it was sick!! One time He said to me “if she knows I’ve taken you on a vacation..she’ll Kill me.” I should Have ran then!! Ugh. She’s been a bit better. He’s learning boundaries with her and he’s improved as has she..but geez…it was terrible in beginning. She ran the show !!!
Some Improvement and now he has proposed and no one has had counseling but me!! Great guy but the family dynamic is less Than par And at my age 60 ish…geez. I’d rather have a dog I think. 😂
He's a widower for almost a year, attractive, employed, has a retirement plan, wants long term relationship. I'm feeling really good about him. wish us love 😉😉😉❤️❤️❤️❤
@@flowersroses4430 Agreed. Bad move. I meant falling in love is not within our conscious control. (For some anyway. Perhaps it is for others...if that can be called love because it seems more like a conscious, rational decision to behave in a specific way as Jonathan seems to describe "love" here.) Anyway, to act on one's feelings is something very different & totally within our control--ie to date. Our hearts, unfortunately, cannot be bridled so easily. Does that clear up the distinction? One can fall in love with a married man unwittingly and never act on it.
I'll admit, I'm "selective". Lately I haven't been "attracted to anyone I've seen on the apps, but opted to put "intriguing" options in the cart. None panned out which is great as I know what I'm looking for, but so bummed I felt an emotionally available great guy but was repulse by his physical appearance. No sexual attraction what's so ever. Back to square one. (No pun intended)
Everyone that I have dated has been completely different. I have seriously dated 5 men in my life. I am 64. I married 2 of these men and had a 23 marriage and an 8 year marriage. I don't have a type physically, just inner and emotional preferences.
Limerence, as defined originally, by Dorothy Tennov in her 1979 book Love & Limerence, is a normal state experienced by someone when they have fallen head-over- heels in love. She said in her book that some people never experience it & cannot undersrand it. It's the romantic love depicted in poetry, theater, opera, music. It's big, intense, and deep. Think Romeo & Juliet: Good night, Good night Parting is such sweet sorrow That I shall say good night Till it be morrow It's not the pedestrian relationship that's decribed here: good enough, you can make it work, better than nuthin, sign a dating contract, checking boxes kind of thing.
@@bootsiekeegan4401Love is complex, based in emotion, & for the most part, doesn't translate to language. You are blessed to have found it in your lifetime, though It's never perfect. Wishing all the best.
Self love care ..far far far away Mountains to mountains ,Oceans to oceans .. millions and millions miles away .only love finds the ways. .story is my testimony..
I think women are more flexible with outer appearance, then men. Men are way to visual. If a man grooms well, dresses well, smells great, is reasonably in shape, has good teeth. Then if he has an average face, but a great personality we can deal with that.
Short women that want a super tall guy, and the super tall guys that are into short women ... Is that an insecurity? …. Looks unpractical, uncomfortable.
@@JonathonAslay I’ve heard that very tall men that only choose short women, because the size difference makes them “ feel masculine”. it could be something similar with short girls ‘ trying to make up for their size, maybe insecurity or ego because not all tall guys fight and protect, that has to do with character, there are small guys that are aggressive and protective.
Most Hollywood actors who people consider sexy etc are not that tall, 5'10" is good enough for me as I'm 5'9" 😁 and one of my good friends said the same thing, shorter men try harder, have more drive 🔥
🤔 You never want to marry, love deeply, be all in!? Aren’t health issues arising to be expected iF your intention is to have a loving, long term relationship? With his health & even eventually yours!?
Jonathan, you crack me up the way you get your points across. You need to leave the City girls alone and date Country Gal who has her feet on the ground.
Is just different for men vs women, or is it Jonathan? That mysterious & intangible spark can occur if a man is missing his front teeth or has a beer gut the size of Texas. No doubt. Is that a only a female thing? Who knows where it comes from? How it happens? Someone's voice? The way they shift their eyes? Their gaze? Their gait? Who knows? One thing is for sure: either he touches something inside you, or he doesn't. If he doesn't, he never will. If he does, he always will. Is it different for men?
He doesn’t check ALL the boxes if any of those BIG “buts” are there. Those are deal breakers to me that you named. No chemistry is important. I tried for a year to make it develop and no go. He was bad at kissing and it didn’t get better EVER. He was great in other ways.
I had to break up with a great man after nearly 5 months of trying to rationalize or ignore a huge belly. I didn’t want to give into what I thought was superficial expectations on my part. Would he try to lose a few pounds, yes, but at 60 yrs old I knew he wouldn’t lose 40 or 50 lbs. I had this feeling he was unhealthy and that was a big turn off. I’m still trying to understand this part of myself. If the physical attraction isn’t there, you can’t ignore that “box”.
This was the BEST yet! Is that possible when every YT video by JA is the best? Somehow, it is. THANK YOU for speaking boldly about the emotional in€est that is so common in single dads and daughters. Of all ages - young to adult. The daughter is terribly damaged in the ‘crutch/surrogate partner/unconditional support/forever together/etc’ role. Many single fathers are enmeshed with their daughters and very much You and Me Against the World stance towards the ex wife and every other woman. You really rock, JA! Dare I say you have grown hugely since the break up? It’s hard won, I’m sure. You are really coming through as a pure vibration these days! 👑
Hi Jonathan … I know you can’t speak for all men but in your opinion what do men in their 40s who are divorced with kids ( young or older ) think of a woman who ….is 40, never married, no kids, owns her own place ,fit and vibrant, good cook baker and positive mindset Do they say ohhh what’s wrong with her or do they say wow this is a high value woman ?
Enjoy the box of chocolates you attracted through your vibration. If there's one missing perhaps your favourite then don't have a melt down. No one stole it it wasn't there is the first place. Enjoy the box, it's always delicious if you look at it in an expansion of growth way. The day will come when you yourself offered a filler box. The box is never quite complete because you are never quite complete. It is a delicious journey is it not. It never ends. One day you will look back over all the different chocolates you ate and love them all for the part they played in helping to make you whole. You could even enjoy the nutty ones too lol. I enjoy the wisdom contained in your content and your great way of expressing it.
Jonathan, you are so right on Brad I don’t care about air bombs you tell that you’re and you call just as you see you’re a realist, so am I your Aquarius friend Lori
Bro,How about if the guys are still using only fans and the ladies who give free sex ? How is the guy free from this so he can engage in the new relationship leading to marriage?😂
@@juliefrecker3811 Exactly 👏🏻👏🏻 That’s why I don’t get the short women that want a tall guy and have to look up to the ceiling to see his face, ridiculous… no whispering, no hugging, no spontaneous kissing...💋
