She has a point to learn from though. You can be a normal average guy and hang out with the hottest girls if you know how women work. You can be super handsome and still have problems with women. He was probably talking too much and I dont blame her.
@allisongross2946 coming from you that's rich Karen. You can't even make a argument without a strawman. She should probably date someone closer to her own age since she lacks the energy to keep up or are you trying to say that the entire burden of communication rests on him and all she has to do is sit there? Not the equality she wanted but the equality she got, they are both better off with someone more their speed and it just so happens she's the slower one, nothing wrong with that, but the hypocrisy is where the issue is.
Disney, Lifetime and Hallmark have created generations of women who are utterly incapable of understanding that real relationships have a lot of give and take. They require work, if you are quitting at step 1 with THAT kind of potential then you deserve to be alone.
@@mnomadvfx Feminism has created a generation of women who know they don't HAVE to be in a relationship. It should be a bonus that makes you happy. If it makes you miserable then there is no point.
This reminds me of Kaka, Brazilian soccer player, won the ballon d’or, World Cup, champions league, Christian, handsome, successful, really talented and good guy, his wife cheated on him 🫠 she said he was too perfect for him.Delulu make no sense.
We don't need to know... Why are women posting these on the web?!? If men posted all the times they have been rejected, the World would not have enough MEMORY CAPACITY to store it on the internet. And she can't even try a 2nd date... Just in case.... 😒
@lise7538 You're right, being in a relationship is a want these days.. doesn't mean they require any less work. When your expectations are ridiculous and you can't be bothered with effort you lose any entitlement to sympathy and the right to complain. It's a her problem. Not compatible because he's not a doormat and has boundaries.
@@GLoLChibs You're speculating. We do not know anything about their interactions besides that she felt he didn't listen to her. That literally the only thing we know. And still the comment section is full of "She couldn't handle that he set boundaries!" Or "he wasn't a doormat that's why ! ". How do you know ? Why are you ignoring the only thing we know of this conversation (her side) and getting bitter about something you invented in your head ? Why am I the only one who understands that yes, relationships take work. And most people would put in the work when they feel it's worth it. In this case it wasn't worth it, and that's ok. You're not attracted to every single person you meet, you are not ready to invest time and energy in every single person you meet. What she is doing is actually smart: she didn't feel anything special for him, and so she decided not to waste her time or his and to move on. Why do you want her to insist ?
@@bobfg3130 On what ground can you decide it's her fault ? Also, why is it anyone's fault ? When two people are not right for each other it doesn't matter whose fault it is, the goal of having a date is not to make it work at all costs with the person, it's only to determine of you're interested. If you're not, you move on.
@@bobfg3130what is her fault? What actions did she perform that led to the man talking over her for two hours? Why did none of his actions result in his actions?
Sounds more like he was upfront with expectations a relationship with him would entail, so she ran. Seems he wasn't taking pillow princess applications.
@@somerandomweeb4836 If you try an ice-cream flavor one time and decide not to get it the next time, do you think that's giving up ? Would you buy that flavor again and again until you like it ?
"i feel like i was talked at" It's funny how she words it as if he victimized her somehow. Is he just supposed to be silent the entire time so she can complain he's too boring? She just wanted a free meal 🙄
@@mohshuvuu9076 So in every scenario this woman who says she wasn't being heard is wrong, but the invisible guy we do not know is right. We don't even need to know his side, he's right every time.
She’s hoping that maybe some guy will see this and learn something for a change. It’s NOT okay to just lecture or talk at someone. People like that need to learn how to have a conversation. They need to both talk and exchange ideas. That guy would be hopeless in a relationship if he can’t even have a conversation.
@@missmayflower exactly, this girl criticizes others, but how she talks, you know she's a walking red flag, as she is the exact same and doesn't recognize it.
Idk I think this lady was rejected and dejected. Watch her demeanor b4 the date and after. She was in a such a high but was very low after the date. Getting talked at would make someone disappointed, she did not look disappointed she looked very demoralised or dispirited.
Thank you for being a empathetic human being. ❤️ everyone in the comments tearing the poor woman down not knowing the difference between someone talking to you or talking at you. You broke it down beautifully
@@punkrockmetalqueen92as maxim said, she could have simply pointed that out to him, if everything she said is true, her standards are too high, no human being is perfect.
@@allisongross2946 yeah. No one said she couldnt JUMP in. If youre feelong talked at, it's because shes not used being quiet and listening to someone else. Shes used to doing ALL the talking.
"I was talked at for the past hour" A.K.A "I wanted to do the all the talking about my ex, my unpaid bills and how depressed I felt last week but instead he wanted me to listen to what he wanted to say."
I’d love to Notice how I said “I feel”? That’s for two reasons. Once is because it’s my own personal interpretation of what has happened, secondly is because that’s how this woman stated what happened, she said “I felt” meaning she has a much evidence to her claim as I do mine. In that neither of us has THAT much evidence other than our own personal feelings which are biased assumptions, no matter how accurate. But what we DO know for certain. Is she made a before and after video about her date, and went home unhappy and still single.
So…….she didn’t found him interesting despite green flags she point out? Unless she is trying not to say bad things about him maybe out politeness, I don’t see a convincing reason why she didn’t accepted him
She didn't like him and obviously wasn't attracted to him. That is THE ONLY good reason not to accept him, not whether or not he fit a list of requirements.
Here's the thing, at the end of the day, if he's emotionally too available, he's not the one. If he's emotionally unavailable, then all of a sudden there's chemistry.
I know she sounds picky, but really, sometimes it just like that: you don't feel the love, and it's okay. What would not have been okay would have been her continuing the relationships knowing she didn't feel any love.
I totally get what this woman is saying. Men these days are so used to women being basically gold-diggers, that they feel they have to display their value really fast and get a lot of words out to impress you. They may not even be wrong. Problem is that when they talk about themselves too much, they look egotistical. She should let him know that she felt she didn't get a chance to really talk to him, and if he wants to try again, they could start over. Good guys are not that easy to find.
Well, that's what adult people do: they say things, instead of playing games. She most probably didn't tell him anything like: "Can we change the topic, please?", or: "I'd like to talk about...". She chose to record this video instead.
@@missmayflower how do you reduce her absence of positive energy and ability to keep pace with a upbeat person who likes talking, to him being a bad guy? You aren't going to be successful without people skills. That's like saying that those high energy, always smiling chicks are bad, which is ridiculous and comes off more as jealous than anything.
@@Kalayana Brother man, youre a 16 year old accordion player. You are ... probably single and have no life experience to be making this statements. How about you "go on a date" first, THEN start "giving advice" after youve found success in the area lmao.
Grasses are always greener on the other side. Crossed multiple meadows, ends up in a green algae swamp. Tired and old, starting to see the beauty of swamp.
She doesn't look young either , she missed a Big opportunity Everything IS good about thé Guy she IS talking about and Steel find in him problèmes that are not a Big deal
@@user-ky9wf3tf8m even a sculptor has to find a deformed rock to turn it into a statue, he doesnt find a statue automatically. this woman w.o any communication expect that guy to be a mind reader and be a perfect boyfriend. this woman is crazy
An adult should know that the other person wants to talk, too. Also he seems to have no interest in getting to know her. I agree with the woman. Also I did tell a lot of people that i want to talk, too. But they did not change, even when I told it a few times. I have no trust that people who love to talk stop doing it in the future.
@@ZuerstJesusyou know there’s a big reason we have mouths, communication is key in fact relationships are built on communication. If she isn’t even trying to put effort in to talk herself then idk she should get a man who just sits there quiet
@@siencenwiz1951 I think she did. But he was not interested. I experience that, too. I tell something about myself (ony one sentence) and the other person gets bored immediately and looks away and interrups me and just wants to talk about themself. And sometimes the other person just doesn't make a break and talks and talks and I have no chance in stopping them. I try to show them that I want to speak but the other person doesn't recognize it. I think I have to scream to stop them. But that is not a nice thing to do when you are in a restaurant with other people.
I don't see anything weird or unreasonable with this one at all. Sounds like she knows the shallow things aren't as important and she'd be delulu to start dating him just because he's hot and has money.
I’ve realized over the years that especially with first dates, girls want you to ask them a lot of interesting questions where they get to talk a lot and you just listen and respond. You still have to share some about yourself, but only share enough that will allow the girl to share more. They will feel heard and “feel” an emotional connection. Don’t approach the first date like you are interviewing for a job where you feel like you need to present your CV, approach the first date with a girl like you are interviewing them. If you are playful and flirty about it, even better. There will be more time at later dates for you to share about yourself, but the added mystery will also make her want to get to know you more.
@@dashen7047 thats all people dude. All people like to have conversations like that. All people. If you do this for all people, you will never have any issue making friends.
idk this makes sense to me, like if you don't have basic decorum on a date and they just keep talking and talking for hours then I wouldn't want to continue anything with that person either
She just said "I feel like I was talked at", and you're twisting this into a super specific interpretation of that sentence, and accepting it as true, as if you've witnessed it. Are you aware of that?
This actually sounds normal. Didn't feel enough interest in their person, didn't feel a click, so there will not be a second date. She only prefaced it with a bit too many positive notes, but I guess that's more like trying to be respectful Edit: I'm a bit confused with some of the replies. When dating for a relationship, you're looking for a romantic connection. This man may check all the boxes, but no romantic connection was felt. Not to feel that one thing you're actually looking for is like the most valid reason not to continue dating, right? (She expressed this by saying she felt she was being talked at.)
yeah esp in a first date if they don't let you talk because they're talking about themselves for 2 hours that can be a huge red flag. If he asks nothing about her and doesn't let her talk it may feel like attending a time share meeting. Very uncomfortable.
No, it doesn't. She met a guy with many virtues, but apparently he wasn't perfect, and she wanted Mr Perfect Guy. The reason for rejection was childish.
@@Kalayana That's literally the bare minimum: letting her talk. Letting other people talk, whether or not you are on a date, isn't being Mr Perfect. It's being a civilised human being.
@Kalayana You dont know how many virtues he has. You don't know anything about him except what she told you. So why do you believe her first statement and not the second one?
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People need to understand that just because a person is perfect and checks all your boxes. You may end up not establishing an emotional connection like is the case with her. If that connection can’t be established, it’s a valid reason to end things
I dunno why people think its not ok to not vibe with someone lol. Doesnt matter if they are well off, good looking, and presentable to the world... if you two dont get along, pursuing anything further will be an utter waste of time.
Dating someone has nothing to do with gratitude. You met them and if you don't think you'll be happy with them then you move on. And if you never met someone you'll be happy with then you shouldn't settle for someone you do not like. You should try to find happiness and peace alone.
@@bobfg3130 I mean, she is attractive enough so of course if she wanted she could have someone. But it should be someone she feel happy with. Otherwise why be in a relationship.
@@lise7538 She's not, not attractive enough to find someone like that reliably especially as time goes on. You need to understand statistics. A guy like the guy she just met is probably less than one in a thousand to ten thousand, possibly even rarer depending on how how many things he has going for him. A guy who earns 100k+ is under 18%, a guy who is handsome statistically is less than 10-20%, a guy who is 6'+ is under 18% in the USA. Now multiply those odds. Now imagine you also want him to be nice, loyal and to have only eyes for you and not women who are younger and more beautiful because he is in high demand.
A rigorous definition of "the wall" is when there is no next. A friend of mine just hit it so hard that it was visible from outer space. I saw it coming ten years ago. She's a poet, I mean that's literally how she makes a living, and her latest theme is along the lines of "I have no time for people who won't contribute positively to my life." By people, she means men, and because she's lost the sexual access to men that she took for granted, her standards have paradoxically risen. Why? Because since the outcome of meeting men is highly likely to be "I'll call you sometime" followed by never calling, it hurts less if she can tell herself she was doing the rejecting. She has female friends but she doesn't really care about them. They're generally the type of women that you collectively call a "clutch".
This is one great insight tbh. Your description of how she hit a wall and then her standards raised ridiculously high is something I noticed in a friend of mine too. It's a coping mechanism.
@@justvid366 It's so hard not to rub it in. We had a falling out, and okay, first of all, her sexual ethics have always been awful. She's serially unfaithful. Ten years ago, she completely cut me off because I said I wanted to break from having sex for a bit. She had asked me not to see other women, even though she had a boyfriend, and besides feeling totally taken for granted, I was curious if there was really anything keeping us around each besides sex. Turns out that's not allowed, and she completely froze me out. And we had been friends for a long time. She contacted me occasionally, but it was always something she wanted. Never "how are you?" Always "what do you remember about ____ because I"m thinking of taking legal action", and my favorite, "I feel like running away. I just need to be somewhere else". Now these are situations I love, when someone I'm fond of is having a hard time. I take them on a vacation, pay for the essentials, and everyone has a good time. And I'm halfway to thinking "West Coast, or Montreal?" when I'm like "wait a minute, you cut me off. So no, find someone else if you still can. The fact that you're asking me tells me I'm not the only bridge you've burned. You're pushing 40 -- don't you realize that your long term male friends are about to be irreplaceable?" Recently we've been talking again, and I mentioned the emotional whiplash the "come and save me" message gave me, and I go, "Yeah, I usually love picking up someone who really needs to get away and just going somewhere, and I kind of needed it too. But since the last thing you had said to me before that was "I think we shouldn't speak for a while, like literally throwing "we shouldn't sleep together for a while" back at me, I didn't feel comfortable entangling myself with someone I felt I couldn't rely on. It all worked out though -- I was just getting to know someone when you sent the message, and we went to London about four months later." True story, although I am messing with the timing a bit; in actuality it was spread out like a year and a half. And this is something I would never tell someone, but you act in good faith your whole life, and get treated like a beast of burden, and well, I have a right to be petty here.
As a man, I can confidently say almost every successful guy I've ever met or talked to has this tendency to prattle on. I'm not sure if people with that personality are more likely to be successful, or if they just become used to people listening because they're in charge, but it is definitely a trend.
I think that too, it doesn't seem crazy to me that a guy like that would like to hear himself talk but everyone seems to think she is lying for some reason.
@@roman_kofynoSo maybe a guy watching this will learn that yapping on for the whole time seems really arrogant and is not attractive. A two-way conversation is in order when meeting someone. And maybe some non-assertive woman will learn that she doesn’t have to accept that behaviour.
Well this comment and replies gave me perspective. I was upset at the chick at first, but it’s quite possible that he just did all the talking and that could be very boring or come off as self centered.
Lol yes but the point is she admitted the man had very many positive qualities and she threw it away without getting to know the man more. Women are complaining about there aren't good men but they throw them away over small stuff like this.
Woman chooses man based on looks, still finds reason to reject him. I too am sad that he did not arrive on a motorbike. When they insert the codicil "but" it means they don't really mean what immediately precedes it.
@@USSResolute how is it possibke to schedule a forst date based on anything other than whas written in the dating profile dude Literally what other information could she have had access to Do you know the purpose of dating
If what she said is accurate, I'm 100% on her side. If I get the impression that someone is not interested in listening to me, I'm very cautious about having that person as a partner or even as a friend. It would be nice for her to give him that feedback, but let's be real. Who among our friends would really give us that feedback, even if we really needed to hear it? Generally it takes a really good friend to do that, and it's unrealistic to expect it from someone you just met. It's hard to hear it even from a good friend, it's not going to be easy to hear it from a near stranger. Imagine being in a relationship for a year, or a marriage for five years, where it's not clear someone is listening to you. Better alone than in bad company.
This is why she is still single at her age...she is not old but she is not young either. What a ridiculous reason to bin him off, why not try a second date and as an adult, try and steer the conversation a bit more? why is everyone so easily defeated by the slightest things these days?
Not giving a girl a chance to talk is a big turn-off for them since they love to talk about themselves. A friend of mine once got into a fight with his girlfriend cause she was mad at him for never letting her talk even though she's the quiet and shy one. So when dating, always let the girl talk.
@@bobfg3130 Yeah, she may have problems maintaining a conversation but that doesn't mean a man should dominate the conversation. Even if a girl lacks social skills, she still likes to be given a chance to talk.
Being talked at is different than being talked to, in case anyone with English as a second language doesnt understand. Its very condescending. Often when you are "talked at" the person doesn't give you a chance to speak. I think Bady missed that, which is okay. 😊
@@jbkibs Talking at, is more so you only explain and talk about yourself with an air of superiority while not letting the other person get a word in edge wise. Then if the other person does talk, the person either finds a way to make it about themselves or they just find a way to give judgemental advice .
Ngl that seems pretty reasonable. Feel like havinng a conversation you both enjoy is the bare minimum of a relationship. She was also pretty respectful in how she described it, she didnt shittalk the guy, said good things but there just wasnt the right chemistry
Have men heard of connection? You wanna spend your entire life for them. Not just any (or the most) pretty, rich, nice person to fill the role. Can men understand?
The "connection" often comes when one is "handsome" or has "money". I am now talking about the standards of lowlifes who want to sleep around with someone before marrying that someone.
When cameras are involved, there is a huge incentive to keep problems on hand to feel significant. If you serious then don’t involve the camera or anyone…
