It's wild to me that so many women think being treated like a secretary is the same as being treated like a wife. As a happily married woman, I am not my husbands secretary. Dude is wild! He got her around because she is a bomb admin.
Just wanted to put a comment from a male perspective. Leave this dude and find something better. The whole time she was reading the email and the more info was being presented my thoughts immediately became "I imagine this girl may be on the heavier side and that's why he likes everything but doesn't want to date" and then that came to light at the end of the email. The reason that became obvious to me, is because I've sadly been that guy before in my younger 20's. Speaking from my own mindset, this guy is keeping you close because he wants to date you but he doesn't want to date you as a chubby person. Since that's something that can be changed, he's probably holding out that maybe one day it will and he can then swoop in and you will be his perfect girl. Now, I was early 20's when I had this mindset, this man is 40. So even if he was young and dumb you should run, but if he's a 40 year old man still playing like this, run run run. There is a bit of you playing this up to be something it's not in your own head, but for sure alot of this is to blame on him because he is the one keeping you around and close even knowing you had feelings for him. We like to think we can all be friends after a rejection or a breakup, but the truth is, that's only possible with distance. But being close/best friends is almost never possible after a rejection/break up. It's just not because feelings are weird.
Just change the theme song to “every other tues/wedn/maybe Thursday shawty”😭😂😂 I’m playin but yall are my dopamine fix man. Really love this podcast and feel it when you’re gone🥲🙏🏾🤍
33:41 wow 😮 Yvette completely verbalized something I’ve been feeling between me and my wife. I’ve expressed feeling jealous about she interacts/speaks with coworkers and outsiders but with me she’s much more pointed or course. We need to be careful how we do that. Then Beleaf countered with she needs to give others her TRUE SELF so they can benefit from it. Excellent podcast!
As a mom of 4 also, I think that with Uzi not wanting to go, you have to hype it up and prepare him in advance. Yes, We know it's coming and expect him to know also BUT sometimes with people you have to give friendly reminders to make the full transition easier. It's only a day and you also need your healthy break from them to decompartmentalize
Yvette I'm so glad you're even thinking about how Uzi is feeling and what he's experiencing. He has a strong attachment/bond and that is beautiful and biologically NECESSARY... Encourage you to not question that part... He'll get it... Keep making it a positive experience... You be excited and keep snuggling him... Once in a while sneak him out for a mommy baby boy day ♥️
I stumbled across this channel in October and every episode I see myself and my husband as if were having the same experiences. We’ve been married 2 years , I just made 31 in November and he made 30 this month, but I swear I can relate to most of the things the both of you discuss 😄 I love it here 🤗❤
25:37 this has happened to me. But I’m a woman. I think people are like that in the USA. People think they’re being helpful and you have to be grateful for things you never asked for. For example, I remember when my bf asked what I wanted for my birthday. I only asked for a solo, one-on-one picnic. Something low key and easy. He asked me what I wanted and I told him that lol. Birthday comes around. He surprised me with a full picnic with alllll my family and friends. The ones I see every day and some extended fam. People were all congratulating him about what a good job he did and how thoughtful he was. But i was annoyed because I had a stressful week at work and my family had just argued with me about my eating habits(telling me I don’t eat enough), church(parents are pastors) and everything else earlier that day. I just wanted peace and quiet. I ended up crying in the car after holding it all in. (I saw that they only had cake as a dessert when they know I hate cake. That’s what broke the camels back). Got called ungrateful, rude, etc. on my birthday 😂
That guy is not "being nice". Men are honest-once (lol) and then theyll let you lie to yourself especially if its to their benefit. He is monopolizing on the fact that he KNOWS that she has feelings for him. He knows when a woman likes you she will show up for you. She's his 5th pocket. You like him + He doesnt like you back but "treating you like a wife" = GET SOMEBODY ELSE TO DO IT! Im the same with my candidness Yvette. My rule of thumb, I deliver with kindness but with my person, i recently realized I have to pull back when i can visibly see my truth stung (he wont just come out and say it but his demeanor and energy shifts)
19:06 Defining your role as a friend for yourself and having those boundaries is key. And because you like him, your analysis may be bias (“he talks to me more than xyz”, but you don’t know that). And also, believe him.
please can you guys do an episode on what to look for in a therapist - y'all are good at choosing the people who pour into your lives and your marriage - it's not an easy thing
I think she's making herself too available for the group and its leader. I think she may have to evaluate her ties to the group and her thinking the group and its leader needing her. Make sure all those folks aren't just taking her for a ride. Say no to them/him and see what happens.
Glen know Exactly what he wanted her to say And what he wants to do to better achieve that response. 😂 Refused to say it. Probably feared the obligation.
Uzi definitely needs to go to keep going to school. Since it’s only 1x a week, it’s going to take longer to adjust. He was happy to go in the beginning because it was new and exciting. The honeymoon is over and reality has hit. Keep making him go, ESPECIALLY since once he’s there he has a good time! He’ll be fine. I know it’s hard on the momma heart to hear/see him cry, but as long as you know he’s safe, make that joker go! 😅
I’m so sorry, but we gotta stop mixing feelings with attraction. She was just attracted to him. She thinks that she’s in love, but you’re just attracted to the possibility, attracted to the look and attracted to the characteristics just admire that as a fact that you want a man who would want you back With those characteristics!!! Some of y’all calling her delusional says a lot about you. She just clearly needs to set some personal boundaries for herself and get help with relationships with the opposite sex . Ask questions in therapy.
Maaaan this dude knows you liked him and is still keeping you close. That's foul. And you need to move on and create boundaries as well. And know that when you do, he might start acting differently but dude still never expressed interest. It's all bad
Here's the funny thing to me, a lot of parents think that the last child is going to be the easiest child to raise... we're not! We often are the most demanding, most stubborn, and just the most. Send that Baby to school, he's a'ight. 🤦🏾♀️
Sis…them boundaries are really porous! He’s not treating you like a wife, he’s treating you like a close friend or neighbor who is hanging out regularly! Glen is right! You say yes because you’re hoping it’ll turn into more. At best: friendzone and oblivious At worst: Using the fact that you like him, and it’s known to get the most out of you. Either way is not good for you. Get you someone who is fully certain of you. You deserve to be loved fully and chosen on purpose. Choose you.
Bruh me and my mom talked about this why Uziah doesn’t want to go to school there’s something that is bothering him. I couldn’t tell you what it is but just know whatever it is is really real for him and he needs to be able to communicate it so you can understand what’s going on.
