1:45 So you mean to tell me that when his girlfriend found out that his loved one was dying she decided ,in this clearly time-sensitive situation, her first priority is to get in the shower, curl and straighten her hair, and then do her makeup. Instead of just driving. Nobody cares what you look like, everyone's there to visit someone before they die!
My friend was married to this guy from a catholic family. She's an atheist and does not want children, and was always 100% straight with him about this. They were married for several years before he suddenly he got super religious and wanted kids. So they did couples therapy. For months. He was not participating, just sitting there while she did all the talking and all the work. Finally she asked him, during the session, why he was even there if he wasn't going to take it seriously? His answer was, "I agreed to do therapy because I thought it would make you a better person." Yeah, she divorced him after that.
More often than not, when guys hear women say "I don't want kids" they feel like later on, once they've got you, they can change your mind and make you want kids because they want kids. Odds are he figured that once they were married, she'd change her mind "because that's what couples do".
Omfg the girlfriend getting primped and OP misses the opportunity to tell his grandfather goodbye seriously made me cry. What a horrible awful person! That can never be replaced.
You got that right. There's NO WAY!!! she can come back from her personal vanity/outrageous selfishness that prevented her boyfriend from being with his beloved grandfather before his passing.
Last summer I was dating a guy who was in the army. He had stable work, was planning on buying a house, and, overall, seemed ideal. Then we took a trip together and it came out that he basically had the rest of my life planned for me- and it didn't include me going to school or holding my own job. Naturally, I began having second thoughts. I couldn't sleep one night, so I went into the room next door to be alone for a while and think. I remember thinking "God, if you want me to leave this relationship and never look back, please, give me a sign." Right at that moment, my then-boyfriend farted....loudly. I'm so glad I took that as my sign to get the hell outta there.
My ex was very controlling. I was living with my parents, buying my first car with my own money. He told me that I had to ask his permission to buy a certain car, and he needed to approve of it. I dumped him soon after that.
In my case I probably don’t let my SO buy a car on her own because there is a lot of important factor that affects car’s type, quality and price. But from your story your ex looks like a controlling person rather than a thoughtful.
when we had a very lovely day, I finally got the nuts to tell him that I was rap*ed a cuple years ago, and that´s why I may act a little weird in a relationship sometimes (having visible nightmares at night, acting scared sometimes...) and he said: "Oh, well, I could never be with something like you." (He literally said "something", after almost a year dating) So I went home. He changed his mind a day after and started to blow up my phone. I was strangely relieved after all of this and decided to not see him again. Looking back I can see he was really not a decent human being and I gave me all the blame during the relationship because of my struggles with myself sometimes, his sentence cleared the fuzzy feeling.
A co-worker once said to me "Don't ever believe what they say, believe your own gut feeling"...and i could add to that - Assess them by their actions, not their words.
The official percentage rate is glaringly inaccurate...because...sociopaths lie. Then they lie about lying. Then they shift the blame and lie about that too.
For me, it was when he told me that my priorities were wrong. That I prioritized “family, friends, education, health, and lastly god” and that I need to prioritize “god, family, healthy, friends and education”. He knew that I wasn’t religious nor did I want to be. When I said “I don’t have a problem with my priorities” he pulled out a bible and told me, boarding on ordering me, to read it so I could “fix my wrong way of thinking”. Worst was he was a great friend, but he wants to “save” his girlfriends” by bringing them into the faith, whether they want it or not
I received a pretty important scholarship at my university and there was a ceremony for it at 4pm. I asked him to be there with me. Starting at 3pm I started texting him because he hadn't given me any news that day. Starting to worry, I called at 3:30 a few times and was about to call his family to ask if he were ok when I received his call at 3:50pm. He was telling me that he just woke up and wouldn't be able to make it to the ceremony. He knew weeks in advance when it was happening and knew how important this was for me, and he still had the balls to do that. That day was the beginning of the end of our relationship.
First was when he said “if I knew you liked books before we started dating, I never would have gotten with you.” And the next was when he gave me an ultimatum between him and writing stories, I picked writing and he tried to backtrack.
Serious question...was he dyslexic? Or did he have some kind of learning disability? I’ve never heard of someone who was that against reading. Wow what a strange person
I gave my kid's dad another chance a few years ago, partly because I did care for him and partly because I didn't want my son growing up in a "broken home". I dumped him the first time for his alcoholism, mooching, laziness, and inability to hold a job. He swore he would be better this time, he had held a job for about 6 months at the time, and there were strict "rules" this time around that he agreed to- *A beer* was fine but no getting drunk, he must keep his job, and he must show a pattern of consistent responsibility and effort to improve in general or it was over. 3 weeks in he calls me late one night, slurring and I hear loud music in the background. The son of a bitch is at a bar, 3 sheets to the wind. First he denies he's drunk, then says his friend bought him shots and he didn't want to be rude and not drink them, then he slips up and says he only spent $40 on drinks. His friend then grabs the phone and starts lecturing me that there's nothing wrong with partying once in a while and I need to stop being so 'controlling'. I hang up because I am not about to argue with a drunk dumbass who has no idea how severely my ex's alcoholism affected my life and made me a single mother. Ex calls me back and I tell him to go home and sober up and we will have a discussion about this later. So he calls me back once he gets home, still slurring and denying that he'd done anything wrong. I had let him borrow my xbox the week before and during the argument he threw the controller at the wall and broke it. He also throws his phone at the wall, ending the call. I spend an hour or so crying and kicking myself for ever taking this idiot back, then I get a venmo request from him. I call him back and he says its to buy a new controller cause he spent all his money at the bar and could I pretty please just send it so he wouldn't have to be bored all night. Oh my god I saw red. He couldn't even make it a month without breaking his word, and now the sheer disrespect and entitlement to not only destroy MY property, but also ask ME for money to fix it. That was the moment I was 100% done. After all the other shit he pulled, that was what pushed me over the edge. He still can't keep a job, pays no child support, and still drunk-dials me asking when we're gonna get back together. Won't go to rehab even though his family has offered to foot the bill. I'd love for my kid to grow up in a traditional family but I'd rather struggle than let him grow up with _that_ as a role model.
Two homes are better than one if the only result of a “traditional “ home is nonstop chaos, there’s nearly an entire generation of angry bitter people because their parents were ordered to have children they didn’t want, or received no instruction on how to raise safely, and not allowed to separate from each other for any reason including death threats
My ex and I had plans when we were engaged to have kids after the 5 year mark, I was 25 at the time. While on a trip to Paris she announced, unprompted, to her family that she has never wanted kids and will never had them. I spent 8 hours walking a city I didn’t know and didn’t speak French but eventually found my way back to the hotel. A fight later and she admitted she lied all those years prior. I tried to stuff my pride but couldn’t overcome the hurt and asked for divorce, she told me we could have a kid if it meant we could stay married… that’s not why you have kids and solidified my decision.
Wow I hate that people really waste others time. Relationships take so much time to build, adjusting and effort. It sucks to form a bond and have to break it because of dishonesty and selfishness.
There is no prefect"one". When people have unrealistic expectations or rush into a relationship it sets people up for failure. Make sure you can see both their wonderful qualities and limitations. Don't assume they will change so make sure you can live with their habits that might annoy you.
This. This is the only advice anyone needs. Don't complain about the person. Don't expect them to change. Either it isn't important enough to break it off or it is. Simple as.
I was on a date with this guy who took me to the mall and proceeded to just walk out of a store without telling me. He would just leave me behind. I wanted to show him something and realized he was gone. He had exited and I just followed after him. I thought there was a reason (avoiding an ex or something?). Nope. He was just "being an alpha". I stayed away after that. And yes, he said he was a man who could "treat me right"
The whole Alpha mentality is toxic AF. It's based on what happens to wolves when they're put in a stressful, crowded, unnatural environment in captivity. These idiot men are looking at lupine mental illness and saying "that's great. I want to be just like that."
@@Draggonny actually fun fact, the "alpha wolf" has been debunked by the same person who coined the term! Alphas were said to be the smartest and strongest leader of the pack. Then he found out a pack only consists of parents and their own offspring. The leaders are obviously the parents who are smarter and stronger because they are older than their children. Alpha isn't real.
This one isn't about a partner, but a parent. Perhaps my mother was wrong to confide in her 13-year-old son that she was unhappy in her marriage, but she had no one else to turn to. I said I didn't want them to get divorced, not because I particularly liked my father but because I felt divorce was morally wrong. The bottom fell out over the strangest thing: watching my father watching my mother mow the lawn, the parts of it I couldn't do because I didn't have enough experience with our riding lawnmower. He'd just up and decided it was my responsibility from now on, and threw one of his infamous fits when I accidentally backed the thing into a raised wooden flowerbed. Watching him watching her, like a master watching a slave, made me realize what a rotten tyrant he was and that I was as sick of him as she was. Not long after that, I told my mother I wanted out, and we started planning our escape. Coincidentally, this video was posted on what would have been my parents' 50th wedding anniversary if my father had lived. As is, my mother is now happily remarried to a man who's been more of a father to me than the sperm donor was.
He was a very educational parent though. You now know how NOT to be a sociopath. Glad things turned out better for both you and your mother. It takes courage to get out.
@@Kayenne54 It's true. Pretty much everything I know about being a human being is from following my mother's good example and my biodad's bad one. It's as if Goofus and Gallant were a married couple, if you get the reference.
I moved out of an abusive household into my best friend's house. A year later, I'm homeless. At this point we have been together since we were 14 and I am now 18. I end up on the other side if the state with my grandmother trying to complete school (graduated in December!!) And instead of being supportive of me he constantly complains about the distance and begs me to go see him. I don't even have a car or a licence at this point and he does. It's constant fighting and back and forth until he asks for a break because he can't handle the distance. Tells all of our friends back home that I said that. Then he cheats on me with his "best friend". I tried to make it work even after we broke up, but he got a new gf while he was still talking to me, begging for me back. I learned about her and the previous girl from a friend..he never told me. I have met the sweetest guy ever since then, and I am in the best relationship with my best friend 💕💕
When we were at the family gathering after my dad's funeral, she wanted to start a fight because I "wasn't spending enough time" with her. I regretted bringing her along with me for "emotional support"
When I was 27, I had a large lump behind the nipple in my breast and I was terrified...my children were little and I was scared that I wasn't going to be around to raise them.. My husband and I were separated at the time. I contacted him and told him I had a large lump in my breast...the first thing he says is, "Well, I'll sure miss it." I was furious and told him that was a hell of a thing to say to me...he then got mad and told me he was only trying to cheer me up and get me to laugh. It was then that I realized I needed to go forward with my divorce proceedings. He never paid me child support or bothered to see the children. The lump turned out to be an abcess. My health is better than ever today. Eff my ex. 😏
Ffs I hope the guy found out his dog only attacked the guy his girl was cheating on him with while the dog was in its own home BEFORE they tried to put it down
When I realized crying everyday and not being myself wasn't normal. When I realized I wasn't a priority. When I realized I was just a time-passing toy. When I realized I wasn't being genuine with myself. Sucks, it was my first love. I knew it was loved them just because and I looked past every flaw and just wanted to be there for them. But if all that'll happen is me being unhappy and crying as he continues to be stoic about everything, that love should just fade. It took me a while to completely get over him. And even now I still think about him and hope he is okay. I wish he will find someone and that he changes himself. I knew I was a good partner but he just didn't become a good partner. I now am so head over heels with a new man and this man is the embodiment of all I ever wanted ❤❤❤❤❤ my exes could never become this man I am with now....because this man is a genuine man.
a year into the relationship, i realized that he was an alcoholic. when he was drinking, he broke furniture, yelled, keeping me awake all night, wrecking my house. i told him that we were through unless he started going to a.a. he went, and quit drinking, with occasional lapses. he proposed, and i told him i would marry him if he could stay dry for a year. he did. we started making plans ---let's have the ceremony in my parents' back yard, etc. he got drunk again. i loved him, but i couldn't live that way.
I was talking with ex trying to fix our issues and she flipped out. Ran outside, got in her car and started to back up but turned to early and hit my car. She freaked out more, jumping out of the car, she ran up the road leaving her keys in the car. Found her almost a mile up the road... she spent the rest of the night crying on the phone with her parents. And in the end she took my cat...
My ex (long distance) changed his profile picture to him and another girl, everyone who knew us both asked me if that's what I looked like. Note that the girl looked nothing like me or my own profile picture, the girl was his first love...
Some of these stories involve death. That one story of the girl crying outside the guys door she learned th hard way. & good dog for attacking the guy who was cheating girls side boyfriend. Great video.
My brother was teaching me how to build my first character for D&D, when my brother left ex said something like oh good, I was getting tired of all that nerd shit, it was making me want to punch him. There was also a night that we had to rush my brother to the hospital due to an asthma attack where he stopped breathing, back in like 2009... and all ex could do was complain we were at the hospital at like 3 am and they had to get up to work early ... It clicked to me then that I had two younger siblings and the biological one was the least annoying.
I had a friend I was friends with since early elementary, and on a trip, after I began to develop depression and was acting not how I used to, proceeded to exclaim that “I wasn’t fun anymore.” That got to me real bad at the time, but I’m over it now and still on good terms with them, times just change
“It was when he said I could not bring my cat to live with us.” As a cat lover, that would be a dealbreaker for me no matter what. You get me, you also get the cat, or a cat at some point.
I have severe anxiety and ptsd. I dated this guy last year and things had been going great. We were texting one night and he left me in the middle of a convo and I know he had been in the car with his dad so I got worried thinking the worst when I hadn’t heard from him at midnight (it was 6:30 when he stopped texting) I was panicking and having anxiety attacks and barely got any sleep. The next day at 1 pm he texts me angrily asking what was wrong with me why did I think I had the right to blow up his phone (he knows my anxiety and ptsd causes me to think irrationally) we broke up two weeks later. Found out he had been FaceTiming one of my “friends” on his laptop and got tired of me calling and being worried so he turned off his phone. He had been cheating on me
”Now when I finally have time for you, you go traveling for a week. It’s not okey” I booked That trip a half year in advance, I made all the time in the world for her but she made non for me
I was engaged to a guy back in 2019. We were together for nearly 2 years and I loved him. He was my longest relationship at the time. We were long distance but I always drove the 100 miles to see him a couple times a week. There were a lot of red flags before. He didn't want to wear our matching rings. He would often push my boundaries especially sexually (I was a virgin) and I wanted to wait until marriage but he threatened to break up with me unless I did it. He would always have me do things for him and buy things for him but he would never do things for me. A lot of times when I was upset in public, he would tell me I was embarrassing him and to stop crying because I had no reason to. He also told me to drop out of college so I could spend more time with him which I stupidly did. He also hung out with lots of girls and never let me on his phone. Im not the really jealous type but what bothered me is that he would never want me to come with him and his girl friends and then when I wanted to hang out with mine (girl or boy) he would be upset and give me the silent treatment for days until I was sobbing and begging for forgiveness. But the absolute no-brainer moment was when he asked for some space and I went about 2 weeks without hearing from him. Then I get a text from his best friend "Liam" who turned out to be a girl saying that he was cheating on me with her and had been for nearly a year. I also got a text from 3 or 4 of his girl friends saying they had all slept with him. One even said that they slept together while I was asleep in the other room. He hid all this under code names on his phone so I never knew. The breakup was ugly. He even went so far as to accuse ME of cheating on him when I went to see my sick grandma on Thanksgiving. Any time I tried to cut ties, he would threaten to kill himself and show me pictures of him cutting himself. After crying wolf several times, I stopped caring and when he told me that he was going to kill himself, I called an ambulance to his house and blocked his number. Now I'm with a wonderful man who doesn't make me cry myself to sleep every night.
When we finally met her mom she introduced me as the on again off again BF. We'd been living together for a year and she never mentioned this before. Then tried to steal money from me. Landlord let me out of the lease and I booked it.
I have an ex that would insist on paying and then make me split a drink with him. Like...let me just buy my own stuff, please. I know the $1.75 is just going to break you, so I got it. Here, I'll buy your stuff too. Oh, you want a large drink now. Now you're thirsty. He was a CFO at a bank lol
Yup, these dudes are the worst. They think you are trying to take advantage of them because they hate women. People can make excuses, but ultimately they think the worst of women. Yet if you really look at the bills, you are paying more for his than he ever was for yours. I much prefer paying for my own things 100% of the time. No guilt that I picked the expensive item on the menu. None of that BS. I know what I can afford and I don't need someone else to pay my way. I think a lot more people (especially women) are like this than society gives credit for.
When they cheated on me with a married couple down the hall in our apartment complex while I was out of town for a few days taking care of my sick grandmother, who had died due to health issues, and my partner couldn’t offer me comfort because they were too busy down the hall. This just happened 2 weeks ago.. saw myself marrying this person until this happened.
A cheat and a sociopath. They sure knew how to kick you when you were down. I'm sorry you had to experience that. That's the kind of thing you would only wish on your worst enemy.
Welp,never dated the guy,chatted casually online.he got hella posessive and controlling. One of my guy friends was over one day,dude i was casually talking with facetimes me. Cool.sees my guy friend,and flipped TF OUT.
I dated two addicted gamers and am very grateful that my husband isn't an avid gamer. I'm all for hobbies, but in my personal experience there was no balance and they neglected the rest of their lives. Grown men who didn't clean up after themselves, were destitute constantly after every paydate because they HAD to get every latest game for their systems, continually broke promises and canceled dates... I'm patient, but there was only so much I could take. My deal breaker is getting completely ignored, even with my husband and his phone lol. When there's zero communication after several days, it feels lonely.
Honestly same. I was hesitant to date my bf because he was a gamer and I swore I was never gonna date another one. He convinced me thou lol he has LOTS of different hobbies
Together for ten months. In New York on holiday, tells me he is a massive Trump supporter. After the initial shock of feeling like I was on holiday with a stranger, I tried to understand his point of view and asked what he liked about him. ‘He is doing great things for climate change’ ..... lasted less than a month after that.
The one with the grandpa dying and the grandma dying were the worst ones to me. I can’t believe that happened and I cannot fathom how I’d feel if it were me
Saw that the kids ran her house. Saw that the kid was more scared of a teacher at school then her. Saw her HUGE expenses she was racking up for the wedding. She wanted to go on a “girls only” cruise. 4 different women, 4 different NOPES!!!!
I was dating this guy for almost 6 months we had a good relationship talking every day making sure everything was good with each other, one day he gave me 60 bucks to buy a game so we could play together. I took it and told him I would pay him back. Well I gave him 100 bucks on his birthday and he sed I didn't have to but he took it anyway....he dumped me a week later with no warning for being a "negative energy"
I think I always knew that my last ex was not the one, however I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt. I knew him for a few years before we got together. The night he berated me for 8 hours sealed the deal. He berated me because he hadn't smoked any weed in 2 days because he smoked $1000 worth of it in just a few days. He also got mad because I asked if he wanted to go home because clearly he wasn't in a good mood and I knew it was going to get to a point where I couldn't tolerate him. I left him a month and a half later
10:00: Unbelievable and disgusting that that’s how the bf treats his gf(I’m assuming) and her family after EIGHT YEARS TOGETHER during such a hard time.
My ex husband literally asked me why I wanted to visit my dad in the hospital. My dad had had a heart attack. Sadly that wasn't even the lightbulb moment. Guy had so many red flags he was like a North Korean parade but he gaslit me so much I nearly died.
When he proposed and I cried. Not happy tears but tears of "holy crap, this can't be the rest of my life" 😆😆😆 15 years of mental and emotional abuse and it took a proposal for my light bulb moment
Broo my friend went with someone else to the march. His friend wanted photos because of all the military and helicopters and all the support there was (ppl handing out masks, water, food etc) anyway. He walks to the front to take a picture of the march and the he gets shot with a rubber bullet in the stomach. Just like that. No reason. He kinda tripped so no one thought anything of it and kept marching while someone helped him up. He goes to my friend and says "I just got shot" and quietly leaves to avoid making a scene. When I went marching I was so scared after hearing that, I packed stuff to remove pepper spray and a bunch of stuff. Luckily nothing happened. But damn. It really solidified my stance. Scared af thou lmfao
Well, I quit drinking and my then fiance got pissed. She said I only did that to avoid going to the bar with her friends. Then she didn't want to contribute to household expenses beyond buying groceries (we rarely ate at home), even though she made more than twice as much as me. I finally had a couple friends stop by while they were out at that end of the country, and in talking to them I realized how unhappy I was in that relationship.
He refused to work because "he needs to keep an eye on me" wouldn't let me work, swore someone would take me from him and tempt me to cheat. I'm not a cheat.
My ex and I live very close but I enjoyed being at home a lot, so we used discord. She would join a call and interrupt what everyone was talking about, just to say she walked from the kitchen to her room. Then wouldnt let you finish what u were talking about.
The one about the grandpa dying made me sad. Not that I was in that exact situation, but I have been in so many situations where someone took their time getting ready (ie: mom, sister, ex bf) and it has screwed me over many times. I don't want to even imagine missing the chance to say goodbye to your beloved grandpa because your s.o decided to take their sweet time like that
A few years ago, an ex of my brother's almost got him fired from his apprentice job. Her birthday was on a day that he had work and he attempted to take that day off. When the boss declined it, my brother was fine with it and told the ex that they can go out on Saturday to make up for it (the day he tried to take off was a Thursday). Ex was not happy about this and decided to take it upon herself to email my brother's boss behind his back demanding that he give him the day off because it was her birthday. Boss was mad and called our parents in to talk about it. Dad was so furious with the ex that she was banned from coming to our house for the rest of the week. Aside from being a freeloader who refused to get a job, there were other things that led up to the break up. I was so convinced that my brother would finish things during that incident because the idiot almost got him fired.
If I would need to emergency drivwe my man I would drive in underwear if needed... *reaching the end of the videos* How do people think this behaviour is ok?
18:10 I had this exact "relationship" with someone..... I was dead set on wasting my life waiting too, being strung along..... It honestly didn't hit me how wrong it was till a year and a half after he had passed on (car accident) and I sat down and was like.... "Did I really love him.... Why did I love him...." And I tried so hard but I couldn't find a thing mature enough to justify the love I felt.... I still love him for the friend he was to me before and after all of that.... But what I felt with him wasn't love... It was sad to realize it, but I felt almost like a weight had been lifted off of me.... So while I did love him as a person, I didn't love him as a romantic relationship and that will always set funny in my heart because I had believed it 100%....... Now with my partner I can feel exactly how op in that felt too.... Our love grew over the course of our high school long and further best friend relationship... It was never fireworks, but a soft cozy blanket to cuddle up into safety, content, bliss..... And I love that man to pieces. ❤
I lasted all of 7 weeks. The insane jealousy, treating me like I'd cheated because I wrote a thank you note to her colleague for a wedding gift that she would not have done, the refusal the move into my home, because her apartment was closer to her work, wanting me to sell my house to buy her one, using google to see how long it would take to get from a place I might be doing work at back to her apt and then calling me about 10 mins before I'd get back to ask where I was. There's more. I don't put up with that sort of crap from anyone. I won't even go into the complete lack fun time, as there was almost none.
Saying goodbye to your grandma and planning for her funeral and that happening to interrupt your SOs b-day, is not the same as your SO intentionally standing you up on your b-day and bragging about it. I don’t know what about that she found fair, but I’m glad that dude escaped that relationship
Things had been going south before this, but the day I realized it wasn't going to work was when my mother was in the hospital for a suicide attempt, I hadn't eaten all day, and I asked my ex to bring me a milkshake/something small. And a hug. He refused to do either and then when my father went into the hospital for sepsis later that same week, he still refused to give any support. With the excuse of "what if his sepsis is contagious" like, my dude. If you're not directly lickng his gallbladder I seriously doubt it is contagious.
I think the red flag for me was when she fought with her brother about who was going to sit in the front seat like they were 6. She and her brother are 30yo btw and still rely on their mum to drive them everywhere. Also the fact that they both refused to get out of the car and help their elderly passenger walk to her door when they dropped her off. Apparantly they both said I'm not getting out. So their mum who was driving had to escort the elderly lady. Their elderly friend told me about it later. She was furious. So was I.
There were so many red flags, but the thing that decided it was when I was so sick that I couldn't move, and I didn't answer his text. He told me to f*ck off. He hated that whenever I was sick I couldn't fawn over him and he couldn't manipulate me.
The girlfriend showering, doing her hair and makeup.... A literal psychopath Edit: Holy fuck the gf ditching him on his bday after grandma's passing, what a MONSTER. So many of these are shocking, it's truly crazy how many awful people are out there.
When my abusive ex learned I wanted to go to my out of state dream college, he held our relationship hostage in the effort that I’d give in and not go to college period. Nope. At this point, he had already r@ped me, pressured me into sexual acts, threatened to hit me, threatened suicide many times if I did something he didn’t like, hid me from his friends, etc. After I broke it off, he revealed something I already knew- he had been cheating on me with my ex-coworker who had introduced us in the first place.
I realized my third ex wasn't the one when he kept cheating on me when we were together, I thought "This arse isn't worth my time and effort." Now I'm back with the ex who stayed loyal after I moved towns.
Ex-fiancé cheated on me. I told her she needed to move out. She moved in with the guy she cheated on me with. They got engaged a few months later. A month after that, they break up after a domestic dispute where the police were involved. 15 years later and she calls me up asking if she can visit me at my new place in Hawaii (she found out through a mutual friend). I told her to go to hell.
Sometimes I feel blessed to have such a good relationship, but honestly, I feel like people make so many mistakes before and during dating. You can't have unrealistic expectations or not communicate. Nor can you rush getting into a romantic relationship just because you feel like you "have to" My boyfriend and I became friends and were friends for a while before feelings started to develop. Now we're almost at our two year anniversary. I mean, I know that's not long but I consider it an achievement because we're young. Being young and dumb can hurt relationships and I'm just happy we're both mature enough to talk shit out.
Ikr!! I'm still baffles as to how before and after online dating, people would meet up and date abusive people without seeing the signs first? I thought my mum was bad for not seeing the signs way before her marriage. And she was on and off with my bio dad for ten years!! I know I'm an asexual pathetic nerd, but what?? There have been times guys have approached me, but I've always been weirded out by it. Maybe I can sense bs lol
Together for over a year, living together, found out he was a child molester with over 15 victims and his "therapy" was actually part of his parole. That "man" was around my niece and nephew almost daily!!
my best friend's cousins....twins... were both abused by their parents (they didnt think it was abuse and when they found out how negetively it was affecting their children they changed for the better). The younger one tried to kill herself and when her mother called the girl's boyfriend to tell him that she was in the hospital he just asked the mother if she knew her card details so he could by himself a gift for xmas. EDIT: the girl was okay, thankfully, it was a failed attempt.
she was a huge animal lover, ended up transitioning into a career dealing with pets, my dog goes into heart failure and dies, 2 days later we are talking and she tells me how stressed out she is, because she ran into an ex bf of hers and feels the need to fill me in on this, deleted her number then and there
I have bad CPTSD. I was having a flashback & said so to my gf. She supposedly has CPTSD as well (I'd comforted her through & after several episodes by that time), so I thought she would understand. Did she comfort me? No. She started demanding I "stop" having my flashback because she wanted to tell me about her (entirely mundane) visit with her grandparents. So I told her to stop talking to me so I could get myself back down from the terror. 20 minutes later, I'm okay now...until I see what my partner did in those 20 minutes. She posted a public Facebook status about how I'm always so cruel and push her away when she's just trying to be close to me & show me love. One of my "friends" contacted her to ask if she was okay, and they decided to meet up to have sex, since I was "denying her love & attacking her for loving me" and she'd put on clean, sexy clothing, that was, coincidentally, one of my favorite outfits of hers, AND she was on her way out the door. She didn't end up cheating that time, but did less than a month later with that same "friend" I noped out of both of those relationships.
The one at around...5:30 ? with the grandma funeral? Imagine the level of complete non-self-awareness on the girls part to pull that metric fuck ton of bullshit and then actually have like a self-pity moment when you come to his place with all signs saying, "you're not with him anymore" and cry on his doorstep with him obviously ignoring you. The ghosting was obviously deserved.
