Healing Is The Same For Everyone! 

@@pipgalea1376 with a form of brain retraining you can teach your brain to feel safe with fear again. After that the emotion becomes easier. And luckily, every emotion lasts only a maximum Of a few minutes. After that the mind instantly calms down. Big hug 🤗

Why does it run down family lines then..even when the families aren't connected

@@oliverbird6914 you learn emotional behavior from your parents.

It's call3d imprinting I believe. The brain picks it up from caregivers when you're incredibly young

I can speak from my experience that I've found underneath my fear whole parts of my self that were suppressed, parts that carried a tremendous amount of pain. When you're able to move beneath the fear into the parts of you that carry pain (and/or other feelings like shame and loneliness and self-hatred), and reconnect with them and hold them and love them, the fear will quiet down. But in order to get there, the fear must first be fully accepted and embraced and sat with, because those parts of us are speaking through it. They're terrified because they've been abandoned, usually by our parents when we were children, but also by us as adults, because the pain (or shame or other dark feelings) were too much for us to carry by ourselves when we were young and so we abandoned them out of necessity. But love finds a way, and when love opens you up to those parts of yourself, and they experience your love for them, they will heal and experience peace.

@@COLOFIDUTI that's nicely said. It could help to make it more practical. Like for example to turn separation from yourself into denying your own emotions.

This was said by Gabor Mate

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Yes exactly, everyone has to realize and face these kinds of things and heal the underlying wounds. Take care and a big hug 🫂

Yes the CFS healing community is a big business. I don't agree with many things in it. But when it comes to RU-vid, It's hard to give everything away for free like I used to do for example. I did offer some free anger release meditations in the past and people dived in without the necessary preparation, that backfired hard on me as people started blaming me. So it's a grey area where you give information and at the same time you need to get something back to earn money. The advantage for me is that I now work with mostly committed clients and that's why I can achieve better results for them.

@@releasecfsyeah but even coaching, I think it’s a lot of telling people they can heal so they keep spending money but don’t actually heal. Perhaps some can but this is the problem with unregulated treatments like this with no science to back up any of it

@@Mandance yes I understand. I am looking into inviting science to monitor and observe our clients having releases where they turn their symptoms off on demand.

@@MandanceThe medical industry and their treatments are far worse and there are no guarantees and few healings. At least with these types of programs, they are more in line with first do no harm!

@@deelicious1610they do harm to your wallet, that’s for sure with no proven results

I think that's only possible after becoming whole again with all the different aspects that we are having. Many people who try to do this without becoming whole first, will feel like they are faking it.

@@releasecfs I just pray for God to Bless EveryOne and then just Give it to Him. And do what He Prompts me.

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Yes most of the negative things you mention are used as stressful coping mechanisms that are very profitable for a handful of people. Will humanity free itself from it? Let's see what happens when more people are needing to heal because of some health conditions. I think it is the time for it as so many people experience health problems right now.

@@davidwhitcher1972 I have coached over 1,000 clients in person and helped thousands more with an online program.

I have this often when people look at me. I’m so tense I can’t smile, I just stare at them. And that’s ok. I let it be. I don’t fight it. I accept it. Who says you have to fix anything?

@@FrunkeHandalisat I want to be normal. Like I was before. It’s not nice not being able to smile or feel laughter etc… the tension is killing my soul. It’s not me!!! I’m scared for life. It’s really scary. I won’t make it another month let alone another year

@@Kiki-sv8gl I know exactly how you feel. I really do. But being scared isn’t gonna help at all. You know for a fact that your body is not sick. You’re alright. Remind yourself of that fact every day. It’s alright. It’s your brain perceiving danger. Let it happen. Don’t focus on it. Shift your attention to living your life. Are you working?

@@FrunkeHandalisat no, I don’t work…. I can’t.

I misunderstood you, but maybe it helps nevertheless what I wrote: Are you maybe emotionally frozen? Go with your mind/attention into your body, not to the outward, feel as if your mind treats your baby body with the love of a mother. There is a concept of Elaine Aaron, I think, about the highly sensitive person, that we are grown ups in a body of a toddler, she meant babies/toddlers percieve every thing in a very strong way, they have strong feelings; I personally have enormous problems to allow the intensity of my feelings, since childhood days, they kill me, I am afraid of losing consciousness, since it happened when I was 7 yo and I fell on a cobbled road on my face. I woke up on the couch of my grandfather and did not know what had happened, only later I remembered that I had fallen down on that road in the village of my grandfather and the pastor's wife came to me and asked what had happened and I told her and then the thread teared. I do not know how I had come to my grandfathers house. Writing this I understand I've had a problem with safety. Instead of being grateful that everything went right in that situation I accuse God and my parents, esp. my mother, not giving enough safety to me, that's it: I never felt safe. I've always had a fear deep inside although others always encouraged me and I managed situations well. I think I have not been in my body but always being outwardly striving to be as the others doing things as the others --- Give your body the warmth of motherly love and care. Do you feel your breath growing to a deep, slow breath ? I feel it this way. Do you feel safety? I do although I have in the background a dark colour-feeling (dark brown). I am a synaestetic person, I feel colours and structures about people or situations. You are suffering from being alone if I understand it right. I often pray to God for anything that worrys me. But I have to say when I wrote down about the situation when I was 7 I allowed my strong feelings to be as intense as they are. This is the best, although I am afraid but I try to trust that nothing bad will happen. I have lost the basic sense of trust because I nearly every year since my 3rd or 4 th year of my childhood had an accident. My problem has always been that I was very closed because I perceived already as a child that others would not understand me and my parents had not spoken about thei weaknesses either. My mother had often been busy and active in outward things. But I once experienced something very good: I had a painful treatment at the dentist as an adult in 2009. At the first appointment I was anxious, at the second one I had decided to be open and to face the situation, not to be afraid ( but I trusted to be safe in God) I had been able to bear the pain. The dentist was astonished about my calm behaviour. So to face the situation and to express what is inside of you---this is the way to become healthy again. But I think we have to learn to accept our limits, we need to withdraw from outside stimulations in order to not feel a stimulous overload. I am sorry for this chaos. I hope something can help you. Do not give way to despair but express yourself as you did here. I wish you all the best. Astrid from Berlin (Germany)

I believe that thinking is overrated and that an empty and silent mind is much better.

@@releasecfs But when negative thoughts come, what do you do? If I let them be there, I feel miserable with these negative thoughts all the time, so I have to convert them to positive thoughts.

@@FrunkeHandalisatmaybe try to stay with them for a while and ask them what they ate trying to tell you? Is there a pattern? Do they remind you of soething? Or can you do soething with your body to make them tone down? Walk, dance, lift wheigts?

@@FrunkeHandalisat it's better to release the underlying stressor, after that the mind becomes silent again.

Yes it protect my from Grief , but i just so tuff vid a oversensitive system ?

Mit halb Fränkischen Akzent 😅

@@releasecfs nice

Ja ik begrijp je. Ik woon al heel lang niet meer in Nederland en spreek inmiddels ook gebroken Nederlands. Ik spreek wel vloeiend Duits, maar alles vertalen is ook niet echt iets wat je even doet. Engels is voor de meesten toegankelijk. Dikke knuffel

@@releasecfs Sorry, maar je Engels is ook gebroken Engels. Het is niet dat ik er op let, maar heb 24 jaar in de VS gewoond dus ik hoor meteen de 'foutjes'. Zo te lezen is je Nederlands nog goed, dan gaat spreken ook goed en aangezien je opneemt kun je het overdoen.