Healing Your Negative Core Beliefs 

Just remember if you can train the brain in one direction then you can train it in the opposite.

I was always belittled as a child. My sister was the beautiful one and I never measured up. When she had a psychiatric breakdown, everyone supported, while I sat alone in a psychiatric hospital. Never knew love

This is just fabulous. The "I am resourceful" really hit home. So many times in life I feel incapable of changing anything and incapable of taking care of myself. This and , "when you're walking through hell..." are life saving. I repeat the latter almost daily right now and it's actually getting me through! Thank you for these videos!

I think continual trauma can do that as well. If someone is insecure and can see no way out, they will continue the pattern until something more traumatic happens in life.

For a depressive you have a lovely smile Douglas x

@3:09 "You can do anything that you want. There are no limits to what you can achieve." positive message his mother used to whisper in his ear before he went to bed.

I'd love to re program my core beliefs to be more positive and hopeful. Instead I'm a sad, pessimistic, melancholic!

I resonate with this so much. I am an only child and I had a happy childhood but my mom was a worrier and always told me to be cautious because the world is very dangerous. I’ve dealt with anxiety most of my life and am still struggling with it. Thank you for this video, and all of your videos. They help so much. I wish I could work with you, but I’m in California :)

3:08 man that is so beautiful that made me grin such a loving mother maaaan thats literally the root of all human behaviour is what happened in your first 7 years. The image of the mother embracing her child and whispering in his ear such empowering and comforting statements truly serene

Hi Douglas! I am so sorry to hear that you are having such a rough time of it right now. Looking as this long list of comments shows how many people whose lives you have impacted, and saved. Lots of new folks as well as some of us old-timers. Remember that your older videos are new to the people who have more recently joined, and a lot of us would benefit from watching them again. I hope you do not mind, I am going to send a private email to you. Remember that you have a 100% success record in getting through these episodes before and there is no reason that you will not get through this one. Sending you lots of love and thanks, Shirley

Thanks for mentioning agoraphobia. It has been a real challenge for me. The current pandemic just made things worse. I was a bold young adult. I experienced anxiety around age 30 due to relationship stress and other things colliding in a short span. It’s been 14 rough years. It is so hard now to envision myself happy and confident again.

Tonight I’m going to write in my Gratuity journal that I have your channel. Any time I need a pick me up I watch your video and It instantly boost my mood.

I just started listening to Douglas and hearing about anxiety and depression and whatever else I have just hearing him makes me feel like I am going to make it thank you

Thank you for these amazing words!

Thanks Douglas

Thank you for this information! This made me realize that I'm protecting my fears on my son.

Hi Doughlas. i want to thank you so much for this video about healing your negative core beliefs. i was very shocked about how 70 to 80 percent of core beliefs is negative. Healing from depression for me has hit this mile stone in my recovery. and with the professional help i now receive in the UK from my CBT.. it seems your web site and my theropy are going hand in hand and i am so grateful for both. Thank you again for one of the greatest videos on mental health i feel i have ever seen.

He's right on!

"I have the ability to create support for myself in my life. " I love that. As a therapist, I encourage my clients to come up with specific areas or tasks he needs help with. It works as a way of breaking down his overwhelming fear into manageable pieces.

Now i understand why i do not want to be around my mum. She projects her fears onto me....

Thanks Douglas. I was just exposing this to my mother and she finally got it.

Very very good material 🤙

Thank you soo much for running this youtube channel. I have learned so many helpful things. And i am genuinely feeling better after applying your ideas. :)

Wow very informative thank you!

What a relevant video to pop up. Lately I’m ruled by my phobias and inner beliefs that feel like I have no confidence in new endeavors. It’s so frustrating.

Thank you so much Douglas. You are a true gift to mankind. I’ve been trying to build my brand for the last 4 years to create videos that touch move and inspire the world to make a positive impact. I am a introvert, so I get exhausted quickly. Your videos give me confidence to keep moving forward despite my core beliefs that I am a failure.

What if we are depressed because we have been intimidated and surrounded by 100% assholes most of the time as children? If this is true there might be no reason to replace "limiting" beliefs. We just have to trust our beliefs and take action. Saying NO is a good beginning, I think. "But your parents always loved you". Did they really? What if our "loving caretakers" were genuine self-absorbed narcissistic assholes hiding in sheep's clothing? My 2 cents: Negative beliefs developed in childhood has to do with emotional withdrawn parents - out of reach. Children are not born depressed. I would like to see a video on Childhood trauma and Major Depression: What is the impact on your self-image and self-esteem growing up among people with no ressources?

this is one keep your head above water when u find yourself in social turmoil.

Very helpful and informative Thank You

This video is a simplistic way of understanding yourself on an essential, do-able and applicable level. It seems to address well...the core of the negative issues and directly explains how the negative self talk/image generally evolves and how it can be recognized and retrained. I will say, this seems interesting, insightful, and worth exploring further and hopefully following🙂

This is great Douglas. I can watch this over and over again. I just talked to my mother yesterday and she’s still doing the same thing even though I’m over 50 now. She means well.

Paused at 2:12 to say that I am your poster child! I have come to understand every word you have said so far as being true. My healing lags behind my understanding. I have just subscribed, in the hope that I will learn better ways of healing. Thanks.

this is one of the most positive inspiring messages of the 21st century

After I lost my job I got diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis. The medication forbid me to have children. Now I am faced with potentially losing my parents and being alone in in this world. The thought of that makes me suicidal. Perhaps I feel the world is a dangerous place. Well my parents were both verbally abusive so... I have an intense fear of being alone and disabled to the point of being suicidal.

Thank you. Just to know the fact that I can change my negative core beliefs gives me the energy to change them into positive ones.

thank you thank you thank you

following good news online cheers me up with positive outlook in the world seriously it cheers me up globally

Very good portrayal of C.B.T Douglas.I will try to implement them.One notion troubles me as I have had low to medium level of depression for decades, I would probably be frightened if one day the depression vanished just as some long term prisoners might feel if one day all the locked doors were opened.Thanks

It was an afterthought for me when I was young and I'm afraid remained one, take it to the Lord in prayer. A thing that was difficult was that primary conduits of religious instruction were also the origin of problems.

Cheers buddy really helped me out today.

Dude, thanks, subbed

Thank you

I'm really late for this but I still want to tell u how much ur videos has helped me.... But I have so much hate towards myself, I'm so depressed, I wanted to die do many times and I wanted to cure my depression but I realized I can't. So I gave up hope and let my depression take me over and I fell so much into darkness. But I'm trying to get better for the people I care about... And theses video are helping me take one step at a time to recovery, so thank u

Thank you so muuuuch :)

In west Texas what is depressing is very low pay no outdoors activities because it's miserable outdoors extreme heat and wind. Property taxes are extremely high, kind of like renting you're own house off of the county.

Dr.Douglas I do a thing, I got all the day debating conflicting with other people, I see myself from eyes of those characters. Its a type of thinking in 3rd person. I don't know what it is and how I got this thinking pattern but I had it since childhood and now I become aware of it

Tq very much

Love your videos new subscriber

My core belief is that I'm annoying, hence I don't have a friend group. At work people have to be with you, so I just do things for them to not be annoying. People complain a lot about other people, at least that's the case in my culture.

I’ve had pocd recently and defined myself through that belief when I know it’s not true

You have the sadness of the Shoah in your soul. My mum the sadness of Apartheid South Africa. Hello fellow pilgrim!

Good one :D

I have the ability to create support in my life 🙏

Yes... you´re absolutely right: Core Beliefs wire the fundamental neurons which actually form your personal environment. (with referenz to quantum physics and even all the stuff the freemasons believe in ) BUT ... what actually is defined as positiv in a society is build up by the "Collective Core Believes" itself FROM the society - this is the main problem of every ethical human being. Our society itself has designed very bad conditions to deal with each other because of our monetary system ( e.a. FED and all the very important videos you can find on youtube ). So... in that case we cannot say "everything is build in our mind" and "we are personally responsable fpr being poor" f.e. THATS the big point which all the positiv thinkers and personal lifecouches forget: "to earn money in this society is based on the internal acceptance of the monetary system which leads to all the bad circumstances we faced on our planet today" Of course there are a few parallel economical systemstheories f.e.the german Andreas Popp and his "flowing money" .. but actual we are living in a world of injustice and ignorance ( no matter what i try to convince myself for being responsable for my environment ). I think ( for I know that all the Core Beliefs concerning our system are results of interlectual examinations and therfore "real" ) thats a good idea to find a Core belief concerning our survival in society which includes the knowledge of the false monetary system AND our capability to deal with it...and the ability to look for ourselves IN SPITE of all the bad emotions "they" want to "install" in ourselves. F.e.: "I´m able to look for myself and to gain enough for a good life in spite of the manipulating bad system I´m live in" ...think: what would you say concerning your "inner problems of humanity" when Hitlers had won the war and it racialism would be an INTENDED social worth !! That would also be not MY fault when I wouldn´t be able to accept this norm !!

Thanks doctor i wanted to commit suicide days ago and your videos have helped me a lot i send u all the love in the world💕

To have this be real is the scary sad that keeps folks isolated. To be that angry at your self hurts. and the, “ distortions “ in how people feel about themselves, seem proven by our failures. Done faking being a regular person when it is not true.

im exactly like the 29 year old girl im 29 and i live with my mum and i m stuck and i have no friends and no reason to go forward in life or any thing but i know my mum just didnt want me to be hurt but at the same time i feel so crippled in life and i just want to leave life and i dont know how to get out of it and your videos are good they help epople but i dont know how to help my self and i feel so reliant on her to the extent that i always ask for permission for any thing and one time i did bring up getting professional help and told me ina way that made me feel badly that if i didnt think i could do this on my own that i could get help but it made me feel like i am supposed to get through it on my own and im an alcoholic and its extended to the point of im definately killing myself and i dont know how my liver hasnt shut down yet and i dont know how to get out of this

What could’ve been a beautiful relationship with an amazing woman didn’t work because of this core belief: “I don’t deserve to be loved someone like _____ ” I hate to say this but I proved myself right. 😢

Am financially stable

Douglas I've been in and out of sobriety for many years now. I find it really really hard t0 accept everything in my life. And the clock is ticking. I get to about three months sober and I fall off the wagon. Any way I'm trying harfd to get to AA meetings. But I've always felt that I just want to fit in and be normal! I know God created all men equal but I'm struggle with it. Anyway your videos are great. Looknig forward to seeing more of them

I wish I can afford for a psychotherapy for me and for my family. It's nearly impossible to overcome your negative intrusive thoughts without any help of a therapist. If you only depend on medication it's pretty useful to treat the symptoms but with your cognitive behavior it's very difficult to overcome. Impossible! We as a human have limitations and we are not intelligent enough to distinguish what we need to do in able to help our selves. We need other people guidance and help for us to be fully recover.

Currently, I am feeling sad and alone. You are fine. The world is uncertain.

affirmation is for me "i deserve a good life".

Thank you so much for this video. I used affirmations for a couple years but didn't feel a change. Do you have any advice for me? I spoke them to myself often and journal them, but no real noticeable difference.

The first step is stop judging anyone.

May I have I have health and safety

Is it true that affirmations should not conflict our core beliefs, like trying to replace 'I'm not good enough' with 'I am good' or 'I am resourceful' and instead we should use some more believable affirmations such as 'I am good at ___' or 'I'm a good friend'? I've seen that in two or three videos but not from a specialist like you. Thanks.

I am love

Isnt also better to ask what,why and how? Also to define what love is to the person or whatever it is and define it???

This happened to my cousin so sad he is 50 and can’t work or drive.

In my best valid perspective if society declutter or stop watching tv n media social and political everyone might have positive beliefs about themselves n each other

So my mum committed suicide when I was 7 and my dad used to use a belt on me if I was naughty or my sister's blamed me for things they had done. He continues to this day (I am 46) putting me down so I try to avoid him. He remarried someone 15 years his junior and she was just interested in getting us out the door as soon as she could. I am plagued constantly by suicidal thoughts and yes I do have a plan. I just don't care anymore. The only thing keeping me going is I have a son whom my soon to be ex wife drove out of our house back to his mother's who faked a suicide after 3 weeks of being together 18 yrs ago and I reported for neglect to social services. He is nearly 18 so i have to put it off. would hate for him to always be reminded on his birthday. I don't want to leave him with the legacy of what I am going through but I have had enough. I don't trust people had a best friend spike me with some form of lsd he brought back from India and since then when I was about 24 I have had severe problems with memory mood and all the rest. Yeah life's a bunch of fucking roses. Angry at life angry at being angry. Sick of ass holes calling me white privileged, if I am privileged you can have it!

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hellow sir, im currently suffering from depresssion ,, can u give me some valuable tips on hopw to overcome this?

I have ocd and and I'm in relationship .....recently ocd symptoms spiked and I have picked up a belief that if I break up wid her then I'll become normal ...how do u overcome it plz help

well....m suffering from OCD mostly,harm and scrupulosity....from almost 10 yrs,hmm....i feel like giving up,so hard

Could this be the root cause of the neuroticism trait, in variation with the level of abusive messages received as a child?

are there resources for how our inner child and core beleifs make us vulnerable to relationship violence domestic abuse? I have left 20 years of domestic abuse but am still sent into fight/flight/freeze fear and shame when I even hear his name or see and email from him. the fear and shame a d powerlessness has been with me since childhood but he and others have been "hammering" on it since then. I feel if I can heal and make that child feel safe and worthy and capable the abusers "target" will be removed.

I have fears and negative beliefs about friendships. I always feel like an outsider and that I’m a last option. How do I change this belief to attract real and true friendships

I have all these negative core beliefs spoken about in the beginning. Yet i dont know why

ya ya , all t hat's nice... WHAT are those speakers you got there??? don't recognize them

i think negative thinking and past history are in my mind it is alarming for future am i right..?

What if you get no messages? You don't believe anything about yourself.

2:48 it s exactly my story;((

I am about to go abroad again for another job, how can I get over the anxiety?

I'm still very negative to my self.

Is it possible to change/work on your negative core beliefs with the guidance of a therapist while still being in an environment that reinforces them?

I was glad that I was able to watch this video, but it put me in the mind of something I learned about in a high school psychology class which I believe is referred to as "Depressive Realism." If true, depressive realism means that depressed people are essentially better at perceiving reality as it truly is than their nondepressed counterparts. To put it another way, how, given my limited information and perceptive abilities am I to reasonably conclude that my negative core beliefs are not very realistic indeed and in fact, correct?

Am repectful

Greetings from India sir..... i am using affirmations of true health, when dealing with some serious health issues at same time. Trying to overcome my negative thinking , is it right ? Please guide me :)

Hey ,I recently watched a thriller movie and it got stuck in my head ,it keeps coming and I worry more about it coming again than itself ,can you help me and I also have this negative belief nothing can heal including believing that this video is false

i used to be one level of pessimistic Ness I was all about the brighter shade of gray my cup was always half Emoty but what was left was mine and valuable to me. now I cannot seem to find any joy am perinoid with some reason but truly trust no one and am more able to talk about it to strangers and feel and am isolated from everyone as much as possible...i just need to say/ write these feelings to come back to reality and out of denial of the severity of my situation... to some i may be blabbering my husband tells me so all the time. I'm in an 2br appt with him and his 2 sons who are @the moment being nice try face and telling my jealous mistrustful husband stories that are causing great harm. to us and to my well being and stability... after a while they'll go back to being disrespectful and ungrateful to me again they'll follow his behavior. we are both on disability and both boys have serious emotional issues are extremely disrespectful and expect far more than is realistic for two well people they both take advantage of our disabilities w guilt trips and other manipulation and I have no outlet my mental health services are a joke to be polite and we face poverty another major stress factor on all of our over all well beings... it's very difficult for me not to get wrapped up in total despair. i haven't 1 friend left after only 2 yrs of marriage. a lot were no good but it's still left me with no one to talk to without it going back to my husband... all people vent except me. the price is too high to pay. i don't want to be locked back up in another phych ward only to be told I skip out when it's hard and what little I have I'm holding out on. it's toxicity @ its worst case scenario I'm afraid to go to shelters again it was dangerous and if I tell the truth about abuse I'll be in more danger... I need help soo bad but the system is failing and being sucked dry for war toys... we are over populated we can't sustain this and they just keep breaking more people pushing pulling till there no longer sane... and bitch they're sucking off the system.... let us hunt and forge like we were ment not run run till u crack...i want soo badly to work be ok function but the fibromyalgia is cripplingly my hands I got a 3inch bruise from flushing the toilet... and the pain spreads all over i get in the shower and I am burned in one spot frozen in another fine somewhere else frim the same water!!!??? how do fight the world your body and you married family.lost biological and all friends because of mood swings behavior doubled by stress... I'm tired and scared every day what will happen today...full of resentment and blind rage at my situation and those who have really abandoned me... but shut up keep your head down and you might get to "take your 20 pills and go to bed..."I'm holding on for dear life so please do the same here something has to give. sorry to pick puke at you all I need to tell someone that I'm here...take care of you!!!

It seems that something comes before the thought-Like the thought is the middle of three cars in the accident.

When approaching women I'm always have a negative beliefs like she will reject you, A lot of people looking at you or it will be awkward if you talk to her. how to really cut off the negative beliefs out of my head, Can i?

I feel stuck with people.

A Spanish friend once said to me: "I'm the kind who would have been shot by Nazis." She is small and black-haired and brown eyed. The tyranny of WASPs.

are negative core beliefs just a symptom of depression or are they also there when we feel 'normal' or healthy? I noticed when I feel well again, my beliefs about the world change and become generally more positive towards others and myself. However, when I dip back into depression that all changes. Thus, how much weight or importance should we really be giving to our 'beliefs' as they may just be fluctuations on our mood. The greater question here for me is: To what extent should we be influenced by our feelings or mood as these are continuously changing and colouring our perception of the world. Therefore, perhaps, not all that trustworthy :)

my heart raise and sleepiness . depression attack. panic attack in morning. please help.

I wish my culture understood this I would be free to navigate the world

...believe this vlog was very important. Hurts, needs, trauma, do override, morph, edit, God s commandments, etc, the great commandment. God help us, forgive us.