Healthy Relationships be like.... | The Unpopular Opinion 

I beg to differ with one of the points that Claire made on acceptance. Yes while there are quirks that you may accept a friendship where your 'energy' is not returned is draining. To use one of the examples mentioned; If your friend goes out to plan amazing birthday celebrations for you the least you can do is return the favour. It may not be on the same scale but even a coffee, a slice of cake, something to commemorate this person you consider dear. Maybe one year you got swamped with work, life etc and all you managed was a phone call. But it can't be every year you do nothing whilst they do everything on yours. The absence of balance eventually becomes the elephant in the room.

"A healthy relationship is not lack of problems" It's in how we deal with them that makes a difference.

Hi ladies, am watching you from Ireland. You showed up in my RU-vid feed today and I had to ask a friend in Uganda who you are. The first thing that stood out for me is Fiona's expressions and mannerisms (the hand gestures - talking with your hands, the pointy finger, the eyes open wide when drawing emphasis on something...). It was like looking in the mirror and seeing all the things my friends tell me I am, ALL THE TIME! Girl, you embody me, spirit soul and body!💖💖 That said....ladies, I have watched a couple of your "the unpopular opinion" videos now and YOU ARE NAILING IT! I felt like going through the screen and joining you at the table! LOL! 😂😂Thank you for shining a light on these things and for pushing the boundaries.

Can we just admit just how beautiful these African ladies are.Beautiful👌👌

Claire, you were dropping them gems!!!!!!!!!! Love it. I say this a lot too. When you give and do things for a loved one, do it because it makes you happy to do regardless of how the other person receives it, and do it without expectations.

Support, acceptance of people as they are and welcoming knowledge from friends are key to me in a healthy relationship.

Woooooow prim was soo volunarable about her issues with her sister, love you prime🥰🥰

If you are an independent adult, financially stable, it's very easy to create boundaries with your toxic family. You love from a distance, support from a distance etc. Meet physically when you choose to etc. The challenge is if you are still living under their roof or depending on them financially 😂 Whatever the case is, walk away from toxicity whenever you can. Do not engage. Don't get into physical fights with your parents or abusive battles. Disagree respectfully and walk away. I have seen people beat up their parents but does it ever solve anything or it just makes you equally toxic 🤔

These conversations are so important. I’m just now realizing that I’ve also been absent in my friendships and not paid as much attention.

I feel like people want boundaries but they don't know what boundaries are so they don't know how to ask. Our culture also sees boundaries as kajanja like you said. The fact that doctors feel free to publicly talk about a patients health problems. Eg. the speaker who recently passed away and the oncologist gave details about the deceased health situation and conversations they had in private. I saw that as disrespecting towards the deceased and his family members. And also to patients he is currently treating. No boundaries at all. If he was the US, he would have been sued for breach of confidentiality. Uganda why are we like this?why don't we allow people to be?

Prims glow OMG thanks for the episode ladies

Jealous is a normal reaction,but it gets bad when it turns to envy and that's how people become witches 😅😅😅

People talk a lot about compromise but I believe there are many layers to it. It should have limits. If you find yourself OVER compromising or being the only one compromising, check that relationship.

#releaseyourself This year I released myself from a friend I have known for so many years and considered a sister but realised I run down her priority list and that’s ok even if it hurt a bit. We all met new people that fit into our current life space but it took me a while to let go.

you guys are amazing .......in the episodes you have so far done .......you have helped me grow , mature , grow ,grow ,grow love yyyouu

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Great episode, ladies!!

Claire said boundaries and i thought about how her ass has no boundaries on the chair😂.......Keep going ladies🤝👏❤

Learning a lot here thanks ladies 👏

Great convo ladies!!

I currently live for the close ups😂😂😂 love it

Hey ladies, thanks for the chat. I almost skipped this....but I think I needed to hear this. Claire is a while vibe😁

Thanks ladies for this topic…I have always struggled with communicating what I don’t like for the fear of looking bad but in the end it goes down badly…it’s some think I am practicing and yes a healthy relationship needs a lot of work in communication and being sincere. We all can’t like everything about the other party it’s part of life.

Happy to see young women document such truth 🙌 kudos ladies. Enjoyed this episode. 👌

This episode real pins me down... Am actually feeling sorry for my relationships... Have always been the toxic one

Your always on point you Guy's I appreciate the great job your doing in us Thou I hv just start following you but I hv pic some points I hv been struggling with

Claire loved that part about checking yourself.............having no expectations .....

I like the diversity of your persona. All of you and also that there is people out there thinking like Me, us 😘 . This is the future.

OK I won't say anything related to the topic, am having a girl crush on the three of you. I came across this channel won't say by accident I think God wanted this for me I am enjoying all the old episodes thanks for this work ladies 😍😍😍.

Thank you for the time you put into this. We appreciate 😍, also your transparency shines through. Thank you for that as well. A healthy relationship begins with you and in you. Nothing (friends, family, work, business,...)outside you can actually give you a standard on how to have a healthy relationship. With that being said, I highly believe in personal accountability and cross examination, one's life must have values and standards against which every aspect in their life is judged. We should pay the price of knowing ourselves (as a man thinks in his heart, so is he) and from this you will gauge whether actions from people can be deemed as toxic. A healthy relationship includes compassion, compromise ( in line with your values not outside of them), understanding, ability to adapt and grow, open communication, accountability among others.

Been watching the episodes one after the other so pardon my comments but I would like to hear your thoughts on - what are some/one of the hardest lessons you had to learn that changed you but also showed you something about yourself that you didn't know.

Lovely conversation.. So much insight in the importance of healthy relationships because WOW, toxicity can be normal in your relationships and you are breaking for no reason yet you can have the option to have a healthy and thriving relationships.

Hahhahaha Fiona’s comment of “u guys that’s how iam, byyyyyyeeee”

I just love women who are open minded and are communicating what they want.....much love from Kenya 🇰🇪🇰🇪

Bannange CNN are you not seeing Fiona Kemi,her voice will do wonders in your newsrooms,studios whatever,I can listen to her the whole day.

I have loved all of you but there’s something about light skinned lady. May God bless you all. You have all done so well . I wanted to listen to her from the first time I saw her .

Prims comment about insecurity is so much gold

The way I love Prim,hooo God knows bashijamwe❣️

You don’t have to be mean to be honest…Facts🔥🙏🙏🙏

I love love this

Prim those relationships you described that give you insecurities or you're not sure of their loyalty, girl!!!!!!! I hope they are not you're friends anymore. Keep them as acquaintances.

Liking the video as the opening song plays ✨

Am absolutely enjoying every episode. Please please allow the download option so we can download and watch later.

Keep doing this girls.. It's very beautiful ❤

Beautiful conversation.

Damn👏🏾👏🏾 I ve watched twice

Why isn’t there the download option?😭😭😭 wanted to download all the episodes

Koona, the kadongo💃💃

Prim always speaks my mind

We really appreciate this ….🤝

i just realized that you also have to be these things in the relationship with yourself

Me am jhus here to learn more English bcoz it's eeeeeh ateh when it comes to kemi woowwwww and prim claire

Clare looks very beautiful.

I'm a kinda a person that expects the list from people due to life experiences, Honestly I don't know if I'm toxic.

Yes, I have had a boss who tooke me I was too good. And yes, she recommended me for a better Job, that's partly why I am where I am

How can I release myself from toxicity?

We want to thenk nev

Kemi your first point is me and my family

@Fiona Kemi how I subscribe a 100 times ???

Fiona low-key has a Kenyan accent.

Swahili red time grow to haven

Thanks for your advice but try to be more audible when making your videos.some of us dont use headsets.more so when you host a visitor.but thanks for the good work.

But Claire's bum

She spick to go and pray