Healthy Relationships vs Codependent Relationships (ft. Healthy Boundaries)

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Kristin M Snowden, MA, LMFT, CDWF is a seasoned therapist and certified life coach who specializes in treating sex and love addiction recovery, betrayal trauma healing, and other acute, crisis relationship issues. She explains the elements that create a healthy, interdependent relationship versus an unhealthy, codependent relationship. Kristin also explores Healthy Boundaries and provides a quiz at the end to help viewers explore if they've lost themselves in their relationships with others. She explores the important topics of What makes a healthy relationship? How will I know if I am already Codependent with other people? These queries are discussed in this lecture. You will learn the pros and cons of being in conjunction with other people. Kristin provides examples of healthy ways to engage with others versus unhealthy coping skills. Sometimes, it is being supportive and open-minded that makes a healthy relationship, along with it, both partners should validate the other's feelings. It provides tools to help one accept constructive feedback by your partner because it is part of the intimate connection.
We will realize how we unconsciously become dependent on the validation of others which can be an example of a codependence. Even worse, when we operate out of fear and desperation to keep the relationship "at all costs" we can set ourselves up to ignore the red flags, boundaries, and the willingness to assert our own needs.
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4 года назад

"I believe that honest conflict has more social value than dishonest harmony"

@laurensarrantonio8497 7 лет назад

This SHOULD be a subject in school. You are an educator in that respect. Thank you!

@DC-vx7uj 5 лет назад

Lauren Sarrantonio No she's not. She thinks cheating is a normal part of marriage.

@worldconnection7569 5 лет назад

I have been saying this now for two months. Telling everyone that this should be told to everyone. Cause i never learned this at school.com. I told my doctor as well. But i dont know if they would bring it at school. I dont know why they are NOT explaining this stuff. Why ? Dont they know they would save ppl from getting a BURN OUT and would stop jobless people from getting sick and looseing confidence and end up to be drug addicts. Why dont they teach us this stuff. I am really mad not with every one but my self. We all learn by mistakes but this mistakes of just not knowing. And the reason is cause ur being nice to a devil. Being nice is not good. It atracts the narcs.

@detraed8962 5 лет назад

I totally agree because not all of us have great role models to learn from.

@futureshocked 5 лет назад

@@DC-vx7uj I think she's just saying cheating isn't necessarily tied to a personality disorder like codependency

@Gigislaps 4 года назад

My thought exactly

@LBrobie 6 лет назад

While "you complete me" sounds all sweet and romantic and everything...it's basically co-dependence at its finest.

@moulee7448 4 года назад

Yes.. It is terrible

@razvanyke 4 года назад

Wow, this is very well said.

@greaterishe7197 2 года назад

When I say that people get upset but it's true.

@dinahsoar6982 7 лет назад

I've seen people go into a marriage with good boundaries. But over time they lose themselves b/c of the gaslighting and manipulationn of a narcissistic partner. They end up with 'fleas'.

@orbitalpl1 5 лет назад

never loose yourself or compromise yourself for a relationship...

@louvrefossil 6 лет назад

codependency is an epidemic. all of these traits you listed is just how most people communicate on a regular basis. i’ve found evolving and developing myself over the years where i don’t feel i need to act in these ways has actually made people feel i’m weird and “difficult” to cooperate with. it’s really exhausting and then there’s the part where you don’t want to apologize/explain yourself for your actions which is again codependent

@silentgrove7670 4 года назад

I do not have relationships. I see how people are in general in society and it looks awful to me. I rarely attempt connections with others because there seems little point. I might have swung the pendulum too far the other side from how very open I was in the past. I have practically no one during my lifetime.

@ruthiea2789 3 года назад

Ha! Same here. Dating is a nightmare when you are mostly in the healthy boundary column. I'm happy to be single.

@CC-hy8gf 3 года назад

I'm 32 and don't plan on trying to find someone who will actually be dependable

@taf8903 3 года назад

I really love the idea of thinking about a relationship as a seperate "living and breathing" entity.

@mattiethesurfer 5 лет назад

I’ve done a ton of self-help, self-awareness work (e.g., Adult Children Of Alcoholics, John Bradshaw, therapy) and in my last relationship I was told I am not compassionate when I try to watch my codependent tendencies. For example, saying no when I mean no (instead of saying yes and harboring resentment), letting the ex know I’m here for them if they communicate to me what they need or want (being told they don’t know what they need), and me communicating (through non violent communication) my feelings. One night I didn’t feel like cuddling so I said so. Well, dating someone who doesn’t work on this stuff is a recipe for disaster. They viewed all of this as me being mean or not compassionate. Meanwhile, they never clearly communicated what they needed or wanted from me and decided to leave. All I want is to communicate. I find it exciting to build emotional intimacy, but I’m realizing most people don’t even broach these subjects (codependency, boundaries, etc.).

@toddk1479 5 лет назад

Maybe you took it too far and it backfired?

@manishakundu7533 4 года назад

i understand what you are saying. all these things labelled unhealthy here is propagated as 'romantic' and 'passionate' in our culture, in our books and movies and media. so if our partner is not aware of healthy relationships and boundaries, they will this behaviour as cold and dispassionate

@Active0Bserver 4 года назад

I also just got out of one that ended in a similar fashion, what you described to a T. It's confusing to stick with your guns while being told you're cold or withdrawn even though you put all your cards on the table and still couldn't see eye to eye in terms of openness. Suppose it's all apart of learning.

@lightning9279 4 года назад

If you are personally working on these subjects and don't have a mate that is at least willing to dive into or understand the subjects, then the relationship is doomed. If a two cylinder engine is only running on one cylinder, the failure of that engine is eminent.

@Paarthurnaxdova 4 года назад

Matthew Freye most real men never communicate enough to build emotional intimacy. That is an epidemic for sure. Tons of us codependent women seeking validation and emotional intimacy from narcissistic men.

@danielmartin7873 7 лет назад

For the past two years, I've made it a focus to be true to myself and, as you say, live with congruency. It's been a tough road, especially after coming out of very codependent relationship with a lot of cheating, blaming, resentment, etc. Things are so much better now, and while I'm still very flawed, I've come to accept and love myself for who I am. Your video has shown me how far I've come from those dark days, as well as confirmed for me that I'm the right path. Very grateful for people like you who have taken the time to teach others and show them how to live healthy, happy lives. Keep it up.

@andreagreen1133 4 года назад

Daniel Martin congratulations on coming out of a dark place starting your journey took strength and courage and your comment is a testimony that gives others who are struggling hope

@toneman335 4 года назад

Seems too often it is thought a relationship is loving when actually it is codependent.

@dee0731 4 года назад

Boundaries are wonderful and life changing ☺️

@upendasana7857 6 лет назад

I needed to have known this 20 years ago.I can't believe I was stupid and weak enough to stay in unhealthy abusive relationships where I did exactly that,allow someone else's experiences and emotions to trump my own.I use to think that was love.god,how could I have been so stupid.It has taken years and years of heartache and suffering to get to the point where I realise that all you have said is true.May we all learn how to have healthy,respectful relationships with others and ourselves.That is the only way forward.Thanks for making such clear videos like these.

@Kabaselefh 6 лет назад

Upenda Sana you were not weak, that’s the same feeling we all share today after being abused by narcissists.

@Jo-annSamurai3069 6 лет назад

It's not about being weak. We all need relationships. Sometimes for whatever reason we attract certain types of people. It doesn't help you by calling yourself stupid or other negative names or labels. Some of us didn't have the best role models as parents. We are all on a journey of self discovery. I've had to end certain friendships and relationships because they were causing me intense pain. If people can't or won't accept your boundaries I really think they don't value or respect you. It's difficult sometimes to walk away but in the long run you will heal. And grow. When one door closes another one opens. Hopefully to a brighter and better place. Thank you for another inspirational and helpful video.

@samyraalexander1710 6 лет назад

Upenda Sana Be nice to yourself.

@barelysanesociety5107 6 лет назад

Upenda Sana : you are not stupid. We all make decisions we regret from time to time. I had two separate relationships, of four years and another of five years; and I regret the time I wasted but it’s done and it taught me a lot about what I don’t want in a relationship and I’ve learned more about myself. Life offers a lot of learning experiences. You are a wonderful person and you will be better equipped for the future. Be happy and show yourself love.

@MindTrip888 5 лет назад

stupid and weak are words that show a dysfunctional factor that is a bully within you. You are bullying yourself with these words. Be kind to yourself. Love yourself. This is the real reason you put up with it. As you have been a victim bullying yourself. Those we are with treat us the way we let them treat us. By putting up with it we say it is ok for them to do it, and that we deserve it. This inner belief is what needs to change. You are loved. But probably are very toxic to yourself and others with this dysfunctional dynamic. You need to understand it with professional help so that you don't keep messing things up in your misunderstanding and reacting with the bully within. Take care. I hope you find peace. You are worth it. Be patient with yourself and others, for none of them knows what they are doing much of the time they trigger issues. Research the Victim Mentality and you will find it describes most of the dysfunctional baggage you experience often as a habit. The need to blame and get angry at another or yourself is all part of the horrible effects of it as a life style at subconscious levels. It is something to understand and break free from. It is manipulated by some. And all have triggers of being a victim at some time in their life. And with these triggers we are not ourselves, we are stuck in the victim loops. Learning a different option is an antidote to a virus.

@joanbaczek2575 7 лет назад

the most common thing ive experienced is being expected to mind read, and when i couldn't i was told i was inconsiderate. " if you don't know you must not care." drove me to be a neurotic mess. then a yelling mess

@anneclarkin 7 лет назад

joan baczek sounds like you're just blaming the other though?

@himitsu30007 7 лет назад

Anne Clarkin what right do you have to write sth like that? you don't know her and her story

@judypoage3242 5 лет назад

joan baczek 0how

@69LOLIN 5 лет назад

Mind reading? Where have I heard that? mshhhh!

@scorpification 4 года назад

Totally! Here’s an example for people who can’t understand. He loved going out to eat so several times a week the conversation went like this: Him: where do you want to eat? Me: Anywhere sounds good. How about Olive Garden? Him: *sigh* Well *I* wanted the Mexican restaurant!!! Me: Well that sounds good too. Him: No no no no no, we’ll go to Olive Garden. Me: I really can eat anything. Mexican sounds good too. Him: *silently drives us to Olive Garden and acts resentful the rest of the whole evening.* I started trying to get him to say what he wanted first but he will refuse. If I happen to guess the ‘correct’ answer then the rest of our evening is great. 🙄

@someonenamevalencia7527 7 лет назад

so basically you and your GF/Bf must be independent(know who they are what they want and have what they actually need) problem most people don't even know who they are or even sadder dont know what they want(dreams/Goals)

@bonnielee7134 5 лет назад

Another way that it is said is that a relationship is two separate people sharing theirs lives together.

@hmstru8y827 5 лет назад

Codependency can still happen. I was very independent, thriving on my own, chasing a new career, but once I got into my relationship and life changes started happening, my empathy grew greater for my partner. I was still doing all the things I did before, but slowly I started doing more for this other person. I was not taught a health y relationship and things seemed so normal from people I spoke to at the time. I read that a child who has to mature and be more responsible than the parent can lead to a codependent adult relationship. We tend to care so greatly for others, and slowly putting everything into the relationship without noticing it.

@detraed8962 5 лет назад

That's why it's important to always know who you are, what you want, and where you stand. If you don't know it's your responsibility to find that out. I think it's way easier to have dreams and goals if you really know who you are..It can be hard to know who you are and to stay true to who you are because of outside influences such as society...and family friends etc....people have to realize outside influences should never control who you actually are inside. If they do then you have effectively given your life into the hands of another and therefore are in a codependent relationship and you will forever be chasing whatever it is they want you to be and of course you will be extremely unhappy in the end. The problem is many people are too lazy, too scared, or just don't care enough to invest in finding out and hanging onto who they actually are. Most are afraid of what others think. I know I was afraid of what others thought at times but then I thought you know what these people are flawed and may be just as afraid and living a life they can't even bear to love or honor so who cares then I just be ME. I always have said if you see a world that's eerily similar then there are a lot of fake people out there. We are individuals and not clones and as soon as we realize this society will be better because people will be happier. The reason why people are so afraid of what's different is because it's a mirror reflecting back to them that they have given into other's influence and are no longer actually themselves. That is frightening and heartbreaking and no one likes facing that. The very fact that we all can say the same things but speak it in different phrases, words, and sentences tells me we were never meant to be exactly the same. Not everybody wants a marriage, not everybody wants kids, and not everybody wants a house with a white picket fence, and the moment you understand this and are happy with that information it frees you...and what frees you even more is not caring that others disagree that you don't need those things. lol. Another thing I say is if you can die feeling honored by the life you led then your life was worth it because it was done your way and nobody else's.

@LethalWeapon73 3 года назад

I agree Chris

@barelysanesociety5107 6 лет назад

Thank you so much for this video. I have had this problem for years and have wasted many years in unhealthy relationships either being taken advantage of or expecting too much from my partner and becoming upset when I don’t get what I expect. I wanted to be worthy of their love so I would try to do anything that could make their life better and if I fell short I was scared they would leave me. When you’re not complete and you don’t have high self esteem you really put yourself in a position to really get hurt. This really should be though in middle, high school or college. Everyone needs this information. For some of this, this emotional health doesn’t just come naturally.

@michelej9496 2 года назад

People with high self esteem are in toxic relationships as well. We have a tendency not to endear ourselves with people who are compatible but rather accessible.

@BEEBEE159 5 лет назад

I am trying to overcome codependency. I was in a 25 yr marriage with a psychopath woman. I have been researching for about 2 yrs. now, and I think you are right. I have not seen any other video cover the things you are talking about. Other videos I have seen may dabble a little; however, your video presents the problems and solutions in a very clear and direct manner. I will have to watch this video over and over again because you covered a lot here. Also, I need to meditate on the things you said, to let it really sink in. Thank you very much for taking the time to make this video. God bless you.

@hansmdinkermaniiv1665 5 лет назад

You have a very calm, sensitive, and genuine demeanor I can tell you are passionate, empathetic and wanting to help others comes from an authentic place. I think you’d be a great example for clients/people who are looking to a therapist/role model to demonstrate what a secure relationship looks like

@joanbaczek2575 7 лет назад

yah i counted on my boyfriend to accept me, yet he was hot then cold. i feel desperate in relationships, and the power is always in thier hands. then he is miserable and i feel like its all my fault cuz im not good enough. i put all my self worth in relationships, and when they stop loving me it feels like dieing, my entire history is relationships of 2 years or more but it always ends bad, and im left with no self esteem.

@nirlamejia1952 7 лет назад

💖 love addiction 💔

@cloudair4154 7 лет назад

my advice is let the guy come to u and save sex for marriage.. if u do these things then the guy will have to learn to care about u or move on... and u may be thinking "well most guys will move on" ur probably right but its better than having your heart ripped out of your anal cavity..... do these things i have recommended to you and be upfront about the sex thing

@janicepaul9957 6 лет назад

Cloud Air yeah yeah how your body is all you own don't give it away

@barelysanesociety5107 6 лет назад

joan baczek : I’m so sorry. I know how you feel. I think it helps to put your self first. If something makes you uncomfortable don’t do it . And realize you are never alone, if you feel complete and good about yourself, when that other person leaves you can still find happiness in yourself. I wish you the best. I know it’s hard, I have been there and I’m still working on finding my way.

@aneliadraganova3504 5 лет назад

@@janicepaul9957 , the recommendation it's not about not giving your body away :) Nature made the sexual instinct very powerful for procreational purpose , and this instinct on some occasions may override the survival instinct. However the suggestion is about balance. You give something - you must receive something. A man has to earn the sexual giving. That's so again for human race purpose. And remember - if one doesn't work for something it doesn't see a value in the something.

@brennanleyen 2 года назад

I found K Snowden after an infidelity betrayal in my marriage. Now I’m learning how to have a healthier relationships all the way around. Thank you soooo much!

@Grace-zl5zv 6 лет назад

Yep It's so true the media TV movies teach and project the norm of unhealthy dysfunctional relationships that healthy relationships are almost seemingly "unreal " In a world full of fakery and people not willing to love themselves in a healthy way but expecting others to "Love " them.Chasing love is a fools game as many of us know One of the soundest pieces of advice I got was to love yourself first and it's only by loving accepting ourselves and yeh ..even those so called unlovable parts that we can really begin to open to ourselves to a healthy relationship It's an understated truth that if we don't love accept and appreciate ourselves then we don't know how to appreciate others Great sound and very well presented in every way Thanks a Million for the time and effort put into this for us struggling with this challenge.Blessings

@SP_0102 9 месяцев назад

Dr Snowden you are simply amazing and i appreciate you, helping humanity be more human. I specially like the way you explain everything, its not only from a personal perspective but also i can tell that you feel everything while you explain yet you have a terrific control on your intellect and recall all at once. Your knowledge and the way you communicate it is a gift for all watching and learning here. My gratutude ❤

@KristinSnowden 9 месяцев назад

Thank you for such a kind note. I’m so happy my videos have been helpful to you.

@andyzhang7890 4 года назад

Holyyy, crap. You just described me so accurately with that last quiz, it's uncanny. I'm binging all your videos right now and I've never related so much yet felt so horrified.

@ilovehouse888 4 года назад

Thank you for this video. I am dating a woman who is VERY independent. We certainly don’t have a codependent relationship. The issue for me is it feels like she could walk away tomorrow and it wouldn’t affect her. I don’t want a codependent relationship and I wouldn’t want her to be completely crushed if things don’t work out. At the same time, I think it’s healthy to want to know that the other person cares about you on a deep level.

@ElizRued 4 года назад

Hi. Check out interdependence. I think that's a healthy balance between independence and dependence. In relationships we should provide for ourselves and be whole but still nice to trust and rely on others:)

@Dreareoxo 6 лет назад

“There’s people out there who are imperfect...” such an eloquent wonderful way to say this. Thank you!

@Lyn.isGrey 8 лет назад

Just ended a relationship over these oversteps. I tend to be a little traditional, but it is misunderstood and there are men who don't know a healthy form of that and will put you on their radar. It's not to step over boundaries or fix someone, or to take issue with each person's individuality. It's not about insecurity or trying to micromanage anyone. We are both grown adults. I'm not weak minded or passive, I just choose to be more feminine because I like it. This wasn't a long relationship, just long enough for me to see what I needed to and respectfully decline.

@jonasvalero 6 лет назад

This is the number one true reason that many people have failing relationships, or go rush for relationships only to come out disappointed. This video is it.

@chilloften 8 лет назад

What an awesome video...you are right, healthy relationships are not taught and hard to find. Thank for the info & sharing this video.,

@hcplsmf 4 года назад

Coming back to this video years later, is a nice reminder of the information and how far I’ve come because of it. Thank you!

@Hannah-zm9vc 7 лет назад

I needed this all my life and I am 39 yrs old. It would have saved me my money; my peace of mind as well. Though I did good in the final questionnaire and I was conflicted with gaslighting all my life especially my last relationship. I did go to see two counselors however, but I did not learn as much as the 3 videos you made. God Bless You

@SpencerCindia 7 лет назад

I like the way you approach these subjects, using emotionally relatable examples while speaking professionally and pointedly. Looking forward to more on this channel.

@jensen5668 4 года назад

Straight up this comment box just doesn't express the overwhelming appreciation I have for the thoughtful gift of your time and knowledge! Thank you ma'am!

@rxjsexamples3659 7 лет назад

Omg thank you Kristin... I never realized I never knew how to properly relate to others. My issues are rooted in codependency and it this totally makes sense and makes me feel like I have some tools now thanks!

@danieboo946 3 года назад

I started watching you 5 years ago. I still revisit this video to help me remember and to navigate my relationships even to this day. Thank you 🙏

@KristinSnowden 3 года назад

Wow! Thank you! That’s so great to hear. I’ve been really trying to improve the quality of what I offer to those who value independent study and growth. I’ll be releasing a big, comprehensive online course soon with almost everything that I teach. Along with my 80 page curriculum book. Just waiting for the tech people to put it up!!

@Taylor1err 6 лет назад

You’re a beautiful human being and you deserve to be so much bigger than you are. I believe that you said and explained everything that needed to be said, and that a lot of people will feel a lot better with themselves after watching this. Thank you for your contribution and care for our society, and really showing us the healthy and unhealthy aspects of what can happen in relationships 🙏❤️

@detraed8962 5 лет назад

Thanks for posting! This was great because I have found that whenever I have established boundaries I often felt guilt because I didn't know if I did the right thing or if I was being to harsh and would judge myself for it later, but now I realize I was doing the correct thing and actually honoring myself. So I just thank you for the knowledge you brought with this video. I would actually feel rotten when someone treated be horribly and would react accordingly intuitively either by cutting off the relationship, limiting myself around the person or situation, or I would not speak with the person when they were being nasty but as I stated I would often feel guilty or bad about it later. This video actually opened me up in ways that I needed and may have even opened up areas in my brain/thoughts never opened. I needed to understand there is no guilt or shame when setting a boundary. It's a hard choice but you have to make it and when you do most likely there will always be a level of discomfort. Choosing between resentment and discomfort has to be done and will most likely cause you to feel uncomfortable but has to be done and resentment is always harder to bear. It's like choosing between setting your whole body on fire or just chopping off your finger...both are hard to choose from but one is obviously worse than the other... I'd rather cut off my finger. I think it's amazing that you can take psychology courses but never are really taught about actual relationships in college or public school. I feel people should most certainly be educated on it as some of us don't have the best role models to learn from to have healthy relationships so being educated on it in a formal setting would be of utmost help. I thank RU-vid for being so open to have so many great minds available for people to learn from! I was just thinking in life sometimes it's so sad because so much of our lives is relational yet many of us struggle to relate because we lack the proper and helpful tools. If only everyone could watch this video they may better understand what's happening to them and really navigate through life healthier and more whole.

@adalineproulx9773 7 лет назад

I just have to say I have a few fav u tubers and you are one I just came across and you've helped me so much!! Ty! :)

@toldaker2147 5 лет назад

You have no idea how wonderful and freeing this was to watch... thank you so much!

@T92tla 6 лет назад

Thank you! Your "Who I am" worksheet really helps for those who struggle to find their self identity.

@threeicys 5 лет назад

I appreciate the quality of your videos. Since processing and changing from a long toxic marriage I have searched for help on RU-vid when therapy was not available. You present information in a clear manner that I can remember and hope to pass on to my teenage daughter.

@Greenwitch_Garden 6 месяцев назад

Subscribed! Such a great video. It’s so important to talk about what’s make a healthy relationship. There’s not enough information on this out there.

@tommypowell1137 4 года назад

Wow thank you so much for your time and effort to post this. It is SOOOO helpful 😊

@pauldorn 7 лет назад

Thank you for the Love Addict-Love Avoidant video, and this one. Very grateful.

@LilyOfTheTower 6 лет назад

I really needed to hear all this!!! I've been in a rut lately and feeling lost, this talk really helped me to reassess my relationships at home and at work. I feel like i got realigned and uplifted from this info. So many times I see other people who seem to have it together and are just happier and on-track while I'm trying to keep up with yesterday. Those people aren't perfect, they just have a better understanding of all you were talking about with healthy relationships in life.

@DavidD-cd9em 6 лет назад

love the close up and relaxed format. very human and relaxing

@bellakrinkle9381 7 лет назад

Very healthy guidrlines, Kristen. Thank you for keeping many of us on our toes regarding toxic/healthy relationships.

@cynthiacarlos6282 7 лет назад

OMG Kristin! What a blessing you are! This is soooooo needed! Ive learned these through the years and still pushing through but you communicated it so amazingly, right on! Im passing this on to groups of ladies i know. Keep it up!

@1too3fore 8 лет назад

That table is very useful, thanks so much!

@matthewneillmusic 8 лет назад

this tied together a lot of things for me. thank you so much for the work you put into these videos. I'll definitely be watching this one again and looking out for more videos to come.

@susanshaw4208 6 лет назад

This is great information. I've watched it a couple of times. Thank you.

@jan-martinulvag1953 5 лет назад

There is no mindreding in heathy relatonships.............. WOW.

@lo-fidreamsASMR 6 лет назад

Thank you so much for all of this, and for the worksheet!

@kurtjensen1790 4 года назад

Definitely have seen this take place. Glad to know more. Thank you.

@burningmarl5664 3 года назад

Great video, Kristen! Thanks so much for posting!

@shanwali692 5 лет назад

Thank you so much!! Your videos are amazing!!

@ErinMcBea 4 года назад

Thank you for making this information free and accessible

@jaycee7735 7 лет назад

I love what you've shared ! OMG - I had no idea....

@lilijimenez3629 4 года назад

I love this. Thank you so much, very helpful.

@mdgqTube 6 лет назад

Thank you for this very valuable knowledge!!!

@in8247 5 лет назад

Thank you this was very helpful for me. My boyfriends have always called me codependent and I never quite understood until I watched this just now, thank you for including the worksheet.

@powercone486 5 лет назад

Thank you for this information. It was what I needed to hear at the perfect time.

@GrantRobBradley 5 лет назад

Thank you! Really needed to watch this.

@Onestrangebrain 4 года назад

Thank you so much. You are helping me finally understand what went wrong in my life.

@jreale6311 7 лет назад

Great video!Thank you so much.

@zzenithfalkner4648 7 лет назад

just found you............so glad! your mannerisms in presenting you information is so perfect! clear and concise...very easy to process. thank you!!

@MikeJackson690 4 года назад

Wow, this video has listed everything wrong with myself and my ex. No wonder we didn't work out, as sad as I am about it.

@andrewhayman9160 3 года назад

Hi Kristin. A super video. You have helped me understand the boundary issues I have with my mother. I will download your information sheet right now. You have an excellent way of presenting what is a complex issue. Thanks again and keep up the good work. Best regards. Andy, London. UK.

@MrMopeake 6 лет назад

Great job keep up the good work! I’m a counseling student and I’m learning a lot.

@TypeAHippie 5 лет назад

SO helpful and insightful! Thank you!!!

@simplegamerarts8777 5 лет назад

Wonderful! Thank you!

@HealthyMindProject 6 лет назад

Thank you for this, such a great video. This is something that has affected my life a lot. Your video is of great insight and support. The information sheets on your website are great. Thank you for sharing these things.

@monicacruz4407 5 лет назад

As you say, this should be taught at primary school... very good video, thank you!

@KhemistrySet 6 лет назад

This is one of the best explanations I've seen on the subject on RU-vid. Absolutely brilliant analysis! I need that relationship questionnaire. Thank you!

@LunaSyncTarot 3 года назад

Really wonderful, grounded explanation. Thank you. 💜

@hothatchpa 6 лет назад

Excellent! Thank you.

@raygipson8896 3 года назад

This was a great and helpful video, thank you for the great information and reminders.👍👍

@rockn1677 7 лет назад

Very good video and it points to the healthy minded person already being content and happy and creative in life without someone else. They already know their self worth and value and thus do not need external factors to validate that. Thank you, good message here.

@maunder01 7 лет назад

Rock N very true but we can't rely on anything for self worth and value as they could be gone in a puff too... our self worth can only come from something that is never changing no matter what. Like a rock. Jesus Christ is the answer and through believing in Him becoming a child of God!

@rockn1677 7 лет назад

maunder01 Amen to that ;)

@careydewitt2196 7 лет назад

Women are unnecessary "External Factors" - ?

@lidiawroblewska1184 6 лет назад

Thank you so much for this wonderful video 🌺

@louiseforde5502 5 лет назад

This video is very balanced and informative. Thank you for putting this together. These issues and topics are so important and we do need to be discussing boundaries at a very early age. Emotions are essential to help guide us through life and we need to understand them much better. I am grateful for your knowledge and your compassion. All the best to you. :)

@user-cv3ft5mq9x 5 лет назад

This is unbelievably eye opening.

@daveconroy6859 7 лет назад

Thanks, really clear. It helped me see how far I have come over the years.

@MarekRZ0 4 года назад

Thank you...very nice and clear explanation.

@keeziajensen2611 8 лет назад

thank you so much for posting this!

@theforeigner6988 6 лет назад

Very good and helpful! Thank you! Greetings from Germany

@janethomas78 7 лет назад

there is no way to have a healthy relationship with an addict, or an alcoholic of a person who is not there. If you can see these people for who they really are, stand back.

@goaliedude32 6 лет назад

Of course there is. Someone with the proper knowledge and skillset can handle being with an addict.

@SabrinaDacosta 6 лет назад

Wow. Aren't you a fool?

@DC-vx7uj 5 лет назад

goaliedude32 LMAO keep wasting your time. If you've ever attended ALANON, you would know alcoholics don't have relationships, they have hostages!

@t.b.9607 5 лет назад

@Tom Caine that's co-dependence my friend

@rob_4227 6 лет назад

This really helped me a lot. Thanks

@kahudouglas1776 3 года назад

Thank you Kristin, this helps me to better explore and understand the root causes of my codependent tendencies and the effect this had on my relationship. I hope to build healthy boundaries and self esteem/identity from here

@KristinSnowden 3 года назад

Thank you! I’ll be launching a new online course on my website KristinSnowden.com in the next week or so.

@ivetakovacova4969 7 лет назад

Beautiful video. Thanks a lot!

@ishtaneel8305 4 года назад

Thx a lot. Packaged healthy stuff 😘 one stop. I cant thank u enough. Just what I was looking for.

@Coolblueocean2001 4 года назад

This was really helpful. You did such a good job, explaining important ideas.

@justletmesigninokthx 6 лет назад

I'm starting to like these beautiful coaches giving good advice ) It's great !

@judico5525 3 года назад

Thank you so much for creating such enlightening content and for providing it openly and freely. Your generosity, kindness and selfless service to the world is deeply appreciated. Thank you 💖💖💖💖💖

@KristinSnowden 3 года назад

So glad it’s helpful to you

@moonangelhealing 4 года назад

Thank you so much for this video. This helped me understand this so much now!

@gpoverchuk 4 года назад

Awesome info!!! Thank you!

@moonlitbalcony2861 5 лет назад

Yesss sis this is on point!💯

@katrina7464 4 года назад

Thank you Kristen!

@kathleenannlilly5645 7 лет назад

Your Videos are amazing. Thank You.

@1StepForwardToday 5 лет назад

Dignity is our best friend that will, by default, teach us healthy boundaries to live by, and of which to expect of others whom wish to share a relationship with us. These healthy boundaries in which you set for yourself, and live by, are in your own best interest; And, in the same way, these same boundaries and principles expected of a mate, are also in "their" best interest, because they are boundaries set up by the selfless guidance of dignity,(they are universal & universally beneficial). Sometimes the most loving thing to do is to be willing to say no to someone.

@1977yayao 6 лет назад

Thank you!

@mishawnroberts9681 7 лет назад

Thank you for all of your wonderful information. I recently left an toxic relationship, and I was wondering if you could do a video about prolonged effects of moving forward. Also some coping mechanisms that will help aid me. Thank you again, your so intelligent and beautiful.