Heartbreaking Case - judge Sala 

I’m glad you didn’t give up on your baby. I’m sure it was hell over all that time. Congratulations!

Congrats on working so hard to get your child back. So glad to hear that things can work out.

It's such a frustrating cycle. The social workers are burnt out then they randomly quit, pushing their case load onto another case worker that is over loaded. Most SWs have so many cases that they can't really keep them straight or remember much about them. They commonly mix things up or can't give you simple answers on the fly. My foster daughter's first social worker quit out of blue. Turns out all the things she was suppose to be doing, she wasn't, probably because of the burnout. So services weren't ordered properly and certain services weren't started at all. So now the dept in August is gonna have to ask for 6 more months instead of terminating because she failed to "offer certain services". Now our current SW is terrible. She's completely checked out and over worked. I wouldn't be surprised if she quit soon too. She doesn't respond to texts or calls, we bring serious issues to her attention and it's ignored and we haven't had our mandatory monthly visit since early May. Also the hiring process takes FOREVER. Even for simple positions like a transporter. It took 5 months to hire one and have them up and running by themselves. A social worker is even harder. It would probably take a year from the moment they opened the position to the time they were on their own. Additionally all the people they are hiring right now have like to no experience. They are fresh out of school and are clueless, naive, gullible, anxious, idealistic, lazy pushovers. Nothing like the social workers of old, that's for damn sure!

​​@@MrsBeesI would love to get to know the difference between the social Workers of before and now. It sad because it seems like ....either there is more abuse or is it that it is reported more?

I'm my child's safe space and everyone knows it. I get the sad, mad, hurt, hungry, sick, tired, and some of the happy and love, lol. I get a lot of happy times and a lot of love, but obviously he is more open with those emotions.

Same same. My kiddo is a rock. Until she walks back into our home. Shame it has to be this way, shame she’s ‘cold’ to so many. But love to see her at home having emotions and just being a kid. ❤

"Home health caregiver" is used so often by defendents having to prove employment that I saw one judge literally tell someone they weren't allowed to while on probation in her court.

I feel like a lot of them are lying and acting as if they’re a home health care worker for a family member to cover the fact they don’t have a job too smh bunch of losers

True story! Well said.

He wasn’t around how did the kid get PTSD women get a pass in family court men are told shit up and pay

What do you mean by “as an advocate”? An advocate of what?

I completely agree with you as a former foster parent myself. Whatever happened to the child is the reason they were removed from the home. However, that seems to get lost and the focus is placed on getting the parent to do what needs to be done. I have no issue with that and things happen, keep the child safe till they get there. I understand. The parents get EVERYTHING they need. If they don’t make it during that first chance, that’s it! The workers shouldn’t have to beg them for this or that, proof of pay stubs, going to every appointment, etc. The child focus disappears to the extent that it no longer becomes about them! Just because they were biologically born by those 2 people does not mean that is what’s BEST for the CHILD! Sorry to be yelling, it’s just so angering! Truly, it’s like having the entire world yanked away from the child and have them be told-Sorry, no one loves you enough or wants you enough to give you permanency in anything-a parent, a home, a school, a schedule, love…We’re all going to fail you in that for the next year or so, so hope you can handle it. Good luck! I mean seriously, that’s what is really happening! It’s cruel. It should never stop being about the children and of course she loves her mom and wants to be home but she doesn’t know what might be good for her. It’s everyone’s job to make sure the child is as happy, stable and loved as possible while knowing it won’t be up and changed again when and if bio parents get their act together!

@JulieannsSerenity absolutely! This is also why they lose so many great foster parents that are open to long term or even adoption. There was only so many children I could watch being let down, it affects your mental health. I couldn't keep it up

I agree about the lawyer. He is extremely rude! .Those children do not need back in her care. If she was working that year, why mention new job? How come the case worker said it had been a year. No pay stubs because they are online? Sounds shady to me.

​​@@marlayneboblett1267Lots of pay stubs are now online, my husband's are. This means he can just open his email and screenshot or download and print his pay stubs. She's lying. Getting them online makes it EASIER to provide proof.

He cut her off to keep her from saying something that could be held against her. He was very specific about her only answering his questions and not offering more for a reason.

What, one case for every year of the kids life, that’s not normal?

I honestly can’t believe the judge let him be excused. Whether the it is there or not, he needs representation. If only to avoid potential reasons for appeal.

I just saw him in another case and he was just as bad...worse actually cos he stayed for the whole case and pouted when he lost the case. Hopefully he only represents people who can't be parents.

Clearly, you don't work with traumatized kids ..ever.. if you think the girl's outbursts or episodes are just because she wants to get her own way.

Yeah I have so many questions. Her house is fine but she has some large bills? They only drag it out for 20 mos if they think there's hope and more services will lead to reunification. Everyone thinks this caseworkers crying is a show of compassion but I'm seeing red flags and questioning her professionalism and objectivity. Her whole testimony sounded emeshed with this child. There has to be something heinous we weren't privy too in this video. Idk, I have questions.

​@@SaturnaliaJonesYES!!!! Thank you!!! The caseworker steps way out of line! She really should have been removed! Nobody else was seeing it so I'm over here like, I'm seeing something different than her "winning a Nobel prize".

The mother doing nothi g to protect the kids...GUILTY by association!!!

​@@tesslawv693she should be removed cos she got emotional? That is like involuntary, no? You need to care when dealing with children. All they want is to be loved.

That’s not always the case though. A child with severe behavior issues can have actual physical/physiological reasons why they behave that way.

Not all behaviour is a result of parenting. Many times that's true but definitely not always or even almost always..

That’s not true in a lot of cases.. as everyone above has said. Some younger kids may simply need a nap. Kids have adhd/ learning and behavioral disability’s. Maybe a small part of the reason for all the “fd” up adults and kids are because of people who cast judgement, and aren’t knowledgeable about all the reasons why people and kids are the way they are. I’m sure your kids are perfect angels, rocket scientists. Be kind

@@TheAverageSavage1021 yes my kids are successful, responsible, respectful, productive members of society, they were raised with morals and values

​@TheAverageSavage1021 "people who cast judgements" then you continue to judge the person you were replying to harshly....tsk tsk hypocrite 🤡

Same here 😄 As a legal transcriptionist, I can say that kind of noise in headphones is awful for the ears. In this communication era, I never understood how court mics are still so bad.

I'm at same spot, paused and noticed it's 2 HRS. Debating whether or not I can stand to watch this.

And even with the transcript, I'm finding it hard to understand what's being said.

Love that movie!

It took me an entire year while doing everything right to get mine back out of the system. It works if you work it but everyday felt like a lifetime.

He appeared very annoyed is that his usual disposition?

SAME lol I just commented, he’s always so mean and ornery. At this point he needs to retire, I think he’s just a grumpy old man now 😂

@@meesh6257he’s told Ariel Berger that she needed to smile more before 😂 I was like good freakin lord

​@@jeniwilson810- Very unprofessional. He wouldn't say that to a male, I'm sure!

I heard the age of one child who is 5

​@@HankyPankyMomI heard the heard heard the same thing.

I finally heard near the end in mom's testimony that the girl is 9.

@heylyd7488 thanks!

@@HankyPankyMom thanks!

I put it on .75X speed, that help!🐞💙

@@Laydibug78 ty so much I’ll try that

Craig's dad is the deadbeat in jail. Arianna's is the deadbeat that just showed up after 5 years of being absent.

Stability isn’t about not losing a job. Stability is about not moving every month, changing schools multiple times a year, having New Romantic partners coming in and out, being emotionally and physically available and sober. Tough times are fine. Selfish chaotic living is not.

@@rachel8622 to you tough times are fine. Most courts view tough times as the same as chaotic living. They will keep cs the same because your earning potential means more then having a hard time finding a job that matches the one that laid you off. Sometimes moving several times is part of tough times. The court doesn't care. To them that means you don't "deserve" to have ample parenting time.

@@activemanishereplease link a video where that happens. I work with the courts and have had kids returned to parents living in a van,car, etc. Please link a single video in which the sole factor was tough times and there isn’t abuse:neglect/drugs/safety/etc. I can wait.

Agreed

I see just as many men act like maniacs in court and the same leeway is afforded. It's not a gender thing it's a POS thing

I didn't hear why he was removed either but considering this isn't her first CPS case (10th) and she's a compulsive liar who still won't do jack the caseworker says I hope she isn't allowed to ever have these kids back

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She has been on this case for 2 years. I hope every caseworker gets involved and fights for these kids. How can someone stay emotionless after seeing constant heartbreak from young children? I think she is amazing

I think her job brings a lot of horrific situations. This case has taken on a different life of its own in that the kids have needed to spend so much time with the CPS workers and even in the office when nobody was available to even look after this little girl. I don't think it's unhealthy to feel invested, she's been her voice. She's watching in real time as a child is broken over and over again. Should she be this directly involved, nope, but through no fault of her own, it's been forced on her and many other professionals in this case.

I think spending 2 years watching a “mother” all but refuse to do what she needs to get her child back knowing she’s had 9 other cases and is aware of the expectations and consequences would cause any person with half a heart to be emotional. I can’t fathom what it’s like to have a child sob and ask you why no one wants them or why mom won’t do what she should do. This caseworker is what everyone should want because she loves these children and she’s not letting anything slip through the cracks.

I will say the crying can be seen as unprofessional.. but at the same time me personally, I would rather see this than see someone who is so cold and desensitized that they dont seem to care, its just another case, another number to them. She’s probably seen all this girl has gone thru in two years how can it not affect her. And she is probably a mother,, seems most case workers are not parents themselves which would also make them seem detached because they have no clue what ripping a child from their home does to not only the parents but more importantly the child, no matter how bad the home is its the childs home and they generally love their parents, siblings, pets etc

@@OnTropolism sure the child feels very attatched to her as well. I remembered being a kid in cps custody in over 50 placements and the one constantly in my life was my dhs worker. As sad as it is. I could always call her as she was my guardian. I saw her a few years ago at a dhs office for another reason. Mind you its been like 20 years. She saw my name come up and came right out to see me and told me i was one of her first cases . Ill never forget her though. I don’t think she realizes what an important role she played in my life. I remember one time as a teen leaving her a vm and accidentally automatically saying love you when i hung up on accident 😂 then I called back and left another vm saying sorry i didnt mean to say love you, lol. Sadly she was the closest thing to family or a parent that i had.. even tho it was nothing close.

How many chances and what kind of process do you think would be appropriate before a child can exit limbo of being loved?

Yeah we should make children wait while their loser parents continue to be losers.

I have had my little ones for 3 years. The youngest being nearly 3. Mom is in jail with an 8 year sentence hanging over her. The children's dad lives 5 blocks away and hasn't seen them in 2 months. When he does see them, there is no interaction with them. How long do you leave them in limbo?

In most cases, it takes a looooong time before they terminate a parent's rights. The goal is always reunification. In some cases, the treatment of the child(ren) is so egregious that rights are terminated as soon as possible. They give chance after chance after chance, too many imo, for these "parents" to get it right and in the meantime the ones who suffer are the kid(s).

Exactly. It's a minimum of a year before they can get to that point unless they argue for aggravated circumstances. Almost every final is scheduled just before the original dismissal date which is a year from removal (or a year from being granted TMC in some cases)