I really hate singing for people because I can't tell wether or not someone actually likes my singing or their just being nice. I think my singing voice sounds reasonably good in my head but when played back to me I want to contract my limbs into my ribcage and have a seizure
This is one of my biggest cringe moments. The difference between what I hear in my head and the sound others hear. I actually like the voice I hear in my head, but not what everyone else hears -_-
i think its the natural mentality of you should sing the song the same way the original artist did it.. and if you cant achieve that then you get frustrated... cuz thats pretty much me sometimes ..
what you hear on records is mostly unnatural. vocals have lots of dynamics naturally but will be removed by compression in the studio (one of many things done to a voice by producers and mix engineers)
I did a two-year Performing Arts course back in my thirties, and being able to sing was obviously a large part of that course. I've always hated my singing voice, so the first thing I did was sign up for extra-curricular singing lessons with the teacher, because I was convinced I was going to epically fail the singing module of the course if I didn't. After a couple of lessons he asked me why I thought my voice was so sub-standard as to need the extra lessons. I said "because when I sing a Celine Dion song I open my mouth and I want Celine Dion to come out, but all that comes out is me." He laughed and said "Well, that's because you're NOT Celine Dion, are you? You're you. And sure, you might not sound like her when you sing one of her songs *like her,* but that doesn't necessarily mean you can't sound great if you just sing like *you* instead." Is there a way to break THAT mindset - the one of "if I can't sound exactly like the original singer, I will always sound terrible by comparison?"
i think its because when you are harmonizing you arent trying to copy or re-create a pre-conceived sound or note. you are just going with what sounds best at the time. think of it like this, single notes vs chords. chords usually sound more full and enjoyable to hear. this is just it, its blending a mixture of things together into a more pleasant sound. you are also looking at the sound in a different way when you sing with someone else you are looking at your voice as to how well it sounds with theirs rather than alone. if you wanted to check out the video by Wheezer: Say it aint so. you will hear a distinct high pitch and honestly quite bad voice in the background for the first verse. it works for the song but the singing isnt great. isolating single sounds usually sounds strange. have confidence in your vocal skills rather than comparing them to others as we all have out own unique sound.
I really like this guy. What he says in this & the few others I've watched really gels with what my bricks n mortar coach is teaching me This is a massively useful thing for me as I need this online coaching to make it stick. Thank you Dr Dan
my problem is that i hear my voice beautifully in my head but when i record it it’s trash and i’m like is that how people hear me and then i hâte singing😢
Some of greatest voices are really weird. To be honest I respect opera singer and other extremely proficient trained singers but I like people with weird unique voices more. I feel like they are less cookie cutter and they have their own vibe around them.
This is amazing, thank you for the different perspective. A couple of days ago I found with your video that my voice type is soprano, which make it hard for me to sing my favorite artists' songs (rock, jazz), I always thought I couldn't sing, and now I feel like I will love my voice at some time and find something special about it. Thank you so much Dr Dan. One love ♥
The one solution I found to getting over disliking the sound of my voice was to record myself a lot. When you constantly have to listen to your voice either because you are experimenting or you are trying to get a good recording, you will get more used to it as time goes on. I used to feel uncomfortable with my voice, until I had a job where I recorded software tutorials. There was no one else to do the voiceovers on the videos, just me. After a few years, I got over it. That spilled over into accepting my singing voice too. Can't take it back to the shop like a piece of clothing I don't like anymore. Best to work through the resistance, accept it and nurture it to be the best it can be. We've all got a phone with a voice memo app so no time like the present, get recording :)
I was beginning to think I would always hate my voice and about to give up completely, this video alone and the exercises have made me, well not love it yet, but think I actually can get it to sound a way I'm happy with. Just trying to find the time to go through your other videos. Thanks Dr Dan, improved my pandemic sanity immeasurably.
I always like my voice better on a recording. On recordings, I'm usually on a condenser mic and my sound is much more free because I don't push for volume. I get close to the mic when I'm singing very softly and I move more away when I'm singing the loudest.
I just barely got comfortable with the way my voice is. I've practiced techniques for so long focusing on pitch and breathing techniques. Now that I'm better at those things the tone of my voice doesn't bother me half as much. The worst thing about listening to old recordings is hearing how off pitch i am or how i dont sound confident because I'm not pushing enough air out and singing quietly. The best thing that boosted my confidence was listening to a lot of people singing live without any effects and not much instrumentation because trust me I'm a music producer and i know that there's a lot that goes into mixing vocals. The hardest thing to fix in a recording is always pitch. Everybody has a unique voice so you should learn to love yours because no one could ever sing like you. If you want to know how to control the tone of your voice then get a science book and learn about the anatomy of the throat. There's a lot of moving parts that you can learn to use to control your tone
I absolutely hate my voice. Absolutely. I was told when i was 6 that I am absolutely bad at singing and sing waay to out of tune. So I practiced on my own and joined choir at the age of 12. Result? I learned how to belt on my own, I am a soprano with range of E3 to B5 stable, ability to go up to E6. I love when I sing, I em relaxed I am very much in my own void, I really love music it helps me battle my depression and panic attacks, keeps me happy and when i sing its one of the only times when i (before being medicated) felt happy. However, even if people tell me they never expected me to sing this amazingly and emotionaly and powerfuly I JUST HATE IT. I have one song that i sang, placed for a soprano that i truly love. One and only.
Same, I’m super nasally but my doctor says it’s just “blockage”- I’ve sounded like this all my life! Idk what to do and it makes me cry bc I sound so gross
Thank you so much doctor Dan, I've been watching your videos for almost a year now, and when I first started, I hated my voice when I heard it recorded, now I think it sounds so much better when I hear it!
Hey Dr Dan, such a good video obviously loads of people can relate to! Thanks very much for those activities, which help me focus and become more aware.😊 It's more often people aren't 100% happy with the sound their voice makes (ie we don't love the sound of our own voice) . Alot of it for me was ( note past tense!) insecurity, self criticism, comparing with others. You've really taught me to be so much more confident, and therefore allow myself freedom to explore, and yes, appreciate what I sound like . Thank you😊
I sometimes like my voice but it depends on what I’m singing but I would like to improve it since I also have a stammer whenever I speak but I memorize a script or something i can speak a bit better. Like I said it depends on what I’m singing
So the thing is, I've been taking singing lessons for two months now and I do hit the notes, and my teacher gives me good feedback, but I still don't like the way voice sounds on a recording. Like it's not something that I would listen to voluntarily. What makes me wonder, it's known that everybody can learn how to sing, but it doesn't necessarily mean that it sounds good... Or is it just a matter of practising? Will my voice sound better while singing high notes at some point? Thank you for your videos Dan!
Olivia, it all takes time...and everyone's journey of vocal development is different. Additionally, everyone's destination is different also. Will your voice improve over time with consistent instruction and practice. Yes. But what this improvement looks like for you as an individual over time is yet to be seen.
I am just beginning to learn how to sing and what I do is go down to the beautiful Bow River here in Calgary, Alberta, Canada and practice my scales in solitude! Fresh mountain water and deer all around me listening to me! I know I will be totally comfortable with the sound of my voice. In one year I will sound much better. lol
Exactly that's a severe problem with me I hate my voice while speaking and just totally hate it when I sing ( specially live ). I mess up every of my live due to my own voice (+_+)
I noticed that when I was practicing "Scarborough Fair" My typically critical brother said that it sounded alright. My heavy metal belting still sounds ASS.
Thanks, I am just a 60 year old lady who recently heard myself speak and realized I have this horribly gravelly voice now. Your video was the first I watched on my quest to improve it. I don't want to sing, I just don't want to sound like my grandma did in her old age. My Dad always told me as a kid, I needed to breathe through my diaphragm. I suppose I should learn how to do that, too, now ;-)
Thank you for the Super Thanks, Kate. Hi, Kate Adams. You may find my online singing course helpful - drdan.co/onlinesinginglessons. Feel free to check it out sometime. The first module is free to preview!
I have the exact same problem. It sounds like I am bored and dont care. This is particularly an issue because I really like thoughtful mellow music with a lot of meaning (Josh Groban, Celine Dion, independent artists sharing really big important parts of their life through music)
The only two things I hate with my voice are: 1. It sounds too theatric and show-off-ey (I'm aiming for a Sinatra-like ease with my voice, not a 'vibrating' note) 2. Although I have been told that I have a perfect pitch, this is only true for slower songs where I can focus on making 1 sound and then move on to the next. However, when I try to sing a song like 'Just one of those things', I get confused with how to transition, when to breathe, how to employ my diaphragm for proper singing technique etc.
Hi, Carl Trotter. You may find my online singing course helpful - drdan.co/onlinesinginglessons. Feel free to check it out sometime. The first module is free to preview!
i have a decent voice, and i want to move further with it but the only problem is, i’m UGLY so even if i do have a singing success, i will wear some sort of mask lol
@@sophie.crossing_ you are probably just being too hard on yourself. Plus, in singing and performing, it's often not primarily the looks that make people attractive, but things like stage presence, confidence, your voice, the way you move and present yourself, and how much emotion you put into it.
Been working on my singing for over a year now with a teacher and I can definitely tell I am making improvements and of course I have a long way to go but I just want to know if my voice is good enough at this point to put on some of my tracks.
I am taking lessons for making my voice better. But i have a problem... From birth i don't hear with my right ear, and i am afraid because of this i can't sing properly. My teacher said that i have voice(soprano) and it's a miracle that i can sing and hear music. But still, i am hating myself because of this. Can you do a video about this? Please
H, RoseAry. I currently have a student with a similar hearing impairment. For the most part, it is not too much of a challenge to his development. I encourage you to persevere with your vocal development.
Hi,thank you for sharing.I like to know does having often trapped air have a negative effect on the ability to sing?Will walking or certain exercises help?
I always disliked my speaking and singing voice. I would hear recordings of myself when I was acting or singing. Everyone said I sounded great, but not to myself. I sang an important solo at my brother's wedding. Sound system in church was poor. Large building, 1 mic, several speakers pointed toward pews. There was a 1/4 second delay from sound from my mouth, to back wall, back to my ears. There were no monitors on stage. I thought I blew it, even apologized for bad performance. Later, I watched a video and I sounded really good after all. From that day on, I just had to remember what others hear is not what I hear.
One could be the reason why you hate your voice because you hear your voice every time. That's too boring, learn also to relax your voice. Don't talk or sing too much.
i hate my voice so much i swear when i sing i sound like so cringey i have been dreaming of being an artist for years but my stupid voice always stopped me from even getting classes because im scared of my vocal coach even hearing me, it's embarrasing and its starting to be so late to do this, i wasted all my youth when it comes to this.
bae z, the following video may prove helpful and encouraging - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-HbJsCOyQDMA.html&list=PLZFx6cLexy5G_dU1vJUwAsMGOQbMGt8fT
Ok.. So the video was good and everything, but let me tell you something! haha. Wearing a good set of headphones while watching, that swoosh noise when you jump back and forth between takes, it scared the living hell out of me several times!... It was oddly enjoyable though. lmao
As Mad Musician trying to make it on RU-vid with music, I still cringe to the sound of my voice, but not as much when I'm recording music videos. I never needed to do any of this stuff you suggest in this video. It's something I've gotten used to, how about that?
My voice tone shifts along with the way the artist sings the song, and as a result i kind of pinch my voice to make it go higher. It kind of sounds whiny like you said,
huh? I didn't see or hear anything that actually addressed the notion of improving the negative psychological relationship with your own voice. Seems to me that we're usually referring to is disdain for our external acoustics, and the only way I hear to solve the "hate" problem is to be able to sing better in a pleasing manner, or to devalue the idea of a pleasant manner... that is, to stop caring (?). I was hoping for something more practical, like copious amounts of alcohol or psychedelics (to induce the latter state) :)
I know I have a high-pitched voice, but the extent of how much higher it sounds on a recording astounds me. It's disturbing, realizing that the way you sound to yourself is nothing like how you sound to the rest of the world. You think you have control over your voice, and then you realize you've never had a clue. I will admit, a lot of my joy in singing started to slip away once I tried recording myself. That joy was replaced by the horror of powerlessness at not being able to accurately perceive the very sounds created by my body.
Harold W, the following video about may prove helpful and encouraging - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-HbJsCOyQDMA.html&list=PLZFx6cLexy5G_dU1vJUwAsMGOQbMGt8fT
I really hate the way, I sing. I just left the studio feeling like a failure for not sounding good. I'm really hoping this help me some how so, I can get back sing my song.
jj harmon, the following video may prove helpful and encouraging - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-HbJsCOyQDMA.html&list=PLZFx6cLexy5G_dU1vJUwAsMGOQbMGt8fT
I don't have adenoids, I removed them when I was 6 yo, plus I have allergic rhinitis, when I sing I feel like the voice is coming from my nostrils ahaha People say I sound good, but I dunno xD
There needs to be an ----Easy To Use---- ( key word being 'easy') device that tells someone where their pitch is off. People-giving feed back can be dishonest on either side of the spectrum, but a machine would be less bias and also probably offend the singer less. There are some apps that try to do this, but I haven't found one that would let me just sing a song and easily tell me where my pitch is off.
@@DrDanRobinson Thank you for the link. Those were helpful, but I don't think the technology is quite there yet for what I'm talking about. If they for example could make a karaoke-esque app that recorded you while you sang it with a song like, say, Jambalaya by Hank Williams. --- if each word that I sang as I sang it were highlighted in green for pitch correct, yellow for close and red for noticeably off and I could go back each time to refine it, it would help to reinforce my perception of when I'm noticeably off and when the pitch is correct or near that ball park.
I used to sing a lot, but I felt like I wasn't getting better. I watched recordings of me and I would get disheartened. I want to start again, but I don't know where to start first.
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Some people say that i have a wonderful voice and of course when I sing a fave song I feel like my voice is awesome and amazing but then when after I heard my voice on recordings, it seemed like ugly/flop to listen to my own ears. Am I the only one who experience it?
I can't even make sound come out when I have to sing in front of someone. I gotta be completely alone to do it and I still don't like it. It's way too deep for a girl.
Okay so what if when I sing in public I never get comments that are negative and usually they’re always complimenting me without knowing it’s me, but, when I hear my own voice on recording I hate it.
I'm FtM and pre-T. The process of embracing my voice now is going to help me since hearing my own voice, especially in recordings, makes me want to vomit. My voice sounds excessively bright and feminine, even by cis female standards, which I want to correct. However, to do that, I think I need to make some degree of my voice as it is. Welcome to my personal hell population: me.
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Please don't.. there is nothing more grating than a nasal voice,be it spoken or sung. Especially a female one with its higher pitch! This is a very common complaint from Europeans about north Americans.
My problem with recordings is that they filter the sound (thinking of thing like dictaphones) and I'd like to hear as accurate as possible what my voice sounds like, what recording instrument do you suggest to get the mos accurate recording of our voice at home? (I don't really have the space to have a home recording studio I wish but I can't push the walls ahah)
