Her Family Were Racists. She Reveals What They Were So Afraid Of 

60s presidential candidate George Wallace was called a racist. Was he? You decide - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-1lk9QmYI4qE.html David Hoffman filmmaker

The most truthful thing she revealed was that many racists became physically ill at the thought of others gaining any fairness or equity. WOW!!!

Imagine a group fearing unfairness and anti democracy as they're being unfair and undemocratic...that's quite something, isn't it?

She was blatantly honest in a time that honesty was horrible. Respect.

As a black southerner I heard the stories from my elders, and I know it was brutal back in the day. It's good to hear someone from the other side speak honestly. Great interview.

What they feared was retribution for all the heinous acts committed.

I lived in a town called Chester In Illinois as a small child. I was almost hung from a tree there. For grown men to attack a 10 year old is pure hatred. I've looked the devil directly in the eyes. I felt hunted like game.

“My great grandfather was a good man but he was a racist!” Wow! All in the same sentence… What an oxymoron!

Madame, failure to do the right thing is doing the wrong thing. Additionally, it is not possible to be a racist and a good person. Those terms are mutually exclusive.

Old southerner here… they are afraid that they will be treated like they have treated black people. Of course with Hispanics, they are afraid they will take our jerbs. They are afraid of Muslims because they don’t understand their religion, afraid of gays because they want grandchildren to carry on their traditions, afraid of… afraid of… afraid of… 🙄

"Be glad we are asking for equality, and not demanding revenge" I think about this quote a lot. Racists wouldn't be so scared of black people getting power if they truly believed that black people were never mistreated. They are afraid of ever experiencing even a SLIVER of what we've been through. Last few years is evidence of this.

When I was stationed in Georgia in the early 1970's, I met/knew a clansman. I asked him why he joined. He told me around here, it's like the cub scouts, when you're little, your folks just put you in it and that's what u grow up with. This lady reminded me of that.

"When you're accustomed to privilege equality feels like oppression"

To think that someone gets physically sick when they think of people like me being treated fairly.

I grew up in Baltimore, a child of a family of racist, homophobic, truly bigoted people. Somehow I always knew to some extent that what my family believed was wrong, but once I realized that if I was open about who I am, that they'd likely not let me live is what cemented my disdain for them and fueled my leaving once I turned 18.

They fear us for no reason and then they create scenarios that make them fear us more and then they oppress and punish us for the illusions they've created in their minds. I have never witnessed such wickedness and demonic activity in my life‼️

What the hell is "a good racist?"

She needs to explain her definition of what a good person is.

The amount of times she used the word, “FEAR” speaks volumes and quite telling. From D.W. Griffith’s 1915 The Birth of A Nation to 1938’s H.G. Wells War of the Worlds radio broadcast to the 1999 Y2K Millennium Bug. “FEAR” continues to the overwhelming dominate factor that rules some of white America. “FEAR” they’re going to take our guns, “FEAR” that they’re going to take my job. I’m “SCARED” they my live next door to me. I’m “FRIGHTENED” for my children. This “FEAR” are PUBLICLY CONFESSED TO ON A DAILY BASIS. EXIBIT A: this documentary. These unfounded “FEARS” are an enigma to minorities, that unfortunately this “FEAR” turns to ANGER and RESENTMENT and manifest to HATE. There WILL BE individuals reading this in front of them on this screen, who will TOTALLY and VEHEMENTLY deny my commentary. WELCOME TO AMERICA….land of free speech and opposition to said free speech. These are my observational views and opinions that I’m sharing on this open forum. My diatribe, as it were😆 is meant to have a honest and inadvertently candid dialogue, that some individuals tend to avoid. My “FEAR” is a looming 2nd Civil War if we don’t get around these “FEARS” and improve race relations, WITH ALL RACES‼️ Our enemies ARE WATCHING AND WILL exploit this American wound, called RACISM. There I’m done.😆😆😆😆

If you’re still using ‘black’ as a noun instead of a adjective, you haven’t changed as much as you think you have😬. There’s no bravery here, only excuses and justification. She even said it herself, these people just can’t face their guilt.

You cannot be good and racist at the same time. Period and end of.

These interviews should be shown in all the schools. Outstanding series of interviews.

The key to understanding racism IS to begin with having a OPEN mind to it.Taking responsibility and understanding what WAS/IS really happened to black people. KNOWLEDGE...is key. Start when kids are young. Explain that ALL people...are to be treated like YOU want to be treated. If YOU don't know something about a certain culture or race...ASK questions. Do NOT ASSUME or makeup things. Do NOT FEAR...go to the person of color (respectfully) and ask the appropriate questions. LOVE THY NEIGHBOR ❤️

I found myself struggling to understand how she could say with a straight face, that there were racist people who were really good people". Then I think that their racist attitudes and behaviors did not directly impact her day to day living; so she was able to see them as just people with poor understandings.

When she talks about the lynching of Emmet Till ( 6:37), it shows how people will excuse, ignore and deny even the most horrible acts when they threaten their mindset and system of """""""values"""""""

She hits the nail on the head when she says people were afraid of upsetting their church congregation. The Bible Belt is now riding high in Republican states.

They went to war to keep slavery a thing. They risked their own lives to keep others in chains and bondage. The fact that my grandfather is one of these people makes me sick.

She mentions fear and control but excessive pride is another major factor and it seems to be coming back

A few years after you made this video, I was in a military community in the south eastern United States. I got to experience the shame of being in the company of racist people. It was an eye opening experience. I hadn't realized that so many people have such archaic beliefs and no one has honestly challenged them. It exists in northern states, too. I have a louder voice now when I am confronted with the that type of person. I was a young adult when I was living there. Now I'm in my 50's. It's said that 50 years old is 25 for the second time. The difference is you're wiser and bolder.

She is honest, this reminds me of the holocaust. People don't bother because it doesn't affect them so evil thrives. But what if her son or father or loved one was killed for being accused of something, her helpless demeanor might just be different. She probably wouldn't say good people killed her relative, or they failed to do good things. That's how insidious, illogical, inconsistent, racism is.

They were and are afraid that they would get treated like they treated them. Afraid of losing power and control over another group of people.

They have a limited mind and upbringing can be extremely programming Amazing that you found your way out! Thankful for your sharing so much!

She's not being completely honest because she refuse to see the whole truth. All of them are in denial because they fear that we want revenge. So they continue to terrorize. We're out here trying to heal and be healthy.

The fear was and still is retaliation, guilt and loss of full control.

“Hitler’s American Model.” Those of you who are genuinely interested in history should read this book. I was a dedicated practicing Christian for four decades who got ordained as a minister at the tinder age of 23yrs of age. Being a person who is never satisfied with my ignorance .I’ve graduated from the myth of this nation being a Christian God fearing people. Now I say if there is a Righteous God who has sat idle while people are being slaughtered in his/her name and do nothing to help the victims of this aggression ,should not call themselves a God. Most organized religions are an affront for political aspirations. The majority of these people care nothing for humanity,God, Allah, Jehovah or any other entity. They are only concerned for themselves and the power that money gives them.

Thank you for sharing this video. I applaud this lady for having the courage to share her life experience. That is not easy to do.

She speaks of "some people", and "there were people that thought"....She had my attention until the "good people" remark. Are the really good racist people in the pictures posing under the tree with the man they lynched? I do hear her speak of the guilt and shame for how "people" behaved, but I do not hear her speaking of her own thoughts of growing up racist and what her fears were or are. I cannot give her any bravery credit. This is her rationalizing. Thank you for sharing David.

The part that stuck out to me the most is "Not so much as they did wrong things, but they failed to do right things". How sad and true...

It has to be very exhausting to hate so hard on a people that have done no harm to you. We don't have that kinda hatred within us towards others. They truly believed they were Christians?

I appreciate her openness and honesty. How can we work on a national level to build trust among people?

Incredibly provocative and insightful. I commend this woman for having such an honest and candid conversation about race.

I remember being around 8 & bringing my new friend over to my house to ask my mother if I could go across the street to her house. My mother took me aside and said “You know she’s a negro”. I wondered what she meant? Anyways my mother saw the puzzlement in my face & said yes that I could go over. Took me a long time to realize what she meant. I was glad that I didn’t see color but the person.

Thank you for the honest observations from a well-spoken person. You can feel the objective grief. I hope she writes her thoughts down.

She's so wonderfully thoughtful. I'm glad I watched this.

When you allow fear to rule your actions and decisions, what she's describing-this can be the tragic, inhumane result.

When she said people thought Emmit Till was a prank or just fake until they found the body reminds me of conspiracy theorists who think mass shootings are set up or fake

I am so impressed with her honesty. I don't know how you get over fear but we all know it ultimately limits and hurts all of us. I once heard a sermon that said to just do it afraid. And then we usually wonder what was I so afraid of?

I’ve always passed this video up. I didn’t want to see it. I definitely wished I still passed on it. I knew this crap wasn’t going to sit right. Not only do I have to go to work and deal with BS like this. I come home to BS like this. You simply cannot rap your mind around wasting your time of day being ignorant.

She believes all that she is saying because she is explaining who she is while justifying the evil and insanity of racism........

"My great grandfather was a really good man but he was also really racist"...both can't be true at the same time. THIS is the cognitive dissonance that underscores the sentiments of the people in this video. People were able to ignore the atrocities that were happening to their fellow human beings in order to blissfully live their lives.

Underlying the fear is their guilt and fear of retribution

I appreciate the candor of this video. I wish there were more.

I have never understood why so many people in the south feel a life based in hate is a life they call “Christian.” Statements such as, “My grandfather was a good man. But he was a racist.” Those two statements are mutually exclusive because a truly good person will change their behavior once they grow up and learn they were raised with bigotry and ignorance. I guess this woman did that and finally spoke up, while her grandfather did not. Yet he could have; even before the Civil War there were plenty of abolitionists in the South.

As a Northerner re-located to NC, this video hits buttons for me. I have only known one couple well enough to try and delve into this subject with and their responses shocked me. Their answer to every question pertaining to black people was "That's just the way it was." (No emotion about it) ..."thats just the way it was". Even when asked "Didn't you ever look at how they were treated and feel badly...didn't you ever think about it?" The answer.."Thats just the way it was." I wish this video helped make sense of that. I heard her but still...I find that answer unacceptable personally. I can't imagine seeing what they saw and NOT questioning and taking some kind of action, even if it's just a gesture of discontent with the injustice.

One of the greatest guard of my therapy has been finding empathy for those whom I would so easily have utter contempt. She shines a light on the nuanced paradox of being a human influenced by society and trying to maintain it even though it may not have benefited you but surely doesn’t benefit others. We are not born racists yet the slide from humanity to racist though steep happens more frequently than even liberal and leftist minded folks like to admit. Racism is in the air we breathe in and out: how we have fears based in groups superficially different and morally opposite us; how we respond to those fears with false protections that usually become prisons rather than security; how we miss the experience of lives around us wholly missing the value each can add. I al very glad to have seen this video and heard her truths

Very thought provoking interview

While I give her credit for speaking up, coming from the South, seeing crosses' burnt in people's yards within the last few years of my life, and having been raised by a resist, married into another racist family, I have never, a day in my life had trouble telling others that it was wrong. I have no issue correcting preachers, politicks, my mom whomever. I don't care to tell anyone else who comes at another black to white or white to black to stuff it. God says, love 1 another, not pick and choose.

Nothing has changed. The silence, the apathy, the denial, the “all I have to do is not be racist” mindset, and of course the overt hate ( police murders, proud boys, etc…). Things remain the same. America is rotten at its moral core.

Growing up as far as racism was concerned. We always felt it was based on their fears of being replaced. While at the same time they were the ones replacing others.

So important, sheds light on aspects I never knew.

When she says there are good people who are racist that’s just her way of rationalizing her own racist views.

Fear, the ultimate motivator...

How nuts is that. They are afraid of what they do to others!

As a Hispanic woman its very pleasing to see the white population decreasing and POC numbers increasing exponentially.

I can understand their fear. If a group of people I had spent my life hurting and denigrating suddenly came to power, I would be terrified too.

I came to this video to get some additional insight and got a massive cop out. She had a chance to tell the truth. The truth is, the vast majority ENJOYED being racist. It was a source of pride. That’s why they kept souvenirs of the body parts of Black people and set up “picnics” to watch the show of Strange Fruit (Please read Without Sanctuary). This is why “Birth of a Nation” was the first movie screened at the White House. They loved dominating people they deemed inferior. It even turned many on (This is not hyperbole. Please read The Delectable Negro). Bottom line: Too many loved being racist and benefited from it and the rest were cowards.

Imagine holding ur collective breath because u know a culture so sadistic cannot exist forever and u become physically ill and bedridden at the thought of retribution and revenge. Meanwhile, the abused and oppressed just want u to be human and leave them the hell alone. Period. Like having a neighbor who actively puts tacks in ur yard everyday and barbed wire at ur windows. If u complain, he and his buddies will swarm and burn the house down. He fears that if he stops that u will seek vengeance. When all u want is for him to tend his own and leave u alone! Senseless bigotry, racism, and Apartheid.

Fascinating, disarming honesty and insight. The truth can be stranger than fiction

This is why I love Mr. Hoffman's page. This reveals more about the other side than anything I have read in any number of books.

That this lady believes , in no uncertain terms " there's good ppl on both sides' Shows me she still doesn't get it.. She feels guilty? My guess is that the fear she felt growing up....its still there at this interview. We see that racism goes back generations in her family,as she speaks of her grandfather. One wonders, if she taught her children to fear ppl who were not white,like her. That certain groups & politicians can still stoke this fear,in 2022, & garner a following, is a sad commentary on where we are, v/s where we should be as a people. Another thought provoking film, David. Keep em coming..⚡

It’s so hard not to feel contempt towards people who allow themselves to be governed by fear and greed. I am so disgusted by this. It’s tragic. But I remember Coretta Scott King’s quote: “Struggle is a never ending process. Freedom is never really won, you earn it and win it in every generation.” There wil always be “evil” as well as “good” in the world. But the light ☀️ always beats dark, but light still has to fight.

The running thread through all of David Hoffman's interviews is people speaking frankly and honestly. That the interviewees are made comfortable enough to DO that is a skill that means 'we' - as in those with other experiences - can learn and understand so much on a purely human level. Invaluable.

Mrs. I’m a black man and in my opinion you share a very, very deep and compassionate story , I can tell in your voice that you was in thoughts while trying to tell such painful story along with a lot of regret, I’m not trying to put words in your mouth but I know you feel that if people was about more of consciousness and righteous with their decision making things for everybody could have turned out much better for all. I thank you for your courage to come forward with such strong topic. Besides you are a very brave and beautiful women and as of where we are today as the entire human race I don’t think no couture have to worry about revenge god said vengeance is his nobody gets away with nothing.

FEAR the number one reason for all that she said. Fear of losing control, fear of reaping what had been sown, karma, whatever way you say it - fear.

What an amazing service you are providing for our country! We must do what we can to improve the lives of all Americans who would benefit by our actions. The speaker pointed out that the inaction of good people was as much of a problem as the actions of evil, racist people.

She has a nice voice

Fear has always been their most powerful weapon.

She's really bending over backwards to justify a point of view she knows is wrong. Being kind and caring towards people in your personal life doesn't make you a good person if you then go to harass and oppress those outside your circle. If you are racist against any group of people you are a bad person, whether your grandkids love you or not.

I am from the very deep south, (Alabama) and just like I have ALWAYS taught my children, sometimes when you do the right things, you do it right by yourself

If you have hate in your heart you are NOT a “good” person!!

"Racism does not have a good track record. It's been tried out for a long time and you'd think by now we'd want to put an end to it instead of putting it under new management." -Thomas Sowell Important film to watch by David Hoffman, Filmmaker.

This definitely helps explain how the “fake news” idea resonates so deeply with conservatives.

I always heard “Do want one to marry your sister “? I was raised in a “very religious /racist” family. I saw through the whole thing quickly. My sister and I are the only educated members in the family. We have also been exposed to diverse cultures. Exposure makes you lose racism quickly.

Thanks for this light. We must as a people, as a whole, see the whole pie so that we may slice and enjoy justly. Together.

That explains a lot, fear that what was done to one group will done to another if first ones come into power, which tells me they know what they are doing is wrong, they just don't care.

You can't be racist and a good person at the same time....

Love Mr. Hoffman's subjects for interviews. Regardless the issue, there is always such intensity and raw truth. I always look forward to his videos.

He goes to church , loves his daughter, takes care of his ailing mother and always has a kind word to say.. He's a good man. He helped lynch 2 black people who were passing through.. He's a good man. Just don't ask the 2 black people he lynched.. or they're children.

My Grandfather was from the South….he said after being in the war in Korea it changed him…He told me who was he ta judge or hurt any body because of the color of there skin.

A good person can't be racist at the same time. Your grandfather was a monstrous individual. Quit deceiving yourself lady.

They STILL feel like this. If you’ve been keeping somebody down for so long,you should be afraid....

I really admire this lady who had the courage to speak openly about racism during her childhood. Its never easy to talk about this. Racism is rejection and its ignorance. Its often handed down in a culture who have fixed ideas about people, skin color, other groups etc sadly these false ideas are imparted to the generations which follow. Its only until you're an adult that you reflect on what was handed down and its your choice to reject these notions and ideas about people, other cultures, etc. and to form new ideas about who people really are. As a child myself, I often heard things said about other race groups, but as an adult I decided that I was not going to hold onto these racist ideas and chose to see everyone as equal and treat all people the same, with respect and dignity. And this practice has served me well, having worked as an English teacher over the past 22 years in 6 countries, Singapore, Malaysia, China, Kazakhstan, Georgia, and Turkey and in addition I lived in France, Thailand, Panama and Colombia and also travelled to other countries. I have been on the receiving end when it comes to racism wherever I went, everywhere you go, there is racism particularly against dark skinned individuals. But this never changed me, in fact I continued to keep an impartial attitude, treating everyone alike wherever I went or lived.

This is the most honest account of racism that I have heard. Although she still clings to the thought that white people aren't bad because they are racist, which is impossible; she does convey that racism in itself, is wrong or bad. I've always maintained that whites can't or don't see themselves as bad for being racist, which is why they continue to practice it. Racism is a system of oppression created and maintained by white people to disadvantage black people, while advantaging white people; and it is motivated in hatred and jealousy. So how can a person be good and operate in racism at the same time? Moreover, how does one attend church, where the bible is read (and supposedly understood, but maybe not); and still maintain their strong, violent hatred and jealousy towards black people; and convince themselves that salvation doesn't require them to change from their oldselves, and become a new creature, that no longer hates anyone for any reason, but especially based in race? This is the reason that I don't believe white people can be saved. Salvation requires repentance of sins; and repentance requires turning away from sin or the transgression of the law, and walking in fellowship with the Messiah. When you repent, you not only turn from your wicked deeds and ways, but you make every effort to repair and restore the person or people that you caused harm to; and you humble yourself and seek their forgiveness.There's no way in American society, after 246 years (1619-1865) of chattel slavery including buck breaking, raping, brutal beatings and separation of families; and another 100 years (1865-1965) of Jim Crow segregation and oppression including lynchings, beatings, raping, murdering, burning, terrorizing, convict leasing, peonage schemes, joblessness, redlining, economic exclusion from wealth building, lack of quality education, medical experimentation, police brutality and killings, race massacres and more; and then the last 57 years (1965-2022) of continuing oppression, subjugation and sabotage of black people, including school to prison pipelines, criminalization of black men, massincarceration, predatory lending practices, continued redlining, unfair housing laws, abortion, welfare, planting drugs and guns, continued economic exclusion from wealth building, food deserts, health disparities, gentrification, water insecurities, police shootings and injustices, and a racial wealth gap that is an accumulation of these built-in disadvantages; that whites can truly believe in their hearts and minds that they are saved for eternal life while they continue practicing these sins both currently and historically. They have to be fearful of GOD'S consequences and judgements for these behaviors and this ongoing system of oppression. If so, there may be a glimpse of hope for that individual; but if not, may GOD'S will be done. Amen!

There is no way, zero, for that fact. A racist can not be described as a good person. Neither can be both. Evil can’t be good lady!

Thank you so much for your insights into the darkness and those "bound" by ignorance. Ignorance was and is overwhelming. I love you even as a black male and child of God.

Fear is the main driving force of hate.

She does a fairly good job of defending the racist she grew up with

Exchange the words “the change” with equality every time she says it. It shows how wild the thinking was and still is for some

"There were good people...on both sides..."...I feel like I've heard that one before.

Her story is so true. I thank her for speaking out, because a lot of people wouldn't have, and didn't. I think that White people thought that it would be revenge if a Black person ever got into office, just like the White people of Africa was thinking the same way when they got a Black African President. The key is treat each other with kindness and respect no matter the race. After all we're all God's children. He loves us all no matter what or the race.