Her Friend Ghosted On Her Because She Got Married! 

She says she would’ve been willing to pay her back but she should have done that first thing…not offered…she should’ve paid!

As a BFF, I wouldn’t care about the time, energy, and money I spent. I would feel confident in my friend that she would reimburse certain things. However, I would be upset that she didn’t at least confide in me that she decided to elope beforehand. I can keep my BFF’s secrets. I would’ve supported that. Being told after the fact would hurt

We don't know if this was a one-off. Casey could have consistently been a selfish friend && the other woman is just done with it all - like, last straw kind of thing

I hate people who lack a sense of self-awareness. Obviously, you have to think your maid of honor and/or bridesmaids are planning parties for you and you need to tell them to halt it if you are not going through with a traditional wedding. Even if she didn't buy the dress, I would be saving money for all the expenses: dress, shoes, hair, makeup, gift. It's not fair the the wedding party at all.

Eloping is one thing but to have a wedding planned and then decide to not have the wedding is really 💩.

I have a feeling the best friend probably did say all of those things, but the bride was too self-absorbed to even notice or care about it. I mean the bride got back her deposits and she didn't even think about all the money that the bridal party spent? Give me a break.

Yes if cancelled bride/groom should reimburse all parties for out of pocket expenses AND your friends should support your decisions about your wedding, friend could have shifted her party plans to celebrate the bride and groom instead of just the bride/bridal shower, honestly what if a baby comes early you don’t cancel the baby shower, you change the vibe, like a sip n’ see 🥰 12:17

5:20 She didn't bail on her husband but she certainly bailed on everyone else

I'd be mad too. I dont have a lot of money to throw around, and to tell the truth, 3 of the 4 bridesmaids dresses I had to buy to be in weddings were pretty ugly. I never altered them to a more casual useable dress--never wore thrm again. They were just trashed. The bride and her fiancé should have told her they would pay her back for her outfit at that time, not wait til now...years later.

she should have told her best friend that plans change. That’s your best friend then you should respect her feelings too knowing that she was supposed to be apart of the wedding. I don’t think it was just all about money it’s the communication that didn’t take place

I think Casey is leaving a lot of details out to make herself look like it’s not her fault that the friendship ended.

You didn't want to tell people because you wanted to avoid the whoopsie you gave them....I don't blame you but you need to recompense people.

It's because she didn't TELL her

Im thinking it was a common occurrence of the friend being this way. No way this is the first time

She was a good enough friend to do all the work in prep for your wedding but not good enough to have shared your secret. She would have kept it to herself. It goes both ways guys. Best friends trust each other.

The bride she didn't communicate anything, neither did you.

I'm at 1:55, and sounds to me like your wedding day was her day and your day. Female "best friends" expect to be each other's Maid-of-Honours. It's sort of assumed. You didn't tell her, and got married, and now she's left out of her day, which is your day. In other words, you wrecked what she saw as HER day. This is how some men can feel with Bridezillas who say their wedding day is "my day", and the fiance is left bring second.

If you planned a wedding and expenses were incurred by the wedding party, it’s the bride’s responsibility to reimburse for those expenses if the wedding did not occur. It’s fine to decide to elope instead, but you can’t just expect the bridal party members to just absorb the costs that they incurred for a wedding that they weren’t part of. Sounds like the bridesmaid put a lot of time, energy, care and cash into her role as a bridesmaid. She deserves to be reimbursed for whatever expenses she paid. The bride may have been caught up in the spontaneous decision to elope and didn’t tell anyone until after the fact, but she still has a responsibility to reimburse the bridal party for any cash outlay. The bride should also apologize to all involved, simply explaining that wedding stress caused a change of plans. That’s fine, but compensation is still due. The bride should have said immediately that she would provide reimbursement. This is a two-part issue. On one hand, the bridesmaid is hurt that all of her efforts weren’t valued and respected. Then, on top of that, she incurred unnecessary expenses. The bride was all caught up in the drama of the moment, understandably so perhaps, but she’s not seeing it from her friend’s perspective at all. Self-reflection is needed. Maybe the friendship can come back together once hurt feelings have subsided, but the friend isn’t being heard by the bride. The bride just seems to want to gloss over everything. If this is a longtime friendship, maybe it can be resolved if they sit down and have an honest, heartfelt conversation.

Ulyimately, the friend sees the sociopathy attached to the spontaneity of just dropping the wedding. This is extreme selfishness b/c Casey just did what she wanted to (following the husband's lead, supporting HIM, and just leaving her friend completely out id the equation, which in turn would midigate the fallout. All of the listed items the friend gad pur efgort into is not a simple thing, its a bunch of things that have more major effects. Casey js just not recognizing that what dhe diss - or doesn't do, has consequences to more than just Casey's world in A general way. It impacts many ppl, in many ways, and in specific outcomes. Pticess over here snaps get fingers and w/o any warning, she just takes the selfish route, even if ger husband was the motivation. Dropping evetything was dimply cold. And if the best friend was seeing this behaviour over a period, and expected Casey to never do "this" or "that" to her, snd dhe did, Casey may hsve stepped kver a line that SHE has no say in.

I think the friend just wanted in on the secret maybe

She not really your friend 🤷🏽‍♂️

They both have their own way of being wrong here but isn't that the point of eloping?you jus go out and do it lol

Yeah but that's on her. The bride didnt know she was doing all of that. That wasn't her job it was the maid of honors. She was ahead of the bride in planning, buying her dress, spending money on the various parties, etc. She was expecting accolades and was disappointed when it didn't happen. Good riddance.

Selfish brides maid wanted all the attention