Here's why I stopped reading self-help books (and you should too)

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Here's why I stopped reading self help books (and you should too)
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Video Timestamps:
0:00 Intro
0:24 My journey with self help
2:38 What is Hopium?
3:22 Problems with Self Help
4:45 How to find the right books
5:35 Bad to OK VS OK to Great
7:03 Personal problems
8:00 Final Thoughts
The self help industry is a multi billion dollar industry.People even spend hundreds of thousands of dollars. Many people ask me about self help books, which will improve their lives. Let me tell you, no book is the answer to success. These books are like a compass, not a map.
In this video, I talk in detail about why I stopped reading self help books.
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@akashbansod4546 6 месяцев назад

Exactly, I stopped reading my favourite genre "Self-help" books. Nicely put- They are just compass not a map! I think when you have something that you're truly passionate about, and want to take it to next level then these kind of books might help you to leverage, otherwise if it's just a mediocre life you're living, then, you're going to just buy and read books -nothing will come out of it!

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

It couldn’t have been summarised any better!❤️🔥🔥

@akashbansod4546 6 месяцев назад

@@ReadTravelBecome You're making really good content sir, I appreciate it, keep going. I like when you integrate info from blogs which normally we aren't familiar with.

@somthinnew5941 6 месяцев назад

reading 1 self help book and implement their thoughts is greater then just reading 100s of self-help book .

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Agree💯

@mizaajekalam 6 месяцев назад

No self help book is gonna help u until u apply it practically in life

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Absolutely 💯

@jyotiranjan7062 6 месяцев назад

This IS the kind of content we want. Not the usual bullshit every BookTuber spitting. This kind of content is brutally honest, that's why empowering.

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

🔥🔥🔥

@yuvikaarora5772 6 месяцев назад

Thank you so much for starting a conversation about self help book web ❤ I was facing this same issue for past few months, thinking that it is just me. Really appreciate your efforts.

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

I'm so glad!

@neelamx64 6 месяцев назад

I have opposite view. I totally agree with your statement that self help books won't help much because of many factor. But the point is the reader will come to know automatically after reading 5-10 self books. So i recommend all Reader to read 5-10 good self help books with curiosity and even you grasp 5-10% thats good. After that you self realize that you need to move on to other gener like history, biography, economics,fact books, fiction etc. Like the comment if you agree or share u r opinion.

@rajvirkaur5398 6 месяцев назад

Absolutely right

@kamalx64 6 месяцев назад

u r right bro

@kamalchahal64 6 месяцев назад

A good point

@heerthirajah1661 6 месяцев назад

Exactly what I tell to people always. I started reading self help book 3 yrs back. then followed fiction, then biographies, then science and technical books. Now curretnly fully into technical books and biographies. If you want to read self help book. read the well researched book. Real well researched book are from 100 yrs befre. so read old book always. I read it somehwere that, if you want to get ideas, read old books. and the point is true. know about the author. IF you are reading a book related to brain and habits, know the author have well background in that field or if he did good research on that. Seriously this video will bbe a big eye opener for many! thanks for making it man.

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

How beautifully put, I coudnt agree more! Thank you so much for writing this!!🎉🎉

@heerthirajah1661 6 месяцев назад

@@ReadTravelBecome yes 🙌

@anubhutipandey4813 Месяц назад

Hi please can you give recommendations for old self help books.

@rohanbhengra3102 6 месяцев назад

I also feel like i was lied, i read self help books, feels good for sometime after that the motivation fades away if not practiced. This is what I need to hear. Thank you bro 🤜

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Aptly said💯🎉

@maheshmaram1239 6 месяцев назад

Yes yes u r correct brother... Slowly I'm thinking...

@gailfreitas5860 6 месяцев назад

Advhoot I was in shock yes change only happens when a person implements things. I just thought it was a good genre to stick to. I like having many other categories as well. That is what being a true learner is all about. Thanks for the wisdom and the video.

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

True learner absolutely! Aptly put, thank you 😀😃

@Ronak_blog1 6 месяцев назад

It's more about action based advice! And using nonfiction books as a guide 🎉 not everything. Not a single book will change your life.. sometimes it's a single line, a single paragraph out of the whole book will help you. As I always say! "I am addicted to reading (anything) the right kind of information will exponentially change your life Great video, 😮 important topic covered.

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Absolutely! Good to hear from you Ronak, thank you 🥰😇

@dmnchannel777 6 месяцев назад

I too feel the same after reading some of the self-help books.. Tq.. For this video.. ❤

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

😊

@krishnasaieswar8694 6 месяцев назад

I think “the compound effect” is the one book it will make you to implement things in our daily lifestyle it’s entirely different from other self help books. I have implemented things like writing journal consistently and walk for 30 min daily after reading the book the compound effect. Even before i used to do those things but bot so consistently but later the book made me to work consistently. And i never finished the book the 5am club after buying it is soo lagging.

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

That’s amazing to hear! Now you are at a place where you can actually progress, kudos!✨💯

@sushil2kashyap 6 месяцев назад

Yes. You are right 👍

@rohitself 6 месяцев назад

Your videos are so good 💯💯 I think you have started experimenting new things in your video just like background music you have done best job

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Yes, starting rocking the boat haha

@lenkasarkhelova 6 месяцев назад

Great topic! I questioned my inner guidance just yesrday asking where to hold to in case of too much external turbulence in the world I opened accidantly one book about Vedanta and my eyesight felt on the line telling that 'what counts is how you put everything into practice'. From my own observation, reading self help books without applying the knowledge into our own life is like reading all possible books about swimming techniques without ever dipping ourselves into the water. And the question is what exactly is the use of such knowledge besides giving us the false feeling that we know'. A self help book can help us in case we use it as a text book - we try it, verify it, question it and sometimes even outgrow it. But be ready for a hard work, no leisure reading 😁

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Love what you said- use it like a textbook! Also very well written, I agree w all of your points, thanks a lot💯🎉😇

@ssharma1412 6 месяцев назад

Indeed self help books r just the compass...until and unless we implement the learnings we will never be able to live our life fully... thanku Avdhoot for coming up with this topic..though currently am reading The secret.. slowly at my pace and trying to implement whatever am learning..

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Happy reading

@ssharma1412 6 месяцев назад

@@ReadTravelBecome thanku..😇

@akshaykumarkamatam 6 месяцев назад

Great video! Loved it.

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Glad you enjoyed it!

@readerbala 6 месяцев назад

Alright, I see a different perspective from you in this video. Let’s explore some gems from fiction too as you say. It’s tough to see something that does not exist already. Thanks for admitting this fact even after doing so many self help book reviews & recommendations. This honesty takes a lot of courage to contradict the earlier yourself. Good luck.

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Yes, learning and u learning is tough but essential. I take no shame in admitting I was wrong. I’m just happy we all grow together, thanks for your comment☀️

@preetinegi4292 6 месяцев назад

Well said 👏

@badriclasses9361 5 месяцев назад

Thanks for telling me the truth

@jessicakaurbygodsgrace Месяц назад

100% truth 😊 thanks ❤

@saurabhagarwal5728 6 месяцев назад

It's good that you realized it. Your channel if full of them.

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Better late than never my friend

@a_Better_U_everyday 5 месяцев назад

My friend you are wrong, there are log of self help books which will tell you step by step how to complete the complex tasks. Self help will not only tell you what to do but how to do it. For example to increase your productivity 2 times start making a to do list. Make a to do list in the night or in the morning. The list should be in order of priority, you will see a miracle. Initially you will find it difficult but if you follow your to do list you will start doing more and the results will start falling in.....

@saikatdeshmukh3321 6 месяцев назад

The exact same thing happened to me that's why I also stopped reading those books now I'm regreing for reading. 😔

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Yaay☀️

@aanya532 6 месяцев назад

Learning can feel like progress even when its not progress -Mark manson I learned that long ago. I realized that back when I watched a vedio by mark manson ( why your favourite self help book sucks ) .

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

🙌

@raavi2945 6 месяцев назад

Loved your Honest opinion

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Brutally honest

@karthikmohan1 5 месяцев назад

Can you please share the link of the blog?

@380dnandinikulal4 6 месяцев назад

Thanks sir ❤

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Most welcome

@bhargvaidya 6 месяцев назад

well said

@StudioC-47 6 месяцев назад

Whenever we prepare for competitive exam there's always concept of not using someone else's notes because they've written it according to thier perspective so it won't work same for you

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Very nice analogy

@StudioC-47 6 месяцев назад

@@ReadTravelBecome thanks

@kuntaldey944 6 месяцев назад

So scary! That's why I didn't pick up any self help book at the first place. Read a fiction, flow with it, and its over!

@neelamx64 6 месяцев назад

Recommendation - the audio quality was not good(maybe the sound effects that you have put on) Your voice is all we need no fancy sound orchestra needed 😂

@nynarveer696 6 месяцев назад

😂

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Fixed in the next video, thank you!

@poojaguru2516 6 месяцев назад

why are you so underrated? Great content!

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

I am not, the fact that I get comments like these, already means a lot

@poojaguru2516 6 месяцев назад

@@ReadTravelBecome Quality of your content is excellent. Keep up the great work, inspiring more people to read books. 💯

@Abhijeet.kumar__ 6 месяцев назад

Thank you much bro❤❤

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Always welcome😇😇

@Pratikshya_Das 6 месяцев назад

The monk who sold his Ferrari having just another taste ❤

@kapilbhat 6 месяцев назад

Yeah! Very True

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

💯

@choephel_sherpa 6 месяцев назад

Same story to me too 😊

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

🙌

@sspatil27 2 месяца назад

great topic bro and you are talking very well but why this music is there ,no need of it

@merwynrebello7417 6 месяцев назад

If Someone is a good reader, the reader can actually get self help from reading all the other genres. You learn how the character overcome the situations and what that characters mindset is read. We all have had copied characters actions in a cartoon or a tv-show. We Need an example or an idol for us to be inspired as we can know that it be done if the character has done it. That's why books like the Alchemist work. It doesn't just give you advice but gives you an idea how it can be implemented. I am 14 years old and everyone tells me to read books that will help my life but they don't know that fiction books can do that as well.

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

You are very wise my friend. Loved your comment, thank you!

@merwynrebello7417 6 месяцев назад

Thank You 😁😁@@ReadTravelBecome

@s.s.raghavendra4903 Месяц назад

Thank you

@atharvapawar1218 6 месяцев назад

There is a book gonna launch named, 'Feel Good Productivity.'-By Ali Abdaal. Should I read it? Can you make preview on it if you read it after it launches?

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

I have no clue but I ll check out

@jitkabire 5 месяцев назад

Its about clarity of mind not a guarantee of success🏆💪 not taking action is the problem.

@user-jx4vm7tr8s Месяц назад

The key is to writing your own self help book and start selling

@abhishekkattimani1302 6 месяцев назад

What is pathetic about self-help books is that they are very generic. The same content, yet presented in a different style. Then what's good about reading every self-help book that exists out there? As for non-fiction, biography books and informative books have to be our go-for books.

@vishwaracsithr7525 6 месяцев назад

how are you reading while listening music?? is it possible to read with playing songs

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Not really for me

@mustanggt5713 5 месяцев назад

Here are rules to reading self help books : Rule number 1 : Treat books as operating manuals and not as motivational text Rule number 2 : Apply the knowledge immediately to your life . If the above 2 rules are not followed , reading books is a total waste of time .

@ayushonline94 6 месяцев назад

Bro i am planning to start a book readers club in my town , do u have any tips.. thanks bro

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Go for it!

@utk6872 Месяц назад

Hey Avdhoot, I really appreciate these videos. Just a constructive feedback. In some of the videos, the music (both the sound bites and the musical piece) seems to overpower your content and one has to focus a lot to listen, especially when listening to the video and not watching. Please see if you agree with this and fix it.

@user-hx6xp3kt6n 6 месяцев назад

what a great video, i would highly recommended ''james jani'' video on ''the toxic world of self help'' its very informative video on same topic🤫

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

I'll check it out!

@akshayji159 6 месяцев назад

Solution is Read and Apply

@deepjyotitalukdar3470 5 месяцев назад

Lean practical methods and develop skills

@trapdeath99 6 месяцев назад

i already stopped but impulsively brought another self help

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Haha us bro us

@fbn6660 6 месяцев назад

Great vdo..I think I've never completed reading a self-help book..I have this feeling that there's something wrong with this or,do this actually work or is all of this true..! And bro,please take a Little more care while mixing the background score😅.. I've never noticed this in any of your vdo,but here the bg score is too noisy.. That's it, read more do more suggestions, do more vdos on books..Take care🫂

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Feedback notes, I will definitely try to fix it in future videos, thank you so much for watching 😇😇

@PriyanshuMistry19 6 месяцев назад

Atomic Habits is a good one, isn't it?

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

It’s a great book. Like I said, it depends on who writes it. If you implement what’s written in it, only then it’s great

@user-oo7lr6sy5c 6 месяцев назад

Just now Salaar interval has come and your video is uploaded timing 😂

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Kya baat hai bhai😂 enjoy the movie too after you enjoy this video😀😀😀😀

@jayaansh_1333 6 месяцев назад

I have just started reading books, and have read 7 to 8 books and those all are self help book😅, but now i want to read some novals, can you give me few names to start with...

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

I have made numerous videos on recommendations, you can check them out

@mohammedibrahimali2988 6 месяцев назад

Your audio is only hearing in the left side of the headset, could you please check from you end. It is been like that for a while

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Thanks for the feedback, I will check next time. It was working fine from my end, but thank you again

@Mukesh-cy2mg 6 месяцев назад

Yes

@aaryannnnnnn 4 месяца назад

dude this video has audio problem

@user-mr5sg2dy6d 6 месяцев назад

is can't hurt me by david goggins good book?

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

It’s not exactly self help, it’s a memoir and is a wonderful book which challenges your belief system of how much your mind and body can endure. It definitely does not tell you that do 10 things to be successful

@user-mr5sg2dy6d 6 месяцев назад

@@ReadTravelBecome thanks

@hiritikasingh0486 5 месяцев назад

Great video but music gave me headache

@ReadTravelBecome 5 месяцев назад

Sorry about that

@Mehnazmemon19 6 месяцев назад

What if the book is fantasy + self help

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Like I said, it all depends on what you want to learn and implement. If this mix is something which is required in your life, then why not! My point is: just don’t read books which give you a roadmap of success

@SpicyPoison 6 месяцев назад

Sound only in left earbud

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

If the output is mono it comes in one. Stereo mode is for both. Sorry for this setting, next time this won’t come

@arunsmit 6 месяцев назад

Self help industry is a big scam be it books, workshops, courses, seminars etc...

@sasmit.9846 6 месяцев назад

some re good, eg - almanack of naval ravikant.

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

It’s definitely a great read. Like I said, depends a lot on who shares ideas

@sasmit.9846 6 месяцев назад

true@@ReadTravelBecome

@anupamsengupta1304 3 месяца назад

Self-help books have a very limited practicability, especially in India. The advice of following own passion, relentless effort becomes futile here. In a country of staggering inequality and discrimination, opportunities to thrive actually reach a very few people.

@ReadTravelBecome 3 месяца назад

Very well put

@bishttrue166 6 месяцев назад

Exactly 70 to 80% concept of all self help books are the same, but the question is that how to take action, putting an effort to start, I think we should read one self help book only and note down all the key points and take a action one by one

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

🙌

@Elenagilmore07 6 месяцев назад

Bro start reading the Holy Bible ...It will change your life...there are soo many miracles

@sasmit.9846 6 месяцев назад

you too should read the Gita!

@thetamannaahuja 6 месяцев назад

Avadhoot I have been reading self help books since 2009. I have benefitted a lot by reading them. I implement everything I read. I feel you are wrong when you say self help books don't help. You should have implemented what you read.

@moonknight6268 6 месяцев назад

Try fictional books, our minds open up to better ideas through thrm

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

It didn’t help me personally, it might help others it all depends if you implement stuff, that was the point of my video

@shreyasnadkarni9685 6 месяцев назад

I think "self-help" is a very generic term which can mean a lot of things: self-improvement, self-acceptance, psychology, philosophy, psychotherapy, health-advice, career-advice, personal finance, etc. Indeed there are a lot of stupid books in the market but I strongly feel the really good ones are genuinely worth reading, especially if they give specific insights on a problem that you really care about. Some non-shitty "self-help" books that have helped me (most of them can be called ANTI self-help): - Books based on Buddhist ideas (including Subtle Art of Not Giving) - Books on Stoicism (Meditations, Letters from a Stoic, etc) - Books on cognitive biases e.g. Thinking Fast and Slow, Psychology of Money, Paradox of Choice, etc - Books on mental health and therapy (The Happiness Trap, Reasons to Stay Alive) In general books that help you improve WITH your emotions, rather than AGAINST your emotions. And books that help you relate deeply with the author, rather than the preachy sort that claim to have figured out everything in life

@ReadTravelBecome 6 месяцев назад

Perfect! This comment exactly captures the essence of my video. I agree 1000% some books are just land mines of gold, the wisdom per page ratio is too high for them. The point is, in finding these gems, we sometimes get stuck in useless books which would say- do these 10 things, you shall be successful. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I really appreciate it! ☀️