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Ive been in hermit mode for 4 years but 7 years of change and its allowed me to heal from traumatic trauma, theres many times when i thought it was depression ( maybe there had been in some parts ) but im having so many aha moments and realising im on the right path and ive learned so much being on my own and most of all ive learned about myself im definitely on the path of know thyself. I use to get so upset as i had tons of hobbies and one day they started to fall away from me, thats when things started getting hard its been an up and down roller coaster of emotions, but now i can sit with my emotions and the feelings are so different. I could type for hours but not gonna 😂. Being in hermit mode as helped me and I've so much gratitude for every experience the ups and downs 🙏we are all one
Appreciate you sharing some of your story here, and likewise know you're taking the right steps for yourself at the right time. I hope 2024 continues to flow well for you.
Being in hermit mode for the past few months has been a blessing for myself and inner work. It’s allowed me to really listen to what I need and want to change . I appreciate your video and your perspective ❤
I feel like a better version of myself. I've certainly come out of my shell here and there. I find that the moments that I do, has great value to my current state. My inner circle has become smaller cause I cut out low vibrational people. I'm loving it so far!
@@ssophistocatt that is great to hear. I’ve come to find out my mother is a covert narcissist and I’ve recently had to limit contact with her and I’ve found that it’s helping my journey. Very uncomfortable for the time being but it’s best in the long term. Toxic people cannot be tolerated or excused a long this journey.
@@User98681 glad you are finding a way to cope with it as best you can. Your reply was confusing to me at first because I just too found out my mother is a covert narcissist. I thought I had written it ! Distance is the best medicine 🙏
I have been in full hermit mode for a period of 7 years (19-26) and right now I find great value in the content of your videos. I have just come to the realisation that I have never given anyone a question, in my entire life, and that is what this video did for me, in the understanding of a new mystery to experience. Thank you freely!
@@demois Not truly, no. I have shared a lot of questions, but those were all questions I asked myself first, so I've only shared already answered questions. Which I now realize are just the poisoned apple, if I give a question while already having an answer ready for it, I'm not truly gifting anyone a question. I'm forcing an answer on the world, and that is my own world. I'm sure the questions create new worlds all around but I don't experience that part if I keep eating the poisoned apple. That's quite a revelation to me :)
I'm 33 y/o and for myself after 2 years of "healing", after having discovered Internal Family Systems 3 months ago (and having devoured your video on it in my early phase of the IFS discovery) in the last couple of days I realized how truly isolated I got over time, but to some extend always have been prior to starting my journey. After the past couple of months of IFS my parts trust me enough to put myself out there into the world as I truly am. Because if I don't get laid or don't make any friends, knowing myself it's in the end because I wouldn't talk to anyone - and if that happens, now I know there'll be parts with very good reasons as to why I wouldn't, so I will be able to get to know these parts and learn all the more about myself and my interpersonal relationships.
I just found your work today and I love how synchronicity works ❤️ In the beginning of my journey, I was so blown open by what I was learning that I jumped on social media and yelled it to my world as loud as I could. Fast forward a year into my 'personal development' journey it turned into a full blown Spiritual Awakening. I kept trying to push through it and still be seen every day and share what I was learning. But the energy felt forced and it changed how my world saw me. So I stopped. I was just going to take a little break lmao. Over that year I slowly started stepping back on social media and diving further into myself. Here we are 9 yrs later, many certifications in lots of modalities that interest me, and SO MUCH knowledge that I could share with my world. I find that I have zero desire to even be on social media anymore. I'm here more than anywhere else, but it's mostly to listen and continue learning about me. No shame, no blame, I've finally surrendered into the knowing that it will all work exactly as it should.
I used to think of myself as a shamanic artist (classic types of art like drawing, painting, sculpting) but then I grew up. What I see during shamanic journeys just can't be translated to through those medium. But, now as an old Hermit, I find myself doing so much deeper work in a way, because I don't have to produce something. I can, for the first time in my life, just sit and be.... safe and not having to "hustle" to make a living. I can actually go pretty close to Hermit mode but realize that as an old fart it is time to pass on what I have learned along the way through writing.
In my (INFJ) experience with a suspect covert narcissist, I *absolutely* *needed* to go into hermit mode in order for me to work out the difference between my real self vs. the house of mirrors projected and gaslit by the narc. Having said this, I do see how my extroverted sensing (Se) inferior cognitive function could potentially have helped me heal faster if I had known how to use it.
It's really quite something to not only be engaging with your work here, but to have a question answered in a way that helps others in this niche space - the space you have made and held for this format to flourish is inspiring and admirable. The wounded healer video also very much resonated. You are definitely on the money with the distinction between the "being" healing and the "doing" aestheticised healing performance but I'm glad you leave room for nuance and the sometimes hard truth that each individual needs to develop their inner authority and sense of where they draw the lines and what is helpful vs hindering (even the shadiest patterns are ultimately well intentioned aims for a corrective experience). I also recognise the compulsive aspects of premature expression / externalising in myself and many past students of mine. It's interesting as well that this is something that audience / client / student can sense, and be drawn to or repelled by depending on their own journey. 🙏🙏🙏 Thank you deeply Jordan! Feel seen, supported, and slightly more able to trust my instincts around levels of hermitage
Great to hear from you in response to my response to your question, Geraldine! Truly happy to have helped and I appreciate your extensions here - beautifully worded 🌲
Watching this whilst flicking between the choice of going to my contempory dance class which involves driving on an icy night or staying in and relaxing with youtube because ive work tomorrow. I need to rest but also to revitalise.
*Want your inner work challenge answered in the next episode? Here are the Inner Work themes and concerns which I am currently prioritising:* - Trauma Healing & Trauma Release - Parts Work & Subpersonalities - Jungian Psychology & Archetypes - Transpersonal Psychology / Healing - Self Education & Research Suggestions - Masculine / Feminine Dynamics - Addiction, Recovery & Sobriety In the spirit of doing this work together, and extending our genuine concern for others, I invite you to consider phrasing your question to serve on behalf of both yourself and the silent stranger across the ocean who is seeking the exact same answers as you, but might not be willing to get directly involved. We experience our internal worlds independently, but we are remarkably interwoven at our essence. I find this zoom-out awareness connective and comforting, so I naturally welcome your individual perspective while also looking forward to watching this series unfold at the particular intersection between personal circumstances and broader collective challenges. In terms of question boundaries and guidelines, these videos are not an opportunity for long personal essays or indiscriminate trauma dumping. Self-reflective writing is suitable for private journaling, but clearly inappropriate for a public video series. I hope this is obvious, but perhaps worth stating nonetheless. *Question Length: I kindly request that you limit your question to a maximum of two concise sentences.* Important: Comment replies do not show up in my notification box. Please post your question as a new comment on this video, otherwise I will not see your message.
Truly balanced perspective here ⚖️ I appreciate how you highlight the necessity of going inwards to understand ourselves, as long as we don’t latch to it as an identity. It’s so easy to become the very thing that isolates you instead of learn to metigate the flow of going in and out into the world. We need to go out to draw references. It’s actually how we enrich our inner world even more… without it feeling confining. Isn’t that interesting haha Great companion video to your last one as well 🤝🏻 been enjoying the personal elements that drive your takes. Videos are on point per usual! Thank you 😊
Ah, the ‘introvert’ or ‘introspective’ as conflated identity game, that’s an interesting trap hahaha Only just seeing this comment - thank you once more for your continued support and likewise contributions to this path of teaching 🌲
It might be that I’m not quite the audience for these videos, I am finding that I am only half ‘getting’ the content of many of these videos. I am nodding my head along, and then a particular phrase or reference to some modality or something else just confuses me. Other times its the opposite, I’ll be listening and wondering ‘what’s all this about’ and then you say something very useful and it’s like a lightbulb goes on ‘that’s what that was!’ Thanks for these videos, all the same. 😊
I find that romantic relations dampen my abandonment trauma and "i am not good enough trauma" and that I could not access these traumas for processing. I had my deepest inner work on these topics at the days, that, after years, months and days of neglecting social contacts, I could feel the pain of the past that everyone hated me. So in a sense, I created my own trigger. Not sure if I have processed all of it now, still finding myself wanting to find external validation from a beautiful woman.
Damn, fat neuropathic fingers. From early childhood, i lost my voice. Family so violent that speaking truth could incur wrathful retaliating. Finally grew up, moved out, became a dancer. My mentors and mates, alarmed at my silence, exhorted me to speak up. Okay, i started. How awkward! Not realizing it's trauma dumping. Gradually i gained discretion. Good experiences with therapists. Paradox in dance: if we emote too strenuously, the audience is turned off. The audience is MORE moved when the performer is DISpassionate. It gets surreal, feels like one of those Escher prints: i think i'm moving in one dimension, then boom/click, on another trajectory. What a pickle. I'm glad i'm old
Hey Jordan. Are you planning on doing a video on psychosomatic pain sometime? I have been traumatized in childhood and pain in various body parts has been the primary manifestation of the trauma for me.
Thank you Jordan for this excellent video. This is the first video I have seen of yours and I found it as I was seeking perspectives on going into hermit mode. Your energy is very soothing. It's weird that I'm going through a kind of hermit phase at the mo (although not strictly speaking as I'm connected to the net and watching videos!!) where I want to spend more time in my inner world and I'm not craving so many external attractions and connections. However, when I'm in this space it's like I can't even connect or identify with the part/s of me which are more externally focussed with desires to want to help and lead my own community and performing as a musician/artist etc. I sometimes wonder whether I'm healing or hiding, or both perhaps! My favourite phrase at the moment "This Too Shall Pass" as I know by now that these energies can be transitory but whilst I am in them there can be a discomfort of being present in this state of being and experiencing the uncertainty of how long it will last. I rarely comment on videos so take this as a compliment! I also enjoyed your insights on solitude and creative endeavours. Have a beautiful day x
I hope that you find great value in the other videos & book recommendations here - plenty to dive into, and thank you for sharing some of your story, Susie.
Hey. I haven't consumed that much of your content but you strike me as quite interesting. I have been unwinding my fascial adhesions and trauma on a physical level and am healing my energies on a more subtle/ mental level. I've gotten intense healing sensations in my spine, cranium, face, teeth among other areas( a few dreamlike experiences i cannot fully explain with my rational mind). Among improving my facial and bodily structure and gaining more energy and expression, I believe that i am on in the process of expressing my full genetic potential or atleast something in the direction of it. I don't want this to turn into an incoherent essay, so to keep it short: I'm telling u this because I believe the development/practice has similarities with what I read about kundalini yoga and shadow yoga. For me it's mostly related to sheer improvement in breath and bodily awareness. I wonder if you have experience with what I'm describing and if it would be a worthwhile endeavour to correct my mind/thoughts to this development, because right now I spend less time thinking about my patterns and moreso just with bodily awareness and improving my physiology little by little.
Strange, because I’ve been doing the same thing. Doing self massage and trigger point massage with golf and tennis balls. Breathwork, along with yoga and cardio, all alone in my apartment. I’ve had spontaneous movements and tingling sensations that seem to be loosening up 50+ years of body armoring developed during childhood and early adult abuse and trauma. I only go out a couple of times a week for food. I started in October. I did this same routine, unconsciously planned, last Autumn around the same time. Then during the summer months, I was very active outside in nature and with friends. I don’t get lonely during my “hermit” time and find being around people makes me very drained. During relaxing time, I do watercolor paintings and listen to spiritual podcasts or read. It feels good to know I’m not alone in my journey to wellness and healing. 😌
@@A.Bernadette. it's a course called Wholebodybreathing by someone that has researched craniofacial distrophy for years and connected the dots to the unconscious/trauma . Hes called Karan Singh (TGW). However he's not actively guiding. While he does do 1on1 teachings now, I got the theory , by being in regular contact with him when he started all of this about a year ago. Once you get it, it's epiphany after epiphany and your whole worldview seems to change maybe even quicker than your body is unwinding from the trauma/adhesions.
im truly gratefull to find your video after many years of healing journey im still sometimes feel im getting nowhere near i need to be us performer and artist musician ,even i know im truly gifted . Anyway im really appreaciate your extremely honest tied up inner work and share with us are truly unique Dude blessing keeping up this great work brother
Very interesting thank you, took me to asking self why one might fall into a certain mode rather unconsciously, as rhis mode may have begun at a very young age (12 yrs old for me) and the particular circumstance of the trauma pretty much "forced" me into immediately sharing, as that was the only way to escape further trauma and be safe. Appreciate this, many thanks🙏
You make beautiful content that is very wise. I liked how you mentioned healing expression artists needs to heal. I experienced very fast healing from my creative blocks when I shifted my perspective and didnt anymore judge my works that I had done under enormous pain and hurt. I intuitively knew these drawings i liked to keep around were the key to my healing but before i used to judge myself to not be able to do better drawings and also often i got feedback that my drawings were sad and i thought i lost my ability to be happy again. After my shift of awareness I started to see myself in all of my works and had enormous sense of compassion to the part of me who had strenght to make them. And I had been very sad so ofcourse it show in my work. One of those drawing is this icon of my youtube channel. This drawing gave me the idea of my youtube channel and shadow sister last january. I am both of these girls in my drawing. This drawing is my base idea for my tarot sun card: my joy can shine bigger because i know now my sadness and shadow sister.
Thanks Jordan Hermit mode does give the space and focus for not only healing but also to practice self love which you don't receive from others So I alternate between the 2 on a regular basis as how I feel about myself is the most important thing of all Do you read Tao ? Another wisdom very valuable
Undergoing 4 months of lacanian analysis now. I involuntarily got pushed into this state of mind, and for some reason im able to live it out without being too afraid of what is going to happen next. Though there was the feeling of being devoured and uncertainity for quite sometime but that waned off. My analysis did mentioned that in sessions we get more comfortable with loss and losing. Interesting to see how this feelings tie to external fields.
@@shifthappens78 hard time knowing when to allow and when to act. Seems when I act, so far, doesn't turn out right, at least seemingly. So I stay in my cave. Seems like things open up in a better way, at least for now, when I just allow.
@@shifthappens78 nothing to say, we are all on our own individual journey :) I just thought that others might resonate with it in their own way. I sometimes find I benifit just as much from comment sections as I do from the posts given. See??? should I act on my impulse or should I just stay in my cave in a cave in a cave? So much to explore. Be well. Be happy.
"Hermit" mode is hard. But I need it a few hours a day since there is a lot of junk inside. And I am still digging... But yeah, I need other people around, since as a paradox, in this very vulnerable state I need some love...
@@jordanthornton Do you do personalized affirmation recordings? I am looking for someone with a golden voice to do the afrimations that I am currently writing to listen to at night. Might you be interested?
How can you know who is in charge? Ego or atma? Very closely related. As performer heart, being open and vulnerable what can save and heal us can also be the opening to our undoing. Your dance is beautiful, Jordan.
@@jordanthornton ah because if one is dealing from ego. (I.e. I think I want to go back to school to complete studies... then publish all of my brilliant theories and become the next Robert Sapolsky, PhD, well hmm. Versus, gees I think I might be on to a way of explaining things to others so that they don't have to break their noses to do to get here like I did...) 2 very, VERY different operating systems, IMO Jayaa, merry meet guru
I would say as long as going out / performing is a bandage / numbing for your trauma, you should not do it (at least not regularily). It's better to heal the trauma. And if staying home triggers that trauma, plenty opportunity to fix is. Thats good.
Makes me think of love & power... perhaps one can know that they're forcing themselves to one side (i.e. spending too long in hermit mode or social mode) if they have an imbalance in love or power which drives them toward one side or another... whether they rationalize with blind compassion or excess force. Or perhaps it's not so general, and excess love-seeking leads to an improper state of sociality, and excess power-seeking leads to an improper state of heads-down self-focus. This seems to make more sense to me right now. So, to seek a counterexample, could one excessively seek power in a way that leads to the social mode? Probably, humans are complex... Presenting concepts as done here is quite helpful as it can be used DIRECTLY to analyze one's own life... a culture of such intellectualism must be the basis for a culture of real growth and self work.
i really love the core of this video, it helped validate some of my own shame around how I hermit mode. Last 3 yrs have been rough for 'healing' with the last 9 months being deep in hermit mode more so then ever after 2 back to back traumatic events. I also have guilt around being a creative that deely wants to turn their pain into art. I feel bad for the other side if I was to write my story/song/paint my artwork. I just have a few things I was thinking of that didn't get mentioned here. It might help others to also look at their attachment style (caused by truauma) as this will indicate how they respond to their own 'healing'. If one was never safe to express their big feelings in childhood then the reaction to them will be a maladaptive response. Such as needing 'to vent' out or to 'shut down'. It may help to ask 'how much of my response is helping my healing' or a reaction to what I'm feeling.
Attachment theory is useful for sure, thank you for adding this. Appreciate your attention and wishing you the best in your next steps on your healing path 🌲
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