The very question , "What are you?" , is an indication of racism. Someone thinks they have a right to size another person up. It's like saying "Explain yourself to me so I can decide if you're acceptable ".
Dawn D, Thank you for being on target with what you said. My grandson is biracial and I pray that he, Cole and others will take pride in their heritage, be the best person they can be, and don't look to others for validation or acceptance.
That is not always the case. It may just be curiosity. I love finding out where people hale from and about there cultures. I am of multiple ethnic gene pool. I look white as hell, but am French, Irish, Native American and African-American. I have been called everything. I don't what others call me. It matters most what God thinks and what I think. I am mostly Native American. That is not what a birth certificate from the 60s says.
Not necessarily depending on the context and the person. I would word it differently and tell them why I ask. I LOVE new cultures and people in general and that would be the ONLY reason I would ask. 😁
It's jst says uneducated, uncultured, boorish n uncouth to ask "what are you"..there are better ways of ask about someone's lineage if you r that curious
OMG Cole, they took advantage of you because you were alone but I give you credit for not taking on those clowns who would call you the n-word and freakin' joke about it, totally disrespecting and disregarding you as a member of society with feelings just like them. Keep your head lifted high and always be proud of all of who you are... we sure are. 😇🙏🏽❤
He better check that "friend" who took him there...Could have been a set-up. 😒 So glad he left and knows to look out for potential danger. He could have ended up like poor Tamla Horsford in Forsyth County, Georgia.
My husband and I had been considering moving to GA, he has been hearing stories about racism in GA which I think exists all across america, but more so in the south and stated like GA he thinks so he is not keen on the move. I am unsure because I think this is being black in America, we can never escape it. Location for the move has to be strategic.
So sad but this nations' legacy of slavery and miss treatment of people of color set these wheels in motion and I believe they will never stop rolling.
Finally! I was born to a pure Japanese dad and white woman in Illinois back in the 60's. Our eldest sister had a different dad, he was African American. So, we experienced racism daily. Even within our own families. Proud of you young man!!!! Child, I'm a mutt and proud of my heritage.
You are not a mutt. A mutt is a mixed bread DOG. You are NOT a dog. You are a HUMAN BEING who is made in the image and likeness of God ❤ (Genesis 1:26). You are fearfully and wonderfully made 😇 (Psalms 139:14).
He is beautiful! I can't believe that still in 2021 we gotta deal with Race. Im so sick of the hate. God made us all and when He made us, He didn't make any mistakes!
You do know that people have been saying “I CAN’T BELIEVE IT’S 1950 or 1960 or 1999 or 2021 and racism still exist. People will be saying that very same thing in America til Hell freezes over because racists teach their children and their children’s children to carry that torch of hate.it’s a systemic issue and until we dismantle the system, racism will always be around.
Unfortunately us humans have been fighting and dividing since we first walked this earth. Unfortunately, we'll being doing the same thing until we are extinct. Even if everyone was the same race, color, religion, etc, we'd still find something to divide us.
I am glad he is using his platform to bring awareness for us who also may not be mixed with black but are white passing and derogatory remarks are always made against our cultures and ethnicities.
It depends on how it's asked. I was actually asked this question a few days ago. "What's your heritage?" in a curious/polite way and I told the individual and then we had a nice conversation! Asking it in a rude manner is a whole other topic!
It's a pretty common question in areas where there's a mix of ethnicities that still keep old customs. Where I'm from, this guy would be asked to see if he was Greek, Syrian, or Italian, probably bc someone's planning on setting him up with someone else's sister.
@@marshacooper7096 I'm of mixed heritage and I ask it a lot. When I was a teenager, I read a letter to a teen magazine where the writer was complaining that people of her ethnicity don't eat the foods listed in the diet articles. I thought "Really? How interesting! What do they eat?" And then I thought about how my Asian grandmother always wants rice, even if we were having spaghetti. So I often ask and usually have to explain that I'm interested in family traditions and food culture, etc. I suppose I could do that without asking country-of-origin, but that American mix frommdifferent cultures is what interests me.
I agree. I have asked about someone's ethnicity. They tell me and I continue the conversation. Usually I ask if they speak the language. I ask about their culture. And the conversation continues.
Exactly, most people are just curious. They may not always know how to say things. Forrunely, people like to pore out everything to me. I let them, and usually that is a God thing for them and me. I get to pray with th if they like or they got to be heard. People are fascinating. I just love them all. I want to reach out and sometimes asking a person's heritage is an icebreaker. They feel genuine interest in them as a person. They open open and often there is a need for God's help, either on their end or mine. Sometimes on both. I have traveled the US, but not Europe or Africa or anywhere outside the US. So I am curious.
I will never understand how anyone can judge another person just because of their skin color. Let me tell you we have good people and bad people of every color and no person should be judged by who they were born to be.
@@willtarver6989 Don’t accept the idea that having black racial component is worse than having a Chinese component or something else. Wanting to know is normal, curiosity is normal, and our racial and cultural diversity is the most impressive part of the human specie. Maybe all racists want to know what you are, but not everyone who wants to know is a racist. People should flaunt their identities with pride, their confidence is more powerful than the irrational sentiments of racists.
Salute to this young King for unapologetically loving and being himself. 👑✊🏾 Your Black is beautiful 🤎💫 and those racists and ignorant people knows this, too! That's why they are intimidated.
I had someone ask me this question also, I was caught off guard because I clearly look black. I answered I am American 😂, then I realized the gentleman may have asked me that because I worked in the mall at the time and there were many different nationalities of people that worked there. When I use to work for a call center I had a guy call in for help and when I said my name, which is Latin, the next words that came out his mouth were "you must be Mexican." 😱I said no sir I am African American how can I help you. 😤I was thinking🤔 would he have hung up if I had said I was Mexican. You called me for help, I didn't call you. People are something else.🙄
I think you mean Latinx, Sophia, and it’s stupid anyway. Spanish is a gender based language and woke twits need to quit insisting on removing gender from everything. Sigh.
@@monstermcboo7282 I wish people would stop using the 2020 Foxnews definition of woke.it doesn't being opposed to logic , nor is it a dog whistle for liberals, or black or lgbtq people.
I’m SO HAPPY people are having this conversation! This has been an issue for 95% of mixed people for a very long time! It used to be such an issue for me since childhood, that I actually thought it was a ministry calling for me to teach about mixed and multiracial people. Full bloods push our struggles to the side, the same way people push race matters to the side. It’s very frustrating to us…especially when it’s an issue that’s hits hard at our identity.
Whoever that friend was that invited Cole to the pool party knew better. Anything could've happened to him at that party and no one would be the wiser. Sick people
People who ask the question already know. They just want to hear you say it. It's sad we still live in a world where racism exist. They should give all the racist people a country where they could live with own color. Wouldn't that be a sad place to live. No other race but your own.
That so called friend knew all alone what Cole is mixed with. He just wanted Cole to be the butt of his cruel joke. I pray Cole has ended his friendship with him.
Thank the Lord that this amazing young man was not harmed at the pool party. This happens all the time, but it’s always unreported or under reported. Biracial people go through the same harassment that black people endure when in majority race spaces.
That is why if I should ever had a child of a white person I would raise my child as black, though genetically they would be bi-racial because when push comes to shove most whites only see the black in them when they open up their racist mouth. So my child would know how to defend and protect his/her soul.
@@rosahacketts1668 black people do the same thing. Someone even started a petition for mixed to be declared a separate race. Let a child be a child and teach them to embrace the entirety of their heritage.
The person who invited him to the party obviously set him up for that. She must have known a bit about him to spread that information to the others for someone to just out of the blue ask him about his ethnicity. Thank you Jesus for protecting 🙏 this young King from a situation that was meant to harm him.
I totally disagree with your statement. How could she know what was in the heart of someone else? How do you know what is in her heart? You are really making grandiose statements. My nephew is black and Filipino. When I take him with me to meet my friends or out to eat or to church or wherever I go, I don't know the hearts of all those people. I love him and I want to share experiences with him. When I chat with someone or go to the bathroom and someone I know steps up to him and asks him what he is, I didn't set him up. Unfortunately, that is what he goes through because people are ignorant and don't know how to stay in their lanes. You never know just how ignorant a person is until they open their mouth and show you, even your friends.
@@VeeShay1 you came here to say this, but you don’t know the difference between a friend and an associate. Friends should know exactly who your nephew is. I talk to my FRIENDS about everything. I know what’s in their heart and they know what’s in mine. Associates however, are people you have a loose association with. They are completely different than friends. I’m not inviting associates to my home that’s private and personal. So you bringing your nephew around a group of people you don’t really know. Then leave him alone it’s your fault, and you are setting him up to be hurt. Just because you and OP are negligent with friends and family doesn’t mean everyone else is. He’s not your son, so maybe you don’t care about protecting him from harmful people. Just because there are Aholes out there doesn’t make it ok. They know what they are doing is wrong hence they ask when you leave, and you’re like oh well he’s mixed who cares he should get used to it. Great aunt you are. You’re just like the people this man was talking about. Seek help, and stay away from your nephew until then.
Agree with you. That said, the U.S. is now dropped to being the 26th country in the world of education. Why? We voters don’t give teachers a great salary…which translates to value. My brother wanted to be a teacher when he was young (with a masters degree) but he also wanted a wife & family & nice life. He became something else, made a lot …and noted that when I worked at a bookstore all the teachers had to spend their own money on extra books & just decorating their own classrooms. I’m in Florida…and our public education is not good at all. Maybe if differs elsewhere. I hope so. I was blessed with a great lower education but was in a city , then two a scholarships (I was lucky 🍀).
That's exactly right and she should be! Her son will have a completely different experience growing up especially after that very first Parent/Teacher conference! 👀
Those white people who were there joking and being cruel to him knew that they weren't in any danger of getting their asses handed to them as to why they felt comfortable being total assholes to him but kudos to him for definitely taking the high road
"What are you?" That question is just so disgustingly dehumanizing. It upsets me to my CORE. I'm an unambiguously "black" woman and I have been taken aback by the audacity of some people to ask another human "what are you?" just makes me angry.
They ask “what are you?” so they can determine how to either treat you with respect as someone similar to them or to treat you with disdain, disrespect, and disregard with their preconceived notions about what “other“ people are. Disgusting.
I try to tell people of all backgrounds when youre biracial/Mixed racist people dont care that youre half of something; when the other half is black or ethnic, gotten that question my whole life and im even darker then him but since im light hair light eyes I stand out no matter who im around and you have to learn to navigate your surroundings and stand up for yourself and the people they are being prejudice about.
He doesn't even look white-passing. My brain instantly said black because he presents as black, it looks like he's forcing that Jusrin Bieber haircut too, lol. It don't suit him. It's sad he has to go through that but that's what it's the struggle black people are subjected to facing.
Some whites will always discredit a person for being half of a non white race: they feel they can being that the person is half white and therefore they feel it gives them some type of accepted entrance to poke fun at the person.
When I was growing up all mixed people with a black parent were considered black. Not to deny their white parents but to accept them because we knew many in the rest of the world would only see and treat them as someone who was black. Now I see comments from some black people who criticizing women like Halle Berry or Zendaya when they refer to themselves as black women. It's like they are no longer accepted as black anymore just because the entertainment industry tends to ignore dark skinned women.
I know how u feel. My great gramps was black and I'm so white I could blind u. As a kid I was always asked who he was when ever we went out shopping or just out for a walk. It was truly upsetting for people to question me in front of him like he wasn't there.
As someone who gets this question _a lot,_ I have to say that people need to understand that this question isn't asked out of curiosity. It's asked so you can be classified and all the racial stereotypes and derogatory racist things can be applied to you. I have received this very treatment from both white and black people. I am always shocked by black people asking me, because I've never thought I looked anything but black. The black people who habe asked me have assumed I am Cuban, Puerto Rican or something among those lines. Then when they learn my family us multi-racial, they switch to accusations of me not claiming my blackness. White people (in my experiences) engage in the core racism and subtle racist white code talk that you always experience: questioning what side of town you live on, if _all_ of my sibling went to college, if my parents are married (um..yep 45 yrs until her death) and being shocked by that. Micro-aggressive racism.
That is not usually the case, being multiracial, I myself am curious sometimes, especially if a person has an accent I am not sure I recognize. I want to know more about their culture. It is not about being rude. It is about being genuinely interested in the person. I find people fascinating. I like to observe people from afar as well, or in restaurants, and how they interact with each other. I am an extrovert, and I ask questions sometimes for my own research. It isn't meant for harm. Every person on this Earth has a story. Impossible to hear them all, yes; I still want to hear as many as I can. Someone may never ask that person their story. I meet people in store who just tell me their story. More often than not I don't have to ask, but isn't it nice when someone cares enough to listen. Met a lady in the craft isle, She told she moved here from Germany as a child. 3 years ago to the day I met her her father was murdered. She was having a hard time. I listened, then we prayed right there, amazing thing happened others joined our prayer. All because I took interest in her accent.
@@sonianugent6429 Your experience is unique to you, as is mine. They will never be the same just because we are both multiracial. Your questions come from curiosity, that has not been _my_ personal experience.
@@sonianugent6429 that’s a bit out of scope. We are talking about experiences here in the US amongst other Americans. Someone who is not ethnically American, I can forgive the curiosity. Within our own country??? There is a time and place for it and identifying my mix is not a part of the get to know one another convo. However, we all walk our own path, and I honor your encounters.
If you pass me on the street, you'd think I was a white man. Talk to me and I will definitely tell you I'm not white. I wasn't born in this country. I was born in a third world country and immigrated here when I was as young. I was born in 1952 and my first experience of this country was in the South. Family accepted me. Strangers who thought I was white were friendly until they were told that I wasn't white. Learned quickly about race hatred. I came from a place where I wasn't judge by who my parents were to a place where I learned quickly about race and "where I belonged". I'll never forget our first encounter of having to choose between a white or a black bathroom. I wasn't either but I was both, sort of. To set the record straight for you, my great grandfather is from India. My grandfather is Filipino/Indian. My grandmother is Spanish. My great grandmother is black. And yet, I was born with blonde hair and green eyes. Confused? Good. Let's sit down and discuss which parent had which heritage and how this human being came into this world. So here I am at 69 years old and still having a discussion about race. I have always told people I'm a human being first and foremost. My mixture is just an aspect of what makes me one of God's wonderful creations. And that folks, is all anyone needs to know... Kudos to you son... Live in peace...
I had this happen to me at a Jeep event from a person who was Black/Puerto Rican in front of all white people. I am biracial (black/white). He assumed I brought the "N-word vodka" I had no idea what he was talking about. My white friend came to my defense by saying that he brought the drink and that it was not specifically for black people just because the vodka is owned by a black man. I said, 'Aren't you 1/2 black?' and he replied, 'Yeah, but I don't claim that side'. The white people laughed with him. I was in shock. My white friend got me out of there and I cried all the way home, as I've known and Jeeped with these folks for years.
@@Suil281 NOT ALL, but some Cubans and Puerto Ricans have black ancestry due to the Trans-Atlantic slave trade. From approx 1600 - 1865. I will have to re-check, the Civil War ended in April 1865 ,but the emancipation of slaves I think was 1863. Feel free to chime in with corrections.
He should've called them out but then again he's young, so I can understand the inside fears and confusion. But good on him... He handled it well regardless
This story doesn’t surprise me. I am happy this story was shared. Also Cole was so open and articulated his experiences in a way that made him very relatable.
My daughters say "Multi-Racial" Or "Bi-Racial" and also informed me that if someone has the nerve to ask. They feel MIXED IS A DOG.... I do have 5 grown children and 9+ grandbabies now so it is a family rule "What difference does it make and if it does to someone they are not worth their time."
I went the opposite way, started out by answering "human" and then eventually started thinking I needed to explain myself. It's good this is being talked about publicly.
Unbelievable that this crap that I have also experienced, still goes on~!! Why do people fixate on so many superficial things~!! You are obviously a very intelligent, young man~!!
His story reminded me of quite a few things that happened to me growing up and occasionally still happens. Depending on the situation/moment, I’m either friendly or blunt and walk away. It’s tiresome being asked “what are you?”, “what country are you from?”, or more recently in the last few years… “when did your family move to the states?”. Most apologize once I tell them that I’m biracial, black & white, and others are still in disbelief-assume I’m lying.
My mom was a full blooded Italian. My dad was black, white, and native and could be something else, as his mom was left on someone’s porch in the south in the early 1900’s. at a day old. Nobody wanted her because they could tell she wasn’t all white. So, they let the Native American woman who’s porch she was left on keep her. Growing up multi-racial in a 99 percent white city was hard. My half brother came here in the 90’s to visit from Seattle, and asked where the minorities were. We laughed and said, you’re looking at us.
Is your mother white Italian or dark Italian? I ask because I know someone whose husband is Italian and would think he was German or Swiss and then I have met other italians who have that rich olive complexion and dark hair and eyes.
@@rosahacketts1668 My mom had black hair and green eyes. She would break out in hives if she was in the sun. So, she was the whitest Italian I’ve ever seen.
That interview was not long enough and I would have asked him some much more detailed questions about his horrific experiences being of mixed race- Mixed race individuals go through horrible ostracizing and society makes them feel socially akward just by the way they are treated socially etc. When someone walks up to you with this, "WHAT are you" It is very offensive. They don't even have the courage to ask, "what RACE are you" it is horrible.
Good that he left that so called party. There are numerous cases of folks not returning alive from such gatherings. As far as why certain areas are not diverse is due to redlining, segregation, jim crow. America is diverse in select cities not nationwide.
I hate when people would ask me that crap. I use to tell them I am black but I got fed up with that question. When you’re at the gas pump, in the grocery store… that is a bit much. I started asking what they meant instead of answering, then I would say human. At times someone would tell me that I had to be mixed with something else. The nerve of people trying to define others. That was the straw that broke the camels back. I stopped answering them and put on my mean mugger face. The one that scares the crap out of my sons and friends who know me. Both of my parents are black and I don’t have to answer questions from ignorant people.
What mixed race people need to understand its that people are asking what you are so they can decide how to treat you. The mere fact that they have to ask you what you are so that they can make up their mind as to whether they will be accepting or prejudice should explain that you have a certain degree of comfort that a monoracial black person does not have. If you are visibly black on sight, the people who hate black people instantly hate you. He would not have experienced that racism if he had not disclose to them that he was mixed with black. That's the part that's been lost here. Him going further to say that the incident initially did not bother him lets me know that even though he experienced it, he does not understand the deep wound that racism makes on black people. Not only is he of mixed race descent, he's literally not biracial like his mother so he doesn't even fully understand her experience of being half black. He is a white man of mixed-race descent just as there are black people of mixed-race descent. The fact that someone had to ask what he is shows it.
You need therapy. This dissertation… no one was confused about what was happening except you clearly. There are many racialized black ppl that don’t know how to feel about racist incidents when they rarely experience them. It points to their open and accepting possibly sheltered home environments, not their lack of blackness. And for you to dictate what he is because of how YOU feel makes you just as bad as those racist wppl. Absolutely disgusted by you and everyone who liked this BS comment.
We have too many resources for people to still be ignorant. I am happy for this gentleman to have such a positive attitude. I love his response of him just being a person. I’ve always been confused on what’s it to people of what you are mixed with. Especially by them using it in a negative content
@@An-qp3th ? What does black look like? That's a very ignorant uneducated thing to say again if you need help there is always Google and it's free 🤷🤷🤷🤷🤷🤷 phenotypically with his broad nose and broader bone structure you can tell he's mixed with black again black phenotype includes bone structure skin color hair texture there is a black phenotype and a phenotype when someone is black adjacent like the young man in this video who in my opinion doesn't look white at all and I could tell right off the bat he's mixed with black as for Mediterranean I'm not sure what that means? I been saying much like black people white people aren't a monolith they can look all sorts of ways depending on where you travel in Europe but racially they're Caucasian if you have seen a Southern European person they look just as white as anybody in Western Europe and Mediterranean is not a race as for Halle and Obama we know they're mixed but because of their complexion hair texture facial features they get classified as black in America Halle has said herself her mom would tell her as a kid that the world was gonna see her as a light skinned black woman she's not trying to disconnect her from her white side but because of how racist America was at the time she was coming up if you had one drop of black blood you'd be considered black
@@An-qp3th he is attractive cause he is attractive. Has nothing to do with mixed raced. All mixed race people are not attractive. To me, he does look latino, middle eastern, or indian
I don’t know why she asked him why he feels uncomfortable or questions all white spaces, especially since he lives in the south. Racism is still very much alive!
She’s an interviewer so she can’t presume, she has to ask to get him to say more. She speaks for audiences who may not get why all white spaces are suspect.
Ok then. A culinary quiz for you Ms. Tami . . . where I'm from the biggest question is "Red or Green?" And if you want both, it's called "Christmas!" What's the food? And from where? :)
He should've told them he was mixed with Sugar and Sh** 💯 people can be so Freaking Rude! Just stop answering the question period you don't need too explain what you are to Anyone. Period!
You are exposing yourself for who you truly are. We will all give an account to God for every idle word that we have spoken to hurt 😔 others in this lifetime. The Bible is Gods final authority and we should all take account of our lives and ask Jesus Christ to save us from our sins before it’s eternally too late ⏰. Praying that you be granted repentance by TMH. Jesus says that He’s not willing that any should perish but that may have eternal life.
He tells his story well..and I understand what his mom was doing! I experienced the same environment growing up that no speaking about my mix heritage..if people want to raise children that are mixed then do it right and teach them where and who they are don't hide it like it's some disease
My husband is middle eastern and I like to ask that question...I love ❤️ Nevada because we are all mixed and equal !! We support each other we are chipping away at suppression everyday
Im mixed and colorism is so real it's sad. "What are you? " is the question, when i was young i was so angry about peoples stupidity, im older now and when someone asks me that I either say im a human or a dolphin.
Our society is dangerous still, and it can be like navigating a ship on the open sea. Watch how people move before you consider socializing with them. Because sometimes they will use you for jokes, or as someone to get hurt for their pleasure and in some cases even killed. Be careful always.
That's the thing with these rap songs and people singing along. They get too comfortable and forget how offensive these words are. No one should have to feel low from this. That's why we need to continue teaching history.
People assume my daughter is mixed and she deals with the same mess. Her dad and I both on the lighter side and he and my aunt has green eyes. She inherited both. She has been told that she is in denial as to who her father is and he cannot possibly be black. She’s been called a half breed and worse. (We live in Rutherford County, Tennessee.) The schools here doesn’t t handle the situations that was come up. They’re sometimes just as bad as the kids. Especially the middle schools (there were 2) she went to. She’s in high school now and they are atrocious too. I went to school in another state and I thought they were bad. They don’t have nothing on here. I told her nobody can tell her her own story. She know who a her is and she doesn’t have to justify or comment on it to anybody. My attitude is if they don’t like that she exists don’t look at or talk to her. End of story. Fortunately she has the support of my mother who went through the same thing. So she knows it not just words coming from me. I personally don’t understand people who do stuff like this or even think it’s their business. Why are they so pressed? Nobody asked to born a certain color or race, it’s just who and what we are. Don’t like it then don’t bother that person.
There’s a lot here. The issue is they think I had the audacity to have a child by a white person not realizing that her dad is actually black. It was bad when she was born because she was as light as my mom with blue eyes. My mother has a very light complexion. She’s usually mistake for white from a distance (both parents are black). So she’s understands more of what she deals with. She’s not as light as her anymore but her eyes are greenish hazel. We moved to Tennessee when she was a baby. I thought North Carolina was rough. Tennessee is 20 times worse. I had a job with a supplier in the automotive industry. They had a family day and we went. They were already crappy people to begin with things got a lot worse once they saw my daughter. And this from a supervisor who was adopting her brother’s child who is mixed. I think he’s doing it to not appear to be the bigot he really is. Anyway, that was the first thing I was asked about. I said nope she’s black. I was asked about pictures of her dad , will he be coming by. Nope. He started looking for ways to write me up to point me out. He got close when my grandmother die and I went to North Carolina for the funeral. They pointed me to the kilt. I quit when they give me the lead who was the biggest village idiot ever. He was supposed to fix our machines and welders if he couldn’t call maintenance. He wouldn’t try. He told people around me to call me. It wasn’t my job. I did a few times and then started called other leads. He started be aggressive toward me and they didn’t do anything. Then he hit me with a clipboard. He accused me of spreading a rumor someone else started and the person told him I didn’t. I asked to be moved they refused and I quit. I put up with theses people for almost 3 years. I was a stylist when I moved here and had been one for 14 years. Moved to Tennessee and I didn’t fit the image of a stylist. Why I fit it in Charlotte area but not in Nashville area. And you right I do need to move. 15 years of this is affecting my health. I thought move back home and being around family would be nice. I was gone for 30 years and want my daughter to know my family since me son rarely saw them. They didn’t tell me about all of this. I would’ve moved somewhere else. My uncle moved back here from California. He was here 3 months and moved back.
Thank the Lord that is amazing young man was not harmed at the pool party. This happens all the time, but it’s always on reported or under reported. Biracial people go through the same harassment that black people indoor women all majority race spaces.
This story is so common. My ethnicity has been question by many since elementary school. People need alot of teaching or keep it simple... I am human. We are all humans/ Mortals.
That’s the way it is down south,I remember when I first moved here in Alabama people always asked me , and I remember feeling so uncomfortable having to explain that I was from the Caribbean, my dad is black,& my mom is mixed ,white & Native Indian , am proud of my heritage and I just don’t think is right to explain to people, why is everything have to be about race, or color why some people think is right to make jokes, I just don’t know?
I feel for him and everyone who has experienced things like this. It does not just happen to biracial people. We all are a bit of Heinz 57. Both of my parents are black however on both sides there is caucasian and native american as well. I too over the years have been asked what I am. Unfortunately, ignorance is not bliss and neither is stupidity.I think sometimes people ask out of curiosity because the person they are asking does not fit into their perceived notion of what they think or feel you might or should be.
I hate when someone is biracial or mixed and a ignorant person says “ So what do you identify as?” This makes me upset bc every race should be appreciated and acknowledged, so I would hope they say they identify as both races in them and not just one race. There’s more than one race in them, so they should acknowledge both races.
@@PHlophe It’s because I look like a Pacific Islander on the West Coast and Hispanic on the East Coast or Filipino. They wouldn’t know my last name. Even when I modeled in New York my agent asked me how people saw me.
I have to say… If I don’t see any other ethnicities at a gathering, I will ask myself ‘why’. I grew up in a very culturally diverse city. I had parents who never once uttered a negative word about anyone from another culture or ethnicity (how fortunate was I!). What does that even mean? “You are a half inward?”. Being from Canada, and a much more progress city, country, I don’t even like when people use the word race because we were taught it is one race. Human. We use words like culture or ethnicity. My daughter is both bi-cultural (her Dad is from the US) and bi-ethnic… he is a black man. My daughter though… she isn’t half of anything. She is a whole human. She is a beautiful brown-skinned woman who shouldn’t ever have to answer that ignorantly pushed question ‘what are you?’. Ask a person where they are from. Ask them their heritage, but ‘what’ infers something, not someone. ‘What’ infers your ignorance.
@1:23 Having experienced discrimination and racism in PW communities I can identify with his point of view. An eerie feeling takes over when you know something is off.
It gets so old people lacking the understanding of mixed people which can result several different ways. Mixtures come in a lot of ways but not everyone is dark and a lot of times siblings come out like rainbows because truthfully….we’re all mixed in some way however some of us have more than one ethnicity and race in our parents or two biracial parents of four different ethnicities. It’s also terrible when people can’t see siblings look alike because they’re different colored and have the same parents.
He looks Bi-racial why question it??? It doesn't matter what color he is.It is how a person is. His/her personality, goodness of his his/her ❤. A lot of ppl dont ask that question what are you....???/What are you mix with.?? That's sad.....???
Great video! Biracial or mixed people/multiracial people or mixed Black people come in all types of different shades/skin tones, features, and hair textures. He has a lighter skin tone but what matters is that he was raised to be and is a decent human being regardless of how he appears.
I seriously doubt he has a connection to the black side. Despite what happened, he's still probably more comfortable in a predominately white environment.
@@thrshwll1526 Notice he said he didn't get upset until his mother did...it appears he didn't have an internal alarm telling him something was wrong. Maybe not "all-white", but I still believe he will run in "predominately" white circles and yes, I could be wrong.
I have culturally mixed grandchildren and great grandchildren ….my daughters found out how Big the white part of my family is and were afraid they might choose someone who could be related, sooo they chose black and Vietnamese to be sure they were not, and one of my granddaughters chose a Mexican man…..so now the cultural mix is: French Irish German English Native Black Vietnamese and Mexican …. Who Knew I would be the Melting Pot….🤗
Cole yr very handsome darling young man....I'm older taken me years to learn to listen to my own truth...believe in oneself trust God regards frm N.Z. 🙏
I love the fact that he is FULLY in tune with being black. He accepts the struggles. He does appear mostly white, as he is. But he is in tune with being black, even while having a white father. I LOVE IT
I am angry about the exchange and I am white. I am glad his mother showed him that it was worth being angry at. I could never imagine asking anyone that question. The fact that they followed up with the rascist word while laughing is horrific. They should be ashamed. I am ashamed for them.
I agree they behaved shamefully. To ask an ignorant question is one thing but to follow up with a racist name calling shout out to your guests? It is more than horrific. This young man was obviously a guest as well. The racist host is a small, weak man who did not have the human decency to treat his guests with respect. He could have quietly taken this young man and the guest who brought him and privately ask them to leave if he did not want him in his home. I'm so glad this young man left, for his own sake.
Looking at him I would think he's mixed but I wouldn't even think to ask a rude question like 'what are you' ? Like it's anyone's business. Just a bunch of stupid people trying to make themselves feel better about themselves. I'm glad he listened to his instinct and got himself out of there as soon as he could.
A message for Cole, you are absolutely gorgeous my love, from a white uk lady with 2 mixed race black nieces from Guyana, a Jamaican mixed race nephew, an Italian mixed race grandson and an Indian mixed race niece and nephew. I love them all equally. If ignorant people ask you that very offensive question again just say “excuse me, would please rephrase that question or are you deliberately being rude” you are lovely and would happily have you in my family. ❤️❤️❤️
