I remember vividly the days, (in the 80's), when testing + for HIV, usually meant death within 2 Years. It seemed like every couple of weeks I would be saying goodbye to someone I knew. For those of us who survived, we see HIV infection much like diabetes. The Worst is over friend, Love Yourself, Take Care of yourself and Love those around you. Happy Holidays Friend, I wish you many years of Happiness !!!
I am so sorry for everything you've been through. Please don't give up. HIV is very treatable. I believe many people are taking one pill each day and their viral load is undetectable meaning it's almost impossible to transmit the virus to someone else. You will live a long and wonderful life. Just take your medication, and you will do great!
I love you, Jamie. I don't even Know you and I love you so much. I hope you're doing well today. I'm a femme 2-spirit bisexual and I was SA'd while working as a SW. I was infected with something curable and I thank the gichimanidoo for that. But I wrestled with the absolute fear of HIV. I lost weight and fell into crippling depression. I found myself seeking out people who could relate. No one's touched me the way you have. I'm so sorry but I'm glad you're trying to heal. I am too. All we can do is move ahead and have our days. Thank you for telling your story. ❤
I think you've provided one of the most honest, heart-breaking, accurate and brave posts about contracting HIV that I've ever seen. Thank you Jamie for being so real and through your post, educating others. I can't believe on 1,399 people have seen this.....hopefully more in future. I wish you all the very best and hope that you're getting the care you need to support you in the UK. God Bless You.
Man, I am sending you a virtual hug. You are so brave to be able to share your story publicly and I commend you for that. I wish you nothing but great health. I don't know you but I think that you are strong and resilient. And despite this unfortunate situation, I don't think it defines the sum of you. Be well.
Dear it took courage to make your video. I will pray for you. you do not realize that you probably saved many lives by talking from your heart. Ignorant people will always exist. ignore them. with love Tangela.
Thank you for sharing your story with us. I can tell it was truly not easy for you to get through the whole story, but you did, and I am proud of you. May you always gain more strength, the more you tell it. Hoping the years have been good to you. xx
God bless you man, you be alright have faith in god bro. Hiv is no longer a death sentence, 1 pill day keep aids away. I'll pray for your health god bless
Dont worry about telling people. Tell them. They should know unknown/untreated hiv infections are a risk factor as well as having wounds/inflammations in your mouth. Its not worrying them, its educating. Its good to know what might happen. Thanks for sharing, I hope life has been much kinder to you after this terrible time in Switzerland.
Respect for you, it takes a lot of courage to tell all in public ! No matter what is one's sexual orientation, HIV and other much more easily transmitted STIs are a risk for anyone.
Hey Jamie, glad that you shared your story. I am positive myself, and have been for ten years. I didn't have any idea that I was infected until the disease had progressed to AIDS. I went to the hospital thinking that I had the flu only to find out that I was very close to death with pneumocystis pneumonia. Thank Jesus that HIV technology has progressed to the point that it can be treated safely at any stage. I understand your being emotional. I, myself, went through a whole gambit of terrible feelings. You hang in there brother. You are not alone.
In the end was all the sex worth HIV...if u had a do over would u have been more careful?......I would rather die a virgin then have HIV and have sex with 2000 partners.....I was no angel, but I have stopped....when i look back the sex is not important.....
And see that's what scares the hell out of me. I used to be very oral. I was the king of oral. I'm surprised I did not get it. I even did oral after a week of getting some work done on my teeth. That was dumb as hell. I got an infection from that oral even and had to have the tooth pulled but thank God the guy was not infected or I would have been telling this same story. This same exact stroy. I have been truly blessed that I'm healthy till this day and I'm abstaining from sex at this time. It's time to take a damn break. I do not want to press my luck. At 56 I had been hitting it hard from the time I was 18 in the era when AIDS was killing EVERYONE. I thank my lucky stars but I can say I have truly lived, loved and had a ton of fun but the doormat has been taken up. I can do other things in my life other than putting my life on the line with a person, who I do not know anything about.
Jon Dishmon Music and STUFF!! Lol... well keep your self safe. Don't do that no more. Even us women at home wait on our husbands to do such things, but we don't have a clue where our husband's have been. When he call me to give him oral, I have a hard time going in there because I am afraid to. You never know what kind of infection they have.
I am so sorry to hear about your story. You went through a lot, but I thank God for giving you the strength you needed when you were going through that time❤❤❤keep your head up bro. God’s got you🙏🏿🙏🏿
Thank you for sharing such a personal part of your life with us. It was so honest and brave. I truly hope that you continue to stay strong and healthy. We are so unbelievably lucky to live in a time where we have access to an abundance of treatment, and have advanced medication for HIV/AIDS. Although it is so unfortunate you have contracted this, it is very fortunate that you have got it in a time where you can still live your life relatively normal, and full. I am in no way trying to downplay the severity of your illness by any means, I’m just trying to share positivity with you, so you can continue to live a happy FULL life. Again thank you for sharing your story. All my love to you xo
This was obviously very difficult for you. I think it's great that you've had the courage to tell your story. Awareness is important to preventing transmission and for helping those who have contracted it. All the best. X
Thank you for sharing your experience -- what a terrible alignment of shitty things to have to deal with all at once. You're a strong person and admire your courage. I'm sorry that you are still in so much pain re: your HIV diagnosis. I hope that your sadness is more intense because you're speaking publicly because I would hate to know that you carry the weight of so much emotion day to day. I'm old enough to remember the early days of the AIDS epidemic when an HIV diagnosis was pretty much the same as being told that you would be dead soon. There were no effective treatments in the 80's, and it wasn't until 1996 that a combination of meds became available that could completely suppress the virus. Nobody wants to get a disease, even one as easily treatable as HIV currently is. But, I find it ironic that the many friends of mine who died in those early years would have given anything to trade places with you and would consider you lucky as hell to be diagnosed with HIV at a time when you can expect to live a normal lifespan. You are a beautiful soul, and I'm happy for you that you will likely die with HIV rather than from HIV.
Mad respect for you, sir. Stay healthy and I am so glad that you live in an age where we have anti-retrovirals. Love watching you kill it at the gym.❤❤
Stay strong. To the haters, have some empathy for we all have little time on this earth to live the way that we are treating this planet. Stay on your meds and take care of yourself. Your life is important to your friends and family. God bless you.
Thank you for sharing your story. I can't imagine how hard it is to recant your emotional story. I was there when my friend Martin tested +. Was horrible.
Gratitude.. be thankful.. breathe in.. realise the gift of life. Connect with your soul and connect with God. HIV makes your life sharper.. life more real. You are more conscious of life. Do these and you'll see how much better it gets.
God bless your soul, you are strong to be living today. You are here on this planet to serve a purpose. We thank you for your braveness on sharing your story.
Bloody hell mr you poured your heart out there. You come across as an amazing person. You should be proud of yourself that took courage to do that. You are clearly a person of great character. All the best
Fair reminder to ALL communities, condoms have a 3 to 5% failure rate. Even when you THINK it's safe sex....I am SO sorry about the horrifying intro to AIDS. Blase attitude--there's that famous British stiff upper lip. YOU are a GOOD, WONDERFUL PERSON!
I'm sorry this happened to you. I understood why you said you had safe sex. You were referring to sex with penetration, right? Usually people say that it's very unlikely that someone will get hiv through oral sex. So you weren't expecting this. In fact you were very unlucky. But at least now people can be aware that this type of situation could also happen to them. So if someone has a big sore on their mouth, or if their mouth for some reason is bleeding, it's not safe to have oral sex with someone whose hiv status they don't know. I hope you're doing well nowadays.
It's very traumatic. Thank you for sharing this. I can see how this affects you. I'm Diabetic on Insulin and I feel a common bond in living with a life long chronic condition.
I wish you all the best.In my opinion you have to forget how you got it.Yes you were extremely unlucky but what is important right now is to fight it.When people ask you how you got it tell them you were just unlucky.You dont have to live these moments again and again.Its a torture for you.Hang in there man
So sad Can't get worse than this Be strong my friend ...there is. A pill .....what will give u a normal life ...wish u all the best and thank u for sharing such hard personal information
Thank you so much for sharing your story, it will certainly help a lot of people. Try and be strong at the end of the day this world is NOT OUR HOME, ALL OF US ON EARTH ARE JUST PASSING THROUGH.
Somehow this vid popped up in my feed. There must be a reason. Your story rigged on my heart strings. Where ever you may be now, I am sending you hugs, love and much compassion. 💕💕
Ty for you story my friend. You’re a strong individual to share your unfortunately story. I Hope today your still doing well and that you living the best life you can.❤
I feel so sorry for you. As of now, I am still waiting for my own results. I'm far away, far away from my loved ones in a foreign country. I'm scared and alone. However, I would still give you a big hug for being so frank and for All the hurdles that you went through. All the best, Vincent
@@j.l.j.1699 Thanks for asking. Fortunately, I received my results and I tested negative. However, I still believe that this experience was eye-opening about a topic that I was previously unfamiliar with.
That's good man I've had multiple negatives come even at 4 months but idk I'm still worried like I just can't grasp it.. but yur right it had totally changed my train of thought and the way I look at life..
@@j.l.j.1699 Eye-opening experience. Unfortunately for some, they didn't have the same outcome. However, instead of stigmatizing them, we have to accept them with open arms.
I think that these videos you make are incredibly important for raising global awareness and keeping people safe. _important_, I can't stress that word enough.
OK why is it that almost every HIV story I have heard starts with a guy saying " I met this guy".........i realize that not all people get it from being gay or bi some even get from there opposite sex part and are born with it but seriously almost every story I hear starts with that....Why choose this horrible lifestyle......why please someone tell me I really want an answer educate me
Because being gay isn’t a choice. While having sex with a person of the same sex is a choice, being attracted to the opposite gender is not one. I think a better question is why people of any sex are having sex without condoms before they know their partners status.
Some were tricked into this lifestyle..at a very young age..by older teens who groomed them and misguided them into adopting this lifestyle....kind of like the pied piper of hamelin... its a tough world out there for many kids out there who aren't smart and come from a poor household...
I feel for you mate. I’m negative myself and straight but it shouldn’t matter about any persons preference. I’m truly sorry this happened to you, genuinely moved me watching this video. No one can be strong all the time, respect the fact that your so open! These haters commenting on this video are vile people, it’s very hard to understand something unless your in that position yourself and god help many of them because despite what people may think HIV can be passed heterosexually to women AND to men, pray that many never have to face what you have. Stay strong brother, keep taking your meds and everything will be okay
Hang in there, God loves you and so do we. Bless your heart. Stay strong, don't worry to much, now days there is more hope in medicine. You will be healthy soon.. keep praying as I will pray for You to.
Awe you dear sweet man. I want to just take you up in my arms and reassure you that there's no need to be so worried and fearful. You'll be just fine... Easier said than done though to remain calm. I remember my day in a clinic office 15 years ago when I was diagnosed. Scared shitless! Love & Blessings!
I honestly am so sorry you had to go through that ! And I'm also sorry for all of these trolls on your page leaving nasty comments! Obviously they have no respect ! Fuck em! But I truly hope things get better for you and you love a happy life regardless
Thanks for sharing your story . i got chicken pox through oral sex . tested and not in the scene anymore . wisdom teeth extract and all . hope you are happy and living the life you want . i also know the feeling of making a secure income and losing it . but please do not give up.
Brother after getting chicken pox did you went for hiv test? And are you sure it was chicken pox ? Not herpes or herpes zoster i am going through a situation your reply can help me
@@zamzamar9376 Yes i got tested . went to the hospital and got anti viral meds. hope this helps. be careful out there . i use condoms now when doing oral sex. hope this helps.
Your soul is beautiful...you are so brave and strong and handsome and you are not ashamed of your emotions and not afraid of telling your story..i like you...i wish i had more people like you in my life
Your case is probably common. You know the number of guys walking about with gum disease? HIV through oral sex may not be talked about often but it's quite prevalent.
I think I may be in the exact same situation. Revived oral from someone and have been feeling stomach pains and having diarrhea for about a week or so. Also have a slight sore throat, have been sneezing a lot and feel pressure sometimes near my sinuses. Also was waking up with a stuffy nose and would be blowing out greenish yellow mucus. I believe it may be my immune system trying to fight an infection. Had a canker sore for about 3-4 days and a lump near my armpit which I believe may have been a swollen lymph node. However it went away in about 2-4 days. I'm very scared because now that I look back at it the person had just had Their wisdom tooth pulled although I don't remember the time frame from when they get them pulled to when they gave me oral. It has been about 2-3 months now and I've been battling with slight stomach pains, dry/slight sore throat, and feeling tired. I'm very scared. I don't have anyone to talk to and I need to let this all out. Its killing me because I think I may have infected the person I am now seeing. They claim they feel dizzy, headaches, chills , and are also have diarrhea and stomach pains. Idk if it's the anxiety I'm experiencing that is giving me these symptoms, but I still haven't gotten the courage to go and get tested. These symptoms are on and off. Some days I feel okay and others I have dry/soar throats and achy ears. Please if anyone could talk to me I'd really appreciate it :(
I got infected 1 year ago (May 2023) and I don't even think about it anymore. I just take the daily pill and that's it. I thank God that HIV meds are free in my country.
I feel so bad for guys like him.....I was into trans women for years......one day I looked in the mirror and looked so handsome and healthy and said that is it I am done with dangerous sexual partners......I am HIV negative and plan to stay that way...60 mins. of sex is not worth ones life and health....if you gave this man a choice of never having dangerous sex again and being HIV negative or have that type of sex and get sick I know he would say forget the sex I want my health back..
I’m totally confused. Is he trying to say, A. He got it from giving oral. B. Because he had a compromised immune system because of a improperly held tooth 🦷 . C. Both?
It is making me cry to hear your story because this is what I am going through now. I have been recently diagnosed with HIV few days ago and since then I have been in so much of emotional pain. My chest is feeling heavy and there is a constant anxiety that is not letting me accept what has happened. I don't know what I am going to do now.
Steven Abbott Yes, they don't fully protect. Its just a matter of time we to get sick. Because theres lots of diseases that the condom won't protect. What about the out side skin? because you can easily get warts, HPV , and herpes. You know what I mean. And what about if you always are faithful and your partner is not. I had hpv while preggo and my husband brought it home. Of course he deny it. Freaken coward he didn't thought about my unborn child and me. Thank God that virus left my body with all the prayers I did. God saved me. Now I am afraid to get near that bastard. Pinche culero pendejo... dumb ass MOFO. that is what I meant for my husband sick bastard.
