Never EVER apologize for feeling hurt or pain. The emotions you have are completely valid and you owe nobody an apology for having such feelings. Your bravery in coming to grips with this and telling us is a good start to the healing that wants to take place. Besides, you never know. One of your children might give you a grandchild one day that will bring the baby you wanted back to you. :)
As someone who never ever wants kids, I can’t relate at all to the yearning you’re feeling for a child, but it hurt my heart to see you in so much pain 😞 I’m impressed that you still got rid of those items! That took a lot of strength, clearly! You’re making huge strides in your decluttering journey.
Out of 5 pregnancies, I have one beautiful daughter. I feel your pain...but I feel your love too! And there is sooo much more love than pain. Let it lead. ❤ Awesome video. Thank you so much for your time and effort making this. 😉👍❤
I'm so proud of you and your progress. You are doing an amazing job. 😁 I love your heart. I'm sorry that you have had the hurt and loss in your life. It is so hard to gift those items that have so much emotion attached to them. I recently gifted my daughter's crib/toddler bed to another mother who needed one. While it felt amazing to bless someone else, I cried because I realized that for the first time in 14 years there was not a crib in our bedroom. Her crib was the last one. It was the closing of a door. I pray God helps to comfort and heal your beautiful heart. ♥️
Is there space in your basement to set up a present station? A shelving unit with the gifts and a wrapping paper and gift bag area? Because you're such a giver I think this would be so good for you!
I second this!! It seems these items need a drop zone that is convenient and easy to use. Otherwise old habits of putting it off to the side and out of site will bring the clutter/hoard back.
I was thinking of turning the 3rd bathroom into a giving station until you said you were going to get it functioning again. You will want a nearby flat surface to wrap on, but maybe a drop down or pull out surface so it doesn't get dumped on in between uses.
I went back to the beginning of your channel and watched most of your videos. You are truely brave and an inspiration. Thank you for sharing your personal challenges in such an open and honest way. It's such a gift to all who watch. ❤❤❤
I’m so sorry for your and your husband’s loss. Three miscarriages is so tough and takes such a toll physically and emotionally. Sending you hugs and love. My sister in law had several miscarriages and she found planting a rose bush or special flowers helped with her grieving process.
Perhaps the Women's shelter has a mother who has nothing for her baby, it won't stop you from hurting for yours, but it might help you feel the precious items have a real purpose to be handed on. I've never lost a pregnancy, I cannot begin to know how it feels and I am so moved by the bravery and compassion expressed among the comments here.
Thank you so much my beautiful friend 🙏🏻💜🌟🦄 The women’s shelters mean a lot to my heart and I love helping them in any way I can 💞 It does give my life purpose to help the beautiful ladies staying there.
Pretty bathroom. I noticed the floor -- my kitchen floor used to be the same linoleum (house built 1968) -- make my heart happy to see it and the memories of family time in our kitchen. (played jacks with my mom on that floor! and she's been gone for almost 32 years now). I am working on decluttering that family home to move out of the area, so I appreciate your tips to keep my heart happy. I am sorry you were not able to have and hold some of your children this side of heaven. Glad you are sharing the struggle for others -- we tend to keep the hard areas secret instead of sharing our grief which helps others process, too. Keep up the brave work.
wow that was very strong to give the babystuff away. You progressed so much over the yaers. You are a wonderful mother for your boys. Love from germany.
Hugs I am so sorry for your loss it’s so painful! I love how you stopped and processed and grieved and let go of the baby items. Prayers for you! I only found you a week ago and you have helped me so much. Gift giving is my love language too and I am also creative and see potential in most things. I also try to save money which sometimes means holding onto things. I’m working on hot spots and huge piles too right along with you
Miss Heart ❤️ if I could ease your pain I would and so would so many of us watching. Sending you hugs, love, healing, prayers and comfort to you and your family. ❤️🤗🙏 Your so brave to share such painful emotions. I’m also glad you knew your limit and spent time with your family. Stay safe and healthy. Mary, Joes wife 💐❤️
So proud of you, I had a miscarriage of my first pregnancy, it does get more bearable, I will always miss her, even after 26 years, but I know I will hold her in heaven one day. Stay strong xxx
I'm so proud of you for allowing yourself to let go and take the time to grieve what needs to be grieved. It's so crucial to allow ourselves the opportunity to feel the emotions, and then to let go of them.
my hearfelt sympathy for your loses and you are so brave in giving those items for others to love and use. Stay strong and know that many follow your journey with warm thoughts in our heaerts for you and your family.
You were very honest and raw about your feelings regarding the baby stuff. The other stuff isn't going anywhere until you're ready to let go. Great to see the sink and I think I saw a toilet there as well. Keep up the good work.
You are so wise to know when to stop and process those emotions. I'm so sorry for your loss. You are doing such a great job. You are doing so much to help my marriage as my husband has hoarding disorder. The words you give to your process and feelings help me understand him and interact with him so much better. Thank you for sharing your raw life.
Maby take the toilet out completely if you dont have to use it. Then put an organisation system in place for your 💛-gifts and such, so it brings joy insted of frustration. You re doing great. I m so happy for you every week.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your 3 babies, I can see so much pain in your face it's breaking my heart. I also want to say how amazing and strong you are, thank you for sharing this difficult decision with us. Love to you and your family.
Seeing you cry was so heart breaking, you’re normally such a ray of sunshine ! You’re doing such a great job, I know I’m currently struggling giving away my newborn baby stuff 😓
I completely understand your feelings going through the baby stuff. I've experienced my first lost this year and I can't imagine getting rid of the stuff I've saved from my son for baby #2. Thank you for sharing that raw moment. 💔❤️
Sending you so much love and compassion. I can’t imagine how you feel but I want to gather you up and hold you as you mourn and process all these feelings. Spending time with your boys sounded like a great way to go forward. I am amazed by your strength. There is never a need to apologize for having feelings. We love you and are hear in your corner always 💗💗💗
Ms Heart you made me cry so hard....I wish I could hold your hand so I know you don't feel alone right now. We all love you and when you said you were going to let those things go so that another Mommy could be blessed with them I realized just how strong in your you have become!!! You have such a loving giving sweet heart~~~ Bless you dear lady 💜💜💜💜
Knowing how hard this journey can be at times, thank you for being so real, honest and inspirational in your decluttering journey. So many of these channels seem 'fake" or "perfect" and your channel really shows how hard this journey can be but how worthwhile the successes are. You should be so proud in of yourself!
It breaks my heart to see you so upset 😥 you are so strong for letting those baby items go. I also have a strong strong yearning for children and I know my heart would also be broken giving those items away. I’m so proud of you. This is a WIN❤️
SO proud of you! For feeling your feelings while still letting stuff go, PLUS recognizing when you are or aren't in a state of mind to make the decluttering progress you want to & taking care of yourself mentally & emotionally
A few tips I have noticed work for me: 1. Get off fb marketplace or only go there when you need something. Otherwise you end up hoarding stuff you would not even think of just because they are free/cheap. 2. I personally like giving others things that can be used up. So they are useful for some time and remind them of me but my gifts don't declutter their place. They can use it and then throw it away. 3. I don't look at ads/leaflets because they make me want more or feel I need something. I only buy something when in my everyday life I get a few times the feeling that I just NEED something. Only after I can pinpoint my need I go and buy one that I really LOVE even if it's a little expensive.
Oh I think it would be so great to get the bathroom back to working... I am so excited for this video. Edit: I am so sorry for your loss. And I am so proud of you for making your choices of what to let go.
Thank you for sharing your moment of struggle with us. Even though you were sitting by yourself in front of a camera, remember you are certainly not alone. I'm sending all my love and strength. 💜💙💚
My heart goes out to you & I know your pain. I had 2 pregnancies I lost at 3 months. It is a lot to handle emotionally, but when I realized that one day I will see & be with my 2 children in heaven, it makes my heart glad & thankful. Take heart - Jesus reigns!
I came to this channel a while back for the room transformation but stayed for the soul transformation :) Its been amazing to watch you grow as a person over this videos. Dont ever feel like you need to apologize for needing to take time to sort through the emotions. You're more than allowed to and its healthy and good to do so. Thank you for being so authentically you and letting us come along on this journey *hugs*
No need to be sorry. You have gone through a great loss and a huge heartbreak. I'm sending prayers 🙏 and hugs🤗 to you. I hope you had a wonderful mother's day with your boys. 💐
You have so many insights to offer as a recovering hoarder! Thank you for expressing these raw emotions and teaching us that it's better to stop decluttering to process them rather than force ourselves to push through because more progress will be made in the end if we're not in that state of mind where we want to hold on to everything. You are one brave lady and I just love you.
Girl don't apologize for crying about something that's hurting you. You're so strong for sharing, and for letting things go that mean so much. Good for you!
Ms. Heart, I am sending you huge hugs!!! You are so strong. You never have to be sorry. You are doing great work and helping a ton of mamas by sharing your story. Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I wish I could give this video 1000 hearts, because you explained it so well and it is terrible what happened to you and your family. Loss is awfull, especially 3 times in 1.5 years! Sending power en happiness your way 🌻🌻🌻
You are doing a great job. You are a great mom. You have been given challenges but you are strong and loving person. Keep your head up and know that you are an inspiration to many women. Prayers to you.
Hugs to you, I know how tough it was to get rid of the baby item. You know it was the right thing to do. Your love for the babies lost will never go. You are an inspiration for so many on here, including myself. Love to you and your family x
You have come so far so proud of you. To realize that you need a break to make good decision is a big win. Sorry for your loss and it's ok to be emotional. Thanks for sharing that part.
I cried along with you as your processed decluttering the baby things. I miscarried 14 years ago, and there's a hole in my heart that will always belong to that baby. Hugs to you as you grieve your 3 precious little ones!
I am very sorry for all of your pain that you have been through from your losses! That took so much strength for you to part with those baby items. Many hugs to you!
I know how it feels…lost two I very much desired…it never really goes away. They will always be in your heart. Just wanted to let you know that by letting go, you actually open your heart to something new that will help you heart heal in ways you didn’t expect. Let that door open and healing will come. Thinking of you with all my heart.
O dear momma, hugs, hugs, hugs! The emotions you felt towards those baby things are so common. I felt them after my son was stillborn. You are not alone! And you are so strong and brave and your heart is so big!!
Sending you so much love, sharing your feelings isn't easy especially with people you don't know. It's plain for everyone to see how much you love your boys and what a wonderful person you, helping other mums. What ever the future holds, I hope it brings you all the happiness and joy you deserve. 💕
Oh Ms Heart. * Hugs* you are a very strong woman. It'll be such a blessing to somebody who can use it now. Thank you for being vulnerable and showing your process. I know that can help other grieving mother's out there.
My thoughts are with you. You are doing such a good job with letting go. Decluttering isn't easy, but with adding in other emotions, I can't imagine. You are stronger than you know.
I lost my first baby. It hurts more than I can put into words. Thank you so much for sharing. It really makes me feel less alone 🙏❤. Also, I love the progress you made today too. That tossy tossy pile was impressive!
This brought tears to my eyes ❤️ I was shocked to hear your losses are not that far in the past. But still you have the strength to tackle it at this moment and even give joy to those who are in need right now. If that's not a successful healing progress, I don't know what is 🥰
It’s hard to find the right words to compliment and support you after that video. You’ve become so strong in your decluttering and undoing your hoarding. The reasons you started hoarding, like as a coping mechanism, you’re overcoming that with your fortitude and resolve and your reasoning for wanting a better life and home for your family now. You’re so strong. I can’t believe you “went there”, and on Mother’s Day, I wish I could give you an award. I don’t have kids - but I’m crying along with you because I’ve become invested in your journey and this means you’re succeeding - you’re kicking ass, actually.
You letting go of the baby stuff, made me cry. But I’m so proud of you. I know how hard that was for you! Incredible! ❤️❤️❤️🥰🥰🥰 don’t ever apologise for being upset! You are so inspiring and strong! So much love to you xx
Oh lovely. I really wish I could give you a huge big hug right now. You are a beautiful person inside and out and I really hope your loving heart heals soon. XXXXXX
My heart goes out to you!! I’m so sorry for all of your loss and sadness. You are a beautiful person with so much love. Your boys are blessed to have you as their mommy. I pray that with time your heart heals. 🥰
Praying for your pain to heal. I am so proud of you ❤️👍😊 you are a true blessing for your family. Enjoy the times you have with them. God bless 🙏❤️. Love your channel 👌🥰
I wish I could give you a huge hug. Thank you for being vocal about your losses. Yes every pregnancy loss you have are still your babies and you can keep them in your heart. I understand...I lost a baby in my 2nd trimester. Give yourself grace. You have come so far and are doing so well in your progress of healing. :)
Thank you so much for this channel, I feel like I understand my beloved mom better who was a hoarder, and also myself, with some tendencies of hoarding. I'm in awe how far you've come, you are the living proof that people can heal from hoarding disorder. Sending lots of love from Budapest, Hungary
Sending you gentle hugs as you feel all the feels. I held it together until you said you know you're strong enough and then the waterworks started flowing here! I hope your time with the boys was healing.
You did a awesome job!! Hugs to you. I know how you feel. I had 3miscarriages. My daughter was supposed to be a twin and sometimes I look at her and am sad for the baby I lost. Then I look at her and am so thankful she survived. I have a boy and a girl and although I grieve for the children I never met it makes me that much more thankful for the two I have.
I second that idea. If you haven't missed having a 3rd bathroom up to now then make it what it seem to work best for. A gifting closet , you could even keep wrapping supplies in bins with the gifts.
