I like that you are letting him do it, it’s good practice and teaching and parenting. Especially since your kids are old enough to do it with help if needed.
You have done a great job honouring your boy's decisions to declutter Mel. I love your channel. You are so inspiring. Your calmness and insight is perfectly wonderful! Thank you for sharing xoxo🌺🌺🌺
He’s done a really good job! I think the good thing with kids is that they can let things go because they don’t attach a monetary value to the things, unlike like us adults who know exactly how much things cost!! if anything this is teaching him the skills early, and it is going to benefit him so much! Good job Jenny 🇬🇧
I could hear it in ur voice when he let the doggy go.... that was a hard one on u mama, but u worked through ur mental struggles for the love of ur son. And that was a beautiful exchange right there. You are one heck of a woman Mel. I am a part of these online Facebook groups for hoarding and decluttering and anxiety and such and I have been spreading the word about you in my groups. So many people tell me ur channel sounds like something that could inspire them, and I reassure them that its very inspiring and they should check you out. I've watched all ur videos...and you have come such a long way from hiding ur face...wearing those shades...and finally showing ur beautiful self to the world. You are inspirational and such a loving fantastic mama to ur kids, and I absolutely love your channel!
I have been following you for a long time now and I always have felt so much empathy for you as someone with hoarding tendencies but also for your kids. My dad is a hoarder to point of house condemnation. It always pained me personally when you kept your kids' items from my own personal experience with that. Giving your kids the power to decide is such a growth for you. I am so proud of you and wish I could give you such a big hug!
Your words to therapy for my soul. You are telling me your story and I am hearing it as if my children were telling it to me as adults. Like a look into the future if I didn’t change or decided to give up. It fuels my heart to keep going, so thank you so so much ❤️🙏🏻❤️
Your kiddos are so lucky to have you! Isn’t it amazing the things our kids inspire us to heal within ourselves? My story is different but I’ve been on a self healing journey since my daughter was born too and it’s incredible.
Yep, amazing how easy it is to open up space by getting rid of a few things!! Marie Condo says we never need to buy more storage once we start keeping what sparks joy
Thank you for letting your son decide what is and isn't important to him! I struggle with several items from my childhood that my mum decided were important; as I grew up they turned out not to be, but I still hold the guilt over wanting to let them go. Difficult as it is for you now, you're saving your son from that guilt in the future.
This is great. You can also put a basket in the room behind the door and if there are things he would like to donate he can put it in the basket and when it’s full you can take it away for him. You can also do a 5 min tidy every day and put a timer on and play some fun music. Both your children can have fun doing it. Hope this helps.
I have been binging your old videos and skipped up to now and WOW!!! YOU HAVE COME A LONG WAY BABY!!! You are such an inspiration to so many. Even in your “defeats” you keep moving forward and keep processing and talking yourself through it. I am right here with you. I’d love to partner with you to work with fellow hoarders towards recovery.
My grandparents on my dads side were both hoarders along with my aunt and they never recovered. They left so many things behind for our family to clean up it’s ridiculous. I’m proud of you for taking care of yourself and healing from this.
This is such an important step for you, honoring your son's decisions to declutter things that provoke an emotional response in you. Your goal to give your kids a childhood free of hoarding tendencies has given you superpowers!
He did such a good job. Me and my son decluttered his bedroom. Six bags for charity including cuddly toys from when he was a baby. I encouraged but felt so deeply sad to let that part go but now it’s gone, it’s OK because he doesn’t need those things anymore and that’s fine.
Wow! He did so awesome. I wish I had been taught the skills he is learning. What a blessing. I’m impressed at his ability to decide trash, keep, sell/donate so quickly! He has strong decluttering muscles. Great job!
Congratulations Brandon! You did a wonderful job. Ms. Heart, by allowing Brandon to make his own decisions, you are giving him tools that will benefit him later in life. My decisions were all made by my parents long after I was old enough to make them on my own. I struggled for years to make decisions and become a procrastinator due my inability to make decisions. I'm getting better though. Thanks for sharing your story of recovery.
This is exactly what I thought while watching this video. Is so beautiful to see how this teen is already learning through her mother's example an guidence how to develop his emotional intelligence.
Brandon did so well! His room is really opening up. I'd love to see more content about bringing in less and buying less stuff. He seems to have a lot of toys for his age. It's wonderful to see his desire to curate his own space.
So I might have some different comments throughout the video but I want to offer some advise as I’m watching…. I saw Brandon pushing his cords onto his shelf, I like to use sandwich bags (or snack bags if the cords are shorter) to store each cord it. I will label the bag and then put all my bagged cords in a small box. That way they are all together, not get tangled AND labeled so that I know and remember what it is cause believe me I have a box of “what is this cable?” But too scared to get rid of it cause I’m not sure what it goes too. Just an idea for him now cause it seems like cables are part of our life. Lol
I am so impressed with both of you--for him, in terms of taking charge of his space, and for you! Both of you ARE growing, you ARE changing, you ARE improving your mental health as well as your relationship to one another and to the "stuff" in your lives. It's truly inspirational!
Great that you let Brandon decide what he wanted to keep and what he wanted to let go. To this day I still have pain because some of my high school stuffed animals were tossed out by my Mother while I was away at collage. Mom said she stored them for me but she lied and tossed them out. I only had 5 stuffed animals at that time. Mom tossed three items that were given to me by my Grandmother as Christmas gifts. When I did return only a few items were left.
You should be very proud of the fact you're letting your son decide what he wants to keep or let go! You son should be very proud of himself as well! Take care and cheers from Canada! 🤗👍💖
Well done Brandon your doing a wonderful job. You are learning so much from you Mam too by donating. Love that Pepper helped too. Stay safe and healthy. Mary, Joes wife 👏👍💐🙏💪🦄🐈
Keep this in mind when you are shopping for valentines/birthdays/christmas. Less is more. Getting them a few, high-quality items that they really want/need is better than a bunch of junk that gets left in the original wrapping, never to be used.
We had to learn this with my stepson. He gets so much little stuff from so many different people that we didn't want to add to that problem. One nice gift every year is plenty for him, and doesn't clutter his space more.
I had plastic boxes labeled with masking tape that had Garage Sale written on the tape. I would go through things to get rid of, and they were immediately put in the boxes. So when time to have a sale, I just took the boxes out to the garage.
how lovely this is to see! my own childhood memories of decluttering are really bad - being forced to throw out what precious little I had because we had to move again, and adults throwing away my possessions so I felt I had to squirrel things away - but you let your son declutter things when HE's ready, which makes him feel better in the long run! great job to the both of you ❤️
Be sure you teach him to recycle the cardboard and plastic-- maybe have a recycle bin in his room as well as a trash can. I know you are a fervent recycler, and that is an excellent thing to pass along to your kids!
At the end she mentioned that the tossy pile was going to be recycled, so I would assume that she is doing that along with Brandon since those are his stuff.
I want to start doing this with my daughter. Maybe 2 times a year after her birthday and before Christmas. Most of the bulk of new things come around those times. Thanks for the motivation, Brandon! 😁
you are such a strong and supportive mum and from what we get to see, both your sons are amazing, smart and kind. you should be so proud of your whole family and your growth process! hope to see the little guineas soon again as well
Thank you! I’ve been following your progress for years and simply love that you are finding joy in a clearer space. Currently watching your video as a break from decluttering my living room. We have made enough progress to redecorate, remove a fireplace and get new flooring. It feels so good! 🙂
I have problems letting go but not as bad But I still need to do more I had trouble after my daughter became a senior this year in school n after what she did n was mean to me. I don’t think I’ll have a problem letting go. Should have got rid of it sooner
