Documentary telling the stories of holiday romances gone wrong, and exposing those unscrupulous men who think nothing of scamming single female tourists out of thousands of pounds. Made by Nine Lives Media. #HolidayLoveRats #atruestory
The fact these women just hand over their money to “charming” stranger just blows me away. The moment any grown man would asked you for money is an immediate red flag! 🤦🏽♀️
How could Diane believe that a 21 year old kid could really love a woman that could be/looks like his grandmother (with teenage pregnancies, but still!)?! When a young kid like that shows even the slightest intrest in you, red flags should immediately appear!
@@lisatinbliki5691 The term kid does't mean he's a child. It means he is very young campared to the women he's dating and trying to rip off. 21 year old guys are often pretty immature though!
Desperation is the word that was left out of this documentary. Never allow yourself to feel desperate for anything, otherwise you will become vulnerable!
Welp, feelings just *are.* And as humans we’ve all experienced that feeling of desperation whether for a person, an animal, some inanimate object. After all, desperation is created by marketers/advertisers to get people to buy or otherwise “own” that with which one becomes so enamored be it a foreign lover or a foreign made makeup pallet, skin care-like K cosmetics made with snail snot-etc.
@@tundrawomansays694 you are right that we are all human and have strong desires but we must strive to fight off feelings of desperation. Adopt a dog or cat. There are ways to fight of loneliness and desperation.
@@eveheart2876 Our emotions are too strong sometimes Eve as in my opinion men really DON'T care about women at all. Men want to CONTROL women. Basically, most males our afraid of women.
I agree. When on holiday it's like a cartoon way of life for a few weeks... nothing is real. I do have a friend who met her husband when she went on holiday (Greece I think). Karen (not real name) went home and they kept in close contact via skype, emails, phone etc. It resulted in Karen divorcing her husband, with whom she had 2 kids. Karen married her Greek 'lover' and fortunately it has worked out. They have been married almost 10 years now and both are happy. My friend was very, very lucky taking such a risk. I'm glad that it's worked out for all concerned. Her ex husband has moved on also. Pot Luck for sure!!
Yeah, If he is SO poor, how is he going to support the both of you? Don't you see ANY RED FLAGS? If a man askes me for money, AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
RULE NO. 1 - Never give a man money, do not pay to travel and see him, do NOT financially assist a broke man, LADIES! Please stop being so desperate to be with a useless man. You are the PRIZE, not him. Please stop this foolishness now.
True. I met my husband online, he sent me money and then a ticket and accommodations to see him. Maybe I was just lucky. We are married for 6 years now.😊
As a young girl I was approached by a man on the street in Kingston Jamaica telling me how beautiful I was and he could get me into modeling. I was 18 and was already turned down because of my height. I was exited for a moment when he told me that he could help me become a model. But he told me that he was going to make a call and would come back and get me I should wait there for him. Immediately after he walked away silly me was standing there waiting for him to come back when suddenly I heard a voice saying walk away. I listened to the voice and I’m glad I did because I probably wouldn’t be here today.
Lucky you went with the voice of god. well done? your gut never lies. Not to be racist but when you see a dark man that dosent speak english. There is your answer right there. About 6 years ago my mum was at the local shops. And this young dark looking scum approached my mum and said to her. You look beautiful blah blah my mum said i am not interested. she ran he was following her. My mum dresses nice and he thought she was rich. If i was there i would’ve told him off.
She is delusional and gullible believing his face was swollen, it’s not him he just wanted rid of her and keep the mini bus etc so made up that he was killed.
These men dont "go to charm school" the women just don't have much self esteem, self worth, boundaries and or standards. They probably also have an anxious attachment style which makes them fall fast and cling on.
Gotta hand it to Latoya. In the end she didn’t allow herself to be scammed. She stayed in Ghana and made her dream happen on her own terms. I hope she is still out there happy today!
LaToya is trying to turn her bad decisions into an opportunity to help others. I have a lot of respect for her. We all make mistakes and get used by people through life. Our response is what either breaks us or makes us soar above the clouds and grow.
I was 45 yrs old, met this handsome guy who was 28...I knew from the immidiate beginning that he would scam me in some way, wasn't sure how though. I didn't have to wonder much longer than two days though😁he "forgot" his wallet at home when we went for coffee, AND when we went to have a drink at a bar. I told him "okay, I'll pay for both of us but after this I never want to see you again because I can't stand this behaviour" and I walked away and blocked him on my phone. Six months later I saw him at a bar and he came and sat down with me asking why I had thought that he was lying those times?! I said "I'm not 16, I am past 40, I have experienced more than YOU have and I know when someone has truly forgot his wallet or if he just pretends to have, to make the woman pay". He got up, threw 20 bucks on the table and said he REALLY had forgot his wallet(both times😁) and now he proves it by paying me back! I said thank you and took the money and turned my back on him. Never saw him again😆
About 10 years ago a colleague came to me telling me about her new foreign romance. He'd asked her for money - just a small amount - and she wasn't sure what to think. She had been lonely and was madly in love but, thank goodness, she had the good common sense to ask for someone else's opinion. We talked it through and she decided he was a scammer. The point is that even though she doubted it, he had his claws in so well she wasnt sure of herself.
One thing they all have in common… they’re all described as being “very charming”. Don’t let charm deceive you ladies, there’s a lot more to true love than sweet words.
@@eggsbacon1842 If there is a thirty-year-age gap, he works in the hospitality industry where people spend no more than two weeks in a hotel and he is already proposing marriage, there is usually some crookery behind it. Either he is using you as a passport to the UK or he wants to cheat you out of your savings,
I’m sure Diane wouldn’t have believed a 21 year old was interested in her in Scotland. Yet believed a man abroad at that age with limited resources was genuine. She went in with her eyes open out of desperation and the wedding could’ve been avoided. These men can easily spot their willing targets so it remains on women to be cautious. Such scams are widely reported and has gone on for decades. Yet many will continue to ignore all the warning signs. The lady in Ghana had the last laugh by not aiding his visa application.
Diane's deceased husband was not wealthy - he was a tuk tuk driver. I think he owed someone drugs money or something like that and this is why he married her.
IT is a sickness. It is not about love .. that is the furthest thing. And.. in. a way, it happens every single day in the US... or anywhere. Women / or men... who are not whole, become addicted to this.... fantasy. It is a mental condition. Not love, not sex. ... mental. Watch Mr. LET GO on you tubes. He is not easy to watch, but... spot on about the mind/mental condition of women especially. I watch ALL his videos. Be ready to be offended... but he is spot on!
Kiki Arthur : I think everyone always believes “I would never be this stupid….” But I believe this is a brainwashing that many intelligent people can’t fight. A sad and common thing. Best wishes from Sweden.
Four years ago, I had to stay in a hotel while my place was renovated. I met a young man who was 33. I was 54. I’d sit outside on the warm summer nights where the wifi signal was very strong and play decorating games or watch a movie to give my son a chance to have his gf and other friends in the room. This young man was recovering from a leg injury and working for a place that set him up to live in the hotel. He was very intelligent, kind, funny, and very handsome and tall and fit. I got to know him quite well over those 10 days. All I could think of was that I wished I had a daughter I could introduce him to! Anyhow, I am not completely stupid and he started flirting and dropping subtle hints. Nothing overt or gross; still very respectful. But I just played dumb. I, in no way, could see that he would ever be happy with someone my age. I don’t have the energy I did when I was 25 and could go out dancing every night and go to work the next day. I have other aches and pains that keep me home and I only go out if I want to and have a reprieve from the aging body I now have. If I had been maybe even 40, I may have not played dumb. He really was incredible. But it’s just better for he and for me to not be a couple. He will probably want kids. How horrible to have to choose between your partner and having a family! And don’t say adoption. I do not have the energy for raising more children, and I’ve already done that. I do love puppies, though. 😂
LOL good for her doing a reverse UNO on him, by insisting HE help HER living in another country and setting boundaries when he threatened her 😂 She was no tool for him no more
What the juju man said was correct. It’s up to us as women to look after ourselves and make decision’s that are in our best interest. Jumping in to a marriage or relationship with someone we barely know is ridiculous no matter where it happens.
My American ex wanted to marry me after half an year of online dating and three weeks physically together. He even mentioned moving to where I live, even though he doesn't speak the language and has some debts that he still has to pay. I imagine how I could have ended up financially supporting a grown up man. After things started going down south, he denied most of the things he said to me. At a point he was even pressuring me that he would move to be closer to me, but he's need my help. The more I think about it, the more I realize how fishy everything was. I prefer to blame it on his mental health issues, because it would be devastating to know that he was using me all the time. Either way, I was smart enough to not fall for this trap
agree w/juju man too. These are not teenagers , they made choices , didn't use their heads . or listen to friends. Would they tell their daughters to do the same? the woman wanted so hard to put all the blame on someone else, but its not like they got robbed at gunpoint.
So basically the other person is hold hostage to stay with someone even at this point they are not in love or can't even live together ...is not black and white situation...each situation is individual... I find incredibly irresponsible from this ladies, just met this stranger and rushing to get married ? WHY? Willingly supporting men,it should be the other way ..he should be supporting you... All situation is full of red Flags!!!
@@francescarubera Agree, in some ways the people often seem to be hooked on the typical flaws that scammers may detect, their own greed and need. To appear respectable, a successful exotic man on their arm. One even cut up the clothes she had bought him. Why did she buy them, was to show him off or did he not really have enough clothes. It's like the men who sometimes knowingly goes for the golddigger and don't bother about whether it's genuine love but the golddigger gives him some sort of status of being desirable, someone to show up and attend to some desires. I think some of these women could benwfit from an excercise I learnt when I was in rehab for drug abuse in my teens: when urged to rush about something to just stop and think "what does this stand for?", "What is the meaning of this for me?". There are so many ways people can rush into trouble by being trapped by their own selfdeception about their genuine wants and needs.
I am single and very happy!! Have my family ..my baby nephew..baby niece..my friends. 😁👍 I loved and got my heart broken and decided that it was it for me. I do not miss it at all.
Imagine thinking someone working in the hotel you’re staying at has any genuine interest in you? Do these women not realise they eye up every coach arrival at the hotel each week? They just see you as a walking £ sign.
I'm an older woman living alone. Fortunately for me I'm very content this way. After many years doing what I want when I want I don't think I could live with a man anymore no matter how handsome or charming. I watch videos like this one and the ones where older women are left destitute by online romance scammers and my first thought is "How can they be so stupid?" But then I feel sorry for them and want the scammers caught and jailed for life!!!
Gurl, I share your sentiment. I love living alone, doing what I want with no explanations. I don't have the energy to take care of a man...and most expect that. So I enjoy my own company in my tiny home near the beach... cooking healthy food, painting pictures, and playing my violin. There's no way I'll ever date again. But I do have the most loyal and kind friends. Enjoy your days. 💕
Ladies, my dad said NEVER give an adult male money even if it's $20. If you do give a guy money then never consider him as a boyfriend nor a husband. People who truly respect and love you will never take your Kindness for weakness.
I've been married 15 years, my husband has never even when we were dating let me pay for anything ask me for money nothing. I remember we were watching this show one time that was talking about how I'm there's nothing wrong with females paying half the check or whatever. And I told him I was like you should just let me start to pay half the check. The look on his face of just pure disgust lmfao. He was like you're my girl one day you're going to be my wife, no what would that look like if I took you out and you were paying for half of everything? Now once we got married and stuff the bills we we do 50/50 but we pool all our money together you know what I mean. But I don't understand how these women like you're grown bro. How the hell did you get this far in life being so damn gullible. Not to mention the dude that they showed in the casket was not him. He got that girl so bad. I just don't understand why you would loan somebody that amount of money. Just like when you hear them and they're talking about dating somebody online. For one the first time somebody brought up money you would know exactly what it was and what was going on. now what I don't understand is about the girl that was dating the dude that was from Egypt the one with the kidney problems. Why would he want a British passport, wait till he got said passport. And then as soon as he gets it he goes back to where he came from? That don't make no sense to me. It's a little odd. But yeah I don't understand that whole thing I really don't
“The women should open their minds and close their legs”!! I think that juju man may be on to something. He spoke pure wisdom but the woman didn’t want to hear it and she accused him of blaming the victims. All he said was that everyone has a choice and therefore everyone is responsible for the decisions they make. He was 100% right. But victims never, ever see it that way.
Unfortunately, it doesn’t though. They keep on thinking it won’t happen to them. It’s a well known fact that if a man starts asking for money that he’s not interested in romance. They keep getting drawn into those messes.
Euphorbia ... I agree with you. Their stories should be a warning to others. Alas, as Margo says there are lonely women who think that this won't be them and rhat they have found true love. Never over-estimate your attraction to young men overseas ladies. And never under-estimate the attraction of a British Passport. Currently, on my Channel I am reacting to a 40 yr old woman who accepted a proposal if marriage from a man she has never seen. On the 2nd day of communicating on Tinder she accepted the proposal and flew over to Kuwait. They are now married. It's clearly transactional. She has been paid and got a wedding ring. He will eventually obtain a Canadian Passport. Sidenote: He's 10 years younger and about 300 lbs lighter!!
Thats what I did when my kids were young, didn't remarry or anything, just lived my life for my kids. I am older now and single, but no regrets because we have such a close relationship even though they are adults.
And I applaud you for including the fathers who are in these circumstances. I’ve spent the last 15 years intentionally single and devoted to my children after losing their mother to an accident when they were only just out of babyhood. I didn’t have the time nor the energy to spare on a relationship anyway, and it’s not worth risking your children over.
youre the ONLY comment I agree with, i hate people saying lonely people do this or that...i know 100% what loneliness is and let me tell you i almost lost my mind, i have no family either so... im now alone anymore thank God. The best thing to write here is what you wrote. Be careful out there girls, and ladies, be smart se aware and wide-eyed. excuse my bad english btw;)
@@CristinaF210 I think your English is.great I would rather trust out siders as I.was conned by two realitives one conned me out of a.lot of money I used to go to her house the whole time she said she would pay me back when her cheque came through she got 3 big cheques but. Still never paid the money back I asked When her son was paying the money he borrowed she said he Must have forgotten about it then I l she started sending threatening messages and phoned hospital made out she was me. And cancelled my knee operation then I lent. Another cousin 250 pounds I thought she would pay me back cos she did when she was younger I hesitated but she I won't do that to you but she did exactly the as my aunt and her son did I now won't lend anyone money unless I speak to my really nice cousin who doesn't have long left to live from Mary from Scotland hope you have a lovely week ahead of you
@@suzymoroka297 go and fuck your self it not my grammar that's bad it's my phone but if my grammar was bad least it's not as bad as you your the most funking vile rude person I have read a.comment about I have other things to worry about than an idiot of bully like you so go.get a life arsehole
@@marygunn8479 😂😂😂 this is even worse! It’s just that I saw your very condescending comments to other posters saying “your English is very good”. As if you have an excellent command of the English language! Oh by the way, the you’re not your, you’re as in you are, your is ownership, like your hair is nice or your English is 💩. See what I mean? Blaming the phone though?🙄🤦🏽♀️ Having an English white woman’s name doesn’t not mean that you are in a position to be critiquing someone’s command of English.
There is nothing wrong to find love and live happily ever after. U will value it especially when u re old, like in your 60. This is why u should find a true love while u re still young. My mother is old and alone. I feel very sorry for her. She is 75
I am a male in my early 60s and when anyone male or female significantly younger shows interest in me or flirts with me I figure they have an ulterior motive and I'm usually correct.
Depends on the person. I am 33 and fell in love with someone who is 15 yrs older than me. Although I considered his financial stability, this is only to match my own. In almost all of our trips, I paid more. Never depended on him financially. And yet he managed to betray me, unfortunately he has no plans of settling down. Not because I am the younger one, I got ulterior motive. I just prefer to be with someone older than me, assuming that they want to settle down and have family.
Yes. I don't want to be the subject of anyone's "bucket list" for being with a much older, incredibly sexy woman lol jk. I traveled the world before I married at 36. I had men send me gifts and huge bunches of flowers and once a man sent a traveling band in Italy. But it was always just dumb fun, and their proposals of adoration etc. made me laugh. Every place I went I would learn some of the language from them, dance every night and then leave! I once had a mantry and pick me up at 18 when he had with more than one wife standing with him. Fun memories! Never go alone!!!
Latoya couldnt find a man in the US because she is unstable. cutting up clothes and threatening someone in an argument with a knife is a red flag. no one in their right mind outs up with that. a woman in her 30s has had lots of options and chose poorly. she is the problem
Ladies: no real man will ask you for money, no real man is running to the altar without knowing for a fact she’s the one, and REGARDLESS OF ANYTHING, ALWAYS SEEK OUT THE ADVICE OF THOSE AROUND YOU WHO RESPECT AND LOVE YOU AND DON’T WANT TO SEE YOU HURT before creating a life with someone you hardly know
Seek that advice and listen to the advice. A true friend or loved one will be honest with you. If it sounds to good to be true. It most likely is not. Jmo
It's their culture over there. The women, mothers and sisters are their handlers. They use their brother, sons as studs to entrap the western woman. The mother and sisters then join him after he has made it and sponsored them. All this just so they can come over and become mindless consumers. Trust me I know because it happened to me and in my community over and over again. And what does the British government do about it? Nothing.
@@oneof134 These people are NOT poor! That is the illusion they sell naive westerners. They can afford to pay thousands to agents when it suits them. It's easy money of them but they devastate other peoples' lives. That should be a crime and they should go to jail for it. It is called extortion over here! And I would never do that to another person no matter how poor I was. You know why? Because I have some humanity inside me!
Yep, that part..... believe me or as you may know yourself, this behavior is often at the root of deeper issues in their lives or in their past. And given these stories, the scam victims haven't worked on their selves (yet) to heal. To develop real self-love that allows them to avoid this kind of financial scams in their lives. Sad!
All these types of SCAMS are often described as "love" but is NOT. They keep saying women fell in love...it's NOT LOVE. Its idealization, obession, FANTASY.
Why do these women send these men money before they have even met or had a relationship with with these scoundrels. As soon as money is mentioned within weeks then alarm bells should ring.
For heavens sake...Didn't Diane think of something was terribly wrong??? The minute you have to start sending money, THAT'S A BIG RED FLAG!!!!! 33 year age gap???? HELLO!!!!! Dianne is very lucky to be alive.
The witch doctor has the best advice - you have the power in you to say no at anytime and not get sucked into the fantasy of a perfect life and the perfect partner, which really doesn't exist.
i agree marriage really ain’t that great get better dreams ladies u have been brainwashed i think its good for consumerism & thats what makes the world go round but spending all that money on one day get a house an education travel take care of homeless animals something else to b proud of
It’s quite unfortunate if that actually is a “girl’s dream” because men are swearing off marriage at truly _staggering_ rates. In terms of men, only imbeciles and those with insidious agendas are lining up for the guillotine of marriage. The risks are simply far too great.
Michelle turned the negative into a positive weldone for raising awareness.Sad stories and no fairy tale..feel for the Scottish lady losing everything...hope things get better for her and she gets another home soon.
I met a man on line from Peru but was here on Visa. We dated 1.5 years he asked me to marry him I said yes. He insisted that he get his naturalization and did become a citizen before we married because he didn't want my family and friends to question his motives. We married here in USA and had a wedding he Peru he works two jobs and I got sick and he pays all our bills and helped me care for my father until his death. We will celebrate 6 years in November. I'm 50 he's,53. So sometimes it is real. ;)
Why would a 51 year old woman marry a 21 year old boy who she doesn't know......who can't speak your own language, who drives a tuk tuk in a third world country, who can't pay for anything ?.......really, this is foolish in the extreme. And time to take responsibility and not just blame ppl. Your own weaknesses created this. Think carefully what part you played or you'll repeat your foolishness.
@Kaci well I am 20 years older than my husband. He chased me for a year or more. We are going strong in year 11 year of our marriage. I look a lot younger, than my years. N we have kids. The red flag is when a woman puts her hand in the purse for the man. I really believe the family are in on the scam!
T M - Congratulations and I'm happy for you. Clearly, you are both decent, caring and reliable people who had genuine feelings for each other. Perhaps you are in the minority as the stories we hear are mostly in the vein of those shown here.
Love rats who are scammers aren’t just abroad. They exist in your own country , are citizens and can be white skinned too . Some of these men are divorced & don’t have a house due to their divorce. These men don’t have much money , most are older men . They’re on the hunt for single career women , who earn good money , own their own home & have savings . They target women in their 40s, 50s & 60s who have never married , have no children & want a companion . These men marry these women & don’t leave them but then they have a comfortable life , a permanent roof over their head & no financial worries .
So true, Cherry! There are scads of these rootless males. If he’s over 50 and lacks a house, car, degree, a steady job, also proper English, you have to really take a hard stance - what’s he done with his life? They had families before, but lost them. You’ll then find out that they fritter away their time and $ on some weird obsession, such as religious fanaticism, being a Don Juan, casinos, car culture, socializing, a show biz dream, you name it. He’s always out running about. It gets worse with age, when he turns abusive. Don’t get into this mess!
Is the woman happy and content with the situation? Maybe the man does the grocery shopping and cooks dinner every night. But you're right about that type of broke man is found anywhere and everywhere.
Why would a woman support a old man? I would not support a young man and sure would not support a older man is it becouse they cant leave as they have to relay on the woman for money?
That second lady went on vacation to a foreign country meet a dude and not long after shes accepting to get married to him? That kind of screams desperate.
I’ve seen so many of these stories and they mostly have one thing in common, lonely people who think a relationship makes them whole. Add that to a shocking lack of understanding of the culture they’re marrying into and you have the perfect setting for a scam. Honestly Diane is so naive she’s lucky she didn’t end up physically hurt. I think Michelle is off base saying she was groomed. Children get groomed. She’s an adult woman who ignored red flags galore. She got scammed.
Not sure about grooming.....🤔?? Meeting a man from any part of the world who lacks financial independence is a red flag 🚩 for potential financial abuse. Women tend to ignore this red flag for the sake of having someone in their lives. These men take advantage of women who seem lonely and desperate.
I 100% agree with both of you!!!! Everybody is different, have different lives, past experiences, childhoods, morals, beliefs ect so naturally, what each persons dreams or wants are will be different & that’s okay!!!! Much love to you both!!! 💜💜💜💜
I love the way one woman actually tries to pass blame on to the immigration office for her marrying someone she’d just met rather than admit she was a numpty and didn’t make the best life choice.
I have 5 kids and have a substantial amount set aside for every single one who chooses NOT to get married. The “every girls dream is to be married” is the problem. Give your kids more power than dreams like that.
Well said because it IS about self empowerment and going beyond cultural and environmental expectations and pressures. I am an old woman now but I married 3 times because I somehow honestly believed men knew better than me. It took me 3 marriages to learn about self empowerment and I like to say now that no man will ever again put a ring through my nose LOL. Thank god I had a good education and career, enabling this independence and the intelligence to be able to wake up. We still have a long way to go with the education of girls and women.
Well teach your girls to be sensible about choosing men, get them avoid the party life and getting ran through by hundreds of boys and men. Don’t leave it too late to get married and learn that life is hard, don’t just run straight to divorce lawyer because she is not happy, especially if she has kids!
Absolutely! Few men seek marriage these days, as the risks are far too great and the benefits are insignificant. A man who’s willing to marry is like one huge warning sign (he’s either stupid or sinister).
The witch doctor was spot on. These ladies allowed it to happen, it was a choice these women made 🤷🏼♀️ desperate women who made the choice to marry fast and overlook the obvious facts
It's quite incredible in this day and age, with all the publicity available, that people are still getting scammed like this. Loneliness is just awful.
Sorry to say this but what was Diane thinking? He is 33 years younger and handsome. She is a lovely lady, I am sure of it, but she is not exactly on the same level as him when it comes to looks. I know that I am going to get some nasty responses because I am stating the obvious. Looks are not the most important thing, but when there is a language barrier, a huge age gap and a big difference in the looks compartment, the chances are high, that at least one partner is after something else, and not necessarily deeply in love.
I have seen other reports where the women said, they knew it wasn’t right, that the guys were out of their league, but the guys are such big manipulators.
These women are very foolish and desperate the first one looks older than her husbands mother how did she not immediately know he was looking for a come up?