{Birth story part 3}
Around 12pm, I could feel my body working her down. With each contraction came a wave of intensity, moving her down the birth canal. (Side note: My son just went down for his nap at 12 so it’s funny that I might have subconsciously been waiting to birth until he was down! Again, the mental side of it was crazy to me this birth.)
A mental battle for me happens at this stage… as transition hits, intensity rises, but baby’s head hasn’t begun to show yet (which always gives me the last extra boost I need!). In both births, I’ve found myself tensing up vs working with my body, scared to push baby down, in fear of the “pain”. And begin making comments like this video shows 😅
But what I’ve realized is that “pain” or what I like to say is “intense pressure”, isn’t bad. It’s the fear of it that can overwhelm us. When I decide that I won’t fear the pain, but work with my body through the pressure, finding purpose in the pressure (aka move that baby down!), it becomes manageable.
To me, when I can reframe pain, to intense pressure that has PURPOSE… everything changes. I do what it takes, working with my body in every contraction, and like you’ll see in the last post/part 4… have another big baby, this time a bit more slowly and gently, without a single tear.
Some things I tell myself at this stage:
👉🏻Every wave of pressure is bringing me closer to meeting my baby.
👉🏻I can do anything for 90 seconds
👉🏻it’s not pain, it’s progress
👉🏻a little discomfort for the greatest joy in life
Anyways…
When I hit this stage of second guessing myself and having to kick fear out…
I put my finger inside and felt her head right there, she was right there inside. “she’d be out soon, I’ve got this”, I thought. And that gave me the last boost I needed.
I grabbed onto the side of the tub with the next contraction and gave it all I had, breathing all the breath I had straight down in purpose vs out my mouth in discomfort.
The intense stretching and pressure came.
The one I had to decide to work WITH vs try to avoid out of fear.
She was coming, she would be here any second.
23 авг 2024
