Hi KVG Hi 326Express I'm a married woman aged 35yrs and I need your help.I have been married to a man of God for 7yrs now.We have 3 kids one from his first marriage.So pastor has a serious drinking problem I have kept this a secret from my family and the church but it has affected me the most sometimes he gets abusive....Most times he stands in front of the church ndichito ziva kuti he's under the influence but he has mastered the skill of masking it from everyone.So in January there's a girl who came to my office and shared her story about how she's pregnant and does not know what to do...I asked her who was responsible for the pregnancy she refused to say... this is a 28yr old long serving member wemu church....I took her for counselling kune one of the elders a couple that is qualified to do Professional counselling in the church....I was surprised when the couple called saying can we come kumba...so they came tikadya and they went into their issue...the lady uya is claiming kuti arikudanana na Pastor but ane mukomana wake anozivikanwa ne sangano..."you know ndakapera simba he was so quick to deny nhumbu but not the affair pakamboita noise until the couple sat us down and said toita sei"...the Pastor vakangoti anoyenda kumukomana wake because I did not share a bed with her...he refused zvachose....So I tried to convince myself kuti I can move past this but one day ndakangomuka ndisinga kwanise kutivira so i asked him to step down for a few months to work on himself and our marriage he refused saying tinorarama nei...i told him there's no way that the church is going to cut you off but still He refused to step down...So i decided to start using my own car to go to church ne vana and sit kwedu tega...He said to me what you're doing is exposing us kuvanhu but to tell the truth I'm tired KVG,... I'm tired vedare...The more I see this girl nenhumbu yake ichitokura and that guy my heart bleeds ko kana ari mwana we murume wangu, now this guy akuda kuroora...Are we being fair to this young man allowing him to marry into this disaster.Inini I can't exactly leave this marriage because all I've known is being a Pastor's wife plus zvandaona zvawanda...My sister says you should find a way to expose him, his alcoholism and infidelity zvese but what about my kids they look up to their father so much.I know I have a lot of issues that need your attention please help and keep me anonymous...
16 апр 2024
