same with me. sadly some are in church. we just have to pray God protection for us from them. it would be something if all the real Godly sinlge people were together and the players were together. equally yoked👍👍😀
When I first met my now-fiancee, I went after her and *HARD* too. I knew immediately this was who I'd been searching for over the last 10+ years. Now, we're planning our wedding, set for October of this year. #ThankYouGod
@@favourj1484 Thank you. It's been a long road, LOTS of prayer, lots of heartache, hasn't been easy. But when you find that person, you know IMMEDIATELY. At least, we did in our case.
As I mentioned above, it took me over ten years. Lots of heartache, lots of prayer. They're out there, and they can be found. Focus primarily on God, and the right person will come along. You'll know it too.
@@PrincessTatyanna That is my problem too. The non believers get turned off because of my faith and then I am like 'so move on'. I refuse to be unequally yoked.
I never had a Christian date but it seems so pure, focused on needs of the beloved one, and responsibility with each other. It sounds a peaceful and genuine experience and I hope in Christ to live that someday 🙏
It's not really a Christian date but a time where you choose wisely before saying yes to the date. You then just deal with anything as it happens. Stayed prayed and Bibles up beforehand. It will happen. When things go wrong, remember proverbs 10:24 What the wicked dread will overtake them; what the righteous desire will be granted. So keep up the hope and by all means please remember that it takes 2 years to really know someone.
It's better to stay single than to be married to the wrong person! Learn to PRAY and LISTEN to the Holy spirit.... God's word has much to say in this area of our needs & wants. Put God FIRST, then you'll see more clearly what's right for you.
I’ve been praying for a Christian husband so long.. Please pray God brings Christian men in my life or better the right Christian man. Put me in the right place Lord to meet him. IJNIP amen
Amen! I completely agree w/ you !! This is completely true! This happened with me and my husband ! My husband had a dream about me before he met me and for weeks he was pursuing me without me knowing! God works in mysterious and wonderful ways. Thank you for sharing this. God bless you 💛💛💛
As a man who is set on fulfilling Gods desire for my life, I find it hard to “date”. My hearts desire is to find someone who wants to worship, serve, and pray together as a couple... ultimately glorifying God in all we do. Trouble is, not many women truly pursue God with all of their heart anymore! If her heart isn’t already after His, I don’t see a reason to offer her mine.
hahahah i think there are plenty women looking for godly men to pursue them. try chatting girls who are declaring godly man here in the comments section! i pray for u brother!:)
Amen! And also, I dont think dating is biblical because those relationships always end in heartache because there is no commitment. I believe God calls us to courtship
Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all things should be added into you, Adam never told the lord that he was lonely. He focused on the things of the Lord . GOD saw that he was lonely and God provided him a woman !!! Pray about it, ask God for a husband or a wife leave it in God's hands and stay focused on God !!!!
I thought I had finally found the one! He pursued me! I loved him so much. But then he disappeared! I'm crying almost everyday. It hurts so much. We had so many plans. He promised me so much. Lord, please give me strength! 😭
"Sometimes a woman's fear of being hurt or doubts about herself prevent her from showing her true feelings when she senses a man likes her". I can totally agree with that. Lately, a guy I like is trying to be more in my area and initiate conversations. Thing is, because I like him I get tense and nervous speaking to him more than other guys. I get more shy but, in time, with the Lord's leading, I'll try to open myself up more and not totally push back. So men, don't feel too discouraged if at the beginning a girl isn't responding too well to your pursuit.
Yes 😓 I get unbelievably nervous to the point of avoidance at certain times but i still am trying to put myself out there because avoidance will not help me see who God has for me
I relate to this so hard. I’m 34 but liking this guy has got me acting like I’m 14 again. It’s awful. It’s just I care too much. I want to hide it. If he doesn’t talk to me first I straight up ignore him, and I can’t help it! Even though deep down I’m hurting looking like I’m rejecting him. I’m not rejecting him. I’m rejecting trying not to feel like a neon sign that screams “I really really like you!!!” He doesn’t seem to really make an effort to talk to me so why would I risk that rejection? But when He does talk to me I try my best to be warm and accepting. But I’m stuck because I feel we both have hearts that are the same and have trust issues/ trauma from dealing with narcissistic abuse. So the fear of rejection is making both of us painfully avoidant around each other. I’m trying in my own little ways. But I don’t know if it’s enough, and I also feel stuck because I don’t want the gender roles switched if I start pursuing him. At this point I feel like it’s going to take God stepping in. 😩🥺🥺🥺
@@PrettyIndependent1 I'll pray for you ♡ these verses might encourage you: Romans 8: 24-28 (just for context, right before verse 24 it talks about the believers "eagerly waiting for the adoption, the redemption of our body.") : "24 For we were saved in this hope, but hope that is seen is not hope; for why does one still hope for what he sees? 25 But if we hope for what we do not see, we eagerly wait for it with perseverance. 26 Likewise the Spirit also helps in our weaknesses. For we do not know what we should pray for as we ought, but the Spirit Himself makes intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered. 27 Now He who searches the hearts knows what the mind of the Spirit is, because He makes intercession for the saints according to the will of God. 28 And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose."
It’s simple guys! Make your intentions clear, be forward with where you’d like things to go and this will make the woman feel safe. As women we want to feel that we are safe and when the man leads the pursuit, it gives us the impression that he’s interested therefore leading us to being more inviting. If we don’t get clear signals, it will make us feel that it’s not safe to open up and accept the pursuit!
The amount of women who actually mean this is very very low. If a man is too clear, it defeats the mystery, which will cause women to lose attraction. If a dude is too available the woman will pull back to test him, once she starts testing him, the only true way to pass is to depart from her entirely.. women create more problems making claims like this, and quite frankly, it would be better for society if women were more direct with their intent, verbalizing it instead of using hints and innuendo. But, women tend to just want to play games and front because they don’t know anything but spreading their legs to the wicked. 9/10 times..
I used to ask God for a Godly relationship leading me to marriage because it was one of my heart desires but one night, I had a rapture dream that changed everything in me, realizing that we are running out of time for Christ’s return, I knew it was time to focus on important things first, there are many things we would love to accomplish but some we might not get them all done and I believe this is the time of drawing a line, and working upon our relationship with God than spending much time in trying to fulfill all our life accomplishments
I just lost my girlfriend last week. The day that I met her I felt an aura about her, something that I had never experienced meeting another woman before. Something told me that she was the one that God has saved for me. I knew this immediately, that says something. For many years I had prayed for her, I just didn’t know what she would look like yet. We dated for almost two years, during that time we frequently discussed plans for our future together including engagement, marriage, raising children together etc. Long story short I messed up and became selfish as the relationship progressed. I have acknowledged and owned my wrongs and have tried my hardest to make sure I won’t make the same mistakes. I just hope and pray that she will give me another chance.
Trey Vaughn thank you Trey. I appreciate your feedback. I know that the best thing I can do is to trust God and make an effort to improve myself everyday. In order for me to earn a spot back in her life I must be the best version of myself. It’s so hard right now but I have faith things will work out.
Trey Vaughn this is one of those times in my life when my faith is being tested. I must give her the time she needs to heal and work on herself before I pursue her again. Something tells me I can’t give up but I must be patient.
Will Engle my guess that thing is the Holy Spirit, if that’s the case I think you should use this time to work on yourself and your relationship with God, and your singleness, and remember that all relationships have problems, problems are not the sign of a bad relationship, the sign of a good relationship is one where you both are willing to and want to work through them
Im sorry you got stood up by a guy yesterday. God is faithful and never leaves nor forsakes us. I pray God encourges you more and lets the right man pursue you in accordance with his plan and timing for you, Amen.
@Mamabearintx💗 read in Romans about having faith in my bible studies on YouVersion. He's been speaking to me lately. And I hear God telling me to wait on the right one and He's testing my faith :)
GOD I pray that you not just bless me with a Godly submissive woman but you give me wisdom on how to treat her. Be faithful to her and for us to never stray away from your ways as a unit and individually. AMEN
3 years ago, I met a man online who was a Believer. I thought he was the man that God has prepared for me however, he ghosted me. Until now it still hurts because he gave me a bible and it breaks my heart everytime I remember him. 😇
Love yourself! Don’t let the pain stop you from moving on. I was in a toxic relationship and my ex had give me nice things I was going to throw them all away. But I used them a plan that God had for me. That bible which you have may remind you of him. But it a blessing to read God word with that bible. At the end of the day that guy has to take that up to God what he did to you. Your have value in someone as and Jesus will used you.
@@kennethyoung3673 Thank you for your wonderful advice that is what I am doing now loving myself. Moving forward with the love of God. Actually, we were not in a relationship we just communicate for 8 months. It was my fault I easily get attached to him.
Love yourself! Sometimes we all get attached to someone. The bible say to Guard our hearts and not are our understanding because our heart is precious to God. Let God talk to you about your next step and he will lead your way. That hurt happened to me before and I sometimes it reminds me but I have to pray about it and keep moving.
I thought the guy I liked was trying to date so many women at once. But now I know he was only being exclusive trying to see who's best for him. Well with this knowledge I won't try to manipulate him, but I will sure do put on my perfume 😅
Point 3 for women is so true! I picked out my crush's birthday gift in April, and his birthday is months away! 😂 That said, some of this is true regarding how men act. One time my crush held the door open for me, he has shared some emotional contact but not a whole lot like something he went through and a passion of a specific topic. He hasn't exclusively invited me to anything or pursuit, but in a way behind all of the thinking, he has somewhat invited me to places he visits often. I don't know if that counts though.
There is a woman I have strong feelings for and did my best to show my love: being available, helping out in areas of need, sharing scriptures, but in the end I come to see that she didn’t feel the same as I. Don’t ignore the red flags, guys. I got clues through this whole ordeal but ignored them because of my love for her. Some of the clues were her thanking me for being such a good friend, commenting on how this guy, that guy was cute (I looked nothing like them) and stuff like that. She didn’t lead me on,I chose to be blind. Don’t let that happen to you guys. I hope everyone do find true love because being alone does hurt.
Hi Mark, I've watched probably 200 of your videos. I binged watched a lot of them because of a recent break-up and wanting to make sense of it all. You've truly been a great voice and healer for me. And man the heartache is still there "somewhat". I've been dating for 10+ years and she was the ideal woman for me. She even has done what this video and a ton of your other videos have shown "the signs". But after a little over a couple of months she "wasn't feeling it". The thing that has been great though it that during and after the relationship, I've been doing 4-5 or more times a week in devotions, been praying a lot more, and pouring into dozens upon dozens of sermons and your videos. One friend I think said it best, "you could find the right girl at the wrong time, and it would be the wrong girl". No matter what God is good!
Sorry to hear about this painful season you have been in, but I am grateful the Lord is using this to teach you so much! Keep seeking the Lord no matter what and he will turn your pain into good for you. God bless!
I agree with 3 parts for men since this is excatly me down to the dot in showng interest in a Christan woman. I do my best to help anyone in need (as im able to with God's help) and of course try be emotionally supportive when I can (ie upsetting time for someone). I could be wrong although im not going to be surprised if Im right that I easily and often misread the signs a woman is intersted in me and i miss the cue she's intersted and wants me to pursue her...of course God helps me and likewise the woman let me know directly the interst and for me to initate
I really want to be a mother one day. But I know for this need a man. I never fellt love before, and finding the right person is always not easy. Expecially if I grew up in atests family and area. Therefore I decided that I let God choose me a boy because he knows the best. If he want to give me one then he will. But if he doesn't want to give me one...even if it will make me sad, I have to accept it because, again he knows the best. jealousy is something what I really don't want to feel. But..when I see as some chistans couple how they met with each other, and how happy they are, I should be happy for them and not feel jealous. When I felt the jealous started growing I quicky called God to remove this feeling from me. And He did. The same case was when I seen a mother with her baby. It made me sad possible I never experience this in my life. But who knows? Only God knows the future.
I totally understand how you feel :/ it can be hard sometimes. But I've learned when I got stood up a few days ago, he clearly wasn't the right man for me. But God is faithful and will never leave you. Keep praying sis :) I'm on the same boat as you :)
I got to make a disclaimer here. Ladies if you're interested in talking to a guy don't say brother in Christ. Okay guys talking to a woman Don't call her your sister in Christ because that throws a friend zone floor mat now. That's what I heard in the world not sure how it applies to Christianity.
I cant stress enough on the studying her part coming from a man who is in tbis situation right now! I agree 1000% we find any chance to help her we want to make her life better and enjoy doing things for her. God must be behind it no impure intentions
As a single, Christian guy who wants to get married one day, this is so true about myself. If only a woman would show interest in me so I could pursue her! I'm confident that the Lord will put the right person on my path on His time. We need to keep trusting Him.
Respectfully, I think you lack initiative. Identify the woman you feel God leading you towards...and pursue her boldly, whether she has shown interest or not. Even if she initially rejects you, don't give up. A man who relentlessly goes after what he wants is very attractive.....
@@maureennomagugu3233 You are correct, I do lack initiative and I don't want to put that on my faults, because I am somewhat introverted. This weekend we went with our youth from church to a Bible camp. We do this every year. I stepped out of my comfort zone there and started talking to someone new, a girl who I think is attractive and seems to have a nice personality. I just started talking with her via WhatsApp and asked her to come to church this sunday, and she accepted my proposal. I am praying for this to work out, if it is God's will for me.
Mata rada i has the same issue last year but God had changed my mind set to more positive things. It’s help me to overcome that habit. Ask the lord to forgive you and repent from it. You got this and Jesus is with you.
This is for me also to strengthen my faith. God showed me who my wife was before I met her. We were dating earlier this year and then she stopped talking to me. I was heartbroken but God would not take her out of my spirit. I cried out to Him 2 weeks ago to remove her altogether or bring her back full force. Well, I saw her the for the 1st time in months last week and there are signs that there might still be something there. Going after her hard hasn't worked for me, so it's in God's hands now. He sure didn't remove her altogether so I am believing He is bringing her back.
I pursued lots of Christian women in church, and now my name is mud because I have been labelled a player. Great video. I only wish these women would watch this video!
As a Christian man I've shown interest in Christian women only to be turned down or lied to. I do desire a wife and marriage and have prayed for over 10 years and I'm still single. I don't know what God has planned but I still love and trust in him. I definitely don't want the gift of singleness but desire a loving relationship. Why is it so difficult to find a genuine and loving Christian women?
Hey! Great video, keep up the faith. They showed your video in my church recently and it was well accepted. Know that when you see 1 view, you're seeing a whole church.
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger not sure which one but it was playing after service when people usually stick around and wait for another service to start later on.
You know that you are right whenever you meet the one it won't be perfect but if we both put in the work even though we are miles apart I do feel like we are connected on a spiritual level if you understand what I mean God gets allow the glory here not me God bless 🙏🙏
It's hard I'm such a shy guy I want to presue more. Theres lady's at my work I want to ask. I guess I can't be afraid of rejection and forgive those who reject me. I'm just such a quiet dude if I ask a girl for casual dates it means I'm really interested in her. I know God has a plan for me I see his hand in things all the time.
Thank you so much dude! The scripture was on point. There’s a woman that I don’t know if she’s giving signals but this encourages me to talk with her about it. I do need her to clarify with her what her signals are. 🙂
Yeah its weird man, she’s a good conversationalist, laughs at my jokes, but theres something going on in the background. Hopefully its just her school workload.
I have been friendly with a lady from my church. Another lady from the church asked if we were related, I answered, " No, but I wouldn't mind if we were." She and I were talking as we walked to our cars, and we agreed that we were a btother and sister in Christ. She is lovely and kind and I am interested in her as a friend or more.
Gee Mark. You make it sound so easy. I’ve tried these things to pursue many Godly women for many years but not one of them reciprocated. Any attempt to have a more meaningful conversation resulted in her answers being short & sweet.
Faux Journalist If you don’t want a husband why are you watching this? Methinks you do in fact want a husband, but you’re tired of getting hurt. Well, the only way to love is by risking rejection. Otherwise, the only way to keep your heart unbreakable is to give it to no one. But if you do that, it will harden, and become incapable of love. I believe one day God will fulfill your heart’s deepest desire, though sometimes we must go through seasons of healing and growth before we can receive what God wants us to have. Be blessed, and walk in God’s love and peace, sister.
I havent had very good success with men period.But it's my own fault I was so much in a hurry and I was not bringing God into.That was wrong on my heart.In short you have to do your best and let God do the rest.When God is ready for me to have that special someone he will let me know.
I feel like imma be single forever... It is what it is. I feel like it’s just not my season. Im 29 years old and experienced nothing but disappointment in the dating field. I guess it’s better this way...
So there’s a women from my church who I was introduced to and all was well, made conversation with her and all. She was always surrounded by her friends but they all would giggle and look at me when I would walk by then as service was ending she walks away from her group of friends and sits in another chair in the back looking at her phone but thw whole time was making eye contact with me, I hesitated to go over to her, she walked back to her friends then I decided I was just gonna approach her tomorrow and as I walk back she jumps up and speed walks in front of me and sits down and continued to look at me. I believe I missed an opportunity but we’ll see how tomorrow goes
My fiancé and I just split up but a big part of me feels like God just wants to work in us individually before we take thing’s any further. I know that I cannot just rely on this completely...But God’s will prayers please.
Interesting to watch, however, due to what I’ve been thru the past 2 years, I’ve personally decided to move on from hoping to be with a Christian woman and stay single.....
I believe in God and that Jesus died for our sins and that he is the way and truth and light and I lost my way and really want to have help with finding my way back to God and Jesus and to stay on that path and somedays I feel like I will never get married because I’m depressed a lot and have ptsd episodes every now and then and have autism a little bit but I’m actually really smart with numbers and calculations with numbers and money and I really enjoy cars sorry about that last bit of this thought I’d say a little bit about myself
Maintain faith in God seek help and he will deliver you, and just because you’re depressed a lot and have autism or anything else doesn’t mean you’ll never be married seek God in all you do and he will make your paths straight, he is a God of the impossible God bless
Thank you for being so honest about yourself. God will bring that special someone in your life in his divine time keep praying and trust in him. May God bless you and keep you may his face shine on you and may he give you hope and continue to heal and keep you I ask all this for you in Jesus Name Amen
#1 spot on, I usually small talk with 4-6 women that are single (or show singleness), and after a week will drop to 2-4 then 1-2 then just when after 2-3 weeks talking , like how your day, classes, sports, social life (to see if there another dude), then after all that I go after 1, and the others pretty much are just small talk and get a big wall from me of feelings rather the other one is more open gate. 2#-3 quite depends on the situation, but for me I usually get bored when women are not inviting or showing signs of accepting my pursuit, and normally I rather be single, then go after an uninviting woman, sensual, immodest, and flirtatious, presumptuous, and some girl... especially girls, girls are not attracting, while a woman attracts a man, an a girl attracts a boy with an aim on anything that is not God centered.
Covid certainly doesn't help either of our situations LOL! I wish you luck sister! Be patient and the one will come to you. If you can go to church (unsure were you live and how lockdowns are for you) that's probably your best bet : )
I like the disclaimer at the beginning of this video. Every person has a different personality and a different way to pursue. Each one is as different as the next. I think it's a good thing that you're at the very least are addressing the overt lack of relationships within the church. Most millennials don't have the knowledge to pursue the opposite sex. If this continues and grows any more, then we will see the death of the church pretty soon.
I'm not sure if she's interested romantically or not yet. We chat almost everyday but I feel like she's holding back. I think she's still not over the past relationship damage or she just sees me as a friend. Hopefully it becomes more clear in the near future. Thanks for the video.
@@jojo4rmdabronx Yes she did. Its ok. Wasn't meant to be. Maybe I dont belong in a relationship. If its meant to be it'll probably happen face to face.
Can I just take a moment and say I like the style of this video better than the ones where you're just filming your face talking? I don't mean to sound rude, but it's just easier for me to grasp the message and pay attention to what's being said in this video. Thank you.
Honestly, I am pursuing a woman whom is a pastors daughter. She does things like, listening to me on the things that is going on in my life and she allows me to walk with her to her car. I just have to make sure that I am not over thinking it and I met her parents she was enthusiastic about it lol 😅 and she does kind of ignore me but I am the only guy she does this with. I also see her glancing at me and sitting facing me. I am definitely listening to the Bible but she does not give me assistance a least for the time being but she likes to follow me around when we first met lol 😂 She does not do this much because I think whom ever she is talking to definitely told her it is a signal. Honestly, I think she and I are just getting to know each other and the more I talk with her and get to know her the more I like her. She also blushed when I told her I saw that she is a very helpful person when it comes to everyone. She was very surprised by it. Update: I decided that I am going to have a boundaries because I think she uncomfortable so I want to make sure it is not because I am doing things or just she is nervous. I do not know her well enough for it so I think it is a great idea.
Praise the Lord 🙏. I like a non-christian. Pls pray for him to turn his heart towards Jesus n follow Jesus with his whole heartedly. Pls remember this ur daily prayers. God's will may happen. Amen 🙏
@@todayisthedayofsalvation We're in long distance relationship. So whenever we talk I'll try to tell him about Jesus. But I don't think that He will think about Jesus after that.
Well Trust that God will and has already started to change him, you know this could be the start of his faith, you. I wish you the best, may God’s favour be on you two
This comes in my life at the right time n its so true like right now there is this girl she is a catholic and we met through the strangest way on tinder my name is joey and her profile pic were rachel from friends lol but she lost her faith and is living in sin and I am praying for her everyday to hopefully she comes back and love God as much as I love God and because of that we parted ways because I want to save myself til marriage but she couldnt wait and I need me a god fearing and loving woman so thats why I am not with her rn but I believe that God will find a way to bring her back and then she will become my wife if that happens 🙏🏽 pray for her with me plsss (her name is Angela)
