I learned VERY quickly when I tried to tell my truth to our mutual “friends” - they were ALL on his side! Blew my mind until I learned what narcissist and flying monkeys are! It all made perfect sense after that! We no longer have “mutual”friends!😂
Better we stay stictly to the Word, which has prooven power - all other words are just wishful thinking, just simple words. - Or another way to say it: put all into God's hands - leave your own hands out of it. Just stay correct, no blemish on me /us . - Prooven successful tactic. -- The word recited by Joan is The Word , literally. Let us use and overcome with that. @@LifewithSenoritaK
@heather... In the workplace, after they have tried, tried and failed they get tired of failing and their boomerangs returning back to them; so they get tired and leave you alone. Then, they keep their distance, oh definitely watching you. Or, try to get close to you "for show only" ⚠️Beware ⚠️
@@AashishSrivastva I'm in indescribable pain right now, the only thing that keeps me alive is knowing my sworn enemies will reap what they sow, and they actually already reaped a part of it, as it is written: "There is no peace for the wicked". No, the wicked can't have peace in their heart. So the best revenge for their victims is to have peace in their heart !
Some narcissist love the fact that you know. They get off on being mean to you and then switching to nice when someone else enters the room. These are very sadistic people.
You really help humanity. Narcissistic behavior used to be hidden and people could not figure out why they felt so terrible being around people like that because it is almost subconscious attacking of their victims.
If the narc can’t destroy your good soul, they enlist their army to come in. You alone are smarter and stronger than all of them bc God is in you. Know this, God works through you and protects you w wisdom and understanding and then you take the actions you need to based on your God given intuition.
Yes ..he is getting his flying monkey to do his dirty work. The narc is not that bright or playing the ultimate victim role. Psalm 35 let him fall in his own pit, he dug for you.
Let me tell you. Eyes of rage. They will make sure you know they hate you. That’s how they abuse you indirectly. They follow/stalk you so that they can express their passive aggression. And of course they speak shit about you to others.
4 family Narcs tried hard to destroy me in so many ways. Severe smear campaigns, mental abuse, gaslighting. You name it, they did it to me over many decades. They would even boast about how slick they were in their control tactics, but as the years pasted, I just stayed focused on not returning evil for evil. Prayed for peace, and finally got it. All died over the years of various illnesses. Hebrews 10:30 God says, "Vengeance Is Mine, I will Repay". Not sure if God had anything to do with their outcomes, but We all do Reap what we Sow.
Just described my covert narcissist husband in church... his mask slipped and you could see the other person slap in the missing puzzle piece. The Ah hah look then the oh look... yea. Not so Christian like after all bubba.
Some countries have recognized coercive control as a type of domestic violence & abuse. It needs to be recognized everywhere. Even where it is legally defined, I imagine that such psychological abuse is still difficult to prove -- especially since you practically need to wear a body cam everywhere you might possibly run into them, or any of their flying monkeys. By the time you realize how damaging the abuse has been, there's no way you want to put yourself anywhere near them anymore. If only the prior memories could be downloaded to shareable videos...
Happened to me and I exposed her to others what she was doing to me. It infuriated her. She sent a threatening text to me. I did not respond and blocked her. If she continues, I will contact the authorities because I have proof of her threatening text. These demons want to play hardball, bring it on.
For me the narcissist can’t even look me in the eyes anymore and shys away like a coward everytime 😂 Narcissists = most pathetic creatures on this planet
My ex stared me down. Not sure if he did it to be intimidating but I saw a glimpse of fear in his eyes too. Proof that he hides behind a mask. He learned not to fuck with me after exposing him. Narcissists are cowards pretending to be unbothered.
"like a child" is an other betraying defense-mechanism. The plot against, the betrayal , the secret theft, the smearcampaign - everything goes further on, now much more hidden under cover behind your back. Do not let guard down - next smear and baseness is around the corner.
Absolutely!!!! The narc I unfortunately was involved with did EXACTLY what you mentioned. They acted like a "PRIVATE EYE " trying to get all my info just to use it against me. Lord I'm so grateful I'm finally away from his evil presence. 🙏🏼
I was actually in a relationship with one, long story short I got discarded not too long after he met my brothers and male cousins. They didn’t like him IMMEDIATELY and they made sure he knew it. They would all stand around staring at him and asking me if I’m good. They scared the crap out of him on purpose!
Omg it's so clear now. I've been educating myself for almost six months about narcissism. I've learned so much. But just now I finally understand the final discard. I remember she lied to my face to get me to let my guard down. After that she verbally attacked me and falsely accused me. At first I was trying my hardest to explain and ensure her that what she was saying was simply not true. I even had proof. But it didn't matter she used it as an excuse to dump me and there was the final discard. Finally came the smear campaign. What you made clear to me is why she did it. Weeks before the final discard we had an explosive argument. In the argument I tried to hold her accountable for lying, manipulating, and I called her actions conniving and demonic. (When she would rage it was as if she was possessed). She knew I was telling the truth so she tried everything to make me feel as if I owed her an apology. Even to the point where a few days later when we were "making up" and talking about the issues she made it see like me telling her that she was "manipulative deceitful, conniving, and demonic" was verbally abusive. She would and could never accept accountability for anything at all. Even the smallest issue she would twist, emotionally manipulate, lie, and rage her way out of. The final discard was because she knew I knew who she truly was. She pretended to be a godly, submissive, gentle, sweet, angle from God but she wasn't. She was a manipulative, abusive, sneaky, hotheaded, toxic, man-hating, self-righteous, deceitful, selfish, gaslighter. I took me so long to see it because I was afraid of being alone and never finding anyone else. I lied to myself telling myself so many times that she loved me. When she never even truly cared about me even a little bit.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. The enemy hates the light. You were the light and she tried to consume you spiritually. Thank God you are on the healing path now. Time to build your relationship with God stronger than ever so it can not happen again 🙏 I wish you well my friend 💗
Exposed her, her flying monkeys, and anyone else she tried to use. I disappeared and I think that scared her more than me ranting and raving. And, I give her no ammunition since I never post on socials that often anymore. I think that confuses them more.
Block the whole lot of them. I even block “mutual friends” just in case and I don’t have more than one social media and everything is private. I don’t have my cv in linked in and nothing comes up in search machines love it
The narc along with the flying monkeys made me psychiatric. And the biggest problem was my narc father was surgeon and it was so easy and neat to play this trick. My elder brother being slightly low on analytical thinking fell for it and still takes medicines as if he is having psychosis problems. They will destroy your will and spirit. They are after your energy.
Spot on. When they know you know and ate not to be messed with, they cannot bear the mirror you hold up to them simply by being an authentic person that knows what they are
Ruined my life. They'll kill you. But you run to God and heal and come out stronger on the other side. Sometimes it takes years to heal and carry on...but it is possible. Please we can not become the monster ❤. It is a choice. Choose good . Choose God
This is true, I’ve had so many think that I was still controllable until they tried it again, and then was forced to realized it backfire on them in a very serious way.
Pray for me guys. I have finally gone no contact. This guy is a psychopath as well as a narcissist. I know he has already destroyed my reputation and I suspect it's only the beginning. I beat cancer and severe depression, the tragic death of a brother but this is worse. Never felt such pain. Total humiliation on the way. He's going to destroy my life.
@OffTheWagonsyes he blocked him I have put a criminal case against him and for that reason he has taken complete control of kid and using him against me. They are most toxic people who cannot be dealt with
Omg...I confronted the narcissist at work and she doesn't antagonize like she used to but my daughter works with us and she is antagonizing her to get to me! Such an eye opener! Im teaching my daughter now how to stop this. Thank you
There's a saying - Lies have no feet and truth has very deep roots... They eventually fail and you feel even better after overcoming battles... Face all challenges and enjoy the battles
This is 100% spot on. Further..... Take it from me. Laughing in their faces might give you a smile for a minute, but it turns them into rabid monsters with only one mission in life..... destroying you.
I have been dealing with these types of people for years. They know I know now, so they are updating their abuse. Also, I dont even know who they are but they hate me just because they're full of hate.
OMG! So true! This person then left the house and then days later I had an order of protection and charged me with mental abuse and was dragged to court for 3 years until I finally got a divorce and for 3 more years I was trying to get myself back together. Now I understand! You are a godsend. Thank you!
This actually benefits you, they are clearing your path by making clear who's your real friend and who's not, so you lose nothing😂the real friend will come up to you to hear your side of the story while the fake friends will immediately believe them.
I think it depends. Sometimes they see it as a challenge. If you find out and call out their behaviours in the early stages, they still want to give it a try as to them no one should be able “to resist their charms” and they need to recuperate their losses during the love bombing phase where they’ve invested slightly to hook you.
SC C and @Happy Dog Wish every situation is cookie cutter the same! We would have a better way of dealing if they were exactly 💯 % the same. It can get a bit confusing….There are levels a narcissistic behaviors. Avoidance is definitely a “go to” behavior. Also combative and argumentative along with gaslighting occurs. Just stay on track an don’t defer if you must have an important convo like (re:child’s Drs appointment). They love deferring to start an argument and create a mind game…. DO NOT FALL INTO THE TRAP! Stay calm a stay on topic. 🙏praying for all of us involved in this!
I agree. I never experienced a narcissist ran away from me. They just became more determined to destroy me. And then I ran away from them (no contact).
You know my x, I see. Lol. I wasn't given the silent treatment either. That would've been dreamy. I think he would be in the same town as me if he could. Ugh
Nope and from following Dr. Ramani you do not confront them verbally or call them out. It's a waste of time. You deal with them through actions. Grey-rocking, ignoring and taking back your boundaries. They are stubborn so whatever you do, DO NOT back down. And while going through this circus of a sh*t show make sure to surround yourself with normal good people who care and love you genuinely, go out enjoy yourself, self-love, surround yourself with nature, etc ... to keep your sanity and mental health.
I play blind and death with these folks- narcissists that is.. Narcissists are to be treated with irrelevance as they are otherwise you the victim will suffer in the long run. Not worth it.
Absolutely spot on! The mask is off my x covert narc now I'm public enemy number one. She's so worried about being exposed. I know her game of lies and manipulation a professional victim that could benefit from therapy but I highly doubt that this happens because it takes accountability to get help and these people can't handle anything close to that. I'm so grateful for all the information I have gathered in the last few months what a life lesson this has been. I'm on the road to recovery ftom this demon. Thank you Jesus I'm free!
When he discarded me - again - I filed for legal separation and moved out. He told me to leave, helped me move out, promised to be there if needed - and is now countersuing for divorce and wants me to pay attorneys fees.
YES EXACTLY 💯 AFTER HE CAME TO KNOW I FIGURED HIM OUT HE STARTD AVOIDING ME TRYING TO ESCAPE BEHAVIOR GOT MORE DISGUESTING ,GASLIGHTINGS & ON & ON ..TURNING KIDS AGAINST ME
Thanks you!! From these videos, from my own life experience it would seem Narcissists are literally everywhere. Self serving individuals today is so common. However through such videos and comments I realise there are many genuine people out there. 💕
Self serving individuals are the legacy of Margaret Thatcher's "reign" of 17 years. My grandiose narc father adored this harodan and ALL she stood for! My first vote - I proudly voted Labour.
I cut off my narc... one day he showed up at my house with gifts for my sick mother. He lives in NJ I live in Kentucky... he said he was driving by and had a gift for my mom. I've gone no contact again... next time... he will findout that I've moved out of the country.
I was thinking of visiting someone i truly believed was a friend,all along i think she may have had eyes on my. Husband, she did a funny subtle,move on him, he recognize something,kinda played it off..but he told me he,s a man and knows when a woman is on the prowl..never said nothing to her about it .then i said to myself let sleeping dogs lie..
This is why it's important for people not to be codependent, as well as have the self respect and esteem to remove themselves. Narcs need a punching bag. If you find that a person is targeting or abusing you (and this doesn't have to be a romantic situation), step out of the way. Cut them out of your life. I even quit jobs because of this. They'll end up turning on those around them and people will start to see them as they are. If it's a group, they'll start turning on each other, because they need a scapegoat, and they're the only ones left.
At a subconscious level they see you as a equal, they see you alot smarter then the person who keeps coming back , abuse after abuse they see the one who can't be fucked with is attractive at a subconscious level reminding them of his/ her mom or dad who calls them out on their behavior narcissists work as they more you like or show love to them the worse they treat you, the worse you treat them the more they Chase you . Only once they have you then they don't want you. Very weird dynamics. But they see definitely respect you more and not see you as a weak fuck , however they will never admit it because they would be giving up power but , once you know exactly who they are and done with them , they won't even look you in the eye anymore because game over , the gig is up. I have profound experience with narcissists I'm a super empath and I had a supernova event I am their worst nightmare 😂
@@--emtpls pls help me and give a suggestion. Let me tell u how I am.stuck. I married him 16 years ago. I had a kid I knew from beginning he is a hell as we never had even an intimate married life. For everything and anything he used to chase me away shun me. I had a kid I thought things may change but no he took that as my vulnerability to stay stuck with him. The abuse when asked for bare min thing was huge. We used to have terrible fights and stayed seperate but often meeting and on and off used to stay together or try to stay together but in vain as fights increased. The biggest mistake I did was I took all the frustration on my kid and parents who loved me and he always was very good with kid over pampering and showoff. Never bothered about any good future for him but just he needs votes. Now I have applied for Divorce and domestic violence case also. I send my kid to me because kid has turned to be a Xerox copy of him in character and I cldnt mould him for better.Je is now taking advantage of this situation and playing . Keeping the kid with him he is playing the game. He is neither ready to divorce settle alimony and leave nor trying to accept his mistakes and patch up but gg iving money and pampering destroying the kid and making him againste and no hood values nor studies.His plan his neither he wants to settle and leave nur give my kid back and the kid don't want to come back for the torture I gave him . I am stuck and staying alone going insane .He is such a criminal that he knows that court cas will drag and inan very emotionally vulnerable Nd if he takes the kid he will win and torture me even more
Very true. Going through a divorce after a 30yr long marriage, only now I'm able to figure out all this. We are not taught to see the red flags. We are not taught how to react. There is only a stop & a go signal, the rest we have to think out by gathering info like this. Thank you for helping me understand that yes, I did my retrospection & introspection well & whatever I have concluded resonates with what I'm hearing about now.
Thanks for the info. I wish I could be the one the narc know they cannot mess with. But since I'm too sweet and nice, they push full speed ahead to start a mess with me. Yes I end up HURT 💔 SAD😢🥺😔 Well they are mistaken ALL the time when I pray for them and God made SURE they reap what they sow Galatians 6:7, 2Thessalonians 1:6.
My husband is avoiding me. I thought it was so I didn't bring up the subject of him seeing a counselor. Now I understand it's not THAT, it's because he realized that I figured him out!!!!!
currently I’m facing a narcissist boss in the office. and it’s already in the abusive phase, he discredits me on my back to other departments, he undermines me, gaslights me and he told to people that my contract will not be not extended by our GM, he makes my teams hated me I dont know they really hate me or they’re affraid of this narcissist. I really feel my communicatiin devices are hacked. cause he knows something not long after I chated about something with my friend that he abuses too. meanwhile in fact the GM told me to survive and stay go to office and to be strong. I really wanna go out from this toxic office but my contract was stated about penalty. so I need to stay until the end of this year. I really thank you for your videos. this means a lot for me cause I know what and how to do we I need to be in the sam room with him.
That describes my brother in laws wife to The T !!! She is a huge stalker . It’s insane the things she does . Obsessed with me . And she runs smear campaigns concerning me . She hates that I’m sincere . But she is fake and self centered and a professional liar . Because of her we had to continue to move further away from them . Even my other brother in law and wife wanted to move far away from them . To get away from the toxic controlling narcissist
This guy is spot on , I have been dealing with a narcissistic spouse and can relate every single thing he says , not a single video he shared is faked or false or Vindictive, he is stating the facts , unfortunately Narcisst person never change for the good
Thank you very much for your great teaching. Narcissist is really good at doing passive aggressive stuff, and they would walk all over u if u give them a chance. They are super selfish and ignore how other ppl feel. If u treat them bad, they would accuse you of doing witchcraft or you are narcissist or sociopathic. The sad truth is they are too prideful ,and failed to see their own weakness ( lack of common sense) and thought that they are outsmart than anyone else based on their disbelief.
