It sucks that we have to be manipulative to be able to manage life with a narc…once we escape I hope and pray we recognize these personalities so we never have to “go there “ with anyone ever again
Sad but true , this is exactly how I safely got out my narcissistic marriage. You have to be strategic. After 3 years I understood how his (sick) mind works. Using logic, expecting compassion or accountability - doesn't work with these people. Thank you Danish for your always great insight and advice.
Don't apologise, what you said is extremely valuable. We rob narcissist's of any payoff when we don't react to them. Too many people get sucked into "standing up for themselves" & "asserting their boundaries" constantly in the hope of better treatment, but narcissist's love nothing more than to steamroll over us at any opportunity & will never raise their standards of decency.
You're not exerting energy on them, you're exerting energy on protecting yourself from the damage they could cause. Self-preservation is a part of abuse recovery, you eventually get to a point where you can make a clean break
Don't, this is not a job, because if you failed the test or made any mistake then consequences of your actions will be even more dangerous then you think
I recently talked him into going to oregon to improve on property he has there. I said I'll take care of the home front, you just go and enjoy yourself. He tries to torture me from afar, but can't, it's wonderful!!! By the time he returns, I just may have enough to escape. If not, I'll just keep sending him away, something he loves to do - - - leave.
This is my uncle. The most evil man I know. Backbites and gossips everyone else. But praises himself and exaggerates his own achievements. He lies and manipulates. Gets glee when others have bad news or bad things in their life. Extremely arrogant. Now after years of failures in life and narcisstic injury he has finally gone quiet into a miserable depression
I married two of them, (not at the same time) and they both cheated, lied and stole from me. They both left me for a beautiful blond. They are dead now, but lived with these women for years before they died. I don't know how happy the blonds were, but they stayed. We want to think they are unhappy and that they will pay for their sins, but that is not always the case. I see other narcissists that get what they want and are happy as little clams. We can't care about that, only about ourselves.
I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart Danish ❤ I really can't explain in words how every video of yours was like a lifeline to me after being abused and discarded ruthlessly by my narcissistic ex. May god ❤ always bless you with happiness.
You are right, I’ve had to reach into myself & fight fire with fire. I truly wondered throughout the relationship if I was the narcissist because I was in the midst of battle and was fighting for my sanity. I’ve done this drip feed whilst not knowing what I was consciously doing.
Thanks the time came when people suffered from these evils coming together. I try my best to inform my family and friends about narsisst, so they can be aware and not be judgemental for anyone by narsisst traps.
It’s hard to be so dishonest but we have to preserve our life. I’m suffering from a debilitating chronic illness from childhood trauma and then being with people like this. I will escape as soon as I can. My body and mind come first now.
To get your own back on those creatures you have to set a trap for them. Dangle a diamond encrusted golden carrot in front of them and because they are so arrogant and unintelligent they always fall for it. Then you've got them.
Going through this and now healing, I have learned that trauma has true physical symptoms. High stress and ongoing stress causes the body to go into an inflammation state. Increases aches and pains, arthritis, anxiety, depression and can even turn into auto-immune diseases.
@devadomino4624 I had bad arthritis in my late 20's early 30's. (22 years with a narcis + my Mom) I didn't know it was the narcissistic abuse. I moved away from family for over 20 years and flourished. Moved back 3 years ago to be closer to my kids who my mom has triangulated against me and I have aged 20 years in that 3 years.
No but I had a stroke while with them 😅 Even was dumb enough to call them from the hospital bed in the ER and they started arguing with me then accused me of lying 🤣
Lately, the last couple of days I've been reminded of Easter. Jesus rose from the dead. Danish, This confirms your number 5: I'm rising from the ashes.
I think I defeated the freakjng narcissist over here. I can't believe he's so much different today. I think he got a big lesson. If he tries to love bomb me, I tell him to get lost. I know what you are up to. Gaslight? I turned my back and I say bullshit. I leave him alone. He can gaslight himself and become miserable. I don't care what's his problems are. He knows I am tough.
Insane because I've been doing this all year and recently made a clean break. Everyone is blocked, I chaged around how my front door looks and plan on sending a generic holiday card with no return address to make her think I moved.
That is so sad but that was how I escaped finally!! They kept hiring more and more evil ones just like themselves but to no avail!! Glory be to God Almighty!! 🙏❤️🕊🌟🎶🌹🎚️⚖️
Not only just win, but win honestly & fairly. Narcissist's will win by any means necessary whether it means lying, cheating & stealing, they'll take an award, title, or achievement from someone more worthy & still feel entitled to it.
You know what, I did all of these things and trust me it works like magic to your benefit. If you want to imagine my overall thought process then trust me I used to be as simple as a cow while thinking about other's well being. Then I was given an option by the almighty either to leave that monster or die caged. And guys you wont believe, but my mind automatically worked just like what Danish said, I did not intend to harm him but had to save myself. And now here I am, busy being "the sun" of my life.
I have chosen a different path... Know what's going on around you & DO NOT let THEM know🤫 🌿🪻 Because... Silence is GOLDEN🌟 Have faith in the Natural rhythm of life.. the morning will arrive without fail🌤 Persistence & Determination alone are Omnipotent... Press on..🦋🩵 Drop by Drop💧water fills the pot...🌱🪴 *(Buddha)* Rise like a pheonix...🌿🕯✨️
The last seminar was so helpful. I really have been able to grow since attending. Thank you for this message...it is great to see progress. Much love....
Sad to recognize that I used all these strategies my entire childhood in my narcissistic family. These were my coping strategies when I was trapped and in danger then.
Danish I am a scapegoat of the family, and I never found this information till today, that if you tell your narc on the foon how wonderful you experience a vacation. They talk over it and when you tell someone bad happens to you they listen, only negative things you get attention. So I understand now why I tell everyone the ugliest things and not the happy things that happen to me. I thought I was negative. But I am not. At last I know now where this came from .
I gave the ex-narc groomer the impression that I was sinking into depression, killed myself and disappeared. Actually, I am living a whole new life outside the industry they think I was in.
I didn't realize I was married to a narcissist until 15 years and 2 kids later. Decided to "unload" him but took another 10 years because he had the makings of a Chris Watts - Mr Nice then killed his family and nobody saw it coming. The COVID lockdown helped because his arrogance/refusal to follow the rules gave me legal grounds to refuse entry to our residence. He stumbled into some money, to which I waived my claim, in exchange for peace. No regrets
I didn't realize I was married to a narcissist until 15 years and 2 kids later. Decided to "unload" him but took another 10 years because he had the makings of a Chris Watts - Mr Nice then killed his family and nobody saw it coming. The COVID lockdown helped because his arrogance/refusal to follow the rules gave me legal grounds to refuse entry to our residence. He stumbled into some money, to which I waived my claim, in exchange for peace. No regrets
Totally off topic, but the apartment is beautiful! Very light and spacious, but not cold and empty, but very sweet and lovely. It gives me the vibes that i can think clearly in that room, but also feel comfortable.
What do the non-narcissistic periods represent? Love bombing? Attempts to reel you in and stop you leaving? A way of keeping you confused so you doubt yourself? It's all narcissism. Gaslighting.
That’s a good question, in my opinion they are still carrying out part of their narcissistic strategy when appearing to be normal or nice. It’s all an act to gain some advantage over you.
There's an unfortunate truth to this, that surviving narcissistic abuse leaves a self protective development of narcissistic thoughts and tendency. I had a full psychological evaluation after some of the things I had been through, and by the criteria of the scenarios and my responses, I have a high narcissistic tendency. But the clinical psychologist interpreted the test results in conjunction with things I had been through, and while I tested as a narcissist, I am actually an empathic person with development of narcissistic style self preservation mechanism.
Oh yes,.. I’ve done the false narratives..he very cagey and didn’t believe me so I had to draw on my acting skills…simple things like “ what are you watching on you tube.” So I show him a recipe channel or something other than. A narc video,
I always give my narc compliments but of course it’s like you feel like you must be the never ending complimenter. A few rare times I’ve told him how the ladies swoon at his feet and think he’s the bomb, he eats it up like candy..I don’t like doing this as he never compliments me and it’s one sided…but to get him off my track yes, I boost his ego..most of the compliments I tell him is true He’s always tearing himself down in every area, so I build him up and he s,Ike’s like Al it kid.. I get out a lot in public and get compliments from others.like feel good about myself but yes, when you’re the only one giving compliments it’s one sided.
Please danish sir, I would like have same content in hindi, I unable to understand English very well, I am very fond of your channel, please consider my request. God bless you 😢😢😢
Sometimes when I find a person is playing me, manipulating me, I get angry that they are taking advantage of my goodness,so, now I don’t feel one bit bad about playing games back in order to keep them off my track..
Please offer that workshop that you are talking about in December so that those of us who are working can make arrangements well in advance. Deep core healing from the pain is our altimeter goal.
Danish plz make video on narcissistic men like to around women how their dirty mind think every women in his reach how he see these women where he is doing job their female boss or their sister in laws etc
Why do narcissists bring household items from previous marriages ? I was his 2nd marriage and he brought the pots and pans from his first marriage. He married the 3rd time and brought drinking glasses we used into his new marriage. why do they do that? it's weird.
They will triangulate new supply with old supply and that includes objects. Anything to take into the new relationship from an old relationship to keep you on your toes
