How A Narcissist Sets YOU Up For A Discard and What They Think About It - Part 1 

I left my wife after I left my daughter sent me a video on NPD. I spent the next 6 months learning all I could about it. It blew my mind. It was like a kick in the gut. After a long time of reflecting on our past history which was 38 years I finally had my answers I knew she had a problem but I could never figure it out. The depth of deception these people have is off the charts. She is very good at what she does. For anyone out there that is just finding out what your dealing with take one day at a time. You have to realize you aren’t what you’ve been told you are by the Narc. You are the complete opposite. It’s been 3 years for me and I’m still waiting on her to sign the divorce papers. She still wants to have that last bit of control. If you didn’t have a good quality in you the Narc wouldn’t have been with you. Look deep into your soul at the person you know you are and move forward. Tomorrow is another day look for the beauty in it. Your not alone in this

I really hate what has happened to all of us, I’m sorry. ♥️

You say they never learn anything. They do. They learn to be more devious, more cruel, and more nasty as time goes by. They learn to become increasingly skilled liars, hiders, and deceivers. And they also learn to be better thieves, better users, and better destroyers. In short, they learn to be better abusers.

I believe there are 5 stages not 4 of a NPD Cycle. LOVE BOMB, DEVALUE, REPLACEMENT, DISCARD and HOOVER stages. They WILL NOT leave you until they have a replacement for you. They CANNOT be alone.

I was married for 21 years and got ghosted!!! These people are really horrible horrible people. The evil that I saw throughout the process of our divorce was absolutely insane.

Once you understand what this is all about , you don’t want them in your life anymore

The pain of discard is soul shattering.

Consider it a Blessing being discarded by the Narc! It's probably the best thing they ever have done for you. It's only hard at first but you will look back one day and realize they were nothing but an evil lie to knock you down.

OMG!!! this was a home run!!! My ex Narc just up and left me for another man when I needed her the most. It’s sad what they do to people who genuinely put there heart on the line, fall in love and want to build a family for these individuals to do just walk out like nothing happened.

I watch many RU-vid channels on narcissist abuse. You have a way of communicating that I've never seen in too many people in my life. The way you are articulate, the calmness, the sincerity and the authenticity is absolutely astonishing! You are the best! Bar none! Thank you soooooo much. God bless you.

It is sometimes astonishing to me how much Narc con has deeply impacted my healing . I recently learned that the brain is cognitively effected and altered when you experience the Trauma of betrayal with the person you trusted more then anyone . It is life damaging. Thank you Paula for educating and helping others . 💕💕💕

And not all narcissists will discard you. I know one and I divorced him. I’m the one who left.

Once a Fledgling Empath Can Learn and Accept the Narcissist Sets Up Their Intended Victims for....EVERYTHING. The rest is as easy to grasp and retain as falling down steps. Most Recovered Empaths were shocked and horrified when they 1st learned the abuse they experience today was conceived and engineered weeks and months even years before it was put into play with no knowledge to them. They don't stick their head up out of their holes without a game-plan.

Absolutely true 💯 Definitely not normal! My husband of 12 years brutally discarded me for the secretary from his work, the day prior to Mothers Day (im a Bereaved Mother) hes shacked up with her, he ghosted me & changed his number. Looking back before i realized hes a covert Narcissist, he had been devaluing me months prior, giving me the silent treatment, he also started talking really disrespectful. Fast forward to this Monday, he all of a sudden could text me from his new number saying he wanted to get his clothes. He left in May with one overnight bag. He said he was leaving for " alone time " but of course i knew it was bullshit. I found in the phone records many calls and texts to his coworker 😈 These people are malicious, vile deceivers

How did I not know about Narcissists?? 40 years and endless tears now I find out WHY! The suffering I put myself through 😢

I'm 13 years past the breakup with a narcissist and have spent many of these years researching narcissism. Yet it still surprised me how you hit it on the head in this video when you said they leave you when you need them most. Mine left when my broken arm turned into a very painful nerve disease that left me unable to use my right hand. I lived alone and couldn't even tie my shoes. He left me with a simple "I dry up after a certain point in a relationship." And he walked out and never communicated with me again.

In Alanon I learned that like an alcoholic who goes “back out there to drink”, whatever the NPD does, it’s no longer my business. New supply, old supply, no supply, it’s no longer my business.

I did this myself i left in a hurry and blocked this man as he was a threath to my health

healthy anger and zero tolerance at there behaviour is the the only way to move on, you are free when you see they are sick.

Paula, you continue to be the most well spoken, insightful, knowledgeable and caring “guide” throughout all of this… For so many people! I am not sure how many years you have been doing these posts, and helping people, but the education you are offering leads to clarification and hope. That life-saving light in the tunnel you continue to put out there is greatly appreciated. Blessings to you and Remy!

As soon as I started standing up for myself. Extremely good Paula❤

Truth.. I had one who helped me during a surgery.. told me I am the love of their life.. I was doing great and healing.. planning for Easter - my birthday, etc.. and all of sudden.. he become critical of everything I was doing to heal myself, etc. It was bizarre and made no sense. They exit when you come back into happiness and your power. They love to destroy happiness..

I was discarded twice by the ex Narc, with silent treatment in between during the "relationship". Just ghosted with no explanation. I did confront him eventually but didn't realise he was a Narcissist. I didn't get the answers I was looking for but in his mind I was the villain and needed to be discarded. Sometime later he used all my traits and hobbies on a dating profile. Totally disordered and so difficult for us to try and make sense of a crazy person even with the knowledge gained. Great video, as always Paula. Looking forward to part 2..Thanks.x

So true....After the last discard off he went to new supply....It lasted two weeks...By then I had his gear packed and ready to go...Geez he cracked it but after 35 years of this....Enough was enough...Even our adult children knew he had gone to far...3 years narc free now and my health has improved and I sleep like a baby...

My husband discarded me for the second time now: the first time for another woman and this for his best friend whom we all used to hang out with all the time!! I had no idea I had been triangulated ... I still feel like I am dying, almost 8 months later... the worst pain.

This is exactly what happened me! We had a minor argument and i just told her to behave herself in a gentle tone. And the next day after work , i came home to an empty house! She packed up & leave while i’m at work. I was in HUGE SHOCK pleading & begging her for a chance. She refused all communication & discussion! Serve me the divorce papers within 4 months and end a 6 years marriage abruptly! I look back at our photo albums for the past years & before, we went out every weekend and really enjoyed ourselves. Just a week before she left, i bring her to a restaurant that she really like & she hold my hand saying “Thank you my love, i really love you” & one week later ended up divorcing…It doesn’t make sense at all!

We always baked cookies every Christmas and I made beautiful trays for his friends. He would leave me at the house and proudly go deliver the trays. He won't have me this Christmas to make him look good.

Married for 3 years and my husband just LEFT ON THANKSGIVING morning and as of still hasn't had ONE CONVERSATION about why he left, or where the marriage or possible divorce... literally has left me in pieces. I'm doing my best to figure it out. I served him divorce papers, and here we are it's the cruelest most contemptuous egregious thing anybody could ever do to someone else.

One of the red flags was when our daughter was born. When my daughter was taken out of the birthing pool, they put her in my arms first because the midwives were finishing up with my wife. When my daughter was given to the ex, she had a face like a wet weekend. I said to her “what’s wrong sweetheart?” She said “I can’t believe she hasn’t got ginger hair”. This sadness went on for another hour. It was weird.

My ex discarded me in the Christmas season...twice. The first time, I didn't really understand what happened, only that the communication became less and less. The second time, it was with a message that I found to be mean. While I did not know that I was dealing with a narc at the time, I decided then and there that I was DONE. How dare you disrupt my holidays for a second time! Plus, I was not liking how I was being treated or spoken to; I deserved better. Still, it took me some time to unpack everything and understand what I was dealing with. Thank you for these videos that help us realize it really had nothing to do with us. They are twisted people with ill intent and we are better off without them.

No matter what you do, it will never be enough for a narcissist. You can spend years taking care of one.......only to be told you are lazy and unstable. / holidays are hell.......and when you are grieving. They go out of their way to make sure you KNOW that whatever you do, it's not good enough.....you could have done better. PS- your tribute to Sinead was so beautiful.......I think she would have loved that.❤

At the worst time, as in 😢he death of a loved one. So astonishing, so true. My goodness, I never imagined an adult in appearance would be so cruel an inappropriate.

When my ex narc thought I might have a serious disease and I had to have a CT scan ( which turned out to be clear) he quickly suggested that I should make a will and leave everything to him because my kids don't deserve anything. He also thought we should get married. Id been with the narc for 20 tortuous years, and he ruined my family. But I think he eas detting himself up to take everything then ghost me. But something in me knew he was evil. He loved my misery and the fact I didnt feel well. But now I have started life up again and so thankful to God 🙏 because he answered my prayers. He set me free from my narc by giving me the opportunity and strength to do it! Never looking back! And no contact!

Thank you for another great podcast Pola. It helps to realize that you are dealing with a person who has a personality disorder. I also think that covert narcisists are sociopaths - they know what they are doing, they are cold, cruel and calculated which is why I think they are the worst type.

Thank you For Sharing This I Was Set Up For A Discard 4 Months Ago I Was Hovered Devalued And Severely Discarded Like Trash. I Have Been Severely Depressed Low Self Worth Low Self Esteem.I Don’t Even Feel Human. Being Discharged Is Brutal I Should Of Known The last Time I Seen The Narcissist He Did Something To Me Very Disrespectful.I’m Looking For Support I Need It

I see the pattern now. You're right. I began to give blow back. Not everything about her smelled like Chanel.There was someone waiting in the wings. It's not normal to end a longstanding relationship and move in with another person 3 mos later. All planned and she wanted me brken beforehand. Black hearts.

How true that it's so unbelievable to find out someone in your life is a narc… and for me, it's my mum! Yes, and I have to listen to many many videos on narcissism to convince myself!

It all seemed like a well corriographed stage play after the departure. A vampire & me with my blood almost gone 🧛🩸

I was married almost 40 years, & my husband suddenly died 5 years ago of fatal cerebral brain hemorrhage. His parents & sister were narcissists. After funeral MIL & SIL acted like I never existed, free at almost 70!! I certainly can relate, couldn't even talk at a table. So abusive 😢

I have to co-parent my youngest children with the covert narcissist I spent 12 years with. Before that, I was raised in a home with an extremely abusive narcissistic father who also had sociopathic traits. I realize that my first husband had extreme OCPD and it was compounded by the fact that he was an abuser who weaponized my trauma triggers against me to subject me to extremely cruel accusations of infidelity (I was never unfaithful.) If anyone knows about OCPD, the disorder is characterized by intrusive thoughts obsessions and compulsions. He obsessed about me cheating on him and felt entitled to give in to his compulsions to demand that I prove it while accusing me of being a liar and a whore. That trauma triggered my childhood abuse trauma from my father and and abusive 3rd grade teacher. It was comparable to an enemy gouging out a still healing wound so many times that the person is left lifeless and numb. That is how I was when I finally said "Enough" and left him. I could not feel anything. I only did left when I saw that I was not going to be able to be a functioning Mother to my 2 older kids if I stayed. I wish I could say I valued myself enough to leave him but no. If I had not had my kids, I might have committed suicide. The psychological abuse was that bad. I am not sure if he was a narcissist but he might as well have been. Then I went on to date a narcissist for a summer and felt I was truly in love for the first time. He discarded me over the course of a week and took off to another country. It turns out he was planning to do that while leading me to believe we possibly had a future together. Then I went from him into marriage with a covert narcissist. I was on the rebound I guess. I had no idea that the Covert kind existed though. I knew the red flags for the overt kind. My father was that kind to an extreme degree but nothing prepared me for the sneaky passive aggressive torture of the covert narcissist. I had a history of being raised in a cult and I met this new narcissist when I joined what turned out to be one more cult. I love my spirituality and hate religious dogma. That cult changed what was an extremely profound spiritual philosophy into one more cause for suffering in my life. I recognize now that there are definite similarities between the brainwashing of any cult and the brainwashing an abuse victim receives from a narcissist or any abuser. To say I have been through the psychological abuse ringer is an understatement. I feel like I could help others and I would like to reach out for help. I need support in my efforts to co-parent my two young daughters with this covert narcissist that I just got a divorce from in July. He also has obsessive compulsive personality disorder and adult ADHD. It is exhausting to be around him and I endured it for years. I am not sure how. Now our youngest daughter is showing some obsessive compulsive traits and I am seeking counseling for her that will be specific to her needs. Hard to find in a rural area but I am trying. I have very little money to offer anyone but I could use a buddy on this site. I wisht to continue to learn ways to set firm boundaries even as Im forced to co-parent with a covert narcissist. Thank You so much!

Oh my God, I am so glad I found this episode. This is precisely what happened to me. My ex told me out of nowhere that he was moving out (we lived together for 1.5 years and dated for 3 years) on New Year's Day (!), 12 hours after toasting the New Year with champagne, kissing and telling I love you, even planning to take an oversea vacation this year. Plus, I was really sick on that day as I caught the flu. He moved out 10 days after that with very little regard for me, hurting me with harsh words like it was all my fault and I treated him like trash (??? he never told me that, and I don't even know how to treat anyone like trash). Shocked, puzzled, confused, and devasted, I spent weeks after that trying to figure out what led him to leave me (he gave me a half-dozen reasons, but many of them I could not really get), why he did not even hint it before, what did I do wrong, would he change mind and come back, etc. But now I understand - he was a narcissist! Now I come to think about it, he told me how he broke up with his ex-girlfriends (he is 60 years old and never married), and I see a similar pattern in his breakup history. It's always because he "suddenly" felt he was in the wrong relationship and left without much regard for his girlfriends. It was always their fault (they were not loving enough, not caring enough, working too much, talking too much, etc. etc.). Now I was dumped with the same accusation. Wow, now I see it - he was a narcissist. Thank you so much for this enlightening video. I had been torturing myself, trying to figure out what was wrong with me and how I could be a better person. But now I see I don't have to be so harsh on myself and think it was 100% my fault. You really saved my life and sanity! Thank you so much.

It took me 30 years to understand that my first boyfriend was a Narcissist after getting discarded by another Narcissist in my 40's. The first one discarded me on my birthday no less, sneaking off from the celebration to sleep with one of my "friends". Then he paraded her around as his new prize, just to rub it in my face, and he tried to hoover me a couple of times before going off to university - I wouldn't sleep with him, so he backed off. I was in terrible pain when I should have been enjoying my life. My A-levels suffered and I came out of school with poor results and a chronic lack of self esteem. I drowned the pain with drink and drugs and didn't really come out the other side until I was in my early 20's. I'm so glad there's all this information out there now about NPD, because when you don't understand what's happened to you, it's even harder to recover. I was much more sure of myself and confident in my own integrity second time round, so realised it was his problem not mine.

I was discarded just after my birthday, while i was recovering from covid. It was the worst moment of my life😢. That is pure evil, for someone to treat another human being. Thank you paula for you videos, it has helped me emencely. God bless

I did not think it was possible for any human to have this thought pattern of fake love, wanting your house, discard, divorce and NPD. Until it happened to me. Then it all came together. Personality disorders in the cluster B arena should be taught to young people. Everyone should have a pre nup as an insurance policy.

This is so spot on! My narc ex did exactly what you described. She was cheating on me but waited until right before my birthday to discard me. Then she became official girlfriend of the new supply on my birthday. In a new relationship in less than a week! I didnt find out until later that she had been seeing the new guy behind my back all along.

Mine did a reverse discard . He covertly abused me so severely that I had to leave . He has not blocked me , he still lives in the same house . . . I have no intention of ever going back and I told him as much. It's been 9 months since I left and wouldn't go back for even a trillion dollars . Nobody has moved in with him . He gets home early from work and he drinks a lot more now . . . I know this because both my sons moved with me but the younger one visits his dad weekly . . .

It’s truly life shattering and a wake up call. I started learning from the book “ sociopath next door” 11 years ago. I was disgusted and had to learn it. That’s when I started educating myself. You are stellar at teaching this. I still tune in to keep it fresh in my mind.

Paula, you are a beautiful soul, bringing peace to people in their distress; Matt 5:9, God bless you!

It's like, did someone tell you about my experience with my ex narc. He tried to love bomb me the day before he was leaving. It feels like a puzzle that has been put together by you, and all I've been through has happened exactly the way you've brought to light about ex narc. He has moved to another state to start the cycle. He's blocked, and I'm making progress. I "appreciate" you so much for bringing awareness❤

I am a super empath. I attract narcissists. I believe the last one was mirroring me back to myself. Our relationship was almost perfect, except he was cheating on me with his ex. She would come back into his life when he had someone new. She would then pit herself against the new partner, get him to discard them, then dump him, leaving him devastated. I left the narc. He briefly went back to the ex. She dumped him. He went into terminal decline. I'm traumatised.

This is sadly true, and of course, these types of behaviours are also evident with friends and or family, I’m evolving enough to understand that this is how many adults are in society, behaving like children, often due to their own insecurities. The mind games, to deliberately seek a positive, or negative reaction for their own benefit. the ghosting with no reason or explanation. Protecting their already fragile image, and damage your image. I don’t feel safe feeling vulnerable around anyone who Isn’t making an effort to be a mature person. It’s true, being vulnerable around people like this would be like bleeding next to a shark.

The ex narc is addicted to the catfisher, who keeps taking him through the recycling phase. It's as if he's chasing a high he once encountered, but he's never able to meet in person with this being because of being a "catfisher and a narc." I made it out of the web he spun for me❤

Video is so true about them, it's like they want to do canning of humans to keep their shelf preserve supply going on to utilize at their convience.

I can't believe how accurate you are with analysis of a narc

I was left just before i had my son and i had been in hospital for a while i was devastated

Hi paula , I hardly ever comment on RU-vid , but I want to take this opportunity to say thank you for saving my sanity and possibly my life. There are far too many examples of how I fell into this soul sucking “ friendship “ to write. You have given me hope and enlightenment to stay positive, you understand far more than anyone else. Thank you

“We walk on this earth but we’re not of it “. Jesus Christ. The 3 D material world is always changing. The Narcissist clings to it. Not being able to recognize that which is not changing the true self is no form. We are THAT. Consciousness Love Truth.

Paula I find you extremely knowledgeable and easy to listen to I'm at a stage where I'm able to have alot of laughter with your comments on such destruct able vermon I call them

It took me 1.5 years married to find out what was going on. My spirit drived me to the answers that I was looking for..I took a deep breath and left before loosing my mind or worse die from their poison. Of course I had to face big pain as kids are involved but after 2 years of hard work with myself I have been heald and the kids will grow in harmony and love because their father is a winer a legend. I have become stronger than ever. Nothing can stops me to be my best version of me. Everything will be OK I promise

The hardest part of this is learning to trust people again because let's face it Theres a significant number of these psychopaths narcs about. Which makes you very careful who you let in to your life No one is perfect but these narcs are dangerous and beyond help or change You learn to spot them a mile off they literally are evil and ruin people lives .. Love yourself it's a lot more rewarding

For me it was Cancer going through Chemo and radiation then returning a vehicle I had lent him in bad condition which cost thousands to fix... it was at this point I came across an article on narcissism that I recognized who this person really was. It was a mind blow!

Going through the discard right now.Sooo unbelievable at the amount of evil someone can do to another fellow human being. These people are agents of the devil.Sooo painful.Im holding onto God.I know things will work out well eventually. Thanks for this video

He proposed on day three. I accepted, naively thinking that it was love and that I was totally valued. It was the 70 s and we were all hippies living in old country houses (cheap rent) and therefore, pretty isolated. When we went from my place back to where he was living, there was a young woman and her four year old daughter sharing his old house. He said they were just friends but within hours, she was packing her stuff in her old car. All she said to him was "Thanks Greg". She left. I must have been so ignorant. My life had been very sheltered up till then, but I felt very uncomfortable and very sorry for that poor lady. I asked him if they were a couple and he said they had only slept together a few times and there was no commitment. I had never heard of npd, and that would remain so until after he discarded and replaced me, forty torturous years later. On the occasions that I did mention her over the years, usually to make a point about his insensitivity, he would just clam up. Demonic creature. All those years he was an accountant but he had no ability to manage our money or assets. When he left, we were renting and as far as he knew, I was left with nothing except my disability pension. The new supply has property and I guess he feels he s won. I, however, had saved $23,000 over the years. I never felt safe or secure with him in charge of my future. After five years, I have inherited my Father's estate. It's not large, but it's enough to secure my own home. The narc lost three of our previous houses. Yes Paula, you are right - the discard was just after Christmas, and we signed the divorce papers a month later, on our anniversary. That creep!!

Are they / you building Trust? Ghosting breaks Trust 😎 clearly defined goalposts of Trust

God is our Helper. I do thank you very much Paula. My life is a disaster afterwards, but God said: "I'll never leave you, nor forsake you" (Iz. Bible). You are a wonderful teacher. I'm learning so much in your chanel nowadays. Even though I've already known a lot. You are the one who puts everything I know and have experienced since 2003 in order in my life at last. Thanks the Lord. Thank you my dear Paula, be blessed in the name of Jesus who defeated and disarmed satan through His precious, innocent blood for us to be free and brave and full of joy for every and ever.

Really feel the fire in your words. Truth.

Hi Narc Con the malignant narcissist I was with I dumped him twice and the third time was the final discard from me he allowed his mask to slip too many times and his emotional ,financial and verbal abuse no .I couldn’t take dealing with the demon I beat him to the punch gone no contact.

I finely left and never returned I did not even know he was a nark impossible. to talk to him alway’s being right no say sorry ever Thank you you explain everything so well he ticket all the boxes 💐💐💐

Sometimes they do want your life as Paula said. In my experience he wanted to muscle in on my family. I have 5 wonderful grown up kids and he wanted their admiration. So he tried to turn them against me by telling them I'm crazy and it was my fault the relationship ended... which is not true. I am not crazy and he very abruptly and cruelly discarded me. However he attempted to win my children's favour and get them on his side by telling them the exact opposite of what actually happened. This tactic did now work for him, I'm happy to say.

The other supply will be Returned.... in time In time Ty very much for this ❤

Buddy request.. 6th decade of life .. Midwest USA .. living still in this situation while each commitment, intention and pro social behavior is being dismantled, respect and good will being gutted, because they cannot own any accountability or retain any responsibility for who they have become nor allow you to retain your identity and good qualities. They are hell bent on destroying you because they cannot admit to themselves any harmful or unfair behavior or attitudes,as it is necessary that the fault be yours.

I stood up for myself and my kids and he discarded us and blocked me and i blocked him back and enjoying my life and healing

Narcissism This daily dancing gouges deep scars in my heart and soul, each time the dance restarts, and round and round we go, begging, pleading, apologizing, showering me with love, praise, promises, anything that will keep the dance alive. I think of the leopard stalking the shadows, waiting, patiently for its prey. Hiding spots that can't be changed. When the claws come out, slashing, opening old wounds, I am unwilling to continue. I crawl away, mentally exhausted, bleeding profusely from my soul.

Wow, I was discarded on my birthday, like a few others. She planned a big event said be ready at 5 pm, then she never showed up. I was so distraught that night. Anyway, this video helped me understand. Great video, thanks.

Yes, it's true they're vile, even when we have lost a job and have big financial problems. My ex loved it. He loved it I was almost begging for food. He got a kick of not intervening to help me. Didn't even give me food to go home after Christmas (we didn't live in the same country). And guess what, it was always me visiting and paying for my trip 95% of the time.

He left me when I lost 2 friends, my cousin and my job and I was utilising any energy I had left giving it to him and trying to make him happy. When he left I was suicidal and all he could say was, “I can’t be your sole source of happiness.” I was clearly devastated over losing people close to me and felt my life had been turned upside down and he made it all about him.

Excellent as usual. My male friend,'s xwife narc, after 34 years discarded him wit a dear John letter, week after their weekend away for the anniversary, and had good sex the night before giving him the letter, exactly as you have mentioned here as a common disgusting way they are so cruel and manipulative. Keeping the poor partner confused and vulnerable to keep manipulating and using them. Oh, and she was texting the new supply same night she delivered the dear John letter . Nice one 😮

My Narc left me when I got laid off from my 20 year job and my cat died the same week, had that cat for 17 years. The job layoff was prior knowledge so he knew it was coming. He started a fight with me and said horrible things to me. Like any normal person I told him to get the F*** out. As he was leaving I noticed he had a big smile on his face. His plan worked, together for 12 years. I was baffled and confused, ended up calling his ex wife. She was nice as can be, told me a few things, and said he was a psychopath. She was right.

Buddy request in New Jersey 👍

My first time listening to you. 100 percent as to what happened to me. A year on and I'm still struggling. Really great video. Thankyou.

I am using this series to learn to truly understand the discard process narcissists use because I do believe my various family members have used this technique on me in the past. I am not a narcissist, so I could not figure out their drama and why they were asserting themselves so rudely. Nor could I figure out what they were doing or why, though I have continued to try to understand. One elder sibling wanted me to become some sort of person servant attending to all their personal business plus find him complicated real estate that included remodeling help. So because I refused to burden my family with his pompous demand, he proceeded to threaten guilt and shame me. It all seemed so over the top, and was so disconnected to anything normal or every day. He insinuated I was obligated to take the personal servant role or he would talk bad about me to my personal family to guilt and shame them. (Recently I figured out they talked about me behind my back my whole life sadly). It seemed random for them anytime they were giving out cruelty and intimidation with oversized threatening tones. This video is helping very much to see they were operating out of their own personal, very large dysfunctional playbook. Quite frankly I think the demand I accept his ridiculous job offer was so I would say no and be held responsible for him never talking to me again, like a sick yet brilliant discard. Then the discard would be all my fault and his arrogant generous offer of slavery was my own loss!?!? However, it is frightening and eery to experience their delusional forwardness, lack of respect for others personal spaces and dignity, let alone the basic lack of manners. Thank God that although it can feel very threatening, their facts and assumptions are too big and bizarre for regular people to agree with them at all in the long term. When they do the discard, it just feels too evil. So no matter their style of manipulation, the truth is, you'll just want them gone, and you do not want them ever threatening you or what you hold dear again. My theory is my family members empty cores and centers got filled with demons who talk shamefully through them, and also these family members are thus always craving food drugs alcohol because thats what demons crave. These are the spirits of the giants (giant children of the Fallen Watcher Angels) whose bodies perished in the flood. Half human half fallen angel they do not belong in heaven and so the haunt humans on earth till the time of the judgment comes.(new testament disciples and church understood these documented concepts) I pray that the remaining family members get sobriety programs so they might have God help them. I am reading the book "Reversing Hermon, Enoch, the Watchers & The forgotten Mission of Jesus". The book tells of the nasty children of the fallen angels who can haunt us and cause all sorts of trouble and illnesses to humans. We need to be filled with the Lord Jesus to quickly send those demons packing. They hate us because they hate Jesus who loves us and is in us. We are helping to heal so we can help heal others. Much love, thank you.

Thankyou. Needed to hear this.

"This blandness, boringness, predictability". Love it!

Can't stop thinking I am crazy and they were right and I deserve to be punished.

Thank you- very well explained..

Asking for help! Fresh out of the latest discard and struggling to find my footing. Two big discards, two big love bombs and countless mini-discards/disengagements over a 12-year period and I am reeling with grief, bitterness and self-judgement. Could use a friend or two who understand the mania she brought into my life. And that in many ways, I sought. Many thanks, Jeff

Absolutely perfectly describes what’s happening to me …

I feel this channel gives us the closure we never got ❤️

I left my career in July ‘20 because of his health issues. It has been a nightmare ever since!!

I was thirty 5 years with my narc,i had three kids with her three years single no contact.I look back now and see what crap i put up with,i never realized at the time thinking it was just a bit off freindly banta.nobody really knows what you cop,no contact works im lucky my kids all love me and know that there mother is not nice.

You are such a blessing! God bless you so much. Hugs from me and these help very much.

I love you for talking about this knowing and acknowledging that this (as well as the gangstalking) is very much a REAL thing that occurs in this world and the subjects are not insane while at the same time having a degree! You are an angel!

At around the discard, my ex narc bought a magazine and left it out for me to see: 'The Laws of Attraction' with a happy intertwined couple on the cover. Perfect dream for the narc - 'I'm going to attract someone better than you because I'm entitled to what I want.' He left it out for me to see - a message that I was not good enough. I said nothing about his little parting gift - threw it in the bin. I hope he went around looking for it.

Darling!✨️ Spirit thanks you so much for the wonderful help you give the collective! You are shining in your divine purpose, and you do good work!✨️🦄

Great one; LOVED it. Step by step crazy.

You are so lovely and uplifting thank you

Every single sentence said resonated with me

So true thanks

I was discarded on Valentine's Day. My husband was a monster.

I learned so much from this one! I look forward to your videos so please keep them coming! They are so so needed! Appreciate you very much! May God bless you!🌻🙏