How Bullying Shaped Me: 8 Life-Changing Lessons I've Learned 

Ooof, I experienced bullying at work from a younger woman and didn’t even recognize it as such until someone pointed it out. Coworkers told the boss who asked me about it. The bully was transferred to another location and job type away from our prime positions and location within 3 months. I recognized that I need to stand up for myself, even though I always thought I was strong.

Very true

@@barbiec4312. The fact that you didn’t know about it kind of shows strength. You can re-frame it to say you ignored it. Good for your boss and co- workers for doing the right thing.

High school never ends. I heard that in a movie and find it true. Insecure people do mean things. And a lot of their behavior carries over into adulthood.

Me too! Pure Hell.

This is an excellent idea.

This is so true.

Yea it does. It followed me to this day. I left a country to get away from the bullying.

Heartfelt and very useful advice, which I found very validating. Thank you.

I think it’s the reason I never married. It’s hard to trust.

@@californiadreamin5093 I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm sorry you had to endure that and that it's still affecting you.

Thank you for sharing YOUR story, too. My heart goes out to nine-year-old (and older) you. ❤

Ohhh wow that's horrible! I'm sorry you went through that. My bullies weren't all that bad, but it still hurt my feelings! Your experience sounds so terrible! 😭❤

You learn to navigate, lol

I love Marcus A. So much wisdom. Great quote.

That is a very brave thing to do , owning up and apologising to your victim.

That a girl! Great Job!

Same here.

❤🙏❤️

Same here! Fat kid & fat adult. The bullying as a kid was relentless. Thankfully, it did get better as I grew up & I moved away to college.

I think just like you.

100% agree.

I agree. It's kinda sad but true.

Fortunately you chose the best option. Kudos.

I have an elderly neighbor, he is a narcissist and feels he is king. He demands money, I blocked my phone, do not answer the door and keep all his mail. He has trashed talked me to others, but he is 85, all I have to do is wait and that makes me smile. He wants interaction for gossip. I do not comply.

Continued blessings to you💜

Aww. I totally relate. Similar thing happened to me. I had a fantastic job in a male dominated industry and was very successful. I won way more awards and promotions than anyone else I worked with. Everything changed when the national board replaced most of the senior managers and did a major restructure. They employed the most heartless psychopathic lazy manager. He brought over 2 guys who worked for him in a previous company he worked for. Well the trio plotted and schemed and did not advise me of important meetings etc. There was a major restructuring and redundancies announced and I am sure that they felt that I was a threat. Only a few months earlier I won the national award for the best performance as a sales manager. I had always gotten along with my customers and co workers until this evil trio came along and destroyed the company. They bullied, spread rumours and trash talked the employees. The new manager when talking about women managers in another state often referred to them as C’s. I just wished that I had documented everything so as I could have taken them to court. They were that bad I’m sure no one would believe how awful they were unless I could legally record some of their conversations. I was absolutely devastated to lose my job, but I am thankful for not having to work in such a toxic workplace. Hope you have healed. I know it can take years. Sounds like you are on the right path with gardening and writing and enjoying animals. ❤❤❤

It certainly gets harder as you get older.

Key WORD …..a family of origin of a Narc or many Narcs . It’s a spiritual sabatoge until one leaves the unit and comes out of agreement/ breaks the LIE of illusion . The spiritual sabatoge is via their disillusion gossip and slander of you to others behind your back . Comes then into the physical manifestation of others to abuse you in friend groups, career, jobs and so much more. Thank god I was AWAKENED out of the demise and misery of such a miserable bunch of “mean girls” who were unfortunately, all maternal side -mother, grandmother, aunts . Now I feel ICCK when I’m around such . Planning to move to the beach in the future as well You should start a RU-vid channel of reflection on how you came to LEARN the TRUTH. Ps. In my uncovering …a lot of hidden SA brushed under the rug 😑😤 I’ll be one of your subscribers

I agree.

I don’t think they need to meet either. They have different interests and it’s kind of nice to have several different safe places rather than one blended place that has now changed.

I agree. Keep them separate 😊

Karma

Karma! There is a certain person in my universe that needs a little karma.

Irritation makes a Pearl

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There must be something about grades 4-7 that brings out the evil in kids. I know its adolescence, but it just escalates and its like "pack mentality".

Boss? Because I went through this. It's so hard.

Document everything, record conversations if possible.

It's complicated when the bully is a spouse. I read books and learned to become smart about money, and managed my own income stream, quietly. I understand the feeling of having your hands tied like this.

When there is a will, there is a way. Find it!

My older sister has been my lifelong bully as well. I grew up hearing “why do you have to be so weird? You are so embarrassing! I don’t even want people to know we’re related. I’m having friends over so you need to disappear.” I’m 56 now and she’s no better. I’ve embraced my quirky personality and love my life. It’s sad that she is still trying fit in with some false standards. Here’s to moving on!,

I didn't tell my parents about my bullying either because I thought they would see me differently. They would suddenly see the fault in me that the bullies saw and would join them and dislike me also. I am 63 and just say away from people.

Easier said than done. You can’t forget years of bullying and lost rites of passage like never being invited to high school parties or the prom. I’m in my 60’s. It;s a part of me. Nothing I ever do will change that. Thank you bullies, for ruining my life.

@@californiadreamin5093Please don’t give them all this power. ❤

Yes, my experience also.

I'm glad you got out of there, what a despicable place to work!

Anyone who says the bully isn't the one with the problem is a bully themselves.

Therapy??? 💕

@catherinewilson1079 Thank you. I've had many years of it, and I've worked hard at it, too, but the painful memories are still there. I think a child's psyche is like a sponge, and the messages that are given to it bury themselves so deep, the remnants of them remain there for the rest of that person's life.

I’m so sorry that this happened to you. I hope one day you find you can find happiness x

@@bieberfan6300 Thank you very much. I really appreciate it.

@@jod6cindy I’m sorry. I understand. I have never tried it but I have heard EMDR could help.

Yes ditto

That's hard emotional work. Blessings.

I thought I had a bad bullying experience but it has to suck for your own twin to torment you. I hope for you healing and peace.

Family can be the worst and cruelest, as an adult, let go move on, live your best fun life

Bullies are everywhere including church. In fact church is the worst place for bullying. Where there are lots of unspoken rules there will be lots of bullying. “Wherever 2 or 3 gather in my name, I will be there” (Don’t remember the location of this in the Bible🙄)

Me too. Even though my supervisor knew and spoke with me about it, nothing really changed. I felt management wanted to present their department as cohesive and professional, with no problems. It was called a real eye opener.

Same. 💕