You have the power to live as you please without the influence of social media. Let it go if you have to, and gain that peace you deserve FOR SERIOUS INQUIRIES 👇🏾 PorciaAppiah@aol.com Thanks for watching 💋
Felt every word especially the judgment people place when you’re not seemingly happy or expressive of the hard day or moments you’re experiencing on social media. Like we are human! Some people are not wired to be flawless and happy 24/7 with everything they post. Your journey is incredibly inspiring sis ❤️
sis said, “it’s not goals, it’s just a picture.” that’s literally the epitome of social media! the fact that it’s all just visual, not entirely real life.
Replacing social media with hobbies will completely turn your life around. After I deleted social media, I started reading more physical books. I feel more relaxed my mind is getting sharper because of it. Most people on these sites dont care about the next man when things get rotten in the real world.
This is so true. Recently deleted my social media and I already have a list of hobbies to keep me busy in the meantime so that it keeps my mind at sanity and make me realize how much life there really is or was before social media existed
“If you see me, you see me, if you don’t, you don’t” This right here I love about being off social media, I no longer feel the preasure to perform for an audience and if I just happen to meet an acquaintance on the street then great, but it’s not like they can go stalk me or I them, it’s such a freeing feeling.
Social media also causes you to not move on from people. Personally I like to "lurk" on people's pages, and sometimes curiosity would cause me to be nosy. Therefore upset/triggering me whenever I'd see an ex with someone else.
Deleted my twitter and deactivated my snapchat/facebook. I don't plan on going back. Havent had instagram in 8 years. Best decision I ever made in my life.
Social media is a pool of self absorbed individuals, that was me. I’m sure that was you. It’s more damaging than people think, and the worst thing that could have happened to society. I got off for 5 months and just redownloaded because I want to showcase my videography work, but I still feel mentally drained. Not worth it, getting back off.
I never feel good when on social media, i noticed this over the last couple years. Im always filled with negative thoughts as I scroll. Thats how I know its just not for me.
You’re telling the truth Sis. That’s why I’ve been off Facebook for 2 years and snap chat for two months. Social media has us too invested in other people’s lives. We meet people, but not everyone is meant to stay or be a part of our lives. As time goes on people change, and everyone we went to school with doesn’t need to know what we’re up to now. You’re right about getting better sleep!
I deliberately shut down my Facebook, Instagram, TikTok and Twitter so I’d go ghost mode and THEN SPEND REALLY QUALITY TIME WITH GOD. And this was how THE BIBLICAL FEMININITY CHANNEL was Born.
This is awesome. That quality time with God makes it so much easier to connect and love him more and more. May God uplift and bless your ministry. Thank you so much for watching ❤️
I only use RU-vid but somehow got sucked into Tik Tok. Never had an IG but found myself engaging with people who did via Tik Tok as there is a lot of overlap. I am a highly sensitive person and social media would often put me in a depressive state. Some people can handle it, but my spirit cannot. I had to go. Great video, really put me at ease.
This is really great to hear. As you stated, it is super easy to get sucked back into it via others as well. Gotta keep protecting your peace and do what best suits you. Thank you for your feedback, and thank you so much for watching.
I recently deleted my TikTok, I’ve spent far too much time on it the past 2 years and I noticed it was taking a toll on my mental health, it was hard at first but I don’t miss it anymore
Im 40, and i remember happy teenage years before the internet. Even thru parents divorcing, being poor, having bad acne and all that jazz we were blissful. I have always thought it is a bad idea to carry your whole life in your pocket! Worse still, a frigging casino of social media slot machines, yikes!!! You got this sooooo right, fabulous analysis ❤ from Ireland xox
Deleting Instagram over three years ago was the best thing that I did for my mental health! You feel more free to live your real life! Completely resonated with your experience beautiful! 🙏🏻💞✨
This is so true recently deleted my music instagram and I don’t regret it one bit. Because I get more engagement from RU-vid and making more a positive impact on RU-vid as an aspiring artist than I ever did on instagram
Haven’t had Facebook or ig since I was a sophomore in high school (about 10 yrs ago), never made a Snapchat or tik tok. People always ask me why? And I’m just tell them I value my mental health.
I love how you took initiative to delete your social media for your mental health. It's really addicting, and once we let it go. Life becomes peaceful and fun actually. Less is more. But it's truly hard when you are a content creator. Looking for a balance currently.
So well said. We have to get to that place where we can create a healthy balance. I’m looking forward to when I will be able to hire a creative individual or Team to handle such platforms. I appreciate your feedback 🙂
When you said “It was my God” I FELT THAT! This was so good, I’ve felt every single feeling and emotion you mentioned. Thank you for validating my thoughts
Wow same here. I deleted my social media last week and this video just gave me the confirmation I needed that I did the right thing. Thank you so much.
I haven't used any form of social media in 3 months. I left it because I felt it was poisonous. I would much rather meet people in the real world so I can get to know someone. You cannot get to know someone fully online period.
Sis I deactivated my fb & IG last year and I can’t even fathom going back. I love being ghost. I love my peace of mind & privacy and j was a huge over sharer and influencer type. RU-vid & Twitter us all I have. Twitter I just find funny but u don’t share my life. You explained how I feel perfectly. Sending you love ❤
I appreciate you for watching and your feedback. Going ghost never felt so great until now lol. Especially when people see you and gasp in awe of you. Like yea, I’m still alive lol.
I deleted my social media last year. Everything you said is so true. I felt I was just doing things for validation. Wasn’t really experiencing life. I recently just got on Facebook but I set a 30 min a day limit on it. If I feel myself losing myself again. I have no problem deleting it again.
Can you please make more videos because i really like your vibe/energy. i deleted my instagram because i was seeking validation from people and getting distracted from my goals. feel so much better and now i'm gonna spend time reading books, exercising, etc. it's crazy how much more time you will have now.
I definitely will do more videos. I’m glad you feel so much better now and the only validation you need is from yourself. Thank you so much for watching and your feedback 🙂
You hit it on the head w seeing so many deaths on social media . I know people are dying everyday a lot of the times senselessly but without social media more so instagram and Facebook I don’t get to see that constantly
This is as raw as it comes. I think so many will benefit from your experience as I'm sure a ton of people, especially women who depend on public/social acceptance and approval are oblivious to the consequences of social media addiction. It's a sad reality for millions. Social media addiction and the toxic trail it leaves behind to one's mental health is more damaging than people actually realise. Good on your for putting it out there Porcia.
Awww thank you so much. We are all living to learn from each other’s experiences. Thank you so much for your feedback, and thank you also for watching ❤️
Social media makes it feel like the world as you know it stopped & you’re in an alternate universe. It takes stopping to realize trees are still growing, business are still thriving and people are living outside of the apps.
Planning to permanently delete ig n Facebook .. already did Twitter and TikTok … it creates an illusion of happiness.. I agree with everything you’re saying.. especially feeling present in life than on my social media
I just deleted all my social media except for LinkedIn and it has made a drastic difference. I was on and off for a while until I realized my peace mattered more.
Same with me. I also deleted social media but for temporary right now except for linkedin, youtube, whatsapp. I’m searching for peace of mind 🙏🏼😊all is well for us
This video hit home for me, literally everything you said is why I left social media. It’ll be a year for me in April and I have never felt better. I’m pouring my time into people and things that really matter.
I am 23 , started my journey as a Christian in 2017 God told me to let go of social media in 2019 ever since I am off social media. I love it ,as someone who is goal oriented , I compare less now of course RU-vid does affect sometimes but control what I see and watch.
It’s always great to listen to God when he speaks. He has nothing but great intentions for us and he always replaces what he says to get rid of with something much better. Thank you for watching ❤️
Honestly, social media like Facebook makes me depressed. I don’t really have friends and I’ve sent friend requests to others on there but no one accepts them. Facebook is literally a place for people with friends not loners like me. I get sad that I don’t get any likes on my posts. The 1980s were an amAzing time especially because Facebook didn’t exist back then. I guess people met in public back then like couples and friends.
best and most important phrase I take with me: "it's not by force to be on those platforms". thanks, I deleted it two weeks ago and enjoy my "new" regained privacy so much now.
I walked away in 2021 to breathe. I noticed that the moment that I wasn't present there, I was present in my life. I had bad anxiety about being single, about accomplishing my goals, about being out and about in the latest...and when I removed myself from everything that was going on, I felt...relieved. it's still up when I feel the need to go back, but I hardly do because I'm privately having the time of my life. And it's no one's business right now what's going on or what I'm doing. It feels good being anonymous.
Well said 🙌🏾👏🏾 I am currently off of all social media (RU-vid and pintrest are all I have ) but it is so refreshing and rewarding to be in my own energy. Not scrolling looking at what everyone else is doing but genuinely enjoying my life off the grid. It’s a powerful thing that most people can’t do because they’re addicted to it.
I take frequent hiatus's ( if that's a word lol) from social media so I get it. I have even hid the apps on my phone so I won't be tempted to go on it. And it feels so good not to sit there and unconsciously scrool.
I love this. Lol I took so many hiatus as well until I got comfortable enough to break up with it. It’s that toxic relationship you can’t get out of. So good but yet so bad!! Thanks for watching 😊
People say social media only has aspirational stuff and no truth but these are also the people who don't make it a safe space for people to share their raw emotions. Proud of you girl ❤
Girrrrlllll i’m only 1 minute in and I’m screaming. I just had that same revelation about how Instagram and tik tok are really just “instant gratification” apps that leave you worse off and how RU-vid doesn’t have that same effect. I’ve been off IG and Tik tok for 2 weeks and counting and when I tell you it’s already making such a huge difference?!
I have felt so similarly, I really want to build an online community yet I feel so much resistance to wanting to be online because of how unauthentic it can be, I've just had to have faith in my intention
Build that community on your terms with the pace that best suits you. Take it one day at time and if you feel uncomfortable at any point, you can pause, take a step back, and just focus on you. Thank you for watching ❤️
I love these types of conversations! I do 100 fasts from social annually but have been off of FB for a few years now. So glad more people are realizing how mentally taxing social media is. You have motivated me to post a video on this topic as well soon!
Thank you for this video. Social media has completely destroyed my life and my marriage has ended. God told me to delete all the apps as I needed to spend more time in God's presence. Now I am happier and I have my peace.
Preach sister!!! Such great dialogue and so many points made. It’s been 2+ weeks since deleting my social media and I feel soo good. I have better memory, better sleep, better energy levels, etc etc!
everything you said, the effects that social media had on you and how you felt after quitting them... every single word you said matches my experience which is the same as yours. I quit PERMANTELY Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, Twitter 10 months ago and I've been re-finding myself and the definition of happiness and of 'not giving a fuck'. Also, THANK YOU for mentioning the 'privacy' thing. Sharing is beautiful, especially when what we share is art. However, there is a limit and a point when there is just us and our privacy, an important value that is not really considered today...
Thank you for opening up as well and your input on the importance of privacy. It’s great to know that you are not alone. I appreciate you for watching ❤️
i must have watched tens of these kinds if videos this week alone and yet i still have ig and fb on my phone...... dear god pls give me the strength to be one of them
The amount of social media breaks I’ve been on. Currently on one right now & I related to everything that you’ve said! Going out and feeling like “if i don’t post it didn’t happen” or feeling so connected to the News that it would break me mentally/emotionally just even hearing it. I swear the only reason why I have social media is to promote my content & music but if I didn’t do anything, I would be completely MIA. This video really helped validate for me to continue to be intentional with my life & to appreciate it way more than just for content and/or promotion. Thank you for your vulnerability. I loved your video 🙏🏾
Thanks for being you Porcia! This is so inspiring and needed. Thanks for sharing, so courageous you are. I am wishing everyone on here much peace and happiness. You are certainly enough.
I feel your message so loudly! I loved the part where you mentioned posting when you weren't doing well. there is so much more power in vulnerability than in a facade. proud of you!
Thanks for this Amazing message. I needed to hear this even though I knew it already. It’s crazy how what you’re already thinking sounds better when someone else is thinking the same way.
That’s so good to hear. You’re very welcome and just know that it only gets better after the first step! Thanks for watching and thanks for your feedback.
Wow! This video is on point. You said everything I’ve been thinking. I have so many ideas but I don’t finish them. Today I’ve removed by FB, Insta and Twitter. Thank you much for this. ❤️
I'm not a subscriber and I probably won't be. But it was so nice to listen to your voice and your thoughts. I hope your life is going in the most beautiful direction.
Thank you for sharing this really spoke to me deeply. I’ve been depressed for over a year now and recently have started to see how it’s affecting me. I put my goals aside, but when it comes to social media I drop everything I’m doing just to see who’s posting or if xyz shared a story, etc. I would often compare my life to those on media and would feel like crap because my life didn’t look like theirs. As I deleted Instagram and Snapchat I got recommended this video specifically. I think the timing was meant to be, because I refuse to let another day go by without living it with purpose, with authenticity that resonates with me. You’re right, live an intentional life. Who cares if you don’t post, your life is not inside social media, it is outside social media, but most certainly don’t get them mixed up. Thank you once again for your video it really is nice to see I’m not going through this alone. Thank you
I can’t express how touched I am by your comment. I’m also so glad you took the time to watch my video. Continue to work on yourself and do what best suits you. Yes, sometimes we do forget that we are not alone in this walk. Your life is your own to live so live it and enjoy every bit of it when you can. Thank you again ❤️
This is hands down the BEST take on the effects of social media in such a short amount of time. This was so raw, beautiful and completely unedited and I loved every second of it. Your words flowed and hit me straight in the heart. Everything you said completely resonated with me. Thank you for just being so honest and getting straight to the point. This was perfect! Keep reclaiming your - time -!
Great video. Loved the transparency. I've really pulled back the throttle on my social media over the last couple years, where I can go days without scrolling through, but haven't quite quit yet. It does have a stupid way of pulling you back in. With that said, I'm closer and closer every single day to deleting them and videos like yours help give me that last push of motivation to do so. Appreciate it!
Hi Porcia! Loved this video. I agree that RU-vid is such a wonderful place to spend time elevating yourself. You also mentioned being intentional, which I think is so important in all aspects of our lives. It’s harder to be intentional when our minds are cluttered up with what we think everyone else would approve of, or what someone else would do or like. It’s even weirder when we see other people trying to take on and start to do what we are doing in our daily lives! It can definitely breed unhealthy amounts of jealousy in that way. We can really start to know and connect with ourselves when we aren’t paying attention to others, or worrying what they think about us. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏼♥️
This video was randomly suggested to me by RU-vid and I'm so glad I clicked on it! Some awesome points you made 💙 I really like your calm, peaceful vibe! Thank you for sharing 💖
Oh i have to thanks RU-vid' s recommendation on this because all of that you said is just what i feel since i left Instagram about a year ago but i still feel the anxiety with the RU-vid short that just pop up out of nowhere... well, thank you, from a high sensitive person it means a lot
I appreciate you for taking the time to watch this video and for also being so vulnerable. Take it one day at a time and skip anything on RU-vid that doesn’t serve you. I appreciate you for sharing and thank you for watching ❤️
Same experience for me, this is why I love RU-vid.. you’ll see helpful/ relatable content that you can relate with but is helpful overall. Instagram was the opposite, very triggering. 👏👏 new subscriber!
this is so relatable to me. i went 3 months off of it. just recently came back. and i find myself consuming so much negativity. not even intentionally, its just there! i find myself having the urge to share everything im doing. i find myself comparing myself to all the gorgeous "rich" people. i find myself falling into the trap of envy with people who "look like" theyre doing better than me. not to mention wasting more time, being less productive. its time to get off again
i take this step now. And i wanted to make this before, but i don't know why don't I do this so thanks for encourage me for take this important step. thanks from the deepest point in my heart❤.
Told myself i'd detach and just use it for brand building purposes but once I didnt have a team of people doing that for me fell right back in. It's like the worst trap, you need it, but it kills your soul and mind. Worse when you seem to be the only one who seems to perceive this mess, as intensely at least
That part!!! Knowing you need it, yet you gotta stay away. Set boundaries if needed and all will fall into place once you build that team to handle it all for you. Thank you for watching ❤️
You said a whole lot of truth in this video. At times I take a hiatus from social media because at times I begin to compare or feel like I should be doing more with my life. I'm now going to commit to only posting for my business and then logging off. It can become draining at times. I also felt every word you said about posting your man and receiving the goals feedback. Those were my exact reasons for leaving Facebook years ago. Everything is not peaches and cream ❤
You definitely have to put yourself first and work gradually towards what’s best for your sanity. I’m glad you’re taking the necessary steps needed. Everything will work out for you as it should. Thank you so much for commenting and sharing as well ❤
You are so right. I deleted my ig 2 years ago. I had to ask myself what would I gain or lose being off there. It was the most freeing feeling ever. My mental stay was much better too. I did reactive my page 8 months ago. But I learned to limit my time on there. I can go weeks, months and days without being on there. I could never do that before. If I feel again is affecting my mental state I will deactivate & it will never see me again lol.
It’s so good knowing that you have created a healthy boundary. Keep doing what best works for you and as you stated, you will leave as soon as you feel yourself getting to that place mentally. Thank you for watching and sharing 💕
As a business owner I feel I had to stay that was my excuse but god said I got you and I’ve been off social media month and I love being out the loop (if you see me you see if you don’t you don’t) Business is still continuing but I feel free this video I felt in so many ways. I look at RU-vid as television so I’m trying to convert to only have RU-vid it’s hard but I’m going to try it thank you for your video much blesses 💜
Yeah, I have to say it’s addicting! Knowing I’m gonna get a message from someone I didn’t know. Its a rush! You see and talked to people all around the world, some good and bad! I didn’t even wanna be on social media for a long time then I got on and just lost my mind.
