How did a Japanese get married with a Malaysian? | International Couple Q&A 

What strikes me most about both of you is your emotional maturity. Congrats on finding each other and may you be blessed always.

What a lovely couple! I'm from a Sino-Japanese family. My grandmother was Japanese and grandfather was Malaysian Chinese. In my generation, my brother and sister married Japanese and they and their families settled in Japan now. In our family, we often mix Japanese, Mandarin and English together when speaking. When celebrating festivals, we also mix Japanese, Chinese and Malaysian cultures in how we celebrate and in our foods. For example, I still remember my grandmother giving out red origami cranes to us as CNY red packets (you unfold the origami to get to the $$ inside). It was fun and different and my friends who visited our home during CNY back then always enjoyed getting those "crane red packets" as well as the variety of foods served in our home. Growing up, we naturally speak 3 languages at home and later 1 more (Malay) when we started school. Mix marriages and children growing up in a family of mixed marriages are blessed. All the best to you guys!

I love the way you guys dip in and out of 日本語 and English so fluidly, so much fun.

Great video. A suggestion: It's always a good idea for 'white' subtitles to have drop shadow. This will help greatly to make your subtitle legible and easier to read.

No matter where you come , LOVE is always LOVE ❤

Malaysian guy here, married to a Korean girl. She's 3 years older than me as well ahahaha. Oh, and our weddings were 1 month apart from yours (Aug 2022) and we skipped the gate crashing as well because you know, international/inter-racial wedding. Really enjoyed watching this vid.

Thank you for sharing your experience. And congratulations on the RU-vid recognition!

My wife and I relate so much to both of you too, 家事のやり方とか、 a lot of code switching but now mostly only speaking Japanese now 😅. LDR 3 years but same time zone so it was a lot easier than your situation. めっちゃ尊敬してますね。 Hope you guys keep making more videos to come!!! お疲れ様でした。

Congratulations for youtube , wish you more success & further prosperity lovely couple , love from egypt 🥰

Just in time! I was browsing if you had this kind of video (I'm a new subscriber from the Philippines) and I love both your energy and content! Keep it up guys!

Thanks of an introduction to us in one go!

such a cute video, made me felt warm all inside! keep up the great work guys!

Great video! All the best to both of you.

Great Q&A video everything was interesting and nice edits!

Love your videos ! Please keep it up !! Can we have a life in Japan segment too ? :)

Age is not an issue, you still look gorgeous.. Most important, both of you created a great relationship and living well. Keep it going! S'pore fans here!

Congratulations for the success of RU-vid and your happy marriage!!🤗💯

Thank you for being open to share your relationship story publicly! Also double subtitles...is that still very time consuming to do? Wish you all the best in your marriage!

Hey! I just saw your Dorra slimming ad! Congrats! XD

I'm in LDR and I am so amazed how you guys dealed with the 5years without each others. I dont overthink that my boyfriend is cheating, but even with that, I don't feel connected to my boyfriend at all. So actually I feel like what is this relationship for if we feel totally okay without each other. I guess I'm not the one who can handle LDR

Great couple! Hope you and Joshua have children soon! It is a lot of work but it is very rewarding to grow old with children. In Chinese culture, we say "children are a product of love!" I have two adolescent kids with my wife. Your fan from NY!

You two are truly wonderful. I love watching all your videos and content. Even though I discovered you late, your videos make me very happy. I love both your way of speaking and the great harmony between you two. I am from Turkey. I have been learning Japanese for 2 years and am doing my best for it. I just graduated recently, and I need to work very hard to achieve my dreams. Sometimes, I feel like giving up, but your story of how you met was very inspiring. I hope you are always happy. I love you both so much. 💓💓💓💓💓 あなたたちをとても愛しています

Congratulations to you both, wishing you guys many more years of happiness 🎉🎉🎉🥂🥂🥂🙏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼😊🇦🇺🦘🐨

I regularly watch your videos but it's my first time commenting here. The light hearted scenes that we see , I can tell the couple is going a long way. I wish you all the very best in future 🥰🥰

Really amazing, congratulations for the silver button

I'm loving your videos and Arisa's reactions to many things Malaysian gets me every time. I used to dream of either marrying someone from America or Japan but never got the chance so I'm living vicariously through your videos. Keep it up! ❤❤❤

Great Video and Thanks for sharing your Love journey. Wish you both everlasting happiness.

The questions I had wanted to ask. have all been answered. Thanks to you both for making this video.

That emotional maturity. I'm sobbing

speaking of the proposal, Joshua… You are my inspiration brother 🙂‍↕️

cutest couple ever 😍 sweet stories. gentle and kind couple~😍

Love this couple sm!

Great video im new to your channel what beautiful wonderful couple many years of love and happiness ❤😊🎉

now that Joshua bro has mentioned a few ceremonies, Malaysian wedding sounds more diverse and fun 🤩

Handsome ♡ beautiful couple.. hopefully get children soon 😊

You two are the most compatible couple ever ❤❤❤

Interesting and good to know your story😊👍🏻I agree with wedding preparation is a hard work, moreover taking care of family and friends who flew all the way to attend.

Couples normally wouldn’t last through a long distance relationship and to survive a 5 years one is incredible. I guess theirs works not only merely by trust but also because they are sincere and loyal to their partner. Both of them are matured and kept a special place for their partner, such beautiful lovers 🥰

I saw you guys at IOI on 8/6/24. Want to say hi but you guys are busy with something. Pretty couple❤

I think the cool thing about an international relationship is, that you can learn each others culture and if you are willing, you can also learn the language of your partner. Which I personally think is very important cause this shows how seriously you are with your partner and the relatonship. In the end it also helps in terms of communication. Besides that learning a new language can also be a job boost for you.

Thank you for your tips about LDR relationship, both of you.

congrats to the both of you for the marriage and the RU-vid and by the way in my country we have big and crowded weddings as well like 500-600 people is normal

Great video :)

You guys make a great couple. Keep it up! Kinda reminded me of my past. Had a LDR too with a Japanese lady. Though I can't really remember how we broke up already. Anyways all the best to you both. 😊

Hi, do you guys make a video of your wedding , really hope that we can have the opportunity to watch your wedding's video 😍😍😍

it is kind of rare for long distance relationship to workout, so good for you :)

自分も今中華系マレーシア人の彼氏と付き合ってて、自分が３つ年上で、自分達もお互いが会ったのがマレーシアでも日本でもなく、ニュージーランドで少し似てて驚きました！彼はニュージーランドにいて、自分は日本で、今は遠距離中ですが、お二人を見て頑張ろうと思いました！いつも応援してます🫶🏻

Love all the questions, and your answers too! For part 2, I would like to ask a few questions. 1. How did your partner change you for the better? 2. What traits did you pick up from each other? Thanks & God bless ❤

congrats to you all! love your channel and looking forward to part 2 ❤❤❤

I came to watch your contents after Indopan youtuber Erikacang and Mikiya both following you on Instagram. Lately I like to learn from International couple and especially those going through LDR since I may have some trust issues with other if we're apart, Thanks for the LDR tips, you both are so adorable 😊

Haha a 200k special eh😄😆

You guys are so cute 😊

Great video. Do you guys do only RU-vid as your profession, or is RU-vid like a hobby?

Advice from a father of 2 boys here: don’t plan too much, just have a kid now! Haha sometimes what we plan won’t happen one. Btw, how come Joshua speak Japanese so fluently now? Is it tough to learn?

Wow, I am much older than Arisa-san as I am born on 90's too 😂😂 love to see the dynamic of both of you and keep it up Arisa-san & Joshua-san 😊 For baby Arisa-san & Joshua-san got any preferences like prefer boy or girl or maybe either will do? 😊

What video editing tool you guys use? I like it..

Hope to see you after 20 years to fulfill the happily ever after ❤❤❤

The Microwave is the most versatile and therefore the best and fastest cook at home! (Nice detailed q&a)

Great couple! 👍😄👍

With or without kids, you two are beautiful ❤❤❤

5years to put a ring on her?!?! Worth it! So happy for y'all!

Nice video... LDR is tough but doable Language & culture can be the difficult aspect because of the nuances... In Malaysia you can have 5+ languages being spoken around a table, and people will switch instantly, as a group or between individuals. Is unusal for a US or Japanese person to experiece such. Once in Japan I was at a restaurant meeting with a group of friends, and I was the only English US speaker. For some strange reason on that day everyone conversed in English...I had thought nothing of it... When we left the staff asked us who we were, why are all Japanese speaking English? Had never seen it before, plus it was a very select & high end biz location. It is how one learns quickly and makes friends!

Congratulations 🎉

Love this video❤❤❤ Thank you both! So dessune! Arisa is looking younger from her age, really i thought you both are about the same age. As for Joshua, he is a man and for Malaysian, they are always looks younger anyway. 😅😊 age is just numbers . Just be yourself. And i love both of you the way you are . For YT videos, i am really grateful and really thankful for all your efforts. Besides you’re documenting your life journey, insights of life with us, you are inspiring positive energy to many people like me.🫶🏻❤️ terima kasih, arigato gozaimasu! Congratulations 🥂 🎉for 200K! Keep it up!! Love ya!!

Love the video! Just a question for joshua, does he hace any advice on how to learn japanese/what was his methods of learning the language? Im planning on going to japan to work at some point, but am struggling to learn japanese 😅

Congratulations ❤

just curious, do usually couple in your country plan and schedule everything about the wedding by themselves, or you have help from friends and family?

With a woman like Arisa, any parent would be proud for sure.

すごいアドベンチャーですね！僕(マレーシア人)も今日本人の女の子が好きので、ジョシュアとアリサと同じように頑張ります！

Mine LDR last 4 years, and we broke up last Dec in Pattaya, guess finally after sometimes spent together let us realize our incompatibility.......

Omedetto🎉🎉

Hi, your husband is Malaysian Chinese or Malay? 😬 I’m new to your video, your new subscriber. Love to see both of you, you looks charming ☺️

we are born in the same year, Arisa hehe many couples cannot afford their LDR, but both of u can. hope your relationship will last forever

great to know Joshua you doing good. Still miss the time can meet up with you in WMU recreation center and Sangren hall. maybe we not too closed but you will remember me if you see me because I am your senpai. hahahaha...

LDR is actually a good test. Proximity is a big advantage. If both sides can overcome this disadvantage then this shows likely you guys are a good match

Could I ask how and why the 2 of you decided to live in Malaysia instead of Japan? Was it hard for Arisa to move over to Japan? What considerations did you have at the time? I am from Singapore and I have been seeing a Japanese girl but I am worried that she might not be able to ever move to Singapore as our immigration / employment pass policies seem strict and i worry it will be very hard for her to find a job since she is not as fluent in English as Arisa (we converse in mandarin) Would love to hear your thoughts

I love this couple❤

Hi. Where can i watch they livestream video?

try to make a video of Joshua speaking Japanese and Arisa speaking Chinese/Malay

Arisa sis you should visit Bangladesh sometimes. We usually have minimum 600-700 people in wedding ceremony 🥳

I am Malaysian and my girlfriend is an Israeli, at the moment we are long distance but we plan to meet in Singapore.Both our families are asking us to break up but we don't want to.

Congratulations

U might want to consider if u intend to feature your future baby in your videos to protect him/her from potential predators. Also privacy issues. I basically wouldn’t want my kid to be followed when he/she goes to preschool or enrichment classes etc etc. Security issues are important for me imho. 😅

Malay wedding will invite 1000 people😂 we invite neighbours, friends from our batch school, all relatives from mom and dad side, alumni from mom and dad school😅😅

You are so cute😊❤

Arisa-san, Im an ENFP too🥰

lets make it happen 😂🫶

Thank you so much for this video! It's kinda helping for me. I'm currently dating japanese person and its kinda similar story like yours, we are both out of out countries and this helps me really a lot to understand what I should do and take in consideration to take this to the next level! Thank you so much!

Can u guys recommend some nice japanese restaurants in the KL area? Thanks

I am surprised to find a woman revealing her age and not personally but to a wide world youtube. Very strange indeed. Its a taboo to ask woman age. 😮

Bang boleh x tolong letak subtitle bahasa malayu sebab saya x pandai sangat Inggeris 😂 kalau yg susah memang x faham

Where did Joshua learn Japanese...he seems very comfortable with it now...👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Same heerrrreeeeeeeeee..... hai 1992 babyyyyy😊

What does Arisa do to stay so slim and I'm curious what does Joshua do for a living?

Arisa, do u ever feel homesick after staying in malaysia for so long?

なるほどなあ

I thinks this is the first time I’m hearing Arisa speaking long English sentences and she is super fluent. 😮

👏👏👏

Arias is very beautiful and I thought she was around 26 years young.

@2:50 ...that's how weemen set trap and he did escape well😅