How Do I Afford The Lifestyle My Wife Wants? 

Social media has a lot of people thinking they are behind in life. Half these folks are out here showing off on BORROWED money. Fancy trips, new outfits, but credit score is in the toilet. A few years of living modestly will set you up for a lifetime of comfort and financial freedom (especially if you don’t have kids yet). Live in a small apt, drive a used car, cut the cable cord, cook at home. Save your money! You can still go out sometimes but set a budget for it and stick to it. The come up takes time

The fact that she has a husband who is determined to give his wife the life she wants is so beautiful she is a blessed woman

This is a good man, he sounds like he really just wants his wife to be happy. I wish them well ❤️

On point. 25 the journey is just beginning. Don't put so much pressure on yourself.

Money isn't everything. I know many who have everything they could ask for but are miserable and even depressed for some of them. Just be happy and thankful of where you are in life. Stop comparing yourself to others. Everyone has their time to shine, be patient.

25??!! What are they stressing for? They still young... just keep working hard and focus on your marriage

Steve is so right about date nights. Besides, there are so many exciting things to in every state. They can always take affordable weekend trips. He’ll get there soon, his determination will definitely take him and his wife far!

Awesome guy who really got the advice he needed and he knew it. Wish him and his wife nothing but happiness.

Really you are giving some great advise every time I watch you/........ Thanks Steve ..

some people are so focused on becoming the "Power Couple" they're not livng life

Its true what those two said. My husband came to canada with me at the age of 21. He had 0$..and a suitcase with him..we lived with my parents for a longer time and slowly but surely got to make a life..he works VERY hard while i at at home with the kids. Now at the age of 27 we are hopefully going to be closing on a house deal soon. Its an old house that needs renovation but we would rather do that than buy a house where we have way too high of a payment. Our cars are all older but payed in cash so no debt there. All our friends and family try to show of with their big homes and cars but have so mucb debt. I dont want that. I would rather be happy and even if it mean having less right now. I will be going to work too whe the kids are a bit older so more money will come eventually and maybe then we can afford more vacations or nicer things but thats all in time. Dont cave into the pressure of media and celebreties who have all of the bling. Go at your own pace in your own time. As long as you do your best you will reach your goal evemtully one day

Best advice. You can decorate your current space to the way you want it and create your own haven, while you are on your way to your mansion. 💖

A big house comes with more stress if you can't afford it. No need to stress over what you are not ready for at 25. Their is real joy in being content and setting goals for what you want in the future and working towards them. Don't only set goals at the very top all the time. Set mid point goals along the way to the top so you can appreciate progress without the pressure.

James's advise was amazing because it not only came from wisdom but experience n sincerity....so many young people out here needs to hear n learn from this blessing of an advise👌💯💯💯

Wise words Steve. I hope the young man took them to heart.

25... Bruh.. You haven't even established a solid Career yet to even be Making Money over $60-70k per year.. Be grateful for what you have.. Not regretful for what you haven't..

"Press it, PRESS IT!" Steve went all Madea on us!

Uncle Steve always coming through with some words of wisdom... I appreciate that 👍

Such great advice! Guy seems like an awesome husband !

1:32 Lol look at those ladies, neglectingly clapping... "But I wanna big house"

Yes yes he is true. Its not about quantity but quality

What a sweet young man. The advice was right on. Keep it simple. And don't compare yourselves to others. Live within your means.

He say a happy meal... I yelled out "WITH EXTRA CHEESE!" thats right steve!

He's so young 25 and its true be grateful you have a house and good health. Go for a picnic to a local beach and be happy .

Things do not gurantee happiness .

He said go get a Happy Meal and go sit at a park. seeing the picture of how far you come from where you started is a beautiful thing

Steve is amazingly smart and he really gave great advice here. Love you Steve and God bless you.😍😍

I saw so many Steve Harvey's videos and l am very sure to say that Steve is a very good person and a very wise man.

Put God first, the house which fear God always will be happy. Second priorities things. Most of us we dont have priorities. When we get money just spending money without account. I have worked with minimum wage bofore, and on our first anniversary i surprised my lovely wife for a trip to Dubai, we had great time of our lives. So put God first always you will be happy, and then priorities. Is the waay better to have a small house and have happy family, than have huge house and spend most of your time looking for money to pay for that house, and then you loose a family. Do a research, most of rich forks their family life are misserable. Money is not solution to happy home, Gos is.

Maaan id be happy with a crackerjack box ring and have a hardworking loving man that comes home to me every night. We can vacation in the parks and at the beaches until we can do better. Id rather a home full of love than material things any day!!

His wife is probably on instagram too much, looking at the people she follows go to Santorini or Bora Bora.

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Basically what he’s asking Steve is “y’all hiring?”

His wife need to chill out goddamn as long as you're paying the bills and you're happy what's the problem you're 25

2:30 “Success is not how far you’ve come! Success is how far you’ve come from where you started!” Amen 🙏 Steve!

You don't, leave, run while you can

Wow Steve.....Thank you for this Speech 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

The best clip of all to those who are young and chasing material success. This young man is already on the good path since he asked a core question of life. He is successful by all means at his age 25 and only need to compare his present vs the past instead of vs others. Big house doesn’t mean sweet home. Build a home with love one. Cherish each other with your friends and families. Doesn’t need a lot money for that.

The fact that he wants to provide for his wife would be good enough for me.

Social media and all these realities shows are ruining relationships. People have a solid relationship until they start comparing to another, then the problem starts. The question as..." why can't you be like him/her?" You should know the kind of person they are before getting into a relationship.

This is the realest question I’ve ever heard anyone ask

EMBRACE MINIMALISM, PEOPLE...EMBRACE IT!!!

Neither person can make each other happy without God. Steve will testify to that. God first.

There's some good advice in this video and thread that applies to a lot of people. It seems like everybody is trying to keep up with what they see on social media, or how they perceive others to be living. Most of those lifestyles are fake, not smart financial decisions, and/or short lived. Yes there are people who actually do live lavish lifestyles and can actually afford it, but they are few and it took a while to achieve most likely. The majority of people won't be rich or make a lot of money. That's just a fact of life. 75% of Americans are living paycheck to paycheck, and that's REGARDLESS of income. So having more money won't necessarily make for a more comfortable life. Usually it just means more unnecessary stuff that will be accumulated. Living within your means, being grateful, making smart financial decisions, and planning and building for the future will take you so far in life.

I have not worked in 10 years. My husband and i have a nice small home we don't travel much bc we still have two kids in high school. Our goal is to began traveling in the next 5 years. One thing he loves to speak on is how peaceful his life is. Love each other and make plans for the future while building on your life.

Steve, your guest doctor is good in that he gives safe can't sue me aswers but, your responses are the real meat and potatoes that the young man needed. Just an observation!

Steve is so wise I love it! Great advice

the foundation is strong. be grateful for it before you risk losing it focused on the wrong things. you are blessed and more blessings to come as long as you stay grateful. also... you are enough! dont let your ego trick you. love is the richest thing in life and the richest person on the planet is broke of it and cant buy it.

It’s just sickening the pressure society puts on people now days. Especially men, and I say that realizing women have their struggles, too. I wonder if his wife feels the same as he does. Clearly you can tell he was raised correctly and wants to be a man and provide for his wife, and there’s nothing wrong with that. A man should lead and provide for his family... HOWEVER... in 2019 it’s gotten progressively harder for a man to do that, and men (real men) are under tremendous stress trying to figure how to be that leader, that protector, that provider. A lot of men just can’t. And it’s not their fault. It’s just the times we’re living in. In order for this young man to do everything he’d like to do his wife, he’d need to be clearing six figures. And unfortunately everyone cannot earn six figures. So then what? Does his marriage fail? Or does his wife step up, support her husband, and they build they life they want TOGETHER?!?! Again. Im all for a man taking care of his family. But today, it’s near impossible. And I’m tired of antiquated ideas suggesting men should bring home the bacon and women should fry it up. No... in 2019... he should work... she should work... he should cook... she should cook. See where I’m going with this?

Find a new woman she is pressuring you too much already !You are a good man don’t let no woman stress you do your best a good woman will see and help you and not stress you .

Loyalty, trust respect .Material things you can gather together as a team.

Well done said!

You know you addicted when you start to recognize the audience members 😭

1:53 He have 2 house and pink diamond Australian geologist guy 😎

Being grateful is one of the secrets to success.

You are never responsible for a spouse fantasy lifestyle you just do that if you feel necessary or you have enough luxury for that. I split bills with my husband and we spend on each other. We have a good finance and we go on vacation at least twice in a year and we both pay for the bills. Its always a wonderful experience for my husband and I, although I wouldn't I'm in a perfect marriage trust me I have been married for over 36 years and we are still going. My families financial structure became firm with the intervention of Brittney Adams a Financial guru.

I liked Steve's advice. It really shows that life has taught this man

Both gave him absolute truth about happiness. - Actual Happiness is in my mind -

One of America's problem is wanting the big expensive house and expensive cars. Day after you buy them you're unhappy because now you're stuck in a job you may not like but have to keep the job so you can pay for those expensive things. Live low key and do in-expensive things together. Then you can take trips when you want.

I feel bad for this brother because he has to learn the hard way. He’s giving up his youth to try and please some ungrateful woman.Women are never happy my man. She will never be happy. They always want MORE, MORE, MORE!.... Cut your cost while your still a very young man and focus on yourself. You will look up and be 40 and wasted all those years trying to please someone who wouldn’t be bending over backwards for you like your doing for them. You’re too young for all that pressure. It’s not worth it!!!

Start with gratitude young man. Gratitude....

How do I afford the lifestyle my wife wants? You can. Without her in the picture.

His wife wants a richer man, period! He’s only 25 years old and as long as he keeps working and building up he’ll get to where he wants to. He needs to chill out on the pressure though...

It's the word of success from Steve. Made me realized.

I couldn't imagine being married at 25. When I was 25 I was still living it up. Anyways dude will be alright as long he stays focused.

This conversation should be understood by his wife. She needs to hear it, and carve it in her heart, bless their family.

You can't want everything at the same time. Thankful for what you have and work hard towards your dreams. Enjoy your present season while working towards your final destination..

True. True, happiness is the key of life. It's ok to dream big, you can have it all. But deep inside you ain't happy. What you needed is" be love and healthy...

To be honest, I kind of envy American lifestyle. In Asia, most of the married people both have to go to work just to sustain the lowest needs like paying the bill and having food on the table, let along buying an apartment or having a vocation.

Steve's advice: Look at where you are Look at where you started The fact that you’re alive is a miracle Just stay alive, that would be enough ... I’m not afraid I know who I married So long as you come home at the end of the day That would be enough We don’t need a legacy We don’t need money If I could grant you peace of mind If you could let me inside your heart Oh, let me be a part of the narrative In the story they will write someday ... And I could be enough And we could be enough That would be enough

Dropping straight facts

That audience guy in hot pink shirt is impressive. Great coloring and body.

THANK YOU SIR FOR THAT SPEECH💯💯💯💯

If she wants a certain lifestyle, she has the ability to get an education and go for it. It’s not his responsibility to provide the life she wants. Women work today. People have champagne taste on a beer budget. Stop trying to keep up with the Joneses and think a certain house, or a certain car, or a certain name brand will fulfill you. You used to only have to keep up with the people in your block, now Facebook lets you compare yourself to so many others.

Good advice,be thankfull for what you have and emotional band is more importend then having a big House and more.At first I had a small and old rental house,now I’m living in a newer and luxery bigger appartment.We all start somewhere ,be happy what you have and like “Lego”keep building.

A lot of the social media celebrities that people follow are in debt or really lonely if they have money. You only see the glam side...you don't see the lonely night and trips away from home and debt.

Take a piece of the humble pie and be content.

That was on point. I have both a big house and a great family. Big house not important.

You know some ppl just think if them go out of them way to please them other half them gonna stay with them no they wont good advice and thank u u all need to cherish the little things thats how the blessing come

Yes james agree

It's about how far you've come

One of my favorite of Ask Steve

"Get a happy meal and go to the park, look at each other and get alright" boy if i can get a wofe with that mindset ill be a happy man

You are the woman in the relationship! You shouldn't have gotten married without this planned out thoroughly! You're sold on spoiling her and she was materialistic before you met her! She will eventually leave because you don't see the value in yourself as a provider first! Trust me!!!

👏👏👍One of the best episode from Steve Harvey show

Steve I love your advice

I love this 😢😢😢😢😢👐

I like HOW steve speak to him in hood style.

My BELOVED seems to think I am a high maintenance woman. I really want to be a stay at home mom with a home business. I am hustling now because I am trying to get my accreditation necessary to open my day care. If he communicated more with me. I could relay this. Most of all, I want to make him happy as his wife and best friend.

That's such great advice. U r the greatest Steve❤️🤗❤️🤗

I like how Steve throws shade on Oprah and Tyler lol 😂 Steve right tho; Minimalism is key to less stress and more happiness.

That Richard Mille watch Steve has.... daaamn 100k

A happy meal lol Steve is hilarious

Why married at 25 already??? Too young

How do I afford the lifestyle my wife wants? Ans: by leaving her before she leaves you. Thanks. Simple.

Perfect answer!

Look here Steve you are always right on with your advice. Young man you do the very best you can and don't be trying to live "HIGH on the HOG" if "PIGLET" funds are all you may have right now....I mean really.

The commercial system will have us believe that we have not arrived in life until we have attained a certain amount of material things. who do these things really benefit? Often more things require more maintenance and time, truly the words of an ancient writer are still applicable with sustenance and covering we will be content with these things.

The white guy said "whatever bla bla bla" he didnt even understand him...or where he was coming from..Then the Steve the black guy like the guy who ask the question understood exactly what he was feeling. He has been in his shoes. Love Steve he is the King.

Great advise by the Guest and Steve !!!