How Do I Control My Emotional Spending?

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How Do I Control My Emotional Spending?
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@financiallift6185 4 года назад

Important for people to realize it's not always a lack of knowledge in finances that leads to issues. Sometimes it's an emotional or mental problem.

@jessicathejedi35 4 года назад

Yes! Although I believe she could benefit from standard therapy, I was happy to find out that financial therapy is a real thing! Emotional spending is tied to so many wounds.

@elmamahd6924 3 года назад

Facts.

@OwnedByTheState 3 года назад

In fact I would say most of the time. We know the simple commonsense things to do in most cases, it's the will and stability to do it in most cases we lack.

@ricecream55 Год назад

Yeah. I have bipolar and adhd, and impulse spending is a big part of both disorders. I know to budget, save, avoid debt etc. but it’s so much harder due to my mental disorders. Still not gonna give up on controlling my impulses, but I’m glad Dave acknowledges this

@moonlightstargem1006 Год назад

I didn’t realize that’s what i was dealing with for years on end. I am finally free from those mental issues. And i’m finally saving more money than i used to

@davidliang913 4 года назад

$100,000 dollars in 10 months is a big step. Make sure to celebrate the wins too.

@Prince-fn7ff 4 года назад

David Liang - College Grad Finance this!

@Chocolategirlwasted 4 года назад

“Spending is a socially acceptable drug” ~Dave Ramsey. WOW 😳😩. This episode really resonated with me. Confirmed some things I already knew. It’s time to do the work!

@Musicienne-DAB1995 2 года назад

In the same boat.

@ThreePuttBogeys88 4 года назад

Most people would completely buckle under her circumstances. I sure would, she’s really strong.

@garyhost1830 4 года назад

No most normal people would stop trying to get pregnant. She obviously has reproduction issues hence Ivf. It seems selfish not strong.

@betruetoyourself7162 4 года назад

I would have given up. It must have been a testament to her strength that she kept trying. But at some point she needed to just stop.

@ThreePuttBogeys88 4 года назад

@@garyhost1830 To each their own.

@annmarie2964 4 года назад

Maybe the couple should consider helping children in need, instead of continually trying to get pregnant. They are setting themselves up for heartbreak. Praying that they will have wisdom and seek God's will. Some things can't be forced.

@misssicily100 3 года назад

@@annmarie2964 I agree why not adopt? Or just learn to live whiteout having children it’s not the key to happiness.

@brendakrause5639 4 года назад

It is good she realizes the "why" of the spending. So sorry for the unbelievable loss.

@moneythree4086 4 года назад

Recognizing you have a problem truly is 90% of the solution. Good luck Corrin, we're all pulling for you

@rayj.9568 4 года назад

She has such a great attitude. A true fighter. Fight on ma'am. Fight on.

@neonpandas 4 года назад

This is tough. Thankfully she acknowledged the hurt rather than try to focus solely on healing it. A quote from R.H. Sin said “let it hurt and let it go”. It’s OK and healthy to acknowledge that you are hurt and it’s OK to carry on the memory but eventually all things do heal. I hope that she is able to conceive one day and heal both emotionally and financially.

@Je.rone_ 4 года назад

I'm speechless but luckily Dave and company know what say at the right time

@CaseyBurnsInvesting 4 года назад

Emotional Intelligence 2.0 is a great book about how to manage emotions.

@dreddy_g 4 года назад

The guy in red shirt is right. She needs to grieve the losses that she have had. She already has the introspection and awareness, and grieving I believe will help her ease from the sadness. I am rooting for this woman to recover and be a much better and happier person.

@tommyanomaly6193 4 года назад

Probably more often than not

@Humblequeen-m5c 4 года назад

The guy in the red shirt is John Delony

@jaysmith6013 4 года назад

My heart goes out to her and her husband

@betsywoolbright8059 6 месяцев назад

John, as always, is so gentle with this lady.

@bosshismoney4424 4 года назад

There is an underlying issue that needs to be addressed, spending is just an outward reaction to what’s going on inside. Please get help

@jmc8076 4 года назад

We spend more than when we feel less then and escape from our feelings. The good thing is that she sounds very self-aware and sees that she’s doing this.

@jessicathejedi35 4 года назад

Agree she is more self aware. The next step is Financial Therapy (yup it’s a real thing) for healthy behaviors, or basic therapy. Professional help is needed at this stage.

@twincherry4958 4 года назад

She just told us why.

@sarahwestbrown3355 4 года назад

My heart is with you tonight, dear mama.

@Sara_The_Feral_Housewife 3 года назад

Wow, I can't even imagine. I lost 1 baby it was the worst thing I've ever been through. Idk how anyone could live through it 7 times! Very strong couple to stay together.

@debashreemishra895 4 года назад

Episodes like these prove that dave aint just a ranting old man. The man has spiritual n wordly wisdom. What a great combo to hv . Respect u tonnes dave uncle

@PhotoPhreak17 4 года назад

Celebrate how far you’ve come and grieve your lows properly. You guys have done so awesome on the cleaning up part. SO AWESOME!!

@fortyseventhronin 2 года назад

I struggle tremendously with this problem as well. Thank you Corrin for being brave enough to make this call

@jkpropertymanagers 4 года назад

Retail therapy = grief spending.

@msims1081 3 года назад

I did it when my father died. Bought things I never even opened or took the tags off of. Just shopped to try to feel better for a while.

@Musicienne-DAB1995 2 года назад

@@msims1081 Sorry for your loss.

@yvonnemclaughlin4324 4 года назад

My heart breaks for her and her husband!

@thejakelegion 4 года назад

I'm in Minnesota... And I just blew $240 on stuff I didn't need because I'm stressed out of my mind.

@JesusisKing03 4 года назад

Try and return it, because now you realize this. I was there too and I'm just trying to get out of debt. It sucks because stress causes so many negative situations but we have to learn to manage it and know that we hold the control. Please don't let stress win you've got this.

@tarawalton6778 4 года назад

I can relate. Pray, meditate & listen to, 'The BEST is Yet to Come' by Frank Sinatra. ❤

@lindakelehan2934 4 года назад

I'm a fellow Minnesotan spendthrift. I'm 65 and it's been one bad financial decision after another. Trying to change this behavior, get out of debt and save. It's no excuse, but childhood trauma, abuse and growing up on welfare, contributed to my adult mindset and destructive financial habits.

@allwynmendes 4 года назад

"Spending is a socially acceptable drug." - Dave Ramsey Context: Grief spending, emotional spending.

@chingalachuga6737 2 года назад

Exactly what happened to us. We got out of debt in 2017 and saved so much money. My son was also born in 2017, after fertility treatment. The following years were babies lost a 3months pregnant, thousands on fertility treatment, and a lot spent on spending to cover grief. So extremely painful to go through, and the money problems at the same time only made it worse. Finally back on the right track.

@shruti27raghav Год назад

Hi, Sorry to hear about the pain you went through. I am Shruti, student at Thomas Jefferson University currently working on my thesis project focused on impulse buying triggered by negative emotions and I feel I can learn a lot from you. Please let me know if we can talk for 30 minutes. I am doing research to find out ways to help people going through emotional spending. Thank you

@chingalachuga6737 Год назад

@@shruti27raghav thatd be fine

@CreativeMonsterx 4 года назад

The first step is to admit you have a problem.

@tarawalton6778 4 года назад

My heart❤ REALLY goes out to her. 😢

@vickinicole 4 года назад

I need help with emotional spending too. I have bipolar disorder which compounds it. I transferred from overeating too overspending.I've lost 80 pounds, but I gained about $9,000 of debt. I've tried 3 different No-Buys and failed at each of them.

@whereschloevids 4 года назад

I’m an emotional eater/food addict in recovery. Getting at the underlying trauma (a lot of spiritual work there) and recognizing the ppl and situations that trigger me (a lot of emotional work there) have both been SUPER helpful.

@valeria-militiamessalina5672 4 года назад

Going through separation and divorce or any kind of emotional trauma can lead to the same kind of behavior, it’s not “transfer behavior”, more like compensating

@lisaosbourne-eden4576 2 года назад

They both hath very kind, sensitive, thoughtful, wise approaches in their response to her💓

@crazymennonite Год назад

I really respect these guys even more. They show a lot of compassion and understanding.

@hakara32wirihana 9 месяцев назад

Why am I just finding all this out now. Just makes sense and ads up. Flipping amazing thank you very much

@douggeary8502 4 года назад

Tough story. Honestly couldn’t even imagine.

@jewelinlotus2573 3 года назад

What a poor soul. I hope she’s able to heal and succeed in her goal

@DoTheDomThing 4 года назад

People tend to spend more when they feel empty in order to fill a void. With 7 losses, that’s a heavy load of emptiness and I can only imagine her pain. She is aware of the behavior so that’s good. And I pray they go to therapy to conquer this together and hope one day they can be blessed with a child I know they are praying for.

@annalesher3753 4 года назад

This is so, so sad 😞

@kristenbennett8495 2 года назад

I do something similar, my entire life was dealing with chronic illness, now every time I have money I feel the need to spend it all, and on things to make me feel good and to clean the house because I just want to feel good after so many years of suffering, so hard to stop myself

@shruti27raghav Год назад

Hi Kristen, I am graduate student working on my thesis project which is about impulse buying behavior triggered due to stress, anxiety, sadness, etc... Currently I am focusing on doing research by talking to people who faced the situation and going through it, so that I can understand the issue and try to look for solutions which can help. Please reply if you have some time to talk about this issue. Thank you

@Sombra_Azul_ 4 года назад

What a great response by Dr. John Delony- my God, that was world class advice! 👏

@thecatnextdoor12 4 года назад

That must be a comment from Dr. John’s secret account.

@JadeTrading 4 года назад

It’s so hard to control emotion especially with the negative thoughts and feelings :( I used to smoke and drink then I started meditation and also thinking about caramel bread when I’m stuck with negativity. It kinda helps. I mean at least I stopped drinking and smoking.

@CommanderBunky 4 года назад

I did some emotional spending recently to the tune of a 2013 Camaro. Double pinstripe with a moon roof! The condition, mileage and price were more than great as a combination. Was it a vanity purchase? Yes. Did I pay for it in cash because I drove hoopdies for years? 100%. Now I'm thinking of going back to school for finance because I've paid off all my student loans from the previous degree(before the Camaro). Through the lessons I've learned during that journey of paying off debt, I discovered this whole world of finance and money management, I feel far more passionate and excited to do that kind of work as opposed to what my original degree was for. Funny how life works.

@marge3157 4 года назад

That is a question I had. After losing everything in a fire I went to spending.

@thehouseoflosi Год назад

Thank you so much!

@mcnorris40 2 года назад

I feel terrible for her. I have the same issue, different situation but same issue. I think I spend to comfort myself while not dealing with grief/stress/emotions, I don't know how to get on the right track. Our house is filled, I'd even say cluttered with stuff I did not need to buy and won't ever use. I get very into hobbies then spend a ton of money on that hobby for a few weeks or a few months then completely drop it and move onto the next hobby. My wife and I are now in a pathetic situation where she spends just to even out what I spent out of spite and I turn around and do the same. I don't know how to break this cycle.

@Talkinglife 4 года назад

Confront the feelings that accompany your emotional spending. ... Identify your emotional spending triggers. ... Unsubscribe from mailing lists. ... Set a budget for unnecessary purchases. ... Leave your credit card at home when you shop. ... Don't save your credit card information on

@littleripper312 2 года назад

I can't imagine going through that, my heart would be so broken I don't know if I would get past that. Especially if I didn't have a baby in the end of all that. Poor woman and her husband as well.

@deanalbertson7203 4 года назад

One suggestion would be to create a budget, and stick to it. Another suggestion would be to create a new behavior, such as going out for a walk, when you feel the need to spend money.

@MsJoyce31202 4 года назад

This is why people fight over money when some one dies.

@Boogerman9047 4 месяца назад

Thanks guys, I am always put under pressure emotionally by my family causes me to spend unnecessarily.

@PrimarySchoolMasterclass Год назад

Corrin you are a fighter! All the best in your life's journey

@simplyserena7962 Год назад

She’s really self aware !!

@bettemartin8126 5 месяцев назад

I’m in the same boat. 62 years old. I am having a hard time not shopping. I know I have an issue. Just need help to stop. Thanks

@mercyfae17 Год назад

I don’t usually like Dave’s content, but this is helpful and relatable. I went through a period of emotional spending, and regret it every day, but I’m actively working to change. 420 days sober from impulse spending.

@shruti27raghav Год назад

Hi, I am Shruti, student at Thomas Jefferson University currently working on my thesis project focused on impulse buying triggered by negative emotions and I feel I can learn a lot from you. Please let me know if we can talk for 30 minutes. I am doing research to find out ways to help people going through emotional spending. Thank you

@TheTaniaHill 4 года назад

We have tried for six years to get pregnant now, two IVF failed cycles, 10 IUI failed cycles and two losses. The hurt is life changing 😔 don’t wish this on my worst enemy. I will keep her in my prayers, I understand her pain so well.

@cindymae3656 4 года назад

TaniaC - my god bless you, prayers. We just had our rainbow granddaughter in March. Not sure how you kids do it, heart breaking. Our daughter and son in law, 5 years of tubal pregnancy, miscarriages, Ivf, uterine surgery and thousands in drugs.❤️

@TheTaniaHill 3 года назад

@@moneyisweird7862 we are still trying, this time with Embryo adoption.

@TheTaniaHill 3 года назад

@@cindymae3656 WE hold on to hope, the only way to press on and continue. congrats on your granddaughter

@kristenbennett8495 2 года назад

I think that would help me a lot, talking to someone about how I feel like I never got to live my life because of my illness

@CountrySingerWannabe 4 года назад

How do I control my emotional spending? Don't spend emotionally. Anytime you tie money and emotions together you are asking for trouble. It doesn't matter what your personal situation is. Her grief is certainly just but emotions should always be kept out money matters. Money is simply numbers on a piece of paper. Deal with emotions in the correct realm.

@MyLove-uj8zi Год назад

Easier said then done, emotional stress doesn't have a switch. Same as any addiction has to be worked through.

@CountrySingerWannabe Год назад

@@MyLove-uj8zi well, the hardest part is seeing it as a “choice” that you have full control over. You probably wouldn’t have any interest in my system of personal finance but it is even more stringent than Dave’s.

@knnyphph 4 года назад

Therapy helps!

@yamamancha 4 года назад

I hope the husband is getting support as well.

@paxtonspreciouscavaliers8137 4 года назад

Counseling would be a good option

@omararreola5449 4 года назад

I have several misdemeanors on my background I want to be a nurse and I just want to have a good job that I like what should I do ??!

@d_all_in 4 года назад

Stop breaking the law

@svenskaela1234561 Год назад

My aunt passed away and left me some money it has been a month and I spent it. At first I had this horrible guilt of using it but when my phone broke I decided to get a new one. Once that was done I started hyper focusing on cute anime merch cute desk decor I redid my whole room moved everything around but the desk bothers me. So I went online and I spent almost all of the money on decor and anime figures. I feel awful now why am I so stupid why did I waste this money. My brother saved his for a drivers license something he can use and I spent mine in dumb ish.

@thelunatruth3860 3 года назад

I have a problem spending. I spend based on emotional feelings. I need help. I do not want to do this anymore as it is affecting my husband, my kids and more than anything myself because I do not want to keep spending money i don’t have.

@shruti27raghav Год назад

@jordanmiller9807 Год назад

Well once you start spending to cope then when you wake up it’s like wow how’d I get here.

@jasmines.6325 3 года назад

when i worked collections almost all the people had health issues...poverty leads to health issues which leads to more poverty

@financialenthusiast2611 4 года назад

Budgeting..

@Dman9fp Год назад

To each their own. At least for people with b.p.d. & very wide voids, getting counselor is much more a waste of $ than not, and can very much cause more heartache. Even if they're good & actually listen. To each their own, idc what I've gone thru & keep being a victim, I Will Not allow it to be my main identity. Be your own hero, or find a dependable one. Becoming dependent is always a gamble

@Damon-qt3fw 2 года назад

I’m the same way, but with eating.

@quackaddict9810 4 года назад

Its tough but it sounds like she may not be meant yo have kids.. bow about adopting?

@MacMacAliandAdi 2 года назад

Hey Corrin, I pray that God will bless you with full-term babies in Jesus name! Don't lose hope! x

@rachellawrence702 4 года назад

Now I dont have the guts this lady has. No way in the world was I trying so many times to get pregnant. After the first or second miscarriages im done done

@naomiparker2502 4 года назад

She is so strong. Not many people can do what she did

@KratosPT 4 года назад

She’ll get better soon. This is interesting to add in my upcoming VIDS. 😇

@sheila3936 4 года назад

Putting the shame in shameless plug?

@Angela-ne9cy 4 года назад

SEVEN failed fertility treatments on top of the miscarriages? At what point does a doctor stop taking her money and just say "sweetie, you can't carry a child". It's devastating, I'm sure, but her body and heart have gone through so much trauma that I can't imagine a doctor allowing it to continue.

@annmarie2964 4 года назад

Seems highly unethical.

@crzyruskie86 3 года назад

Yeah I never understood this. There's no use of having a child if it kills you in the process.

@rexcatston8412 4 года назад

I have terrible emotional spending. I see the prices of things and I get angry and refuse to buy it haha Literally 3 hours today looking at computers -- every single time: Thats too much! There *has* to be a better option >:0

@miketheyunggod2534 5 месяцев назад

There’s only one use for money. That’s spending it.

@TheTbabylati 4 года назад

She needs a grief counselor and maybe let her spouse take over the finances completely until she is well enough to spend wisely.

@paxtonspreciouscavaliers8137 4 года назад

Wow

@paxtonspreciouscavaliers8137 4 года назад

I'm not sure how spending money makes it better

@sandmurr 11 месяцев назад

Not the loss of pregnancy but the loss of a child

@paxtonspreciouscavaliers8137 4 года назад

Just stop buying things you don't need

@halojimmy7 3 года назад

during pandemic I can spend more on doordash

@MsCristina38 4 года назад

I am baffled as to why she didn’t consider adoption? Lots of sweet kids need loving moms.

@mle011 4 года назад

Maybe they did consider it, but then decided it wasn’t the right choice for them.

@sassy7girls 4 года назад

Adoption doesn’t cure infertility

@twincherry4958 4 года назад

@@sassy7girls no one said it does. Maybe she's grieving the loss of the lives and infertility.

@TuyetNguyen-pp2ew 4 года назад

Maybe she’s trying to heal from loss. Hard to think about anything else during loss.

@wolfsden6479 4 года назад

Expensive, and part of the issue is mental issues of not biological being capable of it. The "mabey I am not ment to be a mother" is very bad. In the end once she gets over that adoption can be a great option. Many churches help Lower middle class couples that can't have kids, but can afford them, go through the Expensive adoption; that may be the best option for them.

@TB-og3ot 3 года назад

Oh wow she def needs a grief counselor

@sjaykay9884 5 месяцев назад

Dr. John to me always sounds like a person pretending to be a therapist

@VampiraVonGhoulscout 3 года назад

Seven miscarriages? Jesus. This woman is made of steel.

@sidharthchand8072 4 года назад

Why Doesn’t she just adopt

@archimedes_espinosa Год назад

“Sell the car.”

@ellegolan3992 4 года назад

Maybe she should spend on a surrogate 💁

@JoshuaJayMusic 2 года назад

Why on Earth is she calling Dave Ramsey about this? She openly admits she has a spending problem due to emotional grief that's a textbook therapist issue. Dave is not a therapist people need to get this through their stupid heads.

@chopper1lady Месяц назад

Am I the only one that thinks it's either a genetical mismatch, either her husband is causing all her miscarriages? Surely after 2-3 miscarriages she would have gone to do the doctor and find out the cause

@tommyanomaly6193 4 года назад

It's really a dopamine problem

@X3N14 2 года назад

I wonder how this lady and her husband are doing today. Hope she got the therapy she needs.

@tellytighe 4 года назад

Can someone do a budget video with Dominique Sachse. Thanks.

@tiffanyalvarez1363 4 года назад

2nd stimulus check coming soon

@jaimecruz5367 4 года назад

Lol so Americans can keep buying big sizes flat screens lol Haha 😆

@mjjacks2092 4 года назад

I saw ramsey yesterday at wal mart with a black amex card 🧐

@granthiggins3492 4 года назад

Hahaha no you didn’t

@IamtheGL 4 года назад

Pics or it didn't happen

@TheRibofJESUS 4 года назад

😂🤣

@rustymozzy 4 года назад

Why was Gordon Ramsey at Walmart?

@brendakrause5639 4 года назад

Some bank debit cards say Visa so other peoples bank debit card may have American Express

@Guessthetreasurechestgame 2 года назад

It’s a difficult one to stop shopping but I go for good prices

@barbieblue3336 3 года назад

Bio identical progesterone can help with miscarriages 😥 find a NaPro doctor 🙏

@DDFinance 4 года назад

Simple. By starting a side hustle like starting a RU-vid channel. By doing this, you will be too busy to spend on anything and on top of that you even make more money.