Hi, I'm Meli. This was my first Moth story for the theme Revelations where I talk about how I first realized I was gay. Check out my channel where I talk about all the things.
If this popped up in your recommendations...then you’re probably a lesbian Edit: sorry to all the bisexuals, I actually didnt think anyone was gonna see this comment tbh. Signed, A lesbian
Excuse me, maybe it's just because of the sarah and Adianna vids I watch. Or the Michaeng ship compilation vids....or the hayley Kiyoko music that I like to...oh shit!! I'm gay!!
When she said she clearly wasn't gay bc she didn't look "like a lesbian" and didn't like girls who did... that's literally why it took me 18 years to realize omfg
its sad cuz, like, not all gay men are effeminate, not all straight men are macho, not all straight women are not also "tomboys", and not all lesbians are butch...we gotta root out the binary everywhere..
Well... You don't wear a beanie in summer for no reason, or baseball tee when it's not baseball season... If you check her nails and they're always trim, or if K-Stew is her style twin....
I identify as bisexual, but I've felt this way about men my whole life. I do get strong crushes on celebrity men, but not guys in real life. This is making me start to doubt my sexuality again. helppp
This made me cry!! I’m 17 and I realized I was a lesbian and came out to my friends and family about 2 months ago. I’m so glad I was able break down that wall and embrace my inner Ellen Edit: Ellen sucks. I think I was alluding to something she said in the video about an inner ellen? Idk I wrote this two years ago
CT2507 I’m not trying to mold myself after anybody. All I meant was that I have embraced my inner gayness and am now courageous enough to live my truth. The use of Ellen’s name in that context was just another way of saying that I have accepted myself for who I am.
wow, as a straight woman, I finally understand now, how similar gays and straights are in matters of heart... its just different sexual orientation, other than that, feelings are all the same... thank you!
Bushra Monowar you seriously just now realized that? I mean, good for you, I guess, but how hard a realization could that possibly be?? Don’t break your arm patting yourself on the back.
@@calisongbird you are a negative energy. Your comment says who you are. I always valued all women equally and men. Regardless different sexual orientation. But I never knew the emotional feelings are the same. It's because we never meet openly LGBTQ people in our part of the world. A.ka. South Asia where these are still taboo to talk about. And both Hinduism and islam (predominant south Asian religion) are very traditional
Just a girl it was a meme that sprouted about 3 months ago because J.K Rowling stated that Dumbledore was gay and the whole internet blew up about how J.K. Rowling was the only one who could determine your sexuality. It was a pretty great phase, Shame you didn’t hear about it.
Me-questions sexuality RU-vid- how do you know your a lesbian Me-*sweats proficiently*nah nah this aint it chief RU-vid- shows king princess Me-damn maybe it is it chief
I'm currently identifying as bi, but figuring out my sexuality is an ongoing, confusing process. Like, I've had multiple crushes on guys (as a girl) but have had this intense feeling of "get away from me NOW" whenever I've been closer to them (granted, this has only been, like, twice). Plus, a year ago I developed a strong crush on a female friend of mine (hence bisexuality), and can imagine sleeping with women, but dont feel as immediately attracted to them as I sometimes am with guys. If anyone feels like helping me make sense of this, go ahead 😂 Edit for clarification: I do think I'm sexually and romantically attracted to guys and was just uncomfortable with those specific guys approaching me
I feel the same! For myself, I think I'm more romantically into women and sexually into men but I can feel both ways about men and women, if that makes sense?
I feel as though labels are not necessary, yes some people feel better identifying themselves properly. That's not for everyone, I myself don't follow this "norm of labeling" I'll love who I love. I mean if everything is confusing, that's normal because the world holds so many questions that don't have straight answers.
Vanadiumoxid that’s. exactly. how I feel! i hate it when any guy touches me, but I still like looking at them and crushing on them. with girls im way more open and I get crushes on them all the time. for now im content with the bisexual label because only i know how I feel romantically, and that includes both sexes. if anything happens in the future that changes that, then that’s that! as long as you know how you feel and are okay with it, you have nothing to worry about ☺️☺️
Vanadiumoxid for me it’s the opposite but same idea. i get crushes on guys and think of them sexually, but I also feel sexually attracted to girls? Like especially if they ping my gaydar if that makes sense. Like sometimes someone will tell me they’re into girls, and then I’ll start crushing a little. But I don’t normally get romantic crushes on them like I do with guys. I am a little clueless about what all of this means and would love to hear any updates
This lady is very cool, intelligent, insightful, witty, and pretty! Any lady would be very lucky to have her for a girlfriend, mate, and partner. I wish her lots of love and happiness!
100%!! This is so sweet. She is one in a million and I feel immensely lucky every day with her 🥰 Much love, 🤗 Meli's life partner and co-maker of her new video ❤ check it out and let us know what you think!
Times truly have changed. My mother who was married to my father for 50 years and had 3 children was always a bit "odd". Growing up I would notice this but as I got older I *really* started to notice something was different, my father was oblivious like most men. It was always the little things because being attracted to opposite sex(lesbian) was not acceptable at all and could have dire consequences. It was very hard to talk with her about it and it wasn't until the very end she finally told me. It was such a sad moment, a person who has gone through life, living in the "gray", terrified of revealing themselves. That is no way to live life. I'm so glad that it's different today, at least in "most" parts of the world. You can say what you want and be who you want to be.
I remember with my first boyfriend everytime he wanted to make out I just thought to myself "ugh, this again??" and would avoid any sort of touchiness if I could. At the time i thought it was just because he was my first boyfriend but after it ended just the thought of being with a man again made me so unbelievably uncomfortable. Then I came out as Lesbian!!! I feel so much happier with women☺️💖
OMG, I watched your vid and realized that your story is my story. I'm 33 and only found out I'm gay about a year ago. Everything you said you thought, I thought too. Thank you so much for making this vid, now I don't feel so alone and awkward about coming out at a late stage in life. Xoxo
Kaz Einhaus Hello Kaz, I hope you're doing great. I'm sorry that I feel the curiosity to ask; you said you finally realized being gay a year ago and you're 33. What happened at 32 that didn't happen all the years before that? I am 35 and for me it was an early discovery. I will really appreciate your kindness in responding me. Good luck
Angela Steward OMG!! Thank you for sharing this. I was also 43 before realizing I love women. Though, it’s not been easy. Two years later (almost 45) I’m still adjusting to it but I wanted to say how much I appreciate you sharing this. I feel so invisible as it seems all the focus is on the 30 and under crowd. Sometimes I wonder where do I fit here. So happy to know I’m not the only 40+ out here trying to navigate this new world 😊
Kemba Brown oh girl there are plenty of us. A group on FB called Lilly (Late In Life Lesbians) where there are many women you will be able to identify with including myself. facebook.com/groups/442125912647958/
dude, I thought I was bi for so long I never knew why every time a guy would try to flirt with me I would feel disgusted or every time my friends were freaking out over male celebrities I would be completely apathetic, I thought I just wasn't into that type of guys, turns out I'm just not into dudes period
How do you know you're bi? When you enthusiastically do stuff with guys but like looking at girls and feel funny when they touch you or share a room too. ☺️
"I've been living my life in grey, but I can now confirm that sex, love, and life feel fucking amazing in colour." genuinely amazing how clever that line was worded, what a way to end the story!
omg I remember in middle school I always thought that girls who had crushes on boys and then said that they couldn't breathe when the guy looked at them, etc. were just doing it because they saw girls on TV doing it. I literally thought that girls on TV were exaggerating and real life girls were just mimicking them to be cool?? Then a girl flirted with me once and I got it...
ME: Am I lesbian or bi? One would never know. *Typing in am I bi-and knowing the answer is no.* *Typing in how to know if I am a lesbian* ME: Oh yes it matches pretty much.
Wow, you're so pretty and charming. I'm also lesbian and I just wanted to say, you're so much adorable and a great story-teller. The story is so touching, thank you for telling this, it inspires a lot! Good wishes from Russia:-)
When I was in like 8th grade, I watched this video crying, wondering what I was going to do. Now I'm 17, and proud of who I am. Hearing about the feelings in this story were a really big step on the path of understanding myself, and I am so grateful for this.
How is it possible that your 'finding out you were lesbian' story and mine are so pretty much the same? Differences: I was 32 (you were 30), I was curious about a show called The L Word whose incredible and giant ad I saw on a trip to Boston, and when I come back to Madrid I look for it on RU-vid and voilà: my head (and something else) exploded that night (needless to say I didn't sleep that night... and the next... and the next). Last difference, the saddest one: Tinder didn't exist by then, so it took me about a year to date someone, and only because my mom introduced us LOL (and I got my heart broken for the first and last time)!!!! Anyway young lady, thanks for sharing such a very funny, touchy, encouraging and honest story.
its funny cause i went from 100% sure i was just a straight yet super passionate ally to the lgbt community, to realizing i was bisexual at 21, to now questioning if i ever really even liked men. I still dont know honestly because Ive had tons of crushes on dudes but they were always unattainable (or i just never did anything to attain them lmao) so i dont know if i'm just scared of rejection or if i've been a lesbian this whole time. I kinda just stopped worrying about it because it was stressing me out like crazy, i figure i'll see when i finally end up dating someone. The thing is though, Im 26 and never been in any kind of serious relationship because for some reason my reaction to a crush is HIDE THIS AT ALL COSTS lmao. That to me points to fear of rejection, but i'm thinking it could very well be a combination of a lot of things. IDK I'm just venting, if anyone has had a similar experience feel free to comment, i'm interesting in hearing how it went for you.
I'm gae and knew when I realized all the dud crushes I had were because I wanted to have a crush while all the girl crushes I had despite not wanting to have them :-) 2d dudes may sometimes make me question but then I realize I only like the face but not their actual physique
I marry 2 time becouse the men u date love me so much and force me to level of marriage I have 2 kids I left my housbend after 2 years I never love them I was just spend time with them I did sex with them but after sex I hate of what I did I feel down and not comfortable There is so many guys love me and I don't like non of them I find them hard to deal with At age 40 with 2 kids I understand I am guy For sure I am lesbian
Melissa, thanks for a great story. I thought I was a late bloomer at 25. lol. I was even married at the time (UNSATISFIED) when I realized was into women- NOT men. This was way before gay characters on tv, the internet, chat rooms and you tube. Much harder then but I was very fortunate to come out in California so there was a gay community starting. YEAH! Hope you are happy.
I’m at that moment of my life and I’m about to try it❤️...At this point i think i’m gay or at least bi but i’ll probably not tell my parents until i’m 30 so... Happy Easter🤷🏼♀️
Yep we all had the moment... well most knew but society and families made choices for us... love the plunger story and congratulations on finding yourself... I did not get to be me until I was almost forty.
I looked at my sister's playlist on Spotify...... _Girl in red?_ _Hayley Kioko?_ _Sweater weather?_ HMMMMMMMMM so anyway our genes are gay because there's two gays in this household
K so, idk my sexuality, I like guys but I also like girls. I have never kissed but I have been on several situations where I had to sleep with someone and ended up hugging them, Without a doubt I knew I liked the girl whom I was cuddling with, I had an "oh shit, I'm gay" moment but idk if it's a phase and if I should come out :/
Thanks for this. I appreciate the late-in-life realisation, and the way you talk about feeling toward guys... Like yeah, he's attractive and kissing is bearable, but no more!
I'm 22. I've always identified as bisexual, but only gotten into "serious" relationships with guys. The thing is, it's all fun and games until they touch me, until foreplay, until kisses: I never feel anything. I just want it to end. I've been doubting my sexuality (bi) every now and then, and sometimes I think I'm into guys but the interest disappears when they touch me, when they ask for sex, etc. What's happening to me? Am I actually a bisexual or am I actually gay and I don't know it? I've kissed girls before and liked it, but never gotten into bed with them.
This is the reason we fight for equality and representation. Not just for our kids growing up, but for the adults who have already grown up in a world that refused to let them be who they are
So glad it's been helpful. From someone who has had meltdowns in the past about their own sexuality, I can assure you it gets way better and fucking magical.
Thank you, you really helped me. I'm 19 and my life looked exactly the same as yours, with this thinking that everybody is just silly with their relationships, but i've never even kissed a guy. And suddenly i've met a girl and it was like: Oh... Now i get it :-S But i'm still in the closet and so afraid to come out and i'm still doing these online gay tests xd I hope that i will find courage to come out soon, but i'm from Poland and everyone around me is quite conservative, so...
When we are under 11 yrs old we all naturally prefer the company of our own gender. Around the time puberty hits we get motivation, both socially and physically, to approach the opposite gender but it is naturally awkward to do so. It is like an obstruction in our journey to maturity. Those who cannot - or do not make the effort to - overcome this social obstruction are left in a state of social immaturity at a time when they are becoming sexually mature. I believe this is what causes homosexuality.
This is such a touching and funny video. Your "I finally understood it" part (5:45+) had me in tears. Congratulations on finding your real self, and for sharing your discovery.
“I’d just been living my life in grey. & now I’m 32 years old and I can fully say that love, life and sex feels *fucking amazing* in colour.” Okay but why did this give me chills?
