Dianna Nepstad and Rebecca Crews answer "How can we know we met the right man and you are ready for marriage." Watch full episodes of Better Together weekdays at 1:30pm ET on TBN or anytime here: bit.ly/39diGnt
That’s a mature response. So many women either compromise by repressing the truth and staying in a relationship that is not meant to be. How much happier and at peace will one be if she’ll trust God enough to walk away from what’s familiar and follow her divine path instead.
I really love how honest, and how genuine she is. I am 51, and I have never been married. I don't think I want biological children at my age, and so I don't know that all her pieces of advice apply to me. I do love how real she is though.
It's crazy because I'm hearing it through a lens of how we should love God: putting Him as priority above all else, making sacrifices, not having a compartmentalized life but going all in to love... It's really good to think about this, I love this. Definitely something to think about! 🧡
I think another point to look for if YOU are ready is: are you ready to submit to him? God calls us to submit to our husbands (and surely he is supposed to be worthy of that submission as he must be submitted to Christ first), and not to try to lead him or be controlling, but able to submit to this man of God as the head of the household. If you are not ready to submit then I don't think one can be ready for a God-ordained marriage.
@Dee Cee yes. And the onus should not just fall on women/wives-the church doesn't preach enough of how a man must be submitted to Christ first, and worthy of that submission from his wife-but the onus falls heavily on the men as well. His readiness to lead in Christ must be present otherwise a woman is just submitting to a man. Not a godly man. And the two are vastly different. I believe that in the same likeness, he is not ready for marriage as well if christ is not his leader
Lord this is what I went through for 10 years. I kept thinking he would treat me better and start showing love again through action. He was able once, but the damage was done & things never were the same. I finally left after 15yrs. Lord continue to give me strength, cuz it hurts.
I’m crazy about Better Together T.V.! God is loving us through these beautiful sisters in Christ. Words can not began to express my attitude of gratitude of all the wonderful encouraging words to cheer us viewers on in Christ.
When you become the aggressor in the relationship, you are with the wrong man. If he thinks you are too easy to obtain, you are with the wrong man. *Both of these statements are significant, because they reflect a woman's worth- to HERSELF. You are worth being pursued. You are not easy- that doesn't mean you're playing hard to get, but it means that whoever is pursuing you feels like he has won a PRIZE once he has you! If he feels like he didn't win, that has nothing to do with your worth- but his perception of it.
Oops didn't realize how old your post was! Amen 100% It feels so much better if you are pursued. I don't know why women are chasing after these men? Girl, they are buying these men cars, giving money, buying clothes. I am like STOP!!!! The crazy part is that he is taking your car to go see someone else! How many times have I seen this. Over and over again. It's foreign to me! Ladies, we must not be a doormat just to get male attention. You are worth so much more. I stop telling men my profess because they thought I was literally going to be their Suga Momma. I kid you not. Their eyes would light up like a Christmas tree when I told them what I did for a living. I could see them crunching my numbers in the head. I kid you not! I was oh no! That ain't happening. My brothers would kick my butt all over Detroit. I would get a serious butt whipping from all of them.. And a real man would not accept money from a woman. It's just something that is in them. Once you are married, things change of course. But as far as dating.. oh no! I never had a problem attracting men of all nationalities. Kristie does not discriminate at all! I used to but I am getting better/healing from the past regarding a specific race of men. Better every day!
Amen, so true!! I see that with my husband, he literally said he would do anything for me when we first started dating. It was then I realized he really does love me!
You ladies are saying all the right words! Diana Epps Ted well said, “When you (disconnect) from your mom, your dad and you (become) a unit all on your own.” Don’t get involved with anyone that’s not willing to cut the umbilical cord with their mama.
This message is so on time. I get a lot of pressure from the people around me to get a man and to get married. But deep down inside of me I know, that I'm not ready, I'm quite independent and still trying to figure out different aspects of my life. Marriage is truly about two people becoming one and building a future together in agreement.
Thank you for the confirmation. I broke up with this guy because I started seeing that he did not make sacrifices for me.. Glad I made the right decision.
This is so true, I left my ex husband, because I was never first, even with the women he cheated on me with. I have never been happier, God told me to get out and I did
Saaaaaammee!! He continued to live as a single and after he wasn't "in love" anymore, I was treated like the inconvenience. The advices on this channel are all so spot on!
That is so true! I've been engaged twice. Before going deeper in those relationships I asked myself can I see myself with this person 5 years from now? My answer was no. If you don't see a vision with him let him go. She is so right.
I found this channel today. I'm so blessed that the stories are real and people are genuine! God is moving and helping me learn through your stories. This is how the body of Christ should look like!!! Glory to God 🙏
Loved the wisdom, these two women are simply overflowing with the Love and wisdom of God, like your fairy Godmothers who will not let you settle for any less than the best God has for you,😍...sending out bug hugs to you two😘❤️
Thank You so much for this response to this person's question, this is confirmation to what God was saying to me in regards to someone I love, but that person says they love me but he wouldn't inconvenience himself for me but I was doing it for him. So I decided to wait on God thanks again Blessings!!!
So important to talk about this, wish I had known this years ago, it would’ve save me from so much heartache, so much time wasted... Love this channel so much 💗
@@BetterTogetherTV love you ladies to life. Such an inspiration to us viewers. Y’all have been a great blessing to me in my Christian walk with Jesus. I love y’all’s transparency and willingness to share your walk in Christ with us.
Hallelujah! We bless God for your wisdom! I believe that God is calling me out of the single season soon. I feel it in my Spirit so I know He's working on it. I'm not sure where He's taking me but as far as He's the one leading, I will gladly follow. And yes, His son is going to give me the highest regards and respect possible and I will be at rest, not because His son is perfect but because the marriage is preserved by Him!
This wisdom is oh so good. All the comments so true and insightful. Thank you for sharing this helps me. I want to also add that we also as women must 1st Love ourselves and Love God. He is the source of Love! Once we know and understand this it will be easier to weed out men that don't truly Love us😊
Prioritize one another. See your future with this person. Fit your life together in the purpose of God. Kids, living arrangements, faith, destiny, etc Loves you and wants to build a family
NOPE! It didn't say that! That comes AFTER he has earned you. We make the mistake of giving a man credit that he does not deserve by always "giving him the benefit of the doubt" or "what he meant to do/say was..." He should know you are the prize first and believe you are essential for his purpose in life THEN we are charged (after marriage) to help him meet his FULL purpose. But he should be so in tune with God that he knows what that is off the riff. Him being undecided makes him UNSTABLE!!!
I think the better term was cut out unnecessary distractions. Not cut off family and friends. Nope. You cant survive in your marriage without people..Good people that is. People who will not interfere in your marriage negatively e.t.c Either way great video
She did not say cut off she said priority. Who comes first. When married the family with your husband comes first because you have left your father and mother🤗
Amen I just love how Rebecca Crew's answer the question to people about marriage. She definitely on point with the answers, so was the other woman on the show. There's old saying go like this, if you don't stand up for something you're settled for anything, It's sad so many woman's don't know their worth. They rather have a piece of man than be by themselves, life is to short be miserable.
This was some very good advice about preparing for marriage it's true people know that it's certain things that don't really agree with while dating the person but choose to settle after they realize that the person is not really marriage material like you said that's a recipe for distruction so it's no body fault but yours.
Amen miss crews this advice I can used in my relationship with my own husband when a man loves woman that man will put his wants and needs beyond everything else for that special lady in his life sincerely yours Mrs Amber McCutchen
Well, when he loves you he proposes to you. You meet his family, he talks about things like, do you want for kids, where do you see yourself in 10 years, futuristic stuff. He treats you well, you feel good around him.
I feel like there are many men who sacrifice a lot for their wives but the wives don’t realize it and start to “expect” it without anything in return. It would have been nice for them to mention that the sacrifices they desire so highly from a “great man”, should be acknowledged frequently to said great man and so you ensure they also feel appreciated; Instead of just expecting and taking from them. And that women themselves should also be willing to self sacrifice. Relationships aren’t a one way street after all.
It’s crazy cuz I know I met the man I’m going to marry but he’s not ready yet and it’s frustrating knowing what I know and having to be patient and watch him kind of go thru a few storms because Gods still working on him before he will be ready for me and the life I know we are meant to have to together... and it’s not easy ugh
If it is of God you should not be frustrated. Allow God to do his part and do God/ focus on God whilst you wait, therefore you wont be frustrated. Stay bless ♥️
You Ladies from better Together are the BEST, howerver when I watch you all you ALL are sooooo perfect. Its as though you've never had any challenges in your lives at all. Especially Mrs. Laurie Crouch she seems so perfect.
I don’t see these sisters in Christ as so perfect. I see them as overcomes. Sharing their testimonies, being transparent are their way of saying to us viewers that if God brought me out. If He walked me through my growing pains. He can and will do the same thing for you. They let you know that you are not alone, to be encouraged and that if we have faith in Jesus and see life lessons through His eyes. You will be victorious. These Better Together sisters in Christ are beautiful inside out. God through them always give us an right now word.
A man must always be dedicated to his purpose FIRST above and beyond a woman because that is how he provides for himself and eventually his wife. For example the movie..mo..betta blues, him being dedicated to his craft paid his bills but did you notice SHE was tryin her best to get him off his game and spend time with her and he did eventually get married BUT NOT TO HER ! The lesson is..a man must fulfill himself in order to be any good to you
