dude, or dudette :) seriously? they are always looking.................................they are never loyal and they do not love so there you have it. it's only what they can get.
They always had other supplies while u were dealing with them. There is no such thing as a faithful narc. If u are in a relationship with them its an open one whether u know it or not. smh
😂😂😂yuppp cause he was on social media anyway had maaad female friends they postin pix and all this one chick was a stripper and he tellin me about her life like I gave a dammm!! She obviously was posting half naked pixx and he wasn’t deleting her but I wasn’t supposed to keep no supply on the side?? No I didn’t have sex with anyone while we were together but I had the feeling that We were going to break up sooo yea I had men waiting for me on the dating sites why not??? These men look at other women all day long and it’s cool I don’t think so
Except not a completely open one. It was only "open" on his side. On my side of the relationship, it was closed (as in: I was ever faithful). 😐 It was one of many double-standards he had, unfortunately. 😔
@@karmahleone1196the same thing happened to me. He was all over these women's pages who were in their underwear. He has over 1,000 Facebook friends and 99% of them are the females that are like this. He would be telling me about them as if I cared as well. I thought I was alone, I thought what he was doing was strange but I guess I'm not.
Yes happened to me via cyber stalking. How dare we not want to be under mind control abuse everyday & finally start to move on & heal from their abuse.
I've experienced when you lose interest with them. They are so arrogant to think that if you're not interested in them that there's someone else, not their behavior
Spot on! I used it against him by telling him that since I am the bad one and everything is my fault, I should stop bothering him 😉 But.. in those moments, he either blamed me more by saying: "yeah, you're finding ways to leave, right?" Or they deny that you're bad (when trying to love bomb you and suck you back in) smh
😂 stop lmao! Is that why towards the end when I was actively planning my escape plan he would surprise me by showing up without telling me he was off work and he would say “just seeing if your boyfriend was over!” Or when he would call me he would say “tell your boyfriend he has to go home now” 😂😂😂 I was the only faithful one in the relationship and I’m damn proud of it.
@@ifyousayso9392 Yes, All is well. I’m At Peace, but still waiting on the signed and notarized Divorce paper, otherwise my emotional wholeness and healing is being restored daily Thru prayer 🤲🏾 and meditating in His☝🏽word, getting out in the atmosphere…. Enjoying what I use to do Before I got married & doing New Things!!!!!!!☺️
Mine did something similar, and after the initial, I felt relieved that he'd moved on and I could finally find heslibg and peace. He even married her, but unfortunately, within 3 years of love bombing and marrying her, he had discarded her like a dirty rug! I believe he deceived her and did all that to try and spite me. Poor lady. With time on his hands while sesrching for a new supply, he sure enough came back into my radar to annoy me, but I was having none of it!
Spot on again Danish. I divorced my ex-husband 6 years ago, he went back to one of his old supplies and married her. He is so shameless, to this day he is full of rage. We went to court and he starts telling the judge that my house has equity and he when he left the home 6 years ago he took nothing. The judge had to shut him down that we were in court for something else and that judgment was made on my home during the divorce. These narcissists are unbelievable and demonic.
U gave him too long time of ur precious life...don't be weak...u should not feel for shameless ppll..u find the proper person in ur life...that's ur winning...they r already cursed by God....
I made a mistake years ago and took him back…24 miserable years later I’m planning my escape. Please don’t take them back. I wish I knew what I know now😢
HG Tudor wrote a book named Escape about things to consider if planning to escape a narc. Some are trying to sabotage your job so that you cannot escape. Helped me a lot about the pitfalls.
If you leave them, that’s good! If they leave you, it’s also good. Either way, they will miss and want you bacc knowing that their other supplies doesn’t measure up to you. Plus when you ignore them or don’t give them no type of reaction’s upon seeing them, it make’s them cringe knowing that they no longer have power over you. The role’s are now reversed.
From my experience, if they have invested a lot and find difficult to find another similar opportunity, they try hoovering in a thousand ways. From victimhood, asking for forgiveness and promises of change, behaving wonderfully, the mask securely fastened again, etc. Then they will make you pay for generating more work for them. Zero contact
My distant uncle is angry when you don't let him stay our houses and not bring him out. He has pension from Police serving 30+ years. Like we owe him our life
@a.k.p7030 yes alot of cptsd victims start becoming and having narcissistic fleas is what it's termed. We have no choice but to.play their games to get out sometimes
Exactly I dealt with one and I snapped on him like never before and he turned around and start showing a different side every once in a while I would remind him just who tf I am but that does not always happen with others 😊🌻🌻
This is EXACTLY what happened to me. After 18 years together I filed for divorce. I couldn't continue in the marriage, it was killing me inside. I felt my soul dying. He signed up on multiple dating sites, bragged to me about his sexual conquests and how "talented" the women were in bed. It was like getting hit with a massive wrecking ball and feeling the pain it caused in slow motion. The aching inside of me was almost intolerable. Working out/exercise is the only way to get through it without it destroying you. He met many women and within 3-4 months he had found my permanent replacement. It's been 8 years and they're still together. I gave this man his only child, my youth, my love and loyalty. He appreciated none of it. Replaced me as though I never existed. It's been 8 years and at this point I don't think the shock that I never meant anything to him will ever go away but the pain of sadness has subsided to a degree that I can live with.
Trust and believe he is giving that other woman 8 years of pure hell. Men like him do not change they only change the women they can abuse. Remember longevity doesn’t mean bliss and happiness.
Narcs are like Tarzan...they never let go of one vine until they have a firm grip on the next one then they swing right on out of you, and into the next poor SOB.
I love watching narc videos. Simply because I’ve been dealing with one on and off for a year. I can say that I truly appreciate the work you put out. Your videos have helped me in so many ways mentally. I’ve blocked his number once again for about the 1000th time and the more I watch the stronger I get. I didn’t know how evil he truly was until I went online searching for answers. Thank you💙
Am I the only one who thinks that narcissism should be classified with psychopathy? I mean only a terrible person could do something like that. Dehumanize someone to the point that when they're out of your sight, they don't exist.
They typically already have. They will repeat this their entire life - even once married. Which is why it was never love. It was their game and you were a piece, an object to be played. They don’t know what love actually is, but claim to. Let them figure it out. They will continue playing their game themselves amongst others they will do the same with. Pray for them bc the are actually tortured souls and do not even know/realize it fully bc they do not know the difference between love and using others for their selfish ends. Everything is conquest and competition and, tbh, that’s a lonely life to exist in.
The only love and endearment they have is for themselves. Their huge ego, grandosity, and sense of entitlement insurers this. Thinking of them in endearing terms leaves you wide open for a future encounter with a narcissist that has targeted you for a future replacement. Narcissists are not stupid as they do know exactly what they are doing or what they did.
Amen so true.Its too bad they don't understand what feelings are and caring for a partner.They don't understand what love is.There is more to life than material iteams and playing games.Theres more to life than supply.They don't know what it's like to be happy, satisfied, content and thankful.
Just left my covert narc husband. I brought my daughter and grandson so he would not get physical. Hardest thing I’ve ever done. We moved every speck of my existence from this man’s life. I don’t care what he does or who he does it with anymore. Now begins my recovery. Thank you, Danish! ❤
That is how I feel. I pray forgiveness if I am wrong but after being discarded in such an unbelievably evil manner I cannot trust him to eve accept a cup of water from him.
I've literally seen them go right into their phone the same day. They'll do that and immediately act like you don't exist there you're standing right in front of them.
They ALWAYS have/had others lined up just for this very situation. They always have “back ups” and you were once a back up that “got” to be center stage for a short time due to the novelty. Eventually, they will piss off the new supply, the new supply will figure out what they are dealing with and the narcissist will have to find more “back ups” to cycle through. It’s a dysfunctional, never ending cycle. It’s never EVER just you and the narcissist in a relationship. They always must have constant sources of validation and are chronic novelty seekers.
They do cry. My narc has been crying foe weeks. It's fake, completely fake but still. I don't want people thinking their abuser must not be a narc because they're crying. It's FAKE!
Everybody has narcissist traits. A couple is not bad but the difference is being able to be emotionally intelligent, have awareness, recognition to grow, learn and change. They do not care and hardly looked inward. That's why they always go outward for more supply to compete. I personally ended up becoming so abused and unseen in absorbed him in my codependency and now am truly recognizing these traits in everyone. The main trait of a narcissist is YOU are Bad, IM good. If we blame all this on them how are we better? It's a dance with the devil the entire process. It's all the world and people and we need to recognize we are all the same as each other. One. We are only as good as them and it takes this abuse to wake our selves up to our own worth. I surrendered all to my marriage to a covert dark triad nice guy who ended up breaching psychopath when I unmasked and started calling out his patterns and then it became sadist and to the extreme. I didn't know how to say No and was a fawn conditioned by am OVERT dark triad. I thought I had held and finally had a good man due to his stable job and he was constantly there in body at least which was more than I had my whole life growing up in foster care. I then devoted all my life, willingly gave my career and active city life to became a suburban house wife and play this role of a bibical wife, loyal and too forgiving and just incredibly happy to be a part of the PTO and stay home to raise my child and care. Give him everything I never had. Which he's kind of a brat now. I thought his father's influence wouldn't be too bad bc he was mainly working or out at a bar and left me alone to raise him for the past 4 yrs. But then came the devaluation, devastation of this man I thought was good actually was always behind my back talking anything, truth or not to make me his captor and say I don't do anything and many more terrible things upon porn and online hook up when I was in church with my child. I had a stroke from the cognitive dissonance and truth I found out. Then was told it was me and put down to where I did beyond to try to prove my worth to him and love, understand etc... he always stonewalling or said I'm sorry. Or defended himself passive aggressive was all he ever knew. Then after 2 years of round circle I finally started explod9gn the same way... but i felt sad, remorse and wanted to change. He wanted to destroy. They dont even have then empathy to understand. My point is we are victims yes, but we also were never much more than a shell than they are.... the same. The difference is we try to be better and they seek to destroy. However the real truth is them destroying our ego and false self we painted next to their false self was going above and beyond to stay and also are manipulative to survive it and grow. It's been the biggest blessing of my life waking up to this truly spiritual warfare and the pain. Understanding this was my mess as much as him. We are one. I focused all my.attention to fix and get him happy the past year I ended up depressed and isolating in room and very sick so he ended up having to care for my son... who now beyond being slightly spoiled started acting like his father as his father was pulling the moves his mother did. Which was controlling by food, serving 3 meals, cleaning all the dishes and literally never making him clean his plate. And my son is exhibiting some beginning traits that I am truly angry I lost so much TIME stressing over thin middle age man who is like a 4 yr old. Meanwhile my 7 yr old recognized the patterns and is on board with us separating from his father. We pray and love him together. However this home and stable.place I made... was never truly stable. I also a single mom and have nobody to help realize it's going to be really hard to lose our house he grew up in with a pool and memories, our inverted community and more to move into an apartment. However, there will be peace and growth. And hopefully the narcissist will grow from our absence. Most likely pity and self destruction more. But I am taking accountability for my lack of protection that was stolen time from my son and I submitted. I was equally foolish and will not return to this.
Just like you don’t have any feelings or attachment to an appliance that breaks down and needs replacing…..but you can feel the immediate inconvenience of not having that appliance in the moment that you need to use it…..you might even cuss at it for breaking down when you needed it. But you just go out and buy another. This is how we are regarded by a narcissist. We’re nothing more than an appliance.
Shoot, he was trying to replace me long before I left. He was always on dating sites trying to "see what else is out there." Well, now I'm free and he can have what else is out there. I feel bad for that poor soul, though. I hope they get out sooner than I did!
That's exactly what he did to me!!!! Only he hovered and cheated on me with some pos he knocked up. He triangulated us and she hates me. I can't wait till he passes a disease to her because he's cheating on her too. Trauma bonding is a horrible thing
Ironically he'd always say that I was the one with the ego problem when clearly he's the one with a huge ego. And everything he did do,he would blame it on me,even though did those things himself. He would even mirror my words and trauma. But now his words mean nothing to me. I see him as a weak person who needs to break others down to build himself up.
Oh my god that sounds exactly like the one I dealt with, he was always projecting saying I was this or I did that when those things applied to him and not me.
I don't think my family is full with rage, no one contacted me for a year It's like I was nothing. I tought there was some love for me but it's probably was a fantasy all along
They are full of it alright. Full of devaluing you to where they don't even acknowledge you. Their love wasn't even a myth it was just a wallflower prop for drama or feeling superior or????
It’s a hammer blow when you leave them. Who cares if they find someone else. They will never get over the loss of one who leaves no matter how many cheap replacements they find.
I always think to myself, "Don't push me away & wonder where I went!" You wanted it to be over so bad, it's over! Go away, stay away! I'm so glad I've gone no contact & basically became a ghost from several Narcs this year. I'll gladly be the villain in their fake stories.
He got himself a sugar momma. Not going to lie, it hurt and plays on my insecurities but God is helping me. I wasnt suppose to be trying to provide for no man anyway smh...
Wow that’s crazy.. I found this too! It’s sickening. Mine told me well I like watching porn.. I’m like these girls look young he’s like they’re 18&over.. I’m like dude Ure sick! Never left my daughters alone w him. These people are addicts and evil.. they shouldn’t be living
My narc had me replaced while I layer in bed after a 9 1/2 hour cancer surgery on pain meds. In fact he had me replaced months if not years before he left. That's just haw they operate. Hard lesson to learn but I did.
He was probably engaged while you were together and dating her the entire time. Claiming how you weren't serious, despite any children or sharing a home and starting a picture perfect life. Doing all the work yourself as he used it to make himself more valuable or appear stable.
@@MarjyGTVI just dumped mine 2 days ago. I already placed bets that he’s probably with his next victim right now and is gonna get married to her in less than a year lol 😂 I’d say it hurts, but it hurts more that I loved someone who didn’t love me back. I really just want to move on now. Together 7 years. Edit: I pressed charges and he’s in jail! I’m so thankful for the police officer who recognized I was being abused and made me feel comfortable enough to come in and give victim statements. He assured me he was good at his job and personally called to tell me he got a confession!!!
Mine went through my social media "friends" not my family, my old classmates ....to find someone to triangulate me when he decided to ghost me. I blocked him immediately 7 years ago. Still stalking and hacking me.
My ex Narc would always get mean when the summertime came... he was itching to run the streets. I released him last week and told him no coming back... BLOCKED. He was calling/texting old supply. I know a discard was coming.
The biggest mistake of my life was to tell my ex that I liked fighting, it made him ask another girl out on purpose the next day. Little did he know that i do not feed the ego of anybody, especially when they claim that I am unworthy of them.
The way he spoke to me was uncalled for the day I walked away again. But let's remain friends he said while his supply/new gf was talking to me for proof of his actions with me and other women. I never responded to him thereafter, I remember he was sitting at the hospital parking lot cause his dad had fallen so he was already tense and it just seems he used that as an excuse to slaughter me and say what he did. I couldn't take it anymore. And I doubt he even gave a care I blocked him; well maybe, who knows. I just know he had his back ups lined up and ready to "comfort" him.
@@smithashekhar9539 Imagine if I did stick around; it'd be hell on earth! Plus he continued the smear campaign, the "being friends" would have ended either way. They have brass ones to try keeping anyone they've hurt at their side.
@@smithashekhar9539 Basically they are pretty bold and confident thinking the people they've hurt will still stay with them through thick and thin. People can only take so much. Best remedy is block and stay no contact and staying strong to not look through their social media's. It's all fake to rile you up. Keep going strong 💪 ❤️
Well said! At the beginning when I heard of this kind of beings I wondered if this can be possible. Then after my eyes opened, I realized that they do exist to make us suffer.
Yes, ex did exactly that. Went straight to a woman he'd put through the wringer off and on for a decade. I was told she'd listed him in her phone contacts as "The Narcissist" years ago. Poor woman. Danish, your insight is beyond all others on this subject.
He would use his awareness of healthy relationship tools such as communicating to fix ruptures as a manipulative strategy to blame shift on me and use against me when I finally tried to go no contact. He would accuse me of not effectively communicating.. but I had tried to communicate in so many ways before being exhausted and leaving. Everytime I would communicate.. any triggers I exposed in moments of transparency would be used against me, he would use word salad to confuse me, he would try to deny my reality and make me feel like the problem, he would rage at me.. or he would say okay and make absolutely no changes whatsoever so that I would keep begging and he would keep dangling the carrot and I would be in overdrive working to uphold our connection whilst he would just lean back, observe and keep moving the goal post further. I'm pretty sure that he smears me saying I don't communicate and I'm emotionally abusive and I ghosted him but I was emotionally drained, depleted and had lost myself whilst getting next to nothing in return 😢.
I feel your pain😢 But it gets good & better when you learn prioritizing yourself in everything and shift from living in that "lito world of compromise all the time" Dear God Save & Heal Us All Aameen🙏
You just described my husband perfectly 😢. I am new to all this and had to look for answers till God gave me a revelation that he has narcissistic traits. There are glimpses of hope, the animals love him, and usually, animals don't hang around full narcissists. I am still figuring out who he is. His mother was a narcissist he hated her and now I feel he hates me, I don't feel love. It's so strange I have married someone like that. My first husband died from cancer this is mine 2nd and I didn't want to marry so I knew him for five years before that, totally convinced he was a great person. But in the first two years of our marriage, he started abusing me verbally, and fiscally I am in shock it's like living with an enemy, the trust is gone and I found myself researching for the first time in my life about narcissism. It's exosting to be around someone so toxic, every little thing is a fight for him. I am tired and have no strength to live at this time he isolated me and controlling me financially, I am trapped. ❤😢
Yup. Family, friend and ex all narcissists. All replaced me like I was absolutely nothing. Fine with me. Still mourning and showing myself compassion but good fucking riddance
That's what they r doing...but they can't find me in another one....n they get frusted ....n want me back but knowing I won't go back to them ever ...they got mad..n feed their anger with addiction's mostly betraying n having fulfilling their lust just to satisfy their ego..n just to hurt u purposely .....
Don’t go back to him or fall for his tricks! Go NO contact. Block him and his friends on social media (or get off it entirely). Change your number. Use a post office box address to collect your mail. Become a ghost!
True. My husband told to someone outside that he will get marry again as soon as i told him i don't want to be with him. He is full of anger and rage as you said and i know he can do anything to me and my kids.
Not sure if mine is a narc but he’s definitely showing signs. He kind of provokes me by making it all about him but when I have something special going on or if I need his support he never asks. Then when I get frustrated with it being one sided he blames me for starting an argument and makes me the bad guy. It got so bad that I’ve taken him back multiple times and he still doesn’t get the message. I blocked him today and he got RAGEFUL. I mean he is PISSED and probably waiting for me to come back. Now I feel super guilty for lashing out but he never hears me when I try to express myself and how I feel neglected x
Yup its true, my husband & I were separated for 6 months, I took time to heal, he was on dating apps within days of separating, he met someone we began talking & I made the mistake of wanting him back, he moved back in; he ghosted her & these past 2 years were the worse. Please God don't let me make the same mistake again! We need to cut off communication w/ them @ all cause!
Exactly this is happening with me now.... The new supply is burning his petrol and she is with him just to make me angry. This new supply is actually a recycled supply. She is stalking me heavily thinking that i will give her attention. She thinks I don't have her number anymore. Which is making her crazy. Here I am catching her every day and laughing my ass off.😂
I think its different if they already get the new supply before discarding you and they found out that the grass isn't greener on the other side but then you aren't there anymore ...
You’re absolutely right, thats so true. & thats exactly what happened to me. They kept chasing after me; made one account after another; harassed me all through social media over and over again and made more than FOURTY accounts ; just to chase after me on Snapchat *alone* .
My brother took his own life, as the only means to escape the pain of having 2 narc parents... I 'only' had the one. His mother's emotional response, following the news of his death, looked aggrieved, -hurt' and offended. She ehaved like a jilted lover a woman scorned!as if she was not grieving, so much as, enraged... at the sudden, total, ultimate loss of control. She'd even hijacked, and upstaged him, in his death! She felt so entitled to him, that his death couldn't curb her narc 'enthusiasm' for shameless attention seeking supply missions. She likely felt 'betrayed' and abandoned, she percieves everything, as if it's about her! Like it's an affront to them, invoking their shame about (and against) her. It was not grief and loss I felt emanating from her, the understandable and inevitable anger that we accept is one of the 5 stages of grief. It was a clear show, albeit not intentional entitlement lost through death that was the ultimate, in terms of ego injury. As far as I can tell, I am now the only person alive in my world, to attest to this insidious, brutal and fatal abuse, that remains utterly 'hidden', and enabled, and where I have lost everything just so as to survive at all. Narcissism, the greatest threat, and insidious , hideous, scourge of humanity. Thanks for sharing excellent, succinct, easily accessible content 💯👌🌍
They always collect all your personal information and blackmail you to keep you in stress and anxiety. So don't give them any other person information instead hide your information 😊
Hi yes I left my 7 year relationship with a narcissist. I didn't know til this year. I had to take action. God guided me. I never knew why he was like that. It's hard after than it's not because the bad stayed bad mixed with some hints of good times which were fake. ❤ you feel so free. It's just been less than 24 hours
This came up on my phone at the right time. I left my narc bf 3 months ago and he’s been so cold. I knew he’d move on quickly due to his behavior towards me. This just confirms that.
Go no contact if possible, meaning if you don't have kids together. The flying monkeys are toxic people too and oftentimes narcs themselves, getting attention and supply through you by doing this. You don't need people like that in your life and don't let their opinions matter. Don't give them this importance. Hope you have not a freelancing business he can hurt. Stay safe. I have smear campaigns going against me even years after the death of my narc aunts, but I don't care about their opinions.
right I have to remind myself my ex never see's anyone as ppl because she was to shallow to take a chance on understanding true identity so she accepted a objective world where she was a object sorting thru objects I can't believe I ever called myself loving someone so hollow then blamed me for not filling a void I didn't create like I needed therapy whenever it's been a issue i attacked the issue not the ppl around me
And then the guy claims he's not a cheater... LOL 😂 He literally had a love triangle going on without me knowing and when I found out, I discarded him back for good.
It's all about control to a narcissist. If you leave them, they lose control over you. Yes they'll replace you with someone else they can manipulate and control, but they become obsessed with getting back control over you and every aspect of your life.
The narcississt that im with went to the bar with hope he will get his new victim.He also has loads of ladies friends in his facebook that is his mom n sister are also in the facebook!you are so damn right!he always need constant validation from anyone including stranger if he can get it then he will put all of his effort!he is crazy!i never met such person like him in my life before.I guess the facebook is his 'hope'.HAHA!
My Narc boyfriend who secretly got engaged behind my back, booked a flight the next day to go and sleep with her and told me about it and mentioned to cry from jealousy now. Truthfully I cried for sure, after 6 months every day I say thanks to get rid of evil from my life.
