Easy to enjoy the 'extra time' when you're not stressing about the fact that you lost your income. It's important to recognize everyone has their own circumstances
Disagree. If you can't spend this relatively short space of time with the person you are in love with, then you need to take a look at your relationship. We have been together for 22yrs on and off, living together for 14yrs, married for 6. We talk and laugh everyday. We have had our tough times, money, jobs etc. But we have never lost sight of our love, and in general we really like each other. So this is where we are: We live in a 3 bed house Beginning of week 2 of 12. I am in the very high risk group in the UK, and I am shielding. Due to this, we have to sleep seperatly. We have both say to each every night, "it's not forever". Days are spent doing the recommended anti bac cleaning routine, cooking and Netflix. We've drawn up a list of things we would both enough . If we start to watch something and one of us is like "Nah", it gets switched off for something else. We talk to family. We text friends. We talk to each other and support each other. We could do that anywhere, in any size property with any amount of income (our wages aren't great BTW). Remember, everyone normal being is coming out of this with financial debt. Protect yourself against coming out with emotional and mental debt too. Stay well. Stay indoors💕
People whom are pushed towards DIVORCE from being forced to spend more time together. Their relationship was already trending towards DIVORCE. Quarantine just helped accelerate the process.
Me, I'm a single introvert. This is pretty much just life for me, so for once everyone is uncomfortable and I'm doing great. I've never been happier. Funny...
We have a small 2 bedroom apartment. We already do what they are doing. We don't smother each other. We also have no money. Not even cable. And we're doing just fine. A larger or smaller space isn't the issue. It's respect and boundaries. Just saying😉
They're around each other almost 24/7, how does this prove that they're introverts? Also, how can either introverts or extroverts be "superior" if all you need to do is add or take away people from a room to make them uncomfortable?
I'm an introvert recluse, so I love this new lifestyle. No one can visit me and I don't have to go out! I love being in my home, it's easy. the only hard part, I care for my son who has an intellectual disability and severe epilepsy, and he misses going out. It's comforting knowing that people all over the world are hiding out in their homes. We are in this together to some degree.
I'm currently going through a divorce from an extremely dysfunctional person. It's refreshing (and hopeful) to see how a couple that loves and respects each other should interact. Thank you for opening your home to us. Stay healthy. God bless
I'm working in public health and busier than ever before, working crazy hours, trying to make sure my kids are taken care of, in the process of trying to move not knowing what's going to happen with the housing market, worried about my husband's job and being able to pay our bills if one or both of us get furloughed, making sure our elderly parents are taken care of. Us getting sick is the least of my worries. My husband and I are both so stressed about everything and this video didn't help at all. Thanks for the advice that literally doesn't apply to any regular people.
My husband and I are recluse. We have a lot of fun together. We are a goofball couple and he is my best friend. We absolutely love peace and quiet. Being in nature is what makes us happy. So doing house projects, cooking, laughing and walking in nature is how we are passing the time.
We have a sweet little nest and the best thing, is that we LIKE each other. Yes, we do love each other too. We have our own little hobbies, enjoy going for walks, cook, clean, bake, play games and dream together. Plus we love our little home and enjoy being home. Stay safe & healthy everyone. This too shall pass. God Bless. 💝
Rich people in quarantine is not the same as poor (or even, the average) people in quarantine. You guys will not be “bickering over housework”, or “who will have to get the groceries”. I don’t have the “driver”, “the cleaning lady”, “the assistant” etc. I ❤️ Dr. Phil + Robin, & I TRUST that they understand that. Robin has an AMAZING sense of style (if she ever wants to DONATE any of her clothes...well... I’m in Montreal...lol 😂). 👍
Happy for you guys!!! Me and my boyfriend of 7 years are also doing great. We are used spending time at home and being "alone" together 😁 we Happy and Healthy still. Hope everybody is doing great keep strong !!!
I am in this situation. We have fought like cats and dogs lately over petty things for sure lol, but I find that carving out your own space (ex. You take the couch/dining table, they take the bedroom) and focusing on a project or hobby separately is important. Dont neglect your partner though, because in my case we have been fighting because of a LACK of time together due to being absorbed in our own interests and not doing enough activities together. Going radio silent and going all day without even one meaningful interaction with one another is a big no-no.
Go to ur own spots, n then u BOTH plug in ur headphones. That way, u both have ur own bubble, but the other person doesn't feel like ur trying to block them out. If u can open a window or 2 helps as well. Something about the fresh air lifts ur spirit, relaxes ur mind, n helps ease the irritation of sharing a small space.
My husband and I are poor. We live paycheck to paycheck, we don't even have cable. We've been married 12 years. We are doing good, all things considered. It's choosing respect and boundaries, even in this scary medical, financial, emotional.... stressful time. You have to work hard, to keep the good things in life. And that includes marriage❤
Same here. We're super relaxed, we both have our own projects and go on with the quite normal routine. I totally enjoy the extra time for being creative.. started seeing again, he build a patio outdoors, working on the car etc. We look at the chances, not the boundaries.
Dr. Phill isn't addressing living in a big home, he is addressing the fundamental structure of relationships. Fixating on the difference that he lives in a big house is the best way to overlook the genuine advice. *Sends you to the ranch
I wish my wife and I could spend more time together. We can’t because we both work retail which are considered essential businesses. Each day when we come home from work, we’re terrified to bring the virus back home to our three children. Pray for a cure.
Wish hubby & I were safe at home too. Think the least of our problems would be boredom or getting on each other's nerves. Its quite stressful to think about not only the possibility for serious illness, but also what is happening to the economy as we are continue to work like its just another week. Not sure how long we should be expected to push down that stress & fear for a job.
I say give your partner the space they need with extra hugs and kisses daily. Widows and widowers may not have someone to lean on when they need it. Just finding yourself in such stressful times and trying to maintain your independence can seem overwhelming. So be thankful if you are stuck inside alot with your partner.
God Bless Robin and Dr. Phil ! Their shows/podcasts/ outreach is so full of love and passion for humanity ❤️ that is both entertaining and truly humbling. Their on my bucket list for sure ❣️
I don’t think it should be underestimated how having a bigger space allows you to have your own space and some people don’t have that luxury. Throw kids into the mix ....
I’ve had my vaccination through work, and we are all still in lockdown. I’m still going to work and not really too bothered about seeing anyone when I get home. I like my own company ., 🇨🇮
As Alex Robinson said, so much depends on how big your home is and whether or not you have a garden. If you can send the children outside for a while, if you can shut yourself in a room away from others for a while, there's a lot less stress. My heart goes out to those stuck with children in tiny, high-rise flats. On a cheerier note: cooking and baking have certainly become interesting and creative since some ingredients became unavailable! Also, for those of us with social anxiety, I have to admit that having everyone confined to their homes is not so bad ....... sorry.
Hello from ENGLAND 🙋♀️I really enjoyed your video of being home bodies in COVID restrictions and it’s nice to see you two at home enjoying each other 👏🏻❤️very wholesome and honest depiction of you both thank you 🙋♀️stay safe and well
It’s great seeing how u both enjoy and love eachother. I love home time also. This time should be enjoyed u both deserve it. God bless your marriage. Your such a lucky woman robin, he’s an amazing man.
My husband and I are not sick with the virus ; But I have COPD and CHF worked as a ER Nurse for 33 years and been around all types of viral and bacterial viruses; But this virus really has me scared. My Doctor told me I'm not to go anywhere except our deck. Please stay safe, careful and healthy during this world wide quarantine. I do love watching your programs.
Me too Robin I've cleaned all my wardrobes - next tackling kitchen cupboards. I've baked nearly ever day too. I'm loving having my family safe at home - I've had so much quality time with my children - no rushing here n there. my husband is a delivery driver - so he's busier than usual, but we've enjoyed more time together. Make the best of what we have. We live in a relatively small house in Yorkshire, UK - but at least we have a safe, dry home to rest in
I was in a long line at 6.45 am today at the grocery store that opened at 7.00 am for seniors only. A young man came from the parking lot and tried to cut in at front of the line, but an old lady beat him back into the parking lot with her cane. He returned and tried to cut in again but an old man punched him in the gut, then kicked him to the ground and rolled him away. As he approached the third time he said”if you don’t let me unlock the door you’ll never get in there”.
Dr. Phil is usually a common sense type of guy, but he seems to be overlooking a very real difference between his lifestyle and other people who face many more stresses on a relationship. For a start those with low paying jobs who are suddenly unemployed and have nothing in the bank and don’t own their home. Phil and Robyn are a lovely couple, but they live in a large house with enough rooms for two people to do their own thing in different parts of the house. Money stress, and small houses with few rooms (sometimes a single room) these people are far more likely to face relationship problems than the same people in Phil and Robyn’s more fortuitous circumstances. Cooking together and choosing “happy” movies do not help much when you can never be apart, and money troubles are knocking at the door.
Katie Rojas Fat lot of good prayer will do. In fact if an invisible magician in the sky exists and is capable of protecting people, then he/she/it/they are also responsible for causing the problem in the first place so derision and scorn for magical creator beings seems far more appropriate than prayers.
Katie Rojas I don’t care if people have private beliefs in magic invisible beings that float around in the sky so long as they keep it to themself, but invoking prayer with people who do not share your delusions is offensive. You have no idea whether my situation is a house larger or smaller than Dr. Phil has. It doesn’t matter, the point is he is giving advice based on a middle class lifestyle, and the vast majority of the world’s population does not have the ability to keep their distance in different parts of a house. And they don’t have the “happy” movies to put on the box. For me, isolation is an opportunity and a happy time in terms of my relationships, but people cooped up in one or two rooms for months at a time are likely to fight and it will lead to stress and relationship problems. There is also the factor that many people drink a lot, and we know what effect that is likely to have on a couple stuck in one or two rooms day after day. Dr. Phil’s advice failed to acknowledge the terrible reality that people who are not middle class face at this time. His advice is trite and insensitive for those in more limited circumstances. I expect a spike in the divorce rate after this is over, which is sad, but will be inevitable for too many people.
This is how marriage should be! I’m an introvert and am definitely not complaining about staying home lol I’m actually enjoying this time, very much! Stay safe, everyone!!!
Now if I can stay in lockdown, with a huge house to waltz 💃🏽 around in, then lay round my pool , paint a nice new shade (again) on my nails 💅 the only thing I’d be worried about is eating to much , as my only plans would be is what to eat 🐽🐷 Gosh 3 months later my daughter won’t recognise me 😲
You guys are so cute together. Keep up the good work Dr. Phil. Your show partly inspired me to study psychology, right now I'm writing my Bachelor thesis in Isolation! Be safe and stay healthy
America needs you now more than ever, Dr. Phil! We are so lucky to have you two! Your segment made me think of Kahlil Gibran’s poem, On Marriage. Beautiful!
You two are together all the time 😊..it’s nice to have a partner..I just lost my husband of cancer February 11,2019..we have been together for 42 years ..and I sure miss him 😔
I’m sorry for those of you that have to be separated from loved ones. I have to stay away from my 82 year old mother who is completely alone. It stresses me out a bit that she’s so alone. It’s just better to be safe than sorry. Stay safe 💕
Dr Phil and Robin God bless you both for helping people and all you do for others , God sees your hearts and will bless you both in a mighty way . My name is Celia and I’ve been having a hard time at home I don’t cry or look sad when I’m in front of my daughter I put a smile and stay encouraging for her . My daughter Lily is 24 yrs old and is battling Hodgkin lymphoma stage 4 and has a 10 month yr old son , Lily is my first daughter she’s my heart beat and I care for her and now helping her with her son plz tell me some advice you both may have in encouraging her and trying to keep a smile on her face when she is literally isolated and can’t go no where it’s been rough and she’s having a difficult son unable to hold her son because now she has tumors on her spine and she gets weak so the drs told her she can’t hold him because afraid of fractures could happen . I watch your show and I respect everything you both do plz help with advice in keeping her more motivate , I am a Christian and I trust God for her life and my faith is on God at the same time we are using wisdom and doing what the drs say .
My husband is a third shift police officer. Life has not changed for us. Still sleep alone every night. Still miss him. Wish we could spend more time together.
Ya. It's different when you have a lot of money whether it's saved in your bank acct or you're still getting paid for shows. Unfortunately money is a big stresser for couples. When both lose their jobs you're talking a whole different set of circumstances. Not to mention having a large house/mansion makes it easier to have your own space. It's much different for ppl have a lot vs ppl who have little. Hopefully this stimulus package will help relieve some of the pressure off of ppl and their families. It's very hard to make plans for future when you don't know what will happen today. 🤷. At the same time, many couples lack communication skills, they don't know how to talk to each other so when you put them in a small place and tell them to stay there for an undetermined amount of time they actually have to get to know each other again. A crisis like this will bring out the best in some and the worst in others. Some will realize they don't actually like the person they've been with this whole time. You learn a lot about someone when things like this happen. This is a time to get to know each other again. To get to know yourself again and I can't stress this enough; If you don't love you, it's near impossible to love someone else in a true, pure form.
I, too, am a single introvert so, except for missing my Bible Study friends, walking my dog, going to church, much of my life has not changed. As a senior person obviously have health concerns and worry for my nephews but this is also a time to realize how precious life is, how critical healthy relationships are, all the things for which I am grateful and some very specific things for which to pray. Some people know how to make lemonade out of the “lemons”. of life but that does not mean that they do not care nor worry nor empathise with others struggling in many ways with this situation. Finger pointing at individuals who are experiencing this in a different way neither solves the problem nor helps them. There are many things/ways to “chase away” fears and legitimate concerns BUT to be critical, judgemental, negative are not positive ways to sustain ourselves and help others. It’s not up to me to judge anhyone else’s concerns or reality anymore than I want others to criticize myself. For goodness sake people, take a break from hate, negativity, judgement, etc. and foster some kindness, understanding, compassion.
We lost our income, great for you that you have no worries about that, eating less, cutting off cable, movie channels, how to cut phone bills and insurance costs. Loss of health insurance. Praying we don't get the virus.
I’m very lucky that Im married to my very best friend and as we both have disabilities we are used to spending long periods together. We have a relationship where we don’t have to agree with each other but we don't fall out. We both also have hobbies we can do around the house. I’m still working from home though that’s officially only 12.5 hours a week. However, we are all doing what we can to help each other through this. There’s a lot of fear around benefits etc here at the moment. I am one of 1.5 million UK citizens that is 'shielded' for 12 weeks, if I get it it’s bye a year maybe two than expected. I work as the lead advisor for a disability charity where we also have a hate crime project. I frequently meet victims of domestic violence suffering from PTSD. I am terrified that where people are shut in together for very long periods there will be more victims. Please be gentle with each other and take all the precautions.
The Spitting Drama Llama you just need the money, you know that...I don’t like her at all, she is to much fake for my taste. I am more like natural type of person and I like how let say Emma Thompson getting old.. or Rachel Weisz..
Hi Dr Phil and Robin! My 3 young adult children have watched your show since they were toddlers. We have been able to maintain harmonious relationship during quarantine because we're always busy .. and we give each other space. I feel guilty to say tho .. that the fact we no longer live with family members whom are npd helps a lot. I thank God. Bless you. from 🇦🇺
Considering they don't have: 1. Worries about money 2. A tiny house where everyone is on top of each other 3. Young children at home to homeschool. 4. Young child who do not understand why they can't go to their friends homes. 5. Worries about losing their jobs 6. Worries about whether they can be tested (because you will be tested before some non-famous person on the street) 7. Worries about being able to pay for medical care if they get sick 8. Worries about how they will survive if the head of household dies from this So yeah, this is probably a nice "vacation" for them. Divorce becomes an issue when you have all the above concerns .
Been married for 30 years now. My husband & I get along very well. We hardly ever go anywhere anyway. We like to cook at home. But we like to talk, sing songs, play rummy, play Pictionary etc. we have two dogs and enjoy them as well. We just know how to be still and it doesn’t make us anxious. I think people think they have always got to be doing something all the time. Try to just relax and just enjoy your life.
60 year old widow here, being single has been a way of life for sometime now. I just had to pop in and say that my daughter loves Dr. Phil, and grew up considering him the perfect father she always wanted. How did I deal with that ? Acceptance. What else could I do ?
Thank you dr phil and ms.robin. i love seein you 2 together.. Your AWESOME.. Dr.phil i just watched 1 of your shows on RU-vid with a actress PLEASE tell her Not to listen to anybody that tells her she is less then she is.. VERY beautiful young LADY..
I think spending time in different rooms is important, as you said, doing your own thing. Telling each other how you feel. Having a laugh, sometimes a cry. We are appreciating everything we have, and that we're lucky enough to have our children home with us (thank goodness the sun is shining here in UK so they can play outside!!). And talking about the things we'll do when we get some normality back (a wish jar for our kids). We are face timing family and the kids are practicing their writing by making and sending letters and cards to the family we can't be with. I still have to go to work occasionally as I'm a teaching assistant so I'm considered a keyworker (looking after children of other keyworkers whilst they work and schools are closed). It's a worrying time, but it's humbling and comforting to see how we (the community) are all pulling together in this troubling time. I appreciate your continued videos, thank you and take care!
My husband is home now working and so is my daughter. I to Robin am cleaning out closets and cooking more. My husband gets a hot lunch instead of a cold sandwich and a piece of fruit. He is in his office / our bedroom working at a desk and my daughter is at her desk in her room. We to are home bodies so we to are doing well and mainly feeling well. Take care and be safe. By the way we took a place in West Hollywood this past July and we loved your California.
I think the trick there is to just sit in different rooms for a little while do your own thing and then share a little bit of time together. And try to Just Breathe.
Dr Phil has been one of my favourite show since it started you motivated everyone to stay safe and if there his anything that’s going in your life he will give you advice to get help but it’s always wonderful to see the things he really does good in this world with people but most admit that his very motivating so thank you stay safe and happy we love you too Robin 👍👍👍😊
